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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Why on earth do you have a bum pic ? I should get rid of that or make it friends only. Yeah i know we have no photos at all on here but the bum pic is off putting in my opinion.
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By *lighty1Woman
over a year ago
You Dont Need to Know, right now |
Five dick-pics is 4 too many. ONE bumhole-pic is 1 too many, unless you're really bisexual, and hoping to appeal to men. Make your profile longer, and do a spell check to take out the text-speak. |
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haha well if his confidence wasn't shattered before it sure will be after reading these posts hahaha
Guys don't really know what "big" is when it comes to their own cocks. As long as it's bigger than their fist they think it's big (8inch) piss myself laughing. |
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Blimey making the cock pics public is big no no.As for the arsehole photo what on earth were you thinking as that should be private. You're best bet is to take some good quality face & body photo's for public showing & hide your cock |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"When people said 'bum pic', I presumed a regular bum pic. I didnt know I was going to be looking directly up an arsehole. Thanks for the warning."
I'm feeling relieved I read the whole thread before looking at the profile! |
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You have verifications off single guys which are hidden . A very unattractive close up photo of your ring piece and your profile is down as being straight . To us we would come to the conclusion you are bi . Honesty goes along way .
Really though compared to a lot of guys on here you seem to already be doing fine . |
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Thank u guys for feedback. I will take pic of arse i was d*unk an fr someones benifit whom asked fr it. However my cock size well iv never had any arguments frm ppl iv slept with. Anyway thanks fr feedback |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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" However my cock size well iv never had any arguments frm ppl iv slept with. Anyway thanks fr feedback"
Nobody said it's small or likely to draw complaints, but you describe it as 'big', in capital letters, no less... its completely average in length and marginally bigger than average in girth. I think women are generally expecting a see a 8.5-9 incher when a man says he has a "BIG COCK", not a 6 incher with a tiny bit of extra girth. |
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Hmm 6 cock pics.. noooooo ... rewrite the profile I think. Drop the big cock comment. I agree with what has been said.
good for you going to socials im sure it is the best way for people to get to know you. |
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By *issy louWoman
over a year ago
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"Thank u guys for feedback. I will take pic of arse i was d*unk an fr someones benifit whom asked fr it. However my cock size well iv never had any arguments frm ppl iv slept with. Anyway thanks fr feedback"
You really have to sort out that appalling spelling, grammar and ridiculous text speak! A large amount of ladies would delete a message like that without a second glance! |
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Thank you all for the fucked up posts. Im sorry for any misleads. If any on my profile. My cock size is about 8". If any of u that bothered meet an find out. Instead stop slagging folk off an meet them 1st. But thank you for the feedback i didnt ask for. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Thank you all for the fucked up posts. Im sorry for any misleads. If any on my profile. My cock size is about 8". If any of u that bothered meet an find out. Instead stop slagging folk off an meet them 1st. But thank you for the feedback i didnt ask for."
Go on then ill meet you for a pint and a game of pool. Ill use a cue and you can use your 8 incher  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Thank you all for the fucked up posts. Im sorry for any misleads. If any on my profile. My cock size is about 8". If any of u that bothered meet an find out. Instead stop slagging folk off an meet them 1st. But thank you for the feedback i didnt ask for."
This is what you are doing wrong, you asked the question for feedback but you get aggressive when people tell you.
I personally wouldn't chat to you due to all of the abbreviations you use on your profile. As for the bad grammar etc, maybe there is a reason for this, so maybe go back to the drawing board with your profile & take your time with it.
I'm also not a fan of verifications, especially not when they are all from the 'York Social' - they don't paint you in a great light so I would maybe suggest you hide them.
You assume that women on here only care about cock size & whether you love oral sex. We are human, and like to be treated as humans. If you aren't getting meets, I would say that maybe it's the messages you are sending to women that are failing, as well as your profile.
Try to be nice in them, ask about the woman you are messaging, rather than talking about yourself all of the time. Try not to sound too desperate, as if you aren't getting meets, maybe this comes across to the person you are chatting to.
And most of all, don't get aggressive or defensive.
Women on here are all different, but I'd say the one common theme is that we get a lot of messages - so try to stand out from the crowd.
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"Thank you all for the fucked up posts. Im sorry for any misleads. If any on my profile. My cock size is about 8". If any of u that bothered meet an find out. Instead stop slagging folk off an meet them 1st. But thank you for the feedback i didnt ask for."
Poor attitude op. Don't post if you can't deal with the replies  |
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By *ezebelWoman
over a year ago
North of The Wall - youll need your vest |
Ive removed posts, the guy asked for feedback on his profile not insults.
Some people really do seem to think that just because someone asks for comments on their profile then the gloves are off and its ok to be nasty. Really doesnt make nice reading  |
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As for people criticising his appearance that's your opinion and trust me not everyone will think your perfect .
Also people criticising his spelling and or punctuation . Some people have problems with this sort of thing . And before people jump on the band wagon and say there is such a thing as spell check ect ect it doesn't help people that might not understand it .
Being dyslexic it boils my piss when I see people slating people about it .
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"As for people criticising his appearance that's your opinion and trust me not everyone will think your perfect .
Also people criticising his spelling and or punctuation . Some people have problems with this sort of thing . And before people jump on the band wagon and say there is such a thing as spell check ect ect it doesn't help people that might not understand it .
Being dyslexic it boils my piss when I see people slating people about it .
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thank you happy swinging.x |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Ive removed posts, the guy asked for feedback on his profile not insults.
Some people really do seem to think that just because someone asks for comments on their profile then the gloves are off and its ok to be nasty. Really doesnt make nice reading "
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"Ive removed posts, the guy asked for feedback on his profile not insults.
Some people really do seem to think that just because someone asks for comments on their profile then the gloves are off and its ok to be nasty. Really doesnt make nice reading "
I agree.
Any newbie reading this thread would probably be put off posting on the forum. |
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"Spell checker is your friend.It highlights the mistakes both on phone and computer. "
True spell checker can be your friend but not if you can't understand it . What is peoples obsession with spelling does not being able to spell or punctuate very good mean you can't fuck or don't deserve to be here ?!?  |
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"Five dick-pics is 4 too many. ONE bumhole-pic is 1 too many, unless you're really bisexual, and hoping to appeal to men. Make your profile longer, and do a spell check to take out the text-speak."
pic = text speak
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By *itSamCouple
over a year ago
Birmingham |
In our opinion your profile says you are new to this yet you joined over a year ago, you have veris from a while ago so those make us believe that you are not as new to this as you say. The veris all appear to be from the same place and from people with spelling problems, looking at your profile and the veris we did think that you may be the owner of multiple accounts and verifying yourself. If the verifications are real and they do think you are a great guy why not ask them to assist with the spelling on the profile. To us it looks a little bit sus and the angry response about the comments came over a bit scary.
Good luck but you need to sort a few things and the text speak is not good. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Thank you all for the fucked up posts. Im sorry for any misleads. If any on my profile. My cock size is about 8". If any of u that bothered meet an find out. Instead stop slagging folk off an meet them 1st. But thank you for the feedback i didnt ask for.
This is what you are doing wrong, you asked the question for feedback but you get aggressive when people tell you.
I personally wouldn't chat to you due to all of the abbreviations you use on your profile. As for the bad grammar etc, maybe there is a reason for this, so maybe go back to the drawing board with your profile & take your time with it.
I'm also not a fan of verifications, especially not when they are all from the 'York Social' - they don't paint you in a great light so I would maybe suggest you hide them.
You assume that women on here only care about cock size & whether you love oral sex. We are human, and like to be treated as humans. If you aren't getting meets, I would say that maybe it's the messages you are sending to women that are failing, as well as your profile.
Try to be nice in them, ask about the woman you are messaging, rather than talking about yourself all of the time. Try not to sound too desperate, as if you aren't getting meets, maybe this comes across to the person you are chatting to.
And most of all, don't get aggressive or defensive.
Women on here are all different, but I'd say the one common theme is that we get a lot of messages - so try to stand out from the crowd.
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hey saffy love your avatar pic thanks for sharing        |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Hi iv been verified by loads. Try to arrange socials etc but get no response watso ever. So wat am i doing wrong????"
I could propose the answer but you wouldnt believe me..
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Hi iv been verified by loads. Try to arrange socials etc but get no response watso ever. So wat am i doing wrong????I could propose the answer but you wouldnt believe me.."
You're not considering sharing the giraffe theory, are you? |
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By *ost SockMan
over a year ago
West Wales and Cardiff |
Geoff, you've had a fair amount of stick, but putting your starfish on display and the BIG comment was inevitably going to cause that. You did leave yourself wide open (in more ways than one)  .
Having looked at the green arrow, you've posted about being somewhere at a certain time/date. A lot. You've also included your own requests in other people's threads (annoying). That's speculative at best and I'm wondering if women are using the arrow and concluding you're a bit, well...desperate really. I'm sure you're not, but that might be the perception.
I'm a bloke (obviously), but it does make me suspect you're firing off lots of messages without focusing on the odd women where you really match what they're after. I might well be wrong, but the point is that's what I concluded.
You seem to have made a really good impression at socials, which puts you way ahead of most guys. I would have thought that focusing on developing this network and being known is the way forward. Surely better to do that in your own area though - most veris are from a place more than two hours from where you live?
You're definitely losing appeal because of the spelling too. I get it when people say it's no indication of how good they are in the sack, but it makes profiles harder to read and comes across as slapdash. It's a competitive market and when women have hundreds of messages, your profile will inevitably suffer next to a well-written one. It's the way it is. Maybe take more time and get a friend to look over messages.
Oh, and honestly - get away from the idea that your "big" cock is a good selling point. It isn't for most women, especially when it's in block capitals and rightly or wrongly the photos don't, erm, "do its size justice" |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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We thought you were part yeti 
(We haven't forgotten about that message, you will get a reply, honestly!!)
Back on subject, OP you come across as pissed off and entitled, blazing people for giving advice will get you nowhere.
attending socials won't instantly make people want to sleep with you, while you are there you have to make a lasting impression, you have to be the guy that the couple talk about on the trip home and want to see again.
Attention to detail on your profile and some decent pics (alluring, mysterious or down right hot) are the way to get noticed on here, polite/humourous/intelligent messages that include something to show you've bothered to read their profile helps as well.
Most people won't go out of their way to be nasty but you've gotta be able to take a bit of constructive criticism if you want to improve your profile, it already looks a ton better from the other day.
M&M |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I'm a bloke (obviously)
We thought you were part yeti
(We haven't forgotten about that message, you will get a reply, honestly!!)
Back on subject, OP you come across as pissed off and entitled, blazing people for giving advice will get you nowhere.
attending socials won't instantly make people want to sleep with you, while you are there you have to make a lasting impression, you have to be the guy that the couple talk about on the trip home and want to see again.
Attention to detail on your profile and some decent pics (alluring, mysterious or down right hot) are the way to get noticed on here, polite/humourous/intelligent messages that include something to show you've bothered to read their profile helps as well.
Most people won't go out of their way to be nasty but you've gotta be able to take a bit of constructive criticism if you want to improve your profile, it already looks a ton better from the other day.
M&M"
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By *ost SockMan
over a year ago
West Wales and Cardiff |
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I'm a bloke (obviously)
We thought you were part yeti
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Cheeky buggers...........I'm all yeti, and proud of it.
I so wanted to put the word "all" in block capitals (and "so" for that matter!).
Yeah, hurry up with that bloody message - it gets lonely and boring in the ice and snows of the high Himalayas!
Seriously - no rush at all! |
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Hi All, Well this profile is a new way to find people who like to meet, it has everything ..cock photos, bad spelling, misleading (big cock) text talk
..but then the guy has met..so all the other profile advice given on the forum must be wrong..connie xx |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Hi All, Well this profile is a new way to find people who like to meet, it has everything ..cock photos, bad spelling, misleading (big cock) text talk
..but then the guy has met..so all the other profile advice given on the forum must be wrong..connie xx "
He doesn't appear to have met them for sex though nor for a social between him and then. They are all either from a organised socials and one where he visited people in hospital. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Reading your veris youre clearly a great bloke to hang out with but they make you wonder why no one then jumped your bones.
Perhaps hiding the actual veris and just leaving the summary will look better. A little misleading but then so is a wonder bra |
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"Hi All, Well this profile is a new way to find people who like to meet, it has everything ..cock photos, bad spelling, misleading (big cock) text talk
..but then the guy has met..so all the other profile advice given on the forum must be wrong..connie xx
He doesn't appear to have met them for sex though nor for a social between him and then. They are all either from a organised socials and one where he visited people in hospital. "
yep but he has made the effort to attend socials ..next step is up to the people he met..connie x |
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By *abioMan
over a year ago
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"Thank you all for the fucked up posts. Im sorry for any misleads. If any on my profile. My cock size is about 8". If any of u that bothered meet an find out. Instead stop slagging folk off an meet them 1st. But thank you for the feedback i didnt ask for."
well you did ask "what was going wrong?".... and people have been honest with the replies (a bit to brutally honest for your liking)
here something my gran said..... "never ask a question if you are not going to like the answer to it!"
you opened that door.... no one else!
seem like we have a "basic common sense" issue.... what made you think an arsehole pic would have people drooling???? and being d*unk isn't an excuse...(maybe being more sober is the answer)
people have given you solutions to help.... use them.... |
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"Thank you all for the fucked up posts. Im sorry for any misleads. If any on my profile. My cock size is about 8". If any of u that bothered meet an find out. Instead stop slagging folk off an meet them 1st. But thank you for the feedback i didnt ask for.
well you did ask "what was going wrong?".... and people have been honest with the replies (a bit to brutally honest for your liking)
here something my gran said..... "never ask a question if you are not going to like the answer to it!"
you opened that door.... no one else!
seem like we have a "basic common sense" issue.... what made you think an arsehole pic would have people drooling???? and being d*unk isn't an excuse...(maybe being more sober is the answer)
people have given you solutions to help.... use them...."
hi thanks i know i was abit harsh. That arse pic was for the benefit of someone on here who asked for it. Now we both text through watsap. Actualy the critism has been very helpful. Ive now updated my profile. So hopefully that will help. Thanks all . Happy swinging. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Ive removed posts, the guy asked for feedback on his profile not insults.
Some people really do seem to think that just because someone asks for comments on their profile then the gloves are off and its ok to be nasty. Really doesnt make nice reading "
this is why I don't really post any threads, I did on or two when I first joined an got the fab lynch mob treatment, got a few nasty messages as well, even some actual name calling lol |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Thank you all for the fucked up posts. Im sorry for any misleads. If any on my profile. My cock size is about 8". If any of u that bothered meet an find out. Instead stop slagging folk off an meet them 1st. But thank you for the feedback i didnt ask for.
well you did ask "what was going wrong?".... and people have been honest with the replies (a bit to brutally honest for your liking)
here something my gran said..... "never ask a question if you are not going to like the answer to it!"
you opened that door.... no one else!
seem like we have a "basic common sense" issue.... what made you think an arsehole pic would have people drooling???? and being d*unk isn't an excuse...(maybe being more sober is the answer)
people have given you solutions to help.... use them....
hi thanks i know i was abit harsh. That arse pic was for the benefit of someone on here who asked for it. Now we both text through watsap. Actualy the critism has been very helpful. Ive now updated my profile. So hopefully that will help. Thanks all . Happy swinging."
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"What on EARTH possessed you to think that anyone would find an extreme close up of your arsehole remotely attractive??? The mind, on this site, really does boggle!! "
Oh lord this comment really did make me laugh :D |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Well OP. Reading the comments you do seem to have taken some of the advice on board so well done. I do really doubt your cock is 8" tho. Wether it is or not is of no consequence.....people will judge that for themselves but many find stating size as being boastful or insecure.
You have clearly been attending socials and are well verified....great move!
I just wonder what you are doing wrong there tho as these are ideal places to meet people and to arrange proper meets? Are you doing/saying something that puts people off? |
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"Well OP. Reading the comments you do seem to have taken some of the advice on board so well done. I do really doubt your cock is 8" tho. Wether it is or not is of no consequence.....people will judge that for themselves but many find stating size as being boastful or insecure.
You have clearly been attending socials and are well verified....great move!
I just wonder what you are doing wrong there tho as these are ideal places to meet people and to arrange proper meets? Are you doing/saying something that puts people off?"
im not sure. Maybe my looks or im not much in common with many people. |
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