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I need some friendly advice
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"Stop whining and get out in the real world looking for sex rather than looking for it on sex sites. FFs at 18 the world was at my feet,why are u here?" Why are you getting so worked up about it, its my choice if i wanna be on here. | |||
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"So heres the thing. What do i need to do different too my profile to boost up my meets "your profile appears sulky and stroppy. that puts me off for a start, let alone your age.  | |||
"Stop whining and get out in the real world looking for sex rather than looking for it on sex sites. FFs at 18 the world was at my feet,why are u here?Why are you getting so worked up about it, its my choice if i wanna be on here." yeah,and you wanted advice...i chose to give it,not worked up,just amazed. | |||
"Stop whining and get out in the real world looking for sex rather than looking for it on sex sites. FFs at 18 the world was at my feet,why are u here?" Totally agree, your balls have only just dropped ffs get some life experience before you come on here worrying about what to do to get meets, there no girls your age putting it about in town? | |||
"Stop whining, your balls have only just dropped " Harsh, but I know what they mean. Good luck though! | |||
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"So heres the thing. What do i need to do different too my profile to boost up my meets "Nothing Tom,its your profile and you writ it,don't change a thing mate. Changing it is only pleasing others and not yourself | |||
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"So heres the thing. What do i need to do different too my profile to boost up my meets "Last log in 3 hours ago, so not sure if your wiling to ake the advice given, however, negativity in your profile is not a good idea, i.e. mentioning previous a/c / weirdos etc., Be positive, explain what you're looking for / what you can offer 
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"Tom Firstly I'm surprised at some of the responses, this site should tolerate all, age, race, sexuality etc. you politely asked for advice on your profile and that you should get, not others opinion on your age etc. OK, in my opinion (and its just that, my opinion) I would remove the historical comments, in reality its only personal to you and it wont attract anyone to your profile talking about it. Write something about yourself, not in your face "I want to fuck", or "I am great in bed" maybe something a bit funny or quirky but not odd and weird (fine balance) A bit about your likes, some dislikes, what you're looking for, you're availability to meet, travel, accommodate etc. Something about your appearance, e.g. tall, slim etc. Then some decent photos' don't need to show your face, but give people an idea of what you look like. I'd keep the naked, cock shots for your friends only album, there's thousands of dick shots on here, very few are that different. Most of all play safe and good luck, make sure your time waster and lunatic radar is switched on too." Sure you can tell him that will work,in fluffy bunny land,or he can look at those of us who were honest on this thread.Fact is swinging sites developed from the old contact mags(ahhh i miss black and white pics and snail mail)They were both there for people,generally couples,who wanted NSA sex and could not go on the hoy looking,or who chose not to waste nights .Quite frankly at 18 there are few barriers to getting out there,unlike those of us with careers and kids these sites were originally invented for...i hate the term swinger,but on threads like this i have to say an 18 yr old isnt one. | |||
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"Sure you can tell him that will work,in fluffy bunny land,or he can look at those of us who were honest on this thread.Fact is swinging sites developed from the old contact mags(ahhh i miss black and white pics and snail mail)They were both there for people,generally couples,who wanted NSA sex and could not go on the hoy looking,or who chose not to waste nights .Quite frankly at 18 there are few barriers to getting out there,unlike those of us with careers and kids these sites were originally invented for...i hate the term swinger,but on threads like this i have to say an 18 yr old isnt one." Good grief... do you hear yourself?! Tolerant? Open minded? Sites like these are made for people who join them. Who are you to say who should and shouldn't be a swinger or involved in the lifestyle? There are some days where I'm lost for words. | |||
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but I am sure there are some about who would like a young man.
As to your profile, I would take any negative comments off and show your fun side instead and maybe have a different avatar.
Good luck
PS, for anyone else, please don't frighten off the newbies | |||
"So heres the thing. What do i need to do different too my profile to boost up my meets "You need to create or develop a unique selling point. That's what your profile is for - to convince people they'll be missing out on something if they don't meet you. It's a bit like a cv; it's designed to get you an inter_iew and, after that, it's down to you to get the job - or in this case the meet. At the moment there's no USP on your profile, in fact there's a couple of things usually regarded as negative points such as the 18-99 (which some believe smacks of desperation) and the cannot accommodate (which some feel suggests you have something to hide). I'd also split your profile into at least two paragraphs. There's no obvious grammatical point at which you should make the break so two even sized chunks will suffice and will make reading it much, much easier. Good luck. | |||
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"Your age might stop you getting meets with us old fogies but I am sure there are some about who would like a young man."I quite like playing with young men, although he may not want to play with old fogies liek me.
If I was looking at a profile, age would not be the first thing I'd check. I would look at like,s distance, whether they could accommodate, and whether they have a nice friendly profile. Also, pics! However thats me, and those things may put off other women. Sorry to say to the OP but you aint ever goign to get it right for everybody! Good luck though. | |||
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"Sure you can tell him that will work,in fluffy bunny land,or he can look at those of us who were honest on this thread.Fact is swinging sites developed from the old contact mags(ahhh i miss black and white pics and snail mail)They were both there for people,generally couples,who wanted NSA sex and could not go on the hoy looking,or who chose not to waste nights .Quite frankly at 18 there are few barriers to getting out there,unlike those of us with careers and kids these sites were originally invented for...i hate the term swinger,but on threads like this i have to say an 18 yr old isnt one. Good grief... do you hear yourself?! Tolerant? Open minded? Sites like these are made for people who join them. Who are you to say who should and shouldn't be a swinger or involved in the lifestyle? There are some days where I'm lost for words. " i suggest you read what i wrote rather than carrying over any animosity you have towards me from elsewhere. | |||
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"i suggest you read what i wrote rather than carrying over any animosity you have towards me from elsewhere." I'd suggest you take the chip off your shoulder and park your arse in my inbox to discuss your issue with me like a grown up.
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"like the last poster said, it's like a CV - keep it short, concise, with enough detail, and don't make it 'go on forever' - we see some profiles that do and instantly navigate away. We also navigate away from profiles that have too many demands not possible in 'real world terms'...
Good luck
A "But then also remember that many people think the exact opposite to this. We love long detailed profiles and believe that demands show a preference which in turn shows force of will, which we like in people. Point is you'll never please everyone. If you follow this (quoted) couples advice, we'd ignore you. If you follow ours, they'd ignore you. You can't get everyone, so be yourself and write a profile that would attract YOU. | |||
" But then also remember that many people think the exact opposite to this. We love long detailed profiles and believe that demands show a preference which in turn shows force of will, which we like in people. Point is you'll never please everyone. If you follow this (quoted) couples advice, we'd ignore you. If you follow ours, they'd ignore you. You can't get everyone, so be yourself and write a profile that would attract YOU." Likes this ^^^^^ | |||
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