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By *2Wildwood OP Man
over a year ago
Near Sedgefield |
Is it just me or is this site (and swinging in general) the most frustrating thing ever. I try to be completely open and honest but rarely get replies from women. Is it that people are just fantasists and enjoy the attention? I know I don't have face pics on my profile (for professional reasons) but when I'm comfortable I will send one. I'm not saying I expect a lady to drop her knickers just cos I message her but it's very hard work even getting a reply. If I get a reply saying no thanks or that I'm not what they are looking for I totally accept that. I'm not a psycho who starts having a go. |
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By *uzy444Woman
over a year ago
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"Is it just me or is this site (and swinging in general) the most frustrating thing ever. I try to be completely open and honest but rarely get replies from women. Is it that people are just fantasists and enjoy the attention? I know I don't have face pics on my profile (for professional reasons) but when I'm comfortable I will send one. I'm not saying I expect a lady to drop her knickers just cos I message her but it's very hard work even getting a reply. If I get a reply saying no thanks or that I'm not what they are looking for I totally accept that. I'm not a psycho who starts having a go. "
just because you dont have a face pic as an avatar or in public, doesn't stop you uploading a body shot. it harms you a lot..you are taken as a fake a newbie or just simply a person who it would take too much time to ask pictures from.. silhouette just screams 'leave me alone'..hope this helps..i ahvent looked at your profile because you didnt ask anyone too and i believe its against the rules now to offer profile advice without asking x
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Is it just me or is this site (and swinging in general) the most frustrating thing ever. I try to be completely open and honest but rarely get replies from women. Is it that people are just fantasists and enjoy the attention? I know I don't have face pics on my profile (for professional reasons) but when I'm comfortable I will send one. I'm not saying I expect a lady to drop her knickers just cos I message her but it's very hard work even getting a reply. If I get a reply saying no thanks or that I'm not what they are looking for I totally accept that. I'm not a psycho who starts having a go. "
A deleted message or a no thanks........ same thing  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Many women, will read a profile before reading a message.
Maybe therein lies your problem."
Exactly this. There are literally thousands of single male profiles like that. They don't stand out. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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hello peeps  , I must admit I really feel for this fella as I know the feeling...i was a couple on here before I was a single and it is totally different :-/...I really do take my time to read all the profile and abide by what they are looking for and send the pics they request...but my profile doesnt even get looked at and just deleted :-/....I have herd from friends on here just how rude ALOT of single men are...so when I take the time to make a good impression it is dishearting when you don't even get a "no thank you"......I don't imagine it would be nice if it was the other way round and that's how I always try to look at things in life x if someone has some good advice im more then willing |
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"hello peeps , I must admit I really feel for this fella as I know the feeling...i was a couple on here before I was a single and it is totally different :-/...I really do take my time to read all the profile and abide by what they are looking for and send the pics they request...but my profile doesnt even get looked at and just deleted :-/....I have herd from friends on here just how rude ALOT of single men are...so when I take the time to make a good impression it is dishearting when you don't even get a "no thank you"......I don't imagine it would be nice if it was the other way round and that's how I always try to look at things in life x if someone has some good advice im more then willing "
Your profile does get looked at. Women tend to hide so they don't get the 'you looked, shall we fuck?'.
Your profile doesn't read very well, neither are your pictures especially great. Many women dislike action photos, especially ones where it's difficult to figure out which (if any) you are supposed to be. |
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I don't have my face on show either but offer a range of public pics that show my body and aspects of my personality and play so people have a decent idea whether I'm for them. Im sure you can do this too  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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thank you red angel ...this proves it's good to speak about these things, like I say Iv also been on here for a while as a couple and for some reason it didn't dawn on me women would would also hide that at times so people don't think you want to meet just because you've looked lol....and yes a very good point about pictures...I might 'sign' me on the pics lol...I thought they would be good only because it shows I have had meets so not a newbie or lying about myself if you get me x |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"thank you red angel ...this proves it's good to speak about these things, like I say Iv also been on here for a while as a couple and for some reason it didn't dawn on me women would would also hide that at times so people don't think you want to meet just because you've looked lol....and yes a very good point about pictures...I might 'sign' me on the pics lol...I thought they would be good only because it shows I have had meets so not a newbie or lying about myself if you get me x"
Most women on here will know the majority of men have had sexual encounters but many (not all) don't wish to see pics of you with previous meets, preferring to see the guy whose profile it is but at the end of the day, put the pics you like and work for you. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"???....what do you mean I have no profile and no pictures?? lol im writing from my profile so how is that even possible lol"
I believe they are referring to the OP whose thread it is!! |
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"???....what do you mean I have no profile and no pictures?? lol im writing from my profile so how is that even possible lol
I believe they are referring to the OP whose thread it is!!"
Funnily enough, I was. Epic hijack though. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"???....what do you mean I have no profile and no pictures?? lol im writing from my profile so how is that even possible lol
I believe they are referring to the OP whose thread it is!!
Funnily enough, I was. Epic hijack though."
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OP if i got a message from you i would look at your profile first before reading the message.
The fact you have no pics at all on show and your profile text isn't the slightest bit enticing would lead me to delete your message without reading it.
I receive far too many messages to have time to ask you about yourself to find out if i'm interested. Men need to catch my attention to get a reply.
The most successful single men on fab are those who make an effort.
Good luck and i hope this helps. |
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Hi op,completely agree with other posters.
You need some pics,torso,bum etc so women can see your build /type.
The gangbang status would put me off and there are more contact details then there is information about what you can offer a meet.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Can't prove it, but your most recent veri is dodgy. Wouldn't surprise me if you wrote it under a fake account. I'll ask admin to check the ip addresses.
If I'm wrong, I'll apologise  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Women on here literally get 100 of messages a day. I was on as a single before, and I wouldn't have replied or been interested because you don't show photos and you are not clear in your profile about what you are looking for. Your profile currently sounds like you just want sex and will sleep with anyone. I agree with others that you can add photos that won't identify you, or blank out identifying features like tattoos. Are you looking for any particular experiences? Explain more about what you want, maybe describe what you want a lady to be like or do. Send a face photo with your first message. I have a local business so dont show my face, but will show anyone im chatting to. |
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By *2Wildwood OP Man
over a year ago
Near Sedgefield |
"Can't prove it, but your most recent veri is dodgy. Wouldn't surprise me if you wrote it under a fake account. I'll ask admin to check the ip addresses.
If I'm wrong, I'll apologise "
My veris. Are genuine. This is exactly the kind of comment I'm talking about. I'm genuine and don't have a fake account (what's the point?!) ffs |
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By *2Wildwood OP Man
over a year ago
Near Sedgefield |
"Women on here literally get 100 of messages a day. I was on as a single before, and I wouldn't have replied or been interested because you don't show photos and you are not clear in your profile about what you are looking for. Your profile currently sounds like you just want sex and will sleep with anyone. I agree with others that you can add photos that won't identify you, or blank out identifying features like tattoos. Are you looking for any particular experiences? Explain more about what you want, maybe describe what you want a lady to be like or do. Send a face photo with your first message. I have a local business so dont show my face, but will show anyone im chatting to. "
Points noted. I will be updating my profile and uploading some tactful pics. This is why I posted this thread for feedback. Thanks x |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Can't prove it, but your most recent veri is dodgy. Wouldn't surprise me if you wrote it under a fake account. I'll ask admin to check the ip addresses.
If I'm wrong, I'll apologise
My veris. Are genuine. This is exactly the kind of comment I'm talking about. I'm genuine and don't have a fake account (what's the point?!) ffs "
Yeah just the one veri seems to describe the activity you're looking for. Oh, guess what... hidden profile lol
No other sex meet veris either
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Can't prove it, but your most recent veri is dodgy. Wouldn't surprise me if you wrote it under a fake account. I'll ask admin to check the ip addresses.
If I'm wrong, I'll apologise "
Veris written from the same IP address won't go through. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Can't prove it, but your most recent veri is dodgy. Wouldn't surprise me if you wrote it under a fake account. I'll ask admin to check the ip addresses.
If I'm wrong, I'll apologise
My veris. Are genuine. This is exactly the kind of comment I'm talking about. I'm genuine and don't have a fake account (what's the point?!) ffs
Yeah just the one veri seems to describe the activity you're looking for. Oh, guess what... hidden profile lol
No other sex meet veris either
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Loads of hidden profiles on here, means nothing, & can't verify from same ip between 2 accounts either.....
Facepalm time me thinks |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I think you answered your own question. You said you will only send a face pic when you are comfortable. My question is how do you get to the point of feeling comfortable without chatting for a bit? So the next question is how to you convince a lady or couple to chat to you if they don't know what you look like?
You need to understand that most women and couples have a huge amount of choice when they want to play, and most men send face pics with first message.
Occasionally we get a message saying 'face pics available if interested'. Well what's the chicken and what's the egg? I always think when we get a message like that, 'how do I know if I'm interested if I don't know what they look like?' And as we are not short of fun when we want it, there doesn't seem much point in wasting time on someone who I may not be attracted to when we finally get a face pic. I do understand that some people on the swing scene may be celebrities or politicians and therefore need to be careful as to who they disclose their identity to. But that's not our problem. And that's typically the view of most people on the swing scene. Harsh as it sounds, women and couples don't have time to faf around when most men will send face pics in a timely manner. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Is it just me or is this site (and swinging in general) the most frustrating thing ever. I try to be completely open and honest but rarely get replies from women. Is it that people are just fantasists and enjoy the attention? I know I don't have face pics on my profile (for professional reasons) but when I'm comfortable I will send one. I'm not saying I expect a lady to drop her knickers just cos I message her but it's very hard work even getting a reply. If I get a reply saying no thanks or that I'm not what they are looking for I totally accept that. I'm not a psycho who starts having a go. "
The ratio of men to women is crazy. So Patience is the key. I tend to ignore those with No pic I'm afraid |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Can't prove it, but your most recent veri is dodgy. Wouldn't surprise me if you wrote it under a fake account. I'll ask admin to check the ip addresses.
If I'm wrong, I'll apologise
My veris. Are genuine. This is exactly the kind of comment I'm talking about. I'm genuine and don't have a fake account (what's the point?!) ffs
Yeah just the one veri seems to describe the activity you're looking for. Oh, guess what... hidden profile lol
No other sex meet veris either
Loads of hidden profiles on here, means nothing, & can't verify from same ip between 2 accounts either.....
Facepalm time me thinks "
I don't doubt the OP's veris. The first one is hidden, but lots of people hide their profiles. The second veri is by someone who is extremely well verified. Don't see how that can be faked. Besides you can't set up a fake profile for the purpose of verifying your other profile, because the fake profile would be unverified and therefore not entitled to leave a verification. |
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"???....what do you mean I have no profile and no pictures?? lol im writing from my profile so how is that even possible lol
I believe they are referring to the OP whose thread it is!!
Funnily enough, I was. Epic hijack though."
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Is it just me or is this site (and swinging in general) the most frustrating thing ever. I try to be completely open and honest but rarely get replies from women. Is it that people are just fantasists and enjoy the attention? I know I don't have face pics on my profile (for professional reasons) but when I'm comfortable I will send one. I'm not saying I expect a lady to drop her knickers just cos I message her but it's very hard work even getting a reply. If I get a reply saying no thanks or that I'm not what they are looking for I totally accept that. I'm not a psycho who starts having a go. "
Some are fantasists to be fair |
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