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over a year ago
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I'm single, I have a fuck buddy whom i'm trying to convince to join me in a fuck buddy couple on here,how popular are they? As I have seen a few profiles stating that if your not a real couple we aint interested |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I'm single, I have a fuck buddy whom i'm trying to convince to join me in a fuck buddy couple on here,how popular are they? As I have seen a few profiles stating that if your not a real couple we aint interested"
Nope, been there tried it more than once, each time against our better judgment, and each time a failure, too much awkwardness, drama and strangeness.
Seems unfair to tar all FB's with the same brush we know, but really can't be bothered to take the chance and waste precious time.
The dynamic between a couple in a relationships is completely different, and in our opinion works better, it's more natural, flows, communication flows better and altogether a far better and complimentary dynamic to how we play and what we're comfortable with. |
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Yup, it's a big red flag for us.
We wouldn't necessarily 100% rule it out, we rarely 100% rule out anything. But it would be highly unlikely.
Last time we encountered one was a highly promising lead. Seemed very engaging, very attractive. As soon as they admitted they were actually just fuck buddies and we enquired as to their status they clammed up. Waste of time.
Frankly it's not even a fair exchange. It's like putting up a rental car in a pink slips race. You're bringing a wife/significant partner into this. With all the potential baggage that brings (and benefits) he's bringing a mate with no investment whatsoever.
If I wanted to, I could have gone that way. Got more than a couple of female friends who would have been interested. But i don't consider it legit. |
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"Frankly it's not even a fair exchange. It's like putting up a rental car in a pink slips race. You're bringing a wife/significant partner into this. With all the potential baggage that brings (and benefits) he's bringing a mate with no investment whatsoever. "
Great analogy! Lol  |
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"If its any help we are very open about our arrangement, and would be happy to answer any questions"
I'd convince her to join you first, and then pose the same offer here.
But your response there shows the difference immediately, you've jumped in, made an offer, an assumption and forged ahead with little regard for your FB's opinion. That's where a relationship couple is different, they have a better understanding, regard, appreciation, consideration and understanding of each other's desires, fantasies, boundaries, likes and dislikes than an FB couple, because they have that dynamic, an emotional connection going on.
It's that pink slip analogy: you have little or no emotional connection, and very little to lose, which in turn makes you more selfish, naturally and understandably, and take bigger risks.
Not saying all FB couples are like that, pretty sure there's some great FB couples, but I'd argue most are!
And I'd bet my bottom dollar that those that are successful or work well together, still have some emotional connection, albeit a close friendship or good history. |
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"I'm single, I have a fuck buddy whom i'm trying to convince to join me in a fuck buddy couple on here,how popular are they? As I have seen a few profiles stating that if your not a real couple we aint interested
Nope, been there tried it more than once, each time against our better judgment, and each time a failure, too much awkwardness, drama and strangeness.
Seems unfair to tar all FB's with the same brush we know, but really can't be bothered to take the chance and waste precious time.
The dynamic between a couple in a relationships is completely different, and in our opinion works better, it's more natural, flows, communication flows better and altogether a far better and complimentary dynamic to how we play and what we're comfortable with."
spot on |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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There's an emotional connection we used to date, we still have feelings for eachother it just didn't work at the time, and in discussing it with her we agreed to be completely open with people she's just deciding whether she wants to go ahead with it here or to just to keep to eachother |
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