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please help im so upset

By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

What should i do? My partner met another guy of fab last night and shagged him without my knowledge im pissed now prob shouldnt put this on here but really upset

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

reading your profile would never guess you had a partner

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"What should i do? My partner met another guy of fab last night and shagged him without my knowledge im pissed now prob shouldnt put this on here but really upset"

Did she know you were on here?

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"reading your profile would never guess you had a partner"
what does that mean?

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By *iewMan over a year ago
Forum Mod

Angus & Findhorn

Dignity at all costs.

Sort your stuff in private

Good luck

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Um, I thought you were single going by other threads you've started on here?

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By *ynecplCouple over a year ago

Newcastle upon Tyne

Don't think we can really help, only you can sort this out. Talk to your partner and try to decide what if any is the best way forward. Getting d*unk is not going solve the problem.

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"What should i do? My partner met another guy of fab last night and shagged him without my knowledge im pissed now prob shouldnt put this on here but really upset

Did she know you were on here? "
yes bout to set up couples profile on here she on here already met her on here

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I wouldn't worry about it too much, two days ago you were looking for a woman to go to a swingers club with

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"Um, I thought you were single going by other threads you've started on here?

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no i met someone on here we were getting on so well maybe she didnt know the rules but i did tell her she only said yesterday she is falling for me

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By *iewMan over a year ago
Forum Mod

Angus & Findhorn

Now read the update, combined with this thread = Drama

But good luck

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"What should i do? My partner met another guy of fab last night and shagged him without my knowledge im pissed now prob shouldnt put this on here but really upset"

You are listed as single and say you are looking for your "partner in crime" on your profile but read thoroughly from your own text that you're "no angel" but you are gutted your partner shagged somebody else?

Double standards. There is no sympathy at my end. This is Fab, not Facebook.

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"Don't think we can really help, only you can sort this out. Talk to your partner and try to decide what if any is the best way forward. Getting d*unk is not going solve the problem."
ive been on 12 hour night shift thats all ive been thinking about so drink might help me sleep

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

3 days ago you started a thread saying you were single and looking fir a swinging girlfriend. So you've either been with your partner 2 days or she's treated you with the same level of respect you were treating her with. Karma can be a real bitch.

Sorry if that's not overly sympathetic.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Um, I thought you were single going by other threads you've started on here?

no i met someone on here we were getting on so well maybe she didnt know the rules but i did tell her she only said yesterday she is falling for me"

When did you meet this woman?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

loads of people are full of shit on here, especially when it comes to being partners. most will say anything to get what they want.

if you can't put up with her keeping info from you then i'd advise you to dump her now before she really gets into your head and you feel like you can't dump them.

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"What should i do? My partner met another guy of fab last night and shagged him without my knowledge im pissed now prob shouldnt put this on here but really upset

Double standards. There is no sympathy at my end. This is Fab, not Facebook. "
i met her on here two days ago but known her for ages im not being a drama queen just hurts

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

It's called fab swingers as its a swinging site....

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Um, I thought you were single going by other threads you've started on here?

no i met someone on here we were getting on so well maybe she didnt know the rules but i did tell her she only said yesterday she is falling for me"

Are there rules to meeting people on here and what they do unless you are in a full on relationship? I get that it can be easy to connect with people on here and things progress but we are on a Swingers site after all...

It sounds like you need Match, Tinder or POF mate.

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"loads of people are full of shit on here, especially when it comes to being partners. most will say anything to get what they want.

if you can't put up with her keeping info from you then i'd advise you to dump her now before she really gets into your head and you feel like you can't dump them."
thanks for the advice

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By *olden RatioWoman over a year ago

Buckinghamshire

I do sympathise because clearly you're upset, but maybe if you're not happy about having a gf who swings, then a swinging lifestyle isn't for you?

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"I do sympathise because clearly you're upset, but maybe if you're not happy about having a gf who swings, then a swinging lifestyle isn't for you?"
no i love a gf who swings but only with me not behind my back ive had a couple of swinging partners it dont upset me i love it to be honest but behind my back without me knowing the worst thing is i only found out by the verification ive spoken to her and she thinks she has done nothing wrong

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By *osaurus2Man over a year ago

Edinburgh

"I do sympathise because clearly you're upset, but maybe if you're not happy about having a gf who swings, then a swinging lifestyle isn't for you?"

Kindest. Fairest. comment. ever.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"What should i do? My partner met another guy of fab last night and shagged him without my knowledge im pissed now prob shouldnt put this on here but really upset

Double standards. There is no sympathy at my end. This is Fab, not Facebook. i met her on here two days ago but known her for ages im not being a drama queen just hurts"

2 days into meeting someone on here rarely makes for exclusivity - the meet may have already been arranged - all sorts of things - if this is going to be such a trauma for you id re think if swinging is for you

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"Um, I thought you were single going by other threads you've started on here?

no i met someone on here we were getting on so well maybe she didnt know the rules but i did tell her she only said yesterday she is falling for me

It sounds like you need Match, Tinder or POF mate."
no mate i love the lifestyle ive told her she can sleep with anybody just as long as not behind my back ive known her for a while and we get on so well thats why im so upset

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"What should i do? My partner met another guy of fab last night and shagged him without my knowledge im pissed now prob shouldnt put this on here but really upset

Double standards. There is no sympathy at my end. This is Fab, not Facebook. i met her on here two days ago but known her for ages im not being a drama queen just hurts

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

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By *olden RatioWoman over a year ago

Buckinghamshire

Had you both already agreed that you are now a couple, and would only play together? If not, then she is entitled to think she's done nothing wrong. However, if you had made that expectation clear and she had agreed to it, it sounds like this relationship is a non-starter, I'm afraid.

Chin up and all the best.

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"It's called fab swingers as its a swinging site...."
swinging couples only agree to swing with others with partners consent

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

It sounds as if the two of you need to communicate a bit better.

Your "rules" don't seem to be her "rules".

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"loads of people are full of shit on here, especially when it comes to being partners. most will say anything to get what they want.

if you can't put up with her keeping info from you then i'd advise you to dump her now before she really gets into your head and you feel like you can't dump them.

thanks for the advice"

no problem. i really believe people do not change either, they just get better at lying and hiding things.

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

Chin up and all the best."
thanks for the lovely message yes we agreed only in each others company

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"loads of people are full of shit on here, especially when it comes to being partners. most will say anything to get what they want.

if you can't put up with her keeping info from you then i'd advise you to dump her now before she really gets into your head and you feel like you can't dump them.

thanks for the advice

no problem. i really believe people do not change either, they just get better at lying and hiding things."
i think you might be right just having a really tough time at the moment and thennthis happens i really dont need it x

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By *lawless doveWoman over a year ago

bothwell

Sorry the words "attention" and "seeking" are coming to mind. Sounds like a ploy to get someone feeling sorry for you in the hope you can get her into bed to get back at your "partner"

If she has her own profile surely she is entitled to meet who she wants when she wants.

Get over it and move on

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"What should i do? My partner met another guy of fab last night and shagged him without my knowledge im pissed now prob shouldnt put this on here but really upset

Double standards. There is no sympathy at my end. This is Fab, not Facebook. i met her on here two days ago but known her for ages im not being a drama queen just hurts

As far as I'm concerned, unless you're in a loving relationship but ultimately both actively swinging with profiles as singles then there are no exclusive rights.

Shit, we're all looking for something more (I'm sure if most singles found that then they'd question the validity of still playing) and there are no questions about that because we're all different.

Previous comments aside, you've both shot yourselves in the foot. Never take anything deep seriously if there is no change there and then. You love the lifestyle but still actively looking through previous forum posts?

I think you need time out from it all because there this doesn't read well at all. Sorry dude!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Step away from the screen and sort your problems out properly. Can you not just talk to her?

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"What should i do? My partner met another guy of fab last night and shagged him without my knowledge im pissed now prob shouldnt put this on here but really upset

Double standards. There is no sympathy at my end. This is Fab, not Facebook. i met her on here two days ago but known her for ages im not being a drama queen just hurts

As far as I'm concerned, unless you're in a loving relationship but ultimately both actively swinging with profiles as singles then there are no exclusive rights.

Shit, we're all looking for something more (I'm sure if most singles found that then they'd question the validity of still playing) and there are no questions about that because we're all different.

I think you need time out from it all because there this doesn't read well at all. Sorry dude!"
i met her off here here mate bout to set up couples profile the worse thing is we get on so well

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Just a hunch

This isn't going the way you thought it would

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"Sorry the words "attention" and "seeking" are coming to mind. Sounds like a ploy to get someone feeling sorry for you in the hope you can get her into bed to get back at your "partner"

If she has her own profile surely she is entitled to meet who she wants when she wants.

Get over it and move on"
im not attention seeking at all we both got singles profile because we only just agreed to see each other ive known her for ages

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Also what do you actually want people to do? "Please help"?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

2 days? this is brilliant

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By *uzy444Woman over a year ago

in the suffolk countryside

"I do sympathise because clearly you're upset, but maybe if you're not happy about having a gf who swings, then a swinging lifestyle isn't for you?no i love a gf who swings but only with me not behind my back ive had a couple of swinging partners it dont upset me i love it to be honest but behind my back without me knowing the worst thing is i only found out by the verification ive spoken to her and she thinks she has done nothing wrong"
then shes either done it before or will do it again..state your boundaries as a person or this lifestyle will rip you apart. is this lifestyle really for you? is having a GF as well really for you? crossroads and self reflection time, cos the only person you can change in this situation is you, you dont control anyone else...take care x

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By *ELLONS AND CREAMWoman over a year ago

stourbridge area

In a thread you did 3 days ago ... you said you USED to have a girlfriend ....

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Man up! If you and her were both on here then surely it shouldn't come as a surprise. this is just a hunch but I'm guessing it's the woman you met the other day after banging on about how no one wanted to meet you. If so to class her as your partner after a few days Is a bit quick.

So in short, air your dirty laundry in private, stop sulking and grow some bollocks.

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"It sounds as if the two of you need to communicate a bit better.

Your "rules" don't seem to be her "rules".

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i just dont know what to do i really like her people left nasty messages about me i dont give a shit i am a nice guy i deserve better i do anything for anybody just going through a tough time at the moment shouldnt of put anything on a forum but im d*unk and abit emotional im a prat

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"What should i do? My partner met another guy of fab last night and shagged him without my knowledge im pissed now prob shouldnt put this on here but really upset

Double standards. There is no sympathy at my end. This is Fab, not Facebook. i met her on here two days ago but known her for ages im not being a drama queen just hurts"

Not being a drama queen! You sure??

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By *eerobCouple over a year ago

solihull

And op if you had got a meet from your single mans profile would you have seen her behind your new loves back?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Are you even sure you were both on the same page to begin with?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

so you have known her for ages - she joined here as a single fem 2 days ago as opposed to making a couples profile with you - what has changed between you and her in 2 days that has gotten you so wound up -

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"In a thread you did 3 days ago ... you said you USED to have a girlfriend .... "
????

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"so you have known her for ages - she joined here as a single fem 2 days ago as opposed to making a couples profile with you - what has changed between you and her in 2 days that has gotten you so wound up - "
i liked her ages ago always been great together

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"What should i do? My partner met another guy of fab last night and shagged him without my knowledge im pissed now prob shouldnt put this on here but really upset

Double standards. There is no sympathy at my end. This is Fab, not Facebook. i met her on here two days ago but known her for ages im not being a drama queen just hurts

Not being a drama queen! You sure??

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positive how would you feel ffs

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

the clue is in your reply then - you like her - maybe its not reciprocated to the same level - id stay as singles and enjoy it as it was before

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"What should i do? My partner met another guy of fab last night and shagged him without my knowledge im pissed now prob shouldnt put this on here but really upset

Double standards. There is no sympathy at my end. This is Fab, not Facebook. i met her on here two days ago but known her for ages im not being a drama queen just hurts

As far as I'm concerned, unless you're in a loving relationship but ultimately both actively swinging with profiles as singles then there are no exclusive rights.

Shit, we're all looking for something more (I'm sure if most singles found that then they'd question the validity of still playing) and there are no questions about that because we're all different.

I think you need time out from it all because there this doesn't read well at all. Sorry dude!i met her off here here mate bout to set up couples profile the worse thing is we get on so well"

Last post...

We're you an actual couple? No. You'd have deleted both your singles profiles. In theory it looks like you read too much into it.

I get on very well with several previous partners and there is a shared private connection but I have no control over them as they are still listed as singles because they choose to. Freedom of expression regardless if there is a couples profile or not. As it has been pointed out, you were still actively looking in forums only two days ago...

Sorry, but this level of thread makes me want to put CBeebies on... Same thing.

Best of luck whatever happens.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"loads of people are full of shit on here, especially when it comes to being partners. most will say anything to get what they want.

if you can't put up with her keeping info from you then i'd advise you to dump her now before she really gets into your head and you feel like you can't dump them.

thanks for the advice

no problem. i really believe people do not change either, they just get better at lying and hiding things.

i think you might be right just having a really tough time at the moment and thennthis happens i really dont need it x"

you might not be in the right place for a relationship then, i don't mean on fab i mean mentally.

no offence meant but people need to have their shit together to be the best partner they can be, unless there's some kind of dynamic going on where one is the supportive partner and the other is dependent.

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By *ivemeyoursoulWoman over a year ago

Easter just around the corner!

You're not both on the same wave length are you,it's not a great start for a relationship. Suppose it depends on how much you like her as to whether you stick around.

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By *ackDMissMorganCouple over a year ago

Halifax

Chin up and all the best."

Wise words

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I posted on your thread two days ago. You told me on there you had never met her and I joked that I needed to buy a hat cos you were calling her your GF but never met. I doubt this woman has done anything wrong other than be a swinger. WOW! unnecessary drama!!

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By *lawless doveWoman over a year ago

bothwell

"Sorry the words "attention" and "seeking" are coming to mind. Sounds like a ploy to get someone feeling sorry for you in the hope you can get her into bed to get back at your "partner"

If she has her own profile surely she is entitled to meet who she wants when she wants.

Get over it and move onim not attention seeking at all we both got singles profile because we only just agreed to see each other ive known her for ages "

You met for the 1st?? Time 2 days ago and instantly agreed to become exclusive. Eh don't think so. I maintain this whole thread is you looking for a sympathy meet. I'm really starting to think this partner of yours is really a figment of your imagination caused by lack of sleep due to your 12 hours night shift and alcohol. When did you first meet her Thursday Or Friday?

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

the clue is in your reply then - you like her - maybe its not reciprocated to the same level - id stay as singles and enjoy it as it was before "
she only told me yesterday how much she wants me she told me alot of her darkest secrets and i trusted her to tell her mine and then this happens

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Im a little confused but ill try and give my opinion it seems to me 1 of 2 situations has arisen

1. You became exclusive 2 days ago and she has already broken that trust and gone behind your back. My advise move on she cant be trusted your wasting your time once a cheat always a cheat in my book

2. She didnt realise you were exclusive and has met someone else but is planning a relationship with you. My advise communicate better about what you want from the relationship what your expectations of each other are and forget this fling we all make errors in judgement

Either way only you know what you want and what you are willing to deal with but if your going to be a swinging couple communication is key me and the wife have said from the start "never a thought that isnt spoken our marraige and family are no 1 priority everytime this is just fun"

Good luck pal

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Close thread, thanks.

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"Sorry the words "attention" and "seeking" are coming to mind. Sounds like a ploy to get someone feeling sorry for you in the hope you can get her into bed to get back at your "partner"

If she has her own profile surely she is entitled to meet who she wants when she wants.

Get over it and move onim not attention seeking at all we both got singles profile because we only just agreed to see each other ive known her for ages

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Does anyone want to be my girlfriend?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Don't drink and post people

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I posted on your thread two days ago. You told me on there you had never met her and I joked that I needed to buy a hat cos you were calling her your GF but never met. I doubt this woman has done anything wrong other than be a swinger. WOW! unnecessary drama!!"
You said you wanted a swinging girlfriend ,you met off a swinging site wheres the problem

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

The proof is in the pudding. Now can I call you my girlfriend even though I've never met you???

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I can get your pain but I don't agree that swinging couples just swing together with consent, they often swing with others separately also An actual couple to me is married or living together anyway.. If it's causing you pain then step away from the relationship, it's only going to cause you more pain if you continue.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

You seem like a male bunny boiler, she's having fun let her have hers and you have yours....too much drama for a Sunday morning.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Does anyone want to be my girlfriend?"

Can I fuck other guys?? And girls???

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By *eerobCouple over a year ago

solihull

Op have ypu given up ypur swinging for her??

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Does anyone want to be my girlfriend?

Can I fuck other guys?? And girls??? "

No you must be faithful and true to me even though we've never met

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I m a really nice guy no seriously I m really nice , I help old ladies cross the road and give all my disposable income to charity .Can I have a shag please ?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"It sounds as if the two of you need to communicate a bit better.

Your "rules" don't seem to be her "rules".

i just dont know what to do i really like her people left nasty messages about me i dont give a shit i am a nice guy i deserve better i do anything for anybody just going through a tough time at the moment shouldnt of put anything on a forum but im d*unk and abit emotional im a prat"

If people have sent you abusive messages on here then report them.

But no, I don't think starting a thread was the best thing especially in your state of mind.

Log out of Fab and go to sleep for a few hours.

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"Im a little confused but ill try and give my opinion it seems to me 1 of 2 situations has arisen

1. You became exclusive 2 days ago and she has already broken that trust and gone behind your back. My advise move on she cant be trusted your wasting your time once a cheat always a cheat in my book

Good luck pal

Mr "
wow your so right but it might be a combination of 1 and 2 i hope it is but thanks for sending such a educated reply someone nice for a change

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Does anyone want to be my girlfriend?

Can I fuck other guys?? And girls???

No you must be faithful and true to me even though we've never met

Hey I thought I was your GF we exchanged 2 messages FFS, what you doing getting another one!! Lol xxx

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By *urvymamaWoman over a year ago

Doncaster

Best advice I can give you OP

Is walk away from the computer until you've sobered up

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"It sounds as if the two of you need to communicate a bit better.

Your "rules" don't seem to be her "rules".

If people have sent you abusive messages on here then report them.

But no, I don't think starting a thread was the best thing especially in your state of mind.

Log out of Fab and go to sleep for a few hours. "
ive got half bottle of wine left then i will but thanks im a dick for putting that on thread just bit low babe x

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By *ncutgemMan over a year ago

Bath ish

"What should i do? My partner met another guy of fab last night and shagged him without my knowledge im pissed now prob shouldnt put this on here but really upset"

thought thats how swinging works talk to her start meeting as a couple - or your now officially cuckold

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Does anyone want to be my girlfriend?"

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"Does anyone want to be my girlfriend?

Can I fuck other guys?? And girls???

No you must be faithful and true to me even though we've never met

Hey I thought I was your GF we exchanged 2 messages FFS, what you doing getting another one!! Lol xxx"
lol sorry haha i met another one who ive known for ages sorry lol xx

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Does anyone want to be my girlfriend?

Can I fuck other guys?? And girls??? "
but i might cry?

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By *lawless doveWoman over a year ago

bothwell

"Sorry the words "attention" and "seeking" are coming to mind. Sounds like a ploy to get someone feeling sorry for you in the hope you can get her into bed to get back at your "partner"

If she has her own profile surely she is entitled to meet who she wants when she wants.

Get over it and move onim not attention seeking at all we both got singles profile because we only just agreed to see each other ive known her for ages

Deserve what a bit of honesty. You post a woe is me message asking for help but won't accept when people start to question you about the situation. Think it's time you faced reality

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Does anyone want to be my girlfriend?

Can I fuck other guys?? And girls???

No you must be faithful and true to me even though we've never met

Hey I thought I was your GF we exchanged 2 messages FFS, what you doing getting another one!! Lol xxx"

2 messages was it? I was getting ready to propose after them!!!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Does anyone want to be my girlfriend?

Are we a "thing" now then?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

You guys should all be nicer to the OP ... Im actually starting to believe his profile now when it says he is an ace murderer

#iveseenmisery

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"I m a really nice guy no seriously I m really nice , I help old ladies cross the road and give all my disposable income to charity .Can I have a shag please ?

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whatever no need for that

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I m a really nice guy no seriously I m really nice , I help old ladies cross the road and give all my disposable income to charity .Can I have a shag please ?

I gave my change to a homeless dude the other day in Halesowen. I even held a door open for him so he could go and get a cuppa and talked with him for 15 minutes - I still didn't ask him for a hand job.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Does anyone want to be my girlfriend?

Are we a "thing" now then?"

Only if you bring strawberry treat to our first meet ... And 2 haribo rings ... I want a 3 way wedding

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"Sorry the words "attention" and "seeking" are coming to mind. Sounds like a ploy to get someone feeling sorry for you in the hope you can get her into bed to get back at your "partner"

If she has her own profile surely she is entitled to meet who she wants when she wants.

Get over it and move onim not attention seeking at all we both got singles profile because we only just agreed to see each other ive known her for ages

Deserve what a bit of honesty. You post a woe is me message asking for help but won't accept when people start to question you about the situation. Think it's time you faced reality "
im getting abuse yet im the one whose getting hurt im not a bad guy wht do i deserve this apart from putting this thread up when not thinking straight and the odd glass of wine well im sorry for that

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Does anyone want to be my girlfriend?

Can I fuck other guys?? And girls??? but i might cry?"

That's ok. Just start a thread about it lol.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Its those around you who decide if you re a nice guy !

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"You guys should all be nicer to the OP ... Im actually starting to believe his profile now when it says he is an ace murderer

#iveseenmisery"

*axe ... Dammit!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I m a really nice guy no seriously I m really nice , I help old ladies cross the road and give all my disposable income to charity .Can I have a shag please ?

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You must be a nice guy

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"You guys should all be nicer to the OP ... Im actually starting to believe his profile now when it says he is an ace murderer

#iveseenmisery

*axe ... Dammit! "

But he'd need to be an ace murderer to kill someone with an axe, them things aren't the most accurate to whirl around

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By *ncutgemMan over a year ago

Bath ish

"What should i do? My partner met another guy of fab last night and shagged him without my knowledge im pissed now prob shouldnt put this on here but really upset

thought thats how swinging works talk to her start meeting as a couple - or your now officially cuckold"

the point i was making is talking to her this shouldnt be about upsetting annyone

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"I m a really nice guy no seriously I m really nice , I help old ladies cross the road and give all my disposable income to charity .Can I have a shag please ?

You must be a nice guy

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ok im fuckin horrible then if that makes you better wtf why so nasty all i was after was some advice yes matbe i shouldnt of but i did so why am i getting this shit have i ever upset you no i fucking havnt so thanks for that you have made me so much better

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I m a really nice guy no seriously I m really nice , I help old ladies cross the road and give all my disposable income to charity .Can I have a shag please ?

You must be a nice guy

All I got was a smile and a "Bostin mate"... I don't like to push things as the rejection would have been too much to take

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I m a really nice guy no seriously I m really nice , I help old ladies cross the road and give all my disposable income to charity .Can I have a shag please ?

You must be a nice guy

Op go to bed and sleep it off better still, ask admin to remove this whole thread as I'm fairly certain you will regret it when the wine wears off.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I m a really nice guy no seriously I m really nice , I help old ladies cross the road and give all my disposable income to charity .Can I have a shag please ?

You must be a nice guy

ok im fuckin horrible then if that makes you better wtf why so nasty all i was after was some advice yes matbe i shouldnt of but i did so why am i getting this shit have i ever upset you no i fucking havnt so thanks for that you have made me so much better "
You ve received good advice on here now the bottom line is only you can sort this problem for yourself ,get some sleep then go and talk to the lady simples

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By *ordonBennettMan over a year ago

dover

"I m a really nice guy no seriously I m really nice , I help old ladies cross the road and give all my disposable income to charity .Can I have a shag please ?

You must be a nice guy

Op go to bed and sleep it off better still, ask admin to remove this whole thread as I'm fairly certain you will regret it when the wine wears off."

I agree.

This is just embarrassing now

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I m a really nice guy no seriously I m really nice , I help old ladies cross the road and give all my disposable income to charity .Can I have a shag please ?

You must be a nice guy

Do yourself a favour and just log off. The post was all woe is me from the off and just after a sympathy shag. Better still if you can't take the criticism of your exploits, don't post.....simple! I think you've proved everyone in this thread your are under mad as your profile states. No one in their right mind would have a partner 48 hours after meeting. Do yourself another favour and just forget fab, it's clearly not for you. Goodbye

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Sorry the words "attention" and "seeking" are coming to mind. Sounds like a ploy to get someone feeling sorry for you in the hope you can get her into bed to get back at your "partner"

If she has her own profile surely she is entitled to meet who she wants when she wants.

Get over it and move onim not attention seeking at all we both got singles profile because we only just agreed to see each other ive known her for ages

Deserve what a bit of honesty. You post a woe is me message asking for help but won't accept when people start to question you about the situation. Think it's time you faced reality im getting abuse yet im the one whose getting hurt im not a bad guy wht do i deserve this apart from putting this thread up when not thinking straight and the odd glass of wine well im sorry for that"

Sorry you are having a rough time and are feeling hurt. Love is painful aswell as pleasurable! I personally have some very deep feelings for a fellow fab friend and sometimes his swinging decisions cause me distress and hurt but I accept that they are part of the wonderful kaleidoscope of this lifestyle and his personality so I endure it. Plus.....he is worth it! I also realise that sometimes my swinging decisions cause him some hurt and distress. Luckily we have talked about this and other aspects of the swinging lifestyle and have found a way through. Maybe if you talk to her about your feelings, desires and hopes.…..all the best x x x

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"I m a really nice guy no seriously I m really nice , I help old ladies cross the road and give all my disposable income to charity .Can I have a shag please ?

You must be a nice guy

Op go to bed and sleep it off better still, ask admin to remove this whole thread as I'm fairly certain you will regret it when the wine wears off."
i am i didnt think but so many horrible people why? I wouldnt hurt a fly

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By *uckandbunnyCouple over a year ago

In your bed

Maybe she was upset that you were planning on going to a gangbang less than 24hrs ago.

https://m.fabswingers.com/forum/meets/544621

As for the 'rules'

I'm not sure she would have said I want to be exclusive after 2 days and then go fuck someone else. If she did then she has broken your trust but when we got together I did not expect exclusivity after 2 days and we knew each other much longer than 2 days before we got together.

Just reads as very inconsistent this thread, also you found out by her verification. So she verified this other chap, but did not deem to do the same for you her potential boyfriend??

All in all it just does not sound right. But like I say if it's real she either had no idea there were any rules or has told you she wants to be exclusive and gone back on that within 48 hrs.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I m a really nice guy no seriously I m really nice , I help old ladies cross the road and give all my disposable income to charity .Can I have a shag please ?

You must be a nice guy

Welcome to a publicly open forum where anyone can post and that is searchable by Google. If you didn't want anyone to comment then you wouldn't have posted anything.

If making lighthearted comment of the situation via a public forum affecting you that deeply despite you being d*unk and several of your posts contradicting themselves?

I think you need to stop drinking and go to bed instead of creating more drama. Just an observation.

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By *reygorCouple over a year ago

birmingham

"What should i do? My partner met another guy of fab last night and shagged him without my knowledge im pissed now prob shouldnt put this on here but really upset"
welcome to fab just get her to tell you what happened [in detail ]and you will have great sex all day .then get her to do it agian next week.

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"Sorry the words "attention" and "seeking" are coming to mind. Sounds like a ploy to get someone feeling sorry for you in the hope you can get her into bed to get back at your "partner"

If she has her own profile surely she is entitled to meet who she wants when she wants.

Get over it and move onim not attention seeking at all we both got singles profile because we only just agreed to see each other ive known her for ages

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I m a really nice guy no seriously I m really nice , I help old ladies cross the road and give all my disposable income to charity .Can I have a shag please ?

You must be a nice guy

Op go to bed and sleep it off better still, ask admin to remove this whole thread as I'm fairly certain you will regret it when the wine wears off.i am i didnt think but so many horrible people why? I wouldnt hurt a fly "

don't take it personally, it's them and not you.

many people are here to escape feelings, or even have none, and can't handle them so joking about it is the only way they can deal with things like this.

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By *rs DCouple over a year ago

far

"loads of people are full of shit on here, especially when it comes to being partners. most will say anything to get what they want.

if you can't put up with her keeping info from you then i'd advise you to dump her now before she really gets into your head and you feel like you can't dump them."

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

No one has implied that you are a psychotic animal killer but self pity posts never go down well. No one knows the full facts and every one has options and perspectives.

It's life and you will never get all to agree

Now off to bed after to message admin

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Right then OP and fellow Forumites, let's all calm down for five minutes and play nicely in the ball pit.

OP. In short, something has been misaligned between your expectations, your communication of these with the lady in question and her understanding and agreement or otherwise of the same. This cannot be sorted out by a bunch of strangers, just you two.

Don't finish your bottle of wine. Go and have a hot shower and stop typing whilst semi pissed, it's a stupid idea. Miss Innocent up there speaketh sense.

On a similar matter, for the love of all that is holy, don't try to 'resolve' the mis-communication with the lady in question until you are sober.

Please take down the wailing woe is me status, if she sees it she won't feel sympathy, she will likely be annoyed, embarrassed and weirded out by it.

Fellow Forumites, yes he's contradicted himself a thousand times, no he doesn't seem to have realistic expectations and quite possibly is trying to play on a website that does not and never will suit him. However, he's likely tired from work and is half way down a bottle of wine when many of us haven't made it to our second Sunday cuppa. Let's leave him alone to hit the duvet and hopefully come back saner than he currently is.

Snogaroos.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Dignity at all costs.

Sort your stuff in private

Good luck

What they said

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"I m a really nice guy no seriously I m really nice , I help old ladies cross the road and give all my disposable income to charity .Can I have a shag please ?

You must be a nice guy

don't take it personally, it's them and not you.

many people are here to escape feelings, or even have none, and can't handle them so joking about it is the only way they can deal with things like this."
thankyou i know but my fault shouldnt put thread up just bit desperate to be honest just feeling dead low bit emotional maybe the wine x

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By *he Devils Daughter!Woman over a year ago

some where in yorkshire

"2 days? this is brilliant "

Lol

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By *iss_tressWoman over a year ago

London

"reading your profile would never guess you had a partner"

My thoughts exactly!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Go and have a sleep, and step away from the wine. They say it takes the same length of time as a relationship lasted to get over it. You'll be right as rain on Tuesday.

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By *iewMan over a year ago
Forum Mod

Angus & Findhorn

Clear your status

Get some kip

Then some fresh air

Some food

The situation may seem clearer, then communicate with her

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By *opsy RogersWoman over a year ago

London

"2 days? this is brilliant "

...and he told her what she can and can't do.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I do sympathise because clearly you're upset, but maybe if you're not happy about having a gf who swings, then a swinging lifestyle isn't for you?

Kindest. Fairest. comment. ever."

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"Right then OP and fellow Forumites, let's all calm down for five minutes and play nicely in the ball pit.

Don't finish your bottle of wine. Go and have a hot shower and stop typing whilst semi pissed, it's a stupid idea. Miss Innocent up there speaketh sense.

On a similar matter, for the love of all that is holy, don't try to 'resolve' the mis-communication with the lady in question until you are sober.

Please take down the wailing woe is me status, if she sees it she won't feel sympathy, she will likely be annoyed, embarrassed and weirded out by it.

Snogaroos. "
thanks lol a great post but wrong bout some things ive been a member on and off for a few years had great times

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"What should i do? My partner met another guy of fab last night and shagged him without my knowledge im pissed now prob shouldnt put this on here but really upset

Double standards. There is no sympathy at my end. This is Fab, not Facebook. i met her on here two days ago but known her for ages im not being a drama queen just hurts"
sorry but she isn't ur partner if u met her on here 2 days ago .man up llf.

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"2 days? this is brilliant

...and he told her what she can and can't do."
no we both talked not just me

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

She sounds fun. What's her profile name

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By *iss_tressWoman over a year ago

London

"What should i do? My partner met another guy of fab last night and shagged him without my knowledge im pissed now prob shouldnt put this on here but really upset

Double standards. There is no sympathy at my end. This is Fab, not Facebook. "

Drama queen

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By *trawberry-popWoman over a year ago

South East Midlands NOT

"What should i do? My partner met another guy of fab last night and shagged him without my knowledge im pissed now prob shouldnt put this on here but really upset

Double standards. There is no sympathy at my end. This is Fab, not Facebook. i met her on here two days ago but known her for ages im not being a drama queen just hurts

As far as I'm concerned, unless you're in a loving relationship but ultimately both actively swinging with profiles as singles then there are no exclusive rights.

Shit, we're all looking for something more (I'm sure if most singles found that then they'd question the validity of still playing) and there are no questions about that because we're all different.

I think you need time out from it all because there this doesn't read well at all. Sorry dude!i met her off here here mate bout to set up couples profile the worse thing is we get on so well"

You make no sense...you've known her for years but you met 2 days ago on here...

Sorry, I call bullshit.

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By *iss_tressWoman over a year ago

London

"3 days ago you started a thread saying you were single and looking fir a swinging girlfriend. So you've either been with your partner 2 days or she's treated you with the same level of respect you were treating her with. Karma can be a real bitch."

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By *arry247Couple over a year ago

Wakefield

"It's called fab swingers as its a swinging site....swinging couples only agree to swing with others with partners consent "

Some do some don't it depends on the couple.

Do you always tell her before you meet another woman?

You say you met her on here, did you both agree not to meet others without informing each other first?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"What should i do? My partner met another guy of fab last night and shagged him without my knowledge im pissed now prob shouldnt put this on here but really upset

Did she know you were on here? yes bout to set up couples profile on here she on here already met her on here"

Guess what....its a swingers site. That means people meet other people. They have sex. Isn't that the whole point....Its why you are here, it's why she is here, it's how you met!

I don't see any problem here, nor, I suspect, will you once you are sober!

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"What should i do? My partner met another guy of fab last night and shagged him without my knowledge im pissed now prob shouldnt put this on here but really upset

Double standards. There is no sympathy at my end. This is Fab, not Facebook. i met her on here two days ago but known her for ages im not being a drama queen just hurts

As far as I'm concerned, unless you're in a loving relationship but ultimately both actively swinging with profiles as singles then there are no exclusive rights.

Shit, we're all looking for something more (I'm sure if most singles found that then they'd question the validity of still playing) and there are no questions about that because we're all different.

I think you need time out from it all because there this doesn't read well at all. Sorry dude!i met her off here here mate bout to set up couples profile the worse thing is we get on so well

You make no sense...you've known her for years but you met 2 days ago on here...

Sorry, I call bullshit. "
why we were great friends but lost contact wtf

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By *estivalMan over a year ago

borehamwood

"She sounds fun. What's her profile name

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I can see this ending up on Jeremy Kyle

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By *iss_tressWoman over a year ago

London

"Sorry the words "attention" and "seeking" are coming to mind. Sounds like a ploy to get someone feeling sorry for you in the hope you can get her into bed to get back at your "partner"

If she has her own profile surely she is entitled to meet who she wants when she wants.

Get over it and move on"

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I can see this ending up on Jeremy Kyle "

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By *odareyouMan over a year ago

not far from iceland,,,,,, tescos is nearer though :-) (near leeds)

Hi I'm a producer from jezza Kyle's show... This sounds perfect for our show...

I can offer you and your girlfriend lie detector tests and loads of shouting ..along with gasps as we reveal your secret daliences with other women..

please apply asap..

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"What should i do? My partner met another guy of fab last night and shagged him without my knowledge im pissed now prob shouldnt put this on here but really upset

Did she know you were on here? yes bout to set up couples profile on here she on here already met her on here

Guess what....its a swingers site. That means people meet other people. They have sex. Isn't that the whole point....Its why you are here, it's why she is here, it's how you met!

I don't see any problem here, nor, I suspect, will you once you are sober!"
just imagine your partner did it

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"What should i do? My partner met another guy of fab last night and shagged him without my knowledge im pissed now prob shouldnt put this on here but really upset

Did she know you were on here? yes bout to set up couples profile on here she on here already met her on here

Guess what....its a swingers site. That means people meet other people. They have sex. Isn't that the whole point....Its why you are here, it's why she is here, it's how you met!

I don't see any problem here, nor, I suspect, will you once you are sober!just imagine your partner did it "

Im confused... have you met????

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By *iss_tressWoman over a year ago

London

"What should i do? My partner met another guy of fab last night and shagged him without my knowledge im pissed now prob shouldnt put this on here but really upset

Double standards. There is no sympathy at my end. This is Fab, not Facebook. i met her on here two days ago but known her for ages im not being a drama queen just hurts

As far as I'm concerned, unless you're in a loving relationship but ultimately both actively swinging with profiles as singles then there are no exclusive rights.

Shit, we're all looking for something more (I'm sure if most singles found that then they'd question the validity of still playing) and there are no questions about that because we're all different.

I think you need time out from it all because there this doesn't read well at all. Sorry dude!i met her off here here mate bout to set up couples profile the worse thing is we get on so well"

You say you met her on here then state she joined two days ago and got a meet verification.

As I thought, attention seeking.

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By *odareyouMan over a year ago

not far from iceland,,,,,, tescos is nearer though :-) (near leeds)

"I can see this ending up on Jeremy Kyle "

Bugger ..one of the other producers beat me to it ..

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

You've known her for years, yet u met her for the first time 2 days ago?? In my book that ain't knowing someone I'm afraid!

And calling it a relationship after 2 days is also a bit unrealistic.

If this is all genuine and not just you being dramatic, my advice would be to just put this down to miscommunication and have an honest chat about what both of you want.

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By *ouple in LancashireCouple over a year ago

in Lancashire

"She sounds fun. What's her profile name

Just waiting for the verification now..

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By *opsy RogersWoman over a year ago

London

"2 days? this is brilliant

...and he told her what she can and can't do.no we both talked not just me"

Nip, that's not what you said earlier.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I can see this ending up on Jeremy Kyle

Bugger ..one of the other producers beat me to it ..

I get the commission

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By *ivemeyoursoulWoman over a year ago

Easter just around the corner!

Anyway,what is her version of events then?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

If this girl is genuine on Fabs what's her name then??

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By *uckandbunnyCouple over a year ago

In your bed

"What should i do? My partner met another guy of fab last night and shagged him without my knowledge im pissed now prob shouldnt put this on here but really upset

Double standards. There is no sympathy at my end. This is Fab, not Facebook. i met her on here two days ago but known her for ages im not being a drama queen just hurts

As far as I'm concerned, unless you're in a loving relationship but ultimately both actively swinging with profiles as singles then there are no exclusive rights.

Shit, we're all looking for something more (I'm sure if most singles found that then they'd question the validity of still playing) and there are no questions about that because we're all different.

I think you need time out from it all because there this doesn't read well at all. Sorry dude!i met her off here here mate bout to set up couples profile the worse thing is we get on so well

You say you met her on here then state she joined two days ago and got a meet verification.

As I thought, attention seeking.

Very inconsistent and he was wanting in on a gangbang less than 24 hrs ago.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

You say you met her on here then state she joined two days ago and got a meet verification.

As I thought, attention seeking.

Bugger missed that bit!

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By *uckandbunnyCouple over a year ago

In your bed

"If this girl is genuine on Fabs what's her name then?? "

Can't out people on forums.

She verified the other fella though.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Well that was a nice bit of drama to accompany my coffee

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I m beginning to appear tame

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

She hasn't.

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By *urvymamaWoman over a year ago

Doncaster

"What should i do? My partner met another guy of fab last night and shagged him without my knowledge im pissed now prob shouldnt put this on here but really upset

Double standards. There is no sympathy at my end. This is Fab, not Facebook. i met her on here two days ago but known her for ages im not being a drama queen just hurts

As far as I'm concerned, unless you're in a loving relationship but ultimately both actively swinging with profiles as singles then there are no exclusive rights.

Shit, we're all looking for something more (I'm sure if most singles found that then they'd question the validity of still playing) and there are no questions about that because we're all different.

I think you need time out from it all because there this doesn't read well at all. Sorry dude!i met her off here here mate bout to set up couples profile the worse thing is we get on so well

You say you met her on here then state she joined two days ago and got a meet verification.

As I thought, attention seeking.

Very inconsistent and he was wanting in on a gangbang less than 24 hrs ago.

Yes and attending said gangbang would have breached the terms of their "relationship" which is what he's so upset about her doing I'm guessing it's one rule for her and another for him

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"If this girl is genuine on Fabs what's her name then??

Can't out people on forums.

She verified the other fella though.

Sounds like she is having fun like he is fair one I say what's good for the goose and all that

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Coffee, shower and bed for you I think.

Sleep it off.

Rational you aren't being right now.

Night, night.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Poor women is going to wake up to this shit storm and she didn't do anything wrong

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Wow. This is painful

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By *mmmMaybeCouple over a year ago

West Wales

Of I have read this correctly you were a member on here, she wasn't? You knew her anyway so I guess you talk?

The bit I don't quite get is she joins as a single fem Why? She wasn't here before & I guess her knowledge of this site was through you so didn't you lay out & agree what you wanted beforehand? & who created her single profile?

Of she created it after meeting you then it's pretty obvious you were never playing from the same hymn sheet. She thinks you are her fwb for couple meets that is all.

We are looking for a long term fwb (or more) but if after one meet someone was as ott as you appear we'd run a mile tbh..

The other thing this enquiring mind wants to know is would the couples profile you were setting up be looking for couples or women because to my mind at least this is very relevant.

Anyway hope you get it all sorted fella..

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Wow, we all recognise its the wine talking right now. But oh wow double standards going on here, if a woman had started this thread, she would gave had sympathy in bucket loads!

OP, because of the wine, it has been really tricky to follow this thread. But the best advice you have had, is go to sleep and sober up and dont text her again until you are sober. Your reaction may well have just put her off having a relationship with you.

Go to bed and get some sleep!

Mrs PK

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By *iewMan over a year ago
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Angus & Findhorn

If it helps, I shagged her good and proper and if we consider a MMF, will give you a shout.

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By *orksfuncoupleCouple over a year ago

huddersfield

How can we put this, after reading all the thread, get a grip man!

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By *uckandbunnyCouple over a year ago

In your bed

"Poor women is going to wake up to this shit storm and she didn't do anything wrong"

That's assuming any of this is real.

Why would she verify a one off fuck but not her bf.

How did they meet on here ages ago yet she only created her profile 2 days ago.

Following the green arrow throws more doubt on this reality.

Sorry I'm in the it smells fishy camp.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"If this girl is genuine on Fabs what's her name then?? "

Oi! I have tried that angle already

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I woke up for a wee at 6

Read this

Went back to sleep

Still going

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"If it helps, I shagged her good and proper and if we consider a MMF, will give you a shout.

"
Sheer class

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By *uzy444Woman over a year ago

in the suffolk countryside

its mercury retrograde, will last another two to three weeks...miscommunication is the key aspect of this time..as is the feelings of chaos, the past, feeling misunderstood..hold on, its going to be a bumpy ride x

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By *trawberry-popWoman over a year ago

South East Midlands NOT

"What should i do? My partner met another guy of fab last night and shagged him without my knowledge im pissed now prob shouldnt put this on here but really upset

Double standards. There is no sympathy at my end. This is Fab, not Facebook. i met her on here two days ago but known her for ages im not being a drama queen just hurts

As far as I'm concerned, unless you're in a loving relationship but ultimately both actively swinging with profiles as singles then there are no exclusive rights.

Shit, we're all looking for something more (I'm sure if most singles found that then they'd question the validity of still playing) and there are no questions about that because we're all different.

I think you need time out from it all because there this doesn't read well at all. Sorry dude!i met her off here here mate bout to set up couples profile the worse thing is we get on so well

You make no sense...you've known her for years but you met 2 days ago on here...

Sorry, I call bullshit. why we were great friends but lost contact wtf"

After 2 days you're not partners. You're not even in a relationship! Jesus christ!

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By *andsonjohnMan over a year ago

in the eye of the storm

"I do sympathise because clearly you're upset, but maybe if you're not happy about having a gf who swings, then a swinging lifestyle isn't for you?no i love a gf who swings but only with me not behind my back ive had a couple of swinging partners it dont upset me i love it to be honest but behind my back without me knowing the worst thing is i only found out by the verification ive spoken to her and she thinks she has done nothing wrongthen shes either done it before or will do it again..state your boundaries as a person or this lifestyle will rip you apart. is this lifestyle really for you? is having a GF as well really for you? crossroads and self reflection time, cos the only person you can change in this situation is you, you dont control anyone else...take care x"

suzy has this spot on in my opinion before you approach the woman in question over this some self reflection is in order.

even now in my opinion you should not be looking to others for answers the answers you seek are in you .first you must decided why your truly upset secondly you must decide what your response will be based on what you learn from the self reflecting self analysing of yourself .

then you act accordingly based off of what you have learned about yourself as a man.

a man must first know himself before he can look for what he needs in others ,failure to know ones self means one can not communicated or find what one needs from those one chooses in interact with .

best of luck op self analyse can often be rewarding but also painful in my experience .

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By *mmmMaybeCouple over a year ago

West Wales

"What should i do? My partner met another guy of fab last night and shagged him without my knowledge im pissed now prob shouldnt put this on here but really upset

Double standards. There is no sympathy at my end. This is Fab, not Facebook. i met her on here two days ago but known her for ages im not being a drama queen just hurts

As far as I'm concerned, unless you're in a loving relationship but ultimately both actively swinging with profiles as singles then there are no exclusive rights.

Shit, we're all looking for something more (I'm sure if most singles found that then they'd question the validity of still playing) and there are no questions about that because we're all different.

I think you need time out from it all because there this doesn't read well at all. Sorry dude!i met her off here here mate bout to set up couples profile the worse thing is we get on so well

You make no sense...you've known her for years but you met 2 days ago on here...

Sorry, I call bullshit. why we were great friends but lost contact wtf

After 2 days you're not partners. You're not even in a relationship! Jesus christ! "

H is gonna be pissed, she bought a dress, shoes, even getting her dreads tidied up

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Whatever happened to "two sides to every story"...or some say "three sides".?.

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By *estivalMan over a year ago

borehamwood

"Poor women is going to wake up to this shit storm and she didn't do anything wrong"

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Wow, we all recognise its the wine talking right now. But oh wow double standards going on here, if a woman had started this thread, she would gave had sympathy in bucket loads!

Maybe, but fake sympathy from guys trying to seem caring and actually thinking "I see an opportunity" doesn't count

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By *ezebelWoman over a year ago

North of The Wall - youll need your vest

OP pissed posting is never a good idea and if the woman has a profile on here, as you say, she probably wont appreciate being discussed in the forums so Im closing this now.

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