I am the male half of a friend's with benefits couple, we started chatting to a couple a while ago with the possibility of meeting. Then last weekend the chatting stopped. I found out on Thursday this week that my friend and the couple have been chatting somewhere else and are now planning a threesome.
My friend is free to meet on her own, should I feel annoyed they totally excluded me or am I being petty? |
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"I am the male half of a friend's with benefits couple, we started chatting to a couple a while ago with the possibility of meeting. Then last weekend the chatting stopped. I found out on Thursday this week that my friend and the couple have been chatting somewhere else and are now planning a threesome.
My friend is free to meet on her own, should I feel annoyed they totally excluded me or am I being petty?"
Wouldnt say you were being petty - but she is free to do as she wishes . |
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over a year ago
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Have you told her how you feel, she might not realise it's upset you.
But at the end of the day, you are both free agents and obviously meet for sex now and then.
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In my humble opinion, it is more about etiquette and respect. She is entitled to do as she pleases and so are you...but if the two of you had an 'arrangement' and she suddenly ceases contact then she could surely just say?
I just think that's good manners. Nothing more.
Aren't fuck buddies also supposed to be friends and be courteous to eachother?
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I was in a similar situation recently. A male friend and I were arranging to meet a couple. We couldn't coordinate timings for all 4 of us but the couple suggested meeting just me. I chatted with my friend before I accepted. He was fine about it, but I simply thought it was good manners to discuss it. |
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After a lot of probing and questions she finally admitted they were chatting then more questions she came clean about the threesome. I don't mind her meeting them for the threesome, I'm just not happy about not being kept in the loop |
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"After a lot of probing and questions she finally admitted they were chatting then more questions she came clean about the threesome. I don't mind her meeting them for the threesome, I'm just not happy about not being kept in the loop"
Now being honest if the shoe was on the other foot would you keep her in the loop food for thought .  |
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"After a lot of probing and questions she finally admitted they were chatting then more questions she came clean about the threesome. I don't mind her meeting them for the threesome, I'm just not happy about not being kept in the loop"
I suppose it depends on your relationship but why did you feel that you needed to do a lot of probing and questioning? Are you both interpreting the conditions of your relationship in the same way? |
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over a year ago
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Are you sure it's just Fuck buddies between you and her?
You might not realise it but actually have feelings for her and the green eyed monster has just been a little rattled...
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over a year ago
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if she is only a fuck buddy then I would guess it has nothing to do with you as there no relationship ? just sex she is free to do as please as are you ?? ..well that's my take on it maybe im wrong .. and another good reason to why we don't meet fuck buddys  |
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"After a lot of probing and questions she finally admitted they were chatting then more questions she came clean about the threesome. I don't mind her meeting them for the threesome, I'm just not happy about not being kept in the loop
Now being honest if the shoe was on the other foot would you keep her in the loop food for thought . "
I would. It's a question of manners and there seems to have been a lack of manners here. Communication is everything in the fab world. |
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Nah bang out of order...
The couple knew they were messaging two people and couldn't be bothered to just be honest about not wanting you.Your FB should have discussed with you.
What's the point in lying? Your not a couple and she's not cheating on you?
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It's natural to feel peeved but there again....it doesn't really matter, does it? You'll see her again, there will be more opportunities....don't worry about it - the emotional intelligence to deal with situations like this is all part of swinging. |
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"Had a chat with Mrs last night and she sees my point of view, don't know what's happening with the couple they haven't been in touch
I'm very confused  . When you say Mrs what do you mean?"
It's what she has called herself on our profile, sorry for the confusion |
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"Had a chat with Mrs last night and she sees my point of view, don't know what's happening with the couple they haven't been in touch
I'm very confused . When you say Mrs what do you mean?
It's what she has called herself on our profile, sorry for the confusion"
Oh right  sorry I didn't look at your profile. |
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I think if you identify as a couple then you should be treated as such. Especially when the contact was made as a couple. You may only be fbs but you are on here as a couple and treated as such. Your partner should have told you from the beginning. |
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