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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Hello Everyone!
I'm pretty new to all this and just wondered if you had any advice on what to look out for on the site or any thing I should be aware of as a newbie. I gather a lot of it is common sense when it comes to safety and such.
Any advice would be massively appreciated! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Personally I always feel safer if I have seen a face pic before a meet, and maybe meet in a public place the first time round for a coffee or something.
Very nice profile by the way  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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You will be swarmed by single males and couples very soon.....
Insist on a phone chat, would advise you meet in public or at a club.
Don't give out too much personal info.
Make sure you aren't followed home.
Tell someone where your going.
Have a speed dial on your phone to someone who will come and get you (same person who knows where your going).
Have a "if I don't call you by so n so I clock, come and get me".
Look for verified people on here.
I'm very careful when we meet anyone, I really look after miss and think far too few people take safety lightly.
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Be prepared too be inundated with messages and fake profiles. There are also those that will arrange to meet, but never turn up.
Go with your instinct, if it sounds or look to good to be true, it most likely is just that and will leave you dissapointed.
On the other hand, it can also be so much fun when you meet the genuine swingers. Visit a club and meet genuine folk tgat way 
Good luck! |
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By *arah_11TV/TS
over a year ago
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Block all single men lol then they can only reply if you contact them first. Cuts out all the time wasters and idiots
Check verifications too. If they've been on here for more than a certain time then why would they meet now
Socials and clubs are a great way to start and make you feel less alone!
Some lovely people who are genuine and fun, good luck! X |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Be prepared too be inundated with messages and fake profiles. There are also those that will arrange to meet, but never turn up.
Go with your instinct, if it sounds or look to good to be true, it most likely is just that and will leave you dissapointed.
On the other hand, it can also be so much fun when you meet the genuine swingers. Visit a club and meet genuine folk tgat way
Good luck! "
Yeah, I've been considering a club, but I'd need to go it alone. Although I have read that the staff look after you if you're single and also, not to drink too much!
Thanks so much for the advice! |
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Do your research on the club you wosh to visit. We love Vanilla Alternative. Great people that will look after you. Maybe a Saturday with couples only if you di not want a bunch of horny single fellas following you everywhere hoping you would throw them a 'bone' |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Personally I always feel safer if I have seen a face pic before a meet, and maybe meet in a public place the first time round for a coffee or something.
Very nice profile by the way "
Right back at you!  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Personally I always feel safer if I have seen a face pic before a meet, and maybe meet in a public place the first time round for a coffee or something.
Very nice profile by the way
Right back at you! "
Aww thanks, shame I'm just outside your age range, I'm in Lambeth quite a lot. Would have loved to take you for a coffee |
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By *xxxMan
over a year ago
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"Hello Everyone!
I'm pretty new to all this and just wondered if you had any advice on what to look out for on the site or any thing I should be aware of as a newbie. I gather a lot of it is common sense when it comes to safety and such.
Any advice would be massively appreciated! "
Maybe considet replacing your orofile pic with something more discreet. Your very pretty and will get lots of mail anyway. Other than that and whats already been said its a good profile but a meeting in public for a coffee or a drink usually also s out the timewasters and for safety reasons is sound advice.
Good luck though and if you want a date for a club when I'm in the area let me know |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Hello Everyone!
I'm pretty new to all this and just wondered if you had any advice on what to look out for on the site or any thing I should be aware of as a newbie. I gather a lot of it is common sense when it comes to safety and such.
Any advice would be massively appreciated!
Maybe considet replacing your orofile pic with something more discreet. Your very pretty and will get lots of mail anyway. Other than that and whats already been said its a good profile but a meeting in public for a coffee or a drink usually also s out the timewasters and for safety reasons is sound advice.
Good luck though and if you want a date for a club when I'm in the area let me know "
My face is the best bit though, if I put a body one on, I might not get any mail! Haha! |
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"Great profile pretty lady...if only I were a couple of years older I could message you !  "
You get a lot of this on the forum OP, people you're not interested in trying to get round your filters. |
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Have a text friend you can tell where you're going and who you're meeting etc.
Meet in a cafe first.
Get to know people awhile before you agree to meet - no reason why any interested person wouldn't want to.
Listen to your body and go with your gut instinct - if you have any doubts or it feels wrong, don't do it. |
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"You will be swarmed by single males and couples very soon.....
Insist on a phone chat, would advise you meet in public or at a club.
Don't give out too much personal info.
Make sure you aren't followed home.
Tell someone where your going.
Have a speed dial on your phone to someone who will come and get you (same person who knows where your going).
Have a "if I don't call you by so n so I clock, come and get me".
Look for verified people on here.
I'm very careful when we meet anyone, I really look after miss and think far too few people take safety lightly.
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... can only agree and some very good advice ... well said ... |
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By *GHertsCouple
over a year ago
North Herts |
"Do your research on the club you wosh to visit. We love Vanilla Alternative. Great people that will look after you. Maybe a Saturday with couples only if you di not want a bunch of horny single fellas following you everywhere hoping you would throw them a 'bone' "
A lot of clubs, including VA, which I agree is very welcoming and considerate of its guests comfort and safety, put on 'Newbies' nights every so often when there'll be a particular emphasis on introducing you to others, keeping an eye on you etc. Maybe attending a social would be another way of breaking the ice with less pressure perhaps - have a look in the 'events' section of the forum for those and Newbie nights. You could also potentially meet nice people happy to accompany you to a club first time that way.
Ms G
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"Hello Everyone!
I'm pretty new to all this and just wondered if you had any advice on what to look out for on the site or any thing I should be aware of as a newbie. I gather a lot of it is common sense when it comes to safety and such.
Any advice would be massively appreciated! "
Prepare to be mail-bombed |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Hello Everyone!
I'm pretty new to all this and just wondered if you had any advice on what to look out for on the site or any thing I should be aware of as a newbie. I gather a lot of it is common sense when it comes to safety and such.
Any advice would be massively appreciated!
Prepare to be mail-bombed "
So many penises in my inbox! I don't mean that in the literal sense either! Haha! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Hello Everyone!
I'm pretty new to all this and just wondered if you had any advice on what to look out for on the site or any thing I should be aware of as a newbie. I gather a lot of it is common sense when it comes to safety and such.
Any advice would be massively appreciated!
Prepare to be mail-bombed
So many penises in my inbox! I don't mean that in the literal sense either! Haha! "
Yes you will get a high amount of cock shots. Personally I know what ones like as I have one. Lol
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Hello Everyone!
I'm pretty new to all this and just wondered if you had any advice on what to look out for on the site or any thing I should be aware of as a newbie. I gather a lot of it is common sense when it comes to safety and such.
Any advice would be massively appreciated!
Prepare to be mail-bombed
So many penises in my inbox! I don't mean that in the literal sense either! Haha!
Yes you will get a high amount of cock shots. Personally I know what ones like as I have one. Lol
XX "
Haha... I just had a peak! You look great in a skirt. I'm pretty jealous! |
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By *igeiaWoman
over a year ago
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Filter the fuck out of your mailbox until you get your head round it. I had my filters on lockdown for months when I started on here and just contacted people myself. It's probably why I stayed. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"Filter the fuck out of your mailbox until you get your head round it. I had my filters on lockdown for months when I started on here and just contacted people myself. It's probably why I stayed."
Haha... noted! Thanks! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Don't let the idiots get you down and don't judge everyone by their actions there are lots of genuine nice people on here. Hope you find what you want on this site |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Don't let the idiots get you down and don't judge everyone by their actions there are lots of genuine nice people on here. Hope you find what you want on this site"
Ahh thanks for that! X |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"If it's a couple you are chatting with on here, make sure you speak to the woman on the phone. Before arranging a meeting. Welcome and good luck xxx "
Yep that should eliminate most of the couples that contact you.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"You will be swarmed by single males and couples very soon.....
Insist on a phone chat, would advise you meet in public or at a club.
Don't give out too much personal info.
Make sure you aren't followed home.
Tell someone where your going.
Have a speed dial on your phone to someone who will come and get you (same person who knows where your going).
Have a "if I don't call you by so n so I clock, come and get me".
Look for verified people on here.
I'm very careful when we meet anyone, I really look after miss and think far too few people take safety lightly.
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What he said.
Possibly try a club. And don't let any possible bad experiences on here grind you down. And as Lady T said be careful about pics.
Our own advice would be to pace yourself. Seem to see a lot of people getting on fab and blasting it for a few weeks then disappearing. That's just our view point.
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"You will be swarmed by single males and couples very soon.....
Insist on a phone chat, would advise you meet in public or at a club.
Don't give out too much personal info.
Make sure you aren't followed home.
Tell someone where your going.
Have a speed dial on your phone to someone who will come and get you (same person who knows where your going).
Have a "if I don't call you by so n so I clock, come and get me".
Look for verified people on here.
I'm very careful when we meet anyone, I really look after miss and think far too few people take safety lightly.
What he said.
Possibly try a club. And don't let any possible bad experiences on here grind you down. And as Lady T said be careful about pics.
Our own advice would be to pace yourself. Seem to see a lot of people getting on fab and blasting it for a few weeks then disappearing. That's just our view point.
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Yeah, I've decided not to go too mad! Totally fine if people want to, but I want to be choosy and take my time!
I'll certainly be trying a club! |
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I always have a person I text to let them know I'm safe. But I always send a derogatory message ie. 'Small dick. Very disappointed'. If someone is holding you against your will they will either read what you type or type it for you, it will be a positive message. My friend knows if is positive there is something wrong. |
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"I always have a person I text to let them know I'm safe. But I always send a derogatory message ie. 'Small dick. Very disappointed'. If someone is holding you against your will they will either read what you type or type it for you, it will be a positive message. My friend knows if is positive there is something wrong. "
I like this |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Joking aside, I've read through some of the thread and the advice has been really good.
Here's something I'll say from my own experience: when you plan meets with people you haven't met before, don't go massively out of your way. There is always a good chance the person won't show up or something might get cancelled. The less you have riding on a meet, the less you'll be dissapointed if it goes wrong. I know it's a bit cynical, but I've seen it go wrong and the upset after.
Most of all, stay safe and have fun
-Courtney |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Joking aside, I've read through some of the thread and the advice has been really good.
Here's something I'll say from my own experience: when you plan meets with people you haven't met before, don't go massively out of your way. There is always a good chance the person won't show up or something might get cancelled. The less you have riding on a meet, the less you'll be dissapointed if it goes wrong. I know it's a bit cynical, but I've seen it go wrong and the upset after.
Most of all, stay safe and have fun
-Courtney "
Ahh thanks for that... You're totally right, of course! I've had it happen with normal dates and it's completely rubbish. |
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"Joking aside, I've read through some of the thread and the advice has been really good.
Here's something I'll say from my own experience: when you plan meets with people you haven't met before, don't go massively out of your way. There is always a good chance the person won't show up or something might get cancelled. The less you have riding on a meet, the less you'll be dissapointed if it goes wrong. I know it's a bit cynical, but I've seen it go wrong and the upset after.
Most of all, stay safe and have fun
-Courtney
Ahh thanks for that... You're totally right, of course! I've had it happen with normal dates and it's completely rubbish. "
This is good advice, a good guy on here will travel to meet you in a public place.
Anyone trying to talk you into doing things differently does not respect your safety. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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1) Often, it's best to take compliments with a pinch of salt
2) Don't feel that you have to lower your standards, ever.
3) The block button is an awesome tool.
4) I'd suggest always go for a social first, but others do prefer to play on a first meet.
5) Remember your safety is always the most important factor. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Well it is nearly Tits Thursday, after all (I may have made that up) "
You're fun! welcome to fabs.
Only thing have to add is, know your boundaries and always remember them. People have strong agendas here and many will push and push without consideration. It is a seductive place, and you're here to experiment - but remember what was your original desire. It's ok to break your own rules or to do things simply to please others, but make sure that doing so is your own decision, not the result of someone's pressure and manipulations. Enjoy!
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What to look out for?
i suggest you look out for quiet, kinky blokes from the Midlands, they tend to have a reputation for leading impressionable young hotties astray, persuading them to indulge in the sorts of things their parents should have warned them about before leaving them alone to cope with wobbly legs and a slight case of breathlessness  |
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By *rimo4uMan
over a year ago
north kensington w10 |
"Hello Everyone!
I'm pretty new to all this and just wondered if you had any advice on what to look out for on the site or any thing I should be aware of as a newbie. I gather a lot of it is common sense when it comes to safety and such.
Any advice would be massively appreciated! "
Maybe when someone write's a nice message with a question for you, yoy could at least look at there profile, or even reply with yes or no but thanks, instead of just deleting. Thanks.  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Hello Everyone!
I'm pretty new to all this and just wondered if you had any advice on what to look out for on the site or any thing I should be aware of as a newbie. I gather a lot of it is common sense when it comes to safety and such.
Any advice would be massively appreciated!
Maybe when someone write's a nice message with a question for you, yoy could at least look at there profile, or even reply with yes or no but thanks, instead of just deleting. Thanks. "
You'll get plenty of these messages to....just ignore and block,for some reason they feel they are entitled |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Hi welcome don't give your personal details,facebook etc or take them to your home.Some prick will get d*unk and just turn up to your door step!Good luck x |
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By *odareyouMan
over a year ago
not far from iceland,,,,,, tescos is nearer though :-) (near leeds) |
Welcome to the forums..
1. have no expectations
2. go at your pace
3. enjoy the journey
4. Most of all have fun
As the unofficial founding member of the boob appreciation clique(see my thread) I'm always happy to receive pictures of boobs as well .. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Hello, I do what I feel like in the moment. I have never been insulted, harassed or upset. I embrace positivity and avoid the chat rooms as I prefer to avoid gossips. I also avoid demanding, angry, negative and judgmental people.
I have no expectations and offer no guarantees.
Enjoy your adventure x |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Personally I always feel safer if I have seen a face pic before a meet, and maybe meet in a public place the first time round for a coffee or something.
Very nice profile by the way "
Spot on. Exactly this. I'm a genuine single female too and the above advice is exactly how I do things for myself. Had a few great meets and so glad I'm as careful as I am on here. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Hello Everyone!
I'm pretty new to all this and just wondered if you had any advice on what to look out for on the site or any thing I should be aware of as a newbie. I gather a lot of it is common sense when it comes to safety and such.
Any advice would be massively appreciated!
Maybe when someone write's a nice message with a question for you, yoy could at least look at there profile, or even reply with yes or no but thanks, instead of just deleting. Thanks. "
Guys such as yourself need to fully read profiles before messaging and respect the wishes a woman has for her own body. Saves wasting your own time.
Site rules also state deleted messages means thanks but no thank you. Would be great if everyone respected site rules. No one on this site is owed anything. Thank you and have a great day.  |
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Some brilliant advice already been given out so I wont go over the same old stuff.
I would say do not try to reply to every message as you are limited to messages you can send out, not sure on the limit but have seen people run out.
As for clubs, look on the listings as you do see other single females asking for someone to accompany them, same with some couples. Failing that I would take you haha
No tit pic in my inbox, gutted lol x |
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By *xx1Man
over a year ago
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"Hello Everyone!
I'm pretty new to all this and just wondered if you had any advice on what to look out for on the site or any thing I should be aware of as a newbie. I gather a lot of it is common sense when it comes to safety and such.
Any advice would be massively appreciated!
Maybe considet replacing your orofile pic with something more discreet. Your very pretty and will get lots of mail anyway. Other than that and whats already been said its a good profile but a meeting in public for a coffee or a drink usually also s out the timewasters and for safety reasons is sound advice.
Good luck though and if you want a date for a club when I'm in the area let me know
My face is the best bit though, if I put a body one on, I might not get any mail! Haha! "
You have a very pretty face, your profile looks good and I'm sure you are a very sexy... You'll have us queuing up around the block.
Welcome to fab and enjoy the experience x
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Plus size women are sexy too xx  |
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