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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Going to be whipping my girlfriend today whilst she's tied up. Any advice for us?
I'd like her to talk to a total stranger as she is flogged. Lol"
Take it slow, build up the intensity, vary the strength of the strokes, and enjoy it  Just don't get so involved that you miss her safe word  |
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over a year ago
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"Practice for a few weeks/months on something first. Whips are really dangerous things.
If you mean a riding crop though - knock yourself out. Gently."
We find the crops can do more damage! Its why we like em lol
Make sure you build her up. Start through her clothing, take layers away each time she feels comfortable to do so. As someone said start with your hands, don't just go all out flogging her or you may put her off it again |
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"Practice for a few weeks/months on something first. Whips are really dangerous things.
If you mean a riding crop though - knock yourself out. Gently.
We find the crops can do more damage! Its why we like em lol
Make sure you build her up. Start through her clothing, take layers away each time she feels comfortable to do so. As someone said start with your hands, don't just go all out flogging her or you may put her off it again "
I would also suggest a warm shower before starting to warm the skin... Handy beginners tip. Start slowly, crops can do a lot of damage.
Remember some nice soothing lotion after, lots of cuddles kisses and appreciation for her submission. Submission begins in the mind (and for many of us this is the most important factor). |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Practice for a few weeks/months on something first. Whips are really dangerous things.
If you mean a riding crop though - knock yourself out. Gently."
I've now got visions of her restrained and blindfolded, wondering why he's gone so quiet |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Practice for a few weeks/months on something first. Whips are really dangerous things.
If you mean a riding crop though - knock yourself out. Gently.
We find the crops can do more damage! Its why we like em lol
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Whips - as in single tail whips - can rip flesh open quite easily. Hence why they're not something for beginners to try.
You'd struggle to do that kind of damage with a riding crop or flogger. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Practice for a few weeks/months on something first. Whips are really dangerous things.
If you mean a riding crop though - knock yourself out. Gently.
We find the crops can do more damage! Its why we like em lol
Make sure you build her up. Start through her clothing, take layers away each time she feels comfortable to do so. As someone said start with your hands, don't just go all out flogging her or you may put her off it again
I would also suggest a warm shower before starting to warm the skin... Handy beginners tip. Start slowly, crops can do a lot of damage.
Remember some nice soothing lotion after, lots of cuddles kisses and appreciation for her submission. Submission begins in the mind (and for many of us this is the most important factor)."
But ask her if she likes cuddles and kisses while playing - not all of us do.  |
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"Practice for a few weeks/months on something first. Whips are really dangerous things.
If you mean a riding crop though - knock yourself out. Gently.
We find the crops can do more damage! Its why we like em lol
Make sure you build her up. Start through her clothing, take layers away each time she feels comfortable to do so. As someone said start with your hands, don't just go all out flogging her or you may put her off it again
I would also suggest a warm shower before starting to warm the skin... Handy beginners tip. Start slowly, crops can do a lot of damage.
Remember some nice soothing lotion after, lots of cuddles kisses and appreciation for her submission. Submission begins in the mind (and for many of us this is the most important factor).
But ask her if she likes cuddles and kisses while playing - not all of us do. "
I don't while being whipped... But after.... Essential for me |
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By *ilacWoman
over a year ago
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"Practice for a few weeks/months on something first. Whips are really dangerous things.
If you mean a riding crop though - knock yourself out. Gently.
We find the crops can do more damage! Its why we like em lol
Whips - as in single tail whips - can rip flesh open quite easily. Hence why they're not something for beginners to try.
You'd struggle to do that kind of damage with a riding crop or flogger."
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By (user no longer on site)
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Would recommend a paddle or suede flogger for beginners
Also start off very slow, and soft - it will release endorphins into her mind and body gradually increasing her pain threshold - and of course as its been said above - safe word or traffic light system - green Amber red |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Practice for a few weeks/months on something first. Whips are really dangerous things.
If you mean a riding crop though - knock yourself out. Gently.
We find the crops can do more damage! Its why we like em lol
Make sure you build her up. Start through her clothing, take layers away each time she feels comfortable to do so. As someone said start with your hands, don't just go all out flogging her or you may put her off it again
I would also suggest a warm shower before starting to warm the skin... Handy beginners tip. Start slowly, crops can do a lot of damage.
Remember some nice soothing lotion after, lots of cuddles kisses and appreciation for her submission. Submission begins in the mind (and for many of us this is the most important factor).
But ask her if she likes cuddles and kisses while playing - not all of us do. "
I didn't until my Domme came round to be all soft and cuddly as I stood strapped to a cross.
She soothed me and then whispered "now this is for me.... It's will last a few minutes and it's going to really hurt".
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"Practice for a few weeks/months on something first. Whips are really dangerous things.
If you mean a riding crop though - knock yourself out. Gently.
We find the crops can do more damage! Its why we like em lol
Whips - as in single tail whips - can rip flesh open quite easily. Hence why they're not something for beginners to try.
You'd struggle to do that kind of damage with a riding crop or flogger."
Totally agree, I love single tails but only in experienced hands. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Remember that it's only fun until the one getting whipped stops enjoying it and cant take it, anything after that is just abuse."
Some of us don't want to enjoy it and NEED to go beyond the point we think we can take.
That's when you need a Domme who understands you most. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Oh it will be fun. I won't hurt her x
Oh you should hurt her. Just not more than she wants.
Really? "
You should ask her what she wants.
She may just want to tingle. She may want to be bruised and crying. You won't know until you ask.
She may not know the answer. That's when you have to gently build it up and have a safe word.
Remember; a hundred little flicks of a whip or cane can hurt more than one harder one. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Oh it will be fun. I won't hurt her x
Oh you should hurt her. Just not more than she wants.
Really? "
Hitting someone with a riding crop will cause them pain. If you don't want to cause your girlfriend pain, don't hit her with a riding crop. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Oh it will be fun. I won't hurt her x
Oh you should hurt her. Just not more than she wants.
Really?
Hitting someone with a riding crop will cause them pain. If you don't want to cause your girlfriend pain, don't hit her with a riding crop."
Simples
( I want you to hurt me Wasp and I don't mean my feelings ) |
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If you are gagging her too make sure you put a safe signal in place.
Take your time and have a few thwacks outside of the scene, where she can just tell you how it feels. At this point be watching for her reaction, most people signal somehow when it starts getting too much (for example I curl my toes, and as soon as I release them I'm good to go, but it's a completely subconscious thing I only know about because it's been pointed out).
If you are tying her, I'd suggest for the first time that you don't use any stress positions, could just be the thing that makes the whole experience too much for her rather than super hot.
As others have suggested, a good warm up, build it up slowly and hold the pace, then build it up some more. Learn if she likes a steady beating, or prefers the unknown.
If you both enjoy it you should be aiming to get to a point where you can play her body like a musical instrument with pain in the way you probably already know how to do with pleasure.
More than anything else though, I hope you both have a LOT of fun!
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