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so... A newbie walks into a club and says “help”
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Ok peeps here it it is – I'm trying to turn my life around but am utterly clueless about how to do it.
I've spent years as a hermit and want to join the real world again – and my first thought was – a little carefree intimacy with a woman – you know – a stroked face, arm, leg (ooh – maybe even a breast or more).
Hell – The idea of seeing a naked woman sat in front of me seemed so far out of my reach I'm almost tempted to step back and say “well it was a nice idea”.
And as for kissing...
But I'm on a bit of a roll here – Last week I gave up smoking for good and replaced it 100% with Vaping (I know some will say “that doesn’t count” - trust me it does).
Now I'm looking to change my appearance (less hippy – more professional – which I am BTW).
And I want to continue the trend...
My profile really ain’t great – but I'm working on it, my messages ain’t great – but I'm working on them.
And I was thinking – push yourself harder and achieve more.
So after a lot of bank holiday google...
I was thinking – there is a limit to what you can do sexually with a keyboard (unless it has a special port) – thus meet the people – and the most obvious way is to walk into a club, meeting, group – and say hello.
That’s where I get a bit lost.
So after this rather long winded introduction – I'm looking for advice for a single, male, 44yrs, still fit (but no movie star) guy who is looking for a NSA place I can go to meet you lot that’s somewhere near Newcastle (and if it wants beautiful and young – forget it).
Essentially – where do I go for some fun with you lot without the fear it will be soul destroying as I get turned away from the front door after an hour on the train.
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over a year ago
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There's Club F in County Durham, after that there's one in Leeds and one in Edinburgh I think.
North East isn't great for clubs.
There is a regular Newcastle social, about 3 times a year.
Keep an eye out on the forums, UK section. |
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"There's Club F in County Durham, after that there's one in Leeds and one in Edinburgh I think.
North East isn't great for clubs.
There is a regular Newcastle social, about 3 times a year.
Keep an eye out on the forums, UK section. "
So its not essentially a "I'm going to change my life - I can walk in here next Thursday - kind of philosophy"
thank you
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By *abioMan
over a year ago
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"There's Club F in County Durham, after that there's one in Leeds and one in Edinburgh I think.
North East isn't great for clubs.
There is a regular Newcastle social, about 3 times a year.
Keep an eye out on the forums, UK section.
So its not essentially a "I'm going to change my life - I can walk in here next Thursday - kind of philosophy"
thank you
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they are trying to help you.....
if this is how you react to help, then why would/should anybody else take time out to.....
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Get a grip and man up.
Just do it bro and fuck the consequences
that was the idea
(sorry - had a little giggle as I fixed your misspelling - couldn't resist)"
Cool fix away!
But if you were seeking a sympathy fuck you missed !! And I would change the budgie smugglers! |
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"There's Club F in County Durham, after that there's one in Leeds and one in Edinburgh I think.
North East isn't great for clubs.
There is a regular Newcastle social, about 3 times a year.
Keep an eye out on the forums, UK section.
So its not essentially a "I'm going to change my life - I can walk in here next Thursday - kind of philosophy"
thank you
they are trying to help you.....
if this is how you react to help, then why would/should anybody else take time out to.....
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help isn't always positive - I'm well aware of what they are doing - you are the first person here who has said anything negative - I know you from my time on here - and I trust you - please trust me |
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By *lsd199Man
over a year ago
London |
If you want to change your life, forget about these clubs for now and ignore what they other people offer now. You lack confidence at the moment.
Step 1: Find the local gym
Step 2: sign up tomorrow and start going to the gym. And no, Im not talking about some lame ass workouts. Change your freakin diet. Workout at least 4 times per week.
After half a year, you will not need advises from this forum
Your problem solved. You can thank me after half a year  |
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over a year ago
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"There's Club F in County Durham, after that there's one in Leeds and one in Edinburgh I think.
North East isn't great for clubs.
There is a regular Newcastle social, about 3 times a year.
Keep an eye out on the forums, UK section.
So its not essentially a "I'm going to change my life - I can walk in here next Thursday - kind of philosophy"
thank you
they are trying to help you.....
if this is how you react to help, then why would/should anybody else take time out to.....
help isn't always positive - I'm well aware of what they are doing - you are the first person here who has said anything negative - I know you from my time on here - and I trust you - please trust me"
I was going to fix your quite dreadful grammar but really couldn't be arsed!
I did giggle!!! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Oh god..
sorry.
Buy new pants!
Seriously!!!
I like those pants!!
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Those pants need burning. They look.like your mam pulled them up. Get some Bjorn birgs or calvins from tk Maxx or fenwicks. Black or white only. |
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I cant F'ing win...
normal boxers - cheap and a bit gruffy
new pants - budgie smugglers
no pants - my foreskin is too big
add to that -
"you should shave your testicles"
- seriously - Nut Stubble?
Shy of hiring a professional photographer ... |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I'm serious. Well fitting pants. Classic black or white.
Not baby blue.
Take about 30 pics, try black n white, sepia .
Only put decent ones on.
If u don't believe me, rake a look at some guys profiles with pants on.
Oh and an erection in.pants is sexier than a flaccid one... |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I would suggest changing your photos - cock pic to private, new pants as others have suggested (loads of nice designer ones in TKMaxx), some full body pics in underwear or fully clothed.
You profile reads ok, but unfortunately nobody can help you with your self-confidence. I think you need to invest in the long term rather than look for a quick fix  |
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"I'm serious. Well fitting pants. Classic black or white.
Not baby blue.
Take about 30 pics, try black n white, sepia .
Only put decent ones on.
If u don't believe me, rake a look at some guys profiles with pants on.
Oh and an erection in.pants is sexier than a flaccid one..."
This lady is right |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I'm serious. Well fitting pants. Classic black or white.
Not baby blue.
Take about 30 pics, try black n white, sepia .
Only put decent ones on.
If u don't believe me, rake a look at some guys profiles with pants on.
Oh and an erection in.pants is sexier than a flaccid one...
This lady is right "
I'm also from Newcastle, blunt! |
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By *lsd199Man
over a year ago
London |
Ok, it seems you did not read my post carefully enough.
Ignore these idiotic posts about buying new pants, taking different angle photos or crap like that.
You want to change your life or make a good photo? If second, use photo shop, but remember this, when you will finally arrange a meeting and the lady will see you, she will laugh at you and dump you.
So follow my advice, drop down right now and do 200 push ups, if you want to still post in the forum after that, do another 200
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over a year ago
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"Ok, it seems you did not read my post carefully enough.
Ignore these idiotic posts about buying new pants, taking different angle photos or crap like that.
You want to change your life or make a good photo? If second, use photo shop, but remember this, when you will finally arrange a meeting and the lady will see you, she will laugh at you and dump you.
So follow my advice, drop down right now and do 200 push ups, if you want to still post in the forum after that, do another 200
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Men dont need a perfect body... So you're wrong. Toned is enough. But some kik cuddly guys. Theres room for all. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"There's Club F in County Durham, after that there's one in Leeds and one in Edinburgh I think.
North East isn't great for clubs.
There is a regular Newcastle social, about 3 times a year.
Keep an eye out on the forums, UK section.
So its not essentially a "I'm going to change my life - I can walk in here next Thursday - kind of philosophy"
thank you
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WTF? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Bjorn birgs or calvins from tk Maxx or fenwicks
erm - who?
Don't they make - oh right - calvins
my shorts are like mini calvins right?"
No your pants aren't classic cut. Calvins come in different cuts.
Go into m & s and look at the David Gandy ones.
Put some effort in. |
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By *lsd199Man
over a year ago
London |
I did not really mention anything about body. Workout produces "happiness" hormones which in the end makes people more confident, and it is what this guy needs.
ALso a toned body will always be a plus |
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"I did not really mention anything about body. Workout produces "happiness" hormones which in the end makes people more confident, and it is what this guy needs.
ALso a toned body will always be a plus "
Confidence comes in many shapes and colors - I have the IQ that would make Hawkins buy me the drink - but the sexual experience that would make me listen to someone from celeb big brother for advice - I'm looking for the middle ground |
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"I did not really mention anything about body. Workout produces "happiness" hormones which in the end makes people more confident, and it is what this guy needs.
ALso a toned body will always be a plus "
Not everybody wants a toned body, or a 6 pack....many prefer a keg. Its a sweeping generalisation and whilst it may be true for you, everyone else isnt you. I will never go on a diet to please anyone else other than Mrs, and if that means nobody will look at me, I am fine with that |
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"I did not really mention anything about body. Workout produces "happiness" hormones which in the end makes people more confident, and it is what this guy needs.
ALso a toned body will always be a plus
Not everybody wants a toned body, or a 6 pack....many prefer a keg. Its a sweeping generalisation and whilst it may be true for you, everyone else isnt you. I will never go on a diet to please anyone else other than Mrs, and if that means nobody will look at me, I am fine with that"
I said this earlier. And the oo didnt ask.for a workout plan. |
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"I did not really mention anything about body. Workout produces "happiness" hormones which in the end makes people more confident, and it is what this guy needs.
ALso a toned body will always be a plus
Confidence comes in many shapes and colors - I have the IQ that would make Hawkins buy me the drink - but the sexual experience that would make me listen to someone from celeb big brother for advice - I'm looking for the middle ground"
So where have you been all.your adult life? Avoiding erotic fiction? Porn? Women? |
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By *lsd199Man
over a year ago
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"I did not really mention anything about body. Workout produces "happiness" hormones which in the end makes people more confident, and it is what this guy needs.
ALso a toned body will always be a plus
Not everybody wants a toned body, or a 6 pack....many prefer a keg. Its a sweeping generalisation and whilst it may be true for you, everyone else isnt you. I will never go on a diet to please anyone else other than Mrs, and if that means nobody will look at me, I am fine with that"
And again, workout is more for self esteem and yourself, not for others |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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As for pants, i bought a couple of pairs of andrew christian ones on ebay, really enhance the goods. I tend to prefer cotton/lycra boxers, so fitted and stretchy. Sports direct always have deals on pants and do funky colours (although I wouldn't fill Mike Ashleys pockets too much). TK Maxx also do a variety of styles as well. |
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By *lsd199Man
over a year ago
London |
"" a toned body will always be a plus "
a Toned mind is always better"
Seriously stop making excuses. I also have high IQ and I fully understand what attracts people, but it seems your IQ cannot help you understand it
Whats better? Having high IQ or High IQ with healthy and sexy body?
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"Ok peeps here it it is – I'm trying to turn my life around but am utterly clueless about how to do it.
I've spent years as a hermit and want to join the real world again – and my first thought was – a little carefree intimacy with a woman – you know – a stroked face, arm, leg (ooh – maybe even a breast or more).
Hell – The idea of seeing a naked woman sat in front of me seemed so far out of my reach I'm almost tempted to step back and say “well it was a nice idea”.
And as for kissing...
But I'm on a bit of a roll here – Last week I gave up smoking for good and replaced it 100% with Vaping (I know some will say “that doesn’t count” - trust me it does).
Now I'm looking to change my appearance (less hippy – more professional – which I am BTW).
And I want to continue the trend...
My profile really ain’t great – but I'm working on it, my messages ain’t great – but I'm working on them.
And I was thinking – push yourself harder and achieve more.
So after a lot of bank holiday google...
I was thinking – there is a limit to what you can do sexually with a keyboard (unless it has a special port) – thus meet the people – and the most obvious way is to walk into a club, meeting, group – and say hello.
That’s where I get a bit lost.
So after this rather long winded introduction – I'm looking for advice for a single, male, 44yrs, still fit (but no movie star) guy who is looking for a NSA place I can go to meet you lot that’s somewhere near Newcastle (and if it wants beautiful and young – forget it).
Essentially – where do I go for some fun with you lot without the fear it will be soul destroying as I get turned away from the front door after an hour on the train.
J"
Why not start small, see if you can set up a one to one social meet where you can just chat with someone and see that "us lot" are actually just people. Not many go from standing to running .
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Seriously dude I'd loose your pictures they are in my opinion such a turn off. Look at other men's profiles ( regular posters on the forums ) get a jist of how a woman's mind works.
Be open in your profile and honest and don't try to make yourself out as your on eBay |
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Talk about getting a rough ride  Poor bloke.
I like you, op! You can write like a human and you're funny too! That's you're current strength. If you're not comfortable meeting face to face then play to your strengths and hang out in the chat rooms and on here for a bit to build up a reputation with folks. Make people laugh and they'll remember you for the right reasons. Shoot people down over nothing and they'll remember you for the wrong ones. A party invite may follow.
I've not looked at your profile at all beyond your main pic (nice pants) but my gut says you're a decent bloke who we could share a drink with at a club without the chat running dry. Shame we're not looking for guys.
Ignore the haters and the creepy '200 pushup self-help' guy. This is your profile and your adventure. Just do you |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Op instead of asking for advice, you could give advice to other single guys on how to write a profile.
Intelligence snaps kicker elastic just as quickly as brawn.
Get to clubs, you'll enjoy it, there is fun to be had for everyone. Clubs are full of friendly people just out to enjoy life. |
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Finally got up the guts to make the call - and what did I get - voicemail (I know - phones only really active on nights the club is open)
one thing that's leaving me a bit confused - do you have to be a fully paid member - even if you are trying it out for the first time? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Oh god..
sorry.
Buy new pants!
Seriously!!!
I like those pants!!r
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people kno what what a pair of y fronts look like just have normal profile pick of your self for worrie about if one of your friends comes across you there swinging just as much as you if there on this website ! X  |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"There's Club F in County Durham, after that there's one in Leeds and one in Edinburgh I think.
North East isn't great for clubs.
There is a regular Newcastle social, about 3 times a year.
Keep an eye out on the forums, UK section.
So its not essentially a "I'm going to change my life - I can walk in here next Thursday - kind of philosophy"
thank you
they are trying to help you.....
if this is how you react to help, then why would/should anybody else take time out to.....
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AMEN! |
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"Finally got up the guts to make the call - and what did I get - voicemail (I know - phones only really active on nights the club is open)
one thing that's leaving me a bit confused - do you have to be a fully paid member - even if you are trying it out for the first time?"
They don't always pick up -
Best to catch them Thursday, keep trying and don't give up. You have to take id with you. |
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By *ynecplCouple
over a year ago
Newcastle upon Tyne |
Keep ringing or drop them an email.
Agree with the others photos are part of your shop window. Change the pants or wear them differently as the current photo does nothing, it certainly doesn't entice or ooze sex appeal. Look at other guys photos and copy the poses you like. Take loads of shots and post the best that will then compliment a good profile write up.
Visit Club F when you can and keep an eye out for the Newcastle social in the forum and get you name down. You won't get an instant shag but you will start to get you face known and that will help you in the long run. |
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By *ynecplCouple
over a year ago
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"I know the ID is to become a member - But do I HAVE to be a member for a first time experimental visit?"
Yes for Club F. Think they have in the past held like a coffee morning but if you go on an evening you do have to pay to become a member regardless of whether you are only going to go once or fifty times in the year. |
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By *ustMe06Woman
over a year ago
...the naughty spot. |
"Talk about getting a rough ride Poor bloke.
I like you, op! You can write like a human and you're funny too! That's you're current strength. If you're not comfortable meeting face to face then play to your strengths and hang out in the chat rooms and on here for a bit to build up a reputation with folks. Make people laugh and they'll remember you for the right reasons. Shoot people down over nothing and they'll remember you for the wrong ones. A party invite may follow.
I've not looked at your profile at all beyond your main pic (nice pants) but my gut says you're a decent bloke who we could share a drink with at a club without the chat running dry. Shame we're not looking for guys.
Ignore the haters and the creepy '200 pushup self-help' guy. This is your profile and your adventure. Just do you "
Actually LOL'd at this...made my day.
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By *uzy444Woman
over a year ago
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havent read all the thread but i like your energy..obviously intellegent with a good sense of humour..you made me smile. be yourself hunni..unfortunately i dont know of any clubs in the newcastle area..but travelling is fun and makes an adventure out of it...get you out of that hermit mode ( which i have also embraced a lot in my life)
most of all, do what makes you feel good and keep well and happy...come chat on the forums sometime, be great to see you x |
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"I know the ID is to become a member - But do I HAVE to be a member for a first time experimental visit?"
The club f website has an FAQ section, plus one of the staff from the club runs a profile on here. |
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Just go to the club and be yourself. You have said you are an intelligent guy and you seem to have confidence (on the keyboard anyway)
You say you want to change your life, so it's time to act. Just go and do it. Keep it fun and friendly and be yourself. |
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It's actually a pretty nice profile, we thought! Well written and articulate. Fair play! We only visited chams for the first time this year and we were nervous, but once you're inside, you will be made to feel right at home! We would certainly chat to you if nothing else, though we are a way away haha. |
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My fingers are definitely gaining in confidence - when I eventually meet another human I'll be able to type REALLY long words on their nether regions (hopefully without the need for spell check)- though I do worry that if a woman lies on her back I might move her breasts about like I was using my PC mouse (double click might be fun though)
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Tried again on the phone and an E-mail (no luck) - It looks like my first visit is going to be a bit last minute (I'm the type who likes to plan a week in advance then sort out the problems in my dreams)
Well - i suppose the whole idea was to make a change... |
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It's like emailing the pub before you go. Just check online it's single men ok that night and go , take ID. Have fun and begin the adventure.
By Saturday you'll be meet verified and seen a little of what it's about. |
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By *uzy444Woman
over a year ago
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"Tried again on the phone and an E-mail (no luck) - It looks like my first visit is going to be a bit last minute (I'm the type who likes to plan a week in advance then sort out the problems in my dreams)
Well - i suppose the whole idea was to make a change..."
you dream lucid too? |
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"Tried again on the phone and an E-mail (no luck) - It looks like my first visit is going to be a bit last minute (I'm the type who likes to plan a week in advance then sort out the problems in my dreams)
Well - i suppose the whole idea was to make a change...you dream lucid too? "
of course - It would be a shame not to
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"It's like emailing the pub before you go. Just check online it's single men ok that night and go , take ID. Have fun and begin the adventure.
By Saturday you'll be meet verified and seen a little of what it's about. "
I thought the whole setup was you had to be on a guest list first (or you would just be sent home) |
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Guest list for parties. At a club , first time sign up as a member with ID. But just turn up and do it. Theyll4show you round, explain rooms and rules etc. From then on go whenever you like as long as it's on a night for your status. I.e some nights couples only. |
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By *uzy444Woman
over a year ago
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"Tried again on the phone and an E-mail (no luck) - It looks like my first visit is going to be a bit last minute (I'm the type who likes to plan a week in advance then sort out the problems in my dreams)
Well - i suppose the whole idea was to make a change...you dream lucid too?
of course - It would be a shame not to
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awesome..see you on the other side x |
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"Guest list for parties. At a club , first time sign up as a member with ID. But just turn up and do it. Theyll4show you round, explain rooms and rules etc. From then on go whenever you like as long as it's on a night for your status. I.e some nights couples only. "
OK it may be like that at some clubs but at ClubF according to their site FAQ, single guys MUST ring in advance to get on the guest list for Wednesday or Friday nights, not just party nights. |
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"Guest list for parties. At a club , first time sign up as a member with ID. But just turn up and do it. Theyll4show you round, explain rooms and rules etc. From then on go whenever you like as long as it's on a night for your status. I.e some nights couples only.
OK it may be like that at some clubs but at ClubF according to their site FAQ, single guys MUST ring in advance to get on the guest list for Wednesday or Friday nights, not just party nights. "
so its not paranoia - I do have to be on the list
damn - back to the last minute - this could go pear shaped idea
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"Tried again on the phone and an E-mail (no luck) - It looks like my first visit is going to be a bit last minute (I'm the type who likes to plan a week in advance then sort out the problems in my dreams)
Well - i suppose the whole idea was to make a change...you dream lucid too?
of course - It would be a shame not to
awesome..see you on the other side x"
Its quite rare I chat to someone who makes me look sane - I love it  |
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"Guest list for parties. At a club , first time sign up as a member with ID. But just turn up and do it. Theyll4show you round, explain rooms and rules etc. From then on go whenever you like as long as it's on a night for your status. I.e some nights couples only.
OK it may be like that at some clubs but at ClubF according to their site FAQ, single guys MUST ring in advance to get on the guest list for Wednesday or Friday nights, not just party nights.
so its not paranoia - I do have to be on the list
damn - back to the last minute - this could go pear shaped idea
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Like I said, it's what I saw on their site. When did you try ringing the number? Apparently it's only answered after 2pm on the days they're open, Wednesday, Friday, Saturday.
I have lucid dreams too. |
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"Guest list for parties. At a club , first time sign up as a member with ID. But just turn up and do it. Theyll4show you round, explain rooms and rules etc. From then on go whenever you like as long as it's on a night for your status. I.e some nights couples only.
OK it may be like that at some clubs but at ClubF according to their site FAQ, single guys MUST ring in advance to get on the guest list for Wednesday or Friday nights, not just party nights.
so its not paranoia - I do have to be on the list
damn - back to the last minute - this could go pear shaped idea
Like I said, it's what I saw on their site. When did you try ringing the number? Apparently it's only answered after 2pm on the days they're open, Wednesday, Friday, Saturday.
I have lucid dreams too. "
Tuesday and Thursday after 2pm (yes I know... I needed to get some money on my phone mid week)
Who would not have lucid dreams if they could? Its like playing Final Fantasy VII in your head
(Admittedly - I had to train myself to do it - best way to kill the nightmares - stand strong and smack the demons in the face  ) |
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Guess where I was on Friday.
Turns out I'm a bit more of an exhibitionist than I gave myself credit.
No details – but lets just say, despite it being my first ever time, by no stretch of the imagination was I the shy guy in the corner of the room.
I still need to work on several skills I will admit, but I can see myself becoming a regular to do just that (cant get rid of me that easily peeps)
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By *uzy444Woman
over a year ago
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"Guess where I was on Friday.
Turns out I'm a bit more of an exhibitionist than I gave myself credit.
No details – but lets just say, despite it being my first ever time, by no stretch of the imagination was I the shy guy in the corner of the room.
I still need to work on several skills I will admit, but I can see myself becoming a regular to do just that (cant get rid of me that easily peeps)
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awesome go you..ill be seeing you around then xxx well done..i really hope you enjoyed it..youll soon be at home xx |
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By *uzy444Woman
over a year ago
in the suffolk countryside |
"Guest list for parties. At a club , first time sign up as a member with ID. But just turn up and do it. Theyll4show you round, explain rooms and rules etc. From then on go whenever you like as long as it's on a night for your status. I.e some nights couples only.
OK it may be like that at some clubs but at ClubF according to their site FAQ, single guys MUST ring in advance to get on the guest list for Wednesday or Friday nights, not just party nights.
so its not paranoia - I do have to be on the list
damn - back to the last minute - this could go pear shaped idea
Like I said, it's what I saw on their site. When did you try ringing the number? Apparently it's only answered after 2pm on the days they're open, Wednesday, Friday, Saturday.
I have lucid dreams too.
Tuesday and Thursday after 2pm (yes I know... I needed to get some money on my phone mid week)
Who would not have lucid dreams if they could? Its like playing Final Fantasy VII in your head
(Admittedly - I had to train myself to do it - best way to kill the nightmares - stand strong and smack the demons in the face )"
always been able to dream and dream with others..my recurring nightmares were training to get me lucid,,,  i dont play with characters in my dreams..im known by loads of dreamers x |
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"Guess where I was on Friday.
Turns out I'm a bit more of an exhibitionist than I gave myself credit.
No details – but lets just say, despite it being my first ever time, by no stretch of the imagination was I the shy guy in the corner of the room.
I still need to work on several skills I will admit, but I can see myself becoming a regular to do just that (cant get rid of me that easily peeps)
awesome go you..ill be seeing you around then xxx well done..i really hope you enjoyed it..youll soon be at home xx"
seeing me around?
Oh I do hope so |
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"Guess where I was on Friday.
Turns out I'm a bit more of an exhibitionist than I gave myself credit.
No details – but lets just say, despite it being my first ever time, by no stretch of the imagination was I the shy guy in the corner of the room.
I still need to work on several skills I will admit, but I can see myself becoming a regular to do just that (cant get rid of me that easily peeps)
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Good to hear. |
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"Guest list for parties. At a club , first time sign up as a member with ID. But just turn up and do it. Theyll4show you round, explain rooms and rules etc. From then on go whenever you like as long as it's on a night for your status. I.e some nights couples only.
OK it may be like that at some clubs but at ClubF according to their site FAQ, single guys MUST ring in advance to get on the guest list for Wednesday or Friday nights, not just party nights.
so its not paranoia - I do have to be on the list
damn - back to the last minute - this could go pear shaped idea
Like I said, it's what I saw on their site. When did you try ringing the number? Apparently it's only answered after 2pm on the days they're open, Wednesday, Friday, Saturday.
I have lucid dreams too.
Tuesday and Thursday after 2pm (yes I know... I needed to get some money on my phone mid week)
Who would not have lucid dreams if they could? Its like playing Final Fantasy VII in your head
(Admittedly - I had to train myself to do it - best way to kill the nightmares - stand strong and smack the demons in the face )always been able to dream and dream with others..my recurring nightmares were training to get me lucid,,, i dont play with characters in my dreams..im known by loads of dreamers x"
Methinks you and I have different ideas on what lucid dreaming is - I know of it as being aware within a dream with the ability to control the direction it takes.
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I will admit - part of me wants to scream to the world about what I did - and part wants it to be "my little secret".
but - "what happens in the club, stays in the club" - right...
I'm having to be very careful about what kind of questions I ask now to make sure I don't give away any details I'm not supposed to (or is it OK to mention stuff if no one else's name is used?
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"I will admit - part of me wants to scream to the world about what I did - and part wants it to be "my little secret".
but - "what happens in the club, stays in the club" - right...
I'm having to be very careful about what kind of questions I ask now to make sure I don't give away any details I'm not supposed to (or is it OK to mention stuff if no one else's name is used?
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You've missed a trick, you should have made sure to get verified by someone there. Members of staff will do it normally, doesnt need to be a play meet. |
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By *uzy444Woman
over a year ago
in the suffolk countryside |
"Guest list for parties. At a club , first time sign up as a member with ID. But just turn up and do it. Theyll4show you round, explain rooms and rules etc. From then on go whenever you like as long as it's on a night for your status. I.e some nights couples only.
OK it may be like that at some clubs but at ClubF according to their site FAQ, single guys MUST ring in advance to get on the guest list for Wednesday or Friday nights, not just party nights.
so its not paranoia - I do have to be on the list
damn - back to the last minute - this could go pear shaped idea
Like I said, it's what I saw on their site. When did you try ringing the number? Apparently it's only answered after 2pm on the days they're open, Wednesday, Friday, Saturday.
I have lucid dreams too.
Tuesday and Thursday after 2pm (yes I know... I needed to get some money on my phone mid week)
Who would not have lucid dreams if they could? Its like playing Final Fantasy VII in your head
(Admittedly - I had to train myself to do it - best way to kill the nightmares - stand strong and smack the demons in the face )always been able to dream and dream with others..my recurring nightmares were training to get me lucid,,, i dont play with characters in my dreams..im known by loads of dreamers x
Methinks you and I have different ideas on what lucid dreaming is - I know of it as being aware within a dream with the ability to control the direction it takes.
no connection to other people "
yes i know exactly what it is..but i have the additional thing of being able to direct it and go and dream with other people who are real xx |
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"I will admit - part of me wants to scream to the world about what I did - and part wants it to be "my little secret".
but - "what happens in the club, stays in the club" - right...
I'm having to be very careful about what kind of questions I ask now to make sure I don't give away any details I'm not supposed to (or is it OK to mention stuff if no one else's name is used?
You've missed a trick, you should have made sure to get verified by someone there. Members of staff will do it normally, doesnt need to be a play meet. "
Tell me about it - I should maybe have used my fab name more often rather than my real one (which ain't going on here)
Actually - the club has my fab name (and I met a lot of the staff)- can they verify me? |
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"Guest list for parties. At a club , first time sign up as a member with ID. But just turn up and do it. Theyll4show you round, explain rooms and rules etc. From then on go whenever you like as long as it's on a night for your status. I.e some nights couples only.
OK it may be like that at some clubs but at ClubF according to their site FAQ, single guys MUST ring in advance to get on the guest list for Wednesday or Friday nights, not just party nights.
so its not paranoia - I do have to be on the list
damn - back to the last minute - this could go pear shaped idea
Like I said, it's what I saw on their site. When did you try ringing the number? Apparently it's only answered after 2pm on the days they're open, Wednesday, Friday, Saturday.
I have lucid dreams too.
Tuesday and Thursday after 2pm (yes I know... I needed to get some money on my phone mid week)
Who would not have lucid dreams if they could? Its like playing Final Fantasy VII in your head
(Admittedly - I had to train myself to do it - best way to kill the nightmares - stand strong and smack the demons in the face )always been able to dream and dream with others..my recurring nightmares were training to get me lucid,,, i dont play with characters in my dreams..im known by loads of dreamers x
Methinks you and I have different ideas on what lucid dreaming is - I know of it as being aware within a dream with the ability to control the direction it takes.
no connection to other people yes i know exactly what it is..but i have the additional thing of being able to direct it and go and dream with other people who are real xx"
in the sense that you view the world thru another personality you have a link to? or are we moving more toward the mystical here? |
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By *uzy444Woman
over a year ago
in the suffolk countryside |
"Guest list for parties. At a club , first time sign up as a member with ID. But just turn up and do it. Theyll4show you round, explain rooms and rules etc. From then on go whenever you like as long as it's on a night for your status. I.e some nights couples only.
OK it may be like that at some clubs but at ClubF according to their site FAQ, single guys MUST ring in advance to get on the guest list for Wednesday or Friday nights, not just party nights.
so its not paranoia - I do have to be on the list
damn - back to the last minute - this could go pear shaped idea
Like I said, it's what I saw on their site. When did you try ringing the number? Apparently it's only answered after 2pm on the days they're open, Wednesday, Friday, Saturday.
I have lucid dreams too.
Tuesday and Thursday after 2pm (yes I know... I needed to get some money on my phone mid week)
Who would not have lucid dreams if they could? Its like playing Final Fantasy VII in your head
(Admittedly - I had to train myself to do it - best way to kill the nightmares - stand strong and smack the demons in the face )always been able to dream and dream with others..my recurring nightmares were training to get me lucid,,, i dont play with characters in my dreams..im known by loads of dreamers x
Methinks you and I have different ideas on what lucid dreaming is - I know of it as being aware within a dream with the ability to control the direction it takes.
no connection to other people yes i know exactly what it is..but i have the additional thing of being able to direct it and go and dream with other people who are real xx
in the sense that you view the world thru another personality you have a link to? or are we moving more toward the mystical here?"
definately not.. i have a dream body and another energetic body called the double..unusual but its been written about loads..quantum in form and its application..a mystery to some but not to others..i'm an 'other' |
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"Depends if they remember you well enough. Should have just said to staff or customers you chatted to, will you do me a Fab veri for me."
Trust me - they will remember me - but I was so lost in this new world I lost track of their names (Despite the badges)
oops
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"Guest list for parties. At a club , first time sign up as a member with ID. But just turn up and do it. Theyll4show you round, explain rooms and rules etc. From then on go whenever you like as long as it's on a night for your status. I.e some nights couples only.
OK it may be like that at some clubs but at ClubF according to their site FAQ, single guys MUST ring in advance to get on the guest list for Wednesday or Friday nights, not just party nights.
so its not paranoia - I do have to be on the list
damn - back to the last minute - this could go pear shaped idea
Like I said, it's what I saw on their site. When did you try ringing the number? Apparently it's only answered after 2pm on the days they're open, Wednesday, Friday, Saturday.
I have lucid dreams too.
Tuesday and Thursday after 2pm (yes I know... I needed to get some money on my phone mid week)
Who would not have lucid dreams if they could? Its like playing Final Fantasy VII in your head
(Admittedly - I had to train myself to do it - best way to kill the nightmares - stand strong and smack the demons in the face )always been able to dream and dream with others..my recurring nightmares were training to get me lucid,,, i dont play with characters in my dreams..im known by loads of dreamers x
Methinks you and I have different ideas on what lucid dreaming is - I know of it as being aware within a dream with the ability to control the direction it takes.
no connection to other people yes i know exactly what it is..but i have the additional thing of being able to direct it and go and dream with other people who are real xx
in the sense that you view the world thru another personality you have a link to? or are we moving more toward the mystical here?definately not.. i have a dream body and another energetic body called the double..unusual but its been written about loads..quantum in form and its application..a mystery to some but not to others..i'm an 'other' "
I think I've seen your dream energetic body in your pics |
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By *ynchedWoman
over a year ago
Dunstable |
"Depends if they remember you well enough. Should have just said to staff or customers you chatted to, will you do me a Fab veri for me.
Trust me - they will remember me - but I was so lost in this new world I lost track of their names (Despite the badges)
oops
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awww... been following this thread, i do love a happy ending.... |
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"Depends if they remember you well enough. Should have just said to staff or customers you chatted to, will you do me a Fab veri for me.
Trust me - they will remember me - but I was so lost in this new world I lost track of their names (Despite the badges)
oops
awww... been following this thread, i do love a happy ending...."
happy - yes - but still unverified
and who said anything about an ending
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