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Verifications yet hidden? my reason but yours?
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By *WLondonMix OP Man
over a year ago
Willsden/DollisHill |
I have hidden many of my verifications due to how old they are and believe we all change over the years. What's written on mine are still valid, however I would rather show latest ones as they verify who I am now. Also not a fan of having my whole history of swinging up lol |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I have hidden many of my verifications due to how old they are and believe we all change over the years. What's written on mine are still valid, however I would rather show latest ones as they verify who I am now. Also not a fan of having my whole history of swinging up lol"
But you include two from 2010 within your profile text? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I had a man messaging saying I met his mate, would I do a threesome. I have also had problems on a previous profile, with a man telling a couple to contact me regarding a meet where she just wanted her partner pleasured and 2 men I had met messaging each other hostile fashion. XXX |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I leave ours up mainly because they are more character statements, which I like to think are just as valid now.
I never trust a profile with 1 verification that's hidden.
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I have 1 hidden verification, I am trustworthy, my reasons are stated above. I am not worried if members don't like it, I get plenty of offers. I am not looking to fill a verification sheet, I am fussy who I meet, time limited and also have an FWB. X |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I only show a few recent ones and I change them around every so often..a bit like showing current photos.
Guys who join..get a veri within a day or two but never show it are a bit suss to me. |
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I don't ever ask for verifications but all the ones I've currently got are on display, they don't coincide with my verification summary, that's say I have more but it will because of course when a user leaves the site the veri goes with them |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I leave ours up mainly because they are more character statements, which I like to think are just as valid now.
I never trust a profile with 1 verification that's hidden.
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I have one hidden as I had a a few problems with the guy after meeting |
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We don't show ours because we have none left, once the profile goes, the veri goes with it. All our previous meets have either left or removed their profile and started a couples one, or a new one (mostly due to single men, jealousy,cat fighting and general bitchyness.....ah single women doth amuse so). |
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By *yldstyleWoman
over a year ago
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Hide all of mine and the summary. What I do or don't do is no one's business but mine.
Also if people need other peoples opinions of me in order to decide if they want to get to know me then I'd rather not bother with them |
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Never understood the reasons for this, can understand hiding a few but not all so there if nothing to go on and then you actually ask to meet someone or the funny one being the person with no veris asks you for face pictures!
we generally avoid profiles that hide veris as not all but some could be fake as veris are a good indication to find out if a profile is genuine as it is after all free to set up a profile on here.
The swinging scene per area is generally quite small so we find we end up knowing someone who has met someone via veris a bit like a friend of a friend in Facebook |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I have hidden many of my verifications due to how old they are and believe we all change over the years. What's written on mine are still valid, however I would rather show latest ones as they verify who I am now. Also not a fan of having my whole history of swinging up lol"
The two you show are from 2011 and 2012 so maybe there's another reason why you don't show them?? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I won't show my verifications - I show that I have them and that's it. It all smacks a bit of narcissism. I appreciate them when I get them, but they're for me and me alone. You want to find out what I'm like? Message me  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Hide all of mine and the summary. What I do or don't do is no one's business but mine.
Also if people need other peoples opinions of me in order to decide if they want to get to know me then I'd rather not bother with them"
Yes.  |
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By *manda63Woman
over a year ago
Southampton |
"I have hidden many of my verifications due to how old they are and believe we all change over the years. What's written on mine are still valid, however I would rather show latest ones as they verify who I am now. Also not a fan of having my whole history of swinging up lol"
We like to see who people have met, so we can look at the profiles, regardless of how old they are |
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"Never understood the reasons for this, can understand hiding a few but not all so there if nothing to go on and then you actually ask to meet someone or the funny one being the person with no veris asks you for face pictures!
we generally avoid profiles that hide veris as not all but some could be fake as veris are a good indication to find out if a profile is genuine as it is after all free to set up a profile on here.
The swinging scene per area is generally quite small so we find we end up knowing someone who has met someone via veris a bit like a friend of a friend in Facebook "
Out of interest what could a verification say that would distinguish a fake profile from a genuine one? |
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By *dwalu2Couple
over a year ago
Bristol |
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Out of interest what could a verification say that would distinguish a fake profile from a genuine one?"
You sometimes see profiles with verification 'chains' where they are clearly written by the same people using different accounts, because the writing style and grammatical/spelling mistakes are the same. |
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By *odareyouMan
over a year ago
not far from iceland,,,,,, tescos is nearer though :-) (near leeds) |
If I've met someone either socially or for frolic s if they verify me I'll display it , hopefully it gives folk a bit more if an insight to me.   |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I won't show my verifications - I show that I have them and that's it. It all smacks a bit of narcissism. I appreciate them when I get them, but they're for me and me alone. You want to find out what I'm like? Message me "
As mentioned already....we wouldn't engage and message to find out if all veri's were hidden. We like them as it shows that people are actually genuine and not been varified by one male account one year ago. When we joined the site and didn't have any veri's we had several messages by men offering to veri us in return to a veri for them. Clearly this goes on meaning people can get several verification without ever actually meeting anyone
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Good morning, I would just like to add my two pennies worth, that the gentleman that we are planning to meet next week, was chosen through a combination of his chatting with us and his verification's. They to us are a tremendous help and as you have said, they are genuine statements on how that person / people felt with him, and as we are all different in our expectations and outlook, they make interesting reading. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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We display our verifications as additional profile information about ourselves. When meeting a complete stranger we look to get as much information as possible before deciding if they are for us, so we will make judgements from their profile, their messages and their verifications. We therefore provide the same information ourselves in order to help others get a picture of what we're about. We don't have all displayed. Some are not really relevant, so just clutter up our profile. Also some people have left the site so veris have gone. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I hide mine as I don't need to come with references. Plus in the past had other woman having issues with me meeting someone she thinks is hers exclusively and got a bit stalkerish. |
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"I hide mine as I don't need to come with references. Plus in the past had other woman having issues with me meeting someone she thinks is hers exclusively and got a bit stalkerish. "
Women are on such demand that they don't need verifications (or pictures, or anything written in their profile) and will still receive messages. Mostly cut and pasted messages, by those who believe quantity is better than quality. So not forumites obviously
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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There are loads I don't show for many reasons
Mainly because they are to graphic, I really dislike verifications where the guys giving a blow by blow account of the sex we had so I don't show them
Ones that have my real name in I don't show
Ones where people I have barely spoken to at a club or social I don't show, I really don't see how someone I have had a brief chat to at a club can verify me as being genuine 
I don't show verifications from couples because when I do I get loads of couples mailing me and when I reply I don't meet couples they start going in about how I have verifications from couples so it's easier just not to show them |
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"Never understood the reasons for this, can understand hiding a few but not all so there if nothing to go on and then you actually ask to meet someone or the funny one being the person with no veris asks you for face pictures!
we generally avoid profiles that hide veris as not all but some could be fake as veris are a good indication to find out if a profile is genuine as it is after all free to set up a profile on here.
The swinging scene per area is generally quite small so we find we end up knowing someone who has met someone via veris a bit like a friend of a friend in Facebook
Out of interest what could a verification say that would distinguish a fake profile from a genuine one?"
As mentioned before if they are verified by someone you have met before or you know are on the scene then you can be sure they are genuine. |
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There's nothing attractive about reading how someone has got fucked this way and that and by how many hundreds of people and their mates. Actually puts me off. And when you read verifications that sell the person like a pimp is actually disrespectful, you know the "if I was you I would meet them" verifications haha.
I close mine verifications as people don't need to see who I meet and the people have left veri's to prove I am genuine and real so would be a boring read for you lot anyway. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I hide mine because of people making my verifications their business in the past 
Another reason why they're hidden at the minute is because I'm not currently meeting, so no one has to see them. |
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By *uzy444Woman
over a year ago
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"I have hidden many of my verifications due to how old they are and believe we all change over the years. What's written on mine are still valid, however I would rather show latest ones as they verify who I am now. Also not a fan of having my whole history of swinging up lol"
same. last years are hidden x
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Mine are hidden at the moment due to women messaging me, inappropriately, about people I had met. Can't be doing with that sort of drama!! "
This I never understand. |
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By *WLondonMix OP Man
over a year ago
Willsden/DollisHill |
"I have hidden many of my verifications due to how old they are and believe we all change over the years. What's written on mine are still valid, however I would rather show latest ones as they verify who I am now. Also not a fan of having my whole history of swinging up lol
But you include two from 2010 within your profile text?"
They are from first few meets and as i have only just come back to swinging due to relationship, i only have one recent.
They are there to mainly show consistency and will happily screenshot and send potential meets all of them if needed. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I don't display mine at all as there is to many people more interested In what others do then there own profiles
If I'm chatting to someone and looks like we might be meeting I'll show them
No one's business who I play with except mine  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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We like to show a fairly broad cross section of our verifications .
Why ?
Because we want potential meets to have some idea of what we are into , and our veris also indicate the type of people we meet .
In all seriousness , we have a bit of a reputation to uphold on fab , and we will happily challenge anyone to go through our veris and suggest we will shag anything . Far from it , our standards are as high as anyone else's and our verifications show this .
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"I don't display mine at all as there is to many people more interested In what others do then there own profiles
If I'm chatting to someone and looks like we might be meeting I'll show them
No one's business who I play with except mine "
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By *andsonjohnMan
over a year ago
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"Hide all of mine and the summary. What I do or don't do is no one's business but mine.
Also if people need other peoples opinions of me in order to decide if they want to get to know me then I'd rather not bother with them"
I agree with this whole heartily .I only have one on my profile from over a year ago .I met other women in that time before I took a break for about 10 months due to not being able to meet .
I also tell any woman I've had a social with or more with not to bother verifying me although I will verify them if they ask but after hearing my reason for not wanting to be verified myself they decide the same .
What I do with any woman or couple and who with is my business and has nothing to do with those who may want to meet me in the future .if they think I'm fake or have miss giving about me I'd rather not meet then anyway .
I think the very system is fake anyway no one going to say in one you know what he wasn't as good as I thought or she was not as great in bed as I thought so I view them for this reason as fake compliments designed to boost egos of those receiving them and giving them out . |
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By *WLondonMix OP Man
over a year ago
Willsden/DollisHill |
As a couple or female you have the prerogative not to display, but as a gent it is very difficult. I myself and looking around for a M or couple to join myself and fb (from this site verified) to fulfil fantasys. For the gents I pass by with no consideration if hidden as we all have discovered, there's many that timewaste. Rather be safe than sorry |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Hide all of mine and the summary. What I do or don't do is no one's business but mine.
Also if people need other peoples opinions of me in order to decide if they want to get to know me then I'd rather not bother with them
I agree with this whole heartily .I only have one on my profile from over a year ago .I met other women in that time before I took a break for about 10 months due to not being able to meet .
I also tell any woman I've had a social with or more with not to bother verifying me although I will verify them if they ask but after hearing my reason for not wanting to be verified myself they decide the same .
What I do with any woman or couple and who with is my business and has nothing to do with those who may want to meet me in the future .if they think I'm fake or have miss giving about me I'd rather not meet then anyway .
I think the very system is fake anyway no one going to say in one you know what he wasn't as good as I thought or she was not as great in bed as I thought so I view them for this reason as fake compliments designed to boost egos of those receiving them and giving them out ."
I feel it's a bit unfair to say you'd rather not meet someone who has misgivings about you for not displaying verifications. The misgivings would not be personal against you, more because many people have had bad experiences from arranging to meet someone who hide their verifications. More of a case of fakes and timewasters spoiling it for others. Fair enough if you wish to stick to your guns and keep you sex life private. But it doesn't mean that someone who feels they cannot risk meeting someone without displayed verifications, is not worthy of meeting you. Their reasons for feeling the need for verifications are unfortunately very legitimate. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I leave ours up mainly because they are more character statements, which I like to think are just as valid now.
I never trust a profile with 1 verification that's hidden.
D"
This......
I don't mind if verifications are shown or not. The summary is a good thing to give an idea if genuine. One or two more recent also helps. After all, they only confirm that you do exist/meet. |
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We don't see verifications as a way of finding anything out other than us being real.
It probably indicates the frequency of our swinging too.
I'm sure if we had issues like stalking or a person who verified us going nuts we'd also hide them. But thankfully everyone we've met so far seems pretty sane.
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I've had several, but all the people I've met have left the site and therefore their verifications were deleted with their profiles. I don't meet often and therefore haven't any new ones to show.
There's nothing I can do about it (apart from getting some fresh ones). |
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I don't display verifications from guys who identify as straight for discetionary reasons..
I have been told that some people get off on reading verifications,so a good reason to display old and new.
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By *easerxxWoman
over a year ago
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"I leave ours up mainly because they are more character statements, which I like to think are just as valid now.
I never trust a profile with 1 verification that's hidden.
I have one hidden as I had a a few problems with the guy after meeting "
this ^^^^^^ never again |
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By *andsonjohnMan
over a year ago
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"Hide all of mine and the summary. What I do or don't do is no one's business but mine.
Also if people need other peoples opinions of me in order to decide if they want to get to know me then I'd rather not bother with them
I agree with this whole heartily .I only have one on my profile from over a year ago .I met other women in that time before I took a break for about 10 months due to not being able to meet .
I also tell any woman I've had a social with or more with not to bother verifying me although I will verify them if they ask but after hearing my reason for not wanting to be verified myself they decide the same .
What I do with any woman or couple and who with is my business and has nothing to do with those who may want to meet me in the future .if they think I'm fake or have miss giving about me I'd rather not meet then anyway .
I think the very system is fake anyway no one going to say in one you know what he wasn't as good as I thought or she was not as great in bed as I thought so I view them for this reason as fake compliments designed to boost egos of those receiving them and giving them out .
I feel it's a bit unfair to say you'd rather not meet someone who has misgivings about you for not displaying verifications. The misgivings would not be personal against you, more because many people have had bad experiences from arranging to meet someone who hide their verifications. More of a case of fakes and timewasters spoiling it for others. Fair enough if you wish to stick to your guns and keep you sex life private. But it doesn't mean that someone who feels they cannot risk meeting someone without displayed verifications, is not worthy of meeting you. Their reasons for feeling the need for verifications are unfortunately very legitimate."
All your points are good points and I see where your coming from and to be fair I was talking about first contact. by that I mean when someone checks out my profile after seeing a forum post of mine or a message I may have sent .
But all your worries could be ended by a simple message swap then I quick phone chat finished off with a social in a public place .
Yes if your organizing only sex meets no social before hand all your points are very spot on but as I would never agree to a sex meet with out having been on a social with that person or couple first I can afford to stick to my guns . |
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