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Abusive guys who create fake profiles

By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

Had a very nasty message from a guy who inferred that we had met and I had previously blocked as he could not accept that I did not wish to meet him after we had a meal. Now he has clearly come back on with a new profile although no verification and his.message was vile and nasty.

I did report him and block him but have not heard back.

Anyone else experienced this and what is the best way to handle tgis.? I was quite upset at the time and taken aback by this.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

You already handled it.. report, block and move on. What an arse though..the site's full of em. Sigh. Chin up honey, there's some lovely horny people on here too x

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"You already handled it.. report, block and move on. What an arse though..the site's full of em. Sigh. Chin up honey, there's some lovely horny people on here too x"

Thanks. Appreciate your reply. I meant to say create a new profile!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

You've done all you can. Don't give it or him a second thought and Don't let meaningless words fromm strangers affect you.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Knobs like him that make it bad for us genuine guys unfortunately it happens

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By *luffy_bunniesCouple over a year ago

Ilkeston

We get this s a lot. The same guys pop up a new profile every 5 mins, and from talking to people, we know they have been sending abusive texts.

Other sites block by IP address for repeat offenders. I know this doesn't solve the problem, but would certainly help to cut it back a lot.

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By *layfullsamMan over a year ago

Solihull

"Had a very nasty message from a guy who inferred that we had met and I had previously blocked as he could not accept that I did not wish to meet him after we had a meal. Now he has clearly come back on with a new profile although no verification and his.message was vile and nasty.

I did report him and block him but have not heard back.

Anyone else experienced this and what is the best way to handle tgis.? I was quite upset at the time and taken aback by this."

What a twunt, it's tough enough trying to get a meet without guys like this giving us a bad name.

Pleased you've sorted it

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I did report him and block him but have not heard back.

Anyone else experienced this and what is the best way to handle tgis.? I was quite upset at the time and taken aback by this."

that's the problem with this sight to many nasty's on it who think there gods gift

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By *iscean MaleMan over a year ago

Darlaston

Loads of people on here with too much time on thei hands on here to mess others around. Simple answer report and block.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

you've done what you need to do..lot of assholes everywhere...but, it does not in any way give 'genuine' or otherwise,men, a bad name at all; oft repeated,this is clearly nonsense....all or the majority of women on here have had a shit message at some point...if this stupid idea held true, there would be no women on here at all...tired of hearing it!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Unfortunately this happens quite often but you did what needed to be done by reporting and blocking him, however I doubt you will get any feedback from admin about it...

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By *nvercoupleCouple over a year ago

Inverness

Something else to try is to block people that have no verification mailing you.

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By *uessWhosBackAgainMan over a year ago

London

I did report him and block him but have not heard back.

Anyone else experienced this and what is the best way to handle tgis.? I was quite upset at the time and taken aback by this."

you did the right thing report and block

Just wondering when you did meet with him for that meal who paid and was it expensive?

Did you make it clear you wouldn't be meeting up again or did you just block him when you got home later? Just curious as to why he felt the need to go through so much just to send a vile and nasty message

(i'm only asking not justifying or condoning anything i know what you lot are like)

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By *ensual temptressWoman over a year ago

Southampton

"Knobs like him that make it bad for us genuine guys unfortunately it happens "

No they don't!! After a plethora of neanderthals and arse holes when a decent person mails it stands out a mile!! They are in fact making things easier for making you stand out for the right reasons and by removing themself as any competition to you!

As for the abusives making up new profiles op I'd just select to stop newbies mailing you on filters .That may stop further contact from him. Good luck and hugs op x

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Use your filters. Filter out newbies,unverified or those without public pictures.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Knobs like him that make it bad for us genuine guys unfortunately it happens "

Not unless you're behaving like him. If anything, it makes you look better.

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By *oluptuousWetOneWoman over a year ago

Wokingham / Reading

Yes there's a couple of guys who do this to me, I've given up blocking them because they keep coming back under new profiles.

They seem to pipe up every few months and I just ignore them now, Sshame they can't just move on.

I wouldn't let them get you.

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By *rallvalCouple over a year ago

Dunfermline

Other sites block by IP address for repeat offenders. I know this doesn't solve the problem, but would certainly help to cut it back a lot."

Most ISPs do not issue static IP addresses so all you need to do is to reset your router and the ISP will assign a new IP address.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

We have this problem too.

Ruins the site for us at times.

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

I did report him and block him but have not heard back.

Anyone else experienced this and what is the best way to handle tgis.? I was quite upset at the time and taken aback by this.

you did the right thing report and block

Just wondering when you did meet with him for that meal who paid and was it expensive?

(i'm only asking not justifying or condoning anything i know what you lot are like)

I had a meal which he paid off his work expenses. He then talked about doing a couples profile and I decided he was going too fast, and said so. I then decided it wasn't going further.

He took the huff and got cheeky so I blocked him.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Knobs like him that make it bad for us genuine guys unfortunately it happens "

How do you work that one out?

Might for you but not for me

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I did report him and block him but have not heard back.

Anyone else experienced this and what is the best way to handle tgis.? I was quite upset at the time and taken aback by this.

you did the right thing report and block

Just wondering when you did meet with him for that meal who paid and was it expensive?

(i'm only asking not justifying or condoning anything i know what you lot are like)

I had a meal which he paid off his work expenses. He then talked about doing a couples profile and I decided he was going too fast, and said so. I then decided it wasn't going further.

He took the huff and got cheeky so I blocked him."

This is what happens when you order the steak and lobster... Next time order the fish and chips

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By *awandOrderCouple over a year ago

SW London

Block newbie and unverified will help for a while, until he goes onto his next target ....

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I,'ve had harassment from a man, a couple and a female. I blocked them, they made new profiles several times. This is what I did, first say, sorry not interested politely, next time say fk off, bit rude but you have to speak in a language they will understand. A mention of reporting to Mr plod usually works, have had to resort to that twice. It is not a crime to be on an adult dating site.x

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Block newbies via filters.

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By *oluptuousWetOneWoman over a year ago

Wokingham / Reading

"Block newbies via filters. "

Only stops them for 3 days

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By *rettyLittleThingWoman over a year ago

Swansea

I did report him and block him but have not heard back.

Anyone else experienced this and what is the best way to handle tgis.? I was quite upset at the time and taken aback by this."

I've had the same with this before, only advice I can give is use your filters and don't let new or unverified people message you or they will just continue doing it.

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By *uckandbunnyCouple over a year ago

In your bed

That is the only way to handle it.

There is no policing system that can stop people creating new fake profiles.

Even blocking IP's would not be fool proof. It would probably take about 10 mins to circumnavigate an IP block.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I got attacked a few months ago by a meet ,after speaking for a few weeks we met ,he seemed nice to start with then after we had sex I asked him to go and that's when he turned on me ,he punched me in the ribs then left ,I was shocked and upset ,I went to report his profile but he deleted it and they called his number that was dead as well ,makes me wounder if he has done it before ...

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I got attacked a few months ago by a meet ,after speaking for a few weeks we met ,he seemed nice to start with then after we had sex I asked him to go and that's when he turned on me ,he punched me in the ribs then left ,I was shocked and upset ,I went to report his profile but he deleted it and they called his number that was dead as well ,makes me wounder if he has done it before ..."

I'm really sorry to hear that. I joke around a lot on here. But that's not cool

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By *oluptuousWetOneWoman over a year ago

Wokingham / Reading

Sorry to hear that x

Some of the things been hearing lately makes me think you need some sort of safety thing like asking for Id.

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By *LCCCouple over a year ago

Cambridge

I did report him and block him but have not heard back.

Anyone else experienced this and what is the best way to handle tgis.? I was quite upset at the time and taken aback by this.

you did the right thing report and block

Just wondering when you did meet with him for that meal who paid and was it expensive?

(i'm only asking not justifying or condoning anything i know what you lot are like)

I had a meal which he paid off his work expenses. He then talked about doing a couples profile and I decided he was going too fast, and said so. I then decided it wasn't going further.

He took the huff and got cheeky so I blocked him."

The cheap git shouldn’t have put it on expenses. You never know, it might have cost him his job.

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By *uckandbunnyCouple over a year ago

In your bed

That's just plain assault. Sorry to hear that you went through that. I'd hope that he is caught as violence has no place on a site where people meet.

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By *r TriomanMan over a year ago

Chippenham Malmesbury area

I'm suprised people have the time for such hurtful and pointless actions; all my focus is on making friends and meeting people. It's all too easy to get consumed by negativity if you let it take a hold of you.

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By *ficouldMan over a year ago

a quandary, could you change my mind?

Seems this happens alot, think more to the ladies and couples.

A couple of months ago I was chatting to a friend all of a sudden the message changed and she went quiet.

A few days later she told me she had received a nasty message from a man, I told her to ensure she reports and blocks, but it's another person who will open up another profile and it will happen again..

He's just a very sad individual, wonder if he would do this to a man? Especially face to face, I think not!

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By *ay-Jay-1980Man over a year ago

surrey

Wowww, what a crazy situation and that is assault and charges should be brought and pressed. It does worry you and makes you understand why the ladies on the site are scared of meeting new unverified gentlemen.

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By *luffy_bunniesCouple over a year ago

Ilkeston

Other sites block by IP address for repeat offenders. I know this doesn't solve the problem, but would certainly help to cut it back a lot.

Most ISPs do not issue static IP addresses so all you need to do is to reset your router and the ISP will assign a new IP address.

That assigns a dynamic ip, not a static ip, which is what would be blocked.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Afraid its something you learn to live with on here

Report & Block. Don't let it put you off. X

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Hard I know, but it's nothing personal.

There was a guy in this area (Suffolk) the other day who was evidently on a woman hating mission; his profile name was being quoted in statuses left right and centre as he'd upset so many women. 'Rudeboyeveryday' or suchlike was his name.

You'll always get a handful of nasties on here, but take some comfort that some of us single guys are nice chaps. ??

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I call them MBB's. Mummy's Basement Badass's. Just picture them sat in their Mum's basement in their off white Y fronts tapping away furiously on a keyboard. They're notoriously bad spellers. This because their keyboard is so.......ahem.....'sticky'

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By *aughty_amazonWoman over a year ago

BRISTOL

This is why I'm.hidden for a bit, 3 different people have abused me within a few days. Asking for fake verification after messaging, abusing me when I say no, calling me a whore when unturned them.down, and accusing me of being a fake profile when I say no to a meet. It's rattled me a bit to be honest, this profile is new but I'm not new to this and its really put me off meeting now.

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By *corpio67Man over a year ago

hillingdon

I did report him and block him but have not heard back.

Anyone else experienced this and what is the best way to handle tgis.? I was quite upset at the time and taken aback by this."

What a shame I'm too old for you

Would be happy to give you a cuddle and make everything ok

But

Ces't la vie

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

block newbies - then he cant messge you