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The first move......
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"Nah, just send a picture of your knob and say something like "Hi hun, u r fit fncy a shag snd me yr nmbr" Always add a little smiley or LOL at the end of it, and bingo, you are in. Seriously though, what do you THINK would be the best approach? Perhaps posting questions like yours might lead people to believe you are possibly lacking in basic social skills and have only recently started walking upright. If you can't decide what's appropriate for an initial contact, I certainly wouldn't want you near my house, who knows what you'd be like then. Not meant to be a personal pop at you, OP, more exasperation at all the blokes who come here asking "What do I do" (to get laid)? Do they all need their hands holding and showing what to do? I shouldn't really complain, the less competition for me the better, but meh, I'm feeling charitable today. The mere fact you've got to ask rather than using common sense is a massive neon pointer, that everyone else can see, that you are possibly, well, a Loser. There's no magic formula, no password, no phrase that pays here, or in any other aspect of the swinging world, it's not a magical realm of unbridled shagging which is barred to you until you take enough close-ups of your hardon. The rewards are fantastic if you are open-minded and have got what it takes to move in certain circles, make the right contacts, but nothing, and I mean NOTHING anyone can say will give you a leg up (or over), you have to get there using your own common sense and merits. If you don't naturally have what it takes, well, have a nice time at home wanking, eating pizza and thinking it's all a conspiracy to exclude horny men who will shag anything. Right, I must go, I've just had a nice invite pop up on my phone from some long-time friends, I'm going to need all my energy... " I don't think I could have put it better myself! | |||
And the usual suspects have to join in like a flock of sheep. | |||
"Somebody asks for a bit of advice & Mr perfect has to come out with a tirade like that!!!
And the usual suspects have to join in like a flock of sheep. "Agreed, predictable and rather sad. | |||
"Somebody asks for a bit of advice & Mr perfect has to come out with a tirade like that!!!
And the usual suspects have to join in like a flock of sheep.
Agreed, predictable and rather sad. "***nods in agreement*** | |||
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Welcome to fab x
It's nice that you took time out to use the correct part of the forums to ask for 'advice'.
My response will not be a sarcastic one that I usually fire out in the lounge as that is where most of us talk general bollox and dislike a single guy strolling in having a whinge cos he hasn't had a queue of women take down his door just because he has been man enough to create a profile on here offering NSA sex to suitable ladies/men/couples.
Be yourself, expand your profile so it sells you, no one else. Don't expect too much and stick around here. There are a few of us that like getting to know forumites xx
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""Hi how are you" seems like a silly thing to say here, so what should I say? Should I be polite, or be blunt and straight to the point?? "I think you should be a mixture of all three, and add a hint of cheekiness, us ladies love a cheeky chappie. Happy Swinging xxxxx | |||
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"Keep a sense of humour at all times,they can go missing around here sometimes "they are in lost property  | |||
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"I'm with Wolf 100%! Variations on a theme: I've seen OP's torn to shreds saying the same thing albeit in a whine! Personally any grown man who doesn't know what to say about the person he knows the most HIMSELF, is hardly likely to be of interest to me. " im with wolf too...150% and my pet hate is when i say to a guy tell me a little about yourself and he replies with "what do you want to know?" it just makes me cringe !! | |||
""Hi how are you" seems like a silly thing to say here, so what should I say? Should I be polite, or be blunt and straight to the point?? "I do agree with Wolf (and I'm still laughing @ 'magical realm of unbridled shagging'), but I'm happy to cut the OP some slack here. If the OP is new to swinging and this is his first swinging website, he's right to query whether there is something that he doesn't know. Answer is..... no, there's nothing you don't know. Swingers are just normal people (we just happen to enjoy recreational sex, alongside our normal lives). I remember it took me weeks to pluck up the courage to go to a swingers club... I expected to find people with two heads, girls with supermodel bodies, and guys with 12" cocks sticking them in my face. In fact, what I found was a bunch of normal people, like the ones I work with, or see in my local supermarket. But I still remember how it felt to think that swingers are 'different'! OP, we're not different, we're just regular people. There is no magic formula or secret codes. I would suggest that your initial approach should err on the side of politeness - talk to people on here like you would talk to people down your local pub - if people are looking for "quick and horny", you will be able to assess this from their response. Good luck and happy swinging! | |||
"Whilst I agree with the sentiment of what TheWolf is saying I can see how it might be perceived as antagonistic. TheWolf if reading messages from blokes asking for help irritate you so much, why read them" Antagonistic, moi? I don't read the irritating messages, I just happened to pick this one to respond to, my posts above weren't directed solely at the OP, it wasn't an attack on him. Rather than being negative, I was actually trying to do some blokes a favour. Like I said above, it's actually to my advantage to have less serious competition, ordinarily I'd happily see people make mongs of themselves, I know there's a collective rolling of eyes when they post, bless 'em. I applaud those people who have apparently posted good advice on this thread, but they are being too kind, it's like feeding stray dogs, you are better off either ignoring them or shoo-ing them off, harsh though it may seem. In the long run, you know I'm right. Of course, there are perhaps lots of other men who joined recently, read the posts to see the character of this site, and rather than stepping forward, driven by their cock, into the harsh light (and telescopic sights), have chosen to absorb the useful info contained herein, and THEN act accordingly, be it through Forum posts or making contact with people. Maybe they are arranging meets as I type, having been respectful and sensible and understood that "swinger" does not mean "easy lay". They may perhaps have learned that it's no easier to get a shag on here than on a vanilla dating site, the difference being here that they are not going to get battered for admiring someone's wife's magnificent rack, and may well be helping him pleasure her at some point in the future. The ones bleating about what an arse I am can't see the irony of their posts, but that's OK, every village has its idiot(s), they are not lesser people, just...um...."special". Yes, special, that's it, they can't help it, so they are not to be mocked. Helped, even though it is likely to be wasted effort, but not mocked, everyone deserves a chance. God I'm humble, I really am. Have I booked a place in Heaven yet? Perhaps a little parable will help, seeing as I'm feeling Messianic today (starting the Church of Wolf soon, looking for suitable cult mem...erm, religious devotees, apply now!) Here we go, pay attention now: There were once 2 bulls, father and son, standing on a clifftop, looking down into a valley full of cows. "Look Dad, cows! Let's run down and fuck one!" said the young bull. "Nope" replies the father, "Let's WALK down, and fuck them ALL" This, my friends, is wisdom. | |||
" The ones bleating about what an arse I am can't see the irony of their posts, but that's OK, every village has its idiot(s), they are not lesser people, just...um...."special". Yes, special, that's it, they can't help it, so they are not to be mocked. Helped, even though it is likely to be wasted effort, but not mocked, everyone deserves a chance. God I'm humble, I really am. Have I booked a place in Heaven yet? Perhaps a little parable will help, seeing as I'm feeling Messianic today (starting the Church of Wolf soon, looking for suitable cult mem...erm, religious devotees, apply now!) Here we go, pay attention now: There were once 2 bulls, father and son, standing on a clifftop, looking down into a valley full of cows. "Look Dad, cows! Let's run down and fuck one!" said the young bull. "Nope" replies the father, "Let's WALK down, and fuck them ALL" This, my friends, is wisdom. " Blimey, you really do like the sound of your own voice don't ya! 
I wasn't bleating about what an arse you were just that your tone could easily be perceived as antagonistic and, shock horror, we were all new unverified members here once probably nervous about entering the scene. I know the 'been there done that' brigade roll their eyes every time one of these nervous newbies asks for a bit of support and I also know that a lot of the time they do lack certain social skills that will mean that they are easily wound up and then bite back at posts such as yours, putting themselves in a poor light straight away. But being the intelligent fella you clearly are maybe this is your plan to continue to whittle down the competition | |||
""Hi how are you" seems like a silly thing to say here, so what should I say? Should I be polite, or be blunt and straight to the point?? "A polite hello followed by what you like to do always gets my attention. | |||
""Hi how are you" seems like a silly thing to say here, so what should I say? Should I be polite, or be blunt and straight to the point??
A polite hello followed by what you like to do always gets my attention. "There was a thread the other day where women were saying they ignored any such messages as (a) the information was already on their profile so it hadn't been read; and (b) boring and lacked imagination! It just goes to show you can't please all the people all the time so be yourself and trust someone will like you! There are soooooooooooo many bland, generic profiles as people are trying to please everyone to get a shag, not realising being dull is not the way to go! | |||
