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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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My mums wants to go in and look inside my bedroom is this nomarl i dont really want her to look through my room how do i stop her im a grown women iv got condoms, all kinds of sex toys and naughty clothes  x |
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"My mums wants to go in and look inside my bedroom is this nomarl i dont really want her to look through my room how do i stop her im a grown women iv got condoms, all kinds of sex toys and naughty clothes x"
You're 23  why does it matter if you have this stuff? Why does she want to nosy in your room? |
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By (user no longer on site)
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Do you still live at home? If yes then that's her choice. I found living at home I had no privacy. Moved out at 19 and gotta say it's when I was able to be sexually liberated. I'd advise getting rid of all the sexy stuff and don't hide anything that may make her suspicious. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"My mums wants to go in and look inside my bedroom is this nomarl i dont really want her to look through my room how do i stop her im a grown women iv got condoms, all kinds of sex toys and naughty clothes x
You're 23 why does it matter if you have this stuff? Why does she want to nosy in your room?"
Yes but its my private stuff x |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"it's not normal really, no. but if she's worried about you i'd say fair enough but i still wouldn't let any adult root through my shit."
Im out all time and go out most nights if im not working i go regularly to a number buddies place for a weekend x
iv got a safe in my room for valuable items x |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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you'll have to ask her to respect your privacy really.
my dad used to nosey in my diary and everything then slag me off for what i'd put in it, or question me about things he found in my room and i found this was part of abuse. and left home asap.
not sure if your mum's being abusive but even if she isn't you're still entitled to privacy. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"My mums wants to go in and look inside my bedroom is this nomarl i dont really want her to look through my room how do i stop her im a grown women iv got condoms, all kinds of sex toys and naughty clothes x"
sex toys are legal your fine lol |
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"My mums wants to go in and look inside my bedroom is this nomarl i dont really want her to look through my room how do i stop her im a grown women iv got condoms, all kinds of sex toys and naughty clothes x
You're 23 why does it matter if you have this stuff? Why does she want to nosy in your room?
Yes but its my private stuff x "
Yes, so why does she think she has the right to go through it! If you were 15 and she was worried about you yes, but she needs to respect your privacy! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Leave your biggest dildo in the middle of your bed in plain view, she may think twice about going through your room.
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i was thinking that!! but it didn't come out.  |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Do you think there is a specific reason she wants to?
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Its cuz i stay out most nights i hardly sleep in my bed x
my room too small for my stuff iv got two small chest of draws their overloaded with clothes all my sexy stuffs under my bed, im moving out soon cuz i need more space x
she's tells me off and kicks off all time when im home, i do 24hr shifts at work i dont need stress at home x
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Leave your biggest dildo in the middle of your bed in plain view, she may think twice about going through your room.
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I think she would hit me with it x |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Leave your biggest dildo in the middle of your bed in plain view, she may think twice about going through your room.
I think she would hit me with it x"
just shout!! that's the spot if she does...  |
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If you pay a fair rent, then she's no right, though you'd think she'd respect your space anyway.
However, her house, her rules, I guess either consciously or sub consciously, she's telling you to get your own place. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"If you pay a fair rent, then she's no right, though you'd think she'd respect your space anyway.
However, her house, her rules, I guess either consciously or sub consciously, she's telling you to get your own place. "
I want to move out anyway and iv said im moving out she wants me to stay cuz of bedroom tax and rent i pay x |
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It feels a bit strange to be talking about this for some reason to me,still living at home and your mum's routing through your bedroom,sounds like you're a teenager. Can you not house share with someone and move out? |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"It feels a bit strange to be talking about this for some reason to me,still living at home and your mum's routing through your bedroom,sounds like you're a teenager. Can you not house share with someone and move out?"
Im not a teenager im almost 24 ,i like my own space and im a private person, somethings arent ment to be shared x |
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By *manda63Woman
over a year ago
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"It feels a bit strange to be talking about this for some reason to me,still living at home and your mum's routing through your bedroom,sounds like you're a teenager. Can you not house share with someone and move out?"
I never rooted through my kids things. My daughter is moved out now. Son is still at home and I'd never expect them to look through my stuff. Tell her you pay rent and to keep her nose out and maybe lock your toys away or put a lock on the door? |
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We are going to take the contrary view.
The house owner own the house, they can do and go where they like, no secrets in that house from the house owner.
Anyone who does not like it can get their own home.... if any part of *our* home were held secret from us it would not be our home any longer.
We can appreciate your desire for privacy, that is why we have our own home and do not live in anyone else's.
"Home" here is defined as a living space in which you control the front door key and anything and everything that passes though it and happens behind it.
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"It feels a bit strange to be talking about this for some reason to me,still living at home and your mum's routing through your bedroom,sounds like you're a teenager. Can you not house share with someone and move out?
I never rooted through my kids things. My daughter is moved out now. Son is still at home and I'd never expect them to look through my stuff. Tell her you pay rent and to keep her nose out and maybe lock your toys away or put a lock on the door? "
She doesnt want me to put a lock on my door its easier to move out x |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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my mums gets benefits i know its her name on the bills, i pay rent of her spare rooms and bills while which i dont mind x i dont want anyone seeing whats in my bedroom draws x |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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If she wants you to stay because of you paying rent, then the same rules apply as if you're a tenant. She wouldn't ask to go into the room if someone was a tenant and not her daughter. I don't go into my daughters room without knocking as she's nearly 18. I respect her privacy. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I don't go into my daughters room unless she asks me to get something... sadly the kids have open rein in mine... ( it's the living room converted to a room ) but I have nothing on display. It's mostly in the boot of the car x |
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"We are going to take the contrary view.
The house owner own the house, they can do and go where they like, no secrets in that house from the house owner.
Anyone who does not like it can get their own home.... if any part of *our* home were held secret from us it would not be our home any longer.
We can appreciate your desire for privacy, that is why we have our own home and do not live in anyone else's.
"Home" here is defined as a living space in which you control the front door key and anything and everything that passes though it and happens behind it.
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All well and good, unless you're charging rent and utilities to a tenant, as in this case. If a tenant rents a room, they have a right to privacy. |
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"my mums gets benefits i know its her name on the bills, i pay rent of her spare rooms and bills while which i dont mind x i dont want anyone seeing whats in my bedroom draws x"
You need to be telling her then not us! |
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"We are going to take the contrary view.
The house owner own the house, they can do and go where they like, no secrets in that house from the house owner.
Anyone who does not like it can get their own home.... if any part of *our* home were held secret from us it would not be our home any longer.
We can appreciate your desire for privacy, that is why we have our own home and do not live in anyone else's.
"Home" here is defined as a living space in which you control the front door key and anything and everything that passes though it and happens behind it.
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sorry but that is tosh. anyone deserves the right to privacy regardless of whether they own the place they live in or not. it is a basic human right.
not sure if the OP pays rent or keep but if she does then that is even more reason why the mum has no right to go through her room. |
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My house.
I paid all the bills.
I did all the cleaning, therefore there was nowhere in my house I couldn't go.
That said, my children were adults and I respected their space and privacy,so never entered their room without knocking or snooping.
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"If you pay a fair rent, then she's no right, though you'd think she'd respect your space anyway.
However, her house, her rules, I guess either consciously or sub consciously, she's telling you to get your own place. "
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I know exactly how you feel op only difference is I'm male. Parents always come in my room and do the bit of cleaning because I'm at work 14 hours a day. Everything's hidden in a box in my bed draw along with condoms etc
I've had the g/f over the night and never been caught out or had someone walk in on me. Just have to look mum in the eye and just say look it's your house but if I have the b/f over can you knock before walking in.
Otherwise it's going to be very awkward for me to explain why my g/f is tied hand and foot to the bed. It's frustrating and also a tad annoying but hide everything well enough it's all good op  |
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sorry but that is tosh. anyone deserves the right to privacy regardless of whether they own the place they live in or not. it is a basic human right.
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How does the saying go, opinions are like assholes, everyone has one.
We obviously have different opinions... and we are all entitled to them.
However, we are not entitled to our own facts.
The facts are that there is an Article 8 right to privacy, but it (reading between the lines) does not apply to the OP, because she is not a tenant, she is a family member bunging some cash at the actual home owner / named tenant / mum etc in a strictly informal way, to be specific, minus a shorthold tenancy agreement on paper with signatures etc
The actual home owners / named tenant / etc's right to go *anywhere* in their own home at any time will trump any imagined "right" to privacy.
The OP is simply in a similar situation to two students sharing a house where one of them always uses the last of the milk and toilet roll and electric meter credit, there is no solution but one of them moves out. |
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Im confused. Firstly you say 'look in' then people are on about rooting through your stuff which is different. Has she said why she wants to look in your room.
I always went in my sons room for a chat but knocked if he was in. Same as him with mine but we would of never dreamed of going through each others stuff.
Its not wrong she wants to look in. Its her house you could have trashed the room for all she knows.
Im not sure what the big secret is surely most 23 year old girls have sex toys.
If she does want to 'root' through your stuff is it because she may think your doing something illegal in their?
At the end of the day its her property and your 23 and been able to move out for 7 years. |
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"You have no lock on your bedroom door? So she could just walk in whenever she wanted without your permission yet shes asking before she does?"
I think it's highly likely that she already has, and does, repeatedly. If I was in that situation, I'd have already moved out. |
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I think the question of who owns what is just semantics. If a person respects you they will respect the space you inhabit. If your mum doesn't then respect yourself and move out. It doesn't seem like a great loss to you either way. |
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By *ugby 123Couple
over a year ago
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It is easy to say move out, youngsters are finding it a lot harder now to find affordable housing buying or renting.
For me once our children got to a certain age we didn't invade their space at all. There are some things you really wouldn't want your mother seeing even if they suspected you may have them |
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"When we cleared some of our daughters things when we moved we found "stuff"...her business. Unless a parent suspects something harmful of illegal they should stay out."
Never crossed my mind to invade my children's privacy. However, if they ever dreamed of telling me to stay out of a room in MY house they were living in for free, the fallout (for them) wouldn't have been pretty! |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"My mums wants to go in and look inside my bedroom is this nomarl i dont really want her to look through my room how do i stop her im a grown women iv got condoms, all kinds of sex toys and naughty clothes x"
don't stop her just show her every thing you have the look on her face will be priceless |
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"My mums wants to go in and look inside my bedroom is this nomarl i dont really want her to look through my room how do i stop her im a grown women iv got condoms, all kinds of sex toys and naughty clothes x"
This comment made me laugh .... why would you assume your mum would be shocked? That's a typical thing for a child to say about a parent, more likely you'd be surprised at what she would find. I think children often forget their parents have sex lives and years of experience too ... |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"When we cleared some of our daughters things when we moved we found "stuff"...her business. Unless a parent suspects something harmful of illegal they should stay out.
Never crossed my mind to invade my children's privacy. However, if they ever dreamed of telling me to stay out of a room in MY house they were living in for free, the fallout (for them) wouldn't have been pretty! "
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Im out all time and go out most nights if im not working i go regularly to a number buddies place for a weekend x
iv got a safe in my room for valuable items x"
i think she's going through your stuff when your out anyway but can't pull you up on anything without giving that away hence the reason she's asking so she can now question you on a few things plus i just think she wants into the safe, i would say no mum respect my privacy that's just not normal who does that  |
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"When we cleared some of our daughters things when we moved we found "stuff"...her business. Unless a parent suspects something harmful of illegal they should stay out.
Never crossed my mind to invade my children's privacy. However, if they ever dreamed of telling me to stay out of a room in MY house they were living in for free, the fallout (for them) wouldn't have been pretty! "
Yep . Beats me how some parents ever expect their children to behave like adults when they don't treat them as such. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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If you still live at home, then it's her house her rules. You need to abide by that. If you are paying digs, then you could put a lock on the door. If you still aren't happy then save up and move out. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Leave your biggest dildo in the middle of your bed in plain view, she may think twice about going through your room.
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We were thinking along these lines...leave enought things out, she won't want to go in again !! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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See i also have this problem, but I hide the stuff well and this is why I can never play at home, also because I still have to share a room with my younger brother, if it wasn't so expensive to get a place I'd love to live on my own |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"My mums wants to go in and look inside my bedroom is this nomarl i dont really want her to look through my room how do i stop her im a grown women iv got condoms, all kinds of sex toys and naughty clothes x
You're 23 why does it matter if you have this stuff? Why does she want to nosy in your room?"
Yeah what exactly is she gunna do about it? |
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By (user no longer on site)
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She's told you she'd like to look in it. Is it because she's suspicious in some way?
I think you mentioned bedroom tax further up, as she's the tenant - she's responsible for everyone who lives there. So I kind of understand her wanting to pop her head around the door to check it all looks ok. She's not saying she wants to go in every nook and cranny or is that what she wants to do?
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By (user no longer on site)
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"My mums wants to go in and look inside my bedroom is this nomarl i dont really want her to look through my room how do i stop her im a grown women iv got condoms, all kinds of sex toys and naughty clothes x"
Put a lock on your door |
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My 25 year old son lives with me and other than getting his dirty washing, I wouldn't rummage in his room. Same when my daughter and her fiance lived with me. Privacy should be given for all concerned. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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My daughter nearly 21 I'm always in and out of her room. Not to nosey. I'd not be surprised by anything I'd find in there. She's fine with it. But we do have a realy good relationship. We dnt have locked doors never have. If she has friends over then it's different. She trusts I won't go rummaging through her stuff like I trust her not to mine x marie |
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"My mums wants to go in and look inside my bedroom is this nomarl i dont really want her to look through my room how do i stop her im a grown women iv got condoms, all kinds of sex toys and naughty clothes x
Put a lock on your door"
If she wants to put a lock on her door, find her own door. Trying to imagine a child of mine, living in my house for free denying me access to any part of it...nope, can't imagine that! |
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"My mums wants to go in and look inside my bedroom is this nomarl i dont really want her to look through my room how do i stop her im a grown women iv got condoms, all kinds of sex toys and naughty clothes x
Put a lock on your door
If she wants to put a lock on her door, find her own door. Trying to imagine a child of mine, living in my house for free denying me access to any part of it...nope, can't imagine that!"
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By (user no longer on site)
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My mum let herself in to my house when I was at work. She decided to clean house which was very sweet. She found lube under my bed. Condom packet on table which I found in a party bag and gave my son the cock sweets I had been given for my birthday. I quickly took them off him and threw them out lol. Suffice to say my house is now well checked before she arrives now.
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By (user no longer on site)
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As most have said, her house her rules. If you are paying full market value rent, go to wh smith, pick up a defult tennency agreement and put a lock on the door.
Alternatively leave your lover tied naked to the bed with a dildo inserted into some orifice, and see if she dares to go in again... |
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By *ugby 123Couple
over a year ago
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".do people actually allow their adult children to talk to them like that in their own homes?!! "
I am hoping most adult children wouldn't dare..I would certainly think I had failed if they did  |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Tell her to piss right off and keep her nosey beak out of what doesn't concern her - simple, job done !
 ...do people actually allow their adult children to talk to them like that in their own homes?!! "
I think the word adult hits the nail on the head here. The OP is an adult and her privacy should be respected,regardless of who owns the house or is the tenant. If I had guests I wouldn't walk into their room and go through their personal items,I certainly wouldn't do it to one of my adult children. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Tell her to piss right off and keep her nosey beak out of what doesn't concern her - simple, job done !
...do people actually allow their adult children to talk to them like that in their own homes?!!
I think the word adult hits the nail on the head here. The OP is an adult and her privacy should be respected,regardless of who owns the house or is the tenant. If I had guests I wouldn't walk into their room and go through their personal items,I certainly wouldn't do it to one of my adult children. "
Check out the "I sniffed my sis ter in las knickels" threads that appear on here from time to time... many adults do not have respect for normal bounderies |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I don't even go into my teenage son's room. It's his space and I respect his right to privacy. "
As it happens, I never went into my teenage sons room either, it was mostly tidy enough. My teenage daughter however we argued constantly as her room stank the house out, and I had to do raids every now and then to recover crockery and cutlery when the kitchen was empty... I was glad when she moved out to be honest, love her to bits but she was an awful teenager. |
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"My mum let herself in to my house when I was at work. She decided to clean house which was very sweet. She found lube under my bed. Condom packet on table which I found in a party bag and gave my son the cock sweets I had been given for my birthday. I quickly took them off him and threw them out lol. Suffice to say my house is now well checked before she arrives now.
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How old is your son?
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"Tell her to piss right off and keep her nosey beak out of what doesn't concern her - simple, job done !
...do people actually allow their adult children to talk to them like that in their own homes?!!
I think the word adult hits the nail on the head here. The OP is an adult and her privacy should be respected,regardless of who owns the house or is the tenant. If I had guests I wouldn't walk into their room and go through their personal items,I certainly wouldn't do it to one of my adult children. "
Indeed, adults should be living in their own homes, paying their own bills not living with their parents: can't have it both ways.
I respected my children's privacy and they knew better than trying to lay down any kind of rules/demands in my house they were living in for free whilst working. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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I myself live with parents and have said problem. I find my way around it is that I hide all sexual stuff in my bags. All are stored away in boxes. My parents only go in my room if they wish to borrow a tool (my bedroom is also a workshop for my job, so I have hammers and power tools stored away). If you hide it in places they won't look, it'll be fine  |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"it's not normal really, no. but if she's worried about you i'd say fair enough but i still wouldn't let any adult root through my shit.
Im out all time and go out most nights if im not working i go regularly to a number buddies place for a weekend x
iv got a safe in my room for valuable items x"
Put your toys n condoms in your safe then....! Simple enough.
You live in her house, so technically it is her room....! |
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You live in her house, so technically it is her room....!"
That's my point. Whilst I respect my children's privacy, and wouldn't dream of snooping around "their" room, it's a room I allow them to live in for free, so the thought of them telling me to piss off in a house I've worked to pay for...they're not duppy conquerors! |
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I go into my kids rooms to retrieve dishes and washing and to open the windows etc. I don't look at or for anything else. Whilst my son was away recently though, he gave us permission to redecorate his room .... with a floor plan drawn out as to what he wanted. This meant I went through all of his papers and clothes, but to be honest, apart from organising it and dumping all his old exam stuff, I want particularly interested in anything. He's just 18 and I trust him to make his own decisions or talk to one of us if he needs any help. My 14 year old has condoms in her room because they were given them at school ..... mad but true. |
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