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Advice for a mature 35yr old single male please
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Right off the bat, I have led this sort of life before, but briefly and not as a single male.
So I'm getting the usual single guy thing from what I can tell.. But I get some replies at least, which is nice.
I'm not desperate to meet, but I'm starting to hope it'll happen soon - I know I'm young enough and confident enough to go down a meat market and pull somebody intoxicated enough for a d*unken fumble.. But I want exciting sex! Also like loads of people seem to put "One year, no veri's, no meet". That's harsh! Surely that encourages profile swapping? I may be a sex guru brought to Earth to give the world an orgasm, but MISSION FAIL cos none of you fuckers gave me a "Veri".
So I am aware I'm not gym fit (working on it!), I'm aware I'm naturally hairy (keeping nice and trim, but got shaving rash in a new place recently OUCH! But feeling nicer for the effort). And I'm aware I'm short - hmmm.. (We're the same height when we lay down???)
But I've got a sense of humour, I'm patient, I don't think I'm a complete swamp thing to look at and I'm confident enough to walk into a Swingers Club on my own and attempt to make friends and at least have a laugh with someone.
So.. That's my longer plan if my charm and good looks fail me in the shorter term. Is the fact I'm absolutely up for anything off putting? I draw the line at somethings, mostly on hygienic grounds. But age isn't overly important to me as I've met mature young people and immature older people and liked most of them and could find something attractive in them to. With the right person or setting I can find a mind as attractive as a body, vica verca or something inbetween.
I want to meet couples as I'd like to try group sex - Safety is paramount as I've seen some horrendous pictures and specimens of venereal diseases in my time in the Force. Physical safety too - I don't want to meet two six foot male gorillas ready to pinch my wallet - when I thought I was meeting a 5ft blonde yummy mummy. Whom I definitely also want to meet, preferably someone finding all this new too, not someone to get "Close" Too, or even someone to actually have sex with - someone to go to a club with as a friend - A) So I don't have to pay the extortionate single male price (which I totally get btw) and B) Incase one of you perverts out there wants to ride me with a strap on when I haven't had enough wine - I'll have someone to run back to for moral support.. Which seriously, it is intimidating walking into a sex club alone - or as a new couple I guess.
Any advice people? should I add more stuff to my profile? Describe deepest fantasies, say everything I'm looking for, no cock shot as a profile, hidden fails in my photos (seen one where someone left a poo in the toilet!).
I look forward to the hail of abuse, piss taking, insults and the occasional helpful critic.
May fortuitous fornication grace you all...
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By *oxy_minxWoman
over a year ago
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Your profile doesn't actually say anything! And the usual one photo pic as most men have - It's your cock.....BIG Deal, we know what one looks like.
Most females read the profile first before they bother with a message, your profile wouldn't even tempt me to open your message. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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More pics - non cock related and something about you in your profile. I personally dislike cock pic avatars - but I know some like them.
You're new and not verified so it might take some patience to get a meet. Try getting to an organised social near you.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Right off the bat, I have led this sort of life before, but briefly and not as a single male.
So I'm getting the usual single guy thing from what I can tell.. But I get some replies at least, which is nice.
I'm not desperate to meet, but I'm starting to hope it'll happen soon - I know I'm young enough and confident enough to go down a meat market and pull somebody intoxicated enough for a d*unken fumble.. But I want exciting sex! Also like loads of people seem to put "One year, no veri's, no meet". That's harsh! Surely that encourages profile swapping? I may be a sex guru brought to Earth to give the world an orgasm, but MISSION FAIL cos none of you fuckers gave me a "Veri".
So I am aware I'm not gym fit (working on it!), I'm aware I'm naturally hairy (keeping nice and trim, but got shaving rash in a new place recently OUCH! But feeling nicer for the effort). And I'm aware I'm short - hmmm.. (We're the same height when we lay down???)
But I've got a sense of humour, I'm patient, I don't think I'm a complete swamp thing to look at and I'm confident enough to walk into a Swingers Club on my own and attempt to make friends and at least have a laugh with someone.
So.. That's my longer plan if my charm and good looks fail me in the shorter term. Is the fact I'm absolutely up for anything off putting? I draw the line at somethings, mostly on hygienic grounds. But age isn't overly important to me as I've met mature young people and immature older people and liked most of them and could find something attractive in them to. With the right person or setting I can find a mind as attractive as a body, vica verca or something inbetween.
I want to meet couples as I'd like to try group sex - Safety is paramount as I've seen some horrendous pictures and specimens of venereal diseases in my time in the Force. Physical safety too - I don't want to meet two six foot male gorillas ready to pinch my wallet - when I thought I was meeting a 5ft blonde yummy mummy. Whom I definitely also want to meet, preferably someone finding all this new too, not someone to get "Close" Too, or even someone to actually have sex with - someone to go to a club with as a friend - A) So I don't have to pay the extortionate single male price (which I totally get btw) and B) Incase one of you perverts out there wants to ride me with a strap on when I haven't had enough wine - I'll have someone to run back to for moral support.. Which seriously, it is intimidating walking into a sex club alone - or as a new couple I guess.
Any advice people? should I add more stuff to my profile? Describe deepest fantasies, say everything I'm looking for, no cock shot as a profile, hidden fails in my photos (seen one where someone left a poo in the toilet!).
I look forward to the hail of abuse, piss taking, insults and the occasional helpful critic.
May fortuitous fornication grace you all...
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put as much effort into your profile as you did into your post |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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More of me? For a profile pic, like a body shot as a profile? Face and unmentionables when asked? Personally I'd prefer my face private until I choose to display it. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Right off the bat, I have led this sort of life before, but briefly and not as a single male.
So I'm getting the usual single guy thing from what I can tell.. But I get some replies at least, which is nice.
I'm not desperate to meet, but I'm starting to hope it'll happen soon - I know I'm young enough and confident enough to go down a meat market and pull somebody intoxicated enough for a d*unken fumble.. But I want exciting sex! Also like loads of people seem to put "One year, no veri's, no meet". That's harsh! Surely that encourages profile swapping? I may be a sex guru brought to Earth to give the world an orgasm, but MISSION FAIL cos none of you fuckers gave me a "Veri".
So I am aware I'm not gym fit (working on it!), I'm aware I'm naturally hairy (keeping nice and trim, but got shaving rash in a new place recently OUCH! But feeling nicer for the effort). And I'm aware I'm short - hmmm.. (We're the same height when we lay down???)
But I've got a sense of humour, I'm patient, I don't think I'm a complete swamp thing to look at and I'm confident enough to walk into a Swingers Club on my own and attempt to make friends and at least have a laugh with someone.
So.. That's my longer plan if my charm and good looks fail me in the shorter term. Is the fact I'm absolutely up for anything off putting? I draw the line at somethings, mostly on hygienic grounds. But age isn't overly important to me as I've met mature young people and immature older people and liked most of them and could find something attractive in them to. With the right person or setting I can find a mind as attractive as a body, vica verca or something inbetween.
I want to meet couples as I'd like to try group sex - Safety is paramount as I've seen some horrendous pictures and specimens of venereal diseases in my time in the Force. Physical safety too - I don't want to meet two six foot male gorillas ready to pinch my wallet - when I thought I was meeting a 5ft blonde yummy mummy. Whom I definitely also want to meet, preferably someone finding all this new too, not someone to get "Close" Too, or even someone to actually have sex with - someone to go to a club with as a friend - A) So I don't have to pay the extortionate single male price (which I totally get btw) and B) Incase one of you perverts out there wants to ride me with a strap on when I haven't had enough wine - I'll have someone to run back to for moral support.. Which seriously, it is intimidating walking into a sex club alone - or as a new couple I guess.
Any advice people? should I add more stuff to my profile? Describe deepest fantasies, say everything I'm looking for, no cock shot as a profile, hidden fails in my photos (seen one where someone left a poo in the toilet!).
I look forward to the hail of abuse, piss taking, insults and the occasional helpful critic.
May fortuitous fornication grace you all...
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I think if you can put this much effort into a forum post but not your profile you need a rethink  |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Ok.. Got the cock shot advice, I,lol change it to a body pic (fucking gym!) Sooo someone said my info wouldn't even tempt them.. What sort of info tempts then? Not asking what to put, just point me in right direction |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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OP, your post shows that you do have verbal skills (though a spell check might be in order). You should use those skills to construct a profile. At the moment, your profile is next to non-existent. |
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By *oxy_minxWoman
over a year ago
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"Really? More info - I didn't want to waffle on it though"
You could be bothered to right a whole spiel of a forum thread - yet your questioning about writing a decent profile? Good luck with that then!
And as usual another 'help me' thread was just a waste of time  |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Ok.. Got the cock shot advice, I,lol change it to a body pic (fucking gym!) Sooo someone said my info wouldn't even tempt them.. What sort of info tempts then? Not asking what to put, just point me in right direction"
At the moment, all you say is you like sex and everyone else likes sex.
Well, yes, but why would others want sex with you? Put yourself in a lady's shoes (painful, I know). Which profile out of the 1,000's is going to attract her? One with wit and personality ... or someone who seems to want a hole? |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Put myself in a woman's shoes??!!" Oh god I'm doomed!!
I had loads of info before, but I chose to keep it to a minimum as most "Succesful" single males profiles I've seen, hardly say anything at all. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Vice verca? Was that it? What did I misspell?
Yes I got that the profile needs more info - I'm trying to clarify what kind of info now. "
The +quote option enables us to follow the thread. Otherwise, we have no idea to whom you are replying. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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It's not a waste of time! I'm not a waste of time! I'm listening and taking note, my profile will change after reading some of this, so it's not wasted at all.
I'll still have written it, with some helpful pointers from others kind enough to give them. |
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"Vice verca? Was that it? What did I misspell?
Yes I got that the profile needs more info - I'm trying to clarify what kind of info now. "
Don't give the impression that anyone you meet is as an alternative to a d*unken fumble  .
Say what you offer and what you'd like, try not to be negative and exercise some of that patience, you've only been here two weeks.
It's tough for single men I'm afraid.
Good luck. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"Vice verca? Was that it? What did I misspell?
Yes I got that the profile needs more info - I'm trying to clarify what kind of info now.
The +quote option enables us to follow the thread. Otherwise, we have no idea to whom you are replying."
Better? |
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By *oxy_minxWoman
over a year ago
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""Put myself in a woman's shoes??!!" Oh god I'm doomed!!
I had loads of info before, but I chose to keep it to a minimum as most "Succesful" single males profiles I've seen, hardly say anything at all."
Do what you want, have as much or as little info on your profile, it's up to you! Who are these successful single men you speak of with hardly any info? I can tell you now, I have over 200 unread messages, due to the fact the senders of said email have shite profiles.
Just don't come bleating on the forums, because you can't be arsed. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Vice verca? Was that it? What did I misspell?
Yes I got that the profile needs more info - I'm trying to clarify what kind of info now. "
You're an intelligent fellow. There is no formula which will lead to success with all. There is a formula which is likely to fail with most though.
I have no idea why you came to the conclusion that having a minimal profile would boost your chances. Show some personality and humour. You're trying to entice, not reject. Jeez, you're not 16 years old. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Vice verca? Was that it? What did I misspell?
Yes I got that the profile needs more info - I'm trying to clarify what kind of info now. "
Lol, you also need to work on your to, too and two's but aside from that as others have said you have written a great post something as well written on your profile will go a long way. Keep it funny and lighthearted and you will see results.
Another tip, always read profiles and accept their criteria and ALWAYS be respectful in your messages.
Good luck fella. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"Vice verca? Was that it? What did I misspell?
Yes I got that the profile needs more info - I'm trying to clarify what kind of info now.
You're an intelligent fellow. There is no formula which will lead to success with all. There is a formula which is likely to fail with most though.
I have no idea why you came to the conclusion that having a minimal profile would boost your chances. Show some personality and humour. You're trying to entice, not reject. Jeez, you're not 16 years old."
Intelligent?? Ok got the profile text needs a dramatic overhaul. I'll do it now, so I don't get more abuse |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Having been here a few years now i know the truth.......it doesn't matter what your profile says....you still won't get a shag with crap photos....
You're welcome. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Having been here a few years now i know the truth.......it doesn't matter what your profile says....you still won't get a shag with crap photos....
You're welcome."
What he said! |
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"It's not a waste of time! I'm not a waste of time! I'm listening and taking note, my profile will change after reading some of this, so it's not wasted at all.
I'll still have written it, with some helpful pointers from others kind enough to give them."
Did you take note of my comment? You didn't mention it although you mentioned other people's......the great bisexual pariah
The subtle point I was making was that you made a lot of effort with your forum post but didn't with your profile. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"It's not a waste of time! I'm not a waste of time! I'm listening and taking note, my profile will change after reading some of this, so it's not wasted at all.
I'll still have written it, with some helpful pointers from others kind enough
Did you take note of my comment? You didn't mention it although you mentioned other people's......the great bisexual pariah
The subtle point I was making was that you made a lot of effort with your forum post but didn't with your profile. "
Erm.. Bisexual pariah?? I missed that. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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Have you had a look at women near you to see if it's worth the effort? My profile is a direct responce to the quality of women who live in my local area. |
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"It's not a waste of time! I'm not a waste of time! I'm listening and taking note, my profile will change after reading some of this, so it's not wasted at all.
I'll still have written it, with some helpful pointers from others kind enough
Did you take note of my comment? You didn't mention it although you mentioned other people's......the great bisexual pariah
The subtle point I was making was that you made a lot of effort with your forum post but didn't with your profile.
Erm.. Bisexual pariah?? I missed that."
people do....  |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"For once, advise has been taken on board! Hallelujah  "
Did I do well?? Or is someone else following advice?? Ok give me time with photos.. A good as torso as I want to show needs a few months of running first - so my willy shot will have to do. I'll back it up with my private shots, face included.. As I don't want to reveal all in one go. |
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"For once, advise has been taken on board! Hallelujah "
I agree. It's a good read much better than mine, although there seems to be a strange lack of....how can I word this without sounding like a geeky nerd...references to anything remotely related to the Star Wars universe? |
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Gosh OP. You're quite defensive when offered advice.
I'd suggest (at the risk of being ignored) some body shot pics. Same as previous replies, I don't like the cock avatars either, but it's your choice. 'Other pics' doesn't mean face.
I read your profile as being too self critical which you disguise with humour. Try more positivity in it.
Otherwise, I wish you the best of luck on here |
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By (user no longer on site)
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Your profile says 'flying solo on fab for a couple of months...' Why? Are you secretly attached and hoping to lure her on here?... Sounds a little bit odd.
Again - my advice has to be go to a social near you and mingle, get a few nice social veris from it, and then fingers crossed it will stand you in good stead. |
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"For once, advise has been taken on board! Hallelujah
Did I do well?? Or is someone else following advice?? Ok give me time with photos.. A good as torso as I want to show needs a few months of running first - so my willy shot will have to do. I'll back it up with my private shots, face included.. As I don't want to reveal all in one go."
Re photos...go black and white... Thank me later. |
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By *oxy_minxWoman
over a year ago
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"For once, advise has been taken on board! Hallelujah
Did I do well?? Or is someone else following advice?? Ok give me time with photos.. A good as torso as I want to show needs a few months of running first - so my willy shot will have to do. I'll back it up with my private shots, face included.. As I don't want to reveal all in one go."
You did well! Why on earth didn't you do that in the first instance?
Now get some pics up that are not your cock, there are plenty you can take with inspiration, try an open shirt shot, or a teasing open jeans, or just out the shower with a towel, plenty to tease with without showing too much, but women (me in this instance) like to be enticed |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Ok woah!!! STOP!!!
Too much info! Slow down.
I'm not defensive!! Or self defeating am I? Reeeally?
Ok I will change my photos, given time. Good advice and good tips. Real care and attention from now on. But I want to practice some pics first (Doh!) I'll feel a right knob head!
A couple of you sent nice PMs Thankyou to you too. To all of you. As somethings are being picked at, someone summed up the whole thing. I see it - I think.
I'll update it as I go. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Ok woah!!! STOP!!!
Too much info! Slow down.
I'm not defensive!! Or self defeating am I? Reeeally?
Ok I will change my photos, given time. Good advice and good tips. Real care and attention from now on. But I want to practice some pics first (Doh!) I'll feel a right knob head!
A couple of you sent nice PMs Thankyou to you too. To all of you. As somethings are being picked at, someone summed up the whole thing. I see it - I think.
I'll update it as I go."
I only requested a photo of your bum  |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Vice verca? Was that it? What did I misspell?
Yes I got that the profile needs more info - I'm trying to clarify what kind of info now.
You're an intelligent fellow. There is no formula which will lead to success with all. There is a formula which is likely to fail with most though.
I have no idea why you came to the conclusion that having a minimal profile would boost your chances. Show some personality and humour. You're trying to entice, not reject. Jeez, you're not 16 years old.
Intelligent?? Ok got the profile text needs a dramatic overhaul. I'll do it now, so I don't get more abuse"
There was no abuse. And, yes, your profile is now a thousand times better. A few photos and you're done. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"Ok woah!!! STOP!!!
Too much info! Slow down.
I'm not defensive!! Or self defeating am I? Reeeally?
Ok I will change my photos, given time. Good advice and good tips. Real care and attention from now on. But I want to practice some pics first (Doh!) I'll feel a right knob head!
A couple of you sent nice PMs Thankyou to you too. To all of you. As somethings are being picked at, someone summed up the whole thing. I see it - I think.
I'll update it as I go.
I only requested a photo of your bum "
Ok yes I remembered that comment and liked it! I'll send you one when I take one soon lmfao! |
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By (user no longer on site)
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Your profile looks good now. You just need that first veri to get you started and a club is the best place for that if it's not happening here. Mentioning money (single guy prices) may not be such a good idea. Your height won't be much of an issue on fabs. I am the Same height and have lots of meets although I blank on regular dating sites. Don't use my profile as a guideline though as it is not designed to attract anyone new as I have my regulars and am not meeting new people for now. Good luck. |
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Your profile says if you're unsuccessful on here you'll go to xtasia or chams. Why not just go anyway? Clubs aren't just for unsuccessful people...in fact I'd say the opposite! You look like a bit of a cock to someone who's a regular clubber saying that  |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"Your profile has at least earned yourself one free drink at Chams when you see me (you will)!  "
Hey, I like your style Bud! To everyone else who has commented about the club thing. No offence was or is intended on the profile. I KNOW I'm going to either Chams or Xtasia pretty soon. I'd be an idiot not to, for the reasons you've all pointed out. I'd just like to meet someone off my own back first - club meet is intimidating and I'm not normally intimidated by much. Let me get gym fit first |
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"Your profile has at least earned yourself one free drink at Chams when you see me (you will)!
Hey, I like your style Bud! To everyone else who has commented about the club thing. No offence was or is intended on the profile. I KNOW I'm going to either Chams or Xtasia pretty soon. I'd be an idiot not to, for the reasons you've all pointed out. I'd just like to meet someone off my own back first - club meet is intimidating and I'm not normally intimidated by much. Let me get gym fit first "
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