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Newbie cpl - are we too vanilla?
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Hey guys
So were a relatively new cpl to 'the scene', ONLY looking for cpls for girl on girl and then same room, own partner.
Have found alot of time wasters and people who tow the line until they get bored and want to see "just one little naughty pic - oh go on please. we wont show anyone".
We are absolutely honest with what we are looking for and do have our own 'singles' profiles on here as we occasionally play alone too but keep them totally seperate.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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As with any other mismatched society, some will judge you, some will look down on you, some will berate you, some will love you and some will be your friends.
The thing to remember is that whatever you want, is right for you and don't let others affect you because they see things differently.
There's nothing wrong with "just" wanting "x" or "y". There's nothing wrong with not having 187 verifications and being willing to fuck anything with a pulse.
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By *ruitWoman
over a year ago
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Welcome to the site.
Great to hear you have seperate profiles for single play too for you both.
I would say remember that.some people will try to just perv your private pics and.not think about meeting. Do your homework before meeting someone and listen to to your gut feeling.
Always ask for a face pic with initial mail and if your mailing people then.include one too as looks and personality are important to most people.
Only send a naughty pic if you feel its right but remember some people.only want your friend invite just to wank over. Others will look with a view to meet.
Wishing you all the best.
Get to some socials.too.x |
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Everyone on here has their own wants, needs and rules. You have to make sure that you let people know what yours are and dont let people push you into anything.
We wouldnt meet a couple or single girl for just girl on girl play and this is stated very clearly in our profile text. You'd be surprised how many people still approach us for this though. If people are asking you for something you aren't prepared to do then just say no. It's their problem, not yours!!
As already said, be aware that there are many people on here who are not who they say they are and others who just want to add your pics to their wank bank.
Have fun xx |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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As some have said, you need to do what you want and only that. Having said that, If say you only wanted a couple to come and watch you two play with nothing else (nothing wrong with that), you might not find too many people that want the same.
So you then have to decide if what you want is what others would want as well. If not either don't bother or change what you want. Fact of life.
Nothing wrong with what you want but perhaps its not what others want. We for example would not bother contacting you for a bit of girl on girl then play with own partner, its not our thing.
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By *ugby 123Couple
over a year ago
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"Be honest about what you are looking for and stick to your guns.... never do something you don't really want to just to keep someone else happy."
* nods *
I don't think you are too vanilla, there are lots of couples who do soft swap.
Welcome btw  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Hey guys
So were a relatively new cpl to 'the scene', ONLY looking for cpls for girl on girl and then same room, own partner.
Have found alot of time wasters and people who tow the line until they get bored and want to see "just one little naughty pic - oh go on please. we wont show anyone".
We are absolutely honest with what we are looking for and do have our own 'singles' profiles on here as we occasionally play alone too but keep them totally seperate.
Any advice? "
Told you you might find some help in here! Try introductions too, a lot of couples take it a little softer to begin with so you may find others after similar things. Xx |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"It's sounds like to me you can look but can't touch maybe they are to vanilla to be here but that's my opinion"
The beauty of this site is, there's someone for everyone and whatever you're into there will be someone looking for the same. It doesn't have to be all chandelier swinging to be fun  |
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By *obletonMan
over a year ago
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Yes - absolutely too vanilla - I insist that you come and shag me, my sister and my mates pet Jack Russel immediately before you can dare to show your face or call yourselves swingers.
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Hey guys
So were a relatively new cpl to 'the scene', ONLY looking for cpls for girl on girl and then same room, own partner.
Have found alot of time wasters and people who tow the line until they get bored and want to see "just one little naughty pic - oh go on please. we wont show anyone".
We are absolutely honest with what we are looking for and do have our own 'singles' profiles on here as we occasionally play alone too but keep them totally seperate.
Any advice?
Told you you might find some help in here! Try introductions too, a lot of couples take it a little softer to begin with so you may find others after similar things. Xx"
Haha yes you did - cheers coach :P
I think some people have misunderstood our dilemma. We have no problem with people who openly arnt into what we are - each to their own. Our question is much more - whats the quickest way to find out if someone is genuinely who they say they are or not? That includes "verified" cpls and non. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Yes - absolutely too vanilla - I insist that you come and shag me, my sister and my mates pet Jack Russel immediately before you can dare to show your face or call yourselves swingers.
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Top banter - if you would have said a doberman pincher then we would have been there - they get us all moist as hell  |
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I think some people have misunderstood our dilemma. We have no problem with people who openly arnt into what we are - each to their own. Our question is much more - whats the quickest way to find out if someone is genuinely who they say they are or not? That includes "verified" cpls and non."
That'll come with experience, in the meantime you'll just need to follow your instincts. If you don't want to share any revealing pictures then don't (it's that simple).
If they press for one then they're probably even more pushy in person in which case I'd suggest you walk away at that point. |
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There is no such thing as too vanilla or too hardened,just people doing what excites them and makes them hot and horny.
As far as determining who is or isnt going to meet you .(i refuse to use the term genuine)It really is no different to any other aspect of life.Use your knowledge and judgement of people and trust your instincts. |
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Top banter - if you would have said a doberman pincher then we would have been there - they get us all moist as hell "
I thought as much - but everyone feels the same way so there's a waiting list for the doberman, so in the meantime you'll just have to settle for the Jack Russel |
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By *obletonMan
over a year ago
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Top banter - if you would have said a doberman pincher then we would have been there - they get us all moist as hell "
grrr wrong profile...
I thought as much - but everyone feels the same way so there's a waiting list for the doberman, so in the meantime you'll just have to settle for the Jack Russel |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Hey guys
So were a relatively new cpl to 'the scene', ONLY looking for cpls for girl on girl and then same room, own partner.
Have found alot of time wasters and people who tow the line until they get bored and want to see "just one little naughty pic - oh go on please. we wont show anyone".
We are absolutely honest with what we are looking for and do have our own 'singles' profiles on here as we occasionally play alone too but keep them totally seperate.
Any advice? "
If you sometimes play alone then why does it have to be same room own partner? Soft swap does nowt for us so we would not meet under these conditions. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"Hey guys
So were a relatively new cpl to 'the scene', ONLY looking for cpls for girl on girl and then same room, own partner.
Have found alot of time wasters and people who tow the line until they get bored and want to see "just one little naughty pic - oh go on please. we wont show anyone".
We are absolutely honest with what we are looking for and do have our own 'singles' profiles on here as we occasionally play alone too but keep them totally seperate.
Any advice?
If you sometimes play alone then why does it have to be same room own partner? Soft swap does nowt for us so we would not meet under these conditions. "
Well you see the great thing about swinging and life in general that you seem not to get is that you are allowed to make your own choices and do not have to clarify the reasons why or wherefore you choose to make those choices to narrow minded individuals. Many thanks for your input though. |
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Guys.Timewasters go with the territory.A Pox on them all.As for your needs being too vanilla?(read- lightweight or bland.)So what? Your needs are YOUR needs at this point in time.If those needs NEVER alter from now until your last day on here as a member.So what?Stick to your guns. You'll find someone with the same interests eventually.As for pics?Only you two know the consequences if any should fall into the wrong hands.Take the view looking backwards from being in your Boss's office, or being confronted with them by the kids or your Mother.What would you have done differently.The pics have the potential to travel the world. If you don't give a fuck who see's them or what other Members do with them? Then snap and post away.Be Lucky,be Horny be Happy. Dennis |
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