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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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I've see a number of references on women's statuses to the large number of messages they receive. One woman said she'd got 50 messages in 2 minutes, another she'd got 480 messages (having been offline for about a day).
Now I guess there are just some popular profiles on here. But I was also chatting to a woman I'm in contact with offline and she said that it's mainly the new women who get a lot of messages.
That actually makes some sense. A lot of guys will have seen established profiles before and already 'had a go'. Men may also think with new women's profiles that they stand more chance 'getting in early'.
So what do women think? Have their messages died off to a manageable level or are they still getting more messages than they can handle. Just interested from an approach point of view. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"My messages slow down if I'm offline for a while, but my inbox goes crazy with a new pic or status!"
This for me too.
I hid my profile last week, as too many horny in the heat messages to add to what KiannaJ said.
Plenty of women with waaay better pics than I have and even I get bombarded! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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When I first signed up I had over 1000 messages in 5 days and I hadn't even posted a photo! This is when I realised that the filters are off as default. So I deleted all the messages and set the filters. Now although I still receieve a fair number of messages it's very managable now. Until (as mentioned above) I put a photo on, status or a meet today then it goes crazy! But I guess it's to be expected.
Maybe the filters should be on as a default for women profiles as it's very intimidating at the type of messages that are received when you first sign up. |
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Mines more manageable as I've got high filters now. Still delete most though as don't read my profile or fit what I'm after. It does get crazy though if I post a pic or meet and I hide my profile quite a lot when I need an escape from it. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I get a lot of messages. My own fault as my filters are lax but thats how I do things.
It goes up the more active I am with pics etc
I set up a profile the other week a blank single female with nothing on the profile just to see what woyld happen.
Cue the 100s of messages calling me gorgeous. On a blank profile...
Men are strange sometimes. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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We're a couple, so probably won't get as many, and we have a lot of filters in place in any case. So we get on average 2 messages per day from new single men. We'll probably do a new meet about twice a year, so even with so few messages, we still end up saying no to most. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I've see a number of references on women's statuses to the large number of messages they receive. One woman said she'd got 50 messages in 2 minutes, another she'd got 480 messages (having been offline for about a day).
Now I guess there are just some popular profiles on here. But I was also chatting to a woman I'm in contact with offline and she said that it's mainly the new women who get a lot of messages.
That actually makes some sense. A lot of guys will have seen established profiles before and already 'had a go'. Men may also think with new women's profiles that they stand more chance 'getting in early'.
So what do women think? Have their messages died off to a manageable level or are they still getting more messages than they can handle. Just interested from an approach point of view."
Hello! Nice to see you on the forums. I don't get a flood of messages but I think it's due to the filters I have put in place  |
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If I'm regularly online, then I'll get 50 - 100 ish messages a day on average - which does include the back and forth messages. As others have said, a new pic, status or just being online at certain times increases this massively. I find it really bizarre given I'm hardly what most people on here are looking for. If I'm offline for a bit, or come on sporadically it will die down massively, to maybe 10-20 in the time I'm offline. Blocking single guys from time to time helps too! |
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I pretty much don't bother sending messages out anymore. Whilst I wouldn't say I have any real self-esteem issues or lack confidence, I am realistic and I know that I am certainly nothing special. That being the case I will only extremely rarely tick all the boxes for someone. If I am ticking those boxes there's a good chance there's hundreds more that are doing the same, statistically that leaves the landscape on here very barren indeed. So naturally I migrate to the forums to generally be a pain in the arse most of the time.  |
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