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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Ok me and my partner have always liked the idea of meeting solo. Still not happened yet though. Would be a big turn on for the one sat at home. We did have our own profiles but seemed to get a lot of stick of others. Is it really a big problem doing solo meets. At the end of the day your having sex with someone else so what difference does it make if you both doing it together or solo. We both know and give our blessing for each to play solo so it's not like we're doing anything behind each others back. Do any other couples play solo and do you get a lot of shit of others for doing it. |
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over a year ago
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"Always play solo, never had issues.
You make your own rules as a couple and use the site for what you want as singles  "
The problem seems to be when we or more so my fella contacts people. They don't seem to believe that Im happy for him to play solo. |
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"Always play solo, never had issues.
You make your own rules as a couple and use the site for what you want as singles
The problem seems to be when we or more so my fella contacts people. They don't seem to believe that Im happy for him to play solo."
Probably because this bit of your profile -
"We've had a couple of meets where the couple we have met have only been interested in playing with Mrs and not Mr. That is not what we're looking for we play as a couple" - suggests you don't meet alone.
You need to make it clear in the profile text you both play alone for others to believe you.
Or why not have single profiles, again stating your situation in the text. This works for others |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Just be aware that this change means loads of messages direct to the the Mrs asking fir a meet alone.
And no messages to the husband asking to meet alone.
Probbaly losing you a lot of the couple meet messages as they become just the fem mesages. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Profile should always tell it like it is so spell out what you are looking for, some people actually read profiles and they are your introduction to people who want to meet.
Good luck and hope you find all the fun you are looking for as a couple and as singles. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Always play solo, never had issues.
You make your own rules as a couple and use the site for what you want as singles
The problem seems to be when we or more so my fella contacts people. They don't seem to believe that Im happy for him to play solo.
Probably because this bit of your profile -
"We've had a couple of meets where the couple we have met have only been interested in playing with Mrs and not Mr. That is not what we're looking for we play as a couple" - suggests you don't meet alone.
You need to make it clear in the profile text you both play alone for others to believe you.
Or why not have single profiles, again stating your situation in the text. This works for others "
We did have single profiles it was the single profiles that was the problem. That bit of text is when you meet a couple who make it seem like they want full swap but push one or the other out. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Playing solo causes us no problems....we both read the messages on fabs, we both go to the same clubs sometimes and often know the meets.......one of us is a little more active than the other that's all! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"This profile is for us as a couple not for single meets so people will be wasting there time even trying lol. "
But you just said youre using it to message people for single meets |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"This profile is for us as a couple not for single meets so people will be wasting there time even trying lol.
But you just said youre using it to message people for single meets"
If you read the main thread it said we had single profiles |
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My wife and I both play solo and we don't even have a couples account. Just our preferred style, though at clubs we do sometimes get involved in group sex together.
Do make your situation clear in your profile but there is nothing wrong flying solo with your partner's blessing. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"This profile is for us as a couple not for single meets so people will be wasting there time even trying lol.
But you just said youre using it to message people for single meets"
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We did have our own profiles but seemed to get a lot of stick of others. Is it really a big problem doing solo meets |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Always play solo, never had issues.
You make your own rules as a couple and use the site for what you want as singles
The problem seems to be when we or more so my fella contacts people. They don't seem to believe that Im happy for him to play solo.
Probably because this bit of your profile -
"We've had a couple of meets where the couple we have met have only been interested in playing with Mrs and not Mr. That is not what we're looking for we play as a couple" - suggests you don't meet alone.
You need to make it clear in the profile text you both play alone for others to believe you.
Or why not have single profiles, again stating your situation in the text. This works for others
We did have single profiles it was the single profiles that was the problem. That bit of text is when you meet a couple who make it seem like they want full swap but push one or the other out. "
You're missing my point.
If we were meeting a single man who was also in a couple we'd like his profile to say he has a couples profile and preferably the name of it, so we could see, and also for the couple profile to say they met alone from a single profile.
This way its all transparent, and everyone can see you're not going behind your partners back.
There are lots of men wanting to meet on here, we'll choose the ones that are honest, upfront and transparent every time over those were you're not sure what's going on, or need to try and work it out yourself.
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Always play solo, never had issues.
You make your own rules as a couple and use the site for what you want as singles
The problem seems to be when we or more so my fella contacts people. They don't seem to believe that Im happy for him to play solo.
Probably because this bit of your profile -
"We've had a couple of meets where the couple we have met have only been interested in playing with Mrs and not Mr. That is not what we're looking for we play as a couple" - suggests you don't meet alone.
You need to make it clear in the profile text you both play alone for others to believe you.
Or why not have single profiles, again stating your situation in the text. This works for others
We did have single profiles it was the single profiles that was the problem. That bit of text is when you meet a couple who make it seem like they want full swap but push one or the other out.
You're missing my point.
If we were meeting a single man who was also in a couple we'd like his profile to say he has a couples profile and preferably the name of it, so we could see, and also for the couple profile to say they met alone from a single profile.
This way its all transparent, and everyone can see you're not going behind your partners back.
There are lots of men wanting to meet on here, we'll choose the ones that are honest, upfront and transparent every time over those were you're not sure what's going on, or need to try and work it out yourself.
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Witch is what we did have but as the single profiles have now been deleted for the hasssle we were getting we've delete the bits of this profile saying about them |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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My single profile said I was marred and we were swingers and I had full permission of my fella to do solo meets with the name of this profile and his profile his said the same. It was also put on this profile. Couldn't of made it much clearer really but he always got hassle saying that he was cheating. |
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Hmm...I would not publish my wife's profile name in my profile....but I do state that she is happy to confirm everything. She even once had dinner with a lady who wanted to play with me. But posting a link to her profile....no. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Always play solo, never had issues.
You make your own rules as a couple and use the site for what you want as singles
The problem seems to be when we or more so my fella contacts people. They don't seem to believe that Im happy for him to play solo.
Probably because this bit of your profile -
"We've had a couple of meets where the couple we have met have only been interested in playing with Mrs and not Mr. That is not what we're looking for we play as a couple" - suggests you don't meet alone.
You need to make it clear in the profile text you both play alone for others to believe you.
Or why not have single profiles, again stating your situation in the text. This works for others
We did have single profiles it was the single profiles that was the problem. That bit of text is when you meet a couple who make it seem like they want full swap but push one or the other out.
You're missing my point.
If we were meeting a single man who was also in a couple we'd like his profile to say he has a couples profile and preferably the name of it, so we could see, and also for the couple profile to say they met alone from a single profile.
This way its all transparent, and everyone can see you're not going behind your partners back.
There are lots of men wanting to meet on here, we'll choose the ones that are honest, upfront and transparent every time over those were you're not sure what's going on, or need to try and work it out yourself.
Witch is what we did have but as the single profiles have now been deleted for the hasssle we were getting we've delete the bits of this profile saying about them "
You said earlier the male has trouble getting people to believe he's allowed to meet alone, I was just saying what we would look for.
You'll always get hassle, we get it on our couples profile, we ignore it or laugh at them |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Always play solo, never had issues.
You make your own rules as a couple and use the site for what you want as singles
The problem seems to be when we or more so my fella contacts people. They don't seem to believe that Im happy for him to play solo.
Probably because this bit of your profile -
"We've had a couple of meets where the couple we have met have only been interested in playing with Mrs and not Mr. That is not what we're looking for we play as a couple" - suggests you don't meet alone.
You need to make it clear in the profile text you both play alone for others to believe you.
Or why not have single profiles, again stating your situation in the text. This works for others
We did have single profiles it was the single profiles that was the problem. That bit of text is when you meet a couple who make it seem like they want full swap but push one or the other out.
You're missing my point.
If we were meeting a single man who was also in a couple we'd like his profile to say he has a couples profile and preferably the name of it, so we could see, and also for the couple profile to say they met alone from a single profile.
This way its all transparent, and everyone can see you're not going behind your partners back.
There are lots of men wanting to meet on here, we'll choose the ones that are honest, upfront and transparent every time over those were you're not sure what's going on, or need to try and work it out yourself.
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Why do you get shit from people OP? Like what? |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"I've had no problems playing solo. I use this profile though. Trying from our joint profile I can see would cause problems. "
Think we will just put it down to one of them things we tried didnt work out so good and move on lol. Stick to playing as a couple just as much fun to be had lol |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Always play solo, never had issues.
You make your own rules as a couple and use the site for what you want as singles
The problem seems to be when we or more so my fella contacts people. They don't seem to believe that Im happy for him to play solo.
Probably because this bit of your profile -
"We've had a couple of meets where the couple we have met have only been interested in playing with Mrs and not Mr. That is not what we're looking for we play as a couple" - suggests you don't meet alone.
You need to make it clear in the profile text you both play alone for others to believe you.
Or why not have single profiles, again stating your situation in the text. This works for others
We did have single profiles it was the single profiles that was the problem. That bit of text is when you meet a couple who make it seem like they want full swap but push one or the other out.
You're missing my point.
If we were meeting a single man who was also in a couple we'd like his profile to say he has a couples profile and preferably the name of it, so we could see, and also for the couple profile to say they met alone from a single profile.
This way its all transparent, and everyone can see you're not going behind your partners back.
There are lots of men wanting to meet on here, we'll choose the ones that are honest, upfront and transparent every time over those were you're not sure what's going on, or need to try and work it out yourself.
Why do you get shit from people OP? Like what?"
My fella if he ever tried contacting people of his single profile messages he got back were not nice about him cheating even though it was stated that I new. Lol |
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We play solo too but mainly after we have met others as couples . We let others know when we are at clubs or party's . We find lots of suspicious people on here ? Why a lot of people on here are married and playing behind their partners backs . They do at clubs also but we don't question them . We say if they get caught it's their own fault |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"We play solo too but mainly after we have met others as couples . We let others know when we are at clubs or party's . We find lots of suspicious people on here ? Why a lot of people on here are married and playing behind their partners backs . They do at clubs also but we don't question them . We say if they get caught it's their own fault "
Yeah that could off been the problem people not knowing who they could trust. Think for now we're just going to stick to playing as a couple less hassle and just as much fun if not more |
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As a single female I'm would usual question but not give abuse.
Maybe you could consider just having the couples profile but refresh it so that it is clear that while you enjoy meeting as a couple you are both happy to meet alone. That way anyone you message from it has all the information in one place.
The reason I say refresh is having looked at it .. Sorry I gave up 
It's is long and very cramped together. Perhaps break it into clearer paragraphs and include the essential parts ... it might be easier to read
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"As a single female I'm would usual question but not give abuse.
Maybe you could consider just having the couples profile but refresh it so that it is clear that while you enjoy meeting as a couple you are both happy to meet alone. That way anyone you message from it has all the information in one place.
The reason I say refresh is having looked at it .. Sorry I gave up
It's is long and very cramped together. Perhaps break it into clearer paragraphs and include the essential parts ... it might be easier to read
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Long and cramped but then break it up wouldnt that make it longer. Also this was about people meeting alone not about our profile.
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Even though me and Kim meet as a couple i do meet on my own as well, i have never had any stick off anyone and nobody as ever questioned how we play as a couple/solo etc.
I do state on my solo profile that anyone wanting to meet me can contact Kim as we don't have any secrets between us, up to yet I've had a few meets with no problems from others. |
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It a suggestion to give you the meeting individuallyou without perhaps the abuse . Especially as you said you'd already deleted the single ones.
It wouldn't be longer if it was edited, just easier to read as against one big paragraph was my thought as when I looked into did find it difficult to read.
I answered from a single female p.o.v if your husband messaged me from a single profile I would still ask questions however I have had them from couples profiles that were succinct and clear and that seemed to work ok.
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"It a suggestion to give you the meeting individuallyou without perhaps the abuse . Especially as you said you'd already deleted the single ones.
It wouldn't be longer if it was edited, just easier to read as against one big paragraph was my thought as when I looked into did find it difficult to read.
I answered from a single female p.o.v if your husband messaged me from a single profile I would still ask questions however I have had them from couples profiles that were succinct and clear and that seemed to work ok.
Sorry for replying! "
No need to be sorry. So if we decide to meet solo again do it from one profile is your advice? Took you advice on our profile and tried to freshen it up. What do you think now? |
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Have you written on his profile that you (f) are happy to meet with/phone the other woman just to clarify that he isn't cheating and has your approval to play with others?
It is fine writting that you are married, the mrs knows and is ok about meeting. But we hear it loads and don't always believe it. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"Have you written on his profile that you (f) are happy to meet with/phone the other woman just to clarify that he isn't cheating and has your approval to play with others?
It is fine writting that you are married, the mrs knows and is ok about meeting. But we hear it loads and don't always believe it."
Yeah that was said to one they said it could be anyone on the phone lol. |
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The thing with it is while your situation seems genuine there are many times it's not, I've lost count of the times there been a couple on these very forums where they are so happy would never meet alone they trust each other etc then the males half messages you behind her back from his no pic basic profile asking for me a solo meet.
When I was a couple, we did play solo but there was a paragraph on put couples profile stating if you messages is on that we meet as a couple but our singles profiles are (insert names) for solo play meets, then those single profiles would name others single profile and our couples profile, we never had any problems |
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"Have you written on his profile that you (f) are happy to meet with/phone the other woman just to clarify that he isn't cheating and has your approval to play with others?
It is fine writting that you are married, the mrs knows and is ok about meeting. But we hear it loads and don't always believe it.
Yeah that was said to one they said it could be anyone on the phone lol. "
Always give the female/couple you are meeting the option to ring your wife/partner as it makes a relaxed atmosphere hence more sociable meets. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"The thing with it is while your situation seems genuine there are many times it's not, I've lost count of the times there been a couple on these very forums where they are so happy would never meet alone they trust each other etc then the males half messages you behind her back from his no pic basic profile asking for me a solo meet.
When I was a couple, we did play solo but there was a paragraph on put couples profile stating if you messages is on that we meet as a couple but our singles profiles are (insert names) for solo play meets, then those single profiles would name others single profile and our couples profile, we never had any problems "
That's how we had it set up. Seems like we were just unlucky. Maybe with all this info we may try it again in the future. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"Have you written on his profile that you (f) are happy to meet with/phone the other woman just to clarify that he isn't cheating and has your approval to play with others?
It is fine writting that you are married, the mrs knows and is ok about meeting. But we hear it loads and don't always believe it.
Yeah that was said to one they said it could be anyone on the phone lol.
Always give the female/couple you are meeting the option to ring your wife/partner as it makes a relaxed atmosphere hence more sociable meets."
We always said we would both meet for a socail first if it made things more relaxed |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"We meet alone! So she's had 50 meets, I've had one. Yay."
Lol yeah I was never short of ofers lol. Must be couples guys and fems don't worry about or mind us females cheating lmao. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Always play solo, never had issues.
You make your own rules as a couple and use the site for what you want as singles
The problem seems to be when we or more so my fella contacts people. They don't seem to believe that Im happy for him to play solo.
Probably because this bit of your profile -
"We've had a couple of meets where the couple we have met have only been interested in playing with Mrs and not Mr. That is not what we're looking for we play as a couple" - suggests you don't meet alone.
You need to make it clear in the profile text you both play alone for others to believe you.
Or why not have single profiles, again stating your situation in the text. This works for others
We did have single profiles it was the single profiles that was the problem. That bit of text is when you meet a couple who make it seem like they want full swap but push one or the other out.
You're missing my point.
If we were meeting a single man who was also in a couple we'd like his profile to say he has a couples profile and preferably the name of it, so we could see, and also for the couple profile to say they met alone from a single profile.
This way its all transparent, and everyone can see you're not going behind your partners back.
There are lots of men wanting to meet on here, we'll choose the ones that are honest, upfront and transparent every time over those were you're not sure what's going on, or need to try and work it out yourself.
Why do you get shit from people OP? Like what?
My fella if he ever tried contacting people of his single profile messages he got back were not nice about him cheating even though it was stated that I new. Lol "
Just the way it goes unfortunately. It's not personal. As others have said, some men pretend to be couples, some men pretend they have permission. It's a minefield. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"We meet alone! So she's had 50 meets, I've had one. Yay.
Lol yeah I was never short of ofers lol. Must be couples guys and fems don't worry about or mind us females cheating lmao. "
Yep your totally right there. Its called double standards |
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Us men just have to accept that we outnumber the ladies. My wife gets many more offers than I do, it is ladies' choice
Naturally women are suspicious of guys from couples messaging behind the wife's back. But offers of communication or meeting with the wife ought to work. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"Always play solo, never had issues.
You make your own rules as a couple and use the site for what you want as singles
The problem seems to be when we or more so my fella contacts people. They don't seem to believe that Im happy for him to play solo.
Probably because this bit of your profile -
"We've had a couple of meets where the couple we have met have only been interested in playing with Mrs and not Mr. That is not what we're looking for we play as a couple" - suggests you don't meet alone.
You need to make it clear in the profile text you both play alone for others to believe you.
Or why not have single profiles, again stating your situation in the text. This works for others
We did have single profiles it was the single profiles that was the problem. That bit of text is when you meet a couple who make it seem like they want full swap but push one or the other out.
You're missing my point.
If we were meeting a single man who was also in a couple we'd like his profile to say he has a couples profile and preferably the name of it, so we could see, and also for the couple profile to say they met alone from a single profile.
This way its all transparent, and everyone can see you're not going behind your partners back.
There are lots of men wanting to meet on here, we'll choose the ones that are honest, upfront and transparent every time over those were you're not sure what's going on, or need to try and work it out yourself.
Why do you get shit from people OP? Like what?
My fella if he ever tried contacting people of his single profile messages he got back were not nice about him cheating even though it was stated that I new. Lol
Just the way it goes unfortunately. It's not personal. As others have said, some men pretend to be couples, some men pretend they have permission. It's a minefield. "
We didnt take it personally. Just more frustrating lol. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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We meet as solo's and funny enough he has more luck than me!
Never had any issues with people questioning us over cheating and mention it in both couples & singles profiles.
I would give single profiles a go and just ignore those that have an opinion on it. Do you really want to meet them anyway? |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Ok me and my partner have always liked the idea of meeting solo. Still not happened yet though. Would be a big turn on for the one sat at home. We did have our own profiles but seemed to get a lot of stick of others. Is it really a big problem doing solo meets. At the end of the day your having sex with someone else so what difference does it make if you both doing it together or solo. We both know and give our blessing for each to play solo so it's not like we're doing anything behind each others back. Do any other couples play solo and do you get a lot of shit of others for doing it. "
I would like to see you both
1 watch you fuck
2 possible mmf
3 solo meet with fem
But you need to strike up a conversation
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By *hicNGeekCouple
over a year ago
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We have a couples profile which is all about him being allowed to play solo. We do have the advantage that we only play at clubs and will always attend together, never alone. Never really had an issue, although some people have liked to clarify with her that it's ok to play with him. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"We meet as solo's and funny enough he has more luck than me!
Never had any issues with people questioning us over cheating and mention it in both couples & singles profiles.
I would give single profiles a go and just ignore those that have an opinion on it. Do you really want to meet them anyway? "
No not really lol. We may try again soon bit for now we're happy meeting together. It's meant to be fun and it started to take the fun out of it we just wanted to no if others had the same problem. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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My fella has this problem and does get the occasional bit of stick for playing alone or as they say 'cheating'. I thought it was due to me choosing not to play solo they didn't believe him. However, it can't be if you have the same problem. I wouldn't stress about them too much and keep trying.
I laugh at them now tbh as I'm lucky enough to know what they are turning down but hey ho their loss  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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You do whatever makes you happy and that you enjoy. As long as it doesn't hurt or impact others, who has a right to care? Ignore anyone who judges you or critics you for it. X |
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"It a suggestion to give you the meeting individuallyou without perhaps the abuse . Especially as you said you'd already deleted the single ones.
It wouldn't be longer if it was edited, just easier to read as against one big paragraph was my thought as when I looked into did find it difficult to read.
I answered from a single female p.o.v if your husband messaged me from a single profile I would still ask questions however I have had them from couples profiles that were succinct and clear and that seemed to work ok.
Sorry for replying!
No need to be sorry. So if we decide to meet solo again do it from one profile is your advice? Took you advice on our profile and tried to freshen it up. What do you think now? "
It is an easier read yes
Good luck if you try again |
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