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Hi, we are totally new to swinging and as yet have only had a few replies which have led to nothing.
We are a couple who want to invite another lady to join us but purely to only have contact with the female.
Are we asking too much? Any advice for us newbies is greatly appreciated!
Thanks in advance x |
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over a year ago
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What your looking for is going to be hard to find.. Most single ladies if just playing with the lady seem to not want to have a guy/partner watching...
If they are meeting a couple they seem to want to play with both.
However never say never... And hope you find what your looking for x |
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over a year ago
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Hi there and welcome.
Single bi females are the smallest grouping here on fab, and finding one to only play fem on fem with a guy watching or being there even smaller (not impossible but not as many), especially if the fem in the couple wants to be the centre of attention, rather than an all in threesome.
My advice would be to try clubs, you would most probably have more luck finding what your looking for there. |
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"Thank you. Am nervy of a club having no experience of one but maybe that's what we have to think about next..."
Most people are nervous first time. Look on the club reviews section for those near to you, take a look at the reviews and their websites. Most clubs will give you a guided tour and introduce you to other guests when you go. They are friendly, fun places with no pressure to play or get naked etc of you don't want to. |
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We certainly concur with others here, maybe try that club, read the reviews, look for the ones where people quote they went for the first time, look out for friendly, great staff, looked after, shown around, made to feel welcome, will come again, and lovely people there, if you are ever down South try Jaydees. Although we have done 3 clubs in Blackpool ourselves, we found them great for the experienced, though not sure for the toe dippers.
But remember go at your pace, watch, listen, and IF your ready take the next step. Your choice never any pressure and chat to people, we find these clubs the friendliest places to be. |
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"Thank you. Am nervy of a club having no experience of one but maybe that's what we have to think about next...
Most people are nervous first time. Look on the club reviews section for those near to you, take a look at the reviews and their websites. Most clubs will give you a guided tour and introduce you to other guests when you go. They are friendly, fun places with no pressure to play or get naked etc
of you don't want to."
Thanks for your advice |
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"We certainly concur with others here, maybe try that club, read the reviews, look for the ones where people quote they went for the first time, look out for friendly, great staff, looked after, shown around, made to feel welcome, will come again, and lovely people there, if you are ever down South try Jaydees. Although we have done 3 clubs in Blackpool ourselves, we found them great for the experienced, though not sure for the toe dippers.
But remember go at your pace, watch, listen, and IF your ready take the next step. Your choice never any pressure and chat to people, we find these clubs the friendliest places to be."
Thanks. Looks like this will be the way forwards for us - although it will be out of town initially! |
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"Single" bi women exist. I have a single woman profile as well and I do meet alone, almost always in clubs. But I don't do FFfortheM ... And I can't be the only one. I actively avoid that situation as it does nothing for me sexually and I dislike being a couple plaything. I've never been in that situation and not had some crazy relationship dynamic backfire on me.
I'd say get out to clubs. You'll probably find it a little easier to get what you want.
Good luck
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I've had a single bi fem profile too.
If I'm meeting a couple I want to play with them both and feel like an equal rather than their play thing for the evening whilst the man gets off on watching 2 women with no involvement himself.
Not for me I'm afraid. If I want 1-2-1 fun with a female I'd find a single female. |
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Not for me either and there are hundreds of couples on here looking for the same thing - and they are just the ones that are incapable of reading my profile.
I don't want to put on a show for husbands benefit. I don't want to perform I just want to fuck and enjoy |
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I happily play MFF but would always want Himself there to make sure I am ok. It works for some but not for others.
There are single bi females who play with couples on their own so keep looking. And when you find her, enjoy it  |
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You are looking for something that barely exists and when it does few women want to at the role of performing seal for what is usually the benefit of some husband or boyfriend !
If you want just girl on girl it's so much easier and less complicated and more convivial with just girls |
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"Hi, we are totally new to swinging and as yet have only had a few replies which have led to nothing.
We are a couple who want to invite another lady to join us but purely to only have contact with the female.
Are we asking too much? Any advice for us newbies is greatly appreciated!
Thanks in advance x"
I meet women on their own alone. I don't meet couples alone. I think women have come along way since the days they had to have a man around to do anything .... apparently. |
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Forget the "they don't exist", or "they are fussy" advice, its all nonsense!
There are loads of single bi fems out there who are happy to play with couples, even if they only get to play with the female.
Best advice is to hit the socials, clubs and parties, network, make friends and then start inviting the ladies to play.
A word of caution though, don't treat them as "single bi fems", after all, they are people... I always say we have never played with a single bi fem, but we have played with loads of our friends who just so happen to be female, single and bi lol!  |
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I've met couples in the past but would only do so as long as all 3 of us were going to interact. I'm not into the putting a show on for someone's partner just as much as I'm not up for sitting aside like a spare part while the couple play.
Best advice has been given, try a club |
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having met couples in the past (and having not a very positive experience with one couple, I would only meet other single bifems now...its all down to personal choice at the end of the day |
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""Single" bi women exist. I have a single woman profile as well and I do meet alone, almost always in clubs. But I don't do FFfortheM ... And I can't be the only one. I actively avoid that situation as it does nothing for me sexually and I dislike being a couple plaything. I've never been in that situation and not had some crazy relationship dynamic backfire on me.
I'd say get out to clubs. You'll probably find it a little easier to get what you want.
Good luck
V"
Thanks for your advice x |
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"I've had a single bi fem profile too.
If I'm meeting a couple I want to play with them both and feel like an equal rather than their play thing for the evening whilst the man gets off on watching 2 women with no involvement himself.
Not for me I'm afraid. If I want 1-2-1 fun with a female I'd find a single female. "
Thanks for your help x |
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"Not for me either and there are hundreds of couples on here looking for the same thing - and they are just the ones that are incapable of reading my profile.
I don't want to put on a show for husbands benefit. I don't want to perform I just want to fuck and enjoy"
Fair point! |
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"I happily play MFF but would always want Himself there to make sure I am ok. It works for some but not for others.
There are single bi females who play with couples on their own so keep looking. And when you find her, enjoy it "
I will, thank you x |
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"You are looking for something that barely exists and when it does few women want to at the role of performing seal for what is usually the benefit of some husband or boyfriend !
If you want just girl on girl it's so much easier and less complicated and more convivial with just girls "
Think it might be time to try couples |
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"Hi, we are totally new to swinging and as yet have only had a few replies which have led to nothing.
We are a couple who want to invite another lady to join us but purely to only have contact with the female.
Are we asking too much? Any advice for us newbies is greatly appreciated!
Thanks in advance x
I meet women on their own alone. I don't meet couples alone. I think women have come along way since the days they had to have a man around to do anything .... apparently."
Fair point |
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"Forget the "they don't exist", or "they are fussy" advice, its all nonsense!
There are loads of single bi fems out there who are happy to play with couples, even if they only get to play with the female.
Best advice is to hit the socials, clubs and parties, network, make friends and then start inviting the ladies to play.
A word of caution though, don't treat them as "single bi fems", after all, they are people... I always say we have never played with a single bi fem, but we have played with loads of our friends who just so happen to be female, single and bi lol! "
Seems the clubs are the place to be! Thanks x |
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"I've met couples in the past but would only do so as long as all 3 of us were going to interact. I'm not into the putting a show on for someone's partner just as much as I'm not up for sitting aside like a spare part while the couple play.
Best advice has been given, try a club "
Will do, thanks x |
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"having met couples in the past (and having not a very positive experience with one couple, I would only meet other single bifems now...its all down to personal choice at the end of the day"
Thank you x |
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Hi we first came on here looking for single female, became virtually impossible, we then went to xtasia in West Bromwich, tried soft swap and enjoyed it and then went onto full swap which when first discussed was not on our agenda at all but now we love it, still yet to have just a threesome but we love foursomes,maybe u just need a club visit to find out if some things you said no to actually are for you both or not xx |
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"Hi we first came on here looking for single female, became virtually impossible, we then went to xtasia in West Bromwich, tried soft swap and enjoyed it and then went onto full swap which when first discussed was not on our agenda at all but now we love it, still yet to have just a threesome but we love foursomes,maybe u just need a club visit to find out if some things you said no to actually are for you both or not xx"
Thanks for your advice - I think it's time to broaden our horizons one way or another! X |
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"Thank you. Am nervy of a club having no experience of one but maybe that's what we have to think about next..."
Clubs are great we went to our first yesterday very very scared and worried but honest the environment is not hat you will expect I promise go and enjoy ir just walk around and see what's going off you don't even have to take any clothes of its great ease in on your own terms enjoy
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By (user no longer on site)
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I'm Bi, but would much rather be with another woman than anything else.
But I detest having someone else there watching - it isn't a spectator sport, folks!!!
For that reason, I tend to avoid meeting couples any more - even though I've had some wonderful 3-way experiences in the past - I simply don't feel respected...
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By (user no longer on site)
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We entered into the lifestyle so tray could indulge her bi side but as others have said it is very difficult on here not impossible just difficult. We moved from looking for single bi fems to soft swapping with couples with bi curious or bi sexual females maybe this is your best option as well as clubs hope you find what your looking for |
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By *ian777Woman
over a year ago
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Im bi, single and female! I have met couples before but im only interested if all parties are involved. It just makes me feel that both of the halves of the couple dont quite agree.. makes me uncomfortable.
Patience is probably the key though as its just finding the right person. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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Were in the same situation and really getting nowhere tbh.looks like were wasting our time.
Although we totally understand where the single female is coming from we live in hope lol. |
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Were in the same situation and really getting nowhere tbh.looks like were wasting our time.
Although we totally understand where the single female is coming from we live in hope lol. |
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