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Club room etiquette

By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

Currently enjoying my time exploring a few clubs. I always thought that a guy had to be invited to join in any fun you may be having. However, a discussion today with someone stated that an open door is an invitation to join in. I wouldn't like to think that, even if a door to a room was left open, that just any guy could jump on my bones and other parts of my anatomy! Do different clubs have different etiquette?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

its most definately not an invite to join in but just you may want watching or perhaps appreciate an offer to join in ,which you can then say no thanks too.

however some guys do take it as that so i just shake my head or say something if they come to close

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By *abioMan over a year ago

Newcastle and Gateshead

even though it is an invitation to possibly join in, you still get to say yes or no to someone touching you or joining in....

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"an open door is an invitation to join in. "

Not sure what club would do that, none of the ones we've been to. On some rooms an open door may mean you can come in for a closer look, but touching would always need permission.

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

That's what I thought so the comment completely threw me xx

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By *elkinMan over a year ago

Derbyshire

In my experience an open door means that you are welcome to watch but must gain permission before joining in or touching.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

There's no way that it's an invitation to join in unless previously specified.

It's an invitation to watch and maybe ask, but not join.

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By *annooWoman over a year ago

Hastings

"an open door is an invitation to join in.

Not sure what club would do that, none of the ones we've been to. On some rooms an open door may mean you can come in for a closer look, but touching would always need permission. "

This

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By *ecretlyASoftieWoman over a year ago

Hull but travel regularly

Open door to me is an invitation to watch. Anyone should ask before touching unless it's clearly a group mosh pit free for all or darkroom

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By *LCCCouple over a year ago

Cambridge

Remember, being on Fab is a promise that you will fuck anyone who asks.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

If I was playing and a guy just joined in without asking he would get 2 rapid to the throat x

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By *uzy444Woman over a year ago

in the suffolk countryside

"an open door is an invitation to join in.

Not sure what club would do that, none of the ones we've been to. On some rooms an open door may mean you can come in for a closer look, but touching would always need permission. "
this

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By *ndykinkyMan over a year ago

STOKE-ON-TRENT

Open door or play in an open area is always an invitation to watch but always ask permission to join in.

Anybody not asking permission risks pissing off everyone else and possibly being thrown out of the club.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Got to be joke yes,

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By *plpxp2Couple over a year ago

Middlesbrough

Thankfully we've been to the right clubs where guys are respectful and wait to be asked or invited to join us.

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By *he Hobbit And MeCouple over a year ago

southampton

An open door is not an invite to join they still have to ask if they may enter now an open room is a different matter! They can enter without permission but still have to ask to touch..

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

When i give tours to newbies open door policy is explained as an invitation to come and WATCH ONLY and it is deffo an invite only for joining on a bed. Open/orgy playbeds are find yourself a space if your playing as a cpl or group but it is always good to ask other players is it ok for us to come on if its a smaller open bed but again its deffo WAIT FOR AN INVITE for single males and once playing on a bed always ASK FOR PERMISSION before touching or joining other players and on greedy girls days we always either provide or tell our girls to have a gentleman as a gatekeeper to watch play n make sure she is ok n not overwelmed and i believe this to be policy in clubs in the NW i have visited

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Also so we can out those who dont respect these rules we ask that if someone does overstep and join without invite or touch without invite or upset you in anyway that you inform a member of staff as soon as possible so the person/persons in question can be spoken to and then removed n membership revoked if necessary as all clubs want their customers to feel safe n happy when playiing

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I will never join in without asking

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I think a lot of guys think play in open rooms means the woman wants a free for all

I've had a word with a few guys about this who think they can just kneel at the side of my face and smack me with their cock untill they get my attantion and i suck it

Thanks not club rules though thats just guys trying their luck

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

i think mabe the problem is in a sexually charged environment some think its a free for all porn set n manners get forgotten n the gotta chance my arm i may get lucky thinking sets in

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By *ikeC81Man over a year ago

harrow

For me I tend to hold back in an open room.....and be invited it means that often I haven't played when I could off but that is fine

For me it's all about respecting the couple or female That is playing

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By *arry247Couple over a year ago

Wakefield

"an open door is an invitation to join in.

Not sure what club would do that, none of the ones we've been to. On some rooms an open door may mean you can come in for a closer look, but touching would always need permission. "

This

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By *hoenixcouplexxCouple over a year ago

Leicestershire

"Currently enjoying my time exploring a few clubs. I always thought that a guy had to be invited to join in any fun you may be having. However, a discussion today with someone stated that an open door is an invitation to join in. I wouldn't like to think that, even if a door to a room was left open, that just any guy could jump on my bones and other parts of my anatomy! Do different clubs have different etiquette? "

That's great! Ask them which clubs they go to with those rules and you'll know exactly which ones not to go to...

We have never been to a club where that rule is in place.

The only proper invite is a physical or vocal one from the people involved. Anything else is presumptuous and rude.

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By *bsinthe_boyMan over a year ago

Luton

To me, an open door means whoever is playing is OK being watched. It may mean that they are open to others joining in.

However, it is not an open invitation for anyone to touch them. I have seen situations where a lady is on a bed and does state "I need a cock, any cock" and would take that as an invitation. However 99% of the time things are rather fluid and I find the simplest way, if I wish to play, is to move closer to the lady and ask "May I?"

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I think a lot of guys think play in open rooms means the woman wants a free for all

I've had a word with a few guys about this who think they can just kneel at the side of my face and smack me with their cock untill they get my attantion and i suck it

Thanks not club rules though thats just guys trying their luck"

Anyone smacked my face with cock. I would bite it!! Cheeky feckers

Doll x

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By *eakcoupleCouple over a year ago

peak district

Open door means watch if you want. Don't intrude unless invited, we invite men she fancies to join in the play. If you try to push in uninvited then you'll usually be told to get out.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

no is no open door or not sex in a club still has to be consentual or its rape

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By *picyminxWoman over a year ago

Huntingdon

Definitely not. Always ask permission and you will be fine.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Open door or play in an open area is always an invitation to watch but always ask permission to join in.

Anybody not asking permission risks pissing off everyone else and possibly being thrown out of the club."

And maybe arrested

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By *not69Man over a year ago

Lancashire

Open door means watch only, don't touch.

But I've seen it where guys will gently touch a leg or an arm, then if their hand isn't brushed awsy they will go a little further, then a little further, until they either have their hand brushed away or theyve managed to join in. I've never seen a guy jump in and go for the jugular so to speak but i suppose it does happen from time to time

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