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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Hi all- my partner is very much into the idea of another guy or two, girl, or couple joining us for fun but she isn't into the whole internet pre-arranging side and would rather it happened spontaneously on nights out. I have the idea to 'push things along' by kinda arranging a coming together via here, a sort of challenge to anyone to chat her up a bit, flirt, and then see if it progresses to a bedroom... You think this is possible or will the 'meet' let the cat out the bag and get me in trouble?!  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Hi all- my partner is very much into the idea of another guy or two, girl, or couple joining us for fun but she isn't into the whole internet pre-arranging side and would rather it happened spontaneously on nights out. I have the idea to 'push things along' by kinda arranging a coming together via here, a sort of challenge to anyone to chat her up a bit, flirt, and then see if it progresses to a bedroom... You think this is possible or will the 'meet' let the cat out the bag and get me in trouble?! "
I think it would be more possible if you had a couples profile  |
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By *lighty1Woman
over a year ago
You Dont Need to Know, right now |
First, you're unlikely to be able to arrange a meet, without a couple's profile/pics of the lady. Secondly, most genuine Fabsters wouldn't want to be part of such a deceit. Thirdly, if your partner (who doesn't know about it) doesn't want to play, that means you've wasted some poor Fabsters' time. Don't do it. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"It's probably me more against that having been to one before and being put off by the quality of others attending  "
so she is fussy? or you are? either way looks like its your only option  |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Both pretty fussy.... Will do what i've been doing for a few weeks now and take her into town for drinks tonight and see if I can encourage flirting might pay off some time, lol |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Is she into the idea as a reality or as a fantasy between you in the bedroom as there is a big difference. Trying to deceive her by arranging something like your suggesting could have great ramifications should she find out., especially if she finds out about your profile in here (assuming she doesn't know already).
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" one negative comment after another no wonder they went UNLOS "
You'll never get me to answer something like this positively. The guy was basically wanting to set his girlfriend up, that isn't nice. |
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"Hi all- my partner is very much into the idea of another guy or two, girl, or couple joining us for fun but she isn't into the whole internet pre-arranging side and would rather it happened spontaneously on nights out. I have the idea to 'push things along' by kinda arranging a coming together via here, a sort of challenge to anyone to chat her up a bit, flirt, and then see if it progresses to a bedroom... You think this is possible or will the 'meet' let the cat out the bag and get me in trouble?! "
Sorry but if she was "very much in to the idea" then youd both be finding a way to make it happen wouldn't you . If someone is truly interested then they make it happen .She certainly doesn't seem bothered but the whole fantasy of it .If she was then shed not be just waiting about for things just to fall in to place if all stars happen to align . Alot talk the talk but a different thing altogether to actually walk the walk . I suspect op that you are far more in to this than she ever is . You push this and you'll just push her away.If you use deception then you are doing it for your own wants not hers .
End of the day if you are having to try so hard to get her to turn this from a mear fantasy then I'm afraid you need to ask yourself why that is . It doesnt need coaxing ,persuading,set ups or deceptions if the person wants to do something . |
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