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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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I know women have their own personal tastes, but I am a reasonably decent looking guy..experienced, professional business man with a few quid, who want to treat a lady like a lady. However it seems this is not what the girls want..Am I approaching this all wrong? |
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By *oo hotCouple
over a year ago
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"I know women have their own personal tastes, but I am a reasonably decent looking guy..experienced, professional business man with a few quid, who want to treat a lady like a lady. However it seems this is not what the girls want..Am I approaching this all wrong?"
Most people we know don't bother trying to arrange a meet "cold" off here when they have been here for a couple of years and realised just how many fakes, time wasters and idiots there are around. Personally I think that for guys to have any success at all they have to really stand out and that is a hard thing to do on a website.
Go to Clubs and social and get yourself known as that will help with further introductions. |
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By *manda63Woman
over a year ago
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"I know women have their own personal tastes, but I am a reasonably decent looking guy..experienced, professional business man with a few quid, who want to treat a lady like a lady. However it seems this is not what the girls want..Am I approaching this all wrong?"
Not a very nice title for your thread. Your profile reads ok, the roll in the hay sounds outdated but each to their own I say. You say why you can't accommodate. I'd say add some more public pics, you have three veris so you are doing alright I'd say |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I know women have their own personal tastes, but I am a reasonably decent looking guy..experienced, professional business man with a few quid, who want to treat a lady like a lady. However it seems this is not what the girls
want..Am I approaching this all wrong?"
Good for you. Yes, you are approaching it all wrong. You have a few quid? Yippee. If you haven't realised that is not "what the girls want" then you should take a long hard look at the world. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I know women have their own personal tastes, but I am a reasonably decent looking guy..experienced, professional business man with a few quid, who want to treat a lady like a lady. However it seems this is not what the girls want..Am I approaching this all wrong?
Not a very nice title for your thread. Your profile reads ok, the roll in the hay sounds outdated but each to their own I say. You say why you can't accommodate. I'd say add some more public pics, you have three veris so you are doing alright I'd say "
as the OP didn't actually ask for profile advice its against site rules to give it... |
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"I know women have their own personal tastes, but I am a reasonably decent looking guy..experienced, professional business man with a few quid, who want to treat a lady like a lady. However it seems this is not what the girls want..Am I approaching this all wrong?"
In our humble opinion, with the view you have that money makes you class, then we are sorry but we think it makes you more like the type you are criticising.
We learned a very long time ago money does not make you any better.
In fact, classy wealthy people don't even mention money.
Good luck, we hope your method works for you. |
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I don't care what a potential meet does for a living, how much money he has in the bank or what car he drives. I'm not looking for a relationship with him, it is just meeting up for mutually satisfactory (I hope) sex.
As long as they are clean, not a total knob, there is an attraction, he lasts longer than 5 minutes and isn't just meeting me to empty his balls, then all good.
If a bloke thinks I should meet him because he has a professional job and a few quid it is a tacky turn off, like my head can be turned by his bank balance. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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We have a lot of criteria when choosing our fun partners but never used "Class or Scumbag" as a measure of suitability.
How does that work? Whats the yard stick?
Might change our names to
"Class & scumbag"
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"I know women have their own personal tastes, but I am a reasonably decent looking guy..experienced, professional business man with a few quid, who want to treat a lady like a lady. However it seems this is not what the girls want..Am I approaching this all wrong?"
Yes you are approaching it incorrectly.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I know women have their own personal tastes, but I am a reasonably decent looking guy..experienced, professional business man with a few quid, who want to treat a lady like a lady. However it seems this is not what the girls want..Am I approaching this all wrong?"
There is nothing in this post or the way you worded the subject that makes you seem atttactive. QuIt the opposite in dact |
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By *P1964Woman
over a year ago
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"I know women have their own personal tastes, but I am a reasonably decent looking guy..experienced, professional business man with a few quid, who want to treat a lady like a lady. However it seems this is not what the girls want..Am I approaching this all wrong?"
Can't beat a bit of class. I'm only attracted to professionals (the clean ones of course)  |
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By *rs DCouple
over a year ago
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"I know women have their own personal tastes, but I am a reasonably decent looking guy..experienced, professional business man with a few quid, who want to treat a lady like a lady. However it seems this is not what the girls want..Am I approaching this all wrong?"
just talk crap all day in forums about cake and your quids in  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"First two replies hit the nail on the head.  "
This
The fact that you come across as thinking you are superior and looking down on others is very unattractive. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I know women have their own personal tastes, but I am a reasonably decent looking guy..experienced, professional business man with a few quid, who want to treat a lady like a lady. However it seems this is not what the girls want..Am I approaching this all wrong? just talk crap all day in forums about cake and your quids in "
And don't forget to mention that you love tea as well  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I know women have their own personal tastes, but I am a reasonably decent looking guy..experienced, professional business man with a few quid, who want to treat a lady like a lady. However it seems this is not what the girls want..Am I approaching this all wrong?"
Doesn't Matter to Me I'm Engaged and I Ain't meeting with anyone especially guys.
If I was meeting guys I wouldn't care if they are Unemployed and Skint as long as we're Compatible,Ain't all about money!  . |
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"I know women have their own personal tastes, but I am a reasonably decent looking guy..experienced, professional business man with a few quid, who want to treat a lady like a lady. However it seems this is not what the girls want..Am I approaching this all wrong?"
You could try looking at your profile and reading it out loud  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Scumbags love the smell of money. I don't know why it's not working.
Ain't Working for Me!
Are You Saying You're A Scumbag?  "
Yeah Admittedly I'm Engaged and My Fiancé knows,Nothing Better than Unconditional Love  . |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I'd choose class over scumbags any day. The trick is knowing what it means to have class.
Class to me means finding someone who is is caring, giving, respectful and who listens to other people, as well as being their own person. Whether or not you actually like the person or get their sense of humour is another thing though.
Class has nothing to do with money, or buying a lady a meal etc, but if you do have to buy a lady a meal buy it as a thank you for meeting me, rather than an agreement that she owes you some affection. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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i do seem to go for dickheads tbh, for relationships. i try to find genuine and nice guys but they usually are not physically attractive or have talked a load of shit to me to get me to be with them.
if you're talking about NSA sex then i'm not a prostitute so don't care about money. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I know women have their own personal tastes, but I am a reasonably decent looking guy..experienced, professional business man with a few quid, who want to treat a lady like a lady. However it seems this is not what the girls want..Am I approaching this all wrong?"
classy.. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I know women have their own personal tastes, but I am a reasonably decent looking guy..experienced, professional business man with a few quid, who want to treat a lady like a lady. However it seems this is not what the girls want..Am I approaching this all wrong?"
I have met men with money, the last one I met was an arrogant prick
I,m here for sex and fun, you're bank balance does not interest me. I don't allow men to buy me things either.
I,'ll stick with the scumbags thanks x |
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By *eeleyWoman
over a year ago
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"I know women have their own personal tastes, but I am a reasonably decent looking guy..experienced, professional business man with a few quid, who want to treat a lady like a lady. However it seems this is not what the girls want..Am I approaching this all wrong?"
Get a prostitute? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I just spent the best part of half an hour typing a bit of an essay of a rant about folks up their own arses and people from all walks being fecking dicks and up their own arses and completely lacking "class"!
I read it back a few times and on the second read through, I realised the futility of my rant!
Meh! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I know women have their own personal tastes, but I am a reasonably decent looking guy..experienced, professional business man with a few quid, who want to treat a lady like a lady. However it seems this is not what the girls want..Am I approaching this all wrong?"
How much money are we talking here |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"No class in having a status that says 'still in Spain' but Fab says 'on mobile 40 miles away'.
Could be wrong of course "
That location thing fails a lot!
Don't read too much in to it. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I know women have their own personal tastes, but I am a reasonably decent looking guy..experienced, professional business man with a few quid, who want to treat a lady like a lady. However it seems this is not what the girls want..Am I approaching this all wrong?"
Women aren't looking for guys 5'9 in height. Trust me I have the same problem. Also change your body type to average, no man should ever describe themselves as curvy! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Wow so you've got a few quid big deal, I go to work most days make sure my kids are well looked after, fed, clothed, loved unconditional and get luxuries every now and then so to me that makes me the richest man so sorry to say but hands down I'm winning in life right now |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Wow so you've got a few quid big deal, I go to work most days make sure my kids are well looked after, fed, clothed, loved unconditional and get luxuries every now and then so to me that makes me the richest man so sorry to say but hands down I'm winning in life right now "
Nail and head come to mind |
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By *manda63Woman
over a year ago
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"I know women have their own personal tastes, but I am a reasonably decent looking guy..experienced, professional business man with a few quid, who want to treat a lady like a lady. However it seems this is not what the girls want..Am I approaching this all wrong?"
I apologise for the unwarranted advice I gave  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Just remember, for every person who you regard as a scumbag because they have less class and money than you, there is someone with more money and class than you who in turn regards you as a scumbag.
Big fleas have little fleas upon their backs to bite them, and little fleas have smaller fleas and so ad infinitum |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Well, my post has stirred plenty of discussion. There seems to be a focus on money and that was never intended to be a reason for attraction. Badly wrtten I guess. Anyway, I genuinely would like to thank everyone for their advice and contributions to this forum. Cheers Al. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I know women have their own personal tastes, but I am a reasonably decent looking guy..experienced, professional business man with a few quid, who want to treat a lady like a lady. However it seems this is not what the girls want..Am I approaching this all wrong?
Get a prostitute? "
Whilst advocating money and class, of course... |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Well, my post has stirred plenty of discussion. There seems to be a focus on money and that was never intended to be a reason for attraction. Badly wrtten I guess. Anyway, I genuinely would like to thank everyone for their advice and contributions to this forum. Cheers Al."
You expressed it badly. However, there is nothing wrong with old fashioned chivalry and being a gentleman. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I know women have their own personal tastes, but I am a reasonably decent looking guy..experienced, professional business man with a few quid, who want to treat a lady like a lady. However it seems this is not what the girls want..Am I approaching this all wrong?"
I honestly think you have worded this all wrong. From first inception of your post it implies that your credibility is above all and sundry. Now I'm a man of experience, down to earth but not everyone is going to find me physically attractive. So in effect - take it on the chin.
But in essence of any notion of class and money, might I suggest an escort or POF? I know a few girls at either end who accept gifts and want to be treated like ladies before they put out (or a few who do bulk bookings for the right price). Not my thing but whatever floats your boat. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"There's no class in mentioning money. "
That's modern society...confuses money and ostentatiousness with class.
Always remember ....you can't buy class! |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Well, my post has stirred plenty of discussion. There seems to be a focus on money and that was never intended to be a reason for attraction. Badly wrtten I guess. Anyway, I genuinely would like to thank everyone for their advice and contributions to this forum. Cheers Al."
It's a great thread.
Do more. x |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"There's no class in mentioning money.
That's modern society...confuses money and ostentatiousness with class.
Always remember ....you can't buy class!"
Well put. So few people understand this and I blame reality television. People should just look at Wayne Rooney if they are confused by the difference between wealth and class. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I know women have their own personal tastes, but I am a reasonably decent looking guy..experienced, professional business man with a few quid, who want to treat a lady like a lady. However it seems this is not what the girls want..Am I approaching this all wrong?"
Anyone who comments on or treats different people with varying degrees of respect with no experience of them as individuals, is scum. |
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By *ee VianteWoman
over a year ago
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"I know women have their own personal tastes, but I am a reasonably decent looking guy..experienced, professional business man with a few quid, who want to treat a lady like a lady. However it seems this is not what the girls want..Am I approaching this all wrong?"
How do you know?
Do women reply to your messages to say you are too classy and not scummy enough?
Is this thread an attempt to appear more scummy? |
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"I know women have their own personal tastes, but I am a reasonably decent looking guy..experienced, professional business man with a few quid, who want to treat a lady like a lady. However it seems this is not what the girls want..Am I approaching this all wrong?"
Why do you assume women want to be treated like a lady? Maybe they have their own money or are even, dare I say, professionals or business women themselves and tired of meeting men like that in their everyday lives ... maybe they want to meet someone who they have more in common with as a. person? Money isn't everything, nor is your career, not to someone you meet on here. We have totally different jobs but it's not an issue, we met on here and clicked straight away, socially and sexually ... funnily enough when I was waiting for him in the coffee shop, I was working on some reports, but I stuffed them away as soon as I saw him come in the door ... |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I know women have their own personal tastes, but I am a reasonably decent looking guy..experienced, professional business man with a few quid, who want to treat a lady like a lady. However it seems this is not what the girls want..Am I approaching this all wrong?"
should you be on a dating site then ?
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"There's no class in mentioning money.
That's modern society...confuses money and ostentatiousness with class.
Always remember ....you can't buy class!
Well put. So few people understand this and I blame reality television. People should just look at Wayne Rooney if they are confused by the difference between wealth and class. "
He has both. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"There's no class in mentioning money.
That's modern society...confuses money and ostentatiousness with class.
Always remember ....you can't buy class!
Well put. So few people understand this and I blame reality television. People should just look at Wayne Rooney if they are confused by the difference between wealth and class.
He has both. "
Yeah he looked really classy signing autographs outside a £60-a-pop brothel!!! |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"There's no class in mentioning money.
That's modern society...confuses money and ostentatiousness with class.
Always remember ....you can't buy class!
Well put. So few people understand this and I blame reality television. People should just look at Wayne Rooney if they are confused by the difference between wealth and class.
He has both.
Yeah he looked really classy signing autographs outside a £60-a-pop brothel!!! "
We're agreeing again... |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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there are some ladies who are not averse to a fella spending a few quid on them - read a profile whose veris read like she was taken out for dinner and hotel meet most nights of the week - personally im not a taker that way but if you want to give and someone will take go for it |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I know women have their own personal tastes, but I am a reasonably decent looking guy..experienced, professional business man with a few quid, who want to treat a lady like a lady. However it seems this is not what the girls want..Am I approaching this all wrong? should you be on a dating site then ?"
I'm not looking for a boyfriend but I expect to be treated with respect on here. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Is this one of those threads when the OP hit the post button agonised over his two minute retraction time and has now gone to lie down in a darkened room until it all blows over? |
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"Is this one of those threads when the OP hit the post button agonised over his two minute retraction time and has now gone to lie down in a darkened room until it all blows over?"
If so, he's been in there for quite a while.... |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I know women have their own personal tastes, but I am a reasonably decent looking guy..experienced, professional business man with a few quid, who want to treat a lady like a lady. However it seems this is not what the girls want..Am I approaching this all wrong? should you be on a dating site then ?"
Because women here don't want to be treated with respect?
Either way, I suspect the op wouldn't know how to treat any woman with respect. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I know women have their own personal tastes, but I am a reasonably decent looking guy..experienced, professional business man with a few quid, who want to treat a lady like a lady. However it seems this is not what the girls want..Am I approaching this all wrong? should you be on a dating site then ?
Because women here don't want to be treated with respect?
Either way, I suspect the op wouldn't know how to treat any woman with respect. "
Good point well made. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Well, my post has stirred plenty of discussion. There seems to be a focus on money and that was never intended to be a reason for attraction. Badly wrtten I guess. Anyway, I genuinely would like to thank everyone for their advice and contributions to this forum. Cheers Al."
Rookie mistake saying something that could be taken for snobbery. In fab land you might have well said you had leprosy. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I understand there are sites where women interested in money would be very happy to hear from the OP. I do however think he will have learnt from this post. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"This to my people in the front row explains it all........
https://youtu.be/eJW--Fv-Jzo "
This is far classier given the subject matter!
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Kjgwjh4H7wg |
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"I know women have their own personal tastes, but I am a reasonably decent looking guy..with a few quid
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In our humble opinion, with the view you have that money makes you class, then we are sorry but we think it makes you more like the type you are criticising.
We learned a very long time ago money does not make you any better.
Good luck, we hope your method works for you."
Exactly my thoughts.
Best of luck to you OP |
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The size of someone's bank balance, car they drive etc, doesn't impress or interest us.
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