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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Right before it sounds daft , but if you were in a ffm threesome , during penetration , you were to swap between both of the women there would it be expected to change into a fresh condom . I know this may sound daft but it is one that puzzles us , common sense says yes but if you were to change partner many times during the fun , you would have one hell of a heap of used condoms !
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Did you know that chlamydia can be passed on by fingers when there is no penetration? Ie pussy to finger to another pussy. So the same applies to a covered penis. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Right before it sounds daft , but if you were in a ffm threesome , during penetration , you were to swap between both of the women there would it be expected to change into a fresh condom . I know this may sound daft but it is one that puzzles us , common sense says yes but if you were to change partner many times during the fun , you would have one hell of a heap of used condoms !
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Yes but it is a pain in the arse so understand the root of the question |
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"YES! - This is why swingers buy those big 20 packs."
Absolutely change each time but rather than buying Id prefer to play in clubs who provide free condoms or visit the local GUM n bring out pack n packs  |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Thankyou for your help and friendly advice guys and girls . We are not concerned regarding ourselves as have been together 15 years and know we are clean , but was more about the protection of all parties . May have to invest heavily lol . We have yet to experience a threesome but don't want to start it off on a bad note !
Once again , thankyou for your help
M & S , no , not the shop lol xx |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Right before it sounds daft , but if you were in a ffm threesome , during penetration , you were to swap between both of the women there would it be expected to change into a fresh condom . I know this may sound daft but it is one that puzzles us , common sense says yes but if you were to change partner many times during the fun , you would have one hell of a heap of used condoms !
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Yes.
Women can infect other women.
Suck it up - buy condoms when they're on sale. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Right before it sounds daft , but if you were in a ffm threesome , during penetration , you were to swap between both of the women there would it be expected to change into a fresh condom . I know this may sound daft but it is one that puzzles us , common sense says yes but if you were to change partner many times during the fun , you would have one hell of a heap of used condoms !
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Troble is, unless you are extremely carefully with fingers and mouths ie in a ffm if a woman goes down on the other and then give a bj or vice versa then pretty much any infection has been transferred, so realistically a condom acts as a birth control.
Any sexual act involving more then one becomes near impossible to stop and transfer,that said a comdom is definitely recommend |
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"Troble is, unless you are extremely carefully with fingers and mouths ie in a ffm if a woman goes down on the other and then give a bj or vice versa then pretty much any infection has been transferred, so realistically a condom acts as a birth control.
Any sexual act involving more then one becomes near impossible to stop and transfer,that said a comdom is definitely recommend"
Also diseases are far less likely to be transmitted orally than they are by genital contact.
Otherwise a very large percentage of swingers would be infected in some way with an STD... which I'd like to think isn't the case unless the majority of swingers continue whilst infected. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Yup, Change between each lady if you are using condoms with both, i do the same with my toys, i put condoms on them before using them on someone else, and i always keep wipes on hand to wipe them down and my hands too to avoid spreading things, it has never caused a problem before with anyone we have been with. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Troble is, unless you are extremely carefully with fingers and mouths ie in a ffm if a woman goes down on the other and then give a bj or vice versa then pretty much any infection has been transferred, so realistically a condom acts as a birth control.
Any sexual act involving more then one becomes near impossible to stop and transfer,that said a comdom is definitely recommend"
That's ok - you have my permission to be careful. |
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"Wouldn't changing a condom each time put a bit of a dampener on the things ?"
Not changing is just selfish on the mans part though. If one of the ladies has something, the guy is protected but would then pass it on to the other lady if he didn't change the condom.
As for dampening things, I'm sure the ladies can think of something to do whilst he's putting on a new one! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Any local GU clinic will give you as many as you want free. "
that's not actually true and most have stopped giving out latex free ones ..
They will give you more if your a swinger but only about 40 |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Wouldn't changing a condom each time put a bit of a dampener on the things ?"
it does but unfortunately its one of those things you just have to live with.
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By *litterbabeWoman
over a year ago
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"Wouldn't changing a condom each time put a bit of a dampener on the things ?
Not changing is just selfish on the mans part though. If one of the ladies has something, the guy is protected but would then pass it on to the other lady if he didn't change the condom.
As for dampening things, I'm sure the ladies can think of something to do whilst he's putting on a new one!"
Its a massive dampener if someone is being selfish, or you are having to call a stop to play to instigate protection safety, or you are worrying about speaking up or getting a std.
Much more fun if the necessary precautions are all naturally put in place without embarrassment.
Changing a condom can be as smoothly done and should be, just as much as gloving up at the start.... |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"At the start of play put on 30 condoms, then take one off every time you change partners...  "
Awesome idea! or have four guys in crash helmets and fire retardant kit at the ready to whip the old rubber off and replace with new!
Christ if they can change 4 wheels in 2.2 seconds with that level of back up you'll barely miss a stroke  |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"At the start of play put on 30 condoms, then take one off every time you change partners...
Awesome idea! or have four guys in crash helmets and fire retardant kit at the ready to whip the old rubber off and replace with new!
Christ if they can change 4 wheels in 2.2 seconds with that level of back up you'll barely miss a stroke "
Thanks for the chuckle now have visions of two men waiting to take the old one off and two to put the new one on plus you need an extra man for the stop/go board ..... |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Try to look on gloving up as part of the fun. Personally I see condoms as a badge of honour and love to see them littered around after a session.
Love the idea that they have been filled with lusty fluids. They are a sign that respectful sex has taken place and every one as best as possible has been kept safe and sound. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"At the start of play put on 30 condoms, then take one off every time you change partners...
Awesome idea! or have four guys in crash helmets and fire retardant kit at the ready to whip the old rubber off and replace with new!
Christ if they can change 4 wheels in 2.2 seconds with that level of back up you'll barely miss a stroke
Thanks for the chuckle now have visions of two men waiting to take the old one off and two to put the new one on plus you need an extra man for the stop/go board ..... "
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"When enjoying FFM threesomes I always change condoms between ladies....I even use condoms if one of the ladies is my wife."
I really like couples that do this. With both my partners I always play safe in threesomes, even if we'd sometimes play bare between ourselves. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Just to add a side note , it was never about the cost of the condoms or any such , more about the practically as a few had pointed out of when in the throes of passion , and keeping everything "clean" .
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Just to add a side note , it was never about the cost of the condoms or any such , more about the practically as a few had pointed out of when in the throes of passion , and keeping everything "clean" .
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Have you considered practicing putting condoms on? I can get them on and off of a man in a few second flat - and I don't even have a penis! |
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"When enjoying FFM threesomes I always change condoms between ladies....I even use condoms if one of the ladies is my wife.
I really like couples that do this. With both my partners I always play safe in threesomes, even if we'd sometimes play bare between ourselves."
With you 100%. The only person I play bare with is my wife, but even at a club we use condoms in case one or both of us later wants to play with someone else.
What if I had been inside my wife bare, and then put on a condom for the lady lying beside her....and the condom broke or fell off?
Safer in any kind of threesome or group situation to use condoms all around.
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As much as the "right thing" is to change condoms...
Do you wash your hands?
Do you wash your tongue?
In an FFM threesome I doubt that a condom'd cock is the only vector for an STI...
So... Where practicable, sure.
But in a back n forth, back n forth?
That's going to be a mood killer.
I would guess!
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I was in a greedy girl situation and one guy took off his condom and passed it to another bloke who happily put it in. Put me right off!
Guys and gals, don't forget to get tested regularly as well, including throat swabs. If they don't offer (which they should), then ASK.
Stay safer peeps |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I was in a greedy girl situation and one guy took off his condom and passed it to another bloke who happily put it in. Put me right off!
Guys and gals, don't forget to get tested regularly as well, including throat swabs. If they don't offer (which they should), then ASK.
Stay safer peeps"
*put it on |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"As much as the "right thing" is to change condoms...
Do you wash your hands?
Do you wash your tongue?
In an FFM threesome I doubt that a condom'd cock is the only vector for an STI...
So... Where practicable, sure.
But in a back n forth, back n forth?
That's going to be a mood killer.
I would guess!
Flames"
Some activities have more risk than others. Different people have different risk levels that they're comfortable with.
Not everyone is compatible with each other - and that's ok too. You and I obviously wouldn't be compatible for group sex, but it's not a problem because there's plenty more options on sites like this. |
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Some activities have more risk than others. Different people have different risk levels that they're comfortable with.
Not everyone is compatible with each other - and that's ok too. You and I obviously wouldn't be compatible for group sex, but it's not a problem because there's plenty more options on sites like this."
Curious re the random one of "not compatible"? (Because I am a guy? Ginger? 6ft5? Bi? lol)
But anyway...
Of the STI's that I am aware of, I can't think of any that would be avoided through swapping condoms and yet not washing hands / mouth.
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By (user no longer on site)
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Some activities have more risk than others. Different people have different risk levels that they're comfortable with.
Not everyone is compatible with each other - and that's ok too. You and I obviously wouldn't be compatible for group sex, but it's not a problem because there's plenty more options on sites like this.
Curious re the random one of "not compatible"? (Because I am a guy? Ginger? 6ft5? Bi? lol)
But anyway...
Of the STI's that I am aware of, I can't think of any that would be avoided through swapping condoms and yet not washing hands / mouth.
Flames"
It's funny - because my 'type' are tall, ginger, bisexual guys.
But we're not compatible because you have a different acceptable risk level to myself. I would insist on you swapping condoms between myself and another female bodied person, whereas you don't give the impression that's something you think is worthwhile. |
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It's funny - because my 'type' are tall, ginger, bisexual guys.
But we're not compatible because you have a different acceptable risk level to myself. I would insist on you swapping condoms between myself and another female bodied person, whereas you don't give the impression that's something you think is worthwhile."
I was merely being the "devils advocate" in terms of a condomed penis isn't the only STI vector.
And to assume that would be STI-dangerous.
IMHO.
But I'm as risk averse as the next person who values my sexual & normal health 
As much as one can be "safer" there are always risks...
But I've never been in an ffm, however,
I've been in scenarios where there's been "condom confetti" (and that's fine, I do do the new condom thing), but I am not foolish to think that I was safe. It merely stopped my penis receiving or transmitting anything...
Other body parts carry virus's too
But indeed, who uses condoms, dental dams and hand alcohol lotion and listerine between every single different partner at a sex party?
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By (user no longer on site)
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But indeed, who uses condoms, dental dams and hand alcohol lotion and listerine between every single different partner at a sex party?
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Different things have different risk levels.
Personally I don't usually put my hands inside a womans vagina (because actually - most women don't really get anything out of that). I use barrier protection for oral, vaginal, and anal sex with men. I use barrier protection on toys with women. I would likely not go down on a woman if I didn't know her well, because I prefer to use barrier protection then too. I always keep latex gloves and condoms in my 'sex kit' - enough to cover a decent sized group sex session...
Some of us do prefer to use protection in those ways. And honestly, it's still great sex. But it's not to everyones taste. |
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"But it's not to everyones taste."
Yeah... Condoms, not a great taste LOL.
And dental dams can be... faffy...
But different strokes for different folks
And indeed, always the judgement call of risk vs reward!
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By (user no longer on site)
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"But it's not to everyones taste.
Yeah... Condoms, not a great taste LOL.
And dental dams can be... faffy...
But different strokes for different folks
And indeed, always the judgement call of risk vs reward!
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*Shrugs*
Caring about your partners health and wishes *is* sexy. That's a turn on to me. |
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By *lovisMan
over a year ago
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"Just put 15 on at the beginning of your session. Then all you need to do is keep taking them off! Benefits include size and staying power !  "
Or put a fresh one on top each time you change partners - by the end of the evening you'll have a massively thick cock - most ladies are appreciative of some girth. |
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When I take any toys to a club/party I also take lots of condoms just in case more than one person wants to use a toy. I would also wash it if practacal between partners.
I don't use dental dams when giving oral to ladies but I do wash my face and use mouthwash between partners. The only time I did not was when the two ladies were my wife and a close friend.
I cars about my own safety, the safety of the people I love and of the people I play with. |
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"As much as the "right thing" is to change condoms...
Do you wash your hands?
Do you wash your tongue?
In an FFM threesome I doubt that a condom'd cock is the only vector for an STI...
So... Where practicable, sure.
But in a back n forth, back n forth?
That's going to be a mood killer.
I would guess!
Flames"
The cock is not the only vector for STI transmission but it is the most likely, and easiest to make safer.
A head injury is not the only risk involved in riding a motirbike but it's the most serious and one if the most common...and easily made less dangerous with a helmet. Would you refuse a helmet because there are other risks (eg leg injury) ? |
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By *arry247Couple
over a year ago
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It is time people calmed down a little about catch STIs it is not as easy as some make out.
I am not saying we can forget about taking precautions but some seem to be paranoid about catching a STI.
Think about it in the same way as pregnancy.
It is very possible for a woman to become pregnant the first time she has unprotected intercourse but in the real world that does not mean that she will.
It is perfectly possible that she could have intercourse for a number of years before falling pregnant (as many married couples have discovered).
That is where the problem is pregnancy could occur at the first attempt or the 500th attempt, there is no certainty.
In a similar way people can engage in various forms of sex for years without catching a STI or they could catch a STI with the very first sex act, from simple kissing to anal intercourse and everything in between.
The only safe practice is to avoid sex everything else involves risks.
It is up to you make yourself aware of what risks are involved and then decide what level of risk you are comfortable with.
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"Just play bareback, much easier and more fun ohhh were with you guys on this one ....
So confused to why you want to risk a STi"
I'm confused to if your that worried about std's why swing just insert a length of rubber inside or for guys have a wank into a plastic bag would be way more fun than swinging in a raincoat |
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"Just play bareback, much easier and more fun ohhh were with you guys on this one ....
So confused to why you want to risk a STiI'm confused to if your that worried about std's why swing just insert a length of rubber inside or for guys have a wank into a plastic bag would be way more fun than swinging in a raincoat"
When your covered in warts and your penis is dripping then happy days for you! Idiotic response |
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"Just play bareback, much easier and more fun ohhh were with you guys on this one ....
So confused to why you want to risk a STiI'm confused to if your that worried about std's why swing just insert a length of rubber inside or for guys have a wank into a plastic bag would be way more fun than swinging in a raincoat"
Plus I don't worry thanks I am SENSIBLE and use protection to minimise the risk! |
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"Just play bareback, much easier and more fun ohhh were with you guys on this one ....
So confused to why you want to risk a STiI'm confused to if your that worried about std's why swing just insert a length of rubber inside or for guys have a wank into a plastic bag would be way more fun than swinging in a raincoat
Plus I don't worry thanks I am SENSIBLE and use protection to minimise the risk! "
that's in your opinion ..the use of condoms dams alcoholic hand wash ect during play with multiple partners at a party venue takes all the pleasure out of swinging..the passion has gone if you're washing hands between partners during foreplay ..still each to there own ... |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"..the use of condoms dams alcoholic hand wash ect during play with multiple partners at a party venue takes all the pleasure out of swinging..the passion has gone if you're washing hands between partners during foreplay ..still each to there own ..."
Yes exactly - each to their own.
I find it sexy to take care of my partner's health as well as my own. Actually a turn on. It feels good to take precautions against disease transmission. I prefer the feel of sex with condoms too.
Everyone is different and enjoys different things. You aren't compatible with someone who prefers condoms - but to say that using protection takes the pleasure out of swinging and imply that's true for everyone is simply incorrect. |
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"..the use of condoms dams alcoholic hand wash ect during play with multiple partners at a party venue takes all the pleasure out of swinging..the passion has gone if you're washing hands between partners during foreplay ..still each to there own ...
Yes exactly - each to their own.
I find it sexy to take care of my partner's health as well as my own. Actually a turn on. It feels good to take precautions against disease transmission. I prefer the feel of sex with condoms too.
Everyone is different and enjoys different things. You aren't compatible with someone who prefers condoms - but to say that using protection takes the pleasure out of swinging and imply that's true for everyone is simply incorrect."
I never implied it took the pleasure away for everyone ..you read it that way ..if stoping play every few minutes to wash hands or swap condoms or wash your face after oral does it for you fair play ..we just find it a passion killer ..there are probably more swingers on here with your preferences than ours these days ..which is why we play the 20 question game before we ever get to asking someone for a meet .. |
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"Its simple ..... Wear two when fucking the first one then whip one off and uncover the second to fuck the other then whip that off to give them both a facial  "
sorry facials can also spread disease..not safe at all spreading cum around . |
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"Its simple ..... Wear two when fucking the first one then whip one off and uncover the second to fuck the other then whip that off to give them both a facial sorry facials can also spread disease..not safe at all spreading cum around ."
Ok let it flow the wipe on the curtains |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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As party hosts, we used to buy a lot of condoms....google freedom shop condoms....it lets you buy directly from an NHS supplier, free delivery, various pack sizes (up to 144) and sometimes has very good special offers |
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