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By *berman OP Man
over a year ago
The North West |
Hi, just a query. As a rule, do you ladies block someone straight away who contacts you - e.g. with regards to a meet you've set up - but you don't fancy or instead would you just ignore message/reply with a thanks but no thanks? I've just been blocked - has happened before - and just intrigued. And guys do you find yourself getting blocked on occasion when you wouldn't normally have expected that? |
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By *berman OP Man
over a year ago
The North West |
"I block if someone winks us and they are straight. It means we aren't going to meet them and it stop them wasting their time"
thanks for that - yeah that makes sense, they had that coming!
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Blocking someone just because they are not your type, and have messaged you, imo is rude...You wouldn't blank someone who has approached you in a pub or club. I can understand if it is a persistent winker or "messager",but an introduction, you straight away get blocked, with the message deleted. a simple thanks, but no, you are not what I am looking for goes a long way. Lets not be so full of ourselves...  |
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"Blocking someone just because they are not your type, and have messaged you, imo is rude...You wouldn't blank someone who has approached you in a pub or club. I can understand if it is a persistent winker or "messager",but an introduction, you straight away get blocked, with the message deleted. a simple thanks, but no, you are not what I am looking for goes a long way. Lets not be so full of ourselves... "
And yet the sites FAQ state that it is not rude. Go figure. What would you prefer....a block or a message saying "you must be having a bubble, mate! A cock like that? Ya having a laff!"
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over a year ago
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"Blocking someone just because they are not your type, and have messaged you, imo is rude...You wouldn't blank someone who has approached you in a pub or club. I can understand if it is a persistent winker or "messager",but an introduction, you straight away get blocked, with the message deleted. a simple thanks, but no, you are not what I am looking for goes a long way. Lets not be so full of ourselves... "
Yes this would work in an ideal world, but unfortunately on here you still come up on people's searches and they message you again and again and again. It can be like Groundhog Day. They forget they have messaged you AND you have politely said no. One fella 8 times! (let's see if we get double figures). |
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"Blocking someone just because they are not your type, and have messaged you, imo is rude...You wouldn't blank someone who has approached you in a pub or club. I can understand if it is a persistent winker or "messager",but an introduction, you straight away get blocked, with the message deleted. a simple thanks, but no, you are not what I am looking for goes a long way. Lets not be so full of ourselves... "
I don't consider it as being full of myself as we have very specific needs that we want fulfilled from this site. I can't imagine that someone would want us or anyone else to string them along. also, I can't imagine meeting anyone who would get offended about a block ... no one so touchy
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Hi, just a query. As a rule, do you ladies block someone straight away who contacts you - e.g. with regards to a meet you've set up - but you don't fancy or instead would you just ignore message/reply with a thanks but no thanks? I've just been blocked - has happened before - and just intrigued. And guys do you find yourself getting blocked on occasion when you wouldn't normally have expected that?"
I would block them if I am not interested. It saves time and wasted effort on both parties behalf. |
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By *berman OP Man
over a year ago
The North West |
"Hi, just a query. As a rule, do you ladies block someone straight away who contacts you - e.g. with regards to a meet you've set up - but you don't fancy or instead would you just ignore message/reply with a thanks but no thanks? I've just been blocked - has happened before - and just intrigued. And guys do you find yourself getting blocked on occasion when you wouldn't normally have expected that?
I would block them if I am not interested. It saves time and wasted effort on both parties behalf."
And of course that's your prerogative - but surely just deleting the message communicates clearly that you're not interested and so deals with the bloke without to be honest being a little mean as with blocking? That's what I do with women I'm not interested in - I've never blocked one?.. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Hi, just a query. As a rule, do you ladies block someone straight away who contacts you - e.g. with regards to a meet you've set up - but you don't fancy or instead would you just ignore message/reply with a thanks but no thanks? I've just been blocked - has happened before - and just intrigued. And guys do you find yourself getting blocked on occasion when you wouldn't normally have expected that?"
We block anyone who are not for us, saves everyone time  |
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"Blocking someone just because they are not your type, and have messaged you, imo is rude...You wouldn't blank someone who has approached you in a pub or club. I can understand if it is a persistent winker or "messager",but an introduction, you straight away get blocked, with the message deleted. a simple thanks, but no, you are not what I am looking for goes a long way. Lets not be so full of ourselves...
And yet the sites FAQ state that it is not rude. Go figure. What would you prefer....a block or a message saying "you must be having a bubble, mate! A cock like that? Ya having a laff!"
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I get single men and couples message me, even when I have stated am not looking for them, but I still reply their messages, to say, thanks, but no. None have done it again... maybe I am just lucky, or my No is definitive enough. |
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By *irginieWoman
over a year ago
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Gernerally speaking I read the first line of the message without opening it. I may delete without opening or block and delete. There's no rule or reason just what I do.
I may click the profile and then block ... too young, too close, I know them, too straight, married... who knows what my reason is. I just know we won't ever meet so I don't need to talk to them.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Any idea how many messages us girls get in a day? It's rediculous!
Couldn't possibly reply with "thanks, no thanks" every time as would take too long plus then opens up reply messages such as " go on give me a chance , I won't disappoint ", " here's more pics of me, I'm better looking in person" and not to mention the abbusive messages we get through politely rejecting men!
It really is too much hassle...... Sometimes I reply, sometimes delete and sometimes block but have also had the same done to me.
You're never going to be everyone's jd and Coke (my version of cup of tea) so don't take it to heart.
Just move on X |
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"Hi, just a query. As a rule, do you ladies block someone straight away who contacts you - e.g. with regards to a meet you've set up - but you don't fancy or instead would you just ignore message/reply with a thanks but no thanks? I've just been blocked - has happened before - and just intrigued. And guys do you find yourself getting blocked on occasion when you wouldn't normally have expected that?
We block anyone who are not for us, saves everyone time "
I think that is better, that way they cannot message or wink at you in the 1st place. |
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"We were blocked by a couple they said we wernt for them.. then when we looked to ask why. They had blocked us. Still dont no why they needed to block us. Cos we are a genuine couple.. but there loss not ours...."
I think if someone states you are not their type, we should be gracious in accepting their preference. I do not think we should ask why.... we are not everyone's cup of tea, and am sure you will come across other couples that will appreciate you positively. Don't you think? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Hi, just a query. As a rule, do you ladies block someone straight away who contacts you - e.g. with regards to a meet you've set up - but you don't fancy or instead would you just ignore message/reply with a thanks but no thanks? I've just been blocked - has happened before - and just intrigued. And guys do you find yourself getting blocked on occasion when you wouldn't normally have expected that?
I would block them if I am not interested. It saves time and wasted effort on both parties behalf.
And of course that's your prerogative - but surely just deleting the message communicates clearly that you're not interested and so deals with the bloke without to be honest being a little mean as with blocking? That's what I do with women I'm not interested in - I've never blocked one?.."
Nope. Much easier to block. It prevents further communication. Apart from anything, I can't remember who the fook I talked to last week so it is a handy facility. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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We would not block someone just because we have no interest in meeting them. We have no interest in meeting probably 99% of people on Fab, but we can hardly block every single person except for those we might one day meet. And it would be a shame if people blocked us just because they didn't want to meet us. It's nice to use Fab for other purposes, eg forum chat, looking at other people's photos etc, even idle browsing. Wouldn't be able to do that if we routinely went round blocking people. No, we only block if we feel we really have to, if someone is spoiling our experience of Fab. Otherwise we don't feel the need.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Been on the receiving end of many blocks after initially contacting someone. I personally find it very rude, if someone deletes my message without reading fair enough; I know women are inundated with messages. I don't repeat message people, a reminder pops up if you have already messaged without reply |
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"We would not block someone just because we have no interest in meeting them. We have no interest in meeting probably 99% of people on Fab, but we can hardly block every single person except for those we might one day meet. And it would be a shame if people blocked us just because they didn't want to meet us. It's nice to use Fab for other purposes, eg forum chat, looking at other people's photos etc, even idle browsing. Wouldn't be able to do that if we routinely went round blocking people. No, we only block if we feel we really have to, if someone is spoiling our experience of Fab. Otherwise we don't feel the need.
Mrs"
I agree with this and that's what I do. but hey this is a community like any other in real life, we all do and look at things differently...It would not be dynamic if all behaved the same way. That is my take on things. live and let live |
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By *andsonjohnMan
over a year ago
in the eye of the storm |
"Hi, just a query. As a rule, do you ladies block someone straight away who contacts you - e.g. with regards to a meet you've set up - but you don't fancy or instead would you just ignore message/reply with a thanks but no thanks? I've just been blocked - has happened before - and just intrigued. And guys do you find yourself getting blocked on occasion when you wouldn't normally have expected that?"
op you have got to learn not to take any notice of such behaviour if your going to last in the swinging world .
I learn this a long time ago don't worry about the behaviour of others towards you in this adult world because its a mad house full of people who act and do the strangest things that any sane human would never do .
once you realise this world is on the whole populated with the insane you can forgive there insane action of the insane ones and concentrate on looking for the odd sane person on here  |
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By *aeBabeWoman
over a year ago
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"Blocking someone just because they are not your type, and have messaged you, imo is rude...You wouldn't blank someone who has approached you in a pub or club. I can understand if it is a persistent winker or "messager",but an introduction, you straight away get blocked, with the message deleted. a simple thanks, but no, you are not what I am looking for goes a long way. Lets not be so full of ourselves...
And yet the sites FAQ state that it is not rude. Go figure. What would you prefer....a block or a message saying "you must be having a bubble, mate! A cock like that? Ya having a laff!"
I get single men and couples message me, even when I have stated am not looking for them, but I still reply their messages, to say, thanks, but no. None have done it again... maybe I am just lucky, or my No is definitive enough. "
HOW MANY messages do you get though? Do you get persistant repeat messages from the same people. Often when I reply with a polite no thank you I get " why? Why not?" Or ( insert insult). Or even a message from rejected person a few weeks down the line saying "we were talking, what happened? Want to meet now?" Thank goodness for the private notes.  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I blocked someone a few days ago after a social meet in which I didn't feel any spark.... Didnt wish him to contact me again. I messaged him first saying that I hoped he would meet some lovely lady and to take care. |
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"We would not block someone just because we have no interest in meeting them. We have no interest in meeting probably 99% of people on Fab, but we can hardly block every single person except for those we might one day meet. And it would be a shame if people blocked us just because they didn't want to meet us. It's nice to use Fab for other purposes, eg forum chat, looking at other people's photos etc, even idle browsing. Wouldn't be able to do that if we routinely went round blocking people. No, we only block if we feel we really have to, if someone is spoiling our experience of Fab. Otherwise we don't feel the need.
Mrs"
We absaloutly agree with above, what is the point of blocking so many, we just block ignorant people who think they are above the rest and acting it, sad to say  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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The block button is a tool the site gave us all to use in the manner we all feel suits us.
Whether someone feels the way another person uses it is rude really doesn't matter because it's not up to anyone else how we choose to use it. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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We delete quite a lot of the time as we get a lot of messages and if we know straight away by a message or picture that we're not interested then we just delete it. We find it easier to eliminate people.
We only block people if we know them, or if they are rude or persistent. |
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By *andsonjohnMan
over a year ago
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"The block button is a tool the site gave us all to use in the manner we all feel suits us.
Whether someone feels the way another person uses it is rude really doesn't matter because it's not up to anyone else how we choose to use it."
that right miss innocent the op should not worry about the actions of a narcissist with a block button at there fingers tips to do so would be utter madness on his part |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"The block button is a tool the site gave us all to use in the manner we all feel suits us.
Whether someone feels the way another person uses it is rude really doesn't matter because it's not up to anyone else how we choose to use it.
that right miss innocent the op should not worry about the actions of a narcissist with a block button at there fingers tips to do so would be utter madness on his part "
A narcissist? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I have 3 people on my block list, I'm not trigger happy with hitting the button. I don't block people if they're not my type, I'll normally reply saying thanks but no thanks. I will block for repeatedly messaging or being abusive. So it doesn't happen that often, most do accept the no. But if they reply asking why I just ignore and it's normally left at that. So no , no need to block every Tom, dick an Harry, because I may meet them in a club and actually get on with them, but not interested in having sex with them. |
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By *andsonjohnMan
over a year ago
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"The block button is a tool the site gave us all to use in the manner we all feel suits us.
Whether someone feels the way another person uses it is rude really doesn't matter because it's not up to anyone else how we choose to use it.
that right miss innocent the op should not worry about the actions of a narcissist with a block button at there fingers tips to do so would be utter madness on his part
A narcissist? "
blocking for no reason with out provocation is a trait of a Narcissistic personality and the op would do well to stay away from such people by then blocking him they have in all truthfulness done him a favour in my humble opinion , |
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By *berman OP Man
over a year ago
The North West |
"We would not block someone just because we have no interest in meeting them. We have no interest in meeting probably 99% of people on Fab, but we can hardly block every single person except for those we might one day meet. And it would be a shame if people blocked us just because they didn't want to meet us. It's nice to use Fab for other purposes, eg forum chat, looking at other people's photos etc, even idle browsing. Wouldn't be able to do that if we routinely went round blocking people. No, we only block if we feel we really have to, if someone is spoiling our experience of Fab. Otherwise we don't feel the need.
Mrs"
AW that is NICE! You are indeed classy! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I have to admit, and I know this flies in the face of forum opinion, but if we were to message someone we were interest in, historically I would have been devastated if we'd been blocked in return. It would make me feel we'd done something wrong. I'd have no issue if they'd ignored our message, but to be blocked I used to think was the ultimate insult only reserved for those who are offensive or make a nuisance of themselves. Since using the forums I see now that people use the block button for other reasons, and that there is not necesarily any reason for me to feel I've done something wrong if we were to be blocked just because someone isn't interested in us. However, it would still jar if someone did that to us. Fortunately, to the best of my knowledge we have not been blocked for that reason, so I'm talking hypothetically. But I do sympathise with some of these single guys, who may have been perfectly respectful in their message and find themselves blocked. If they don't use the forums and therefore don't understand that some people block quite liberally, they won't know that there was no offence intended. So we will not block a man if we turn him down, because we don't want to do anything that might be demoralising. Kind of treating someone how we like to be treated ourselves.
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By *berman OP Man
over a year ago
The North West |
"How do you know if you've been blocked?"
when you click on their profile you can't view it as it's been blocked -so for example in may case just now I messaged to a meet ad, they asked in a friendly way if I had any close up photos of my face..by the time 5 minutes or so later I had put a couple of photos up with close ups they'd blocked me...no issue with them not liking me just seems a simple delete may have been all that was needed but hey ho! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I block any guy who messages me without reading my profile.
I block guys who ask me why I've said no to them.
I block guys on my feed that post AWFUL status comments or that put up pics that I don't find attractive.
My block list crashes my laptop if I try to view it.
I've been on this site 6 years and have never had a problem finding a guy from my unblocked list when I want one. Feel free to think I'm rude or a narcissist or a bitch or whatever you like but after 6 years on here, I know who needs blocking and who doesn't |
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By *andsonjohnMan
over a year ago
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"I have to admit, and I know this flies in the face of forum opinion, but if we were to message someone we were interest in, historically I would have been devastated if we'd been blocked in return. It would make me feel we'd done something wrong. I'd have no issue if they'd ignored our message, but to be blocked I used to think was the ultimate insult only reserved for those who are offensive or make a nuisance of themselves. Since using the forums I see now that people use the block button for other reasons, and that there is not necesarily any reason for me to feel I've done something wrong if we were to be blocked just because someone isn't interested in us. However, it would still jar if someone did that to us. Fortunately, to the best of my knowledge we have not been blocked for that reason, so I'm talking hypothetically. But I do sympathise with some of these single guys, who may have been perfectly respectful in their message and find themselves blocked. If they don't use the forums and therefore don't understand that some people block quite liberally, they won't know that there was no offence intended. So we will not block a man if we turn him down, because we don't want to do anything that might be demoralising. Kind of treating someone how we like to be treated ourselves.
Mrs"
totally agree I don't block even offensive people which is why the block button exists to block offensive people its not a tool for saying thanks but no thanks .
I'm sure that use came about one day when some narcissistic person used it to justify a unnecessary action and the other borderline narcissistic's jump on the bandwagon. |
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over a year ago
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I use the block as a tool which is exactly what it is, say I message a lady and she deletes my message, that's my thanks but no thanks, so rather than risk messaging them again and pissing them off, just block them, they have already made thier decision and why waste anyone's time including your own, now I'm sure there will be some that think that's extreme but my rule is don't message someone twice without a response |
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By *berman OP Man
over a year ago
The North West |
"I have to admit, and I know this flies in the face of forum opinion, but if we were to message someone we were interest in, historically I would have been devastated if we'd been blocked in return. It would make me feel we'd done something wrong. I'd have no issue if they'd ignored our message, but to be blocked I used to think was the ultimate insult only reserved for those who are offensive or make a nuisance of themselves. Since using the forums I see now that people use the block button for other reasons, and that there is not necesarily any reason for me to feel I've done something wrong if we were to be blocked just because someone isn't interested in us. However, it would still jar if someone did that to us. Fortunately, to the best of my knowledge we have not been blocked for that reason, so I'm talking hypothetically. But I do sympathise with some of these single guys, who may have been perfectly respectful in their message and find themselves blocked. If they don't use the forums and therefore don't understand that some people block quite liberally, they won't know that there was no offence intended. So we will not block a man if we turn him down, because we don't want to do anything that might be demoralising. Kind of treating someone how we like to be treated ourselves.
Mrs"
Again you're very nice although I have to say if you did block a single guy you'd be well within your rights as it says no single guys on your profile - but respect to your niceness.  |
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over a year ago
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If you message someone and they read it and don't respond then it just stays as read, and then if you message same person again it will come up with a warning saying you have already done so then you should really consider not messaging that person, but if you message them and they delete the message that's a clear signal they aren't interested, so do the right thing and prevent yourself from messaging them again |
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"I have to admit, and I know this flies in the face of forum opinion, but if we were to message someone we were interest in, historically I would have been devastated if we'd been blocked in return. It would make me feel we'd done something wrong. I'd have no issue if they'd ignored our message, but to be blocked I used to think was the ultimate insult only reserved for those who are offensive or make a nuisance of themselves. Since using the forums I see now that people use the block button for other reasons, and that there is not necesarily any reason for me to feel I've done something wrong if we were to be blocked just because someone isn't interested in us. However, it would still jar if someone did that to us. Fortunately, to the best of my knowledge we have not been blocked for that reason, so I'm talking hypothetically. But I do sympathise with some of these single guys, who may have been perfectly respectful in their message and find themselves blocked. If they don't use the forums and therefore don't understand that some people block quite liberally, they won't know that there was no offence intended. So we will not block a man if we turn him down, because we don't want to do anything that might be demoralising. Kind of treating someone how we like to be treated ourselves.
Mrs
Again you're very nice although I have to say if you did block a single guy you'd be well within your rights as it says no single guys on your profile - but respect to your niceness. "
Our profile certainly does not say no single guys! (And I have just double checked). We love our guys !!
Ulterior motive though for not blocking very often - there will be less single guys to fab the pics of me. Now that is narcissistic 
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"If you message someone and they read it and don't respond then it just stays as read, and then if you message same person again it will come up with a warning saying you have already done so then you should really consider not messaging that person, but if you message them and they delete the message that's a clear signal they aren't interested, so do the right thing and prevent yourself from messaging them again"
Yeah that's a fair enough reason, if you are worrief you might unknowingly bug someone. And they've done the rejection so they don't need to be offended if they get blocked. However if you click on a profile that you have messaged or winked before it will say so. We often wink at people. But we won't wink if it flags up that we've winked before but they haven't winked back.
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By *berman OP Man
over a year ago
The North West |
"I have to admit, and I know this flies in the face of forum opinion, but if we were to message someone we were interest in, historically I would have been devastated if we'd been blocked in return. It would make me feel we'd done something wrong. I'd have no issue if they'd ignored our message, but to be blocked I used to think was the ultimate insult only reserved for those who are offensive or make a nuisance of themselves. Since using the forums I see now that people use the block button for other reasons, and that there is not necesarily any reason for me to feel I've done something wrong if we were to be blocked just because someone isn't interested in us. However, it would still jar if someone did that to us. Fortunately, to the best of my knowledge we have not been blocked for that reason, so I'm talking hypothetically. But I do sympathise with some of these single guys, who may have been perfectly respectful in their message and find themselves blocked. If they don't use the forums and therefore don't understand that some people block quite liberally, they won't know that there was no offence intended. So we will not block a man if we turn him down, because we don't want to do anything that might be demoralising. Kind of treating someone how we like to be treated ourselves.
Mrs
Again you're very nice although I have to say if you did block a single guy you'd be well within your rights as it says no single guys on your profile - but respect to your niceness.
Our profile certainly does not say no single guys! (And I have just double checked). We love our guys !!
Ulterior motive though for not blocking very often - there will be less single guys to fab the pics of me. Now that is narcissistic
Mrs"
Ah ok my mistake! Hmm well please do get in contact if you every fancy that flirt session as described on your profile - I'm in the South East every few weeks and always get stuck by myself in a hotel ha ha - obviously I'd contact you privately but can't do...there's another debate for discussion lol. |
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"I have to admit, and I know this flies in the face of forum opinion, but if we were to message someone we were interest in, historically I would have been devastated if we'd been blocked in return. It would make me feel we'd done something wrong. I'd have no issue if they'd ignored our message, but to be blocked I used to think was the ultimate insult only reserved for those who are offensive or make a nuisance of themselves. Since using the forums I see now that people use the block button for other reasons, and that there is not necesarily any reason for me to feel I've done something wrong if we were to be blocked just because someone isn't interested in us. However, it would still jar if someone did that to us. Fortunately, to the best of my knowledge we have not been blocked for that reason, so I'm talking hypothetically. But I do sympathise with some of these single guys, who may have been perfectly respectful in their message and find themselves blocked. If they don't use the forums and therefore don't understand that some people block quite liberally, they won't know that there was no offence intended. So we will not block a man if we turn him down, because we don't want to do anything that might be demoralising. Kind of treating someone how we like to be treated ourselves.
Mrs
Again you're very nice although I have to say if you did block a single guy you'd be well within your rights as it says no single guys on your profile - but respect to your niceness.
Our profile certainly does not say no single guys! (And I have just double checked). We love our guys !!
Ulterior motive though for not blocking very often - there will be less single guys to fab the pics of me. Now that is narcissistic
Mrs
Ah ok my mistake! Hmm well please do get in contact if you every fancy that flirt session as described on your profile - I'm in the South East every few weeks and always get stuck by myself in a hotel ha ha - obviously I'd contact you privately but can't do...there's another debate for discussion lol. "
Well you age is within range and you are verified, so must be that you are not a site supporter. We did that mainly to reduce mail. |
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My issue with using the block button as a filter is that what you didn't want/fancy yesterday you want to try next week as we all change our mind sometimes and dare I say it but it's easy to block - I feel that you should have to send a reason for why you've blocked someone as that's the only way people on the receiving end will learn and perhaps change their approach - I appreciate this will never happen but I think it would be useful. It's also too easy to block by mistake when using the phone in my opinion - Also with the number of messages you ladies/couples receive it can possibly end up being a bit arbitrary at times - a message can just get lost and not really read from someone who ticks all your boxes.
I guess the block button is a tool but not liked by those on the receiving end - a couple recently contacted me asked to meet for a social they then cancelled due to a change of plan and said about rearranging - next day they blocked me - it would be nicer if they'd told me why - manners cost nothing... |
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"Hi, just a query. As a rule, do you ladies block someone straight away who contacts you - e.g. with regards to a meet you've set up - but you don't fancy or instead would you just ignore message/reply with a thanks but no thanks? I've just been blocked - has happened before - and just intrigued. And guys do you find yourself getting blocked on occasion when you wouldn't normally have expected that?
I would block them if I am not interested. It saves time and wasted effort on both parties behalf.
And of course that's your prerogative - but surely just deleting the message communicates clearly that you're not interested and so deals with the bloke without to be honest being a little mean as with blocking? That's what I do with women I'm not interested in - I've never blocked one?.."
I've deleted without reading and a few times they write back saying is that a no then? Or why don't you like me so no that doesn't always work but if they have put the right word that shows they read my profile I always read their messages I might not reply mind lol |
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I think a lot of people use the block option as a filter saves repeated messages from same person and sorry if this has already been posted haven't read all the posts |
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"You wouldn't blank someone who has approached you in a pub or club. "
Yes I would if they kept coming over.
"simple thanks, but no, you are not what I am looking for goes a long way. "
I do this and they still come back, weeks or months later as if I'll have changed my mind.
"Lets not be so full of ourselves... "
How is managing the volume in our inboxes being full of ourselves?
"I get single men and couples message me, even when I have stated am not looking for them, but I still reply their messages, to say, thanks, but no. None have done it again... maybe I am just lucky, or my No is definitive enough. "
You've been lucky. |
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"We would not block someone just because we have no interest in meeting them. We have no interest in meeting probably 99% of people on Fab, but we can hardly block every single person except for those we might one day meet. And it would be a shame if people blocked us just because they didn't want to meet us. It's nice to use Fab for other purposes, eg forum chat, looking at other people's photos etc, even idle browsing. Wouldn't be able to do that if we routinely went round blocking people. No, we only block if we feel we really have to, if someone is spoiling our experience of Fab. Otherwise we don't feel the need.
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"Blocking someone just because they are not your type, and have messaged you, imo is rude...You wouldn't blank someone who has approached you in a pub or club. I can understand if it is a persistent winker or "messager",but an introduction, you straight away get blocked, with the message deleted. a simple thanks, but no, you are not what I am looking for goes a long way. Lets not be so full of ourselves... "
I will reply to my messages even if it's a no thank you.
However I have recently changed to then move after replying to block them
I had a fair amount of abuse because I'd said no and people not accepting my choice.
Blocking now avoids that and also from showing again on someone's search and going through the process again.
I don't do it to be rude just practical.
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"Blocking someone just because they are not your type, and have messaged you, imo is rude...You wouldn't blank someone who has approached you in a pub or club. I can understand if it is a persistent winker or "messager",but an introduction, you straight away get blocked, with the message deleted. a simple thanks, but no, you are not what I am looking for goes a long way. Lets not be so full of ourselves...
Yes this would work in an ideal world, but unfortunately on here you still come up on people's searches and they message you again and again and again. It can be like Groundhog Day. They forget they have messaged you AND you have politely said no. One fella 8 times! (let's see if we get double figures)."
this has happened to me a few times ,, despite filters etc - now if the message is polite I always reply eventually with a thanks but no - then on occasions I have done this I get 3 -5 messages back asking why - so I just block ,,,, I run my profile how I like and when I have time and I let others run their own profile but sometimes it makes me grrrrrrrr |
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Our profile specifies what we are looking for and what we ourselves offer - a polite reply is what we give and have yet to block unwanted or unsought approaches. We do block time wasters, we make private notes to avoid future misunderstood or mis-communicated approaches.
Persistent unwanted have and will continue to be blocked.
This is a swingers site and we all have both expectations and boundaries - strangers have no impact on what we seek and offer.
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"Hi, just a query. As a rule, do you ladies block someone straight away who contacts you - e.g. with regards to a meet you've set up - but you don't fancy or instead would you just ignore message/reply with a thanks but no thanks? I've just been blocked - has happened before - and just intrigued. And guys do you find yourself getting blocked on occasion when you wouldn't normally have expected that?"
I never used to block ppl but after getting to much abuse for saying sorry not interested or your not my type or c'mon shows us your picture I've resorted to messaging saying sorry not interested happy fabbing and then blocking, I've even received abuse on my couples profile for not being interested in someone on my singles profile, so yeah I block as politely as I can, but there is also the ppl that constantly delete and get another profile sending you message after message so them I block straight away |
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