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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Second post in 24 hours, but this is one I've been thinking about for a while.... Long story short after a little while on here I found out my dad has a profile on here.... Recently I've been staying at his with my step mum (he's away during the week!) his profile reads he's a single male, will travel any distance etc, the problem I'm having is she's such a lovely lady and does not deserve this sort of treatment... So my question is fab;do I mention it to her? Keep quiet? Headfucked isn't the word!   thanks! |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Maybe mention to your dad?
And say? 
Gruesome threesome? "
 knew someone was going to mention it..  think you'd retract that statement if you saw him, well I'd hope you would |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Tricky one! Good luck with whatever you do..."
Agree, that is a very difficult situation as you do have loyalties to your dad, however his wife doesn't deserve to be deceived!
I would lean more towards having a quiet word with the ole man |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I'd be talking to him if I were you - you seem to like (not like that!) your step mum - think about how doubly betrayed she'd feel if she found out that not only is your dad behaving like he is, but you knew too and didn't do or say anything? You're an adult, you have a sex life too.  |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Tricky one! Good luck with whatever you do...
Agree, that is a very difficult situation as you do have loyalties to your dad, however his wife doesn't deserve to be deceived!
I would lean more towards having a quiet word with the ole man "
He's never been faithful, that's the reason I have a step mum lol... Thanks for the advice! X |
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"Tricky one! Good luck with whatever you do...
Agree, that is a very difficult situation as you do have loyalties to your dad, however his wife doesn't deserve to be deceived!
I would lean more towards having a quiet word with the ole man "
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"I'd be talking to him if I were you - you seem to like (not like that!) your step mum - think about how doubly betrayed she'd feel if she found out that not only is your dad behaving like he is, but you knew too and didn't do or say anything? You're an adult, you have a sex life too. "
Hmm Yeah, never thought of it that way! X |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I'd be talking to him if I were you - you seem to like (not like that!) your step mum - think about how doubly betrayed she'd feel if she found out that not only is your dad behaving like he is, but you knew too and didn't do or say anything? You're an adult, you have a sex life too.
Hmm Yeah, never thought of it that way! X"
There you go
I'm just thinking from the view that if I caught my step dad or mum being on here meeting as singles I'd be having words. Same if I caught a friend's partner up to no good. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"I'd be talking to him if I were you - you seem to like (not like that!) your step mum - think about how doubly betrayed she'd feel if she found out that not only is your dad behaving like he is, but you knew too and didn't do or say anything? You're an adult, you have a sex life too.
Hmm Yeah, never thought of it that way! X
There you go
I'm just thinking from the view that if I caught my step dad or mum being on here meeting as singles I'd be having words. Same if I caught a friend's partner up to no good."
That's a very good way of thinking.... *small nod to the lady with her sensible head screwed on*  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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It's none of your business...she may know and turn a blind eye to it, or she may prefer to be blissfully unaware rather than hurt and humiliated. Block his profile and say nothing. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I'd be talking to him if I were you - you seem to like (not like that!) your step mum - think about how doubly betrayed she'd feel if she found out that not only is your dad behaving like he is, but you knew too and didn't do or say anything? You're an adult, you have a sex life too.
Hmm Yeah, never thought of it that way! X
There you go
I'm just thinking from the view that if I caught my step dad or mum being on here meeting as singles I'd be having words. Same if I caught a friend's partner up to no good.
That's a very good way of thinking.... *small nod to the lady with her sensible head screwed on* "
Sensible!
Just loyal. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Hello son
I noticed you had an account on here too
Hahaha
Just playing
He could notice this thread if he really is on the site"
Ahahaha I know, he wouldn't mention it to me I don't think.... Always thought I tanned easy  |
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By *ady LickWoman
over a year ago
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"It's none of your business...she may know and turn a blind eye to it, or she may prefer to be blissfully unaware rather than hurt and humiliated. Block his profile and say nothing."
Precisely |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I think you should keep quiet myself "
This. Your Dad's private life is none of your business, he can make his own choices without you sitting in judgement of him. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"It's none of your business...she may know and turn a blind eye to it, or she may prefer to be blissfully unaware rather than hurt and humiliated. Block his profile and say nothing.
Precisely "
Great advice.... I live by this motto " See things and become blind , hear things and become deaf " |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Maybe say to your dad is a jokey way that a friend at work had mentioned a website called fab and for a laugh you had a look at it.
Say it's a single mans dream if you don't want to be tied down but not for married people.
Make it jokey but mention cheating
You might find he will rethink it and leave.
Good luck |
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By *isa 59Woman
over a year ago
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OP you've said that your dads a known cheater so telling him that you know he's on here won't stop him cheating and might affect your relationship with him.
Telling your stepmum could have far reaching consequences and ultimately lead to the end of their relationship.
What you do with the information you have is up to you...just be prepared for what might happen if you speak to either of them about it. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I'd be talking to him if I were you - you seem to like (not like that!) your step mum - think about how doubly betrayed she'd feel if she found out that not only is your dad behaving like he is, but you knew too and didn't do or say anything? You're an adult, you have a sex life too. "
I tend to agree. As this is close family I think you must say something; if it was a mate playing away I would give different advice, but when it comes to family you just cannot ignore it. Talk to your father. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I would definitely be saying something to him, one because it's your dad and two because if you have spotted your dad who else does he know has already spotted him. And what if one of those people tells your stepmum. It's only harmless fun when nobody gets hurt.... If you can see your stepmum being hurt then say something to him. He may well tell you to mind your own but at least you tried x |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"I hope your dad conducts himself a bit more discretely than you do.
Ps Can I have his no? "
I'd consider myself extremely discrete.... Of course.... Pm me |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"It's none of your business...she may know and turn a blind eye to it, or she may prefer to be blissfully unaware rather than hurt and humiliated. Block his profile and say nothing.
Precisely
Great advice.... I live by this motto " See things and become blind , hear things and become deaf ""
At the end of the day he's your father and I doubt most fathers would react well to moral judgement from their children, even if it is accurate.
You said that he'd always been a playa and therefore your step mum is an adult who can make her own decisions. You'd be surprised how many women willfully turn a blind eye to this kind of thing.
If you want to do anything then you could talk to him about her in the general sense and see if he volunteers anything. |
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By *ady LickWoman
over a year ago
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"I hope your dad conducts himself a bit more discretely than you do.
Ps Can I have his no?
I'd consider myself extremely discrete.... Of course.... Pm me "
Too confirm....I want your dad's no, not yours
I bet he's quite attractive given that he has a good looking son |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Has he actually met anyone can you see?
Yes he has, and rather awkwardly a couple I met a few weeks before him!   "
I'm not making fun of plight but you and your dad can team up for a kinky threesome. I'm sure many couples and single females have a fantasy of doing a father and son on their bucket list. |
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"Has he actually met anyone can you see?
Yes he has, and rather awkwardly a couple I met a few weeks before him!
I'm not making fun of plight but you and your dad can team up for a kinky threesome. I'm sure many couples and single females have a fantasy of doing a father and son on their bucket list. "
Can't say I have to be honest,but then I suppose it would depend how fit they were. Or is that just way to weird?! |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Has he actually met anyone can you see?
Yes he has, and rather awkwardly a couple I met a few weeks before him!
I'm not making fun of plight but you and your dad can team up for a kinky threesome. I'm sure many couples and single females have a fantasy of doing a father and son on their bucket list.
Can't say I have to be honest,but then I suppose it would depend how fit they were. Or is that just way to weird?! "
There you go with your standards again..
Can't you just have sex just for the story and experience.
I fucked the ugliest twin sisters in the history of the world. Just to say I had a threesome with twins.. They were ugly as sin , but I was rolling Hugh Heffner style  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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PM me his profile name and I will crack on that I know he's not single and tell him to wise up and btw, I have seen a cute younger guy on here who is the spit of him, are you related!! no? Just a thought!
Seriously, only you know how he would react if you told him and what the fall-out would be if you did or did not do anything about this. I think this has to be your call. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Op. Delete the pics he can see of you and message him. Tell him personal details So he knows he has been rumbled. Tell him to get off here or come clean to your step mom.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Are you certain your stepmum knows nothing?
Maybe she has suspicions already or even knows more than you think.
Its a tough one and noble of you to put your stepmums feelings first.
Good luck anyway |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Shoe on the other foot. If u had a partner on here and a family member or friend knew she was cheating on u.... what would want them to do? Butt out or speak to the cheater in question? |
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"Has he actually met anyone can you see?
Yes he has, and rather awkwardly a couple I met a few weeks before him!
I'm not making fun of plight but you and your dad can team up for a kinky threesome. I'm sure many couples and single females have a fantasy of doing a father and son on their bucket list.
Can't say I have to be honest,but then I suppose it would depend how fit they were. Or is that just way to weird?!
There you go with your standards again..
Can't you just have sex just for the story and experience.
I fucked the ugliest twin sisters in the history of the world. Just to say I had a threesome with twins.. They were ugly as sin , but I was rolling Hugh Heffner style "
Do you know I think I'll stick with those damn standards of mine,I ain't having sex with no ugly twins . I do every so often receive messages from a set of twins,but that's just a bit too strange for me |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Tricky one! Good luck with whatever you do...
Agree, that is a very difficult situation as you do have loyalties to your dad, however his wife doesn't deserve to be deceived!
I would lean more towards having a quiet word with the ole man
He's never been faithful, that's the reason I have a step mum lol... Thanks for the advice! X"
And if you don't tell him something then you may lose your step mum as you did your real mum?
However, if as you seem to be saying he is a serial cheater.....?? Good luck with whatever you do mate! |
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By (user no longer on site)
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Just tell him you know he's cheated, you don't have to mention how you know. Tell him you don't think your step mum deserves it and how would he feel if she did it to him. It might give him something to think about and at least you've tried. But you don't know why he is doing it and she might be aware so I wouldn't talk to her. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Couple of quotes come to mind; See and become blind. Hear and become deaf and or mute.
The road to hell is paved with good intentions.
Explosive stuff but will you all come through the fall out?
Good luck with whatever you do.
What would Yossarian do? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I agree with the above. People don't change, and people who lie don't stop lying when they are confronted: they simply lie some more then find another way to be devious. If you like the woman and hate the thought of her being cheated on then you could engineer a way for her to find out (anonymous email linking to profile etc) but she probably already suspects. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Another judgement thread. Jesus.
Its nobodies business how the fella conducts himself. He knows what he's doing. He knows the chances he's taking. Leave him to it and go about your own business. |
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