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What can I put in my first message to someone to make me stand out ????
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"First if all I'd suggest you remove pic of you sticking your tongue out.replace with a different picture. You're going to battle with your age on here fir a start. That's not a criticism just reality. when you send a message just make sure you put something that shows you've read her profile Hope that helps" I'll do that now  it does help. Thank you | |||
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"Just putting 'hi' is so boring. I need some advice please " Definently do not send messages that only say 'hi' !!! | |||
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"Just putting 'hi' is so boring. I need some advice please " There's no such thing as the perfect message, so think what you'd say with your mouth and then type it instead. I got a sex meet once from saying "gizzashagyabitch" but I don't recommend it. | |||
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"Your profile should read like a CV for sex, it should contain a bit about you, what you like and what you are looking for, but really importantly, what you can offer a potential partner. It's not good having a short uninformative paragraph that may as well read "fill this in later". A bad profile smacks of being lazy and if you are perceived as too lazy to write anything in your profile, then you would be too lazy to do anything fun in the bedroom. Once you have the profile hacked, then you need to do a good first message. Now I know that the guys who have been on here a while will say, "I write really long and considered messages only to have them deleted unread". Again, it's like a job application, if you really want the job, you put an effort into the covering letter, having read their advert and format your response around that. It's not good enough to copy and paste, even if your profile is brill, again, smacks of laziness. Pick something out of the profile to mention in your message, it shows you have read it, not just seen that she is female therefore you will send her a message. If you're comfortable, send a nice photo, body shot is good, but not a dick pic, please! Unfortunately you have two things against you, firstly your age and secondly the number of men on here compared to women, the odds are really stacked against you. That said, there is no reason why you shouldn't get a meet. Keep at it, stay safe and sane and you will get there. "Sell yourself but with class - Either way sometimes you fellas are screwed (and not in a good way lol) message too long /too short. However... Never send a "Hi how are you Hun" Or WUU2 Good luck xx | |||
"Your profile should read like a CV for sex, it should contain a bit about you, what you like and what you are looking for, but really importantly, what you can offer a potential partner. It's not good having a short uninformative paragraph that may as well read "fill this in later". A bad profile smacks of being lazy and if you are perceived as too lazy to write anything in your profile, then you would be too lazy to do anything fun in the bedroom. Once you have the profile hacked, then you need to do a good first message. Now I know that the guys who have been on here a while will say, "I write really long and considered messages only to have them deleted unread". Again, it's like a job application, if you really want the job, you put an effort into the covering letter, having read their advert and format your response around that. It's not good enough to copy and paste, even if your profile is brill, again, smacks of laziness. Pick something out of the profile to mention in your message, it shows you have read it, not just seen that she is female therefore you will send her a message. If you're comfortable, send a nice photo, body shot is good, but not a dick pic, please! Unfortunately you have two things against you, firstly your age and secondly the number of men on here compared to women, the odds are really stacked against you. That said, there is no reason why you shouldn't get a meet. Keep at it, stay safe and sane and you will get there.
Sell yourself but with class -
Either way sometimes you fellas are screwed (and not in a good way lol) message too long /too short.
However... Never send a "Hi how are you Hun"
Or WUU2
Good luck xx
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"Your profile should read like a CV for sex, it should contain a bit about you, what you like and what you are looking for, but really importantly, what you can offer a potential partner. It's not good having a short uninformative paragraph that may as well read "fill this in later". A bad profile smacks of being lazy and if you are perceived as too lazy to write anything in your profile, then you would be too lazy to do anything fun in the bedroom. Once you have the profile hacked, then you need to do a good first message. Now I know that the guys who have been on here a while will say, "I write really long and considered messages only to have them deleted unread". Again, it's like a job application, if you really want the job, you put an effort into the covering letter, having read their advert and format your response around that. It's not good enough to copy and paste, even if your profile is brill, again, smacks of laziness. Pick something out of the profile to mention in your message, it shows you have read it, not just seen that she is female therefore you will send her a message. If you're comfortable, send a nice photo, body shot is good, but not a dick pic, please! Unfortunately you have two things against you, firstly your age and secondly the number of men on here compared to women, the odds are really stacked against you. That said, there is no reason why you shouldn't get a meet. Keep at it, stay safe and sane and you will get there. "Sounds naff, but it's true. Treat this the same way you would if you were applying for a job. | |||
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"Your profile should read like a CV for sex, it should contain a bit about you, what you like and what you are looking for, but really importantly, what you can offer a potential partner. It's not good having a short uninformative paragraph that may as well read "fill this in later". A bad profile smacks of being lazy and if you are perceived as too lazy to write anything in your profile, then you would be too lazy to do anything fun in the bedroom. Once you have the profile hacked, then you need to do a good first message. Now I know that the guys who have been on here a while will say, "I write really long and considered messages only to have them deleted unread". Again, it's like a job application, if you really want the job, you put an effort into the covering letter, having read their advert and format your response around that. It's not good enough to copy and paste, even if your profile is brill, again, smacks of laziness. Pick something out of the profile to mention in your message, it shows you have read it, not just seen that she is female therefore you will send her a message. If you're comfortable, send a nice photo, body shot is good, but not a dick pic, please! Unfortunately you have two things against you, firstly your age and secondly the number of men on here compared to women, the odds are really stacked against you. That said, there is no reason why you shouldn't get a meet. Keep at it, stay safe and sane and you will get there.
Sounds naff, but it's true. Treat this the same way you would if you were applying for a job. "
Applying for a job 
I thought this was a sex site | |||
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"Your profile should read like a CV for sex, it should contain a bit about you, what you like and what you are looking for, but really importantly, what you can offer a potential partner. It's not good having a short uninformative paragraph that may as well read "fill this in later". A bad profile smacks of being lazy and if you are perceived as too lazy to write anything in your profile, then you would be too lazy to do anything fun in the bedroom. Once you have the profile hacked, then you need to do a good first message. Now I know that the guys who have been on here a while will say, "I write really long and considered messages only to have them deleted unread". Again, it's like a job application, if you really want the job, you put an effort into the covering letter, having read their advert and format your response around that. It's not good enough to copy and paste, even if your profile is brill, again, smacks of laziness. Pick something out of the profile to mention in your message, it shows you have read it, not just seen that she is female therefore you will send her a message. If you're comfortable, send a nice photo, body shot is good, but not a dick pic, please! Unfortunately you have two things against you, firstly your age and secondly the number of men on here compared to women, the odds are really stacked against you. That said, there is no reason why you shouldn't get a meet. Keep at it, stay safe and sane and you will get there.
Sounds naff, but it's true. Treat this the same way you would if you were applying for a job.
Applying for a job
I thought this was a sex site "That's why I said it sounds naff. But the truth is, if a message or profile demonstrates intelligence, We feel we are more likely to get on, and an intelligent man is more likely to know what to say to excite me and tease me in my opinion. We also feel that thought and attention to detail in the profile or message hopefully translates to thought and attention to detail in the bedroom. And again, as with a job, we like to know if they have experience in what we want from them. In short we want to know what a man has to offer a couple like us. This approach has worked well for us so far. | |||
"Your profile should read like a CV for sex, it should contain a bit about you, what you like and what you are looking for, but really importantly, what you can offer a potential partner. It's not good having a short uninformative paragraph that may as well read "fill this in later". A bad profile smacks of being lazy and if you are perceived as too lazy to write anything in your profile, then you would be too lazy to do anything fun in the bedroom. Once you have the profile hacked, then you need to do a good first message. Now I know that the guys who have been on here a while will say, "I write really long and considered messages only to have them deleted unread". Again, it's like a job application, if you really want the job, you put an effort into the covering letter, having read their advert and format your response around that. It's not good enough to copy and paste, even if your profile is brill, again, smacks of laziness. Pick something out of the profile to mention in your message, it shows you have read it, not just seen that she is female therefore you will send her a message. If you're comfortable, send a nice photo, body shot is good, but not a dick pic, please! Unfortunately you have two things against you, firstly your age and secondly the number of men on here compared to women, the odds are really stacked against you. That said, there is no reason why you shouldn't get a meet. Keep at it, stay safe and sane and you will get there. "All the above........and don't forget paragraphs in it  | |||
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"Just putting 'hi' is so boring. I need some advice please " try, hi bbe hows you can i come around and smash your back doors in plz with my sky remote size cock | |||
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""I'm gonna come r--e you and I'm not gonna use a condom, you c--t" was one of my utter favourites "The Bard yet lives | |||
""I'm gonna come r--e you and I'm not gonna use a condom, you c--t" was one of my utter favourites "Cor, took me a whole 2 mins to figure out what r--e was! Embarrassing! Some men let the side down with such eloquence! | |||
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"Just putting 'hi' is so boring. I need some advice please " I for one before reading the message will click straight too your profile if that's lame I don't even read the message just being honest  | |||
"Just putting 'hi' is so boring. I need some advice please I for one before reading the message will click straight too your profile if that's lame I don't even read the message just being honest " | |||
"Also it helps to remember some ladies get in excess of 150 messages a day. If a face pic isn't attached I just instantly delete as there's gotta be some 'rule' for myself how to cut the list down somehow x" I'm not surprised that you get that many messages. Your absolutely stunning | |||
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"Let's be honest ladies... If the guys pics are hot , and you're attracted to him. He could write " hi " and you would answer... "That is true. (There's a 'but') if I could see it just said hi and there was no pic attached I could see that before I clicked open and wouldn't even open the msg | |||
"Ill mow your lawn and trim your bush" Get your coat youve pulled ... | |||
"Let's be honest ladies... If the guys pics are hot , and you're attracted to him. He could write " hi " and you would answer...
That is true. (There's a 'but') if I could see it just said hi and there was no pic attached I could see that before I clicked open and wouldn't even open the msg "Id just like to say you have an amazing body, and the tats are brilliant. | |||
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