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We get quite a few messages saying "our profile is nice and friendly!" and that "so many are not." This has caused me to look at a broader selection of profiles just to check this out. I have found there to be a certain amount of truth in this, Why? It seems counter productive to be spikey, sometimes outright demonic, as it makes whoever the angry profile belongs to, not appealing at all. Unless you're into angry sex. |
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over a year ago
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I think the longer someone is on here, the more ranty their profile can become.
The messages that some people send can cause people to put more and more lists of do's and donts on their profile.
To me it's pretty obvious for example to not send a friend request to someone you've never even chatted to but loads do, so loads will have that on their profile.
Also, messages just saying Come suck my cock now will cause more profiles that are seen as being negative and aggressive as people will put on their profile that messages like that will result in people being blocked.
There would be a lot less ranty profiles if people just thought about the kind of messages they sent.
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"We get quite a few messages saying "our profile is nice and friendly!" and that "so many are not." This has caused me to look at a broader selection of profiles just to check this out. I have found there to be a certain amount of truth in this, Why? It seems counter productive to be spikey, sometimes outright demonic, as it makes whoever the angry profile belongs to, not appealing at all. Unless you're into angry sex."
I think the tone of your profile is fairly standard to be honest.. wouldn't say it was unfriendly.. but it is very very clear! |
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"I think the longer someone is on here, the more ranty their profile can become.
The messages that some people send can cause people to put more and more lists of do's and donts on their profile.
To me it's pretty obvious for example to not send a friend request to someone you've never even chatted to but loads do, so loads will have that on their profile.
Also, messages just saying Come suck my cock now will cause more profiles that are seen as being negative and aggressive as people will put on their profile that messages like that will result in people being blocked.
There would be a lot less ranty profiles if people just thought about the kind of messages they sent.
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 got to agree with this my profiles recently been written into quicker bullet points which I imagined reads quite cold possibly even demanding to some but I'm not that sort of person it's just it seems to work better for me this way and more people are actually reading it |
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"I think the longer someone is on here, the more ranty their profile can become.
The messages that some people send can cause people to put more and more lists of do's and donts on their profile.
To me it's pretty obvious for example to not send a friend request to someone you've never even chatted to but loads do, so loads will have that on their profile.
Also, messages just saying Come suck my cock now will cause more profiles that are seen as being negative and aggressive as people will put on their profile that messages like that will result in people being blocked.
There would be a lot less ranty profiles if people just thought about the kind of messages they sent.
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Yep we used to have a super ranty profile due to the length of time we've been swinging. But people generally don't take much notice of a list of demands, or if they do, they bullshit to get round those demands/preferences.
Ours is still a little spikey, but we'd hope people realise we're being tongue in cheek. |
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By *ustMe06Woman
over a year ago
...the naughty spot. |
"I think the longer someone is on here, the more ranty their profile can become.
The messages that some people send can cause people to put more and more lists of do's and donts on their profile.
To me it's pretty obvious for example to not send a friend request to someone you've never even chatted to but loads do, so loads will have that on their profile.
Also, messages just saying Come suck my cock now will cause more profiles that are seen as being negative and aggressive as people will put on their profile that messages like that will result in people being blocked.
There would be a lot less ranty profiles if people just thought about the kind of messages they sent.
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This x100 |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"We hope ours doesn't come across as angry, grumpy or rude, we save that for the forums 
Nonsense, your posts are always a lovely ray of sunshine  "
Aww thanks |
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over a year ago
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I do find some people take an angry or moaning/negative tone on their profile. Rather than explaining the persons positives and what they do like, along with their boundaries some profiles focus on the negative.
I guess it does help to decide whether to block them or not, but it does give one a sense of entitlement when you meet all the critria, and still don't get a reply to your message.
I would be interested in meeting someone with one of these types of profiles, if only to see if they are so angry in real life. |
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"I think the longer someone is on here, the more ranty their profile can become.
The messages that some people send can cause people to put more and more lists of do's and donts on their profile.
To me it's pretty obvious for example to not send a friend request to someone you've never even chatted to but loads do, so loads will have that on their profile.
Also, messages just saying Come suck my cock now will cause more profiles that are seen as being negative and aggressive as people will put on their profile that messages like that will result in people being blocked.
There would be a lot less ranty profiles if people just thought about the kind of messages they sent.
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Really well put. Mine was very brief to start with but has got more and more aggressive the more annoying, insulting and rude the messages I get.
However, I'm not sure my ranty profile has actually achieved anything. I guess dickheads won't become considerate, intelligent people just from an angry paragraph or two. |
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"I think the longer someone is on here, the more ranty their profile can become.
The messages that some people send can cause people to put more and more lists of do's and donts on their profile.
To me it's pretty obvious for example to not send a friend request to someone you've never even chatted to but loads do, so loads will have that on their profile.
Also, messages just saying Come suck my cock now will cause more profiles that are seen as being negative and aggressive as people will put on their profile that messages like that will result in people being blocked.
There would be a lot less ranty profiles if people just thought about the kind of messages they sent.
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True |
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"I think the longer someone is on here, the more ranty their profile can become.
The messages that some people send can cause people to put more and more lists of do's and donts on their profile.
To me it's pretty obvious for example to not send a friend request to someone you've never even chatted to but loads do, so loads will have that on their profile.
Also, messages just saying Come suck my cock now will cause more profiles that are seen as being negative and aggressive as people will put on their profile that messages like that will result in people being blocked.
There would be a lot less ranty profiles if people just thought about the kind of messages they sent.
Really well put. Mine was very brief to start with but has got more and more aggressive the more annoying, insulting and rude the messages I get.
However, I'm not sure my ranty profile has actually achieved anything. I guess dickheads won't become considerate, intelligent people just from an angry paragraph or two. "
Dickheads will always be dickheads.. and gentlemen will always be gentleman!
You're gorgeous btw x |
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"I think the longer someone is on here, the more ranty their profile can become.
The messages that some people send can cause people to put more and more lists of do's and donts on their profile.
To me it's pretty obvious for example to not send a friend request to someone you've never even chatted to but loads do, so loads will have that on their profile.
Also, messages just saying Come suck my cock now will cause more profiles that are seen as being negative and aggressive as people will put on their profile that messages like that will result in people being blocked.
There would be a lot less ranty profiles if people just thought about the kind of messages they sent.
Really well put. Mine was very brief to start with but has got more and more aggressive the more annoying, insulting and rude the messages I get.
However, I'm not sure my ranty profile has actually achieved anything. I guess dickheads won't become considerate, intelligent people just from an angry paragraph or two.
Dickheads will always be dickheads.. and gentlemen will always be gentleman!
You're gorgeous btw x"
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over a year ago
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I actually enjoy reading profiles. It's a Fab hobby of mine lol
I also have re-written our profile on several occasions with a list of likes, dislikes and do's and dont's etc and you know what I found? It makes absolutely zero difference as it appears the VAST MAJORITY don't bother reading it and we STILL get the stupid messages regardless. We just ignore them...
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"I think the longer someone is on here, the more ranty their profile can become.
The messages that some people send can cause people to put more and more lists of do's and donts on their profile.
To me it's pretty obvious for example to not send a friend request to someone you've never even chatted to but loads do, so loads will have that on their profile.
Also, messages just saying Come suck my cock now will cause more profiles that are seen as being negative and aggressive as people will put on their profile that messages like that will result in people being blocked.
There would be a lot less ranty profiles if people just thought about the kind of messages they sent.
Really well put. Mine was very brief to start with but has got more and more aggressive the more annoying, insulting and rude the messages I get.
However, I'm not sure my ranty profile has actually achieved anything. I guess dickheads won't become considerate, intelligent people just from an angry paragraph or two.
Dickheads will always be dickheads.. and gentlemen will always be gentleman!
You're gorgeous btw x
Thank you very much "
My pleasure!
If you are ever considering slightly lowering your age preferences be sure to let me know!
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"I actually enjoy reading profiles. It's a Fab hobby of mine lol
I also have re-written our profile on several occasions with a list of likes, dislikes and do's and dont's etc and you know what I found? It makes absolutely zero difference as it appears the VAST MAJORITY don't bother reading it and we STILL get the stupid messages regardless. We just ignore them...
Candy
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This is completely my experience too.. IMO your profile is essentially your 'face' here on fab.. your chance to put across what you would like to put across.. sadly despite many rewrites and altering my approach to messages etc it seems to have made very little difference.
In a 'culture' where single ladies and lovely couples get completely steamrollered by single guys everyone knows that there is a very good chance that your heartfelt and well written will just get deleted and not read... Which leads to spamming which leads to the whole thing feeding itself..
Such a shame but upwards and onwards! |
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"I think the longer someone is on here, the more ranty their profile can become.
The messages that some people send can cause people to put more and more lists of do's and donts on their profile.
To me it's pretty obvious for example to not send a friend request to someone you've never even chatted to but loads do, so loads will have that on their profile.
Also, messages just saying Come suck my cock now will cause more profiles that are seen as being negative and aggressive as people will put on their profile that messages like that will result in people being blocked.
There would be a lot less ranty profiles if people just thought about the kind of messages they sent.
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Agree also. We've rewritten our profile many times but always seem to end up having to add a rant, list of demands etc which is such a shame as we're very friendly in person so really don't want to come across as rude but sadly it does due to the huge amount that spoil the site and the messages that appear daily. |
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I keep changing mine as I do have the occasional rant and then I take the rant off when I'm calmer but the majority don't read them anyway sometimes you could put a novel on there and very few would realise  |
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By *isa 59Woman
over a year ago
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I have quite a factual writing style and try as I might I just don't seem to be able to get my 'fun side' across. This has led to comments about me being cold, hard, and up my own arse when, in actual fact, I am none of those things. |
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"I think the longer someone is on here, the more ranty their profile can become.
The messages that some people send can cause people to put more and more lists of do's and donts on their profile.
To me it's pretty obvious for example to not send a friend request to someone you've never even chatted to but loads do, so loads will have that on their profile.
Also, messages just saying Come suck my cock now will cause more profiles that are seen as being negative and aggressive as people will put on their profile that messages like that will result in people being blocked.we have our do's and dont's but we try to be positive assertive rather than assertive agressive with them
There would be a lot less ranty profiles if people just thought about the kind of messages they sent.
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"I think the longer someone is on here, the more ranty their profile can become.
The messages that some people send can cause people to put more and more lists of do's and donts on their profile.
To me it's pretty obvious for example to not send a friend request to someone you've never even chatted to but loads do, so loads will have that on their profile.
Also, messages just saying Come suck my cock now will cause more profiles that are seen as being negative and aggressive as people will put on their profile that messages like that will result in people being blocked.
There would be a lot less ranty profiles if people just thought about the kind of messages they sent.
This x100 "
been doing this a while now and (maybe luckily for us) nobody has been that abrupt or rude |
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"I think the longer someone is on here, the more ranty their profile can become.
The messages that some people send can cause people to put more and more lists of do's and donts on their profile.
To me it's pretty obvious for example to not send a friend request to someone you've never even chatted to but loads do, so loads will have that on their profile.
Also, messages just saying Come suck my cock now will cause more profiles that are seen as being negative and aggressive as people will put on their profile that messages like that will result in people being blocked.
There would be a lot less ranty profiles if people just thought about the kind of messages they sent.
This x100 been doing this a while now and (maybe luckily for us) nobody has been that abrupt or rude"
Well I'd quite like to be rude... Lol |
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"I actually enjoy reading profiles. It's a Fab hobby of mine lol
I also have re-written our profile on several occasions with a list of likes, dislikes and do's and dont's etc and you know what I found? It makes absolutely zero difference as it appears the VAST MAJORITY don't bother reading it and we STILL get the stupid messages regardless. We just ignore them...
Candy
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This is completely my experience too.. IMO your profile is essentially your 'face' here on fab.. your chance to put across what you would like to put across.. sadly despite many rewrites and altering my approach to messages etc it seems to have made very little difference.
In a 'culture' where single ladies and lovely couples get completely steamrollered by single guys everyone knows that there is a very good chance that your heartfelt and well written will just get deleted and not read... Which leads to spamming which leads to the whole thing feeding itself..
Such a shame but upwards and onwards!"
a well worded, clear profile that is light in nature may not deter the desperados but it does encourage those more desireable to you. We ALWAYS read profiles unless its clear from the off that its a "no go!" The written profile is more important than the photos to us, as it goes a long way towards some kind of insight into someones nature (however, we get that some people are accomplished bullshitters) |
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"I have quite a factual writing style and try as I might I just don't seem to be able to get my 'fun side' across. This has led to comments about me being cold, hard, and up my own arse when, in actual fact, I am none of those things."
i'd say your profile is more forthright than angry or spikey.. i must highlight the difference on this thread.. thank you
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You'll never know how listing your likes and dislikes affect the amount of people messaging you.
Those that are of sound mind and recognise they're not what you are looking for simply won't message you and you won't know they didn't.
That just leaves the ones that do fit your criteria, and the nutters. |
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"You'll never know how listing your likes and dislikes affect the amount of people messaging you.
Those that are of sound mind and recognise they're not what you are looking for simply won't message you and you won't know they didn't.
That just leaves the ones that do fit your criteria, and the nutters."
I mainly get the latter.. with some notable exceptions! |
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"I do find some people take an angry or moaning/negative tone on their profile. Rather than explaining the persons positives and what they do like, along with their boundaries some profiles focus on the negative.
I guess it does help to decide whether to block them or not, but it does give one a sense of entitlement when you meet all the critria, and still don't get a reply to your message.
I would be interested in meeting someone with one of these types of profiles, if only to see if they are so angry in real life."
I don't think my profile is angry or ranty but in real life I'm a right moody, angry bitch |
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"You'll never know how listing your likes and dislikes affect the amount of people messaging you.
Those that are of sound mind and recognise they're not what you are looking for simply won't message you and you won't know they didn't.
That just leaves the ones that do fit your criteria, and the nutters."
It's easy to find out, just change your profile. |
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I've read some of your profiles and i dont find the majority angry, just forthright....nothing wrong with that. Knowing whst youwant and accepting no deviation from that is fine, were all here to fulfil fantasies and have do's and dont's, will and wont's. As for the desporados that dont even read a profile, they get easier to dpot and the block button puts them right where they need to be...out of reach of you. Its amazing how many straight guys still contact us, despite our clear and obvious request for them not to...straight to block...done! There seems to be a lot of guys that take umbridge to a no answer too. We try to abswer, even if its no thanks, but sometimes theres 30+ messages for us and we just cant be arsed to say no thanks to all of em. Sorry but that's the truth. Doesn't mean we dont like you. |
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I was told recently that my profile reads like War and Peace and that it took the poor guy ages to wade through it,I have tried to give a general overview of what I'd like to find on this site,without just giving a list of 'do's and don'ts',,like Curvy mama says,that can seem a little cold and can give a false impression.
Sometimes,I do find some messages a little exasperating and I can quite understand why some profiles read like they were written in a bad mood.
I do point out,though,that if there's anything in there that someone doesn't like,,they don't have to contact me and we all have that option,don't we.
If we don't like a profile,we can assume we wiould not like the person. |
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"You'll never know how listing your likes and dislikes affect the amount of people messaging you.
Those that are of sound mind and recognise they're not what you are looking for simply won't message you and you won't know they didn't.
That just leaves the ones that do fit your criteria, and the nutters.
It's easy to find out, just change your profile. "
I'm getting splinters here |
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Mine got very ranty at one point in response to stupid messages I was receiving but then I realised that the people the rant was aimed at don't bother to read profiles anyway. So now when I get messages from guys that clearly haven't read my profile I just use it as a filter. I wouldn't want to meet with anyone that obviously doesn't care who they meet with. It reeks of desperation. So instead of getting annoyed I just ignore and block. Job done |
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"You'll never know how listing your likes and dislikes affect the amount of people messaging you.
Those that are of sound mind and recognise they're not what you are looking for simply won't message you and you won't know they didn't.
That just leaves the ones that do fit your criteria, and the nutters.
It's easy to find out, just change your profile.
I'm getting splinters here "
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"Mine got very ranty at one point in response to stupid messages I was receiving but then I realised that the people the rant was aimed at don't bother to read profiles anyway. So now when I get messages from guys that clearly haven't read my profile I just use it as a filter. I wouldn't want to meet with anyone that obviously doesn't care who they meet with. It reeks of desperation. So instead of getting annoyed I just ignore and block. Job done "
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I must admit to wanting to add more and more paragraphs re,past messages received and experiences but as the other forumite said.
It's a waste of time as they don't read the profile and those who can't do what it says on their tin still don't recognise or,seem to forget their problem/inadequacies.  |
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By *obletonMan
over a year ago
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"Nothing wrong with a profile outlining what one does or does not want IMO. "
There's a fine line though isn't there.
On the one hand you want to spell out what you are like and what you are looking for.
On the other hand you don't want to be handing a list of detailed instructions for how to slip under your dickhead radar, to a complete dickhead.
If you don't want to meet people who are so thick that they think sending one-line messages or dick shots are a really good idea in an introductory message (or whatever your pet peeve might be - then the last thing you want to do is to tell them not to send you one of those things - you WANT those kind of folks to identify themselves nice and early. |
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"Nothing wrong with a profile outlining what one does or does not want IMO.
There's a fine line though isn't there.
On the one hand you want to spell out what you are like and what you are looking for.
On the other hand you don't want to be handing a list of detailed instructions for how to slip under your dickhead radar, to a complete dickhead.
If you don't want to meet people who are so thick that they think sending one-line messages or dick shots are a really good idea in an introductory message (or whatever your pet peeve might be - then the last thing you want to do is to tell them not to send you one of those things - you WANT those kind of folks to identify themselves nice and early."
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By *andsonjohnMan
over a year ago
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"I think the longer someone is on here, the more ranty their profile can become.
The messages that some people send can cause people to put more and more lists of do's and donts on their profile.
To me it's pretty obvious for example to not send a friend request to someone you've never even chatted to but loads do, so loads will have that on their profile.
Also, messages just saying Come suck my cock now will cause more profiles that are seen as being negative and aggressive as people will put on their profile that messages like that will result in people being blocked.
There would be a lot less ranty profiles if people just thought about the kind of messages they sent.
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although I agree with everything you have wrote I still would say a ratty ranting profile is a waste of time .
because do the rants in said profile stop the fuck wit messages no at best it may reduce them but I'm not sure it even does that .
you see I think the kind of guy that doesn't read a profile or observe preferences who sends crude two or three line messages isn't going to be put off by the rants.
where as the kind of guy who does read profile does take heed of preferences writes a well thought out opening message is going to be put off by a ratty ranting profile .
even though I understand the reasons behind why someone has become ratty and a bit of a ranter I still find myself put off by such profiles .
so to my eyes and in my opinion a ratty ranting profile is counter productive because it does not stop the problem that brought on the rants and may put off the very type of person your hoping to attract.
the answer surely is when you find yourself really getting piss off with site life hind your profile and be proactive by approaching people yourself instead letting others approach you with the negative results that that has achieved for you so far .
after all you can always un hind your profile once you feel refreshed and have calmed down . |
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over a year ago
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I have proper ranty profile...lol
Nobody reads it anyway.
Ha ha
I still get messages without face pics.
Those who have read it. And messaged me. Don't seem to offended by my straight up style.
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"I think the longer someone is on here, the more ranty their profile can become.
The messages that some people send can cause people to put more and more lists of do's and donts on their profile.
To me it's pretty obvious for example to not send a friend request to someone you've never even chatted to but loads do, so loads will have that on their profile.
Also, messages just saying Come suck my cock now will cause more profiles that are seen as being negative and aggressive as people will put on their profile that messages like that will result in people being blocked.
There would be a lot less ranty profiles if people just thought about the kind of messages they sent.
although I agree with everything you have wrote I still would say a ratty ranting profile is a waste of time .
because do the rants in said profile stop the fuck wit messages no at best it may reduce them but I'm not sure it even does that .
you see I think the kind of guy that doesn't read a profile or observe preferences who sends crude two or three line messages isn't going to be put off by the rants.
where as the kind of guy who does read profile does take heed of preferences writes a well thought out opening message is going to be put off by a ratty ranting profile .
even though I understand the reasons behind why someone has become ratty and a bit of a ranter I still find myself put off by such profiles .
so to my eyes and in my opinion a ratty ranting profile is counter productive because it does not stop the problem that brought on the rants and may put off the very type of person your hoping to attract.
the answer surely is when you find yourself really getting piss off with site life hind your profile and be proactive by approaching people yourself instead letting others approach you with the negative results that that has achieved for you so far .
after all you can always un hind your profile once you feel refreshed and have calmed down ."
Agree. I think ranty profiles put off 'normal' people and just attract the piss taking idiots that think it would be hilarious to wind them up even more. |
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By *andsonjohnMan
over a year ago
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"I think the longer someone is on here, the more ranty their profile can become.
The messages that some people send can cause people to put more and more lists of do's and donts on their profile.
To me it's pretty obvious for example to not send a friend request to someone you've never even chatted to but loads do, so loads will have that on their profile.
Also, messages just saying Come suck my cock now will cause more profiles that are seen as being negative and aggressive as people will put on their profile that messages like that will result in people being blocked.
There would be a lot less ranty profiles if people just thought about the kind of messages they sent.
although I agree with everything you have wrote I still would say a ratty ranting profile is a waste of time .
because do the rants in said profile stop the fuck wit messages no at best it may reduce them but I'm not sure it even does that .
you see I think the kind of guy that doesn't read a profile or observe preferences who sends crude two or three line messages isn't going to be put off by the rants.
where as the kind of guy who does read profile does take heed of preferences writes a well thought out opening message is going to be put off by a ratty ranting profile .
even though I understand the reasons behind why someone has become ratty and a bit of a ranter I still find myself put off by such profiles .
so to my eyes and in my opinion a ratty ranting profile is counter productive because it does not stop the problem that brought on the rants and may put off the very type of person your hoping to attract.
the answer surely is when you find yourself really getting piss off with site life hind your profile and be proactive by approaching people yourself instead letting others approach you with the negative results that that has achieved for you so far .
after all you can always un hind your profile once you feel refreshed and have calmed down .
Agree. I think ranty profiles put off 'normal' people and just attract the piss taking idiots that think it would be hilarious to wind them up even more. "
oh yes I for got about the sad losers who because they could not pull a pint in the pub let alone anyone on a sex site .
suddenly think its funny as hell to take the piss out of people they no they haven't a chance in hell of pulling by sending them fuck wit messages |
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"You'll never know how listing your likes and dislikes affect the amount of people messaging you.
Those that are of sound mind and recognise they're not what you are looking for simply won't message you and you won't know they didn't.
That just leaves the ones that do fit your criteria, and the nutters.
It's easy to find out, just change your profile.
I'm getting splinters here
You got wood? "
They should have a penis emoji |
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"I think ranty profiles put off 'normal' people and just attract the piss taking idiots that think it would be hilarious to wind them up even more. "
You may be right there.
Negative ranting profiles do put us off.
I get that people have preferences but why not just say whst you DO want.
We've tried to keep ours as informative as we can but not too long. Ours profile has been changed and shortened over time.
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"Nothing wrong with a profile outlining what one does or does not want IMO. "
no, i quite agree and if you look at our profile you'll see exactly that. its how that point is put across that i think some people are lacking and not sellig themselves in a good light. Believe me, as a couple we get our fair share of desporate, ill mannered (sorry to say it) straight guys that clearly havent read our profile etc. I get the frustration they cause but it hasn't (as yet) caused us to write a profile that sounds more vexed than sexed xx
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"Nothing wrong with a profile outlining what one does or does not want IMO.
There's a fine line though isn't there.
On the one hand you want to spell out what you are like and what you are looking for.
On the other hand you don't want to be handing a list of detailed instructions for how to slip under your dickhead radar, to a complete dickhead.
If you don't want to meet people who are so thick that they think sending one-line messages or dick shots are a really good idea in an introductory message (or whatever your pet peeve might be - then the last thing you want to do is to tell them not to send you one of those things - you WANT those kind of folks to identify themselves nice and early."
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"I have proper ranty profile...lol
Nobody reads it anyway.
Ha ha
I still get messages without face pics.
Those who have read it. And messaged me. Don't seem to offended by my straight up style.
X"
i just read your profile and yes it would put me right off. Swinging for us at least should be fun, light hearted and an adventure. I would approach you as i would approach a hungry lion....wide birth...sorry |
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We tend to pay more attention to status updates of profiles we're interested in. A few get themselves crossed off our list by having outright obnoxious updates or ones that are constantly name dropping or vaguebooking about other users. |
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"I think the longer someone is on here, the more ranty their profile can become.
The messages that some people send can cause people to put more and more lists of do's and donts on their profile.
To me it's pretty obvious for example to not send a friend request to someone you've never even chatted to but loads do, so loads will have that on their profile.
Also, messages just saying Come suck my cock now will cause more profiles that are seen as being negative and aggressive as people will put on their profile that messages like that will result in people being blocked.
There would be a lot less ranty profiles if people just thought about the kind of messages they sent.
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Totally agree with this |
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We suspect ours is a bit harsh, despite the dozen re-writes . None of it seems to make the slightest difference though as we still get people who are the antithesis of what out profile hopes to attract writing to us .
The answer is , there is no answer ! |
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Everyone is allowed a rant now and then. I have to bite my lip sometimes the messages i recieve. Maybe there just pissed off and abuse they may recieve so write on their profile in an angry way as a way of venting ? Just a thought? X |
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"I think the longer someone is on here, the more ranty their profile can become.
The messages that some people send can cause people to put more and more lists of do's and donts on their profile.
To me it's pretty obvious for example to not send a friend request to someone you've never even chatted to but loads do, so loads will have that on their profile.
Also, messages just saying Come suck my cock now will cause more profiles that are seen as being negative and aggressive as people will put on their profile that messages like that will result in people being blocked.
There would be a lot less ranty profiles if people just thought about the kind of messages they sent.
Totally agree with this"
I been here since the first month it came about. Mine isn't ranty. . . |
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I hope mine doesn't come across ranty or negative, it's certainly not my intention. I update mine all the time, and the things i get told most often are that I appear to know what I want, and i seem honest. I hope that's the case and it's not just people trying to butter me up!! I don't like ranty profiles, it'd definitely put me off someone. I think the language and tone we use is really important and says a lot about our personalities. |
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"I hope mine doesn't come across ranty or negative, it's certainly not my intention. I update mine all the time, and the things i get told most often are that I appear to know what I want, and i seem honest. I hope that's the case and it's not just people trying to butter me up!! I don't like ranty profiles, it'd definitely put me off someone. I think the language and tone we use is really important and says a lot about our personalities. "
Yours is fine and I don't think it comes across ranty or angry at all
Profiles from women and couples, who lets be honest get most of the messages on here, that explain their preferences are actually useful for those of us that read them
It's just in some cases the profile just reads like someone extremely angry and annoyed rather than explaining preferences and that is very off putting, which of course maybe the intention to be fair! |
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"We get quite a few messages saying "our profile is nice and friendly!" and that "so many are not." This has caused me to look at a broader selection of profiles just to check this out. I have found there to be a certain amount of truth in this, Why? It seems counter productive to be spikey, sometimes outright demonic, as it makes whoever the angry profile belongs to, not appealing at all. Unless you're into angry sex."
I'm often complimented on the honesty of my profile.
I admit I sound demanding but I know what I want and if the guy doesn't fit the bill it won't happen.
No point wasting time fluffing things up hehe x  |
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Angry profiles are normally off people with a bit of an attitude. Sad to say that some are off ladies that being aware of the ratios on fab think they can be quite demanding, rude, arrogant or any combination of the above to get what they want and guys will just fall in line - desperate guys will. Im a great believer in putting out what you want back if you are nice - in the main you find nice people are drawn to you. Just my 2p worth |
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"We suspect ours is a bit harsh, despite the dozen re-writes . None of it seems to make the slightest difference though as we still get people who are the antithesis of what out profile hopes to attract writing to us .
The answer is , there is no answer !"
Its not like most blokes read a profile past the pics of boobs x |
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"I hope mine doesn't come across ranty or negative, it's certainly not my intention. I update mine all the time, and the things i get told most often are that I appear to know what I want, and i seem honest. I hope that's the case and it's not just people trying to butter me up!! I don't like ranty profiles, it'd definitely put me off someone. I think the language and tone we use is really important and says a lot about our personalities.
Yours is fine and I don't think it comes across ranty or angry at all
Profiles from women and couples, who lets be honest get most of the messages on here, that explain their preferences are actually useful for those of us that read them
It's just in some cases the profile just reads like someone extremely angry and annoyed rather than explaining preferences and that is very off putting, which of course maybe the intention to be fair!"
We softened the tone of ours but that obviously made it more lengthy, which might put people of. But you can't please everyone.
We've met people with angry profiles who very nice in person, and others who were all sweetness and light on their profile but deeply unpleasant in person. |
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"Angry profiles are normally off people with a bit of an attitude. Sad to say that some are off ladies that being aware of the ratios on fab think they can be quite demanding, rude, arrogant or any combination of the above to get what they want and guys will just fall in line - desperate guys will. Im a great believer in putting out what you want back if you are nice - in the main you find nice people are drawn to you. Just my 2p worth "
If only.... I've had all types of profile, doesn't seem to make much difference. Maybe it's an Internet versus real life thing? |
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"Mine perfectly illustrates me as a grumpy moody cow... However, very few appreciate the sarcasm contained within "
i love sarcasm and can spot it, rheres a huge difference between tongue in cheek sarcasm and frosty old knickers |
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"Mine perfectly illustrates me as a grumpy moody cow... However, very few appreciate the sarcasm contained within i love sarcasm and can spot it, rheres a huge difference between tongue in cheek sarcasm and frosty old knickers"
I'm actually drawn to the sarcastic ones as that's very much my sense of humour, a few Blackadder jokes in a woman's or couples profile is guaranteed to attract me!
But I agree it's usually pretty easy to spot the funny sarcastic ones from the moody ones! |
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