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Hi all, I know there's loads of us single fellas asking for advice on our profiles, but I've read all your responses/suggestions and adapted my profile accordingly.
Looking at it now would you be willing to chat or meet me? Or is there something that puts you off?
Apologies for the usual "help me" post, but after having no luck for months and months I just wanted to make sure I have all areas covered (no pun intended  ) |
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Seems a decent enough profile to me but I wouldn't say yes to meeting anyone without a face pic to asses attraction, whilst it isn't all about looks they do matter for the lust aspect especially on a site such as this where there's literally hundreds of men to choose from |
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"Seems a decent enough profile to me but I wouldn't say yes to meeting anyone without a face pic to asses attraction, whilst it isn't all about looks they do matter for the lust aspect especially on a site such as this where there's literally hundreds of men to choose from "
don't think a face pic matters if you are pounding from behind lol |
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"Seems a decent enough profile to me but I wouldn't say yes to meeting anyone without a face pic to asses attraction, whilst it isn't all about looks they do matter for the lust aspect especially on a site such as this where there's literally hundreds of men to choose from
don't think a face pic matters if you are pounding from behind lol"
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It's certainly not the worst profile I've seen and it's nice to have so easy public photos (and bonus on no cock!)
For me personally. .. There's 3 things that would remain unticked on the check list.
Face pic
Height
Hairy
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"Seems a decent enough profile to me but I wouldn't say yes to meeting anyone without a face pic to asses attraction, whilst it isn't all about looks they do matter for the lust aspect especially on a site such as this where there's literally hundreds of men to choose from "
I do have a face pic in my private pics, but I can't show it publicly because I'd lose my job straight away if word got out |
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"Seems a decent enough profile to me but I wouldn't say yes to meeting anyone without a face pic to asses attraction, whilst it isn't all about looks they do matter for the lust aspect especially on a site such as this where there's literally hundreds of men to choose from
I do have a face pic in my private pics, but I can't show it publicly because I'd lose my job straight away if word got out "
That's fine I'd hope if you were to message someone privately you'd send on but I answered your question honestly based on the public information/visuals available |
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"Seems a decent enough profile to me but I wouldn't say yes to meeting anyone without a face pic to asses attraction, whilst it isn't all about looks they do matter for the lust aspect especially on a site such as this where there's literally hundreds of men to choose from
I do have a face pic in my private pics, but I can't show it publicly because I'd lose my job straight away if word got out
That's fine I'd hope if you were to message someone privately you'd send on but I answered your question honestly based on the public information/visuals available "
Oh yeah definitely! Thanks for your feedback I appreciate it |
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"Seems a decent enough profile to me but I wouldn't say yes to meeting anyone without a face pic to asses attraction, whilst it isn't all about looks they do matter for the lust aspect especially on a site such as this where there's literally hundreds of men to choose from
I do have a face pic in my private pics, but I can't show it publicly because I'd lose my job straight away if word got out "
I respect that people have this view and genuinely believe it. But I've yet to see a job where sexual abstinence is a requirement. |
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"Seems a decent enough profile to me but I wouldn't say yes to meeting anyone without a face pic to asses attraction, whilst it isn't all about looks they do matter for the lust aspect especially on a site such as this where there's literally hundreds of men to choose from
I do have a face pic in my private pics, but I can't show it publicly because I'd lose my job straight away if word got out
I respect that people have this view and genuinely believe it. But I've yet to see a job where sexual abstinence is a requirement."
I'm a teacher. Trust me if the parents found out I'd be hung, drawn and quartered |
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"I cant understand why someone would post a public picture of their face. I keep face pics for sending private only. Too many people have had their pictures stolen of here and used on other sites."
Never once had my pics stolen guess it's because my face is plastered on them so makes them harder to fake most people can do is crop the image. If mine were stolen take it as a complement, but most in my life know I'm very open about this lifestyle choice so o don't have to dread be "discovered"
"I like sex" OMG did a woman actually say that, must be a slag  |
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"Love the profile to be fair says what it needs to the only reason I wouldn't contact is distance keep plodding I'm sure you will get the just don't fall into the woe is me section of fab xx"
Thanks hun, I appreciate it  |
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By *anky_PankyWoman
over a year ago
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"I cant understand why someone would post a public picture of their face. I keep face pics for sending private only. Too many people have had their pictures stolen of here and used on other sites.
Never once had my pics stolen guess it's because my face is plastered on them so makes them harder to fake most people can do is crop the image. If mine were stolen take it as a complement, but most in my life know I'm very open about this lifestyle choice so o don't have to dread be "discovered"
"I like sex" OMG did a woman actually say that, must be a slag "
I said that about pics, then a few weeks ago someone messaged me asking why I had another profile on here..... Some cheeky sod had nicked my pics and used them on here!!
It's deleted now..... |
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"I cant understand why someone would post a public picture of their face. I keep face pics for sending private only. Too many people have had their pictures stolen of here and used on other sites.
Never once had my pics stolen guess it's because my face is plastered on them so makes them harder to fake most people can do is crop the image. If mine were stolen take it as a complement, but most in my life know I'm very open about this lifestyle choice so o don't have to dread be "discovered"
"I like sex" OMG did a woman actually say that, must be a slag
I said that about pics, then a few weeks ago someone messaged me asking why I had another profile on here..... Some cheeky sod had nicked my pics and used them on here!!
It's deleted now....."
The report user function solves that problem should it arise for me |
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Dont worry mate ive had meet before..i have verifications ive been told my profile is upto scratch and i dont consider myself anything special but im deffinatly not ugly (i hope) but ive still not had a meet with someone new from fab in over 7 months..my messages rarely gets read never mind my profile lol most will deny it but a majority on here take one look at your profile pic and base their decision on that and some will actually read the message, maybe even look at your profile and eventually someone will be interested , took me 5-6 months when i first joined before anyone spoke to me at all and asking for support in chatrooms or on forums used to get you nothing but ridecule if you werent a woman or a couple. Trust me just give it time |
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"Dont worry mate ive had meet before..i have verifications ive been told my profile is upto scratch and i dont consider myself anything special but im deffinatly not ugly (i hope) but ive still not had a meet with someone new from fab in over 7 months..my messages rarely gets read never mind my profile lol most will deny it but a majority on here take one look at your profile pic and base their decision on that and some will actually read the message, maybe even look at your profile and eventually someone will be interested , took me 5-6 months when i first joined before anyone spoke to me at all and asking for support in chatrooms or on forums used to get you nothing but ridecule if you werent a woman or a couple. Trust me just give it time "
Cheers mate. Just wanted to give myself the best possible chance ?? |
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"Nothing wrong with your profile however wouldn't meet as you are too hairy for me 
Yeah I'm like Harambe I gotta admit.
You like your guys waxed?
Not necessarily waxed just smooth "
Each to their own I suppose. Thanks for the feedback tho |
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"Seems a decent enough profile to me but I wouldn't say yes to meeting anyone without a face pic to asses attraction, whilst it isn't all about looks they do matter for the lust aspect especially on a site such as this where there's literally hundreds of men to choose from
don't think a face pic matters if you are pounding from behind lol"
Charming! |
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"Can i ask the same question?
Gives me hope and gets people to look at me at least.
No need to comment either way though but be as harsh as you like
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That's a bit naughty taking over someone's thread but the answers yes |
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"Can i ask the same question?
Gives me hope and gets people to look at me at least.
No need to comment either way though but be as harsh as you like
That's a bit naughty taking over someone's thread but the answers yes "
I decided to be naughty today. Apologies to OP but it saves endless threads on the same subject |
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"Can i ask the same question?
Gives me hope and gets people to look at me at least.
No need to comment either way though but be as harsh as you like
That's a bit naughty taking over someone's thread but the answers yes
I decided to be naughty today. Apologies to OP but it saves endless threads on the same subject "
No worries marra.
Gotta do what you gotta do! |
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"Can i ask the same question?
Gives me hope and gets people to look at me at least.
No need to comment either way though but be as harsh as you like
That's a bit naughty taking over someone's thread but the answers yes
I decided to be naughty today. Apologies to OP but it saves endless threads on the same subject
No worries marra.
Gotta do what you gotta do! "
Good man. Anyway you got the bigger response |
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I like the pics, very much.
The profile isn't the worst I've seen but what would put me off is how unfussy you are.... makes me think "any hole is a goal" and I'd be concerned that you would lack respect for your playmates. |
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"I like the pics, very much.
The profile isn't the worst I've seen but what would put me off is how unfussy you are.... makes me think "any hole is a goal" and I'd be concerned that you would lack respect for your playmates."
Ah right. Is there any part in particular?
I am genuinely attracted to personality more than looks. Obviously there needs to be SOME physical attraction - like I wouldn't really fuck someone morbidly obese or someone who's so skinny they're practically transparent, but I felt putting negativity like that on would reduce my chances...
What dya reckon |
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"I like the pics, very much.
The profile isn't the worst I've seen but what would put me off is how unfussy you are.... makes me think "any hole is a goal" and I'd be concerned that you would lack respect for your playmates.
Ah right. Is there any part in particular?"
I've thought the same thing - not necessarily that you'd be disrespectful but the any hole a goal element. It's the "looks aren't massively important to me" line. You don't need to state what you don't like, or what you don't care about. Stick to saying you're attracted to personalities over looks like you say at the end of your paragraph.
Other than that I'd say two things. One, get better quality pictures of yourself - better lit, all your body in the frame, natural posture, that sort of thing (basically use a timer or get someone to help!). The other, fill in some more details. For example, you say you want to do more BDSM but you don't say what level of experience you have or where you fall in the D/s spectrum. Typically people won't take the time to find out more unless you've intrigued them somehow, so you need to put in enough material (both visually and textually) to hook people in.
As per OP question, I wouldn't consider meeting you off the strengths of your profile but I would off this very thread. So what this says, breathe some of your character in that profile to make it less impersonal. |
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By *anky_PankyWoman
over a year ago
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"Can i ask the same question?
Gives me hope and gets people to look at me at least.
No need to comment either way though but be as harsh as you like
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No, cause you are a cheating wanker with a small dick who is shit in bed!! 
Tut..... |
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The 'height thing'
I used to have a thing about tall guys.... but, I fell totally in love with a 5:7 guy. Not my usual tall type, but omg he had my heart totally.
So I never write off height nowadays if the person is interesting enough.
I guess my age = more open minded for me
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"Can i ask the same question?
Gives me hope and gets people to look at me at least.
No need to comment either way though but be as harsh as you like
No, cause you are a cheating wanker with a small dick who is shit in bed!!
Tut..... "
Ok i'll get in my van and drive off alone into the sunset
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"Seems a decent enough profile to me but I wouldn't say yes to meeting anyone without a face pic to asses attraction, whilst it isn't all about looks they do matter for the lust aspect especially on a site such as this where there's literally hundreds of men to choose from
I do have a face pic in my private pics, but I can't show it publicly because I'd lose my job straight away if word got out
I respect that people have this view and genuinely believe it. But I've yet to see a job where sexual abstinence is a requirement."
I work in HR and believe me, this would influence people in a recruitment situation. I've known social media used (for senior positions) and if there is a sniff of anything deemed 'unsavoury' that could lead to the organisation being associated it's a no no.
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By *anky_PankyWoman
over a year ago
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"Can i ask the same question?
Gives me hope and gets people to look at me at least.
No need to comment either way though but be as harsh as you like
No, cause you are a cheating wanker with a small dick who is shit in bed!!
Tut.....
Ok i'll get in my van and drive off alone into the sunset
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Well you put it on there!!!! And I still met you |
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By *..strawbsNcreamCouple
over a year ago
SO31 Close to the waters edge... dip your toes x |
When I was meeting single guys, (Mrs here), I liked to use the chat rooms to banter and see who's personality stood out for me. Maybe try those with your face cam on if it's not something you're allergic to like so many. Woman will in my opinion, open more to that. Good luck |
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"Can i ask the same question?
Gives me hope and gets people to look at me at least.
No need to comment either way though but be as harsh as you like
No, cause you are a cheating wanker with a small dick who is shit in bed!!
Tut.....
Ok i'll get in my van and drive off alone into the sunset
Well you put it on there!!!! And I still met you "
And every word is true |
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"You sound Okaish and you look Okaish and all else being equal, yes
But I am looking for someone taller and older and I have no idea where Stockton is
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That's you Southerners down to a tee! Always forget us humble northerners 
Thanks tho. You look okaish yaself |
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"You sound Okaish and you look Okaish and all else being equal, yes
But I am looking for someone taller and older and I have no idea where Stockton is
That's you Southerners down to a tee! Always forget us humble northerners
Thanks tho. You look okaish yaself "
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Thanks tho 