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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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I have spoken with my wife about attending a swingers party/sex club, she isn't keen but said she would enjoy watching others have sex, should I take her to a club and hope that she wants to take things further or just leave it? |
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Take her to a club but try to be cool about it, don't be pushy trying to get her to do anything, watch people having sex and when you get her home she will fuck you senseless.
She will move it along when she feels comfortable! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Take her to a club but try to be cool about it, don't be pushy trying to get her to do anything, watch people having sex and when you get her home she will fuck you senseless.
She will move it along when she feels comfortable!"
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I wouldn't push the issue if Mr M had tricked me into going to a club it wouldn't have ended well its something we discussed and I said I would think about and did for a while then curiosity took over so decided to go for myself but still haven't had guts to watch yet but I've been for several weeks now |
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"I have spoken with my wife about attending a swingers party/sex club, she isn't keen but said she would enjoy watching others have sex, should I take her to a club and hope that she wants to take things further or just leave it? "
Leave it. Please, just leave it. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Well if she says she'd like to watch others then going to a club is the obvious place. Just let her know that you expect nothing else from her, not even for you two to have sex between you. Failing that you could always see which couples are local to you and ask if you can watch them. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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My wife said she would only play with me or watch others until we were in chameleons jacuzzi.....
Next thing she's leading me and the guy who'd sat next to her to a room.
The rest is history  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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If she would enjoy watching...then a club would be fine. But don't push her into anything else. Let her decide if she takes the next step....you never know? |
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A cautionary tale from an American girl I knew a few years ago - worked with a married guy who wanted to introduce wife to MFF and clubs, my friend finally agreed to accompany them - and the 2 girls played happily while the married guy struggled to perform when his dream came true!Give it a try OP, but prepare for all eventualities, good luck |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Well, personally I would start with showing your wife your singles profile here, and then ask her again if she wants to go to a club with you."
Haha. Yes, my guess is the dream would be over.
Best bet is to ask if she would join this site as a couple to just look for now. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Take her to a club but try to be cool about it, don't be pushy trying to get her to do anything, watch people having sex and when you get her home she will fuck you senseless.
She will move it along when she feels comfortable!"
As she has expressed an interest in watching others have sex,this seems very good advice.
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By *ugby 123Couple
over a year ago
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"I have spoken with my wife about attending a swingers party/sex club, she isn't keen but said she would enjoy watching others have sex, should I take her to a club and hope that she wants to take things further or just leave it? "
Have you asked her where she would like to go to watch others having sex or does she mean watching porn etc? |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Well, personally I would start with showing your wife your singles profile here, and then ask her again if she wants to go to a club with you.
Haha. Yes, my guess is the dream would be over.
Best bet is to ask if she would join this site as a couple to just look for now. "
My wife saw my single profile, wasn't happy but luckily for me, we now have a joint profile.
It's much better when playing in pairs |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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The saddest thing I have ever seen in swinging was at a club where this couple arrived. The female was absolutely stunning and very sexily dressed in lingerie.
It became obvious however that the male was the only one who wanted to be there.
He sat there in white boxers, legs spread apart, leering (the best way to describe it) at the other women in the club whilst rubbing his cock.
His female partner however sat in tears beside him trying to cover herself with her arms.
It was horrible to watch and left everyone with a cold chill at what should have been a fun night for consenting adults. From what I could see there was one person there who clearly didn't consent.
If a wife or partner is pressurised into swinging it is obvious to all and will end in disaster. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I don't like tomatoes and don't want to eat them....don't like them on my plate and don't like being asked more than once if I want to try them. If I want a tomato I will try them in my own time. Stop asking me if I want a tomato x |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"The saddest thing I have ever seen in swinging was at a club where this couple arrived. The female was absolutely stunning and very sexily dressed in lingerie.
It became obvious however that the male was the only one who wanted to be there.
He sat there in white boxers, legs spread apart, leering (the best way to describe it) at the other women in the club whilst rubbing his cock.
His female partner however sat in tears beside him trying to cover herself with her arms.
It was horrible to watch and left everyone with a cold chill at what should have been a fun night for consenting adults. From what I could see there was one person there who clearly didn't consent.
If a wife or partner is pressurised into swinging it is obvious to all and will end in disaster."
So there's a guy stroking a hard on next to his wife who is crying?  |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Well, personally I would start with showing your wife your singles profile here, and then ask her again if she wants to go to a club with you."
She could meet up with his verification and have a chat about the lifestyle |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I remember when my partner asked if I wanted to go to a club I said no straight away and said in time I will go,in plucked up the courage to go and was very nervous going in blind not knowing what to expect and being naked in front of stranger's but now I love it but like most said leave it and let the woman come round in her own time don't rush her if she isn't ready  |
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"I don't like tomatoes and don't want to eat them....don't like them on my plate and don't like being asked more than once if I want to try them. If I want a tomato I will try them in my own time. Stop asking me if I want a tomato x"
Would you like a pizza instead? Washed down with a Bloody Mary.  . |
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"I have spoken with my wife about attending a swingers party/sex club, she isn't keen but said she would enjoy watching others have sex, should I take her to a club and hope that she wants to take things further or just leave it? "
Look for clubs where you don't need to dress down (our first was La Chambre for this reason). Then you'll be able to chat and socialise earlier in the evening and watch the "action" later on.
Be aware that in many clubs nobody seems to start playing until late afternoon midnight.
Cal |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I don't like tomatoes and don't want to eat them....don't like them on my plate and don't like being asked more than once if I want to try them. If I want a tomato I will try them in my own time. Stop asking me if I want a tomato x"
Says the person on a tomato site  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Why not take her, if she wants, to somewhere like Studland. Naturist beach so all naked, but safe in the knowledge that no play happens with here or others. Then if she gets on well with people she could move to watching or being watched elsewhere. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I have spoken with my wife about attending a swingers party/sex club, she isn't keen but said she would enjoy watching others have sex, should I take her to a club and hope that she wants to take things further or just leave it?
Look for clubs where you don't need to dress down (our first was La Chambre for this reason). Then you'll be able to chat and socialise earlier in the evening and watch the "action" later on.
Be aware that in many clubs nobody seems to start playing until late afternoon midnight.
Cal"
Really?
Things always seem to happen pretty swiftly every time I've been clubbing.
Why would everyone shuffle about til so late? |
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By *exysuzi and Mr.SCouple
over a year ago
CONISTON .Stoke Suburbia. Staffs. BARMOUTH. The Lakes (Monthly) |
"I have spoken with my wife about attending a swingers party/sex club, she isn't keen but said she would enjoy watching others have sex, should I take her to a club and hope that she wants to take things further or just leave it?
Look for clubs where you don't need to dress down (our first was La Chambre for this reason). Then you'll be able to chat and socialise earlier in the evening and watch the "action" later on.
Be aware that in many clubs nobody seems to start playing until late afternoon midnight.
Cal
Really?
Things always seem to happen pretty swiftly every time I've been clubbing.
Why would everyone shuffle about til so late? "
Ditto... probably because other clubs don't have a #bus stop # xxxx Suzi  |
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By (user no longer on site)
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I felt exactly the same about the clubs when Drew really wanted to go a couple of months ago. Drew assured me that we could just go and see how we felt and that's what we did.
We didn't end up playing as there were only 2 couples and 6 single older guys who didn't take our fancy but I felt so relaxed. We sat in the social area and got chatting to a few people and then left when we felt ready. I now feel more comfortable attending again to hopefully play next time. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I have spoken with my wife about attending a swingers party/sex club, she isn't keen but said she would enjoy watching others have sex, should I take her to a club and hope that she wants to take things further or just leave it?
Look for clubs where you don't need to dress down (our first was La Chambre for this reason). Then you'll be able to chat and socialise earlier in the evening and watch the "action" later on.
Be aware that in many clubs nobody seems to start playing until late afternoon midnight.
Cal
Really?
Things always seem to happen pretty swiftly every time I've been clubbing.
Why would everyone shuffle about til so late?
Ditto... probably because other clubs don't have a #bus stop # xxxx Suzi "
Or sluts like us sat there |
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By *exysuzi and Mr.SCouple
over a year ago
CONISTON .Stoke Suburbia. Staffs. BARMOUTH. The Lakes (Monthly) |
"I have spoken with my wife about attending a swingers party/sex club, she isn't keen but said she would enjoy watching others have sex, should I take her to a club and hope that she wants to take things further or just leave it?
Look for clubs where you don't need to dress down (our first was La Chambre for this reason). Then you'll be able to chat and socialise earlier in the evening and watch the "action" later on.
Be aware that in many clubs nobody seems to start playing until late afternoon midnight.
Cal
Really?
Things always seem to happen pretty swiftly every time I've been clubbing.
Why would everyone shuffle about til so late?
Ditto... probably because other clubs don't have a #bus stop # xxxx Suzi
Or sluts like us sat there "
Mmmmmm true lol xxxxx Suzi |
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"I have spoken with my wife about attending a swingers party/sex club, she isn't keen but said she would enjoy watching others have sex, should I take her to a club and hope that she wants to take things further or just leave it? "
Leave it.
You're only torturing yourself. |
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"Well if she says she'd like to watch others then going to a club is the obvious place. Just let her know that you expect nothing else from her, not even for you two to have sex between you. Failing that you could always see which couples are local to you and ask if you can watch them. "
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By *ikeC81Man
over a year ago
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I wou do say discuss it with her
The option is that you can take her to a club to watch, often there is a mirrored room or a couples room where you can watch people have fun
If you set your boundaries before hand it should be OK. I am sure there are couples that would like to be watched by other couples and if you are approached and you chat maybe say it's your first time, and you just want to watch people have sex
From my time in the scene people appreciate the honesty |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Take her to a club but try to be cool about it, don't be pushy trying to get her to do anything, watch people having sex and when you get her home she will fuck you senseless.
She will move it along when she feels comfortable!"
perfect answer |
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