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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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I have a conundrum. I have a whopping total of 3 veris and while they were all initially displayed on my profile, they now no longer are. I HAVE NOT hidden them, however the summary of what happened is as follows...
Veri No.1 has left the site - therefore veri text has disappeared.
Veri No.2 blocked me, the reason being was that she wanted to strike up a relationship, despite only having met me twice. One of those times was only a social as well. I was not keen on this kind of thing, she got the hump and blocked me.
Veri No.3 is still on here but has set their profile to hidden. Again veri text is now gone.
So basically anyone who _iews my profile will be thinking, 'He's hidden all his veris, he must be a right shit meet!' However this is not the truth, and while you only have my word for it, the text in all 3 veris were all very good re_iews.
Now I am by no means saying this is the only reason I never receive replies. I am well aware of the fact I am already pissing into the wind on here. However having my veris 'hidden' has turned what was once just wind into a full blown hurricane.
So I guess the question is, what am I to do about my verification situation? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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There is no reason why your verification from the profile that is temporarily hidden should disapear. It's true we have lost a number of veris due to people totally closing their accounts, but we have never had a veri disapear when their profile has just been hidden.
Do sympathise with the problem. Maybe say on your profile that you haven't hidden your verifications. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I prefer not to meet people who have issues over verifications. I know it's different for men but I would say fuck you to anyone who frets about you hiding them. |
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Veri No.3 is still on here but has set their profile to hidden. Again veri text is now gone.
Not true.. You can still display veris from hidden profiles"
that's right, we have a veri shown from a friend who has gone temporarily hidden.
Get to a club or organised social, you can get a few straight away. |
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By *igeiaWoman
over a year ago
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My first ever meet from here was from a guy with the veri tick but no veris displayed. I used my common sense and he turned out to be a lovely, lovely bloke. Ever since I couldn't give a flying hoop whether or not others display theirs. People leave the site; I've lost a few. It happens. Doesn't need to be any nefarious reason for it unless you're looking for reasons to back up your intuition that says 'don't meet this person'. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Meet more people and stop scaring them into hiding their profile/leaving the site.  "
How does one meet people, if people do not want to meet you, because you haven't met people?  |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Veri No.3 is still on here but has set their profile to hidden. Again veri text is now gone.
Not true.. You can still display veris from hidden profiles"
Well for whatever reason, it has now gone... |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I don't display mine. If I get chatting with someone and we get on then I will let them see them if they really want to. So far it hasn'the been an issue  |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Do sympathise with the problem. Maybe say on your profile that you haven't hidden your verifications."
Now to any sane person, that would be the logical approach. However I have read on these here forums may times that a lot (maybe not all) women will not read your message or your profile before checking pics, stats and veris. With hidden veris being worse than none in some cases. So it seems pretty pointless to put it in my profile or mention it in a message.
It may be the case that the Fab gods do not like me and I should maybe take the hint and do one... |
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"Meet more people and stop scaring them into hiding their profile/leaving the site.
How does one meet people, if people do not want to meet you, because you haven't met people? "
Go to an organised social. Go to a club, the bar staff or other customers will veri you after a chat. It's not difficult if you want them. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Do sympathise with the problem. Maybe say on your profile that you haven't hidden your verifications.
Now to any sane person, that would be the logical approach. However I have read on these here forums may times that a lot (maybe not all) women will not read your message or your profile before checking pics, stats and veris. With hidden veris being worse than none in some cases. So it seems pretty pointless to put it in my profile or mention it in a message."
Well I suggested that, because we would probably take note if that was stated. Rightly or wrongly we do put put a certain amount of store in veris. However we also read every single message, and look at every single profile of those who message us. If the message and the photos interest us, we will then thoroughly read the profile if it's long. The last thing we will consider are the verifications, which we like to see and will read. But it can't be helped if those who verify you have left Fab. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Well I suggested that, because we would probably take note if that was stated. Rightly or wrongly we do put put a certain amount of store in veris. However we also read every single message, and look at every single profile of those who message us. If the message and the photos interest us, we will then thoroughly read the profile if it's long. The last thing we will consider are the verifications, which we like to see and will read. But it can't be helped if those who verify you have left Fab."
If it was only one of them missing, I would possibly be given the benefit of the doubt by some people, but when it's all three missing it probably does send bad signals all over the place. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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Well I suggested that, because we would probably take note if that was stated. Rightly or wrongly we do put put a certain amount of store in veris. However we also read every single message, and look at every single profile of those who message us. If the message and the photos interest us, we will then thoroughly read the profile if it's long. The last thing we will consider are the verifications, which we like to see and will read. But it can't be helped if those who verify you have left Fab.
If it was only one of them missing, I would possibly be given the benefit of the doubt by some people, but when it's all three missing it probably does send bad signals all over the place."
If someone states in their profile that 3 veris are missing because three people have left the site, I would believe them. We've had 3 extremely significant friends remove their profiles in the past year. It's not unusual. Besides, as the forum suggests not everybody thinks displayed verifications are important. |
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I think though the majority do place a lot of importance on veris, obviously , as you say not all.
OP why not get a club or social veri? I always wonder why people talk about this catch22, when the veris can be got relatively easily and the problem solved? |
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By *anky_PankyWoman
over a year ago
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If you are really bothered then screenshot your veris as you get them and you can send via kik / WhatsApp etc and you have a copy even if blockedor they leave..... I have seen someone else do this  |
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"If you are really bothered then screenshot your veris as you get them and you can send via kik / WhatsApp etc and you have a copy even if blockedor they leave..... I have seen someone else do this "
Ahh very clever ! Brains and beauty  |
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By *anky_PankyWoman
over a year ago
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"If you are really bothered then screenshot your veris as you get them and you can send via kik / WhatsApp etc and you have a copy even if blockedor they leave..... I have seen someone else do this
Ahh very clever ! Brains and beauty "
Haha I'd claim it but saw someone else do it tbh. If I screenshot all mine I'd be there forever as been on here since 2008 |
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"If you are really bothered then screenshot your veris as you get them and you can send via kik / WhatsApp etc and you have a copy even if blockedor they leave..... I have seen someone else do this
Ahh very clever ! Brains and beauty
Haha I'd claim it but saw someone else do it tbh. If I screenshot all mine I'd be there forever as been on here since 2008 "
naughty girl copying - you will be spanked
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"I can think of better first world problems to worry about. I dont understand the big issue about veris tbh. For some it seems to be the be all. "
90% of what's discussed on fab is '1st world problems' its a site for fun.
veris arent the be all, but lots of people use them as a quick way to ensure they are talking to someone who meets.
Some people arent bothered, everybody can use the site how suits them. No problems for anybody |
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"I have a conundrum. I have a whopping total of 3 veris and while they were all initially displayed on my profile, they now no longer are. I HAVE NOT hidden them, however the summary of what happened is as follows...
Veri No.1 has left the site - therefore veri text has disappeared.
Veri No.2 blocked me, the reason being was that she wanted to strike up a relationship, despite only having met me twice. One of those times was only a social as well. I was not keen on this kind of thing, she got the hump and blocked me.
Veri No.3 is still on here but has set their profile to hidden. Again veri text is now gone.
So basically anyone who _iews my profile will be thinking, 'He's hidden all his veris, he must be a right shit meet!' However this is not the truth, and while you only have my word for it, the text in all 3 veris were all very good re_iews.
Now I am by no means saying this is the only reason I never receive replies. I am well aware of the fact I am already pissing into the wind on here. However having my veris 'hidden' has turned what was once just wind into a full blown hurricane.
So I guess the question is, what am I to do about my verification situation?"
I couldn't care what people think as to why I don't show my veris... The summery is more than enough. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"So basically anyone who _iews my profile will be thinking, 'He's hidden all his veris, he must be a right shit meet!'"
Anyone who thinks that must be thick, if it was a shit meet they wouldn't leave a veri at all. People who say that to you don't really believe that, they just want to nosy at who you met/fucked. None of their business, you display whatever veri you want whenever you want. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Personally I don't take a lot of notice of verifications. I only look at the summary to see if they are cam only verifications, because that to me means the likelihood of actually meeting is slim.
I have been on here several years now and in that time several of my verifications have disappeared due to people leaving. So I have just put exactly that on the bottom of my profile. I suggest you do the same. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"If you are really bothered then screenshot your veris as you get them and you can send via kik / WhatsApp etc and you have a copy even if blockedor they leave..... I have seen someone else do this "
Not a bad idea at all. I'll use it for future reference.
Now all I need is a new veri... |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"I wldnt worry bout it much buddy, if some1 really fancies you! They will meet u veris displayed or not 
I only got summary on display & still get meets  "
Well I'm sure all the women who like short, chunky men will be along to swoon over my profile any... minute... now...
*sound of crickets chirping* |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Veri No.3 is still on here but has set their profile to hidden. Again veri text is now gone.
Not true.. You can still display veris from hidden profiles"
^ This. But it is frustrating losing your veris, I've had a few really nice ones disappear when people have UNLOS'ed. Wish I'd screenshot them, in fact might just do that now in case of future UNLOSes |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I have a conundrum. I have a whopping total of 3 veris and while they were all initially displayed on my profile, they now no longer are. I HAVE NOT hidden them, however the summary of what happened is as follows...
Veri No.1 has left the site - therefore veri text has disappeared.
Veri No.2 blocked me, the reason being was that she wanted to strike up a relationship, despite only having met me twice. One of those times was only a social as well. I was not keen on this kind of thing, she got the hump and blocked me.
Veri No.3 is still on here but has set their profile to hidden. Again veri text is now gone.
So basically anyone who _iews my profile will be thinking, 'He's hidden all his veris, he must be a right shit meet!' However this is not the truth, and while you only have my word for it, the text in all 3 veris were all very good re_iews.
Now I am by no means saying this is the only reason I never receive replies. I am well aware of the fact I am already pissing into the wind on here. However having my veris 'hidden' has turned what was once just wind into a full blown hurricane.
So I guess the question is, what am I to do about my verification situation?"
Whatever you want? It's really no big deal and won't affect you if you're proactive and positive. |
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