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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

I'm relatively new to this site....but being surrounded by gorgeous slim/athletic people is really knocking my confidence!!!

I came on here to boost it...but honestly feel worse!

I'm a large 18/20 wobbly baby belly...arse...and legs...ample nice tits and ok face.

How do I know if someone's being genuine or not???

Scared to meet incase they run a mile when I turn up!!!

I'm not posting this thread for abuse or sympathy just honest genuine advice please!

Would also love to try the club scene but I cannot even do a meet let alone a club!!!!!!

Help please

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I'm relatively new to this site....but being surrounded by gorgeous slim/athletic people is really knocking my confidence!!!

I came on here to boost it...but honestly feel worse!

I'm a large 18/20 wobbly baby belly...arse...and legs...ample nice tits and ok face.

How do I know if someone's being genuine or not???

Scared to meet incase they run a mile when I turn up!!!

I'm not posting this thread for abuse or sympathy just honest genuine advice please!

Would also love to try the club scene but I cannot even do a meet let alone a club!!!!!!

Help please

You're gorgeous. I'd definitely meet up with you

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

your hot as

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I'm relatively new to this site....but being surrounded by gorgeous slim/athletic people is really knocking my confidence!!!

I came on here to boost it...but honestly feel worse!

I'm a large 18/20 wobbly baby belly...arse...and legs...ample nice tits and ok face.

How do I know if someone's being genuine or not???

Scared to meet incase they run a mile when I turn up!!!

I'm not posting this thread for abuse or sympathy just honest genuine advice please!

Would also love to try the club scene but I cannot even do a meet let alone a club!!!!!!

Help please

Wow nothing wrong with your figure at all. Bet its even more sexy in the flesh

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Hello lovely..

Do please try clubs...all shapes and sizes go, dont lose any confidence.

Alot of guys are genuinely attracted to fuller figured women.

You arent enormous or what id call fat.

Personally, just sit and suss people out for a while before you decide to meet.

Its all very exciting when you first join,but meet ppl that YOU are attracted too, read the profiles and veris if you can. Gives a good idea of what kind of person someone is.

Generally, i find if they just talk smut straight away, they really arent worth your time xx

Enjoyyyy xx

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

Thanks for the advice!!!!

much appreciated xxx

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Babe your beautiful I definitely would

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

Thank you

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

That's kind of you to say!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Are you happy labelling yourself as a BBW, is that the angle your looking for?

I'm just trying to establish if that's what you're into.

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By *urvyKattWoman over a year ago

Dumfriesshire

You look absolutely lovely to me

and to be honest you are just the kind of lady I would love to meet up with if you were closer.

I do understand the lack of confidence thing though as I have been there as well in the past. Talk to people and get a good idea of them first, im sure you will have fun and meet some great people xx

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Ohhh....and watch the ones who tell you your gorgeous...beautiful etc...when they havnt even seen your face.

No doubt you are a lovely looking lady, but dont be fooled by 'fake compliments', suss them out...some guys say anything to get a look in...

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

From what I see in your profile, there is nothing wrong at all. You look lovely with a gorgeous body.

Just be yourself and everything will be fine

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I agree

There is nothing wrong with you hun xx

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By *orny1970Man over a year ago

Northwest Greater Manchester and lancashire

Nothing wrong with you.. Very sexy xx

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By *urvymamaWoman over a year ago

Doncaster

Search for yourself, look for profile that say they love a fuller figure so you know if they reply that when they say yes if love to meet you're gorgeous they are more likely to mean it

Watch out for the ones telling you how gorgeous you are before they even know what you look like, as personally to me they are false compliments

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By *urvymamaWoman over a year ago

Doncaster

"Ohhh....and watch the ones who tell you your gorgeous...beautiful etc...when they havnt even seen your face.

No doubt you are a lovely looking lady, but dont be fooled by 'fake compliments', suss them out...some guys say anything to get a look in...

Sugar you got that one in while I was typing the same

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I am the same, bigger than you tho. But even when guys say they like a bbw I know half don't even really appreciate what a true bbw is! I warn guys that I'm big, but I've met one or 2 or sent pics and I know my size has put them off even after they have promised it wouldn't. It makes me very wary

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Honestly hun there are lots of bbw admirers here.

Try a social first if your concerned with meeting someone.

With clubs, go with someone else first so your not on your own.

I suspect there will be someone who is bbw and local to you also who can chat to you more.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Search for yourself, look for profile that say they love a fuller figure so you know if they reply that when they say yes if love to meet you're gorgeous they are more likely to mean it

Watch out for the ones telling you how gorgeous you are before they even know what you look like, as personally to me they are false compliments"

Great minds think alike eh love

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Is true most people say what they think you want to hear if they think it'll get them a fuck, and it's usually way too over familiar for someone who doesn't even know you, often they copy and paste the same thing to loads of women to up their chances. You can fuck them anyway (why not if they're hot enough lol) or ignore them if you get that creepy vibe.

As for going to clubs on your own, i did that. It doesn't cost much to go and you don't have to stay if you don't like it. It took me months of being on here to want to go.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Don't worry lady. My arse is bigger than yours and I do alright. Horses for courses here. Some won't be interested but some will be very interested.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I am definitely a bbw admirer

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

and the forums and cam chat are pretty much BBW and older people appreciation anyway so most there aren't lying.

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By *orny1970Man over a year ago

Northwest Greater Manchester and lancashire

you should always be yourself

People will

Like you for who you are not how big you are

If your passionate and true to your feelings only the people that care matter

The rest are not worth it xx

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

Really really appreciate all of this.....not gonna give up just yet xxx

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Really really appreciate all of this.....not gonna give up just yet xxx"

Wanna move to Ireland?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I'm relatively new to this site....but being surrounded by gorgeous slim/athletic people is really knocking my confidence!!!

I came on here to boost it...but honestly feel worse!

I'm a large 18/20 wobbly baby belly...arse...and legs...ample nice tits and ok face.

How do I know if someone's being genuine or not???

Scared to meet incase they run a mile when I turn up!!!

I'm not posting this thread for abuse or sympathy just honest genuine advice please!

Would also love to try the club scene but I cannot even do a meet let alone a club!!!!!!

Help please

I'm a genuine guy looking for someone just like you

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By *llie RoseWoman over a year ago

By the seaside

I agree with all the other posts. Just be yourself. You only have yourself to answer to so if you don't get the right vibe from someone trust your instincts.

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"Really really appreciate all of this.....not gonna give up just yet xxx

Wanna move to Ireland?

xx"

Please lol

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Really really appreciate all of this.....not gonna give up just yet xxx

Wanna move to Ireland?

Please lol

I'd show you how genuine I am then

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

If you fancy swapping some messages please pm

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

There's also the option of becoming a friend of a local fab lady to go along to a club with xx

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"There's also the option of becoming a friend of a local fab lady to go along to a club with xx"

that's a good idea. ...thanks xxx

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By *igeiaWoman over a year ago

Bristol

I was exactly the same as you when I started on here. It took me time to find my way and I did exactly that. Use your common sense, don't be afraid to turn someone down and go at your own pace. And take everything, good and bad, with a massive pinch of salt.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Be yourself and the offers will flood in

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Really really appreciate all of this.....not gonna give up just yet xxx

Wanna move to Ireland?

Please lol

I'd show you how genuine I am then

if you were really really genuine you would be offering to travel to meet

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I wouldn't worry. I worried when I first joined then realised that there are plenty of men that find bigger women attractive!

Also go to a club, there's loads of shapes and sizes. Pretty much something for everyone.

Shake what ya got. Curvy women are just jiggly balls of sexy fun. Some more jiggly than others.

Get amongst the hot guys.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Please do not come on a site like this to gain confidence . Be sure of yourself first. Then have fun xx

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

It's actually amazing to see how many women are insecure with the way they look or how they think people see them. You are all beautiful in your own way and you should own that

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Really really appreciate all of this.....not gonna give up just yet xxx

Wanna move to Ireland?

Please lol

I'd show you how genuine I am then

if you were really really genuine you would be offering to travel to meet

I'm open to that

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Really really appreciate all of this.....not gonna give up just yet xxx"

Believe me your gorgeous and you won't have any issues if or when you meet anyone. I'd be all over you like a rash haha

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By *urvymamaWoman over a year ago

Doncaster

"Please do not come on a site like this to gain confidence . Be sure of yourself first. Then have fun xx"

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I'm relatively new to this site....but being surrounded by gorgeous slim/athletic people is really knocking my confidence!!!

I came on here to boost it...but honestly feel worse!

I'm a large 18/20 wobbly baby belly...arse...and legs...ample nice tits and ok face.

How do I know if someone's being genuine or not???

Scared to meet incase they run a mile when I turn up!!!

I'm not posting this thread for abuse or sympathy just honest genuine advice please!

Would also love to try the club scene but I cannot even do a meet let alone a club!!!!!!

Help please

You have absolutely nothing to worry about. I think we would all be more than satisfied.

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By *igjohn78Man over a year ago

lincoln

You are fine don't let them get to you

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I'm relatively new to this site....but being surrounded by gorgeous slim/athletic people is really knocking my confidence!!!

I came on here to boost it...but honestly feel worse!

I'm a large 18/20 wobbly baby belly...arse...and legs...ample nice tits and ok face.

How do I know if someone's being genuine or not???

Scared to meet incase they run a mile when I turn up!!!

I'm not posting this thread for abuse or sympathy just honest genuine advice please!

Would also love to try the club scene but I cannot even do a meet let alone a club!!!!!!

Help please

I was terrified the first time I went to a club and again the first time I had a meet! I was so concerned with the way I looked, how my body would be perceived that I almost forgot to have fun.

Although I still feel self conscious sometimes, I know that not everyone will love my body type but as long as I do, I'm sure there'll be others out there that do too!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Please do not come on a site like this to gain confidence . Be sure of yourself first. Then have fun xx"

I disagree, this site has improved my confidence in leaps and bounds!

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By *eanut Butter CupWoman over a year ago

B & M Bargains

"Please do not come on a site like this to gain confidence . Be sure of yourself first. Then have fun xx

I disagree, this site has improved my confidence in leaps and bounds!"

me too!

OP - I'm bigger than you, and I still have the same worries, which is why I've put on a couple of full body pics so they can't say they didn't know

I would agree with the idea of finding another woman to take you to a club. My friend took me for my first time otherwise I never would have had the courage!

Just hold ya head up when you get there

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Please do not come on a site like this to gain confidence . Be sure of yourself first. Then have fun xx"

It can be a double edged sword. Some will find it boosts their confidence no end, others may find it strips them of it.

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By *az.....Woman over a year ago

Bury

I'm a big lady!I have a male friend who loves my big bum and boobs.

The women in clubs are all shapes amd sizes and the men have been gentlemen in the couple of clubs i've been to

Find a friend first

And as for the messages you get, take them with a pinch of salt.

Anyone genuine will wait till you are ready to meet and make it on your terms x

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Being sexy isn't about size babe...it's about being confident..men love confidence irrespective of size. I suggest u try the clubs that will boost ur confidence no end..xx

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I'm relatively new to this site....but being surrounded by gorgeous slim/athletic people is really knocking my confidence!!!

I came on here to boost it...but honestly feel worse!

I'm a large 18/20 wobbly baby belly...arse...and legs...ample nice tits and ok face.

How do I know if someone's being genuine or not???

Scared to meet incase they run a mile when I turn up!!!

I'm not posting this thread for abuse or sympathy just honest genuine advice please!

Would also love to try the club scene but I cannot even do a meet let alone a club!!!!!!

Help please

I constantly worry the same as you do. But always get compliments. Not everyone likes thin. And hopefully if they've messaged it's cos they are genuinely interested xx

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Just looked at your pics. You are a very sexy lady, hope we get to meet some day. If we do not enjoy Fab

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By *he horny kinkstersCouple over a year ago

North West

I'm sure there will be plenty of ladies or couples who would be happy to accompany you to a club. Couples and single ladies nights are a good fun and no pressure way to get to know people and have a play if you want to.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Looking good from where were standing! Very nice bum!

We don't get much interest on here due to the dreaded "Ample" label, but when we visit a club we've not been ignored or turned away yet! And that includes from the more slimmer variety of sexy couples!! So don't be down hearted, I bet you'll be a star attraction at any club!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

My hot-o-meter is going wild here

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By *iss_tressWoman over a year ago

London

"I'm relatively new to this site....but being surrounded by gorgeous slim/athletic people is really knocking my confidence!!!

I came on here to boost it...but honestly feel worse!

I'm a large 18/20 wobbly baby belly...arse...and legs...ample nice tits and ok face.

How do I know if someone's being genuine or not???

Scared to meet incase they run a mile when I turn up!!!

I'm not posting this thread for abuse or sympathy just honest genuine advice please!

Would also love to try the club scene but I cannot even do a meet let alone a club!!!!!!

Help please

No matter where you go there's going to be someone younger, slimmer, fitter.

Once you except that fact and realise you'll never have universal appeal you'll relax and have fun. If you have recent clear pictures people can judge for themselves if they want to meet you. Have a social in a neutral environment.

Personally I find confident people sexy and fun. I don't meet people with insecurities as they are tiring and needy people are not fun.

Stop worrying about other people and concentrate on the fun ahead of you.

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By *iss_tressWoman over a year ago

London

"I'm relatively new to this site....but being surrounded by gorgeous slim/athletic people is really knocking my confidence!!!

I came on here to boost it...but honestly feel worse!

I'm a large 18/20 wobbly baby belly...arse...and legs...ample nice tits and ok face.

How do I know if someone's being genuine or not???

Scared to meet incase they run a mile when I turn up!!!

I'm not posting this thread for abuse or sympathy just honest genuine advice please!

Would also love to try the club scene but I cannot even do a meet let alone a club!!!!!!

Help please

You're gorgeous. I'd definitely meet up with you

Oh please!

Be wary of this type.

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By *iss_tressWoman over a year ago

London

"Ohhh....and watch the ones who tell you your gorgeous...beautiful etc...when they havnt even seen your face.

No doubt you are a lovely looking lady, but dont be fooled by 'fake compliments', suss them out...some guys say anything to get a look in...

Exactly, predatory. Lots of false flattery, invest in a large barrel of salt!

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By *uke olovingmanMan over a year ago

Gravesend

Perhaps you could find a club buddy to go with

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By *iss_tressWoman over a year ago

London

"Please do not come on a site like this to gain confidence . Be sure of yourself first. Then have fun xx"

I have to admit to finding it strange people would come on a site to gain confidence.

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"I wouldn't worry. I worried when I first joined then realised that there are plenty of men that find bigger women attractive!

Also go to a club, there's loads of shapes and sizes. Pretty much something for everyone.

Shake what ya got. Curvy women are just jiggly balls of sexy fun. Some more jiggly than others.

Get amongst the hot guys. "

lol....love it!!!!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

You'll do fine here. You're an attractive lady. There are those who genuinely love larger ladies - I'm one too. I've tended to look at other veris to see the type of person they've met before. That gives me a flavour as to whether someone is genuine. It's not foolproof but it a good indicator.

Personally, I think a social sorts out the real people too. If someone doesn't want to meet for a drink then we won't meet them full stop.

Clubs - You'll be fine. Plus if it makes you more comfortable there are BBW nights too. And they're really popular.

Sarah

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Op - It's inevevitable you will get a load of compliments on a thread like this . Which is nice , but not a true reflection of reality .

Here's the thing - in the real world you will give off a vibe - either a positive and sexy one , or a negative and far from sexy one . If you feel good it will be the former , and it's all good . If someone looks at you the wrong way or you overhear a nasty remark , the latter and your confidence will go .

So if you go to a club , be sure to go with a friend or two . They will help your nerves and encourage positivity . And you'll meet people who will be attracted to you and vice versa . No doubt you'll have a great night .

Coming on here should help your self confidence , be yourself , and don't let the false white knights make you over confident . It's easily done , as some others have said , there are guys who will say anything to get a shag .

Once you make a few genuine friends on here you will be able to suss the real from the fake and have yourself a whole lot of fun .

Good luck

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Hi op.... I am also a large lady..

In all honesty I would not class urself as a bbw...from what I can see of ur body u look amazing... I am so much larger than u size 24/26.... I do have true pic's of all my wobble bits...

Be true to who u are and chat to potential meets... thou who are genuine will not mind this..do socials where u don't play... personal I would wait a while until u have found ur feet before trying a club...

I hope this has helped... but most of all enjoy the attention as u will receive more than u can handle

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Arm yourself with someone like me (confident and doesn't give a fuck who likes me cause I'm fecking gorgeous )and we'll go to chams on a bbw night! !...we're neighbours anyway and you'll be amazed just how many young fit guys are there with their tongues hanging out! !..ok ok they'll be looking at me of course but I'd share

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I'm relatively new to this site....but being surrounded by gorgeous slim/athletic people is really knocking my confidence!!!

I came on here to boost it...but honestly feel worse!

I'm a large 18/20 wobbly baby belly...arse...and legs...ample nice tits and ok face.

How do I know if someone's being genuine or not???

Scared to meet incase they run a mile when I turn up!!!

I'm not posting this thread for abuse or sympathy just honest genuine advice please!

Would also love to try the club scene but I cannot even do a meet let alone a club!!!!!!

Help please

Girl pull yourself together!

There are as many men here that love us big girls as there are men that love the slimmer versions.

Get down to Bedford I'll take you to a club where the guys will adore you Xxxc

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"I'm relatively new to this site....but being surrounded by gorgeous slim/athletic people is really knocking my confidence!!!

I came on here to boost it...but honestly feel worse!

I'm a large 18/20 wobbly baby belly...arse...and legs...ample nice tits and ok face.

How do I know if someone's being genuine or not???

Scared to meet incase they run a mile when I turn up!!!

I'm not posting this thread for abuse or sympathy just honest genuine advice please!

Would also love to try the club scene but I cannot even do a meet let alone a club!!!!!!

Help please

Girl pull yourself together!

There are as many men here that love us big girls as there are men that love the slimmer versions.

Get down to Bedford I'll take you to a club where the guys will adore you Xxxc

thanks gorgeous

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"Arm yourself with someone like me (confident and doesn't give a fuck who likes me cause I'm fecking gorgeous )and we'll go to chams on a bbw night! !...we're neighbours anyway and you'll be amazed just how many young fit guys are there with their tongues hanging out! !..ok ok they'll be looking at me of course but I'd share

pmsllllllll ?? love it....let's sort something out. Pm me pls gorgeous girl xxx

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

pmsllllllll ?? love it....let's sort something out. Pm me pls gorgeous girl xxx"

No problems at all xxx

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Feel a lotta lurve in this thread

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

So am I. ...thank you guys

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

You are who you are,and who dosent like then tough,it's a shame that larger people are becoming alienated in today's society, it use to worry me but, not Any more,if people don't accept me the way I am then sod em,when you miss one bus,another one comes along,

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By *ssexcokMan over a year ago

southend

You look amazing in your pics i dont think most men wourld run i definitely wouldnt

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By *evilishCouple69Couple over a year ago

Glasgow

We were apprehensive about clubs to begin with and still really only attend BBW nights. But if you ask the people who meet us at chams they genuinely think we are lying when we say MissP is shy. Surrounded by guys utterly infatuated with big curves she's the centre of a lot of attention and loves showing off. Get yourself to the chams BBW night then book the next day off work as you'll be walking bowlegged(if you want to, equally you can turn everyone down and just enjoy the chat/show) and have a heap of new veris to display. Hope to see you there soon

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By *requent_FerryersCouple over a year ago

Norwich to Great Yarmouth

You look great and you have freckles on your bum like me... So what is not to like? xx

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By *iewMan over a year ago
Forum Mod

Angus & Findhorn

This thread will have acted as a boost to your confidence

however, if you do have confidence issues, swinging can impact them and not always for the good.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Why would there be anything less attractive about a larger lady?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I'm the same dress size as you hun, I think as long as I state that in my profile and I make sure I post photos of every angle (1 because I love to take photos and 2 so people know exactly what they're getting) that way theres no surprises. I use to have the same insecurities as you but I don't care anymore.

There are plenty of people on here who find our size attractive. Just remember that someone else's attractiveness isn't the absence of your own

just do your thing and take no notice of anyone else xxx

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I'm a big lady!I have a male friend who loves my big bum and boobs.

The women in clubs are all shapes amd sizes and the men have been gentlemen in the couple of clubs i've been to

Find a friend first

And as for the messages you get, take them with a pinch of salt.

Anyone genuine will wait till you are ready to meet and make it on your terms x"

Very much so x

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Why would there be anything less attractive about a larger lady?"

I gotta agree, I'm far more attracted to a larger lady, much much to adore.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I gotta get me someof this...tongues hanging out!!!! Legs akimboooo....lol

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Op woman rule in this life style you've your pick off the men !

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Hello OP. I think you've had some really supportive comments above which maybe helped? I'm size 18 with a big tum which I'm really self conscious about. When I had my first meet following a divorce, I thought the guy is going to look at me and turn tail!! That's not what happened. I've met, and still meet some gorgeous fit fellas since then who don't seem to be turned off by my lumps and bumps at all. Be calm, be yourself and just enjoy, one life and all that.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Oooo need and want to add something here.

I am actually larger than yourself OP at a size 24/26. I have real body confidence issues, along side a really horny mind.

I have been a member of FABS for over 8 years off and on (left when I met and got engaged to a guy off here!.) However I have to say the only thing that stops me from getting meets, is me!

I have never been short of offers and like many others on here I have met some really lovely people. Its hard to get your head around something that matters to you I suggest just go for it.

xxx Happy Fabbing Hunny x

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Dont worry op there be many guys on here for you. If you was a overweight guy then you would be buggered

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Personally I prefer larger ladies, you'll be just fine, but if you sit back take your time you'll soon work out who are the wasters

happy swinging

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Dont worry op there be many guys on here for you. If you was a overweight guy then you would be buggered

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By *urvymamaWoman over a year ago

Doncaster

Another thing you need to consider OP is you may be a size 18/20 but so am I yet my body looks different to yours, I think I look bigger however I'm aware most of that could be down to flattering lingerie or camera angles or it could just be that we all carry out weight differently depending on many factors like, if weve have kids or not, or our fat is more visceral than subcutaneous etc.

Remember you are who you are (only change by diet etc it if you want to) be confident love yourself first and others will follow. I let everything hand out for all to see people that like it will message people that don't won't it's really that simple

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Well said, curvymamma

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By *ibertine_LifestyleCouple over a year ago

Sheerness

I am also 18-20 but dont consider myself to be bbw..obv different people have different opinions and someone who is very athletic and not in to curvier girls may say different..but I am 5ft 8 so curvy all over with a smaller waist but big boobs, bum and hips. I would consider bbw to be size 24+ but I guess if you are only 5ft 2 and a size 20 you may then be bbw xx

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I'm relatively new to this site....but being surrounded by gorgeous slim/athletic people is really knocking my confidence!!!

I came on here to boost it...but honestly feel worse!

I'm a large 18/20 wobbly baby belly...arse...and legs...ample nice tits and ok face.

How do I know if someone's being genuine or not???

Scared to meet incase they run a mile when I turn up!!!

I'm not posting this thread for abuse or sympathy just honest genuine advice please!

Would also love to try the club scene but I cannot even do a meet let alone a club!!!!!!

Help please

Don't worry about so called Gorgeous. Slim. Athletic people.

That's a myth.

Everybody is gorgeous in their own way.

The barbie dolls are not everybody's cup off tea.

Each to their own. But a lot off people prefer the fuller figure.

Try and relax.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I'm more attracted to a hot personality than anything, if you can keep me smiling, the sex will be amazing

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By *ittle_brat_evie!!Woman over a year ago

evesham

"I'm relatively new to this site....but being surrounded by gorgeous slim/athletic people is really knocking my confidence!!!

I came on here to boost it...but honestly feel worse!

I'm a large 18/20 wobbly baby belly...arse...and legs...ample nice tits and ok face.

How do I know if someone's being genuine or not???

Scared to meet incase they run a mile when I turn up!!!

I'm not posting this thread for abuse or sympathy just honest genuine advice please!

Would also love to try the club scene but I cannot even do a meet let alone a club!!!!!!

Help please

You're gorgeous. I'd definitely meet up with you

The only person who can help you is you really. No one can tell if someone's attention is truly genuine but do you know what...if you like them and want to fuck them then do so. It's just sex, not a marriage proposal so does it matter if you never see them again?

As for club scenes, many offer bbw nights and some run bbw socials (such as the one at chams next Sunday

) which could help to ease your worries about clubs.

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By *awandOrderCouple over a year ago

SW London

"Ohhh....and watch the ones who tell you your gorgeous...beautiful etc...when they havnt even seen your face.

No doubt you are a lovely looking lady, but dont be fooled by 'fake compliments', suss them out...some guys say anything to get a look in...

Hilarious but true, had one yesterday claiming I was gorgeous, and when I called him on it, apparently it was because of the shape of my arse ....

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By *allipygousMan over a year ago

Leicester

[Removed by poster at 27/03/16 16:42:38]

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By *allipygousMan over a year ago

Leicester

kittykat40, have some full body pics up that show you as you are, preferably unclothed, not just close-up ones of your tits and/or arse like a lot of fuller figured ladies do.

This way the men that contact you will know exactly what your body is like, and hopefully alleviate some of your concerns.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Got to agree with cassius. But from what I can see...and many others, you look an incredibly sexy lady....don't look to play on 1st dates....if someone is genuinely interested in YOU then they will be back for more....you look stunning x

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Hi sweets. I know how you feel as I'm the same but don't let it knock you. There really are some genuine people on here. You don't need to be skinny to be beautiful. I've luckily had some great meets with awesome guys and it really boosted me up. Don't get disheartened hun.

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By *limaxinnylonCouple over a year ago

CHESTER

Understand what you are saying but just remember even slim girls have no body confidence! It's took me a long time to like myself and to actually believe compliments. You need to love yourself for who you are, confidence is the sexiest!! If someone isn't very nice that's because they are not a nice person not because there is anything wrong with you! You are beautiful no matter what they say! (yes song lyrics ha!!)

Keep at it but make sure you realise there will be idiots!

Jayne xx

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By *ittlemisssassypantsCouple over a year ago

South East Wales

"kittykat40, have some full body pics up that show you as you are, preferably unclothed, not just close-up ones of your tits and/or arse like a lot of fuller figured ladies do.

This way the men that contact you will know exactly what your body is like, and hopefully alleviate some of your concerns."

Totally agree with this. I have full length body shots and stated my size on our profile so that the people looking at us, or considering meeting us, knows exactly what they're getting beforehand.

I don't want my body to be some nasty surprise for whoever meets us, so it's best to be clear and honest from the start.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Embrace your curves and wobbly bits confidence is sexy check out bbw nights at clubs definitely a confident booster x

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By *andLfromHertsCouple over a year ago

Hemel Hempstead

"I'm relatively new to this site....but being surrounded by gorgeous slim/athletic people is really knocking my confidence!!!

I came on here to boost it...but honestly feel worse!

I'm a large 18/20 wobbly baby belly...arse...and legs...ample nice tits and ok face.

How do I know if someone's being genuine or not???

Scared to meet incase they run a mile when I turn up!!!

I'm not posting this thread for abuse or sympathy just honest genuine advice please!

Would also love to try the club scene but I cannot even do a meet let alone a club!!!!!!

Help please

Hi. Why not try Club Tease, Alconbury, Cambridgeshire. They hold a BBW/Curvy Ladies Night every month or so. Think there is one next month. Have a look at the re_iews. Friendly people and no pressure. Also has an on-site hotel, if you are travelling a distance or need a few nerve-calming drinks!

A&L

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By *eavenscentitCouple over a year ago

barnstaple

Believe in yourself

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

The way I play it is I make sure my pics are totally honest no airbrushing or photoshop so that way when my meets turn up they no what they are getting. I've not yet had a meet who has been disappointed with my body or looks but I do have a few bodybags in my wardrobe hehehe. Have fun n chill xxx

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

You look stunning to us

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By *assycouple69Couple over a year ago

stone

Beautiful from one bbw to another xx

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By *ndykayMan over a year ago

Falkirk

Ok, so from what I can see on your profile, you've certainly nothing to be ashamed of

We all have stuff we don't like about ourselves but others will.

We should all learn to wear our scars/tiger stripes/baby bellies/ whatever we are insecure about as a badge of honour. It shows we have lived our lives

So chin up, live your life. Get chatting to some people. Use your spidey senses to find someone you like and get on with and then pluck up the courage to meet for a cuppa. What have you got to lose????

Good luck and don't let negative people get to you

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By *urviving48Woman over a year ago

new forest

I definitely would x am big lady and south coast love us xx

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I felt exactly the same sweetheart

I'm a big girl UK 26

And was overwhelmed at first with the replies I was getting

Seems like there a many more men who prefer something to hold than a bone to break

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I'm relatively new to this site....but being surrounded by gorgeous slim/athletic people is really knocking my confidence!!!

I came on here to boost it...but honestly feel worse!

I'm a large 18/20 wobbly baby belly...arse...and legs...ample nice tits and ok face.

How do I know if someone's being genuine or not???

Scared to meet incase they run a mile when I turn up!!!

I'm not posting this thread for abuse or sympathy just honest genuine advice please!

Would also love to try the club scene but I cannot even do a meet let alone a club!!!!!!

Help please

"
just had a perv at yous pics and i'd play with you

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I'm relatively new to this site....but being surrounded by gorgeous slim/athletic people is really knocking my confidence!!!

I came on here to boost it...but honestly feel worse!

I'm a large 18/20 wobbly baby belly...arse...and legs...ample nice tits and ok face.

How do I know if someone's being genuine or not???

Scared to meet incase they run a mile when I turn up!!!

I'm not posting this thread for abuse or sympathy just honest genuine advice please!

Would also love to try the club scene but I cannot even do a meet let alone a club!!!!!!

Help please

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I would play with you

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I'm relatively new to this site....but being surrounded by gorgeous slim/athletic people is really knocking my confidence!!!

I came on here to boost it...but honestly feel worse!

I'm a large 18/20 wobbly baby belly...arse...and legs...ample nice tits and ok face.

How do I know if someone's being genuine or not???

Scared to meet incase they run a mile when I turn up!!!

I'm not posting this thread for abuse or sympathy just honest genuine advice please!

Would also love to try the club scene but I cannot even do a meet let alone a club!!!!!!

Help please

I had a look at your pictures and I think your sexy! Me personally, I love bigger girls that have all of "life's" markings like strecthmarks, cellulite etc, it's turns me on! Lol! It also helps when you read people's profiles to find what they're into, also going to clubs that are BBW themed, will definitely get the right people attracted to you!

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By *ELLONS AND CREAMWoman over a year ago

stourbridge area

Hi hun ... im a large lady and I dont do too badly ...just set your standards as in the type of guy your looking for ...and stick to them ...there are some idiots on here ..so be careful ...I always go for well mannered guys ...no riff raff ...

Chat for a while ... have a social meet .... see if you like them .... if not .. NEXT!!!!

Men are like buses , there will be another one along in a minute

..have fun

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I felt exactly the same sweetheart

I'm a big girl UK 26

And was overwhelmed at first with the replies I was getting

Seems like there a many more men who prefer something to hold than a bone to break "

Can I ask why being slimmmer equals brittle bone syndrome?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Argh, why the hell do these threads always turn in to body shaming?!

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By *odareyouMan over a year ago

not far from iceland,,,,,, tescos is nearer though :-) (near leeds)

Folk who are comfortable in their own skin are generally confident... Confidence is a very powerful sexual attribute.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I'm relatively new to this site....but being surrounded by gorgeous slim/athletic people is really knocking my confidence!!!

I came on here to boost it...but honestly feel worse!

I'm a large 18/20 wobbly baby belly...arse...and legs...ample nice tits and ok face.

How do I know if someone's being genuine or not???

Scared to meet incase they run a mile when I turn up!!!

I'm not posting this thread for abuse or sympathy just honest genuine advice please!

Would also love to try the club scene but I cannot even do a meet let alone a club!!!!!!

Help please

Wow if you where closer I would come and meet you and you could have me when you like you are dam sexy

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By *he Ant Hill MobMan over a year ago

Norwich

"Ohhh....and watch the ones who tell you your gorgeous...beautiful etc...when they havnt even seen your face.

No doubt you are a lovely looking lady, but dont be fooled by 'fake compliments', suss them out...some guys say anything to get a look in...

********************************

Why do you have to see a perons face to categorize them as gorgeous.

Takes more than facial look for me to say gorgeous.

Personality counts much more to me than face and size.

Touch paper lit

As others have said OP is gorgeous

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Just watch out for those who see bbw as easy.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Loved this post, I'm feeling the same just now on here, it's been good reading all the replies.

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By *sxr600Man over a year ago

northamptonshire

You have nothing to feel insecure about! There are plenty of men that would love a curvy woman like you! Myself included

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By *requent_FerryersCouple over a year ago

Norwich to Great Yarmouth

"You have nothing to feel insecure about! There are plenty of men that would love a curvy woman like you! Myself included

Leaves me out of the running then?

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By *sxr600Man over a year ago

northamptonshire

"Leaves me out of the running then?

Lol nobody is leaving you out the more the merrier

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I felt exactly the same sweetheart

I'm a big girl UK 26

And was overwhelmed at first with the replies I was getting

Seems like there a many more men who prefer something to hold than a bone to break "

Seriously?? Ffs

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Sexiness comes from within and not related to weight. If you like yourself and feel confident you will exude sex appeal

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

And she's gone....

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Are you really suprised she has gone with some of the so called helpful advice that was offered start off nice then go in for the kill

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Are you really suprised she has gone with some of the so called helpful advice that was offered start off nice then go in for the kill "

Yeah I am surprised, I thought she had way more postive comments than negative.

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By *ELLONS AND CREAMWoman over a year ago

stourbridge area

Yeah ... me too ....

Hope she comes back

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I felt exactly the same sweetheart

I'm a big girl UK 26

And was overwhelmed at first with the replies I was getting

Seems like there a many more men who prefer something to hold than a bone to break "

No they dont prefer that, what do you expect its fabswingers lol...

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I felt exactly the same sweetheart

I'm a big girl UK 26

And was overwhelmed at first with the replies I was getting

Seems like there a many more men who prefer something to hold than a bone to break "
I don't get why people say that about different sizes... Although personally I think a huge majority of the guys that say they like bbw say it because they think we are going to be flattered.

Even overheard it at a bbw bash... They were quite happily telling the other guys That they loved the bbw bash as the ladies were easy.

By all means not all men think like that but I do find it hard to be convinced that a guy likes me at this size. ( currently a huge 22\24)

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By *iewMan over a year ago
Forum Mod

Angus & Findhorn

Oh well, wasn't for her

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By *ornyminx13Woman over a year ago

lurgan

Men love full figured woman i have been shocked how much and im alot bigger than u. It does b strange when i meet a man i think is perfect bodywise and i actally turn him on but every pot has a lid!!

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By *manda63Woman over a year ago

Southampton

I'm a bit late to this thread as the lady has gone but going by the comments she was lovely to look at. Im big and would hope that men don't see us bigger ladies as easy

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I'm a bit late to this thread as the lady has gone but going by the comments she was lovely to look at. Im big and would hope that men don't see us bigger ladies as easy "

she didn't have any pics where you could tell what she looked like...

yeah...

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Prob had that many messages from white knights saying they would fuck her it got to much for her and deleted. Well done fellas

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By *manda63Woman over a year ago

Southampton

"I'm a bit late to this thread as the lady has gone but going by the comments she was lovely to look at. Im big and would hope that men don't see us bigger ladies as easy

she didn't have any pics where you could tell what she looked like...

yeah..."

Oh that makes it difficult for the men then really.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I'm a bit late to this thread as the lady has gone but going by the comments she was lovely to look at. Im big and would hope that men don't see us bigger ladies as easy

she didn't have any pics where you could tell what she looked like...

yeah...

Oh that makes it difficult for the men then really. "

And kind of ironic because she asked this "How do I know if someone's being genuine or not???" in her OP.

I also think she left coz of the BS.

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By *odareyouMan over a year ago

not far from iceland,,,,,, tescos is nearer though :-) (near leeds)

I've no idea why she left. I doubt any of us do.

Whatever her reason.. hope she finds what' she's looking for.

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By *iewMan over a year ago
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Angus & Findhorn

Haven't read the thread but in the advice given, did anyone mention filters.

Before guys are positioned as the reason she left, maybe she realised this wasn't the place for her and any issues she may have.

It never fails to stun me than people need validation from others, but hey if it works for you

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Who cares why she left? Stop trying to analyse everything! Maybe she just thought "bollox" and closed her account.

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By *manda63Woman over a year ago

Southampton

"I'm a bit late to this thread as the lady has gone but going by the comments she was lovely to look at. Im big and would hope that men don't see us bigger ladies as easy

she didn't have any pics where you could tell what she looked like...

yeah...

Oh that makes it difficult for the men then really.

And kind of ironic because she asked this "How do I know if someone's being genuine or not???" in her OP.

I also think she left coz of the BS."

You don't know if someone is being genuine or not. Ive had a couple of those experiences luckily I've found a genuine man.

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By *allipygousMan over a year ago

Leicester

"Prob had that many messages from white knights saying they would fuck her it got to much for her and deleted. Well done fellas

You think therefore it is...?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I'm a bit late to this thread as the lady has gone but going by the comments she was lovely to look at. Im big and would hope that men don't see us bigger ladies as easy

she didn't have any pics where you could tell what she looked like...

yeah...

Oh that makes it difficult for the men then really.

And kind of ironic because she asked this "How do I know if someone's being genuine or not???" in her OP.

I also think she left coz of the BS.

You don't know if someone is being genuine or not. Ive had a couple of those experiences luckily I've found a genuine man. "

True. I cba any more with this site, or the internet for looking for people to meet up with now. Once people get what they want you don't hear from them again until a few weeks later and all they cba to to write is 'fun?'...this is the worst way ever to meet people.

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