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So I'm 22. Should be In the prime of my sex life. Well low and behold.. I can't keep it up. This has happened on two occasions and both times I've only had 2 pints. Am I just too nervous.. Or is it something seriously wrong? |
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By *arksidesubCouple
over a year ago
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Forget the pills!..bad advice!
Not forgetting the rubbish"Chemicals that's in them!
Maybe take your time alittle slow down.Your lacking in the play" you need let her/him (if bi) stimulate you more!.
Stop worrying and start enjoying xx
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Mate I think its also a sense of guilt and anxiety. I used to get this immediately after sex which I couldn't even stay in bed or cuddle etc I would have to jump up and go and take my mind off it. I was not cheating, but always got a wave of guilt. Just try and relax a bit more and take some time. My one night stands often end up with an arguement lol. Best of luck |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"So I'm 22. Should be In the prime of my sex life. Well low and behold.. I can't keep it up. This has happened on two occasions and both times I've only had 2 pints. Am I just too nervous.. Or is it something seriously wrong? "
Hi mate, I am an older guy and I have been through the same in my life. As the others have said, don't go for the pills. It is just a stage that you are going through, and believe me, you will get through it. It can be as simple as that you haven't found the right female partner lately. The more anxious that you get about it, the worse it will become. So my friend, just relax, that is my advice to you and then nature will take it's course. Happy swinging |
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By *woOfaKindCouple
over a year ago
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"It can be as simple as that you haven't found the right female partner lately. "
This is sooo true!
I used to think that basically, any guy should be able to bone any woman who is naked and willing, but it doesn't really work that way. If there's no physical attraction or chemistry, or just whatever, a penis tends to just kind of hang there.
And even if in the end, it never works out and you decide Swinging isn't for you, it's still OK. You tried something different!
You have nothing to worry about.
-JD |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Would getting some blue pills help in the meantime tho??"
Depends if this is caused by a blood pressure issue they could kill you.
Did you fancy the people you were with, was it an unusual situation?
Differnt brand of condoms than ususal are you in generally good health and fitness |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Would getting some blue pills help in the meantime tho??"
Forget the blue pill. The next time you lose your erection during sex don't worry as that will compound your problem. Just concentrate on giving your lady a good time in other ways. Foreplay is very underestimate
Give her lots of touches kisses licks massage all over make her feel loved. Plus you get to explore every part of her sexy body bring in toys talking role play. She will have just as much fun. I suspect you are just getting anxious about performing it will pass with experience |
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By *ea_CoffeeCouple
over a year ago
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Im in the same position, Im only 35 and have no physicle reason as to why I have had trouble maintaining an erection however one night at a club it did happen.
It can feel like alot of pressure is being put on us not only to perform for the ladies we are with at that moment but also ensure our wifes / long term parnters are also happy. Add to that the fact that your fighting years of conditioning by society that monogamy in a relationship is the only norm and that everyone is watching it can be a very intimidating situation.
My advice is to invest in a cock ring. They are small inexepensive little devices that are easy to fit and easy to transport. they have worked wonders for me.
Unlike most on here though I do recomend talking to your G.P. and after eliminating any physical reasons for the issue asking about the little blue pill. It now available on the NHS.
Since I was first prescribed this tablet over 12 months ago I have actually had no need to ever use one. The confidence that I get from knowing that they are there in the draw if I need a little helping hand has meant I never needed them.
Don't be hard on yourself it happens to us all at some point. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Mate I think its also a sense of guilt and anxiety. I used to get this immediately after sex which I couldn't even stay in bed or cuddle etc I would have to jump up and go and take my mind off it. I was not cheating, but always got a wave of guilt. Just try and relax a bit more and take some time. My one night stands often end up with an arguement lol. Best of luck"
So if you weren't cheating - why the feeling of guilt? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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try the im not going to penetrate - and just stroke and tease - i bet you stay hard and will want to go further - but dont - this will leave you wanting and give you confidence for next time |
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"So I'm 22. Should be In the prime of my sex life. Well low and behold.. I can't keep it up. This has happened on two occasions and both times I've only had 2 pints. Am I just too nervous.. Or is it something seriously wrong? "
You might want to try masturbating earlier in the day, but stopping before you reach orgasm. It's called edging and there's even porn made specially to assist with it. Good luck! |
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It can and does affect anyone at any age xx Mostly by overthinking or puttig pressure on yourself to cum xxx Take your time and enjoy it xx I would recommend the use of a cock ring to keep it up for longer or even a vibrating one xx |
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This is something I've (him) recently had to deal with. It was down to life stress in the end. At the time I didn't actually realise that I was stressed. The more I thought about 'failing' to perform, the worse it became. It got to the point where I couldn't even keep it up during a blow job!
I found that excercise and cutting out the stressor's really helped. Also watching porn that I found really turned me on. Something with a good fantasy tale. Staying hard during that gave me confidence in my 'abilities'. It took about 5 months but I'm back on form now. Not easy though.
Good luck! |
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"So I'm 22. Should be In the prime of my sex life. Well low and behold.. I can't keep it up. This has happened on two occasions and both times I've only had 2 pints. Am I just too nervous.. Or is it something seriously wrong? "
If you are otherwise fit and healthy with no underlying health problems, this is NORMAL! and don't let your bragging mates tell you otherwise.
It happens to every man on the planet but the more you fret, the worse it will be.
It's ok not to be able to 'perform' in every single situation. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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No blue pills. I had a geezer pop one before a meet. Never taken one before. Spent night on my sofa with racing heart and sickness. Bless.
Find a meet who will be patient understanding and be happy for hugs and body contact if you are too nervous.then perhaps meet up again .
I meet this guy once who had same trouble. We just snogged all night. Lol |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Thanks for that long post! I'm going to chat to the gp and see what they recommend! Thanks very much x"
That's a good plan. But if they don't recommend the blue pills remember they have their reasons. Don't go looking to buy crap versions on the internet. You could be swallowing anything x |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Hubby been in the same position. We thought it was down to stress. In the end he did go to see doc. Good job he did. He was diagnosed with an underlying medical prob. All sorted now. So would advise going to see doc for advice. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I had the female equivalent the other day, bone dry pussy while he was playing with it,FWB wet his finger in his mouth, I was a bit embarrassed but I couldn't get going. Never happened before since I started playing. Xx |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Ok just a thought. You're 22 and on a swingers/sex site. Maybe it's a little bit too much pressure ? "
great point. Maybe just concentrate on meeting a girl friend for sex?
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..... naa only joking sure you will be fine lol 