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Are we mistaken or does it seem as tho 90% of couple profiles are all pics of the woman??? Or on some profiles' you get to see his cock...i mean really its great that your wife looks hot but we come as a pair..fair enough I'm lucky in that she is Bi...but honestly the amount of couples that say they want to meet that we check out and there's nothing for my Mrs to gage if there is any attraction...and half of those that we mail asking fir pics of him either fob us off with excuses or send more of the same blurry,far away,or extreme close ups of just the face..if you play as a couple surely you would want to be seen as one...why hide him away....unless of course there is a damn good reason... |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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We don't have pics of Mr on ours as we play with single guys and then it's only me playing with them (with. Mr joining in but just with me )
However we do have a private pic of him available so people know what he looks like if we arrange a meet |
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Yeah we are pretty much the same...a few of me in various body shots with most of our face pics in friends only...and yeah most of ours is of her....but I cant do pics of myself and she is usually tied up.....lol |
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"Some things never change!!
I queried this when first on the forum and was shot down & told it is because that is what the majority of (males) want to see...I sometimes wonder if this is true! "
tbh because I know how picky the Mrs can be if there isn't a shot of the guy I generally skip over that profile...i look for what I know she likes..so I must be one of the odd straight guys...lol |
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"Are we mistaken or does it seem as tho 90% of couple profiles are all pics of the woman??? Or on some profiles' you get to see his cock...i mean really its great that your wife looks hot but we come as a pair..fair enough I'm lucky in that she is Bi...but honestly the amount of couples that say they want to meet that we check out and there's nothing for my Mrs to gage if there is any attraction...and half of those that we mail asking fir pics of him either fob us off with excuses or send more of the same blurry,far away,or extreme close ups of just the face..if you play as a couple surely you would want to be seen as one...why hide him away....unless of course there is a damn good reason..."
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If a profile isn't what you would like it to be it means you aren't compatible with those people, I'm not being harsh but it's as simple as that.
Our experience has shown that if a couples profile is looking for other couples and there are no pictures of the man he either just wants to watch or he isn't interested in swinging and is just along to keep his partner happy and that's not what we're after.
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We only play with couples at parties. For private meets we will only meet single guys so it makes sense to have more of me. However we do have some of him, and there clear shots of him in our private gallery. Middle aged men tend not to be very photogenic, the way women are, so as long as there are some representative pics of the man I feel that's sufficient. My husband is a very attractive man, but I'm not sure people really want to see pictures of him posing in various stages of undress.
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"We only play with couples at parties. For private meets we will only meet single guys so it makes sense to have more of me. However we do have some of him, and there clear shots of him in our private gallery. Middle aged men tend not to be very photogenic, the way women are, so as long as there are some representative pics of the man I feel that's sufficient. My husband is a very attractive man, but I'm not sure people really want to see pictures of him posing in various stages of undress.
Mrs"
well beauty is in the eye of the beholder and I'm happy to see that you guys too have a great balance between you both...and yes not everyone ages as well as some we all deserve to see who we might potentially get naked with..if you know what I mean...think of it like this...if a guy mailed and said lots of compliments and hit all tge right buttons mentally but flat refused to show you what he looked like what would you do??? Probably ignore him...his loss and all that...for all you know he found have been everything your hearts desired...but for the lack of a single decent picture( which does speak a thousand words) you would never know...i just think its a shame |
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By *evaquitCouple
over a year ago
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All our pics are of me, I'm the one playing, he's present and doesn't get involved, ever. If we send a message both of our pics are sent and if we receive a message we like we reply with both of our pics. We deliberately want the attention focused this way, Mr N is a good looking guy as some forumites have said but the focus isn't on him hence the pic choices. Works perfectly for us too. |
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"Long story but having had face photo of ours spread around the village we keep ours private and send a few with replies to messages, if we think it looks like we are going to meet.. ..connie x  "
totally understand. But a body shot or preferably shots are more important...at least to us.. |
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Just to be clear...our only moan is about the couples who look for other couples who want everyone involved...i get that there are lots of cucks and hot wife's out there and yeah that's cool so no need to know what he looks like as he won't be involved as such... |
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"Are we mistaken or does it seem as tho 90% of couple profiles are all pics of the woman??? Or on some profiles' you get to see his cock...i mean really its great that your wife looks hot but we come as a pair..fair enough I'm lucky in that she is Bi...but honestly the amount of couples that say they want to meet that we check out and there's nothing for my Mrs to gage if there is any attraction...and half of those that we mail asking fir pics of him either fob us off with excuses or send more of the same blurry,far away,or extreme close ups of just the face..if you play as a couple surely you would want to be seen as one...why hide him away....unless of course there is a damn good reason..."
We started to add shy Al in our pic as we get asked to see more of him in many messages so lately we add a few of us both, he said and keep saying most of the people use the site are male so there is no point of him been there which I did disagree with him but he could be right thou, hard to tell  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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We are skewed towards the Mrs as are all profiles, but there are a few of hubby in varies states of undress and play but we are more attracted to personality and spark than just pictures however  |
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"We only play with couples at parties. For private meets we will only meet single guys so it makes sense to have more of me. However we do have some of him, and there clear shots of him in our private gallery. Middle aged men tend not to be very photogenic, the way women are, so as long as there are some representative pics of the man I feel that's sufficient. My husband is a very attractive man, but I'm not sure people really want to see pictures of him posing in various stages of undress.
Mrswell beauty is in the eye of the beholder and I'm happy to see that you guys too have a great balance between you both...and yes not everyone ages as well as some we all deserve to see who we might potentially get naked with..if you know what I mean...think of it like this...if a guy mailed and said lots of compliments and hit all tge right buttons mentally but flat refused to show you what he looked like what would you do??? Probably ignore him...his loss and all that...for all you know he found have been everything your hearts desired...but for the lack of a single decent picture( which does speak a thousand words) you would never know...i just think its a shame "
With regards to play we show photos of Mr that we consider sufficient for people to choose a sex partner. When we are searching for men we expect a face pic and ideally a clothed body pic. If the man has a gym fit body then of course show it off. But I would not expect a middle aged man to be showing me his 'dad' bod. If I fancy a man facially and looks good in clothes then that's good enough for me.
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over a year ago
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I do think it depends who the couple are looking for, but essentially OP I agree. It always amazes me the amount of couples looking for single fems but only have pics of the fem visible. Incidentally, I'm a big fan of the dad bod!! Xx |
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" totally understand. But a body shot or preferably shots are more important...at least to us.."
well we all use fab in different ways but hayho why you get to our age, you learn be your mistakes, remember that all photos put on the web or any site are there for life..connie |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I skip on by....
If I want a threesome it's for all three. And I need to know what's on offer.
But the profiles exist. And they'll get the best response from me |
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We screen these types for a different reason. We assume that the female of the couple loves to be the centre of attention and the male supports her in that. Not the type of couple we are interested in .... we don't like attention seeking women. |
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"We screen these types for a different reason. We assume that the female of the couple loves to be the centre of attention and the male supports her in that. Not the type of couple we are interested in .... we don't like attention seeking women."
Same here, hot wife etc etc just puts us off x |
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"We screen these types for a different reason. We assume that the female of the couple loves to be the centre of attention and the male supports her in that. Not the type of couple we are interested in .... we don't like attention seeking women.
Same here, hot wife etc etc just puts us off x"
Well I guess that's me out of the running then  |
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Anoys me too.
If it a couple i want to see both of them otherwise i cant assess the attractiveness, and requests for pic of him just meets with deletion and sometimes block.
The only assumption i can make from that is they are fake. -so i just move on, maybe add to my increasing block list if i can be arsed. |
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"Anoys me too.
If it a couple i want to see both of them otherwise i cant assess the attractiveness, and requests for pic of him just meets with deletion and sometimes block.
The only assumption i can make from that is they are fake. -so i just move on, maybe add to my increasing block list if i can be arsed."
Fake like a single woman pretending to be a couple or a man posting pictures of his wife without her knowing?. |
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Some interesting comments, may as well add our thoughts….
Attraction is important to both, neither will take one for the team.
Attraction is a personal thing on many levels…
Firstly for us the potential playmate needs to have a reasonably trim body, not gym fit, but not excessively overweight….
Secondly, once we get past that, they need to be attractive facially, so we swap face pics privately…
Finally, we meet for a social and see if we connect mentally…
That’s how we work, so to us seeing at least one recent ‘body’ shot of the guy is important for her.
There have been many occasions when chatting to couples we eventually get to see the male and she has been disappointed.
It is for this reason we have a body shot of me. We cold have more, but generally I’m the one behind the camera, plus a lot of those on show publically are selfies she takes to tease me when we’re apart!
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"Some interesting comments, may as well add our thoughts….
Attraction is important to both, neither will take one for the team.
Attraction is a personal thing on many levels…
Firstly for us the potential playmate needs to have a reasonably trim body, not gym fit, but not excessively overweight….
Secondly, once we get past that, they need to be attractive facially, so we swap face pics privately…
Finally, we meet for a social and see if we connect mentally…
That’s how we work, so to us seeing at least one recent ‘body’ shot of the guy is important for her.
There have been many occasions when chatting to couples we eventually get to see the male and she has been disappointed.
It is for this reason we have a body shot of me. We cold have more, but generally I’m the one behind the camera, plus a lot of those on show publically are selfies she takes to tease me when we’re apart!
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Make a lot of sense, and this how we also see it
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"We only play with couples at parties. For private meets we will only meet single guys so it makes sense to have more of me. However we do have some of him, and there clear shots of him in our private gallery. Middle aged men tend not to be very photogenic, the way women are, so as long as there are some representative pics of the man I feel that's sufficient. My husband is a very attractive man, but I'm not sure people really want to see pictures of him posing in various stages of undress.
Mrs"
This |
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We are all different...most of our pics are of Loo but that is partly because she loves posting them...there are face pics of both in private...when we meet we are both equally involved and are on the same page.
The replies here are interesting, but when people say that no male pics=man not likely to be involved they are wrong when it comes to us!
Nice discussion though. Good luck to all as ever
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I've heard all sorts of reasons for this...from 'he has a high profile job and doesn't want to show his face' to 'he's shy'...really? Maybe he's just not a looker??? I say beauty is in the eye of the beholder and get a bloody pic up! Lol
We won't meet people who we haven't seen good pics of and/or met at party/club. If they won't provide pics then we're not interested...simple. Too long in the tooth now for excuses, 'shyness' and games. PM a pic if you don't want to be public but if you're not willing to show yourself somehow, it's sending us the wrong vibe straight away. I like to see tasteful face and body pics, leaving the cock and pussy for first hand inspection
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"We screen these types for a different reason. We assume that the female of the couple loves to be the centre of attention and the male supports her in that. Not the type of couple we are interested in .... we don't like attention seeking women."
I would like to say that this is not always the case. We have a couple profile and most of the pics are of me (her) but not because I'm want to or feel that I need to be the centre of attention but because he manages the profile and there the pics he likes |
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By *mmmMaybeCouple
over a year ago
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We only want a bi-fem & I'd prefer a very bi-fem. So most pics are me, but S is in there too.
Being the caretakers of a hotwife for a night sounds like fun tbh..not something we'd thought about before..most seem to only want guys or hubby to watch though 
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"We only want a bi-fem & I'd prefer a very bi-fem. So most pics are me, but S is in there too.
Being the caretakers of a hotwife for a night sounds like fun tbh..not something we'd thought about before..most seem to only want guys or hubby to watch though
H"
Is H the woman or the man? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Pics of us both and Jan does get annoyed when looking at other couples if no pics of the guy !
She likes cock and pussy so wants to see both !!
Although sometimes the lady looks great but hubbie doesnt !! Lol |
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By *mmmMaybeCouple
over a year ago
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"We only want a bi-fem & I'd prefer a very bi-fem. So most pics are me, but S is in there too.
Being the caretakers of a hotwife for a night sounds like fun tbh..not something we'd thought about before..most seem to only want guys or hubby to watch though
H
Is H the woman or the man? "
H = fem
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By *eliWoman
over a year ago
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"We only want a bi-fem & I'd prefer a very bi-fem. So most pics are me, but S is in there too.
H"
I like that phrase 'very bi-fem', it's quite amusing. As a very bi-fem (hopefully I match that criteria as I am presumptuously using it!), I like equal of both. Am going to be meeting and playing with both as a couple so I don't really want it to just go on what the woman looks like. Unless of course I would just be meeting the woman. Obviously people can do what they want with their profile blah blah. But if I am to meet a couple, I want to see the couple. |
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By *mmmMaybeCouple
over a year ago
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"We only want a bi-fem & I'd prefer a very bi-fem. So most pics are me, but S is in there too.
H
I like that phrase 'very bi-fem', it's quite amusing. As a very bi-fem (hopefully I match that criteria as I am presumptuously using it!), I like equal of both. Am going to be meeting and playing with both as a couple so I don't really want it to just go on what the woman looks like. Unless of course I would just be meeting the woman. Obviously people can do what they want with their profile blah blah. But if I am to meet a couple, I want to see the couple. "
Agreed, but S is there to see unlike many, the term very bi-fem was a bit tongue in cheek as I rather feel there are a lot of "bi-fem light" types on here and was a reference to belief.
I just don't want to end up at a meet where the other fem spends ten/twenty minutes on female play and then solely concentrate on S, I've had that happen before (though not with S) and it is rather unsatisfying and spoilt the evening.
H
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By *eliWoman
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I just don't want to end up at a meet where the other fem spends ten/twenty minutes on female play and then solely concentrate on S, I've had that happen before (though not with S) and it is rather unsatisfying and spoilt the evening.
H
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I quoted your 'very bi - fem term due to personal amusement, not due to me referring to your profile in my comments. I feel that it's probably another thread though (am I more bi than others because I have had girlfriends? Or is it how much you've done and with how many women) I don't see how having more female pictures will ensure equality with time and attention on you both though . |
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By *mmmMaybeCouple
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I just don't want to end up at a meet where the other fem spends ten/twenty minutes on female play and then solely concentrate on S, I've had that happen before (though not with S) and it is rather unsatisfying and spoilt the evening.
H
I quoted your 'very bi - fem term due to personal amusement, not due to me referring to your profile in my comments. I feel that it's probably another thread though (am I more bi than others because I have had girlfriends? Or is it how much you've done and with how many women) I don't see how having more female pictures will ensure equality with time and attention on you both though . "
Probably for the same reason couples looking to play with guys do, I want to ensure they are attracted to me first
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No pic of the male for us is a no go.
Frankly how people expect another couple to be interested when there is no information there is beyond us. The very first question the fem here has is what does he look like?
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"Because the woman sells the profile, she is probably hiding him in the cupboard lol.
No. I store Mr B in the garage as the cupboards are all full.  "
That is a good one too lol. |
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