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over a year ago
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I really want to go to a Swinging Club. My closest is Chameleons in Newport. Problem is that I have horrendous social anxiety (for those who speak to me on here, I know, it's shocking. But it's easy to act confident behind a screen). I either end up talking too much because of nerves or sitting in the corner eating crisps. Lots of them. What would people's advice be towards this predicament? |
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By *uzy444Woman
over a year ago
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"I really want to go to a Swinging Club. My closest is Chameleons in Newport. Problem is that I have horrendous social anxiety (for those who speak to me on here, I know, it's shocking. But it's easy to act confident behind a screen). I either end up talking too much because of nerves or sitting in the corner eating crisps. Lots of them. What would people's advice be towards this predicament?"
go on a day time when its quiet for a look around and do what you need to do to cope with it, with no intention at all to play..maybe after that try a themed night where you can be inconspicuous cos its busy, again just going because you are doing this for yourself...but i would do the quiet thing first to orientate yourself and make the surroundings familiar..i also have social anxiety..i have my ways of dealing with it, only occasionally does it get too much.. i feel for you, but dont whatever you do let it stop you from going..xxx
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"I really want to go to a Swinging Club. My closest is Chameleons in Newport. Problem is that I have horrendous social anxiety (for those who speak to me on here, I know, it's shocking. But it's easy to act confident behind a screen). I either end up talking too much because of nerves or sitting in the corner eating crisps. Lots of them. What would people's advice be towards this predicament?go on a day time when its quiet for a look around and do what you need to do to cope with it, with no intention at all to play..maybe after that try a themed night where you can be inconspicuous cos its busy, again just going because you are doing this for yourself...but i would do the quiet thing first to orientate yourself and make the surroundings familiar..i also have social anxiety..i have my ways of dealing with it, only occasionally does it get too much.. i feel for you, but dont whatever you do let it stop you from going..xxx"
Yeah, sounds good  wonder if they'll have a cosplay night. That would make me confident |
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By *uzy444Woman
over a year ago
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"I really want to go to a Swinging Club. My closest is Chameleons in Newport. Problem is that I have horrendous social anxiety (for those who speak to me on here, I know, it's shocking. But it's easy to act confident behind a screen). I either end up talking too much because of nerves or sitting in the corner eating crisps. Lots of them. What would people's advice be towards this predicament?go on a day time when its quiet for a look around and do what you need to do to cope with it, with no intention at all to play..maybe after that try a themed night where you can be inconspicuous cos its busy, again just going because you are doing this for yourself...but i would do the quiet thing first to orientate yourself and make the surroundings familiar..i also have social anxiety..i have my ways of dealing with it, only occasionally does it get too much.. i feel for you, but dont whatever you do let it stop you from going..xxx
Yeah, sounds good wonder if they'll have a cosplay night. That would make me confident"
what do you like to dress as? blindfolded, makes me confident  x |
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"I really want to go to a Swinging Club. My closest is Chameleons in Newport. Problem is that I have horrendous social anxiety (for those who speak to me on here, I know, it's shocking. But it's easy to act confident behind a screen). I either end up talking too much because of nerves or sitting in the corner eating crisps. Lots of them. What would people's advice be towards this predicament?go on a day time when its quiet for a look around and do what you need to do to cope with it, with no intention at all to play..maybe after that try a themed night where you can be inconspicuous cos its busy, again just going because you are doing this for yourself...but i would do the quiet thing first to orientate yourself and make the surroundings familiar..i also have social anxiety..i have my ways of dealing with it, only occasionally does it get too much.. i feel for you, but dont whatever you do let it stop you from going..xxx
Yeah, sounds good wonder if they'll have a cosplay night. That would make me confident what do you like to dress as? blindfolded, makes me confident x"
I actually dress as my Original Character, who I play in my Local LARP group. F'aalkir. He is a mercanary :') so would be there in studded leather armour and a foam long sword  |
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By *uzy444Woman
over a year ago
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"I really want to go to a Swinging Club. My closest is Chameleons in Newport. Problem is that I have horrendous social anxiety (for those who speak to me on here, I know, it's shocking. But it's easy to act confident behind a screen). I either end up talking too much because of nerves or sitting in the corner eating crisps. Lots of them. What would people's advice be towards this predicament?go on a day time when its quiet for a look around and do what you need to do to cope with it, with no intention at all to play..maybe after that try a themed night where you can be inconspicuous cos its busy, again just going because you are doing this for yourself...but i would do the quiet thing first to orientate yourself and make the surroundings familiar..i also have social anxiety..i have my ways of dealing with it, only occasionally does it get too much.. i feel for you, but dont whatever you do let it stop you from going..xxx
Yeah, sounds good wonder if they'll have a cosplay night. That would make me confident what do you like to dress as? blindfolded, makes me confident x
I actually dress as my Original Character, who I play in my Local LARP group. F'aalkir. He is a mercanary :') so would be there in studded leather armour and a foam long sword im sure studded leather would go down well on any club night  x
As long as they are patient enough to undo all the buckles or have me take them like a viking "
hey, take em like a viking |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"I really want to go to a Swinging Club. My closest is Chameleons in Newport. Problem is that I have horrendous social anxiety (for those who speak to me on here, I know, it's shocking. But it's easy to act confident behind a screen). I either end up talking too much because of nerves or sitting in the corner eating crisps. Lots of them. What would people's advice be towards this predicament?go on a day time when its quiet for a look around and do what you need to do to cope with it, with no intention at all to play..maybe after that try a themed night where you can be inconspicuous cos its busy, again just going because you are doing this for yourself...but i would do the quiet thing first to orientate yourself and make the surroundings familiar..i also have social anxiety..i have my ways of dealing with it, only occasionally does it get too much.. i feel for you, but dont whatever you do let it stop you from going..xxx
Yeah, sounds good wonder if they'll have a cosplay night. That would make me confident what do you like to dress as? blindfolded, makes me confident x
I actually dress as my Original Character, who I play in my Local LARP group. F'aalkir. He is a mercanary :') so would be there in studded leather armour and a foam long sword im sure studded leather would go down well on any club night x
As long as they are patient enough to undo all the buckles or have me take them like a viking hey, take em like a viking "
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By *not69Man
over a year ago
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Why not ask someone you have met before tho go with you. You might not feel as anxious with someone else there too. At least then if you don't feel like socialising you have someone to talk to instead of eating crisps |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"Why not ask someone you have met before tho go with you. You might not feel as anxious with someone else there too. At least then if you don't feel like socialising you have someone to talk to instead of eating crisps"
That's where the other part comes in. When I'm nervous, I can also talk for Wales. It puts people off because of the chatter, trying to make sure no silences follow as the silence makes me feel even worse |
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"I really want to go to a Swinging Club. My closest is Chameleons in Newport. Problem is that I have horrendous social anxiety (for those who speak to me on here, I know, it's shocking. But it's easy to act confident behind a screen). I either end up talking too much because of nerves or sitting in the corner eating crisps. Lots of them. What would people's advice be towards this predicament?go on a day time when its quiet for a look around and do what you need to do to cope with it, with no intention at all to play..maybe after that try a themed night where you can be inconspicuous cos its busy, again just going because you are doing this for yourself...but i would do the quiet thing first to orientate yourself and make the surroundings familiar..i also have social anxiety..i have my ways of dealing with it, only occasionally does it get too much.. i feel for you, but dont whatever you do let it stop you from going..xxx
Yeah, sounds good wonder if they'll have a cosplay night. That would make me confident what do you like to dress as? blindfolded, makes me confident x"
I'll second the blindfold  |
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