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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Been off work all week and trying to arrange a meet.
I have been rejected by 3 women now because I am only 5' 5".
A. Is it really that big a problem.
B. Is there a way around it.
Just getting a bit down that I am being turned down for something I can't help. |
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"Been off work all week and trying to arrange a meet.
I have been rejected by 3 women now because I am only 5' 5".
A. Is it really that big a problem.
B. Is there a way around it.
Just getting a bit down that I am being turned down for something I can't help."
A. It can be. It's just a preference. I'm quite tall and like to feel 'small' next to a guy. Although I don't mind girls being shorter than me.
B. Wear heels?!?
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"try messaging women who are shorter than you?
TBH it would be a problem for me as I am 6' but I do state I don't meet men under 6' ... "
I guess so.
It narrows down the field dramatically though.
It also takes a fair bit of time to find the right profiles as they is not a height option in the search.
Thank you for your feedback though. I really appreciate it. |
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over a year ago
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It is kind of an issue for me...as bad as that sounds. I prefer men to be taller than me (although you are by a few inches) but women to be short like me. I really wish you could search by height. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Not a problem for me. I'm the same height and have met a guy that was shorter than me....i have a similar problem in that I'm always getting turned down because I'm not a gym fit blond. My solution is to find guys that like fat arses |
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I am petitte, 4ft 11". I like small, medium and tall men....don't like them too skinny...everyone has some personal preference but there are plenty of people on here who don't mind what height the man is, keep looking, be polite, be honest....
also - at a club once you get chatting pesonality overcomes many physical aspects so it is always worth going to a social or a club to mingle |
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"Been off work all week and trying to arrange a meet.
I have been rejected by 3 women now because I am only 5' 5".
A. Is it really that big a problem.
B. Is there a way around it.
Just getting a bit down that I am being turned down for something I can't help.
A. It can be. It's just a preference. I'm quite tall and like to feel 'small' next to a guy. Although I don't mind girls being shorter than me.
B. Wear heels?!?
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I understand that women do have a preference for a guy taller than them I totally understand that. But is it a dating site or a swinging site? Saying a guy is less attractive because he is short is a bit confusing to me.
Thanks for your feedback though. |
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"Been off work all week and trying to arrange a meet.
I have been rejected by 3 women now because I am only 5' 5".
A. Is it really that big a problem.
B. Is there a way around it.
Just getting a bit down that I am being turned down for something I can't help.
A. It can be. It's just a preference. I'm quite tall and like to feel 'small' next to a guy. Although I don't mind girls being shorter than me.
B. Wear heels?!?
I understand that women do have a preference for a guy taller than them I totally understand that. But is it a dating site or a swinging site? Saying a guy is less attractive because he is short is a bit confusing to me.
Thanks for your feedback though. "
Oh I didn't say less attractive, just not a preference
Id agree with the poster above though, going to clubs / socials can be a big help |
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"I am petitte, 4ft 11". I like small, medium and tall men....don't like them too skinny...everyone has some personal preference but there are plenty of people on here who don't mind what height the man is, keep looking, be polite, be honest....
also - at a club once you get chatting pesonality overcomes many physical aspects so it is always worth going to a social or a club to mingle "
I have been before with a previous friend. Been a long time since I have been to one on my own.
Where do you guys go that is local. I am only in Lincoln you see. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Been off work all week and trying to arrange a meet.
I have been rejected by 3 women now because I am only 5' 5".
A. Is it really that big a problem.
B. Is there a way around it.
Just getting a bit down that I am being turned down for something I can't help.
A. It can be. It's just a preference. I'm quite tall and like to feel 'small' next to a guy. Although I don't mind girls being shorter than me.
B. Wear heels?!?
I understand that women do have a preference for a guy taller than them I totally understand that. But is it a dating site or a swinging site? Saying a guy is less attractive because he is short is a bit confusing to me.
Thanks for your feedback though.
Oh I didn't say less attractive, just not a preference
Id agree with the poster above though, going to clubs / socials can be a big help "
Apologies if this comes across the wrong way, but would Channing Tantum be less appealing if he was 5' 0", just a thought. |
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"I am petitte, 4ft 11". I like small, medium and tall men....don't like them too skinny...everyone has some personal preference but there are plenty of people on here who don't mind what height the man is, keep looking, be polite, be honest....
also - at a club once you get chatting pesonality overcomes many physical aspects so it is always worth going to a social or a club to mingle
I have been before with a previous friend. Been a long time since I have been to one on my own.
Where do you guys go that is local. I am only in Lincoln you see."
we go to Quest in leeds and cupids in swinton manchester.....a few others around manchester area too m x |
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"I am petitte, 4ft 11". I like small, medium and tall men....don't like them too skinny...everyone has some personal preference but there are plenty of people on here who don't mind what height the man is, keep looking, be polite, be honest....
also - at a club once you get chatting pesonality overcomes many physical aspects so it is always worth going to a social or a club to mingle
I have been before with a previous friend. Been a long time since I have been to one on my own.
Where do you guys go that is local. I am only in Lincoln you see.
we go to Quest in leeds and cupids in swinton manchester.....a few others around manchester area too m x"
It's a fair old way to travel. Do you get a hotel overnight or do you travel back? |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Been off work all week and trying to arrange a meet.
I have been rejected by 3 women now because I am only 5' 5".
A. Is it really that big a problem.
B. Is there a way around it.
Just getting a bit down that I am being turned down for something I can't help."
Just do what every other guys do about their height...... LIE
6" is the new 5"5 |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Been off work all week and trying to arrange a meet.
I have been rejected by 3 women now because I am only 5' 5".
A. Is it really that big a problem.
B. Is there a way around it.
Just getting a bit down that I am being turned down for something I can't help.
A. It can be. It's just a preference. I'm quite tall and like to feel 'small' next to a guy. Although I don't mind girls being shorter than me.
B. Wear heels?!?
I understand that women do have a preference for a guy taller than them I totally understand that. But is it a dating site or a swinging site? Saying a guy is less attractive because he is short is a bit confusing to me.
Thanks for your feedback though.
Oh I didn't say less attractive, just not a preference
Id agree with the poster above though, going to clubs / socials can be a big help
Apologies if this comes across the wrong way, but would Channing Tantum be less appealing if he was 5' 0", just a thought."
Yep! But then he's not my type at all hehe
I do understand your point though OP. All I can say is it's nothing personal, just a preference for a lot of people and it seems to be quite an important one, even for NSA |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"Been off work all week and trying to arrange a meet.
I have been rejected by 3 women now because I am only 5' 5".
A. Is it really that big a problem.
B. Is there a way around it.
Just getting a bit down that I am being turned down for something I can't help.
A. It can be. It's just a preference. I'm quite tall and like to feel 'small' next to a guy. Although I don't mind girls being shorter than me.
B. Wear heels?!?
I understand that women do have a preference for a guy taller than them I totally understand that. But is it a dating site or a swinging site? Saying a guy is less attractive because he is short is a bit confusing to me.
Thanks for your feedback though.
Oh I didn't say less attractive, just not a preference
Id agree with the poster above though, going to clubs / socials can be a big help
Apologies if this comes across the wrong way, but would Channing Tantum be less appealing if he was 5' 0", just a thought.
Yep! But then he's not my type at all hehe
I do understand your point though OP. All I can say is it's nothing personal, just a preference for a lot of people and it seems to be quite an important one, even for NSA "
I understand. Hope you have a happy time swinging |
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"Been off work all week and trying to arrange a meet.
I have been rejected by 3 women now because I am only 5' 5".
A. Is it really that big a problem.
B. Is there a way around it.
Just getting a bit down that I am being turned down for something I can't help."
I've said it before... But...
This is an online phenomenon... In everything.
If you had to put hight on a job app, only 6 footers would be in work.
I get the same... But in person I get people who tower over me, giving off "fuck me" vibes...
You have to get out there... |
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On fab I believe it does limit a guys opportunities if he is short. It's all about preferences and fantasy and being realistic it is fairly common for women to prefer tall guys.
In the real world it is less of an issue. A good looking smaller guy with a good personality will never struggle.
I am not claiming to be good looking nor would I boast of being a charismatic personality but confidence does compensate to some degree for being short. |
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"Been off work all week and trying to arrange a meet.
I have been rejected by 3 women now because I am only 5' 5".
A. Is it really that big a problem.
B. Is there a way around it.
Just getting a bit down that I am being turned down for something I can't help."
This will help ...
https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Rack_%28torture%29 |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Not a problem for me. I'm the same height and have met a guy that was shorter than me....i have a similar problem in that I'm always getting turned down because I'm not a gym fit blond. My solution is to find guys that like fat arses "
Well, I'm sure there's plenty on here that do. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"Been off work all week and trying to arrange a meet.
I have been rejected by 3 women now because I am only 5' 5".
A. Is it really that big a problem.
B. Is there a way around it.
Just getting a bit down that I am being turned down for something I can't help.
This will help ...
https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Rack_%28torture%29"
Haha just had a look. Would need a few goes on it like. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Been off work all week and trying to arrange a meet.
I have been rejected by 3 women now because I am only 5' 5".
A. Is it really that big a problem.
B. Is there a way around it.
Just getting a bit down that I am being turned down for something I can't help."
My whole dating career were of men 6ft and over. No real reason why as most folks are taller than me anyways (I am 4ft 11). The fella I am dating just now is around your height which is the shortest I've dated and that's been for 4.5 yes. |
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"Been off work all week and trying to arrange a meet.
I have been rejected by 3 women now because I am only 5' 5".
A. Is it really that big a problem.
B. Is there a way around it.
I love short guys think there really cute
Just getting a bit down that I am being turned down for something I can't help."
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Been off work all week and trying to arrange a meet.
I have been rejected by 3 women now because I am only 5' 5".
A. Is it really that big a problem.
B. Is there a way around it.
I love short guys think there really cute
Just getting a bit down that I am being turned down for something I can't help."
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"Been off work all week and trying to arrange a meet.
I have been rejected by 3 women now because I am only 5' 5".
A. Is it really that big a problem.
B. Is there a way around it.
Just getting a bit down that I am being turned down for something I can't help.
A. It can be. It's just a preference. I'm quite tall and like to feel 'small' next to a guy. Although I don't mind girls being shorter than me.
B. Wear heels?!?
I understand that women do have a preference for a guy taller than them I totally understand that. But is it a dating site or a swinging site? Saying a guy is less attractive because he is short is a bit confusing to me.
Thanks for your feedback though. "
It doesn't matter where women find sexual encounters from, preferences are preferences and if you don't respect that, you'll get nowhere. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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I don't feel comfortable if I feel 'big' next to a man. It makes me feel unfeminine. But there are plenty of women shorter than you, so shouldn't be a problem. |
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"Been off work all week and trying to arrange a meet.
I have been rejected by 3 women now because I am only 5' 5".
A. Is it really that big a problem.
B. Is there a way around it.
Just getting a bit down that I am being turned down for something I can't help."
A) Yeah.
B) Invest in 9inch stripper heels. |
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"try messaging women who are shorter than you?
TBH it would be a problem for me as I am 6' but I do state I don't meet men under 6' ... "
This although I'm 5"10, I like to be dominated and I don't feel confident looking down on a man |
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It's defiantly a draw back here .
I've been on before and had meets .
I'm 5 4 . But if I actually ask or get an answer as to why if I get knocked back , height is defiantly by far theist common reason
Don't mind most of the time , that's life !
But it is a bit galling if it's form a shorter girl or BBW who says don't judge my size ect !
As you can slim ( and yes I know it isn't easy ) but you sure as hell get grow taller !
Funny tho , how Prince 5 2 , Tom Criuse 5 5 , and Bernie Ecclestone 5 0
Never had a problem ?
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Ive met with men around your height and some who are the same height as me (I'm 5"3) to be honest most of them just haven't mentioned height...it sometimes comes as a little bit of a shock if you've got an image in your head when they first arrive but it's never changed my opinion on them as a person or changed attraction level for me, just not what I necessarily expected. People often "forget" to mention the extra weight gain since that photo was taken, maybe just don't mention it, if asked don't lie but don't be the one to bring it up.
you'll find some meets out there or let your personality shine in a club situation, I often end up playing with someone at a club who wouldn't neccesarily be top of my fab list, mental stimulation is the best form of foreplay! Xx |
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"Ive met with men around your height and some who are the same height as me (I'm 5"3) to be honest most of them just haven't mentioned height...it sometimes comes as a little bit of a shock if you've got an image in your head when they first arrive but it's never changed my opinion on them as a person or changed attraction level for me, just not what I necessarily expected. People often "forget" to mention the extra weight gain since that photo was taken, maybe just don't mention it, if asked don't lie but don't be the one to bring it up.
you'll find some meets out there or let your personality shine in a club situation, I often end up playing with someone at a club who wouldn't neccesarily be top of my fab list, mental stimulation is the best form of foreplay! Xx"
I think you have to put your height on your profile
I have toyed with the idea of putting 6 4 on my profile just to see if I got more replys lol
Tho could be a problem if I met one |
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Heights a funny thing for girls. I'm tall so would never ever consider a man under 6ft....but that's my insecurities and not a reflection on the guy. It's about what makes the girl comfortable unfortunately. We all have preferences so don't take it to heart |
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"Heights a funny thing for girls. I'm tall so would never ever consider a man under 6ft....but that's my insecurities and not a reflection on the guy. It's about what makes the girl comfortable unfortunately. We all have preferences so don't take it to heart "
I don't think short guys like myself mind that so much x
It's more if a girl is the same height or shorter , it can be annoying |
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"Heights a funny thing for girls. I'm tall so would never ever consider a man under 6ft....but that's my insecurities and not a reflection on the guy. It's about what makes the girl comfortable unfortunately. We all have preferences so don't take it to heart
I don't think short guys like myself mind that so much x
It's more if a girl is the same height or shorter , it can be annoying "
You'be said it's an issue if it's a bigger girl who has a preference. I prefer taller fellas as I hate to feel the 'big' one compared to a bloke. My issue, even if no one else is going to see us together. |
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A. Is it really that big a problem. (Interesting use of big considering what you are asking) It's all about choices / preferences, look for ladies that do not mind shorter men.
B. Is there a way around it.
If the ladies you are contacting like taller men then No not really using Fabswingers.com as they only see your profile, so get your along to the socials and clubs so that they meet YOU not just statistics on a profile. |
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"Heights a funny thing for girls. I'm tall so would never ever consider a man under 6ft....but that's my insecurities and not a reflection on the guy. It's about what makes the girl comfortable unfortunately. We all have preferences so don't take it to heart
I don't think short guys like myself mind that so much x
It's more if a girl is the same height or shorter , it can be annoying
You'be said it's an issue if it's a bigger girl who has a preference. I prefer taller fellas as I hate to feel the 'big' one compared to a bloke. My issue, even if no one else is going to see us together. "
No I was agreeing with you
I understand your point I meant it's anoying wen a girl shorter or the same hieght says your too short ! |
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"Been off work all week and trying to arrange a meet.
I have been rejected by 3 women now because I am only 5' 5".
A. Is it really that big a problem.
B. Is there a way around it.
Just getting a bit down that I am being turned down for something I can't help.
This will help ...
https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Rack_%28torture%29"
Ouch, id rather get nailed to a cross |
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"Been off work all week and trying to arrange a meet.
I have been rejected by 3 women now because I am only 5' 5".
A. Is it really that big a problem.
B. Is there a way around it.
Just getting a bit down that I am being turned down for something I can't help."
My hubby is 5'6" and he doesn't have many problems having fun. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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I understand what the op is saying but it is purely a preference for most women on here.I get knocked back regular because of my height and I just move on as I know there is always someone who doesn't have that preference although they are few and far between ....be patient and pro active is my advice.
Signed ...short arse. |
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Think of all the positives:
1. No shortage of work at christmas
2. No tax on kids clothes and shoes
3. You can live in old cottages and hobbit holes
4. You may be considered a giant by tribes in central africa and south america
5 No problems getting work in horse racing
rather than the negatives
1. Small man Syndrome - as clearly exhibited by mssrs Cruz and Kyle
2. Not being able to go on all the rides
3. Apparently not being able to get a date on here
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"Been off work all week and trying to arrange a meet.
I have been rejected by 3 women now because I am only 5' 5".
A. Is it really that big a problem.
B. Is there a way around it.
Just getting a bit down that I am being turned down for something I can't help."
It's only a problem when you need to ask for assistance in a shop when you want something off the top shelf x |
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We have the 3 young lads...every now & then I roughly compare them in height to their peers fearing they are going to end up short arses (in much the same way as nobody wants a ginger grandchild - nobody wants short arse sons). |
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"Apologies if this comes across the wrong way, but would Channing Tantum be less appealing if he was 5' 0", just a thought."
For me yes, but that's my preference and equally I accept that I'm not everyone's cup of tea either. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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I'm one inch off being 6ft and a lot of short women who are like, 5'3" don't wish to meet because I am not 6ft+. Its like the difference between 5'11" and 6' is very drastic :') |
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I have no problem with people shorter than me, I don't get much choice being 6'2, if I only wanted to meet people my height or taller I would have a very limited choice lol
Px |
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