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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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We have been on here 5 months now (were looking for a woman) and the furthest we have got is a kiss. We know these things cant be rushed but we regularly attend parties and socials so im not sure where were going wrong. Any advice?  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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You might find it easier if you don't look for a "unicorn" and instead you keep your eyes open for a woman who is more than just her genitals and sexuality. |
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over a year ago
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"You might find it easier if you don't look for a "unicorn" and instead you keep your eyes open for a woman who is more than just her genitals and sexuality."
Single women hate the term unicorn, yet the term swinger has to apply to all couples, and the term bull is still used for guys.. just something else to bitch about!! |
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"You might find it easier if you don't look for a "unicorn" and instead you keep your eyes open for a woman who is more than just her genitals and sexuality.
Single women hate the term unicorn, yet the term swinger has to apply to all couples, and the term bull is still used for guys.. just something else to bitch about!! "
It's ok, double standards are allowed in one direction only. |
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over a year ago
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Ignore the usual ignorant suspects in here often nothing better to do than pick .
Do u play openly at clubs etc ? May attract interest if you are playing already ? And smile at someone perhaps they may come over ?
Do you find you become friends with people and not get to play point as you are now seeing them as friends ?
A girl meeting a couple is scarey , they have each other , you have just yourself .
Spend time at parties and clubs chatting and if you like them simply as if they want to play , or watch you play maybe ?
Or perhaps failing that , try meeting couples to play |
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"You might find it easier if you don't look for a "unicorn" and instead you keep your eyes open for a woman who is more than just her genitals and sexuality."
Well said. 
Your not looking for a mythical creature, you are looking to find someone who you can have fun and share fantasies with as consenting adults. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"You might find it easier if you don't look for a "unicorn" and instead you keep your eyes open for a woman who is more than just her genitals and sexuality.
Single women hate the term unicorn, yet the term swinger has to apply to all couples, and the term bull is still used for guys.. just something else to bitch about!!
It's ok, double standards are allowed in one direction only."
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"You might find it easier if you don't look for a "unicorn" and instead you keep your eyes open for a woman who is more than just her genitals and sexuality.
Single women hate the term unicorn, yet the term swinger has to apply to all couples, and the term bull is still used for guys.. just something else to bitch about!!
It's ok, double standards are allowed in one direction only.
Not really a one direction fan but you have a valid point lol "
Oh god, sorry, I never even clocked the reference.
One direction/boy bands and reactionary 'types' are similar, you always know what they are going to sound like and everything they say was written by someone else. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Ignore the usual ignorant suspects in here often nothing better to do than pick .
Do u play openly at clubs etc ? May attract interest if you are playing already ? And smile at someone perhaps they may come over ?
Do you find you become friends with people and not get to play point as you are now seeing them as friends ?
A girl meeting a couple is scarey , they have each other , you have just yourself .
Spend time at parties and clubs chatting and if you like them simply as if they want to play , or watch you play maybe ?
Or perhaps failing that , try meeting couples to play "
Thank you for the reply.
We havent tried a club yet, maybe thats something to try.
Yes i think becoming 'friends' has possibly stopped any play happening. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"You might find it easier if you don't look for a "unicorn" and instead you keep your eyes open for a woman who is more than just her genitals and sexuality.
Single women hate the term unicorn, yet the term swinger has to apply to all couples, and the term bull is still used for guys.. just something else to bitch about!!
It's ok, double standards are allowed in one direction only.
Not really a one direction fan but you have a valid point lol
Oh god, sorry, I never even clocked the reference.
One direction/boy bands and reactionary 'types' are similar, you always know what they are going to sound like and everything they say was written by someone else."
Sheer brilliance lol |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"As a single female I find it hard to chat to couples at clubs etc, I usually think they are probably looking for another couple."
Thats really interesting. Maybe i need to make more effort then xx |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"The post is called unicorn because i couldnt think of another title. Sorry.
how about single bi fem? "
Why not change the whole site to
"fab like minded people with various preferences looking for other fab like minded people who share the same prefences but do not like to fall into a particular archetype"
personally i think the term "swingers" us outdated and presumptuous, but what can you do!! |
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"The post is called unicorn because i couldnt think of another title. Sorry.
how about single bi fem?"
The term is used in a variety of contexts to describe a type of person who is, in that context, very rare or difficult to find.
Umbridge and richeous indignation only happens in certain contexts and they are very predictable and often miss entirely the intent of the comment or lack perspective whilst claiming to have a very justifiable position, they fail to address the equally justifiable suggestions of hypocrisy which could be applied if the situation were viewed across a variety of contexts and that those the richeous are indignant on behalf of, are equally guilty of the perceived crime, only it us towards a less fashionably defendable section of society. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"The post is called unicorn because i couldnt think of another title. Sorry.
how about single bi fem?
The term is used in a variety of contexts to describe a type of person who is, in that context, very rare or difficult to find.
Umbridge and richeous indignation only happens in certain contexts and they are very predictable and often miss entirely the intent of the comment or lack perspective whilst claiming to have a very justifiable position, they fail to address the equally justifiable suggestions of hypocrisy which could be applied if the situation were viewed across a variety of contexts and that those the richeous are indignant on behalf of, are equally guilty of the perceived crime, only it us towards a less fashionably defendable section of society."
a little verbose for my liking....was that a cut and paste job? |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"The post is called unicorn because i couldnt think of another title. Sorry.
how about single bi fem?
Why not change the whole site to
"fab like minded people with various preferences looking for other fab like minded people who share the same prefences but do not like to fall into a particular archetype"
personally i think the term "swingers" us outdated and presumptuous, but what can you do!! "
if you don't like the term 'swingers' then what would you suggest? and have you canvassed the owners of the site with your suggestions? |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"The post is called unicorn because i couldnt think of another title. Sorry.
how about single bi fem?
The term is used in a variety of contexts to describe a type of person who is, in that context, very rare or difficult to find.
Umbridge and richeous indignation only happens in certain contexts and they are very predictable and often miss entirely the intent of the comment or lack perspective whilst claiming to have a very justifiable position, they fail to address the equally justifiable suggestions of hypocrisy which could be applied if the situation were viewed across a variety of contexts and that those the richeous are indignant on behalf of, are equally guilty of the perceived crime, only it us towards a less fashionably defendable section of society.
a little verbose for my liking....was that a cut and paste job?"
Unlikely with spelling errors! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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as said above,at great length, the term seems very mecurial...personally it doesnt bother me at all...but yes,i imagine not easy to find...as mentioned above,hypothetically, theres 2 of you and one of me when im looking,takes awhile to feel safe and happy, but by no means an impossibilty |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"The post is called unicorn because i couldnt think of another title. Sorry.
how about single bi fem?
Why not change the whole site to
"fab like minded people with various preferences looking for other fab like minded people who share the same prefences but do not like to fall into a particular archetype"
personally i think the term "swingers" us outdated and presumptuous, but what can you do!!
if you don't like the term 'swingers' then what would you suggest? and have you canvassed the owners of the site with your suggestions? "
Not as yet, have you picketed against the term unicorn? Nobody likes these given terms but they are a given, everytime the term unicorn is used someone gets on there soap box like its an offensive word? |
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By (user no longer on site)
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FWIW, I rarely meet couples as a "single bi fem". It's virtually impossible to meet a couple where I click with both and they don't have oodles of couple/relationship privilege.
One of my partners and I however regularly meet lots of different single bi women. I don't know what we do. I suspect it's because we're very open to all sorts of different ideas, activities, situations, etc. We're also very relaxed and don't carry too much couple/relationship privilege around with us. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"The post is called unicorn because i couldnt think of another title. Sorry.
how about single bi fem?
Why not change the whole site to
"fab like minded people with various preferences looking for other fab like minded people who share the same prefences but do not like to fall into a particular archetype"
personally i think the term "swingers" us outdated and presumptuous, but what can you do!!
if you don't like the term 'swingers' then what would you suggest? and have you canvassed the owners of the site with your suggestions?
Not as yet, have you picketed against the term unicorn? Nobody likes these given terms but they are a given, everytime the term unicorn is used someone gets on there soap box like its an offensive word? "
no need to get on a soapbox here...i'll just put my heels on |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"The post is called unicorn because i couldnt think of another title. Sorry.
how about single bi fem?
Why not change the whole site to
"fab like minded people with various preferences looking for other fab like minded people who share the same prefences but do not like to fall into a particular archetype"
personally i think the term "swingers" us outdated and presumptuous, but what can you do!!
if you don't like the term 'swingers' then what would you suggest? and have you canvassed the owners of the site with your suggestions?
Not as yet, have you picketed against the term unicorn? Nobody likes these given terms but they are a given, everytime the term unicorn is used someone gets on there soap box like its an offensive word?
no need to get on a soapbox here...i'll just put my heels on "
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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No idea what your doing 'wrong' as it may just be a case of not meeting the right woman who clicks with both of you together.
Single females who play with couples do have to feel an attraction to both parties and be happy that what they are coming into is going to be a good, solid fun time to be had by all.
You have good verifications which helps, id personally be put off by your current status, as id think your looking for a woman to satisfy the male half but that's me just on that. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"No idea what your doing 'wrong' as it may just be a case of not meeting the right woman who clicks with both of you together.
Single females who play with couples do have to feel an attraction to both parties and be happy that what they are coming into is going to be a good, solid fun time to be had by all.
You have good verifications which helps, id personally be put off by your current status, as id think your looking for a woman to satisfy the male half but that's me just on that."
Thank you x |
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"The post is called unicorn because i couldnt think of another title. Sorry.
how about single bi fem?
The term is used in a variety of contexts to describe a type of person who is, in that context, very rare or difficult to find.
Umbridge and richeous indignation only happens in certain contexts and they are very predictable and often miss entirely the intent of the comment or lack perspective whilst claiming to have a very justifiable position, they fail to address the equally justifiable suggestions of hypocrisy which could be applied if the situation were viewed across a variety of contexts and that those the richeous are indignant on behalf of, are equally guilty of the perceived crime, only it us towards a less fashionably defendable section of society.
a little verbose for my liking....was that a cut and paste job?"
Haha, no it was not. The dreadful grammar and rambling thread should mark it as all my own work. |
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I'm a single bi female on fab (hubby knows I'm on here) I've found that it's difficult meeting couples! I love kissing and have only found one couple that I'm 'allowed' to kiss both. I appreciate that for some kissing is intimate and yet I'm 'allowed' to do oral on both? Also it annoys me when I'm just there for the husbands enjoyment when the woman clearly isn't happy. That is after I've sorted through the fake couple profiles where the men know what their wife likes and want to try me first! Apologies if I've offended anyone on here with this but it's just my own fab take on it x  |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I am looking for a couple who fit my exacting standards. They must be interested in the same things as i am. They must travel to me and be checked out on the understanding i may reject them and walk away.
If I do agree to have sex they must do what i want that pleases me and satisfies my fantasies. This may mean they will not be happy themselves with the meet and they may feel like an unpaid escort.
This meet is all about me so don't apply unless you are prepared to do what i say!!"
Does that sound interesting? OP do you want to meet such a person?  |
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"The post is called unicorn because i couldnt think of another title. Sorry.
how about single bi fem?
The term is used in a variety of contexts to describe a type of person who is, in that context, very rare or difficult to find.
Umbridge and richeous indignation only happens in certain contexts and they are very predictable and often miss entirely the intent of the comment or lack perspective whilst claiming to have a very justifiable position, they fail to address the equally justifiable suggestions of hypocrisy which could be applied if the situation were viewed across a variety of contexts and that those the richeous are indignant on behalf of, are equally guilty of the perceived crime, only it us towards a less fashionably defendable section of society."
Huh? |
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By (user no longer on site)
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I just find it a bit off putting that couples post on here saying they are looking for 'unicorns' as it seems that they don't really care what the 'unicorn' is looking for...
If I was looking (and I'm not atm as I was put off yet again last week) I would want to meet a couple who took into consideration what my wants were, as well as their own, and not to feel as though I was being used for the sole enjoyment of one or the other should they feel the need...
wouldn't it be good if, just for once, a couple stated exactly what they were looking for but were also prepared to discuss it without it having to turn into a bit of titillation when they felt like it, as that is what it feels like too me.....and I won't jump through hoops for anyone |
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"I just find it a bit off putting that couples post on here saying they are looking for 'unicorns' as it seems that they don't really care what the 'unicorn' is looking for...
If I was looking (and I'm not atm as I was put off yet again last week) I would want to meet a couple who took into consideration what my wants were, as well as their own, and not to feel as though I was being used for the sole enjoyment of one or the other should they feel the need...
wouldn't it be good if, just for once, a couple stated exactly what they were looking for but were also prepared to discuss it without it having to turn into a bit of titillation when they felt like it, as that is what it feels like too me.....and I won't jump through hoops for anyone"
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"I just find it a bit off putting that couples post on here saying they are looking for 'unicorns' as it seems that they don't really care what the 'unicorn' is looking for...
If I was looking (and I'm not atm as I was put off yet again last week) I would want to meet a couple who took into consideration what my wants were, as well as their own, and not to feel as though I was being used for the sole enjoyment of one or the other should they feel the need...
wouldn't it be good if, just for once, a couple stated exactly what they were looking for but were also prepared to discuss it without it having to turn into a bit of titillation when they felt like it, as that is what it feels like too me.....and I won't jump through hoops for anyone"
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"I just find it a bit off putting that couples post on here saying they are looking for 'unicorns' as it seems that they don't really care what the 'unicorn' is looking for...
If I was looking (and I'm not atm as I was put off yet again last week) I would want to meet a couple who took into consideration what my wants were, as well as their own, and not to feel as though I was being used for the sole enjoyment of one or the other should they feel the need...
wouldn't it be good if, just for once, a couple stated exactly what they were looking for but were also prepared to discuss it without it having to turn into a bit of titillation when they felt like it, as that is what it feels like too me.....and I won't jump through hoops for anyone
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As single girl I must say I find it not easy to meet with couple and like both..or if I do than again some they rules.
Some couples saying them yes and no's before meet so if its not for me there is no time wasting.. but yes its very hard find couple who are looking for same fun what I and that they are with great nice personalities and no selfish,pushy ones!
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"The post is called unicorn because i couldnt think of another title. Sorry.
I quite like the unicorn name....but I want the multi coloured hair and horn to go with it  "
On an entirely different note this has made me remember my Pink My Little Pony it had multi coloured hair and I stuck a crayon to its' head as I was obsessed with unicorns.....  |
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We have no problem at all in meeting single bi women , and as I've said before on similar threads like this - it's because we don't actively seek them .
We won't jump through hoops and as far as we are concerned they are simply another demograph , no better and no worse than any other Iin the lifestyle .
Respect , a honesty and being fully open are what leads to success ( if that's the right word ) in the swinging world .
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Unicorn hunting requires a very different style to trawling single men a couples.... Trust becomes your bait and patience is your wing man. I meet plenty of other girlies alone first to build up a rapport and prove I'm not just doing it to please him... They quickly learn it is the other way round!
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"I still don't know what a unicorn is and at this point I'm too afraid to ask  "
The usual term Unicorn applies to is a Single Bi-Fem who meets couples by themselves. |
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"I still don't know what a unicorn is and at this point I'm too afraid to ask
The usual term Unicorn applies to is a Single Bi-Fem who meets couples by themselves. "
Although they don't always start bi
Flick xx |
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"I still don't know what a unicorn is and at this point I'm too afraid to ask
The usual term Unicorn applies to is a Single Bi-Fem who meets couples by themselves.
Although they don't always start bi
Flick xx"
That can be very true yes x |
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"I still don't know what a unicorn is and at this point I'm too afraid to ask
The usual term Unicorn applies to is a Single Bi-Fem who meets couples by themselves.
Although they don't always start bi
Flick xx
That can be very true yes x"
Any 3rd person in a relationship can be a unicorn so it could be a man as well |
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"Ignore the usual ignorant suspects in here often nothing better to do than pick .
Do u play openly at clubs etc ? May attract interest if you are playing already ? And smile at someone perhaps they may come over ?
Do you find you become friends with people and not get to play point as you are now seeing them as friends ?
A girl meeting a couple is scarey , they have each other , you have just yourself .
Spend time at parties and clubs chatting and if you like them simply as if they want to play , or watch you play maybe ?
Or perhaps failing that , try meeting couples to play "
As a couple our preference is couples we prefer the dynamics of a 3 that being said I (ms) is fully bi , and for us you can always tell if couples are playing with couples because they can't find a single woman to play with .. So not sure if that's the best advice ...
It's actually really obvious if that's the case and I for one won't be another couples 3some which is how some couples treat playing with couples if they are only playing with couples because they can't find a single lady |
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"Ignore the usual ignorant suspects in here often nothing better to do than pick .
Do u play openly at clubs etc ? May attract interest if you are playing already ? And smile at someone perhaps they may come over ?
Do you find you become friends with people and not get to play point as you are now seeing them as friends ?
A girl meeting a couple is scarey , they have each other , you have just yourself .
Spend time at parties and clubs chatting and if you like them simply as if they want to play , or watch you play maybe ?
Or perhaps failing that , try meeting couples to play "
Female half of couple here....I often visit clubs on my own and I agree with above post that it is hard to approach a couple.....if they smile at me, engage in some chatter, the lady is friendly and strokes my arm or flirts a little then I often join them for some fmf fun....but if the lady doesn't say much and leaves all the chat to the man then I steer clear because both people need to be keen for the encounter...if I want a horny single man I have no problem approaching them...but couples are a different thing totally....so OP - go to clubs, be friendly and open......message me too if you like!!!! |
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"You might find it easier if you don't look for a "unicorn" and instead you keep your eyes open for a woman who is more than just her genitals and sexuality.
Single women hate the term unicorn, yet the term swinger has to apply to all couples, and the term bull is still used for guys.. just something else to bitch about!! "
Bull is most certainly NOT used for all guys. It is the term for the single male who interacts with a cuckold couple. I have experience of being a bull but it is not what I am. I enjoy many different scenarios, most of which do not involve me bring a bull.
I am a "Dom" for some ladies. One in particular for a few years...she was my "sub". Similarly she is not always a sub....she had another relationship where she was actually the Dom.
The term unicorn is used supposedly to describe the rarity of single, bisexual ladies. The thing that puzzles me is I don't think they are particularly rare....I've met and played with several over the years. |
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"We have been on here 5 months now (were looking for a woman) and the furthest we have got is a kiss. We know these things cant be rushed but we regularly attend parties and socials so im not sure where were going wrong. Any advice? "
move to Newcastle... We can't shake them off even if we beat them with a stick... |
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"The post is called unicorn because i couldnt think of another title. Sorry.
I quite like the unicorn name....but I want the multi coloured hair and horn to go with it "
Yes! Was going to say haha. Call me a day dreamer but unicorns are magical and beautiful so I love the idea of being one haha |
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"As a single female I find it hard to chat to couples at clubs etc, I usually think they are probably looking for another couple."
I am the same.
Unless I am approached I struggle to initiate contact with a couple.
Just to put my 2 pence worth in... I don't mind being called a Unicorn
We may seem to be as rare as rocking horse shit but there are single bi fems out there. Be patient, be open & accept that these things take time.
Keep trying x
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