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Advice on our very 1st meet?
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Hi I'm relatively new to Fab but enjoying the chats and friendly people. ... I've been single a few years and not had sex in a while.
I'm wondering what advice you all would give for my 1st Fab meet? I really need to get some confidence and just do it but my anxiety takes over
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OOOH....fun!
My only advice is to remember that, no matter how many times the other party has met before, he/they are in the same position as you, and anxious to make a good impression.
You're great as you are, no need to be anyone but yourself, and if it doesn't go well--well, it takes two!
All will be well, relax and enjoy! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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My advice would be to get to know them on here first. ..see photos too ..chat on the phone, ..meet up at a mutual place for a social, tell a mate you're on a date etc so you can ring them if you don't feel safe etc ...do your ground work and smile xx |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"OOOH....fun!
My only advice is to remember that, no matter how many times the other party has met before, he/they are in the same position as you, and anxious to make a good impression.
You're great as you are, no need to be anyone but yourself, and if it doesn't go well--well, it takes two!
All will be well, relax and enjoy!"
100% this! Could not agree more. |
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By *izzy.Woman
over a year ago
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Meet in public for drinks / coffee and check them out first. Trust your instincts. Relax and have fun. Maybe explain it's all new to you and take things at your pace. Stay safe. Safe sex. Enjoy  |
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Yeah ....make clear its a social meet the first time ... and also if you feel they are not how you perceived them to be ....you can leave ... be prepared for timewasters and some shocks along the way
..but most of all .... stay safe ... |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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remember we all had the first meet at some time or another - do not feel obligated to play and maybe insist on it being a social somewhere neutral - stay in control and leave wanting (hopefully all parties) |
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By (user no longer on site)
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Have a social meet first. If you meet by car and decide to get in his car have him take keys out of the ignition and put them on the passenger seat and put his hands on the dash until you get in and pick up his keys, keep hold of them the whole time you're in the car. If he picks you up which I don't recommend the first time, have him stop in a petrol station and you go in for some chewing gum so both you and the vehicle registration are on CCTV. Take pepper spray if you have it, failing that a lighter and some spray deodorant, works as a home made flame thrower and in court wouldn't count as a premeditated attack as they are items you would normally carry on your person. Tell a friend where you're going to be and give them all information you have about the person you're meeting. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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Just don't think about the sex side of the meet. Just try to relax as if you're on a date, with no pressure to have sex. Don't be pressurised into doing something you don't want to do.
As everyone has said, meet at a very busy public place. Take a note of the registration number of his car as well.
Have a great time. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Have a social meet first. If you meet by car and decide to get in his car have him take keys out of the ignition and put them on the passenger seat and put his hands on the dash until you get in and pick up his keys, keep hold of them the whole time you're in the car. If he picks you up which I don't recommend the first time, have him stop in a petrol station and you go in for some chewing gum so both you and the vehicle registration are on CCTV. Take pepper spray if you have it, failing that a lighter and some spray deodorant, works as a home made flame thrower and in court wouldn't count as a premeditated attack as they are items you would normally carry on your person. Tell a friend where you're going to be and give them all information you have about the person you're meeting. "
Wow your on the ball! Great advice thanks |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Have a social meet first. If you meet by car and decide to get in his car have him take keys out of the ignition and put them on the passenger seat and put his hands on the dash until you get in and pick up his keys, keep hold of them the whole time you're in the car. If he picks you up which I don't recommend the first time, have him stop in a petrol station and you go in for some chewing gum so both you and the vehicle registration are on CCTV. Take pepper spray if you have it, failing that a lighter and some spray deodorant, works as a home made flame thrower and in court wouldn't count as a premeditated attack as they are items you would normally carry on your person. Tell a friend where you're going to be and give them all information you have about the person you're meeting.
Wow your on the ball! Great advice thanks "
Flame thrower? Teabags you'll start scaring people again
Just meet in a neutral public venue and try to chat before a few times, and you'll be fine. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Have a social meet first. If you meet by car and decide to get in his car have him take keys out of the ignition and put them on the passenger seat and put his hands on the dash until you get in and pick up his keys, keep hold of them the whole time you're in the car. If he picks you up which I don't recommend the first time, have him stop in a petrol station and you go in for some chewing gum so both you and the vehicle registration are on CCTV. Take pepper spray if you have it, failing that a lighter and some spray deodorant, works as a home made flame thrower and in court wouldn't count as a premeditated attack as they are items you would normally carry on your person. Tell a friend where you're going to be and give them all information you have about the person you're meeting.
Wow your on the ball! Great advice thanks
Flame thrower? Teabags you'll start scaring people again
Just meet in a neutral public venue and try to chat before a few times, and you'll be fine. "
I prefer the guys to be afraid of meeting me than the other way around! |
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By (user no longer on site)
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Don't give it much thought...look on it as a friendship meet and go into it with a blank slate and open mind. Chemistry can be.elusive so unless you're a desperado like many on here...be.prepared that it is more than likely not to progress to more than a social |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Have a social meet first. If you meet by car and decide to get in his car have him take keys out of the ignition and put them on the passenger seat and put his hands on the dash until you get in and pick up his keys, keep hold of them the whole time you're in the car. If he picks you up which I don't recommend the first time, have him stop in a petrol station and you go in for some chewing gum so both you and the vehicle registration are on CCTV. Take pepper spray if you have it, failing that a lighter and some spray deodorant, works as a home made flame thrower and in court wouldn't count as a premeditated attack as they are items you would normally carry on your person. Tell a friend where you're going to be and give them all information you have about the person you're meeting. "
Lmao I'm so gonna take a flame thrower next time beware gents |
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I'd suggest your first meet proper (ie after a social in a public place) should be in a club, and arrange to meet him there.
There's safety in numbers in a club and if you don't get on, or don't want to play together, you can always chat to other people. And you won't be reliant on him to give you a lift home.
Don't be frightened of clubs either, they are very social and you don't have to do anything you don't want to.
And remember, women set the rules!!
Good luck
Ray (and Amanda) xx |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Have a social meet first. If you meet by car and decide to get in his car have him take keys out of the ignition and put them on the passenger seat and put his hands on the dash until you get in and pick up his keys, keep hold of them the whole time you're in the car. If he picks you up which I don't recommend the first time, have him stop in a petrol station and you go in for some chewing gum so both you and the vehicle registration are on CCTV. Take pepper spray if you have it, failing that a lighter and some spray deodorant, works as a home made flame thrower and in court wouldn't count as a premeditated attack as they are items you would normally carry on your person. Tell a friend where you're going to be and give them all information you have about the person you're meeting. "
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"Have a social meet first. If you meet by car and decide to get in his car have him take keys out of the ignition and put them on the passenger seat and put his hands on the dash until you get in and pick up his keys, keep hold of them the whole time you're in the car. If he picks you up which I don't recommend the first time, have him stop in a petrol station and you go in for some chewing gum so both you and the vehicle registration are on CCTV. Take pepper spray if you have it, failing that a lighter and some spray deodorant, works as a home made flame thrower and in court wouldn't count as a premeditated attack as they are items you would normally carry on your person. Tell a friend where you're going to be and give them all information you have about the person you're meeting.
Wow your on the ball! Great advice thanks
Flame thrower? Teabags you'll start scaring people again
Just meet in a neutral public venue and try to chat before a few times, and you'll be fine.
I prefer the guys to be afraid of meeting me than the other way around! "
I think you'll find you've succeeded...I'm quaking in my boots now  I like the idea of the garage though but even better if you send him in for the gum. |
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By *lighty1Woman
over a year ago
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"Have a social meet first. If you meet by car and decide to get in his car have him take keys out of the ignition and put them on the passenger seat and put his hands on the dash until you get in and pick up his keys, keep hold of them the whole time you're in the car. If he picks you up which I don't recommend the first time, have him stop in a petrol station and you go in for some chewing gum so both you and the vehicle registration are on CCTV. Take pepper spray if you have it, failing that a lighter and some spray deodorant, works as a home made flame thrower and in court wouldn't count as a premeditated attack as they are items you would normally carry on your person. Tell a friend where you're going to be and give them all information you have about the person you're meeting. "
DON'T put yourself in the position that you need this advice! Insist on a social first, in a very public place. Use all the tools which the site gives you, to avoid the wrong 'uns. Most of all, use your common sense. Make sure to exchange plenty of messages, get them to go on cam in the chat rooms on here, get a telephone number. Get a friend to be your back-up - leave all his details with her, and arrange to call her e.g. an hour after the start of the meet, to confirm that all is OK.
Above all, if something feels 'off', go with your gut instinct and cancel the meet. You will find there are 1,000s of great guys on Fab - if you miss out on a meet with one, you will find there are many many more ready to meet. All decent guys will respect a single lady's requirement to maintain her personal safety. |
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Don't give it much thought...look on it as a friendship meet and go into it with a blank slate and open mind. Chemistry can be.elusive...be.prepared that it is more than likely not to progress to more than a social
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great advice which helped me on my first social..don't expect fireworks and it's a pleasant surprise when the attraction is there.
"I'd suggest your first meet proper (ie after a social in a public place) should be in a club, and arrange to meet him there.
Don't be frightened of clubs either, they are very social and you don't have to do anything you don't want to. "
I've never visited a club, would be much too daunting to me.
We all have our own preferences which makes Fabs such an interesting place to be.  |
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