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Profile advice , not sure if this is the right place :p
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Hey guys , before I start sorry if this is the wrong place too post this but wasn't too sure how to find my way about the forum :p (my first time using the forum)
My question is, is there something wrong specifically with my profile ?
Just purely because I get people looking at my profile all the time and also get people reading my messages , but only get one or two repplys and if I do, it normally never comes to anything.
before anyone asks I don't copy and paste every message and I don't think I'm being rude or pushy, and I always double check my messages for grammatical errors etc.
just would be great to have some advice on how to improve my profile/pictures etc , so I ateast get some responses , and even better that naughty fun were all looking for :D thanks in advance, happy swinging everyone :D |
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Firstly, without really wanting to - I think you're gonna have to reevaluate your expectations from the site from the point of view of time cos you've only been here two weeks.
My advice to you is to spend some time reading the advice other guys have been given and then pick and choose those bits you think apply to you, then rewrite your profile until you are happy with it.
Then go to a social and a club and put up a meet in the meets section and join in on the forums and the chatrooms and cam rooms and don't expect instant results.
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over a year ago
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"Firstly, without really wanting to - I think you're gonna have to reevaluate your expectations from the site from the point of view of time cos you've only been here two weeks.
My advice to you is to spend some time reading the advice other guys have been given and then pick and choose those bits you think apply to you, then rewrite your profile until you are happy with it.
Then go to a social and a club and put up a meet in the meets section and join in on the forums and the chatrooms and cam rooms and don't expect instant results.
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Thanks for the advice :D I'll have a look through the other posts now :D I know I've only been on here a few weeks but that's only with this account been on here before and had a couple of meets but no such luck as of yet :D I'm not expecting instant results though it's just I've been on and off here because it never really worked before either , but yeah thankyou I'll have a look through the forums now :D |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Go date 18 year olds while you still can.
Don't waste your time chasing married women. They will always be there , the 18 year olds won't "
Its not like swinging is for a certain age group :D to be fair I'd prefer older women then 18 year olds , their all waay to much maintenance and also older women know what they are doing :p to be honest all younger girls personalities are crap aswell :D thanks for the advice though :p |
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"Go date 18 year olds while you still can.
Don't waste your time chasing married women. They will always be there , the 18 year olds won't
Its not like swinging is for a certain age group :D to be fair I'd prefer older women then 18 year olds , their all waay to much maintenance and also older women know what they are doing :p to be honest all younger girls personalities are crap aswell :D thanks for the advice though :p"
No worries... I'm just letting you know it's easier to pull 18 year olds when you're 20 . Than when you're 35 
Good luck my friend |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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If I had a meet for every time I see people end with "I don't bite, unless you want me to "
I'd be a fucking expert.
I asked same stuff yesterday. Going by what I was told, your fine, it's just there's so few women compared to men here. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"If I had a meet for every time I see people end with "I don't bite, unless you want me to "
I'd be a fucking expert.
I asked same stuff yesterday. Going by what I was told, your fine, it's just there's so few women compared to men here."
Lol does that mean I should take that bit off then ? :p
Ahh sweet :D thankyou mate , just trial and error I suppose 
Yeah I've found that as well to be honest and a fair few of them seem to be fake aswell but ah well going to get that everywhere I guess :p |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"If you're a single man why do you have pics of women in your profile?
And how many cocks do you have?  "
Because that's someone I've had fun with , I blurred her face obviously for privacy reasons :D
Lol just the one why's that ?:p does it look like different cocks or something ? :p |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"If you're a single man why do you have pics of women in your profile?
And how many cocks do you have? "
P.s would then pics of me and her out people off do you think ? I thought it would do the opposite , sort of showing that I'm not a complete newbie :D haha |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Go date 18 year olds while you still can.
Don't waste your time chasing married women. They will always be there , the 18 year olds won't
Its not like swinging is for a certain age group :D to be fair I'd prefer older women then 18 year olds , their all waay to much maintenance and also older women know what they are doing :p to be honest all younger girls personalities are crap aswell :D thanks for the advice though :p
No worries... I'm just letting you know it's easier to pull 18 year olds when you're 20 . Than when you're 35
Good luck my friend "
And this is from a 36 yo from America...so it has to be right! |
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"If you're a single man why do you have pics of women in your profile?
And how many cocks do you have?
P.s would then pics of me and her out people off do you think ? I thought it would do the opposite , sort of showing that I'm not a complete newbie :D haha "
To me it shows you may well be disrespecting someone who doesn't know the pics are on here, blurred or not. It shows you need to prove you've had sex.
Not saying either is the case but that's the subtle message you're giving.
Most women are interested in a single man being a single man, not with pics of his gf.
And most women are not interested in a guy solely for all the pics of his cock. You've got one, we know
Do a forum search for Profile Advice, there are some good threads on here. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Go date 18 year olds while you still can.
Don't waste your time chasing married women. They will always be there , the 18 year olds won't
Its not like swinging is for a certain age group :D to be fair I'd prefer older women then 18 year olds , their all waay to much maintenance and also older women know what they are doing :p to be honest all younger girls personalities are crap aswell :D thanks for the advice though :p
No worries... I'm just letting you know it's easier to pull 18 year olds when you're 20 . Than when you're 35
Good luck my friend
And this is from a 36 yo from America...so it has to be right!"
Because I'm American.. Should I not give my opinion  |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Go date 18 year olds while you still can.
Don't waste your time chasing married women. They will always be there , the 18 year olds won't
Its not like swinging is for a certain age group :D to be fair I'd prefer older women then 18 year olds , their all waay to much maintenance and also older women know what they are doing :p to be honest all younger girls personalities are crap aswell :D thanks for the advice though :p
No worries... I'm just letting you know it's easier to pull 18 year olds when you're 20 . Than when you're 35
Good luck my friend
And this is from a 36 yo from America...so it has to be right!
Because I'm American.. Should I not give my opinion "
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"If you're a single man why do you have pics of women in your profile?
And how many cocks do you have?
P.s would then pics of me and her out people off do you think ? I thought it would do the opposite , sort of showing that I'm not a complete newbie :D haha
To me it shows you may well be disrespecting someone who doesn't know the pics are on here, blurred or not. It shows you need to prove you've had sex.
Not saying either is the case but that's the subtle message you're giving.
Most women are interested in a single man being a single man, not with pics of his gf.
And most women are not interested in a guy solely for all the pics of his cock. You've got one, we know
Do a forum search for Profile Advice, there are some good threads on here."
Ahh fair enough I hadn't even thought of that no she know that they are on here just asked me to blur any out that I do put on here :D because just as much as I wouldn't she doesn't want her face to be on here :D
Hadn't thought of that either too be fair I don't think of implying stuff to be honest :D I'll change them tomorrow then :p and as I said she's not and never has been my gf :p just someone I have fun with from time too time :p lol yeah that's dairy enough but if I didn't have pictures of my dick on here then people would complain lol you can't win either way really ? I don't have face pics public for an obvious reason , privacy but I'm happy to send them and I do send them with every first message I send and if they're asked for :D and okay I will do that in the morning too tired too at the moment :p thanks for the help |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"do u really need what 3 cock pics since we all know wat they look like  "
No I don't but people always ask me for more then one because of how the picture is taken they don't normally belive it or something like that :D but if I make them friends only would that help or do you reckon just put the none on here ? :p p.s I do need to take some better photos , just need someone too take them for me I'm ridiculously crap at taking self shots :D haha |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Because I'm American.. Should I not give my opinion "
Think she just ment the fact that your still young aswell mate :D don't take too offence ... well unless she did mean to offend :p
P.s sorry to refer to the women that said the American bit as "she" just didn't check the user before I typed this :p hehe |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Go date 18 year olds while you still can.
Don't waste your time chasing married women. They will always be there , the 18 year olds won't
Its not like swinging is for a certain age group :D to be fair I'd prefer older women then 18 year olds , their all waay to much maintenance and also older women know what they are doing :p to be honest all younger girls personalities are crap aswell :D thanks for the advice though :p
No worries... I'm just letting you know it's easier to pull 18 year olds when you're 20 . Than when you're 35
Good luck my friend
And this is from a 36 yo from America...so it has to be right!"
When it's the same race someone's belittling but different nationality what's the specific word for the bigotry?
Jingoist? |
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Ok op I've had a look and I'd say;
The two public pics are doing you no favours at all. the laying on the bed on your back pic while a good pose for most guys and women as it lets thier stomachs look flatter is a bad choice for you. You're very thin to begin with so that pose makes you look skeletal i can see you're whole pelvis.
So dodtch that go for stood up a towel csn be used by varing the hight on the waist to give a good impression.
The dick pic is just shit looks like you snapped it in bed with the flash on ditch it if you want w dick pic go for a decent pose/as part of a full body.
Expand the range of pics, face helps a lot too as most women wont bother messaging to ask for one.
The text is so contradictory as you're trying to be everything to everyone it's pointless.
Social aspect is a must...but you'll do fuck an go etc.
Just fuck off all the clichés (especially the biting one) and the emojies or at least cut them down, and actually write what you want.
Dont be afriad that it will rule some people out as the genericness of your current one wont entice anyone |
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"Ok op I've had a look and I'd say;
The two public pics are doing you no favours at all. the laying on the bed on your back pic while a good pose for most guys and women as it lets thier stomachs look flatter is a bad choice for you. You're very thin to begin with so that pose makes you look skeletal i can see you're whole pelvis.
So dodtch that go for stood up a towel csn be used by varing the hight on the waist to give a good impression.
The dick pic is just shit looks like you snapped it in bed with the flash on ditch it if you want w dick pic go for a decent pose/as part of a full body.
Expand the range of pics, face helps a lot too as most women wont bother messaging to ask for one.
The text is so contradictory as you're trying to be everything to everyone it's pointless.
Social aspect is a must...but you'll do fuck an go etc.
Just fuck off all the clichés (especially the biting one) and the emojies or at least cut them down, and actually write what you want.
Dont be afriad that it will rule some people out as the genericness of your current one wont entice anyone "
Completely agree with all of this. Follow this mans advice  |
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From a single female p.o.v and I can only speak for myself.
I don't generally like to see the generic age range - makes me think you couldn't be bothered with the options.
Your narrative although saying you like social /fuck and go/ longer regular fun
Is a bit mixed.. you bounce from oedema to another and back again so doesn't read well.
There's nothing that makes you different. .. your horny/won't bite
And???
Maybe swap a cock shot for a nice body shot ?
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By (user no longer on site)
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"do u really need what 3 cock pics since we all know wat they look like
No I don't but people always ask me for more then one because of how the picture is taken they don't normally belive it or something like that :D but if I make them friends only would that help or do you reckon just put the none on here ? :p p.s I do need to take some better photos , just need someone too take them for me I'm ridiculously crap at taking self shots :D haha "
Maybe ditch them all retake the body shot and cock shots and put the latter as friends only |
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By (user no longer on site)
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As above.
You're tieing yourself in knots trying to please everyone. Check your grammar and spelling. Ditch the emojis. If I ever see, "I don't bite" again I will thcweem and thcweem ... |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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Hey guys :D thanks for all the advice I would quote it all but it's a lot of different comments to quote . I belive that I've taken most of this to effect now? have checked the grammer, removed the smiles and stopped contradicting myself , you're right I put all of that to appeal to more people (sort of subconsciously)
I've moved all of my pics to friend's only for the moment until I get the chance too take some better ones (travelling back from my holidays today) I'm just not the best at taking photos of myself , think i might need to get someone too take a few :p I'm a bit weary of putting up face photos publicly aswell as some of you have suggested , do you think I should do though ? Has anyone had someone recognise them ? not that I'd mind if people knew really its just a couple people I could think of, good idea about going to club to get a verification :D will no doubt go too one as soon as possible . Thanks for all the advice again everyone and if I have made an error or something would appreciate any more advice that may be given :D |
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"Hey guys :D thanks for all the advice I would quote it all but it's a lot of different comments to quote . I belive that I've taken most of this to effect now? have checked the grammer, removed the smiles and stopped contradicting myself , you're right I put all of that to appeal to more people (sort of subconsciously)
I've moved all of my pics to friend's only for the moment until I get the chance too take some better ones (travelling back from my holidays today) I'm just not the best at taking photos of myself , think i might need to get someone too take a few :p I'm a bit weary of putting up face photos publicly aswell as some of you have suggested , do you think I should do though ? Has anyone had someone recognise them ? not that I'd mind if people knew really its just a couple people I could think of, good idea about going to club to get a verification :D will no doubt go too one as soon as possible . Thanks for all the advice again everyone and if I have made an error or something would appreciate any more advice that may be given :D"
You have a grammatical error in the third word of your profile so you have not checked it.
It still reads as an attempt to please everyone.
Why don't you sit down with pen and paper and draft something that tells the world something about you and your personality? |
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"Hey guys :D thanks for all the advice I would quote it all but it's a lot of different comments to quote . I belive that I've taken most of this to effect now? have checked the grammer, removed the smiles and stopped contradicting myself , you're right I put all of that to appeal to more people (sort of subconsciously)
I've moved all of my pics to friend's only for the moment until I get the chance too take some better ones (travelling back from my holidays today) I'm just not the best at taking photos of myself , think i might need to get someone too take a few :p I'm a bit weary of putting up face photos publicly aswell as some of you have suggested , do you think I should do though ? Has anyone had someone recognise them ? not that I'd mind if people knew really its just a couple people I could think of, good idea about going to club to get a verification :D will no doubt go too one as soon as possible . Thanks for all the advice again everyone and if I have made an error or something would appreciate any more advice that may be given :D
You have a grammatical error in the third word of your profile so you have not checked it.
It still reads as an attempt to please everyone.
Why don't you sit down with pen and paper and draft something that tells the world something about you and your personality?"
Sorry but the third word in my profile is "a" ? Don't think I spelt that wrong.
I Don't mean this in an argumentative way (don't want it to come across like that but could be taken like that, think I might just worry a bit too much) I don't recognise how it's trying to please everyone ?that's what I'm looking for on here, I do want regular meets but am happy to do one offs on the occasion, I do like to be "naughty" and I do like to wine and dine women etc, would there be any specifics that you think I am trying to please everyone ? Sorry if this is tedious just need to learn haha
but yeah you have a fair point I'll draft one up before putting it up on here again :D
I'm not very good at describing myself to be honest :S like personality traits etc my view of myself will be different to what others think , or at least I assume it will be. I'll probably sit down and write it when I've got a bit of time , so I can think it through properly again thanks for the advice does help a lot , wouldn't learn from my mistakes otherwise :p |
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"Hey guys :D thanks for all the advice I would quote it all but it's a lot of different comments to quote . I belive that I've taken most of this to effect now? have checked the grammer, removed the smiles and stopped contradicting myself , you're right I put all of that to appeal to more people (sort of subconsciously)
I've moved all of my pics to friend's only for the moment until I get the chance too take some better ones (travelling back from my holidays today) I'm just not the best at taking photos of myself , think i might need to get someone too take a few :p I'm a bit weary of putting up face photos publicly aswell as some of you have suggested , do you think I should do though ? Has anyone had someone recognise them ? not that I'd mind if people knew really its just a couple people I could think of, good idea about going to club to get a verification :D will no doubt go too one as soon as possible . Thanks for all the advice again everyone and if I have made an error or something would appreciate any more advice that may be given :D
You have a grammatical error in the third word of your profile so you have not checked it.
It still reads as an attempt to please everyone.
Why don't you sit down with pen and paper and draft something that tells the world something about you and your personality?
Sorry but the third word in my profile is "a" ? Don't think I spelt that wrong.
I Don't mean this in an argumentative way (don't want it to come across like that but could be taken like that, think I might just worry a bit too much) I don't recognise how it's trying to please everyone ?that's what I'm looking for on here, I do want regular meets but am happy to do one offs on the occasion, I do like to be "naughty" and I do like to wine and dine women etc, would there be any specifics that you think I am trying to please everyone ? Sorry if this is tedious just need to learn haha
but yeah you have a fair point I'll draft one up before putting it up on here again :D
I'm not very good at describing myself to be honest :S like personality traits etc my view of myself will be different to what others think , or at least I assume it will be. I'll probably sit down and write it when I've got a bit of time , so I can think it through properly again thanks for the advice does help a lot , wouldn't learn from my mistakes otherwise :p "
You did. It should be "an."
Read your profile from the point of view of a prospective lady. Ask yourself, honestly, whether she would find it attractive and exciting?
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