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anal training - after a tear.. not for the squeamish
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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okay used to be able to enjoy this with no problem's.. long story short many years ago a guy was stupidly vigorous and i ended up having stitches...
However still managed with prep and even sometimes spur of the moment with little or no issue. Then one night a little carried away with my partner i tore again.. no stiches but had to wait and it hurt worse..
anyway... Still have managed since then but i am struggling. I am convinced 99% of it is psychological as sometimes im fine.. other times i just nearly cry..
I love how it feels and i only do it with someone i know very well... So having never needed to do any training.. how do people recomend...
I have many different sized toys and buttplugs.. and have heard that a syringe to get lube inside ia a good idea..
thanks in advance..
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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The syringe is a good way to get the lube inside. But remember if you think you have used enough lube, double it!! Anal-eze is good as it has a local anesthetic component to it. Plus (may get abuse for this!) Poppers can help. They not only relax smooth muscles (inc the Anal sphichter) but also increase sexual appetite x |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"I can't do it either. Tried every trick in the book but my body just won't allow it. I think it's psychological. Possibly the case with you too?"
i really do think its fear of tearing again.. as even after ive taken some good times there but now can sometimes not even manage a gentle finger and i know my body tenses as i can feel it every where else.
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"The syringe is a good way to get the lube inside. But remember if you think you have used enough lube, double it!! Anal-eze is good as it has a local anesthetic component to it. Plus (may get abuse for this!) Poppers can help. They not only relax smooth muscles (inc the Anal sphichter) but also increase sexual appetite x "
thanks but problem with analeze is i need to feel any issues.. and i wouldnt ever use poppers.. as even used close to me i get quite ill
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I was bleeding for age from Ass after dp week before last, it's frightening at the time. Am apprehensive to try again.
Your experience sounds horrendous OP.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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That's the trouble with scar tissue it doesn't stretch so you'll always be prone to either tearing again or at the very least irritating it. This is why I really struggle.
I've found the best way is when you are having sleepy sex/spooning with intent! Lol. You're ultra relaxed and not over thinking it and then, for me at least, it can just slowly ease in while you're blissed out
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By (user no longer on site)
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All this panic about lube. I went to a room with a couple of guys and realised my lube was actually hairspray!!!!
Spit and the lube on a condom was enough for a fabulous spit roasting.  |
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"All this panic about lube. I went to a room with a couple of guys and realised my lube was actually hairspray!!!!
Spit and the lube on a condom was enough for a fabulous spit roasting. "
I have a fairly logical theory that Men have bigger arseholes than women. |
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I think the best training is with a partner.
When we're horny then we can be receptive in ways that are enabled by just that. Solo prep can lack that vital element. And with a partner we cam have foreplay first, which prepares the body.
It's a bit like running a long race without warning up or stretching. Foreplay will get your circulation flowing, you'll relax more etc. Hormones may change too.
If you're in the hands of your partner you can also relax more. Try different positions, breathing, as if doing yoga.
Just do little and often, whilst your skill and trust improves.
Otherwise some great advice here. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"Do you not ever think for one moment it's your body's way of saying ~ this ain't for me"
no as happily enjoyed it many many times.. and it feels amazing
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"Do you not ever think for one moment it's your body's way of saying ~ this ain't for me no as happily enjoyed it many many times.. and it feels amazing "
maybe get your anus checked out, make sure all is okay with the scar tissue & nothing else is going on up there. peace of mind may help you relax  |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"Do you not ever think for one moment it's your body's way of saying ~ this ain't for me no as happily enjoyed it many many times.. and it feels amazing
maybe get your anus checked out, make sure all is okay with the scar tissue & nothing else is going on up there. peace of mind may help you relax "
its been checked but they tell you not to do anal anyway x |
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