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S is interested in exploring her bi side with another girl through this site, but insists that the girl must look "like her" in order to be interested. We have now established that this is due to insecurity about her (her words) "tiny tits".
I've tried explaining to her that boob size is not important to a lot of people but wonder if this is a common issue amongst those women who have a smaller chest? Suppose if that's the case, it should be easy to find a girl that she can play with!
Not sure if it's just me, but I couldn't care less about the size of a woman's boobs. Any guys with me on this?
She's happy for this to be posted, just thought it could be nice to have an insecurity thread that wasn't about cock size for a change  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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i also haven't got big boobs, this does mean i don't get a lot of attention on this site in the forums coz guys tend to like massive boobs on curvy figures.
if you've got pics that represent yourself accurately then she shouldn't be bothered. same for in a club if she is representing herself as she is then people can see for themselves and decide what they like.
not a guy but i don't get to talk about small boobs much in the forums and couldn't stop myself. |
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Thanks for the input. Although I asked what other guys think I didn't intend for the thread to be exclusive to guys haha.
We haven't been to a club yet, partly due to an age restriction on our local club, and partly cause we need to grow some balls and try it  |
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By *pice of life 79Man
over a year ago
lincoln, sleaford , grantham , nottingham |
Small boobs are great too especially when there older they won't drop south as much so will always be Pert
Women with large boobs would possibly get turned on to feel something different to what they've got
Tell her not to be so ashamed of them
Small boobs are beautiful too |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"S is interested in exploring her bi side with another girl through this site, but insists that the girl must look "like her" in order to be interested. We have now established that this is due to insecurity about her (her words) "tiny tits".
I've tried explaining to her that boob size is not important to a lot of people but wonder if this is a common issue amongst those women who have a smaller chest? Suppose if that's the case, it should be easy to find a girl that she can play with!
Not sure if it's just me, but I couldn't care less about the size of a woman's boobs. Any guys with me on this?
She's happy for this to be posted, just thought it could be nice to have an insecurity thread that wasn't about cock size for a change "
Just had a peek at your pics and I have to say S's tits are absolutely gorgeous  |
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Thanks everyone, hope she takes these comments in....although she's also just commented that she doesn't like her nipples either 
Sure she can take some confidence from all of the kind comments received  |
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"Thanks everyone, hope she takes these comments in....although she's also just commented that she doesn't like her nipples either
Sure she can take some confidence from all of the kind comments received "
they look good to me |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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didn't realise you were both young. that won't help i reckon.
one thing i will add is that i know for a fact now (in my early 40s) that my body was a lot better when i was younger and i should have appreciated it then but i was less confident despite getting a lot of attention from men.
i think don't compare yourself to others is a good thing as well. hope that helps. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Same way that not all the cocks are the same and we have differences, the same with boobs.
as long as that set of boobs is nice and good looking for the total image of the body you are fine!
imagine a very thin woman with HUGE over sized boobs, or the opposite. Plus its a matter of preference for each person.
so S do enjoy what you have, do explore your bi site and just go with the flow. Do not worry, things happen naturally. Had you been older and closer by, I would have send you my Pixie lady.. |
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"I understand this totally
I have small boobs
And can't compete with the big busted women "
why would you want to compete with big busted women??
never understood where women get the misconception that all men prefer big boobs from.
we both prefer smaller boobs and actively avoid women with great big paps lol.
be happy with what you have girls, there is someone out there that prefers all shapes & sizes of body. |
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One thing I've found in this lifestyle is that body size and shape is pretty irrelevant.
I am large with tiny boobs and the couple we play regularly with, the f has large boobs. Her OH spends plenty of time on my boobs...
In my experience, play in a club or spa and there is less "pickiness" over body shape and size.
There are plenty of men and women out there who prefer smaller boobs. Size really isn't an issue. |
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By *igeiaWoman
over a year ago
Bristol |
I have a female playmate who loves my boobs because they're big and bounceable, despite me despairing at their sagginess. She wishes hers were bigger but I adore them because they're pert and firm and she has the most gorgeous nipples. My point is that we are our own worse critics and it can prevent us enjoying ourselves so embrace what you've got and don't worry about the comparisons; it's sometimes in the differences where you find common ground. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"S is interested in exploring her bi side with another girl through this site, but insists that the girl must look "like her" in order to be interested. We have now established that this is due to insecurity about her (her words) "tiny tits".
I've tried explaining to her that boob size is not important to a lot of people but wonder if this is a common issue amongst those women who have a smaller chest? Suppose if that's the case, it should be easy to find a girl that she can play with!
Not sure if it's just me, but I couldn't care less about the size of a woman's boobs. Any guys with me on this?
She's happy for this to be posted, just thought it could be nice to have an insecurity thread that wasn't about cock size for a change "
Love all natural breasts but have a passion for smaller ones. It would not make any difference to a meet. Personality is more important and chemistry. Even girls with big breasts and guys with above average chicks are insecure. It's to do withthe media selling beauty treatments. The BMI index was created by American diet industry not health care professionals. It's all bollocks. If people do not like you for who you are they do not deserve you. Don't let anyone change you EVER! |
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When I tried meeting women I didn't want to meet slim women, partly because I am not attracted to them, and partly because I didn't want a slim woman to make me feel uncomfortable about my figure. I guess if I'd spoken to the 'right' slim woman it would have been ok! I don't think it's unusual to be more comfortable with someone who is similar to you. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I've always wished I had large breasts, although I certainly don't have any trouble attracting men, even men from the 'big boob brigade'. However a man recently said to me I have the breasts of a teenager. Quite a compliment for a woman over 40 whose had 2 kids. I still wish I had big boobs though. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Thanks everyone, hope she takes these comments in....although she's also just commented that she doesn't like her nipples either
Sure she can take some confidence from all of the kind comments received
they look good to me "
ditto |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Really love smaller tits. Not bothered by tit size either way. Be happy with what you have and enjoy yourself. I bet women with huge tits are not happy when they go south. "
we don't all go south  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I'm a clothes size 20, but cup size A!
I am so embarrassed about my boobs, I feel I have to explain the reason for their size & shape
You have great boobs, if I was going for my first bi experience, I'd love boobs like yours to play with  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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My wife, who is bi, is curvy with large breasts but has a massive thing for women with small breasts. Sometimes it is all about the joy of contrasting bodies rather than finding similar. |
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By *manda63Woman
over a year ago
Southampton |
"I understand this totally
I have small boobs
And can't compete with the big busted women "
I've biggish boobs and am fat and I can't compete with the slimmer, smaller women but then, none of us are ever really happy with what we have are we? |
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By *anky_PankyWoman
over a year ago
Filthy Fuckeryville |
When I play with ladies I have a preference for smaller boobs personally - I feel a little overwhelmed by mahoooosive knockers - I prefer a simple handful - they also say anything more is a waste! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I understand this totally
I have small boobs
And can't compete with the big busted women
I've biggish boobs and am fat and I can't compete with the slimmer, smaller women but then, none of us are ever really happy with what we have are we? "
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"I've always wished I had large breasts, although I certainly don't have any trouble attracting men, even men from the 'big boob brigade'. However a man recently said to me I have the breasts of a teenager. Quite a compliment for a woman over 40 whose had 2 kids. I still wish I had big boobs though."
I think I'll always want big boobs, because I don't (and won't) have them |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I've always wished I had large breasts, although I certainly don't have any trouble attracting men, even men from the 'big boob brigade'. However a man recently said to me I have the breasts of a teenager. Quite a compliment for a woman over 40 whose had 2 kids. I still wish I had big boobs though.
I think I'll always want big boobs, because I don't (and won't) have them "
they can be a curse in many ways x |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I am in the same boat as S. I too have small breasts. I've always had an issue about their size... too small. I've learned to concentrate on my nicer bits... bum and legs |
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"I am in the same boat as S. I too have small breasts. I've always had an issue about their size... too small. I've learned to concentrate on my nicer bits... bum and legs "
Not a problem finding a girl to play with though if you're straight |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I am in the same boat as S. I too have small breasts. I've always had an issue about their size... too small. I've learned to concentrate on my nicer bits... bum and legs
Not a problem finding a girl to play with though if you're straight "
I have played with a couple of girls... yes. And they have always had a bigger chest than me. |
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By *acreadCouple
over a year ago
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Ren just had a boob reduction a few weeks ago because she had a small frame and large boobs causing backache and she hated the size as she could not get dresses or bikinis etc as the top would be a cpl sizes bigger than the bottom so not all great having large but in saying that she is delighted with the results and is a lot happier now and says she wishes she had done it years ago me I just lost the double DS and it cost me £6000 to do it  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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OP....you (Mrs) have great boobs.
The concept that "most" guys prefer big boobs/curvy ladies is nonsense too!
I think it is more that...there are more larger/curvy ladies on the site....so lots of guys say they prefer this...because they think they have more chance of getting somewhere on here.
Anyway...you are looking for another woman? More likely to seek something different to themselves? Maybe....but there could also be some larger/curvy ladies out there who will avoid you...because they are jealous! |
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"S here - thank you everyone for your comments, it's helped me massively. I just need to love what I've got and not give a shit!! "
This a thousand times over. We are what we are. So make sure at the end you can say 'you know what, that's what I was given and I made the best damn use of it I could'
Of course physical attraction matters. You have no issue atall there so go our and enjoy yourselves and don't let your own insecurities hold you back |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I like them,I think they're lovely. I have large boobs now,believe me it's not as great as you think. I preferred my small boobs that went with my flat stomach and smaller bum. I wasn't just a pair of tits and a huge arse to men. |
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"I've always wished I had large breasts, although I certainly don't have any trouble attracting men, even men from the 'big boob brigade'. However a man recently said to me I have the breasts of a teenager. Quite a compliment for a woman over 40 whose had 2 kids. I still wish I had big boobs though.
I think I'll always want big boobs, because I don't (and won't) have them "
I changed my pill about a year ago and my boobs have grown noticeably since - I don't like it, means I don't feel comfortable not wearing a bra out any more
You have great boobs, we both approve  |
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By *oxy_minxWoman
over a year ago
Scotland - Aberdeen |
Years ago I used to hate my boobs, until I watched a channel 4 documentary (can't remember what it is called now) It was a 3 part series on both men and women.
As a straight female, I obviously hadn't seen to many real life sized boobs. After watching it I learned to appreciate my boobs a lot more (apologies to you larger sized ladies) As the big boobs ended up scaring me so now I love my little ones |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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your boobs are loverly, they are in proportion to the rest of your body, if they were bigger you would look a little out of balance
the theory that all guys like and want big boobs is total rubbish, yes some do like them big and some like them small n pert and everything inbetween
learn to like them as I certainly do |
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By *ilacWoman
over a year ago
Cheshire |
"I have a female playmate who loves my boobs because they're big and bounceable, despite me despairing at their sagginess. She wishes hers were bigger but I adore them because they're pert and firm and she has the most gorgeous nipples. My point is that we are our own worse critics and it can prevent us enjoying ourselves so embrace what you've got and don't worry about the comparisons; it's sometimes in the differences where you find common ground."
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I understand this totally
I have small boobs
And can't compete with the big busted women
There's no need to feel you have to compete, love yourself for who you are. "
Not easy to do it though...
I completely understand why people would feel inferior regarding their attributes especially on fab where you can read that certain person won't shag you if you don't have that or if you aren't 6ft2 or whatever reason they might find...
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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When I was in my late teens I was a size 8-10 with 34b bra it didn't bother me having small boobs now I'm in my forties with a bra size of 38f guess what I not bothered that they are that size they are what they are and boob size doesn't make the person, just be comfortable with who you are that's far more attractive than worrying whether you have small or big boobs slim curvy figure.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I have small boobs - 36b - but they do look quite a bit smaller out of a bra.
When I originally joined Fab a year ago now, I was so self conscious that I wouldn't dare have a topless picture on here. However, now I know that small boobs are appreciated I feel a hell of a lot more confident about them, both on here & in person.
They'll never get me in the most Fabbed photos, but I like them the way they are, and they have their own fans |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I have small boobs - 36b - but they do look quite a bit smaller out of a bra.
When I originally joined Fab a year ago now, I was so self conscious that I wouldn't dare have a topless picture on here. However, now I know that small boobs are appreciated I feel a hell of a lot more confident about them, both on here & in person.
They'll never get me in the most Fabbed photos, but I like them the way they are, and they have their own fans "
Just fabbed them for you... they are Fab x |
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From another ladies point of view and my opinion
I understand the meeting someone "similar" to yourself in whatever aspect
I am bi and I personally find women my size (waist) attractive than I do the slimmer lady or bbw - but either way chest size doesn't matter to me I'm happy to meet a lady similar waist size to me and whatever chest size xx |
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