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So.. I don't climax through penetration alone. I have on occasion squirted during sex but to achieve full body orgasm I would require a toy. The pearl is the clam so to speak.
From the men I speak to you'd think I was the only one. They also see it as a challenge which I find quite off putting. I didn't ask to be this way, it's just how my body is. It doesn't mean I don't absolutely adore penetration. I'm certainly an active and sometimes vocal partner.
Any other women out there who are similar? Also to the men, how would you feel about that? |
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Lots of women do not orgasm through penetration alone, I don't although I do gush but I would never consider that to be an orgasm and to be honest gushing appears to be more pleasurable for a man ,  |
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Sounds fantastic and i think a lot of women would probably echo what you say regarding penetrative sex.
I just go with the flow and whatever works is great for both parties. |
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I rarely if ever orgasm on a meet... if i do it is unlikely to be from something physical alone. It maybe the watching my partner.. or him watching me or something in the meet that makes me...
Guys always say.. they will make me...and if those words are uttered my off switch has always been totally off.... but i enjoy sex a lot without the end result... and for me i orgasm when i am relaxed and in my comfort zone or feel safe as well as obviously aroused. I find its a control thing for me... and i struggle to give that over in any way in a meet.
I know its hypocritical from me as if a guy told me he wouldn't cum id not meet him as the end product is my pleasure... |
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"So.. I don't climax through penetration alone. I have on occasion squirted during sex but to achieve full body orgasm I would require a toy. The pearl is the clam so to speak.
From the men I speak to you'd think I was the only one. They also see it as a challenge which I find quite off putting. I didn't ask to be this way, it's just how my body is. It doesn't mean I don't absolutely adore penetration. I'm certainly an active and sometimes vocal partner.
Any other women out there who are similar? Also to the men, how would you feel about that? "
I have the same trouble. Like you say though doesn't make penetration any less enjoyable. I find going on top helps, seems to hit "the spot" just right |
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I'm exactly the same.
I love penetrative sex for a while but it doesn't make me orgasm so I can get bored if it goes on too long which is why when a man says he has loads of stamina my heart sinks.
It's all about the tongue and fingers for me   |
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"Lots of women do not orgasm through penetration alone, I don't although I do gush but I would never consider that to be an orgasm and to be honest gushing appears to be more pleasurable for a man , "
So nice to know I'm not alone. I find the pressure to cum so off putting too. I have faked it in the past. If i met someone who just let me be me then I'm sure I wouldn't need to fake it! |
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By (user no longer on site)
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Me too! I've never been able to cum through penetrative sex alone. My clit always needs playing with.
I've never squirted or gushed either, and I don't want to judging by what a friend who does gush, has told me. Besides, I have great orgasms without. |
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"So.. I don't climax through penetration alone. I have on occasion squirted during sex but to achieve full body orgasm I would require a toy. The pearl is the clam so to speak.
From the men I speak to you'd think I was the only one. They also see it as a challenge which I find quite off putting. I didn't ask to be this way, it's just how my body is. It doesn't mean I don't absolutely adore penetration. I'm certainly an active and sometimes vocal partner.
Any other women out there who are similar? Also to the men, how would you feel about that?
I have the same trouble. Like you say though doesn't make penetration any less enjoyable. I find going on top helps, seems to hit "the spot" just right "
Yes! Me on top and him playing with my nips can work wonders! For me the worst thing is if he keeps asking if I've orgasmed yet. Next time that happens I might hop off and grab a vibe and say 'no but I will soon!'   |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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I think some men have the expectation that we will just begin orgasming at the mere sight of their erect member! As wonderful as this would be, it is just not true. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"So.. I don't climax through penetration alone. I have on occasion squirted during sex but to achieve full body orgasm I would require a toy. The pearl is the clam so to speak.
From the men I speak to you'd think I was the only one. They also see it as a challenge which I find quite off putting. I didn't ask to be this way, it's just how my body is. It doesn't mean I don't absolutely adore penetration. I'm certainly an active and sometimes vocal partner.
Any other women out there who are similar? Also to the men, how would you feel about that?
I have the same trouble. Like you say though doesn't make penetration any less enjoyable. I find going on top helps, seems to hit "the spot" just right "
Why do you see it as "the same problem" ? It certainly isn't uncommon for penetration alone to fail to give an orgasm. It's more about the whole "package" of experiences. Sadly there are a lot of guys on here who lack the experience to realise that. Again....too many unrealistic porn films etc.... |
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"I rarely if ever orgasm on a meet... if i do it is unlikely to be from something physical alone. It maybe the watching my partner.. or him watching me or something in the meet that makes me...
Guys always say.. they will make me...and if those words are uttered my off switch has always been totally off.... but i enjoy sex a lot without the end result... and for me i orgasm when i am relaxed and in my comfort zone or feel safe as well as obviously aroused. I find its a control thing for me... and i struggle to give that over in any way in a meet.
I know its hypocritical from me as if a guy told me he wouldn't cum id not meet him as the end product is my pleasure... "
I am exactly the same! |
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"So.. I don't climax through penetration alone. I have on occasion squirted during sex but to achieve full body orgasm I would require a toy. The pearl is the clam so to speak.
From the men I speak to you'd think I was the only one. They also see it as a challenge which I find quite off putting. I didn't ask to be this way, it's just how my body is. It doesn't mean I don't absolutely adore penetration. I'm certainly an active and sometimes vocal partner.
Any other women out there who are similar? Also to the men, how would you feel about that?
I have the same trouble. Like you say though doesn't make penetration any less enjoyable. I find going on top helps, seems to hit "the spot" just right
Why do you see it as "the same problem" ? It certainly isn't uncommon for penetration alone to fail to give an orgasm. It's more about the whole "package" of experiences. Sadly there are a lot of guys on here who lack the experience to realise that. Again....too many unrealistic porn films etc...."
The best lovers I've had were those that put a lot into pleasuring me but had no expectations. Then I was really able to let go. |
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I practically never came through penetration or gushed either till I met Mr A. ...I just thought I was programmed that way...I'm not even sure if it's because the sex is way better....I think it's got something to do with being relaxed and comfortable.....for me anyway x |
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"So.. I don't climax through penetration alone. I have on occasion squirted during sex but to achieve full body orgasm I would require a toy. The pearl is the clam so to speak.
From the men I speak to you'd think I was the only one. They also see it as a challenge which I find quite off putting. I didn't ask to be this way, it's just how my body is. It doesn't mean I don't absolutely adore penetration. I'm certainly an active and sometimes vocal partner.
Any other women out there who are similar? Also to the men, how would you feel about that?
I have the same trouble. Like you say though doesn't make penetration any less enjoyable. I find going on top helps, seems to hit "the spot" just right
Yes! Me on top and him playing with my nips can work wonders! For me the worst thing is if he keeps asking if I've orgasmed yet. Next time that happens I might hop off and grab a vibe and say 'no but I will soon!' "
Ha ha that's brilliant xx |
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I can only comment on my own experiences, but I've found that during play the lady and myself have been so engrossed in the build up of sensual kissing and caressing that everything seems to come (no pun intended, honest) naturally and in the flow of the moment |
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Makes me a bit cranky that society has made women (including myself when I was younger) feel this way about something that is completely normal. How many guys can orgasm with no penile stimulation? Not many I reckon. So why is it so many expect women to cum without clitoral stimulation? Clits and cocks are analogous to each other biologically and work in very similar ways to produce sexual pleasure.
As soon as those particular guys learn that the majority of women don't cum from penetration alone (many studies suggest around 70%) they'd find themselves with a lot more willing and interested partners.
This is exactly why I now say no penetration on meets until I've cum at least once. Life is too short for unsatisfying sex.  |
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I think many woman are the same, I can only cum through penetration if I'm touching my clit at the same time, saying that I've always preferred penetration even without a end result. |
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"Apparently a woman has to teach herself how to reach the heights of orgasm ?
It's all about the rhythm  "
Engage your brain ladies and the rest is sure to follow
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"I rarely if ever orgasm on a meet... if i do it is unlikely to be from something physical alone. It maybe the watching my partner.. or him watching me or something in the meet that makes me...
Guys always say.. they will make me...and if those words are uttered my off switch has always been totally off.... but i enjoy sex a lot without the end result... and for me i orgasm when i am relaxed and in my comfort zone or feel safe as well as obviously aroused. I find its a control thing for me... and i struggle to give that over in any way in a meet.
I know its hypocritical from me as if a guy told me he wouldn't cum id not meet him as the end product is my pleasure... "
I'm exactly the same! |
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"So.. I don't climax through penetration alone. I have on occasion squirted during sex but to achieve full body orgasm I would require a toy. The pearl is the clam so to speak.
From the men I speak to you'd think I was the only one. They also see it as a challenge which I find quite off putting. I didn't ask to be this way, it's just how my body is. It doesn't mean I don't absolutely adore penetration. I'm certainly an active and sometimes vocal partner.
Any other women out there who are similar? Also to the men, how would you feel about that? "
It's completely normal.
It's rarer for women to cum from penetration alone but I guess we may have been faking it for so long we've confused the issue |
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On Lovehoneys facebook page there was an article about surveys which said that not that many women cum when they are having intercourse and that women whos clits were more near the entrance of their vagina were more likely to cum when having intercourse. I can easily orgasm from clit stimulation only once did i nearly cum having intercourse and that was with someone i met recently, although apart from the sex being good we werent realy compatable so i blocked him afterwards. I think most men realise that not all women can cum while having intercourse and that they need clitoral stimulation. It doesnt hurt to fake it though if it makes them feel better. |
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"I'm exactly the same.
I love penetrative sex for a while but it doesn't make me orgasm so I can get bored if it goes on too long which is why when a man says he has loads of stamina my heart sinks.
It's all about the tongue and fingers for me "
I'm the same tongue and fingers, it's the only way I squirt |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I'm exactly the same.
I love penetrative sex for a while but it doesn't make me orgasm so I can get bored if it goes on too long which is why when a man says he has loads of stamina my heart sinks.
It's all about the tongue and fingers for me "
See now this i agree with has a man, i would rather have an hour kissing touching oral stroking and then quick 5 minute penetration just to finish off once, rather than other way round, i aren't one who enjoys pumping away for hours on end |
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"Apparently a woman has to teach herself how to reach the heights of orgasm ?
It's all about the rhythm
Engage your brain ladies and the rest is sure to follow
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Mansplaining at its best. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"So.. I don't climax through penetration alone. I have on occasion squirted during sex but to achieve full body orgasm I would require a toy. The pearl is the clam so to speak.
From the men I speak to you'd think I was the only one. They also see it as a challenge which I find quite off putting. I didn't ask to be this way, it's just how my body is. It doesn't mean I don't absolutely adore penetration. I'm certainly an active and sometimes vocal partner.
Any other women out there who are similar? Also to the men, how would you feel about that?
I have the same trouble. Like you say though doesn't make penetration any less enjoyable. I find going on top helps, seems to hit "the spot" just right
Why do you see it as "the same problem" ? It certainly isn't uncommon for penetration alone to fail to give an orgasm. It's more about the whole "package" of experiences. Sadly there are a lot of guys on here who lack the experience to realise that. Again....too many unrealistic porn films etc...."
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"Apparently a woman has to teach herself how to reach the heights of orgasm ?
It's all about the rhythm
Engage your brain ladies and the rest is sure to follow
Mansplaining at its best. "
I wasn't going to mention it but as you did... |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"So.. I don't climax through penetration alone. I have on occasion squirted during sex but to achieve full body orgasm I would require a toy. The pearl is the clam so to speak.
From the men I speak to you'd think I was the only one. They also see it as a challenge which I find quite off putting. I didn't ask to be this way, it's just how my body is. It doesn't mean I don't absolutely adore penetration. I'm certainly an active and sometimes vocal partner.
Any other women out there who are similar? Also to the men, how would you feel about that?
It's completely normal.
It's rarer for women to cum from penetration alone but I guess we may have been faking it for so long we've confused the issue "
Thought it was too good to be true... way too many fakes on here... |
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MrsMadly does not climax just with penetration and always needs additional stimulation in a way only she can deliver.. That's just how it works and actually it works really well
Initially, it felt like as the man I was failing somewhere but we are all different and I really don't see it as a big deal..
Interestingly info wonder if some women are anxious about intervening whilst making love, for fear they may upset the guy in some sort of way..
I really don't care if a woman needs to do something whilst we have sex, the main thing is she enjoys it.. |
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"I'm exactly the same.
I love penetrative sex for a while but it doesn't make me orgasm so I can get bored if it goes on too long which is why when a man says he has loads of stamina my heart sinks.
It's all about the tongue and fingers for me "
So true!!!! A guy who thinks a big cock and lots of stamina is all he needs to make us come during penetration needs to go back to the drawing board! I much prefer a comfortable sized cock, someone who isn't going to keep going till I'm bored and an open mind to try lots of different things that are more likely to give us an orgasm. Some men are so blinkered in what they think we want!!! X |
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"I'm exactly the same.
I love penetrative sex for a while but it doesn't make me orgasm so I can get bored if it goes on too long which is why when a man says he has loads of stamina my heart sinks.
It's all about the tongue and fingers for me
So true!!!! A guy who thinks a big cock and lots of stamina is all he needs to make us come during penetration needs to go back to the drawing board! I much prefer a comfortable sized cock, someone who isn't going to keep going till I'm bored and an open mind to try lots of different things that are more likely to give us an orgasm. Some men are so blinkered in what they think we want!!! X"
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"I'm exactly the same.
I love penetrative sex for a while but it doesn't make me orgasm so I can get bored if it goes on too long which is why when a man says he has loads of stamina my heart sinks.
It's all about the tongue and fingers for me
So true!!!! A guy who thinks a big cock and lots of stamina is all he needs to make us come during penetration needs to go back to the drawing board! I much prefer a comfortable sized cock, someone who isn't going to keep going till I'm bored and an open mind to try lots of different things that are more likely to give us an orgasm. Some men are so blinkered in what they think we want!!! X"
We could also say some women are blinkered into what's needed during penetration ?
Until a women has tried every bloke on the planet she may never genuinely know herself ? |
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I never and have never had an orgasm from penetrative sex. That said, I now have the most fantastic oral orgasms from my man as he has taken the time to get to know my body and what I like
Kinky |
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"So.. I don't climax through penetration alone. I have on occasion squirted during sex but to achieve full body orgasm I would require a toy. The pearl is the clam so to speak.
From the men I speak to you'd think I was the only one. They also see it as a challenge which I find quite off putting. I didn't ask to be this way, it's just how my body is. It doesn't mean I don't absolutely adore penetration. I'm certainly an active and sometimes vocal partner.
Any other women out there who are similar? Also to the men, how would you feel about that? "
Certainly not alone in my experience and I'm not afford to admit it.
However penetrative sex is only one small part of a very large and extensive whole. |
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"I'm exactly the same.
I love penetrative sex for a while but it doesn't make me orgasm so I can get bored if it goes on too long which is why when a man says he has loads of stamina my heart sinks.
It's all about the tongue and fingers for me
So true!!!! A guy who thinks a big cock and lots of stamina is all he needs to make us come during penetration needs to go back to the drawing board! I much prefer a comfortable sized cock, someone who isn't going to keep going till I'm bored and an open mind to try lots of different things that are more likely to give us an orgasm. Some men are so blinkered in what they think we want!!! X
We could also say some women are blinkered into what's needed during penetration ?
Until a women has tried every bloke on the planet she may never genuinely know herself ? "
You could and your number of potential fucks declines rapidly. |
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"I wonder if women started wearing skirts and no knickers would it aid them being up to climax a lot easier ?
Just a thought
Engage your brains people
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And.. 3....2....1.....0 |
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Surely it's about communication. My ex g/friend only ever came once during penetrative sex and used to finish herself off with an electric toothbrush. My previous one needed oral to achieve it. As long as the guy knows, he doesn't feel 'obliged' to hammer away fearing it's down to his incompetence that she's not shouting for her deity lol.
Of course if you read half the verifications on here most women have had about 10 orgasms before the guy has even got his trousers off... |
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"I'm exactly the same.
I love penetrative sex for a while but it doesn't make me orgasm so I can get bored if it goes on too long which is why when a man says he has loads of stamina my heart sinks.
It's all about the tongue and fingers for me
So true!!!! A guy who thinks a big cock and lots of stamina is all he needs to make us come during penetration needs to go back to the drawing board! I much prefer a comfortable sized cock, someone who isn't going to keep going till I'm bored and an open mind to try lots of different things that are more likely to give us an orgasm. Some men are so blinkered in what they think we want!!! X
We could also say some women are blinkered into what's needed during penetration ?
Until a women has tried every bloke on the planet she may never genuinely know herself ?
You could and your number of potential fucks declines rapidly. "
Quality over quantity ? |
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Frank Zappa summed it up perfectly in his song "Dyna Mo Hum"
"Just get me wasted and I'm half way there, 'cause if my minds tore up, then my body don't care"
Cracking tune too:
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=6lPYjWntLN8 |
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"I'm exactly the same.
I love penetrative sex for a while but it doesn't make me orgasm so I can get bored if it goes on too long which is why when a man says he has loads of stamina my heart sinks.
It's all about the tongue and fingers for me
So true!!!! A guy who thinks a big cock and lots of stamina is all he needs to make us come during penetration needs to go back to the drawing board! I much prefer a comfortable sized cock, someone who isn't going to keep going till I'm bored and an open mind to try lots of different things that are more likely to give us an orgasm. Some men are so blinkered in what they think we want!!! X
We could also say some women are blinkered into what's needed during penetration ?
Until a women has tried every bloke on the planet she may never genuinely know herself ?
You could and your number of potential fucks declines rapidly.
Quality over quantity ? "
I'm sure your hand will be flattered. |
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"Me too! I've never been able to cum through penetrative sex alone. My clit always needs playing with.
I've never squirted or gushed either, and I don't want to judging by what a friend who does gush, has told me. Besides, I have great orgasms without. "
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"So.. I don't climax through penetration alone. I have on occasion squirted during sex but to achieve full body orgasm I would require a toy. The pearl is the clam so to speak.
From the men I speak to you'd think I was the only one. They also see it as a challenge which I find quite off putting. I didn't ask to be this way, it's just how my body is. It doesn't mean I don't absolutely adore penetration. I'm certainly an active and sometimes vocal partner.
Any other women out there who are similar? Also to the men, how would you feel about that? "
Does that mean i'm doing it wrong? I never put my cock in until after the lady has cum... several times if I get my way |
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"So.. I don't climax through penetration alone. I have on occasion squirted during sex but to achieve full body orgasm I would require a toy. The pearl is the clam so to speak.
From the men I speak to you'd think I was the only one. They also see it as a challenge which I find quite off putting. I didn't ask to be this way, it's just how my body is. It doesn't mean I don't absolutely adore penetration. I'm certainly an active and sometimes vocal partner.
Any other women out there who are similar? Also to the men, how would you feel about that?
Does that mean i'm doing it wrong? I never put my cock in until after the lady has cum... several times if I get my way "
The 'woman cums first thing' is a PITA. It puts just as much pressure on a woman as it does on a bloke not to cum. |
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"I'm exactly the same.
I love penetrative sex for a while but it doesn't make me orgasm so I can get bored if it goes on too long which is why when a man says he has loads of stamina my heart sinks.
It's all about the tongue and fingers for me
So true!!!! A guy who thinks a big cock and lots of stamina is all he needs to make us come during penetration needs to go back to the drawing board! I much prefer a comfortable sized cock, someone who isn't going to keep going till I'm bored and an open mind to try lots of different things that are more likely to give us an orgasm. Some men are so blinkered in what they think we want!!! X
We could also say some women are blinkered into what's needed during penetration ?
Until a women has tried every bloke on the planet she may never genuinely know herself ?
You could and your number of potential fucks declines rapidly.
Quality over quantity ?
I'm sure your hand will be flattered. "
My hand, cock and mind all share a connection |
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"So.. I don't climax through penetration alone. I have on occasion squirted during sex but to achieve full body orgasm I would require a toy. The pearl is the clam so to speak.
From the men I speak to you'd think I was the only one. They also see it as a challenge which I find quite off putting. I didn't ask to be this way, it's just how my body is. It doesn't mean I don't absolutely adore penetration. I'm certainly an active and sometimes vocal partner.
Any other women out there who are similar? Also to the men, how would you feel about that?
I have the same trouble. Like you say though doesn't make penetration any less enjoyable. I find going on top helps, seems to hit "the spot" just right
Yes! Me on top and him playing with my nips can work wonders! For me the worst thing is if he keeps asking if I've orgasmed yet. Next time that happens I might hop off and grab a vibe and say 'no but I will soon!' "
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I've only orgasmed once through penetrative sex (without other stimulation). Other women I've spoken to about it in the past, are similar to me in that regard. So you are definitely not alone |
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"Glad to see its not only me. Its very reassuring. I would some day like to experience an orgasm through penetrative sex. I'll just have to keep trying."
This is my thought too. |
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"So.. I don't climax through penetration alone. I have on occasion squirted during sex but to achieve full body orgasm I would require a toy. The pearl is the clam so to speak.
From the men I speak to you'd think I was the only one. They also see it as a challenge which I find quite off putting. I didn't ask to be this way, it's just how my body is. It doesn't mean I don't absolutely adore penetration. I'm certainly an active and sometimes vocal partner.
Any other women out there who are similar? Also to the men, how would you feel about that?
Does that mean i'm doing it wrong? I never put my cock in until after the lady has cum... several times if I get my way
The 'woman cums first thing' is a PITA. It puts just as much pressure on a woman as it does on a bloke not to cum. "
I don't even focus on myself, not that bothered if I do cum. I get far more pleasure from seeing somebody else enjoy what I'm doing to them than I do actual sex. For me it's all about the other person x |
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"I practically never came through penetration or gushed either till I met Mr A. ...I just thought I was programmed that way...I'm not even sure if it's because the sex is way better....I think it's got something to do with being relaxed and comfortable.....for me anyway x"
I agree with this as i have been fortunate to find someone i can achieve it with |
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"I'm exactly the same.
I love penetrative sex for a while but it doesn't make me orgasm so I can get bored if it goes on too long which is why when a man says he has loads of stamina my heart sinks.
It's all about the tongue and fingers for me
So true!!!! A guy who thinks a big cock and lots of stamina is all he needs to make us come during penetration needs to go back to the drawing board! I much prefer a comfortable sized cock, someone who isn't going to keep going till I'm bored and an open mind to try lots of different things that are more likely to give us an orgasm. Some men are so blinkered in what they think we want!!! X
We could also say some women are blinkered into what's needed during penetration ?
Until a women has tried every bloke on the planet she may never genuinely know herself ?
You could and your number of potential fucks declines rapidly.
Quality over quantity ?
I'm sure your hand will be flattered.
My hand, cock and mind all share a connection "
Your cock and mind especially. |
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"I'm exactly the same.
I love penetrative sex for a while but it doesn't make me orgasm so I can get bored if it goes on too long which is why when a man says he has loads of stamina my heart sinks.
It's all about the tongue and fingers for me
So true!!!! A guy who thinks a big cock and lots of stamina is all he needs to make us come during penetration needs to go back to the drawing board! I much prefer a comfortable sized cock, someone who isn't going to keep going till I'm bored and an open mind to try lots of different things that are more likely to give us an orgasm. Some men are so blinkered in what they think we want!!! X
We could also say some women are blinkered into what's needed during penetration ?
Until a women has tried every bloke on the planet she may never genuinely know herself ?
You could and your number of potential fucks declines rapidly.
Quality over quantity ?
I'm sure your hand will be flattered.
My hand, cock and mind all share a connection
Your cock and mind especially. "
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"I'm exactly the same.
I love penetrative sex for a while but it doesn't make me orgasm so I can get bored if it goes on too long which is why when a man says he has loads of stamina my heart sinks.
It's all about the tongue and fingers for me
So true!!!! A guy who thinks a big cock and lots of stamina is all he needs to make us come during penetration needs to go back to the drawing board! I much prefer a comfortable sized cock, someone who isn't going to keep going till I'm bored and an open mind to try lots of different things that are more likely to give us an orgasm. Some men are so blinkered in what they think we want!!! X
We could also say some women are blinkered into what's needed during penetration ?
Until a women has tried every bloke on the planet she may never genuinely know herself ?
You could and your number of potential fucks declines rapidly.
Quality over quantity ?
I'm sure your hand will be flattered.
My hand, cock and mind all share a connection
Your cock and mind especially.
My cock would be usless without my mind "
Without hers it'll be jobless too...get her mind and she's yours....just saying. |
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"I'm exactly the same.
I love penetrative sex for a while but it doesn't make me orgasm so I can get bored if it goes on too long which is why when a man says he has loads of stamina my heart sinks.
It's all about the tongue and fingers for me
So true!!!! A guy who thinks a big cock and lots of stamina is all he needs to make us come during penetration needs to go back to the drawing board! I much prefer a comfortable sized cock, someone who isn't going to keep going till I'm bored and an open mind to try lots of different things that are more likely to give us an orgasm. Some men are so blinkered in what they think we want!!! X
We could also say some women are blinkered into what's needed during penetration ?
Until a women has tried every bloke on the planet she may never genuinely know herself ?
You could and your number of potential fucks declines rapidly.
Quality over quantity ?
I'm sure your hand will be flattered.
My hand, cock and mind all share a connection
Your cock and mind especially.
My cock would be usless without my mind
Without hers it'll be jobless too...get her mind and she's yours....just saying."
Thanks for the advice kind sir |
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"I'm exactly the same.
I love penetrative sex for a while but it doesn't make me orgasm so I can get bored if it goes on too long which is why when a man says he has loads of stamina my heart sinks.
It's all about the tongue and fingers for me
So true!!!! A guy who thinks a big cock and lots of stamina is all he needs to make us come during penetration needs to go back to the drawing board! I much prefer a comfortable sized cock, someone who isn't going to keep going till I'm bored and an open mind to try lots of different things that are more likely to give us an orgasm. Some men are so blinkered in what they think we want!!! X
We could also say some women are blinkered into what's needed during penetration ?
Until a women has tried every bloke on the planet she may never genuinely know herself ?
You could and your number of potential fucks declines rapidly.
Quality over quantity ?
I'm sure your hand will be flattered.
My hand, cock and mind all share a connection
Your cock and mind especially.
My cock would be usless without my mind
Without hers it'll be jobless too...get her mind and she's yours....just saying.
Thanks for the advice kind sir "
It wasn't for you...think you already knew that.. |
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"I'm curious about how many of you women have orgasmed in your sleep ?"
I woke up once having an orgasm, was wierd, I was having a dream about a good session i had had and in my dream I was having an orgasm it woke me up and as I woke I really was having an orgasm 
But back to the question, I have never orgasumed during penatrive sex, but then I don't enjoy it that much so maybe that's why, unless i'm doing a bit of DIY I have only ever cum through a skilled tongue and gentle finger combo, has to be both, fingering alone or a tongue alone won't make me cum
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"I'm exactly the same.
I love penetrative sex for a while but it doesn't make me orgasm so I can get bored if it goes on too long which is why when a man says he has loads of stamina my heart sinks.
It's all about the tongue and fingers for me
So true!!!! A guy who thinks a big cock and lots of stamina is all he needs to make us come during penetration needs to go back to the drawing board! I much prefer a comfortable sized cock, someone who isn't going to keep going till I'm bored and an open mind to try lots of different things that are more likely to give us an orgasm. Some men are so blinkered in what they think we want!!! X
We could also say some women are blinkered into what's needed during penetration ?
Until a women has tried every bloke on the planet she may never genuinely know herself ?
You could and your number of potential fucks declines rapidly.
Quality over quantity ?
I'm sure your hand will be flattered.
My hand, cock and mind all share a connection
Your cock and mind especially.
My cock would be usless without my mind
Without hers it'll be jobless too...get her mind and she's yours....just saying.
Thanks for the advice kind sir
It wasn't for you...think you already knew that.. "
Now im even more confused as i was on the cock picture threads double wammy |
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"I'm curious about how many of you women have orgasmed in your sleep ?
I woke up once having an orgasm, was wierd, I was having a dream about a good session i had had and in my dream I was having an orgasm it woke me up and as I woke I really was having an orgasm
But back to the question, I have never orgasumed during penatrive sex, but then I don't enjoy it that much so maybe that's why, unless i'm doing a bit of DIY I have only ever cum through a skilled tongue and gentle finger combo, has to be both, fingering alone or a tongue alone won't make me cum
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I aint never cum in my sleep, i have however fukd quite a few whilst in the land of nod, but somehow i waken up before the finish 
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"Any man who believes that all women "should" orgasm through penetration alone clearly knows fuck all about female anatomy."
I think for a lot of guys it's more to do with their ego than the knowledge of the female anatomy, some guys just can't accept that there are some woman they can't bring to orgasm
As somebody else has already said a lot see it as a challage |
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"So.. I don't climax through penetration alone. I have on occasion squirted during sex but to achieve full body orgasm I would require a toy. The pearl is the clam so to speak.
From the men I speak to you'd think I was the only one. They also see it as a challenge which I find quite off putting. I didn't ask to be this way, it's just how my body is. It doesn't mean I don't absolutely adore penetration. I'm certainly an active and sometimes vocal partner.
Any other women out there who are similar? Also to the men, how would you feel about that?
I have the same trouble. Like you say though doesn't make penetration any less enjoyable. I find going on top helps, seems to hit "the spot" just right
Yes! Me on top and him playing with my nips can work wonders! For me the worst thing is if he keeps asking if I've orgasmed yet. Next time that happens I might hop off and grab a vibe and say 'no but I will soon!' "
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"I'm curious about how many of you women have orgasmed in your sleep ?
I woke up once having an orgasm, was wierd, I was having a dream about a good session i had had and in my dream I was having an orgasm it woke me up and as I woke I really was having an orgasm
But back to the question, I have never orgasumed during penatrive sex, but then I don't enjoy it that much so maybe that's why, unless i'm doing a bit of DIY I have only ever cum through a skilled tongue and gentle finger combo, has to be both, fingering alone or a tongue alone won't make me cum
I aint never cum in my sleep, i have however fukd quite a few whilst in the land of nod, but somehow i waken up before the finish
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Just read all of this thread, nodding. Until i got to the question about having an orgasm in your sleep.
Ive only ever believed i can orgasm through clit stimulation ( by tongue, fingers or toy)..... ive tried and tried to orgasm without, but i just cant, yet, i have woken several times mid-orgasm, and i can never remember the dream, and im not touching myself, so i guess it is possible, i just havent found out how yet.
im still practicing tho
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"I'm curious about how many of you women have orgasmed in your sleep ?"
Yes I have, usually the result of an erotic dream, and I wake up mid orgasm, its been a while tho!!
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Shows what a bunch of different people we all are.
How many people can orgasm from penetration and toys, ocassionaly by fingers, but NOT from just oral?
And nothing worse than an oral "expert" going hell for leather when there is more chance of winning the lottery lol.
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Met a few ladies who said they couldn't orgasm through penetration alone, but that's what a gentleman's free hand is for.. Gently circling her clitoris with your thumb, or I do find with her permission gently massaging her ass really helps so it's like the sensation of being rimmed. |
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i seem to be the opposite, i need penetration, as my clit alone does not do it for me. i much prefer a guys fingers to be inside me that playing externally and feeling a mans tongue inside me is magic. x |
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"Did you see the article in the guardian about the 3d clitorus? Its pretty interesting, the findings
I didn't but that is interesting...off to google...."
Not seen it either but now im intrigued |
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Just a thought
Engage your brains people
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Never orgasmed from penetrated. Have to have external clitoral stimulus.
The wonderful thing is, we're all very different. If porn addled boys realised we all work differently, everyone would be happy |
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"Did you see the article in the guardian about the 3d clitorus? Its pretty interesting, the findings "
Im going to include that info in my profile..... I have an 8" clitoris ( 7.5 inches is internal)
Bit of a strange read but interesting.
Love the idea of wearing a clit pendent around my neck. What a conversation piece.
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Our first club night was the clubs first Wednesday social got newbies, only six turned up, we sat around the bar chatting & this subject was raised, only H could come through penetrative out of the four women there and & figure of around 70-80% of women can't was the given from some study or other. Based on my own experience i'd say it's somewhere close as a figure..
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"i seem to be the opposite, i need penetration, as my clit alone does not do it for me. i much prefer a guys fingers to be inside me that playing externally and feeling a mans tongue inside me is magic. x"
Me too. I always need something inside me to grip, or I can't cum unless it's a wand or bullet vibrator. |
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"I wonder if women started wearing skirts and no knickers would it aid them being up to climax a lot easier ?
Just a thought
Engage your brains people
Are you serious? Do you ever read the things you post on here? "
Totally serious and of course |
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I love lots of foreplay, fingers, tongue, and toys. So if a woman doesn't come from penetrative sex then that's OK because in all but a very few cases she's had a few orgasms before penetration.
Grinding your pubic bone against her clit while penetrating has the added advantage of stimulating her clit at the same time xx |
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"I've only orgasmed a few of times with penetration only and that's been with a new guy, it's very unusual for me. I like to have a toy to hand and even better a butt plug in place "
I bet "he" did tho hehe |
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"I'm exactly the same.
I love penetrative sex for a while but it doesn't make me orgasm so I can get bored if it goes on too long which is why when a man says he has loads of stamina my heart sinks.
It's all about the tongue and fingers for me "
Exactly the same for me - glad to hear it's not just me |
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"I'm exactly the same.
I love penetrative sex for a while but it doesn't make me orgasm so I can get bored if it goes on too long which is why when a man says he has loads of stamina my heart sinks.
It's all about the tongue and fingers for me
Me too, lots of kissing, touching & teasing mmm
See now this i agree with has a man, i would rather have an hour kissing touching oral stroking and then quick 5 minute penetration just to finish off once, rather than other way round, i aren't one who enjoys pumping away for hours on end"
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As a man I have come across a few women who didn't cum by penetration and occasionally I'd be annoyed with myself because I'd cum and feel I was too quick and couldn't wait for her to cum with me inside them. To get past this I would spend a lot of time with foreplay and do all that I could to make them orgasm. Apart from doing it for the woman I feel it is important for me that a woman orgasms. Don't get me wrong I'm not saying it worked every time but I did make every effort to try to make it happen. My first wife clammed up when she got close to cumming. She wouldn't talk about it and it amongst a lot of other things caused us to break up. I love sex and want a woman to enjoy it too. My second wife after we had been together for a few years and chatting one night about the first night we slept together told me that when she came that night it was the first time a man had made her cum. She had a few relationships where guys did a bit of foreplay and then penetrate her but they didn't take the time with her to make her cum. Before me she would have to play with herself to get past her frustration. It also happened with one other woman I met with. We had been flirting for months and then the opportunity arose and we took it. I made her cum but on that night it was me who didn't get to cum we were almost caught and I had get out in a hurry. She does orgasm from penetration but that was the first night she had cum from someone playing with her clit and pussy. I not an idiot I would never think or say that a woman would cum because of me being there but I give it a damn good try. |
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I woke up once having an orgasm, was wierd, I was having a dream about a good session i had had and in my dream I was having an orgasm it woke me up and as I woke I really was having an orgasm
But back to the question, I have never orgasumed during penatrive sex, but then I don't enjoy it that much so maybe that's why, unless i'm doing a bit of DIY I have only ever cum through a skilled tongue and gentle finger combo, has to be both, fingering alone or a tongue alone won't make me cum
I aint never cum in my sleep, i have however fukd quite a few whilst in the land of nod, but somehow i waken up before the finish
Just read all of this thread, nodding. Until i got to the question about having an orgasm in your sleep.
Ive only ever believed i can orgasm through clit stimulation ( by tongue, fingers or toy)..... ive tried and tried to orgasm without, but i just cant, yet, i have woken several times mid-orgasm, and i can never remember the dream, and im not touching myself, so i guess it is possible, i just havent found out how yet.
im still practicing tho
Sugar x"
I listened to a really interesting documentary on R4 entitled "King of Dreams. It was about "Lucid Dreams" whereby an 19C French Aristocrat Marie-Jean-Léon, Marquis d'Hervey de Saint Denys describes his own experiences of lucid dreaming, and proposes that it is possible for anyone to learn to dream consciously.
Here's the link if anyone likes the sound of it:
http://www.bbc.co.uk/search?q=The%20King%20of%20Dreams&suggid=urn%3Abbc%3Aprogrammes%3Ab07vkf71
If the site blocks the link. Just look up "The King of Dreams" on the BBC iPlayer Radio Site.
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I feel for all you ladies who struggle to cum...
I can cum from penetration alone without clit rubbing although that can speed up the orgasm... I can cum from anal penetration alone. Fastest cum is probably DP. Sounds like i am unusual.... |
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"So.. I don't climax through penetration alone. I have on occasion squirted during sex but to achieve full body orgasm I would require a toy. The pearl is the clam so to speak.
From the men I speak to you'd think I was the only one. They also see it as a challenge which I find quite off putting. I didn't ask to be this way, it's just how my body is. It doesn't mean I don't absolutely adore penetration. I'm certainly an active and sometimes vocal partner.
Any other women out there who are similar? Also to the men, how would you feel about that? "
Jools is exactly the same.
30 year's together and never once cum thru penetrative sex also with non of our meets.
She is very difficult to make cum at times and takes ages.
As you said some see this as a challenge.
It's not its just how it is.
Example takes me ages to cum when being sucked but I have to fight it off when fucking!
We are all different. |
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"I'm exactly the same.
I love penetrative sex for a while but it doesn't make me orgasm so I can get bored if it goes on too long which is why when a man says he has loads of stamina my heart sinks.
It's all about the tongue and fingers for me "
Why are you so far away? |
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all I can say is I love to help a lady cum with my fingers , and love it when she gushes during penetration , this seems to be more common than I thought . happy times |
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I only orgasm with clitoral stimulation. My husband was the only one who made me orgasm from sex for yrs. I only orgasm in missionary with his pelvis rubbing mine. Only 1 other guy on here as cracked it like him. I only usually orgasm with masturbation or being licked. I've only gushed once when my hubby fisted me. It was nice but not the same. All the guys in here r obsessed with me coming and treat it as a battle they have to win. It's a turn off. I love penetration and being fucked n if it happens it happens if not so be it. Try telling me this though. Men! |
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"I feel for all you ladies who struggle to cum...
I can cum from penetration alone without clit rubbing although that can speed up the orgasm... I can cum from anal penetration alone. Fastest cum is probably DP. Sounds like i am unusual.... "
I don't struggle to cum at all, I'm just one of the majority of women who don't cum from penetration alone. |
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Right I'm on a mission to see how many women cum from penetration with me and I think that women on fab are more likely to be honest about it as apposed to previous conquests |
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"Right I'm on a mission to see how many women cum from penetration with me and I think that women on fab are more likely to be honest about it as apposed to previous conquests "
Shall we form a ordally queue or are you having a reversed gang bang get it out the way in one? |
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