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Feeling The Grind - Single Male Of A Couple... Chuck Me A Life Jacket!!!
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 I couldn't wish for more and am over the moon!
The problem it has however is on our swinging lifestyle. But not in the way you may think it would.
See, the wife would of course be out of action for this. OF COURSE. I made it clear to her that it was her choice what she did and what her cut off period was like, and she accepted and just sat back and relaxed. But she was adamant (Adam Ant?) that it not affect us in big ways. In short, it meant that she got to look at pics, chat, message, flirst, set up new meets and get new friends… Do everything bar play. And I got to do everything, just not involving her in play.
Great terms. I have the most incredible wife, even booking me up hotels so she could go with me to places and stay back watching Eastenders, while I went out to play with people. I couldn’t ask for more!
Or could I...
See, I'm finally seeing things from the other side of the coin. I'm finally seeing the swinging world as the dreaded "single male". I've got profiles set up for m (g_telford), for her (c_telford) and for us together (telfordCouple86). All of which are ran by both of us, although mostly her, because that’s just the way we like to do things (this post was written by me of course, one of the rare few times I've been let off the hook!). So we each have our own profiles, for our own meets. We each have our own verifications, and we each have in our profiles, clear as day, what we are looking for.
But as I said... The single male strikes again. Because now, the wife is out of action, and I am, by all accounts, a "single male". And I'm drowning in a sea of other single males... So now I have this card that allows me to do whatever I want, when I want, and guess what…? It’s only been stamped once. Yeah, the curse of the single male! In fact, I’ve had one couple show interest, and we played recently. Nothing else. Nobody else has really shown that much interest, nobody met me, nothing. I’m the FAB equivalent of a Ford KA parked on the Porsche sale lot. Why the HELL would anybody want me, when there are men on here with ripped toned bodies and look like they stepped right out of Kays catalogue!
I’m finally seeing that the only reason people even bother to contact us, is the wife. And it’s a hard pill to swallow… So to speak. What’s even worse is that we still get about 60-70 messages a day from single men, clearly having not read our couples profile, asking to meet the wife alone and I won’t lie, I think the majority of them need to go back to school, because bugger me the typing is so appalling I can’t even make it out sometimes… But the one things clear. “You’re wife’s hot, I want to smash her/bang her/do her/mop her/clean her/wax her/fondle her/brush her/tickle her etc… Oh and you can go as well if you must.” Seems to be a running theme. “Oh, you’re wife isn’t able to go? Let us know when she’s playing again.” “Oh you’re wife isn’t playing? Yeah, erm,. Message us when she is.” Clearly, I’m seeing a pattern here.
So… Hello fellow single males! Welcome me to the posse of never ending blokes! How do you survive in here! Chuck me a life jacket, because my god is it full of you all, and I’m drowning in a sea of average! Girls and couples, if there is anybody NOT after a Jason Statham lookalike and doesn’t mind a bit of the old average, my pics are always available. I’m not ugly by any stretch, I just can’t rip a phone book in half… Although to be fair, I may be able to, I just haven’t seen one in years… Maybe a Thompsons local? Where was I… Oh yeah… Get in touch! Maybe! Or just wait until Mrs Telford is playing and act like you care about me, which is lovely, and at least makes me feel nice for 11 minutes. How DO you do it single blokes?! It’s hard as nails!
(Just FYI, Mrs Telford will be back to her normal broadcast day very soon, but certain things will take priority of course! We are hoping to be back about late summer, certainly for later in the year!) | |||
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"I think it's about attitude. My two male partners have no issue in meeting as regularly as they would like on their own." I suspect we're talking Porsches rather than Kas though? | |||
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"I'm not sure I can give you any advice because I often wonder how and why myself. Some girls will, Some girls won't, Some girls need a lot of lovin And some girls don't! I can only say be yourself, you already know what doesn't work from being part of that couple. Just think about who grabbed you and your wives attention and add a bit yourself. Maybe that will work for you." That's a bit racey | |||
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"Your singles profile is mostly about telling people to check your couples profile . Why don't you stick your couples profile into hibernation and concentrate on selling yourself . You immediately stop the attraction to just you when you divert people . Even the status on your couples profile leads people to belive you are both still meeting " We did think of that, but then the couples profile has all the pics, all the verifications, and all the info. Plus it has all the friends, and its what everybody knows us by If you look at the top of our profile it does mention only G is playing. However I do agree the status G put on this morning was a bit confusing so I will edit it now C x | |||
"I'm not sure I can give you any advice because I often wonder how and why myself. Some girls will, Some girls won't, Some girls need a lot of lovin And some girls don't! I can only say be yourself, you already know what doesn't work from being part of that couple. Just think about who grabbed you and your wives attention and add a bit yourself. Maybe that will work for you. That's a bit racey "You can't beat getting racey! | |||
"I think it's about attitude. My two male partners have no issue in meeting as regularly as they would like on their own. I suspect we're talking Porsches rather than Kas though?" I don't compare my partners to objects, however niether are the kind of man that would classically be considered a head turner. In fact I'd say they're both actually pretty average - they just have great personalities. | |||
"Just looked at your profile OP and to be honest why the hell would you be complaining !!!! Looking at your pictures your Mrs is super sexy hot just be thankful for what you have got dude.I can see why you get all the attention from single guys. Sod looking to play with others even with the Mrs blessings, look after her, spoil her rotten, and then things will get better. "One would assume that the primary reason to be on a swingers website is because you enjoy having sex with more than one person and are looking to do so. Suggesting monogamy sounds rather counterproductive to those aims. | |||
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"I think it's about attitude. My two male partners have no issue in meeting as regularly as they would like on their own." I imagine it's a lot easier to get meets on here for gay men than straight men though. Its not easy to show personality online either so not really relevant to the ops post. | |||
"I think it's about attitude. My two male partners have no issue in meeting as regularly as they would like on their own. I imagine it's a lot easier to get meets on here for gay men than straight men though. Its not easy to show personality online either so not really relevant to the ops post." One of my partners is bisexual and primarily meets women, the other is a straight man. As I said, they have no problem meeting as regularly as they would like on their own. And I mean women. | |||
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"Just looked at your profile OP and to be honest why the hell would you be complaining !!!! Looking at your pictures your Mrs is super sexy hot just be thankful for what you have got dude.I can see why you get all the attention from single guys. Sod looking to play with others even with the Mrs blessings, look after her, spoil her rotten, and then things will get better.
One would assume that the primary reason to be on a swingers website is because you enjoy having sex with more than one person and are looking to do so. Suggesting monogamy sounds rather counterproductive to those aims."But then that would miss the opportunity to get a bit of white knighting in | |||
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"I think it's about attitude. My two male partners have no issue in meeting as regularly as they would like on their own. I imagine it's a lot easier to get meets on here for gay men than straight men though. Its not easy to show personality online either so not really relevant to the ops post." We actually find it pretty easy to tell from a profile and messages if they are people/someone we would get along with. | |||
I would say that if you are only looking for yourself atm but using your couples profile have some more pics of you on there. As stunning as she is most people (I mean men I guess) aren't going to read your profile they are going to go straight to your gallery and will message you anyway. Or block single guys for now??
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"Firstly congratulations on your exciting news
I would say that if you are only looking for yourself atm but using your couples profile have some more pics of you on there. As stunning as she is most people (I mean men I guess) aren't going to read your profile they are going to go straight to your gallery and will message you anyway. Or block single guys for now??
"Would you put pictures of the messy glove box on auto trader when trying to sell your sports car? More of me is something I am trying however. It's a shame we can't order pics. There's quite a few of me there, it's just they are all muddled up!
Also we don't block single men because if the few years we have been here, we have made lots of great friends, and wouldn't want to lose contact.
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"Welcome to the cock fest op !! "Er the op was 50 weeks ago. | |||
"Just looked at your profile OP and to be honest why the hell would you be complaining !!!! Looking at your pictures your Mrs is super sexy hot just be thankful for what you have got dude.I can see why you get all the attention from single guys. Sod looking to play with others even with the Mrs blessings, look after her, spoil her rotten, and then things will get better. "So because he is free to play & has a gorgeous lady at home you assume something is not right? Or am I reading this wrong? S | |||
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"Maybe ask for advice on the male profile?" Check the date it was posted. Its a dead post that jesus made rise again. | |||
"Maybe ask for advice on the male profile? Check the date it was posted. Its a dead post that jesus made rise again." good call..... | |||
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"Wiggles has always told me to go ahead and find a fb or meet other women as long as I tell her. Other women simply never believe me though. " That can be a problem and understably so, however there are ways to mitigate it. I'm part of a couples profile, and my partner has her own solo profile too - we make it transparently clear across all of them that we're connected and here with our solo profiles with each others knowledge - anyone that has any doubts can easily cross-reference between all three profiles and if necessary check that it's all above board with a simple message. That approach hasn't caused any issues and in fact I've been told by others how reassuring it is that it's totally transparent. | |||
