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Clubs for the non-overweight?

By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

We've been to a couple of clubs...quite taken aback at the amount of obese naked people there (their choice, but not aesthetically pleasing/erotic to us), so we just wondered ...are there any clubs where the majority in attendance are not massively overweight?

Before anyone has a pop (as surely thy will) We aren't models, nor athletic ....but we aren't overweight.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

This is will either go two ways. You're going to get lots of abuse or completely ignored by the cliquey fabbers on here

Either way I don't think there is a weight limit in clubs

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

you probably wont find a club which caters exclusively to average people... sorry. you either have to be fat or slim/athletic. Average is so last year....

but seriously, all clubs have a mixture of people except on BBW nights and on so called Elite nights where people are enticed or selected purely on their body type.

Get around to different clubs on different days you will find people of different types.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I understand what your saying I'm one of the guys who isn't attracted to the larger person but some people are, each to there own if you find a "" club "" that's fits the bill let me know cheers andy

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I'm guessing the first way

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I've never been to a club but I would of thought there was someone for everyone?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Join the killing kittens website.

Make a profile and wait and see if you're accepted. Then go to their parties that are held.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

that's just rude, on a site yes put preferences as we do and that's who we attract, clubs? open to all and perhaps you go for what you want and others go for what they want, no need for segregation!!!!!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I'm sure there are some exclusive clubs that I've heard people mention whereby you have to meet certain criteria to get in. Maybe these would be more to your taste?...I'm sure someone knows what I'm talking about and will be along soon to advise.

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By *ittle_brat_evie!!Woman over a year ago

evesham

I can't think of any clubs that specially only allow people of a certain BMI or weight in but there are exclusive party events such as killing kittens who have strict admission criteria.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Join the killing kittens website.

Make a profile and wait and see if you're accepted. Then go to their parties that are held.

Killing kittens! That's the one i meant

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"We've been to a couple of clubs...quite taken aback at the amount of obese naked people there (their choice, but not aesthetically pleasing/erotic to us), so we just wondered ...are there any clubs where the majority in attendance are not massively overweight?

Before anyone has a pop (as surely thy will) We aren't models, nor athletic ....but we aren't overweight."

If you don;t like it don't stay - Oh by the way mind the door on your way out.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Is that question for fucking real ?

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By *ophieslutTV/TS over a year ago

Central

It's been mixed when I've been out to clubs - the same place can reflect a different profile of user one day to the next.

But I've not been to one where it's largely obese. Do they offer unlimited bread and dripping, a huge chocolate fountain that flows forever etc?

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By *ittle_brat_evie!!Woman over a year ago

evesham

"that's just rude, on a site yes put preferences as we do and that's who we attract, clubs? open to all and perhaps you go for what you want and others go for what they want, no need for segregation!!!!!"

It's not rude. They aren't saying that fat people shouldn't be there, they are saying they are nor turned on by fat people and so wish to socialise in places where they are more likely to be aroused. Absolutely nothing rude about that.

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By *ittle_brat_evie!!Woman over a year ago

evesham

Before anyone has a pop (as surely thy will) We aren't models, nor athletic ....but we aren't overweight.

If you don;t like it don't stay - Oh by the way mind the door on your way out."

Why are you being so rude to them? It's a perfectly reasonable question. Or are you hoping all the fatties will send you defending their right to go to clubs (a right that was never in question in the opening post) and fall to their knees open mouthed ready to show how grateful they are?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

It's not really rude. Many parties/clubs cater for preferences....fetish/bi/black guys etc etc

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By *ittle_brat_evie!!Woman over a year ago

evesham

"Is that question for fucking real ?"

Yes. What's wrong with it?

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By *j48Man over a year ago

Wigan

A reflection of the size of people on this site I'd guess

Most are overweight so I'd think you'd see the same in any club..

Hence why I haven't been to one..

Ugly guys want to get laid, so do fat lasses..

We all try to punch over our weight.. It's natural..

Lasses will get laid no matter what.. Guys won't - simple

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By *icecouple561Couple over a year ago
Forum Mod

East Sussex

"Is that question for fucking real ?"

Yes. There are often threads asking if any clubs cater for people under 40, loads of clubs do BBW nights, BMFC nights etc, what's the difference?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

There's a party organiser that runs in Leeds, can't for the life in me remember the name though! I'm sure there will be plenty in London. If normal clubs aren't what you're looking for.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

What are you taken aback by ?

Fat people having fun or the fact you weren't ?

I have seen people of all shapes and sizes in clubs.

It doesn't bother me what they look like naked. If I find them unattractive, so what ?

There is no compulsion to play with them or even socialise with them.

It sounds like you who has the problem not them.

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By *ittle_brat_evie!!Woman over a year ago

evesham

"A reflection of the size of people on this site I'd guess

Most are overweight so I'd think you'd see the same in any club..

Hence why I haven't been to one..

Ugly guys want to get laid, so do fat lasses..

We all try to punch over our weight.. It's natural..

Lasses will get laid no matter what.. Guys won't - simple "

And ugly personalities wank a lot - it's a funny old world.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

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By *abioMan over a year ago

Newcastle and Gateshead

"Join the killing kittens website.

Make a profile and wait and see if you're accepted. Then go to their parties that are held.

Killing kittens! That's the one i meant

nooo... they are too old for the killing kittens crowd......

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"A reflection of the size of people on this site I'd guess

Most are overweight so I'd think you'd see the same in any club..

Hence why I haven't been to one..

Ugly guys want to get laid, so do fat lasses..

We all try to punch over our weight.. It's natural..

Lasses will get laid no matter what.. Guys won't - simple

And ugly personalities wank a lot - it's a funny old world. "

Hahaha that's funny quite probably true

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By *icecouple561Couple over a year ago
Forum Mod

East Sussex

Apparently 60% of the population is overweight so it's likely that will be reflected in club attendance or anywhere else for that matter.

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By *laytime 100Couple over a year ago

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I understand the OP's viewpoint but aren't they just simply being too unrealistic. Where in the non swinging world would you decide to go based simply on body type? Perhaps they should avoid shopping in certain shops because the people shopping there are to fat, or god forbid come across a clothes shop selling pus size clothes.

Please live in the real world - people come in all shapes and sizes, some are for you and some aren't. Socialise who the ones you like but don't segregate those you don't like.

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By *urvymamaWoman over a year ago

Doncaster

The average UK size is a 16, people of that size are usually classified as obese, so I would say most clubs would reflect that statistic

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By *ty31Man over a year ago

NW London

You could try an exclusive party, as others have suggested, such as killing kittens or Heaven SX but there is always the risk that you may not be accepted as membership to these can be selective.

Otherwise Le Boudoir in Whitechapel has developed a reputation for having membership policy against obesity.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

It's not really rude. Many parties/clubs cater for preferences....fetish/bi/black guys etc etc"

still rude to me!!! clubs are for all, parties for preferencies obv a diff thing xx

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By *icecouple561Couple over a year ago
Forum Mod

East Sussex

"I understand the OP's viewpoint but aren't they just simply being too unrealistic. Where in the non swinging world would you decide to go based simply on body type? Perhaps they should avoid shopping in certain shops because the people shopping there are to fat, or god forbid come across a clothes shop selling pus size clothes.

Please live in the real world - people come in all shapes and sizes, some are for you and some aren't. Socialise who the ones you like but don't segregate those you don't like."

In the context of fab then do you think people should stop asking to meet black guys only or the men who want to meet BBWs shouldn't attend BBW nights?

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By *urvymamaWoman over a year ago

Doncaster

As other have mentioned there are elite groups but the harsh reality is your age and description of yourselves to be average looking you wouldnt be allowed membership to said groups

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

So why have BBW nights?

Although i do feel while a BBW night works a "slim girls" (is there even an acronym) night would be a disaster as no one would want to risk getting turned away, then there would be a few militant BBW who would go, then the majority of rhe type that would fit in would probbaly bail because its just bound to be a PR disaster

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By *j48Man over a year ago

Wigan

Smarmy women get laid too..

Just the same as a fat lass will

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By *ittle_brat_evie!!Woman over a year ago

evesham

It's not really rude. Many parties/clubs cater for preferences....fetish/bi/black guys etc etc

still rude to me!!! clubs are for all, parties for preferencies obv a diff thing xx"

It's no different than going out for a night to a new club but realising the music is shit and you can't get your groove one to it so you ask of anyone knows any clubs that play the music you like

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By *ownhouseTwosomeCouple over a year ago

Birkenhead/Liverpool

A club generally wouldn't segregate people based on looks or size. Yes some of us have age restricted events, parties for just guys, just girls, trans members or the fetish contingency.

Bear in mind that the average female dress size in the UK is a size 16, would this be acceptable to you? Look at my pics; on most of them, I am a size 16..is this too fat for you?

A club would not only accept people under a certain dress size as it would be business suicide. I totally understand why you have this preference, like any other preference we may have, but a club represents the population and it is well known that we are an ever growing (in size) population.

Killing kittens is your best bet for an organisation who vets people based on size, looks and age; just be prepared for the knock back yourself if you don't fit the bill!

I really don't have a problem with you having this preference but if you go to a club, you will need to take a chance like we all do based on our individual preferences.

Good luck xxx

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

OMG just lock us fat people up n throw the key away, Is this what the world is going to be like in the future ?

Fat - lock em up

Married - lock em up

Ugly - lock em up

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By *ophieslutTV/TS over a year ago

Central

The killing dogs parties have height, hip, waist, weight physical restrictions markers/barriers, like at Alton Towers, ensuring only creme de la creme enter. The rest go on Jeremy Kyle.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"What are you taken aback by ?

Fat people having fun or the fact you weren't ?

I have seen people of all shapes and sizes in clubs.

It doesn't bother me what they look like naked. If I find them unattractive, so what ?

There is no compulsion to play with them or even socialise with them.

It sounds like you who has the problem not them."

I dunno when you stop in a quiet corridor corner for a quick kiss and light play looking up from your partners neck to come face to face with 3 fat, old rather unattractive old men starring and wanking away under thier towels can seriously kill the mood.

And yes if i looked up and there was a fit young couple maybe having a bit of a play themselves that would be differnt/a turn on.

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By *laytime 100Couple over a year ago

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No not at all. I have no issue with anybody having their preferences (god knows I do!) what I'm saying is that in most club environments there will be, quite rightly, all types and shapes of people. This means that most people will find what they are looking for.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"OMG just lock us fat people up n throw the key away, Is this what the world is going to be like in the future ?

Fat - lock em up

Married - lock em up

Ugly - lock em up"

If you're gonna be fat you could at least be jolly.

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By *ittle_brat_evie!!Woman over a year ago

evesham

So why have BBW nights?

Slim women are always welcome at any bbw night I arrange. The club stays open for all members but I hold a guest list of people who are allowed to attend under my membership. No discrimination, I have had size 10's request to be on my guest list. By having a night where you know people are going to be interested in larger ladies they feel more comfortable and secure in the knowledge that they are less likely to receive abuse for being there (I know from personal experience that this happens)

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By *ittle_brat_evie!!Woman over a year ago

evesham

"OMG just lock us fat people up n throw the key away, Is this what the world is going to be like in the future ?

Fat - lock em up

Married - lock em up

Ugly - lock em up"

Are you reading a comedy different thread

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By *ittle_brat_evie!!Woman over a year ago

evesham

"Smarmy women get laid too..

Just the same as a fat lass will "

And still the ugly personality wanks....

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Before anyone has a pop (as surely thy will) We aren't models, nor athletic ....but we aren't overweight."

A club with a weighbridge on the door!?

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By *urvymamaWoman over a year ago

Doncaster

"OMG just lock us fat people up n throw the key away, Is this what the world is going to be like in the future ?

Fat - lock em up

Married - lock em up

Ugly - lock em up

If you're gonna be fat you could at least be jolly."

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By *ittle_brat_evie!!Woman over a year ago

evesham

"What are you taken aback by ?

Fat people having fun or the fact you weren't ?

I have seen people of all shapes and sizes in clubs.

It doesn't bother me what they look like naked. If I find them unattractive, so what ?

There is no compulsion to play with them or even socialise with them.

It sounds like you who has the problem not them."

They never said they didn't agree with anyone being there,just that they are not their thing and so are looking for a more suitable crowd.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

wear a blind fold

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By *urvymamaWoman over a year ago

Doncaster

Am I the only fat person that hasn't taken offence to the OPs question?

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By *razedcatMan over a year ago

London / Herts

Whilst I don't know of any clubs with fixed premises operating this kind of policy, there certainly are parties that are run with stricter entrance requirements...

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By *ischief ManagedCouple over a year ago

manchester

These type of posts really diminish my ever lacking self confidence.. there are people in clubs who I'm not attracted to but I just smile and get on with my night. I think I'm not sexy/slim/attractive enough for swinging and posts like this just make me wonder why I'm here??

Oh yes because my partner and I love sex... Our most intimate thing and we are allowing people to share that.. if they don't find us attractive (up to now they have smiled chatted but not played) and luckily in the clubs I've been in.. I've never felt uneasy about myself. I'm sure somewhere will cater for those wants/needs.. but let's just hope you never fall into a "category" where you are made to feel inadequate.

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By *ittle_brat_evie!!Woman over a year ago

evesham

"Am I the only fat person that hasn't taken offence to the OPs question? "

Nope, I wasn't offended either. I was more offended by people's reactions to it lol

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"What are you taken aback by ?

Fat people having fun or the fact you weren't ?

I have seen people of all shapes and sizes in clubs.

It doesn't bother me what they look like naked. If I find them unattractive, so what ?

There is no compulsion to play with them or even socialise with them.

It sounds like you who has the problem not them.

They never said they didn't agree with anyone being there,just that they are not their thing and so are looking for a more suitable crowd. "

Half of me agrees

Half of me thinks they stopped short of saying naked fatties repulse them

I am in two minds

Maybe I'm tired ?

Time for bed

I'll see how I read it with a fresh pair of eyes tomorrow x

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By *asokittyWoman over a year ago

Nr Worksop

"Am I the only fat person that hasn't taken offence to the OPs question? "

Nope. I've not. Fair play on them. As long as people are not rude it's their choice.

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By *aeBabeWoman over a year ago

London

People don't take offence please x

We like what we like and sometimes the surroundings matter as they contribute to the atmosphere and how sexy we feel to get in that zone. That's why some people can only play in private rooms at clubs or why some people only do private meets as the idea of clubs can be too much. It's all psychological

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By *ittle_brat_evie!!Woman over a year ago

evesham

"These type of posts really diminish my ever lacking self confidence.. there are people in clubs who I'm not attracted to but I just smile and get on with my night. I think I'm not sexy/slim/attractive enough for swinging and posts like this just make me wonder why I'm here??

But they haven't said you shouldn't be there, they have actually said they shouldn't be there and are seeking somewhere better for them....

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Join the killing kittens website.

Make a profile and wait and see if you're accepted. Then go to their parties that are held.

Killing kittens! That's the one i meant

nooo... they are too old for the killing kittens crowd...... "

They have silver kitten for over 45s so they could still apply

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By *urvymamaWoman over a year ago

Doncaster

"Am I the only fat person that hasn't taken offence to the OPs question?

Nope, I wasn't offended either. I was more offended by people's reactions to it lol "

I haven't read the whole thread but at least I'm not alone.

It's a simple matter of a preference related question, Shane it's been taken so out of context

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Am I the only fat person that hasn't taken offence to the OPs question? "

I'm not offended as a fatty

I'm kinda offended on a human level

See points above about tiredness tho

My offence may dissipate with sleep

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Join the killing kittens website.

Make a profile and wait and see if you're accepted. Then go to their parties that are held.

Killing kittens! That's the one i meant

nooo... they are too old for the killing kittens crowd...... "

I thought kk had age restrictions wasn't sure though, goodluck op at finding what turns you on

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By *urvymamaWoman over a year ago

Doncaster

"Am I the only fat person that hasn't taken offence to the OPs question?

I'm not offended as a fatty

I'm kinda offended on a human level

See points above about tiredness tho

My offence may dissipate with sleep

Well off to bed with you then young man!

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By *erdita Von TeaseWoman over a year ago

nottingham

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Fat Obese guy here & i am only on here for friendship, I found they way it was put across offensive.

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By *oluptuousWetOneWoman over a year ago

Wokingham / Reading

"Am I the only fat person that hasn't taken offence to the OPs question? "

NO I thought they did quite tactfully.

It seems lately any sort of preference is being attacked.

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By *asokittyWoman over a year ago

Nr Worksop

"Fat Obese guy here & i am only on here for friendship, I found they way it was put across offensive. "

You clearly have an axe to grind with some of your replies.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Fat Obese guy here & i am only on here for friendship, I found they way it was put across offensive. "

That probably says more about you than them

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Am I the only fat person that hasn't taken offence to the OPs question?

Nope, I wasn't offended either. I was more offended by people's reactions to it lol

I haven't read the whole thread but at least I'm not alone.

It's a simple matter of a preference related question, Shane it's been taken so out of context "

I'm not offended either...as with everything on fab people who aren't included feel offended and down trodden....the same happens on the bbc threads, the white guys can't help themselves. On the bbw appreciating threads, the slim have a pop. Fab never fails to deliver in that respect.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"wear a blind fold

Eat less?

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By *ischief ManagedCouple over a year ago

manchester

But they haven't said you shouldn't be there, they have actually said they shouldn't be there and are seeking somewhere better for them...."

Very true.. maybe my reaction is because I'm insecure about myself. but being around swinging has boosted my confidence a bit! Every one is entitled to an opinion, view, type ect.. I hope the op finds what they are looking for.. swinging is about enjoying yourself.. so go out and enjoy! I do.. x

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"wear a blind fold

Eat less?

My size is nothing to do with food, it is down to medication.

a slice of brown toast in the morning

a small salad for lunch ( no meat or dairy )

a bowl of soup for tea

every day

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By *asokittyWoman over a year ago

Nr Worksop

"wear a blind fold

Eat less?

My size is nothing to do with food, it is down to medication.

a slice of brown toast in the morning

a small salad for lunch ( no meat or dairy )

a bowl of soup for tea

every day "

Oh come off it.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Am I the only fat person that hasn't taken offence to the OPs question? "

I wasn't offended, i did find it funny in the LOL kinda way however that the OP seems to want a club exclusively for average people! the least exclusive group of all

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"wear a blind fold

Eat less?

My size is nothing to do with food, it is down to medication.

a slice of brown toast in the morning

a small salad for lunch ( no meat or dairy )

a bowl of soup for tea

every day

Oh come off it. "

Be-leave what you want i don't have to justify myself to you or anyone else.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"wear a blind fold

Eat less?

My size is nothing to do with food, it is down to medication.

a slice of brown toast in the morning

a small salad for lunch ( no meat or dairy )

a bowl of soup for tea

every day "

No its not its down to food.

Unless you some how violate the laws of physics.

Also what youve described there as an every day diet is so hilariously a lie that it proves my point.

Protip:you wpuld be severely ill, malnurished and quite possibly dead on that diet after a few months.

Your body is made up entirely of what you consume. You're not a plant no carbon is being absorbed from the air to build you.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Your body is made up entirely of what you consume. You're not a plant no carbon is being absorbed from the air to build you.

Well that versus what you burn. Soldiers in Afghanistan were eating 6,000 calories a day and still losing weight because of how many calories they were burning!

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By *manda63Woman over a year ago

Southampton

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By *erdita Von TeaseWoman over a year ago

nottingham

"Am I the only fat person that hasn't taken offence to the OPs question?

I wasn't offended, i did find it funny in the LOL kinda way however that the OP seems to want a club exclusively for average people! the least exclusive group of all

I don't think it's hugely offensive but I don't think the words 'taken aback' were the most tactful

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Your body is made up entirely of what you consume. You're not a plant no carbon is being absorbed from the air to build you.

Well that versus what you burn. Soldiers in Afghanistan were eating 6,000 calories a day and still losing weight because of how many calories they were burning!"

Indeed an average person has to eat over 5000 a day just to maintain body mass in the artic etc.

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By *asokittyWoman over a year ago

Nr Worksop

"wear a blind fold

Eat less?

My size is nothing to do with food, it is down to medication.

a slice of brown toast in the morning

a small salad for lunch ( no meat or dairy )

a bowl of soup for tea

every day

Oh come off it.

Be-leave what you want i don't have to justify myself to you or anyone else. "

I will believe that you're talking balderdash!!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

there is always someone who is prepared to take on the outrage on behalf of everyone else, regardless of whether everyone else is outraged or not

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By *manda63Woman over a year ago

Southampton

Before anyone has a pop (as surely thy will) We aren't models, nor athletic ....but we aren't overweight."

I'm fat which is down to my bad eating habits but I'm trying to lose weight but the stress in my life doesn't help. It's your choice who you meet and I prefer slim men as my preference. I can't comment on your body size as you have no public pictures

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Your body is made up entirely of what you consume. You're not a plant no carbon is being absorbed from the air to build you.

Well that versus what you burn. Soldiers in Afghanistan were eating 6,000 calories a day and still losing weight because of how many calories they were burning!

Indeed an average person has to eat over 5000 a day just to maintain body mass in the artic etc.

Good in theory but there's no KFC out there so whilst you'd be free to eat what you like but all the good stuff isn't available. It's like a cruel trick. Who wants to eat 5,000 calories of spam?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Can't be bothered to be offended by op post .will say and expect to get abuse for ,some medications can and do cause Weight gain no matter what a person eats .

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Your body is made up entirely of what you consume. You're not a plant no carbon is being absorbed from the air to build you.

Well that versus what you burn. Soldiers in Afghanistan were eating 6,000 calories a day and still losing weight because of how many calories they were burning!

Indeed an average person has to eat over 5000 a day just to maintain body mass in the artic etc.

Good in theory but there's no KFC out there so whilst you'd be free to eat what you like but all the good stuff isn't available. It's like a cruel trick. Who wants to eat 5,000 calories of spam? "

Spam? You should be so lucky think more a pack of animal suet for the authentic traditional approach.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Your body is made up entirely of what you consume. You're not a plant no carbon is being absorbed from the air to build you.

Well that versus what you burn. Soldiers in Afghanistan were eating 6,000 calories a day and still losing weight because of how many calories they were burning!

Indeed an average person has to eat over 5000 a day just to maintain body mass in the artic etc.

Good in theory but there's no KFC out there so whilst you'd be free to eat what you like but all the good stuff isn't available. It's like a cruel trick. Who wants to eat 5,000 calories of spam?

Spam? You should be so lucky think more a pack of animal suet for the authentic traditional approach."

I don't see the point in travelling somewhere that doesn't serve KFC gravy.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"wear a blind fold

Eat less?

My size is nothing to do with food, it is down to medication.

a slice of brown toast in the morning

a small salad for lunch ( no meat or dairy )

a bowl of soup for tea

every day

Oh come off it.

Be-leave what you want i don't have to justify myself to you or anyone else. "

The problem is that you aren't spending enough time in the artic or Afghanistan. We could put something up on a crowd sourcing site for you?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Can't be bothered to be offended by op post .will say and expect to get abuse for ,some medications can and do cause Weight gain no matter what a person eats ."

No they can ;

Increase your appetite (through a variety of mechanisms),

Slow your metabolism and lower your BMR,

Make you lethargic and thus lower your actively consumed calories,

But they cannot make matter out of nothing. They're tablets not violators of the conservation of energy principle.

*spent 4 or 5 years on 2 medeicstions with "excessive weight gain" as thier main side effect.

Also more worryingly "sudden unexplained death" as a very rare side effect on one.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Before anyone has a pop (as surely thy will) We aren't models, nor athletic ....but we aren't overweight."

The average is overweight nowadays. The exception are not. Good luck finding a club that excludes average people.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Can't be bothered to be offended by op post .will say and expect to get abuse for ,some medications can and do cause Weight gain no matter what a person eats .

No they can ;

Increase your appetite (through a variety of mechanisms),

Slow your metabolism and lower your BMR,

Make you lethargic and thus lower your actively consumed calories,

But they cannot make matter out of nothing. They're tablets not violators of the conservation of energy principle.

*spent 4 or 5 years on 2 medeicstions with "excessive weight gain" as thier main side effect.

Also more worryingly "sudden unexplained death" as a very rare side effect on one.

Spontaneous human combustion is more of an 'effect' than 'side effect' really

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Before anyone has a pop (as surely thy will) We aren't models, nor athletic ....but we aren't overweight.

The average is overweight nowadays. The exception are not. Good luck finding a club that excludes average people. "

Gay sauna?

Pretty sure that excludes that statistical average of the pppulation.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Can't be bothered to be offended by op post .will say and expect to get abuse for ,some medications can and do cause Weight gain no matter what a person eats .

No they can ;

Increase your appetite (through a variety of mechanisms),

Slow your metabolism and lower your BMR,

Make you lethargic and thus lower your actively consumed calories,

But they cannot make matter out of nothing. They're tablets not violators of the conservation of energy principle.

*spent 4 or 5 years on 2 medeicstions with "excessive weight gain" as thier main side effect.

Also more worryingly "sudden unexplained death" as a very rare side effect on one.

Why were you on them if you don't mind me asking

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By *ittle_brat_evie!!Woman over a year ago

evesham

"wear a blind fold

Eat less?

Shocker....it's turned into Dr wolf ryder 'i know everything about you even though I don't know you' fatty special. How presumptuous of you to tell someone they are lying about their diet?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"wear a blind fold

Eat less?

Shocker....it's turned into Dr wolf ryder 'i know everything about you even though I don't know you' fatty special. How presumptuous of you to tell someone they are lying about their diet? "

Youre right I'm sorry, his hilarious diet plan is so true.

Btw did i mention i take 6 brearhs a day.

Totally true honest.

But that comment you quoted was just a retort to his comment about closing your eyes in reply to my first comment.

Witty back and forth.

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By *urvymamaWoman over a year ago

Doncaster

"wear a blind fold

Eat less?

My size is nothing to do with food, it is down to medication.

a slice of brown toast in the morning

a small salad for lunch ( no meat or dairy )

a bowl of soup for tea

every day "

I used to use the medication excuse then I decided to stop kidding myself and have so far lost 15 stone

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By *ittle_brat_evie!!Woman over a year ago

evesham

No one on this thread was asking about losing weight. It's preachers like this that piss me off more than those who say fat people shouldn't be on here. (I know that not what the thread was about though).

Sanctimonious bores in my opinion.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Before anyone has a pop (as surely thy will) We aren't models, nor athletic ....but we aren't overweight.

The average is overweight nowadays. The exception are not. Good luck finding a club that excludes average people. "

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By *ittle_brat_evie!!Woman over a year ago

evesham

"wear a blind fold

Eat less?

Shocker....it's turned into Dr wolf ryder 'i know everything about you even though I don't know you' fatty special. How presumptuous of you to tell someone they are lying about their diet?

Youre right I'm sorry, his hilarious diet plan is so true.

Btw did i mention i take 6 brearhs a day.

Totally true honest.

But that comment you quoted was just a retort to his comment about closing your eyes in reply to my first comment.

Witty back and forth."

Even of it isn't true what has it got to do with you? Are you his dietician? Are you in any way affected by what he eats?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Before anyone has a pop (as surely thy will) We aren't models, nor athletic ....but we aren't overweight."

Perhaps clubs just aren't for you in this case.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Can't be bothered to be offended by op post .will say and expect to get abuse for ,some medications can and do cause Weight gain no matter what a person eats .

No they can ;

Increase your appetite (through a variety of mechanisms),

Slow your metabolism and lower your BMR,

Make you lethargic and thus lower your actively consumed calories,

But they cannot make matter out of nothing. They're tablets not violators of the conservation of energy principle.

*spent 4 or 5 years on 2 medeicstions with "excessive weight gain" as thier main side effect.

Also more worryingly "sudden unexplained death" as a very rare side effect on one.

Why were you on them if you don't mind me asking "

Mental health meds.

Joy of interfering with the most loosely understood organs is you tend to fuck up every other system in your body at the same time.

Zero motivation to move, persistent hunger (with a sweet tooth like no orher I'd wake up in the night and go eat honey or golden syrup from the jar with a spon) and lower bmr from being sedated.

I can see why so many people develop type two diabetes on them sugar was the major part of my diet which obviously crashes fast so you keed more of it. Gotta be a strain on your pancreas

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By *r FirecrackerMan over a year ago

London

"OMG just lock us fat people up n throw the key away, Is this what the world is going to be like in the future ?

Fat - lock em up

Married - lock em up

Ugly - lock em up

If you're gonna be fat you could at least be jolly."

Agreed! You speak a lot of sense mate. Unfortunately the truth hurts and that doesn't sit well with some....

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"wear a blind fold

Eat less?

Shocker....it's turned into Dr wolf ryder 'i know everything about you even though I don't know you' fatty special. How presumptuous of you to tell someone they are lying about their diet?

Youre right I'm sorry, his hilarious diet plan is so true.

Btw did i mention i take 6 brearhs a day.

Totally true honest.

But that comment you quoted was just a retort to his comment about closing your eyes in reply to my first comment.

Witty back and forth.

Even of it isn't true what has it got to do with you? Are you his dietician? Are you in any way affected by what he eats? "

Is that the criteria for responding to posts on a public forum? Or is there another rule that everyone must agree with everyone?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"wear a blind fold

Eat less?

Shocker....it's turned into Dr wolf ryder 'i know everything about you even though I don't know you' fatty special. How presumptuous of you to tell someone they are lying about their diet?

Youre right I'm sorry, his hilarious diet plan is so true.

Btw did i mention i take 6 brearhs a day.

Totally true honest.

But that comment you quoted was just a retort to his comment about closing your eyes in reply to my first comment.

Witty back and forth.

Even of it isn't true what has it got to do with you? Are you his dietician? Are you in any way affected by what he eats? "

Cause thats how conversations work?

Why are you interested in what i say, are you his mum?

Are you in anyway affected by my conversation with him?

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By *londie bearWoman over a year ago

Bexley-ish

I've been to clubs many times and can't say i've ever noticed how many fat people, thin people, old people, young people, average people or ugly people were there. I was too busy socialising and enjoying myself.

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By *ittle_brat_evie!!Woman over a year ago

evesham

[Removed by poster at 09/06/16 00:25:52]

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Can't be bothered to be offended by op post .will say and expect to get abuse for ,some medications can and do cause Weight gain no matter what a person eats .

No they can ;

Increase your appetite (through a variety of mechanisms),

Slow your metabolism and lower your BMR,

Make you lethargic and thus lower your actively consumed calories,

But they cannot make matter out of nothing. They're tablets not violators of the conservation of energy principle.

*spent 4 or 5 years on 2 medeicstions with "excessive weight gain" as thier main side effect.

Also more worryingly "sudden unexplained death" as a very rare side effect on one.

Why were you on them if you don't mind me asking

Mental health meds.

Joy of interfering with the most loosely understood organs is you tend to fuck up every other system in your body at the same time.

Zero motivation to move, persistent hunger (with a sweet tooth like no orher I'd wake up in the night and go eat honey or golden syrup from the jar with a spon) and lower bmr from being sedated.

I can see why so many people develop type two diabetes on them sugar was the major part of my diet which obviously crashes fast so you keed more of it. Gotta be a strain on your pancreas

They come with a load of problems on top of the problem your taking them for ,I know as speak from experience.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"wear a blind fold

Eat less?

My size is nothing to do with food, it is down to medication.

a slice of brown toast in the morning

a small salad for lunch ( no meat or dairy )

a bowl of soup for tea

every day

I used to use the medication excuse then I decided to stop kidding myself and have so far lost 15 stone "

Fucking hell thats impressive

How do you cope with cravings? Do you substitute with other things or just sheer will power?

Im still bad for raiding the biscuits when im snackish.

I try to make nice meals now and experiment, trying to get my mind into thinking that food is an event rathet thsn something foxed quickly from a packet.

Will be a bit easier at the end of the year when im living alone so can just not buy much sugary stuff and rely on my lazyness to mean i wont go to the shop :p

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By *ittle_brat_evie!!Woman over a year ago

evesham

"wear a blind fold

Eat less?

Shocker....it's turned into Dr wolf ryder 'i know everything about you even though I don't know you' fatty special. How presumptuous of you to tell someone they are lying about their diet?

Youre right I'm sorry, his hilarious diet plan is so true.

Btw did i mention i take 6 brearhs a day.

Totally true honest.

But that comment you quoted was just a retort to his comment about closing your eyes in reply to my first comment.

Witty back and forth.

Even of it isn't true what has it got to do with you? Are you his dietician? Are you in any way affected by what he eats?

Is that the criteria for responding to posts on a public forum? Or is there another rule that everyone must agree with everyone? "

Never said they had to agree but to out and out call someone a liar when you have no personal interaction with them is out of line in my opinion.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"wear a blind fold

Eat less?

My size is nothing to do with food, it is down to medication.

a slice of brown toast in the morning

a small salad for lunch ( no meat or dairy )

a bowl of soup for tea

every day

I used to use the medication excuse then I decided to stop kidding myself and have so far lost 15 stone

Fucking hell thats impressive

How do you cope with cravings? Do you substitute with other things or just sheer will power?

Im still bad for raiding the biscuits when im snackish.

I try to make nice meals now and experiment, trying to get my mind into thinking that food is an event rathet thsn something foxed quickly from a packet.

Will be a bit easier at the end of the year when im living alone so can just not buy much sugary stuff and rely on my lazyness to mean i wont go to the shop :p

Eat dark chocolate instead of milk. I can eat two pieces of dark chocolate and feel satisfied but milk chocolate just makes you crave more and more. Perhaps it's because dark chocolate largely tastes like shit but there's just enough flavour to make you think "yeah that's done now"

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

The OP simply asked for advice to help them with something they were looking for, they weren't offensive about it.

From the responses however, it's little wonder these forums don't get more traffic with such pathetic attitudes all too prevalent.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"wear a blind fold

Eat less?

Shocker....it's turned into Dr wolf ryder 'i know everything about you even though I don't know you' fatty special. How presumptuous of you to tell someone they are lying about their diet?

Youre right I'm sorry, his hilarious diet plan is so true.

Btw did i mention i take 6 brearhs a day.

Totally true honest.

But that comment you quoted was just a retort to his comment about closing your eyes in reply to my first comment.

Witty back and forth.

Even of it isn't true what has it got to do with you? Are you his dietician? Are you in any way affected by what he eats?

Is that the criteria for responding to posts on a public forum? Or is there another rule that everyone must agree with everyone?

Never said they had to agree but to out and out call someone a liar when you have no personal interaction with them is out of line in my opinion. "

Part and parcel of a public forum in mine. You need a bit of thick skin around here.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"wear a blind fold

Eat less?

Shocker....it's turned into Dr wolf ryder 'i know everything about you even though I don't know you' fatty special. How presumptuous of you to tell someone they are lying about their diet?

Youre right I'm sorry, his hilarious diet plan is so true.

Btw did i mention i take 6 brearhs a day.

Totally true honest.

But that comment you quoted was just a retort to his comment about closing your eyes in reply to my first comment.

Witty back and forth.

Even of it isn't true what has it got to do with you? Are you his dietician? Are you in any way affected by what he eats?

Is that the criteria for responding to posts on a public forum? Or is there another rule that everyone must agree with everyone?

Never said they had to agree but to out and out call someone a liar when you have no personal interaction with them is out of line in my opinion. "

im sorry but i think if you post something on a public forum that is clearly untrue then you can only expect to be picked up on it.it is completely unhelpful to make a claim like that.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"wear a blind fold

Eat less?

Shocker....it's turned into Dr wolf ryder 'i know everything about you even though I don't know you' fatty special. How presumptuous of you to tell someone they are lying about their diet?

Youre right I'm sorry, his hilarious diet plan is so true.

Btw did i mention i take 6 brearhs a day.

Totally true honest.

But that comment you quoted was just a retort to his comment about closing your eyes in reply to my first comment.

Witty back and forth.

Even of it isn't true what has it got to do with you? Are you his dietician? Are you in any way affected by what he eats?

Is that the criteria for responding to posts on a public forum? Or is there another rule that everyone must agree with everyone?

Never said they had to agree but to out and out call someone a liar when you have no personal interaction with them is out of line in my opinion. "

Damn political threads are gonna be a damn sight quieter if people cant call politicians liars.

Although i do find it amusing how the first reply to his post (and subsistent ones) that dismissed it was from a larger woman but you ignored that and went for the single guys comment.

Trying for the low hanging fruit for an old pitchfork party eh?

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By *ittle_brat_evie!!Woman over a year ago

evesham

"wear a blind fold

Eat less?

Shocker....it's turned into Dr wolf ryder 'i know everything about you even though I don't know you' fatty special. How presumptuous of you to tell someone they are lying about their diet?

Youre right I'm sorry, his hilarious diet plan is so true.

Btw did i mention i take 6 brearhs a day.

Totally true honest.

But that comment you quoted was just a retort to his comment about closing your eyes in reply to my first comment.

Witty back and forth.

Even of it isn't true what has it got to do with you? Are you his dietician? Are you in any way affected by what he eats?

Is that the criteria for responding to posts on a public forum? Or is there another rule that everyone must agree with everyone?

Never said they had to agree but to out and out call someone a liar when you have no personal interaction with them is out of line in my opinion.

Part and parcel of a public forum in mine. You need a bit of thick skin around here. "

Oh believe me, I've the hide (and outline) of a rhino, just sometimes things fuck me off and I can't stop my fingers from flying

Much like B.U.S.S.Y I fear I'm tired and emotional so am off to bed.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

does veggie burgers not constitute a food on salads ?

I choose to eat this way for the last 2 years due to 4 heart attacks & my size has made me depressed over the years, I didn't say the pills started me being over weight did i, I said that they don't help me now.

As for the OP original post, If you go to a night club & they don't play your kind of music ever would you keep paying to go back ? No, then don't moan about what you don't want you have the internet get searching for something you do want.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"wear a blind fold

Eat less?

Shocker....it's turned into Dr wolf ryder 'i know everything about you even though I don't know you' fatty special. How presumptuous of you to tell someone they are lying about their diet?

Youre right I'm sorry, his hilarious diet plan is so true.

Btw did i mention i take 6 brearhs a day.

Totally true honest.

But that comment you quoted was just a retort to his comment about closing your eyes in reply to my first comment.

Witty back and forth.

Even of it isn't true what has it got to do with you? Are you his dietician? Are you in any way affected by what he eats?

Is that the criteria for responding to posts on a public forum? Or is there another rule that everyone must agree with everyone?

Never said they had to agree but to out and out call someone a liar when you have no personal interaction with them is out of line in my opinion.

Part and parcel of a public forum in mine. You need a bit of thick skin around here.

Oh believe me, I've the hide (and outline) of a rhino, just sometimes things fuck me off and I can't stop my fingers from flying

Much like B.U.S.S.Y I fear I'm tired and emotional so am off to bed."

Oh I know you have thick skin!!! It was Mr soup-for-dinner that I was suggesting should work on it...

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By *r FirecrackerMan over a year ago

London

"wear a blind fold

Eat less?

Shocker....it's turned into Dr wolf ryder 'i know everything about you even though I don't know you' fatty special. How presumptuous of you to tell someone they are lying about their diet?

Youre right I'm sorry, his hilarious diet plan is so true.

Btw did i mention i take 6 brearhs a day.

Totally true honest.

But that comment you quoted was just a retort to his comment about closing your eyes in reply to my first comment.

Witty back and forth.

Even of it isn't true what has it got to do with you? Are you his dietician? Are you in any way affected by what he eats?

Is that the criteria for responding to posts on a public forum? Or is there another rule that everyone must agree with everyone?

Never said they had to agree but to out and out call someone a liar when you have no personal interaction with them is out of line in my opinion.

Damn political threads are gonna be a damn sight quieter if people cant call politicians liars.

Although i do find it amusing how the first reply to his post (and subsistent ones) that dismissed it was from a larger woman but you ignored that and went for the single guys comment.

Trying for the low hanging fruit for an old pitchfork party eh?

Wolf Ryder, I salute you.

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By *ittle_brat_evie!!Woman over a year ago

evesham

"wear a blind fold

Eat less?

Shocker....it's turned into Dr wolf ryder 'i know everything about you even though I don't know you' fatty special. How presumptuous of you to tell someone they are lying about their diet?

Youre right I'm sorry, his hilarious diet plan is so true.

Btw did i mention i take 6 brearhs a day.

Totally true honest.

But that comment you quoted was just a retort to his comment about closing your eyes in reply to my first comment.

Witty back and forth.

Even of it isn't true what has it got to do with you? Are you his dietician? Are you in any way affected by what he eats?

Is that the criteria for responding to posts on a public forum? Or is there another rule that everyone must agree with everyone?

Never said they had to agree but to out and out call someone a liar when you have no personal interaction with them is out of line in my opinion.

Damn political threads are gonna be a damn sight quieter if people cant call politicians liars.

Although i do find it amusing how the first reply to his post (and subsistent ones) that dismissed it was from a larger woman but you ignored that and went for the single guys comment.

Trying for the low hanging fruit for an old pitchfork party eh?

You're right, I concede that I did miss other replies...perhaps it was the delivery of the retort that raised my hackles, who knows but I've said my piece and bid you a good night.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"does veggie burgers not constitute a food on salads ?

Honestly buddy, diet is the most depressing / unpleasant snd overrated way to lose weight. Much better to enjoy a treat or two but burn a few thousand calories a week via exercise.

I know you've probably got bad knees or something but seriously there's an exercise for anyone, even DDP yoga can help you lose weight!

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By *urvymamaWoman over a year ago

Doncaster

"wear a blind fold

Eat less?

My size is nothing to do with food, it is down to medication.

a slice of brown toast in the morning

a small salad for lunch ( no meat or dairy )

a bowl of soup for tea

every day

I used to use the medication excuse then I decided to stop kidding myself and have so far lost 15 stone

Fucking hell thats impressive

How do you cope with cravings? Do you substitute with other things or just sheer will power?

Im still bad for raiding the biscuits when im snackish.

I try to make nice meals now and experiment, trying to get my mind into thinking that food is an event rathet thsn something foxed quickly from a packet.

Will be a bit easier at the end of the year when im living alone so can just not buy much sugary stuff and rely on my lazyness to mean i wont go to the shop :p

I do slimming world, they have some great low syn alternatives. I'll buy slimming world hi Fi bars from group, sugar free jellies, half sugar free jelly and half a yoghurt makes like a sweet mousse that's low calorie, slimming world style Ferrero rocher as good for a choccy fix, but as we've all things that are bad for you they still need eating in moderation so will power is an essential part to my success

One thing I've found is good for killing sweet tooth is pickled foods onions, gherkins, beetroot. On slimming world they are also called "speed foods" so are good for boosting the metabolism

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman over a year ago

little house on the praire

I.wasnt offended. But im not.sure where you are going to.get what your looking for.unless its.a.specialist party

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By *arnayguyMan over a year ago

Durham Tees

What you saw is probably what is walking round the streets, just minus the clothes.

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By *ricksydemonMan over a year ago

llandudno

I'm overweight

I go to clubs for fun and also the social side,

I know im not everyone's cup of tea, anymore than a slim person is, purely on size, if you're not aroused then that's fine, they pay their money the same as you and as such have the same rights, whether it be a 21 year old model or a 24 stone 60 year old.

And I haven't taken offence just purely pointing out that it is everyone's right to go as a person...

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By *ettyboop61Woman over a year ago

St Neots

Before anyone has a pop (as surely thy will) We aren't models, nor athletic ....but we aren't overweight."

Wow how nasty can you be!!!! We all have a right to be here!!! Can't help what God gave us!!!

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By *ettyboop61Woman over a year ago

St Neots

"What are you taken aback by ?

Fat people having fun or the fact you weren't ?

I have seen people of all shapes and sizes in clubs.

It doesn't bother me what they look like naked. If I find them unattractive, so what ?

There is no compulsion to play with them or even socialise with them.

It sounds like you who has the problem not them."

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Before anyone has a pop (as surely thy will) We aren't models, nor athletic ....but we aren't overweight."

I'm sorry but was it the fact they were obese or that they were obese and naked, because nakedness happens in clubs.

As for massively overweight, having been a size 20, but now not, why shouldn't we be in clubs. (Oh and before you ask - my mum passed away so I lost 4 stone in 4 months), I do not class myself as slim, and my bloke isn't the type I could snap like a twiglet, but we are fun and can socialise with everyone without making any discrimation towards fellow swingers. That's what clubs are for - to speak to new folk, and perhaps to get lucky with people that you get on with. What if it was a club full of skinnys and they had personalities of a wet blanket? That suit better or would there be a cry for a club for people with personality next?

Just sayin'...

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By *ornyhighlandcoupleCouple over a year ago

highland

"A reflection of the size of people on this site I'd guess

Most are overweight so I'd think you'd see the same in any club..

Hence why I haven't been to one..

Ugly guys want to get laid, so do fat lasses..

We all try to punch over our weight.. It's natural..

Lasses will get laid no matter what.. Guys won't - simple "
what about the over weight guys too?? It's not just us ladies that get a bit chubby.....

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

So why have BBW nights?

Bbw nights are not solely for bbws, we've been to many where there is diversity of shapes,sizes ethnicity etc,and does it matter??? NO not one little bit, so neither should it if there happened to be a 'slim girls night' as you put it....God forbid any militant bbws arrive

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"OMG just lock us fat people up n throw the key away, Is this what the world is going to be like in the future ?

Fat - lock em up

Married - lock em up

Ugly - lock em up

If you're gonna be fat you could at least be jolly."

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

So why have BBW nights?

I knew a girl that got thrown out of a Bbw party for being too skinny for their liking

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Before anyone has a pop (as surely thy will) We aren't models, nor athletic ....but we aren't overweight."

If being around fat people is so traumatic for you, might I suggest you look up 'City Slickers'? They have a strict 'no oldies, no fatties, no mingers' policy, so you'll fit right in I'm sure...

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I feel sorry for people with judgements... U describe yourselves as average, well average nowadays is a size 14-16... Some call that fat, some call size 20 plus fat, it's all in the eye of the beholder. I would never say is there a club for young people? (under 45) and discriminate again you guys.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Why are you being so rude to them? It's a perfectly reasonable question. Or are you hoping all the fatties will send you defending their right to go to clubs (a right that was never in question in the opening post) and fall to their knees open mouthed ready to show how grateful they are? "

It's intriguing that a person who organises BBW parties at a popular venue not only sees the OP's question as being 'perfectly reasonable,' but accuses anyone who takes umbridge with the OP as merely trying to 'curry favour' with the 'fatties.'

Let us look again at the OP's question:

"We've been to a couple of clubs...quite taken aback at the amount of obese naked people there (their choice, but not aesthetically pleasing/erotic to us)"

Admittedly, there is nothing wrong with stating that you have a particular preference, but the wording of the question implied that the OP views the idea of people like myself participating in swinging activities as 'repulsive.'

Furthermore, the OP states that they are looking for a venue where 'the majority are not massively overweight.' That would be, in my experience at least, almost any swingers club that you care to attend.

However, there are swingers clubs out there that set height, weight and attractiveness standards for attendees. Given the attitude displayed by the owners of such clubs, the OP's question appears to me to be coded language for 'I want to go to a club that doesn't admit those disgusting fatties.'

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Let us look again at the OP's question:

"We've been to a couple of clubs...quite taken aback at the amount of obese naked people there (their choice, but not aesthetically pleasing/erotic to us)"

Thats your inference not thiers.

So given your attitude i csn only assume "bbw night" is coded language for "a night where the club doesnt ket those disgusting stick insects in"

Am i doing it right?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"they haven't said you shouldn't be there, they have actually said they shouldn't be there and are seeking somewhere better for them...."

True, they didn't explicitly state that us fat people don't have a right to be there...they merely implied that the site of us participating in swinging is repulsive to them.

They could have just said 'does anyone know of any swingers clubs that cater for 'average' people?

Their original comment is rather like me making a statement like: "I went to my local swingers club and was rather taken aback by the number of naked, wrinkly old pensioners in attendance. Anyone know where I can find a club full of fit, attractive young people?"

Just because someone doesn't dismiss a person's right to attend in those exact words, doesn't mean that such a message is not implied by the choice of words employed.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Thats your inference not thiers.

So given your attitude I can only assume "bbw night" is coded language for "a night where the club doesnt ket those disgusting stick insects in"

Am i doing it right?"

No.

As I am sure Evie will confirm, BBW nights at Chams are AIMED at larger people; it is not, however, forbidden for 'non-BBWs' to attend such events.

Similarly, there are clubs that organise 'Black Man Fan Club' parties, but they do not refuse entry to people of other ethnic groups.

The kind of clubs that the OP appears to be seeking out, however, are those which request a member to submit their height, weight, body type, age and other characteristics, so as to ensure that only the conventionally 'beautiful' are admitted.

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By *icecouple561Couple over a year ago
Forum Mod

East Sussex

Let us look again at the OP's question:

"We've been to a couple of clubs...quite taken aback at the amount of obese naked people there (their choice, but not aesthetically pleasing/erotic to us)"

How do you get "repulsive" from "not aesthetically pleasing/erotic to us"?

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By *icecouple561Couple over a year ago
Forum Mod

East Sussex

I find some things less visually pleasing than others we ALL do however on the all inclusive, open minded, welcome to all opinions fab forum

only certain visual stimuli are acceptable.

If anyone feels offended that they aren't sexually attractive to another because of what they look like then they have a long, hard road ahead of them. I'm 5ft 1 so not visually pleasing to people who like tall women I can boo hoo about it or concentrate on people who do like shorter women.

The op isn't going to find what they're after so they will have to stop going to clubs, alter their outlook or arrange their own gatherings but one thing they won't be able to do is change what they find a turn on. They haven't said bigger people are nasty or have disagreeable personal traits or that they want nothing to do with them in their every day life though.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"How do you get "repulsive" from "not aesthetically pleasing/erotic to us"?

I didn't: I got it from their use of their claiming to have been: "taken aback at the amount of obese naked people there."

The use of the phrase 'taken aback' suggests a sense of having been 'embarrassed,' 'shocked,' 'disconcerted' or 'repulsed.'

Second, they explicitly state that it was the mere presence of the 'obese naked people' that inspired that negativity.

Does that clarify things?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"It's been mixed when I've been out to clubs - the same place can reflect a different profile of user one day to the next.

But I've not been to one where it's largely obese. Do they offer unlimited bread and dripping, a huge chocolate fountain that flows forever etc? "

If they do, I need to know about it!

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By *icecouple561Couple over a year ago
Forum Mod

East Sussex

"How do you get "repulsive" from "not aesthetically pleasing/erotic to us"?

I didn't: I got it from their use of their claiming to have been: "taken aback at the amount of obese naked people there."

The use of the phrase 'taken aback' suggests a sense of having been 'embarrassed,' 'shocked,' 'disconcerted' or 'repulsed.'

Second, they explicitly state that it was the mere presence of the 'obese naked people' that inspired that negativity.

Does that clarify things?

It does, I don't agree with your interpretation of their words but it clarifies how you came to your conclusion. Thank you.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"The op won't be able to change what they find a turn on. They haven't said bigger people are nasty or have disagreeable personal traits or that they want nothing to do with them in their every day life though."

When I go to a swingers club, I don't expect to be aroused by every person there, or expect every person there to be interested in me.

Following on your line of thinking, why can't the OP simply 'focus on the people they find attractive' while accepting the right of their local venue to allow 'obese' people to attend their events?

And no, they haven't said that bigger people have 'nasty personality traits;' they've just implied that the mere presence of such people is enough to prevent them from enjoying attending a club,

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"How do you get "repulsive" from "not aesthetically pleasing/erotic to us"?

I didn't: I got it from their use of their claiming to have been: "taken aback at the amount of obese naked people there."

The use of the phrase 'taken aback' suggests a sense of having been 'embarrassed,' 'shocked,' 'disconcerted' or 'repulsed.'

Second, they explicitly state that it was the mere presence of the 'obese naked people' that inspired that negativity.

Does that clarify things?

It does, I don't agree with your interpretation of their words but it clarifies how you came to your conclusion. Thank you."

It's nothing to do with 'interpretation.' To say that you're 'taken aback' by something is to imply shock, disapproval or disgust.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"OMG just lock us fat people up n throw the key away, Is this what the world is going to be like in the future ?

Fat - lock em up

Married - lock em up

Ugly - lock em up

If you're gonna be fat you could at least be jolly."

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

When I go to a swingers club, I don't expect to be aroused by every person there, or expect every person there to be interested in me.

Following on your line of thinking, why can't the OP simply 'focus on the people they find attractive' while accepting the right of their local venue to allow 'obese' people to attend their events?

And no, they haven't said that bigger people have 'nasty personality traits;' they've just implied that the mere presence of such people is enough to prevent them from enjoying attending a club,"

They also didn't say they wanted no overweight people there...just somewhere where overweight people aren't the majority!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

So why have BBW nights?

Also why do people assume BBW nights are only for men that want to meet BBW ladies. Women might want to meet them too.

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By *osieWoman over a year ago

Wembley

Before anyone has a pop (as surely thy will) We aren't models, nor athletic ....but we aren't overweight."

I think Leboudoir is one which is selective

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By *ittle_brat_evie!!Woman over a year ago

evesham

So why have BBW nights?

I knew a girl that got thrown out of a Bbw party for being too skinny for their liking

Can guarantee you it wasn't one of mine.

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By *osieWoman over a year ago

Wembley

"How do you get "repulsive" from "not aesthetically pleasing/erotic to us"?

I didn't: I got it from their use of their claiming to have been: "taken aback at the amount of obese naked people there."

The use of the phrase 'taken aback' suggests a sense of having been 'embarrassed,' 'shocked,' 'disconcerted' or 'repulsed.'

Second, they explicitly state that it was the mere presence of the 'obese naked people' that inspired that negativity.

Does that clarify things?

I would be more than merely, "taken aback" if some 100+ kg bloke wanted to get on top of me; I would actually "suffocate"; not my idea of "fun"

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Before anyone has a pop (as surely thy will) We aren't models, nor athletic ....but we aren't overweight.

The average is overweight nowadays. The exception are not. Good luck finding a club that excludes average people.

Gay sauna?

Pretty sure that excludes that statistical average of the pppulation."

Nope. They don't exclude fatties.

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By *ittle_brat_evie!!Woman over a year ago

evesham

Let us look again at the OP's question:

"We've been to a couple of clubs...quite taken aback at the amount of obese naked people there (their choice, but not aesthetically pleasing/erotic to us)"

You interpret it one way, I interpret it another. It's no different to thread where bbw's post that they are worried everyone in a swingers club will be skinny and no one will want to play with them so ask for places where larger people are more accepted. That thread will receive platitudes and lots of positive replies.

My de-coding of the op was that whilst they were shocked at how many overweight people were at said club, they didn't say they had no right to be there, they were just asking if there were any clubs that offered something more to their taste.

As for my accusations, I am tired of seeing white Knights gallop in on their mighty steeds defending the honour of the big women, often by being nasty to whoever dares to say that fat people don't put lead in their pencil.

Just because I am fat and arrange (very successful) bbw nights doesn't mean I have to suffer these type of posts and it doesn't mean that I have to take offence at any thread where someone suggests that they don't like big people.

I have spoken to more than one or two people at chams who have turned up not realising it was a bbw night and, not being interested in big women have bot enjoyed their time there. I would rather people be polite and honest in this way than just shag foe the sake of a shag or be rude and say we shouldn't be there.

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By *icecouple561Couple over a year ago
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East Sussex

"How do you get "repulsive" from "not aesthetically pleasing/erotic to us"?

I didn't: I got it from their use of their claiming to have been: "taken aback at the amount of obese naked people there."

The use of the phrase 'taken aback' suggests a sense of having been 'embarrassed,' 'shocked,' 'disconcerted' or 'repulsed.'

Second, they explicitly state that it was the mere presence of the 'obese naked people' that inspired that negativity.

Does that clarify things?

It does, I don't agree with your interpretation of their words but it clarifies how you came to your conclusion. Thank you.

It's nothing to do with 'interpretation.' To say that you're 'taken aback' by something is to imply shock, disapproval or disgust."

We will just have to agree to differ then.

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By *icecouple561Couple over a year ago
Forum Mod

East Sussex

When I go to a swingers club, I don't expect to be aroused by every person there, or expect every person there to be interested in me.

Following on your line of thinking, why can't the OP simply 'focus on the people they find attractive' while accepting the right of their local venue to allow 'obese' people to attend their events?

And no, they haven't said that bigger people have 'nasty personality traits;' they've just implied that the mere presence of such people is enough to prevent them from enjoying attending a club,"

They have accepted the right of their local venue to allow obese people to attend. They are simply asking if there's anywhere they can go that does fulfil their requirements. Like it or not they have a right to ask the question.

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By *eavenscentitCouple over a year ago

barnstaple

"You could try an exclusive party, as others have suggested, such as killing kittens or Heaven SX but there is always the risk that you may not be accepted as membership to these can be selective.

Otherwise Le Boudoir in Whitechapel has developed a reputation for having membership policy against obesity. "

They are too old

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By *Carver-Man over a year ago

Glasgow

"Is that question for fucking real ?"

I know, right?

On a related note I'm not particularly attracted to other men, is there a club I can go to where I won't have to see any?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

So why have BBW nights?

I knew a girl that got thrown out of a Bbw party for being too skinny for their liking

I guess the men wanted more meat on the end of their bone...

Thank you, I'm here all week

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

The OP have been on here for over a year and have only 1 veri from a year ago. They have no personal pictures and a profile text that is all about them and what they want. They seem to have avoided the opportunity of going to the home of non-obese people for a meet or selecting non-obese people to meet them in a hotel.

I would suggest that it is likely one part of the couple does not want to join in the lifestyle but has been badgered into it and uses the "ew yuck! They are so grossly obese!! I want to go home" excuse to avoid playing.

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By *eavenscentitCouple over a year ago

barnstaple

"The OP have been on here for over a year and have only 1 veri from a year ago. They have no personal pictures and a profile text that is all about them and what they want. They seem to have avoided the opportunity of going to the home of non-obese people for a meet or selecting non-obese people to meet them in a hotel.

True

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"A reflection of the size of people on this site I'd guess

Most are overweight so I'd think you'd see the same in any club..

Hence why I haven't been to one..

Ugly guys want to get laid, so do fat lasses..

We all try to punch over our weight.. It's natural..

Lasses will get laid no matter what.. Guys won't - simple

And ugly personalities wank a lot - it's a funny old world. "

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

It's a reflection of our society and lifestyle.

We as a nation were at our most healthy just after the Second World War. These days we have everything made so easy for us in terms of none manual labour and more calorific treats that everyone has easier access to. We as a nation have greatly reduced our calorie output while increasing our calorie intake, result a nation of overweight people. I am a Personal Trainer and every single one of my clients at the moment are with me in order to lose weight.

Clubs are a reflection of society. If when you window shop you don't like the look of the goods, then don't go in, simplz.

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By *Carver-Man over a year ago

Glasgow

"It's a reflection of our society and lifestyle.

Clubs are a reflection of society. If when you window shop you don't like the look of the goods, then don't go in, simplz. "

Forgive the nitpicking, but BMI doesn't automatically equate to health - and the whole reason there was political will to create the NHS in the postwar period was because the severity of childhood illnesses, epidemics, respiratory illnesses, industrial injuries and conditions caused by malnutrition had reached crisis levels. So definitely not the healthiest generation by a long shot!

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By *entkinkcplCouple over a year ago

maidstone

still rude to me!!! clubs are for all, parties for preferencies obv a diff thing xx[/quote.......its not rude at all , while we enjoy people of all shapes and sizes , really big people is something some prefer not to see naked , everyone is entitled to their likes , we like cuddly , but overweight naked all night not really for us

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By *elticcurlsWoman over a year ago

london

From my experience I would recommend Le Boudoir in London. I'm not sure that they have a vetting policy but I would say that the crowd there tends to be a bit younger and more attractive. Best of luck finding what you're looking for.

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By *ivemeyoursoulWoman over a year ago

Easter just around the corner!

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By *ivemeyoursoulWoman over a year ago

Easter just around the corner!

"Fat Obese guy here & i am only on here for friendship, I found they way it was put across offensive. "

Hence your reaction...

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By *urvymamaWoman over a year ago

Doncaster

"they haven't said you shouldn't be there, they have actually said they shouldn't be there and are seeking somewhere better for them....

True, they didn't explicitly state that us fat people don't have a right to be there...they merely implied that the site of us participating in swinging is repulsive to them.

They could have just said 'does anyone know of any swingers clubs that cater for 'average' people?

Just because someone doesn't dismiss a person's right to attend in those exact words, doesn't mean that such a message is not implied by the choice of words employed."

Funny but I didn't read the word repulsive anywhere in the OP you only chose to take it that way and be offended.

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By *ivemeyoursoulWoman over a year ago

Easter just around the corner!

"OMG just lock us fat people up n throw the key away, Is this what the world is going to be like in the future ?

Fat - lock em up

Married - lock em up

Ugly - lock em up

If you're gonna be fat you could at least be jolly."

He clearly isn't happy with his weight...

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

1. Average Joes don't need 'specialist events' or 'specialist clubs' in order to feel accepted and valued as swingers, because they don't go through life being made to feel ashamed of their appearance, or 'unworthy' of being considered attractive.

2. The very fact that the OP was 'shocked' by the number of overweight people in attendance betrays the opinion that said people had no right to be there.

3. I couldn't care less if my size puts lead in someone's pencil or not. Accusing someone of 'white knighting' is little more than a cheap trick to dodge legitimate criticism. The fact remains that when a fat person enters a swingers club on anything other than a 'BBW Night,' they are often treated as a pariah by a section of the guests.

4. No-one is saying that you're ''obliged" to take offence, or demanding that 'fat people' should be given a shag for the sake of it.

The point being made is that it's rather surprising to see the promoter of a high-profile BBW-themed event stating that they have 'no issue' with 'Elite Parties' especially when the organisers of said parties have publicly described BBWs as 'ugly' 'lazy' and 'disgusting.'

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"It's a reflection of our society and lifestyle.

Clubs are a reflection of society. If when you window shop you don't like the look of the goods, then don't go in, simplz.

Where did you see me mention BMI? Don't put words in my mouth.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"funny, but I didn't read the word repulsive anywhere in the OP you only chose to take it that way and be offended."

As I have already explained quite clearly, and to the satisfaction of the previous poster who questioned me:

The idiom 'taken aback' implies a feeling of discomfort, shock, disgust or revulsion.

In addition, the OP made it clear that their being 'taken aback' was specifically because of their being confronted by the presence of a large number of 'naked, obese people.'

The OP did not use the particular word, but neither did I simply 'choose' to interpret the comment in a particular way.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"1. Average Joes don't need 'specialist events' or 'specialist clubs' in order to feel accepted and valued as swingers, because they don't go through life being made to feel ashamed of their appearance, or 'unworthy' of being considered attractive.

2. The very fact that the OP was 'shocked' by the number of overweight people in attendance betrays the opinion that said people had no right to be there.

4. No-one is saying that you're ''obliged" to take offence, or demanding that 'fat people' should be given a shag for the sake of it.

Im never been made to feel like a 'pariah' I even went to an 'elite' club... I wasn't turned away and I was spoken to by everyone I spoke to, I didn't play as I wasn't to that groups particular taste but so did some of the single men and some couples. I know it's shit feeling rubbish and ashamed of the way you look but youre attitude will play a big part in how others see you. Same for the op.... maybe try talking to some of these people... you'll be surprised how personality can sometimes change the way you see someone physically.

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By *urvymamaWoman over a year ago

Doncaster

"funny, but I didn't read the word repulsive anywhere in the OP you only chose to take it that way and be offended.

As I have already explained quite clearly, and to the satisfaction of the previous poster who questioned me:

The idiom 'taken aback' implies a feeling of discomfort, shock, disgust or revulsion.

In addition, the OP made it clear that their being 'taken aback' was specifically because of their being confronted by the presence of a large number of 'naked, obese people.'

The OP did not use the particular word, but neither did I simply 'choose' to interpret the comment in a particular way."

You missed my point completely. Im overweight I never got that implication that it means I'm repulsive because I chose not to, you chose to take offence to the OP you also chose to put words into the OPs mouth with said implication.

I find it really interesting that it's overweight men seem to be taking the main offence to the OP

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Op plenty of good suggestions along with some butt hurt not sure you asked for a critique of your profile though.

City slickers parties are very good along with Killing Kittens. Clubs like Libs run some good party nights that are worth checking out.

Enjoy

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I know it's shit feeling rubbish and ashamed of the way you look but youre attitude will play a big part in how others see you. Same for the op....maybe try talking to some of these people...you'll be surprised how personality can sometimes change the way you see someone physically."

Oh, so it's my attitude that's the problem?

So when the owner of an elite club tells me that I'm too 'fat, ugly and stupid' to attend their events; or when someone calls me a 'fat cunt' for defending another user's right to be on the site; or when I receive abusive messages telling me that I don't look like a 'real man,' I should just 'put up and shut up?'

Truth be told, the majority of clubs and club members that I've talked to have been all too open and welcoming, but I'll be damned if I'll be branded a 'White Knight' for arguing that EVERYONE should be allowed to participate in swinging, regardless of their physical appearance.

You don't want to play with me? Fair enough, that's perfectly fine. Just don't frame it in terms of 'sorry hun, but I don't fuck fatties.'

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

The swinging community is a wonderful group of sexual liberated, like minded folk. Sure, we all have our preferences and differing opinions, as often shown in the forums but what sets us aside is how we think, sexually open, regardless of sex, sexual orientation, colour, shape, occupation. Everyone is and should be welcomed at a swingers club. No one is responsible for your titillation and if you're feeling put off by people who are expressing themselves in place they're comfortable to do so then that's really your problem, maybe clubs aren't for you but you're missing out on meeting some fantastic people, regardless of how attractive you or I find them they share a part of my life I refuse to be without

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