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Well, not sure what you're doing in private but there's room for improvement on your profile.
More text about what you want - keep it short, sweet and positive.
More photos... but not cock pics pls.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Face pic is alrightish but the only other public pic you have is one of you where you have cropped out some people from some event you attended at some point... (Gonna take a guess at a wedding?)
More pics, body shots but be mysterious and pick shots that don't give everything away etc etc.
Profile needs beefing out with likes, dislikes, meeting schedule, what you can offer, any boundries etc etc
Get yourself out to a local social if you don't want to hit he club scene, it's just like a night out but it'll get you noticed and into a potential social circle, it also goes a long way to prove you will meet and you're not just a fantasist/dreamer.
Done!
M&M
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By *issy louWoman
over a year ago
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Your profile is 4 lines long, which doesn't indicate that much effort has been made. Also, sort out your sexuality - if you are wanting to meet TV/TS then you are bi-curious at the very least! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"And advertising for a "smoke and chill" won't do you any favours.
Even if it's just cigarettes, but we all know that "smoke and chill" tends to refer to drugs and for 90% on here, that's a no no."
I thought it was 92% ?  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"And advertising for a "smoke and chill" won't do you any favours.
Even if it's just cigarettes, but we all know that "smoke and chill" tends to refer to drugs and for 90% on here, that's a no no.
I thought it was 92% ? "
Just lately it seems every one is smoking cannabis apart from me
I also noted whenever people usually kids smoke in telly it's cannabis as well
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Give up and try plenty of fish. Been here a while and the hits are few and the miss are plenty. You will find plenty that say they are looking for fun or what ever but in reality it's vanity and there is no meet.
Maybe I will be shouted down but you will find out for yourself.
Self importance,vanity and false contacts abound here. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Your profile is 4 lines long, which doesn't indicate that much effort has been made. Also, sort out your sexuality - if you are wanting to meet TV/TS then you are bi-curious at the very least!"
it does not matter how long the profile is, very little if any notice is taken of it. No matter how hard you try you will not get anywhere.
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"Give up and try plenty of fish. Been here a while and the hits are few and the miss are plenty. You will find plenty that say they are looking for fun or what ever but in reality it's vanity and there is no meet.
Maybe I will be shouted down but you will find out for yourself.
Self importance,vanity and false contacts abound here."
Slagging off other Fab users reeks of bitterness and will further impoverish the bleak time you've clearly been having on the site, especially if they read these posts... |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Give up and try plenty of fish. Been here a while and the hits are few and the miss are plenty. You will find plenty that say they are looking for fun or what ever but in reality it's vanity and there is no meet.
Maybe I will be shouted down but you will find out for yourself.
Self importance,vanity and false contacts abound here.
Slagging off other Fab users reeks of bitterness and will further impoverish the bleak time you've clearly been having on the site, especially if they read these posts..."
no not bitterness, been there done that, Just putting the facts into place. why make promises to the guy that we know are not if rarely going to be kept. Look at the amount of meets you have had, lol. Reality strikes and the sense will be forth coming.
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"Give up and try plenty of fish. Been here a while and the hits are few and the miss are plenty. You will find plenty that say they are looking for fun or what ever but in reality it's vanity and there is no meet.
Maybe I will be shouted down but you will find out for yourself.
Self importance,vanity and false contacts abound here.
Slagging off other Fab users reeks of bitterness and will further impoverish the bleak time you've clearly been having on the site, especially if they read these posts...
no not bitterness, been there done that, Just putting the facts into place. why make promises to the guy that we know are not if rarely going to be kept. Look at the amount of meets you have had, lol. Reality strikes and the sense will be forth coming.
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If you are posting your response to Gordon Bennett, then I don't get it.
He's got loads of veris, they might not be recent, but on the other hand if he's had more more recent ones then they may be hidden...  |
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"Give up and try plenty of fish. Been here a while and the hits are few and the miss are plenty. You will find plenty that say they are looking for fun or what ever but in reality it's vanity and there is no meet.
Maybe I will be shouted down but you will find out for yourself.
Self importance,vanity and false contacts abound here.
Slagging off other Fab users reeks of bitterness and will further impoverish the bleak time you've clearly been having on the site, especially if they read these posts...
no not bitterness, been there done that, Just putting the facts into place. why make promises to the guy that we know are not if rarely going to be kept. Look at the amount of meets you have had, lol. Reality strikes and the sense will be forth coming.
If you are posting your response to Gordon Bennett, then I don't get it.
He's got loads of veris, they might not be recent, but on the other hand if he's had more more recent ones then they may be hidden... "
I couldn't make any sense at all of his posting, especially the last sentence. |
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By *icpl81Couple
over a year ago
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"Your profile is 4 lines long, which doesn't indicate that much effort has been made. Also, sort out your sexuality - if you are wanting to meet TV/TS then you are bi-curious at the very least!"
My thoughts exactly!  |
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By *izzy.Woman
over a year ago
Stoke area |
"Give up and try plenty of fish. Been here a while and the hits are few and the miss are plenty. You will find plenty that say they are looking for fun or what ever but in reality it's vanity and there is no meet.
Maybe I will be shouted down but you will find out for yourself.
Self importance,vanity and false contacts abound here."
I think I might shout you down.
You can't give an accurate view of people's chance of meeting since your own profile is the usual mix of cock only pics and very little text. IF you have read the regular posts about people struggling to get meets, why don't you improve your own chances and stop suggesting others quit. 
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I just declined a meet in the nicest way possible and got blocked lmao. Had been talking for the last few days. Anyway, got to the meet t&c's, woman could accommodate but not travel, so I thought, yeah ok I'm still interested. I said, "Who do you live with." Woman replied, "Two male lodgers." So I respectfully said, "No thanks, that's not for me but good luck, no hard feelings."
What would you have done?
I have other potential meets going on but I'm just looking for people's opinion and feedback on this situation. |
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By *LCCCouple
over a year ago
Cambridge |
"I just declined a meet in the nicest way possible and got blocked lmao. Had been talking for the last few days. Anyway, got to the meet t&c's, woman could accommodate but not travel, so I thought, yeah ok I'm still interested. I said, "Who do you live with." Woman replied, "Two male lodgers." So I respectfully said, "No thanks, that's not for me but good luck, no hard feelings."
What would you have done?
I have other potential meets going on but I'm just looking for people's opinion and feedback on this situation. "
Why would you decline because of that?  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Just seemed a bit weird that there'd be two male lodgers lerking around whilst I'm there for a good time with just her.
Apologies for bringing this up on your thread OP |
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By *LCCCouple
over a year ago
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"Just seemed a bit weird that there'd be two male lodgers lerking around whilst I'm there for a good time with just her.
Apologies for bringing this up on your thread OP"
Or they might have been down the pub? If they just live together what difference does it make? You think she gets her knickers in a twist if one of them brought home a one night stand? Its not the choice I would have made, but everyone choses their own path in life. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I understand what you saying, totally. Let's say you was going for your first meet to a mans home and he had two female lodgers... What's your outlook on that?.. |
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By *LCCCouple
over a year ago
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"I understand what you saying, totally. Let's say you was going for your first meet to a mans home and he had two female lodgers... What's your outlook on that?.."
Exactly the same. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I understand what you saying, totally. Let's say you was going for your first meet to a mans home and he had two female lodgers... What's your outlook on that?..
Exactly the same. "
No visible verifications and wasn't to confident on the pic sharing front so just seemed a bit dodgy to me. I should imagine different people would have different views on it.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I understand what you saying, totally. Let's say you was going for your first meet to a mans home and he had two female lodgers... What's your outlook on that?.."
Im guessing you never went to university lol.
Lots of students in house shares was hilarious |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I understand what you saying, totally. Let's say you was going for your first meet to a mans home and he had two female lodgers... What's your outlook on that?..
Im guessing you never went to university lol.
Lots of students in house shares was hilarious"
University would be a different scenario completely. It just seemed dodgy mate, as if something wasn't right. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I understand what you saying, totally. Let's say you was going for your first meet to a mans home and he had two female lodgers... What's your outlook on that?..
Im guessing you never went to university lol.
Lots of students in house shares was hilarious
University would be a different scenario completely. It just seemed dodgy mate, as if something wasn't right. "
She wanted me to fuck her with my Jason mask on Lool |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I understand what you saying, totally. Let's say you was going for your first meet to a mans home and he had two female lodgers... What's your outlook on that?..
Im guessing you never went to university lol.
Lots of students in house shares was hilarious
University would be a different scenario completely. It just seemed dodgy mate, as if something wasn't right. "
Its sex with 2 flatmates who may or may not be in.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I understand what you saying, totally. Let's say you was going for your first meet to a mans home and he had two female lodgers... What's your outlook on that?..
Im guessing you never went to university lol.
Lots of students in house shares was hilarious
University would be a different scenario completely. It just seemed dodgy mate, as if something wasn't right.
She wanted me to fuck her with my Jason mask on Lool "
Errm ok.
Why not just take her to yours since youve got your own place? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I understand what you saying, totally. Let's say you was going for your first meet to a mans home and he had two female lodgers... What's your outlook on that?..
Im guessing you never went to university lol.
Lots of students in house shares was hilarious
University would be a different scenario completely. It just seemed dodgy mate, as if something wasn't right.
Its sex with 2 flatmates who may or may not be in.
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True. I suppose I just wanted her to myself for the first meet, with no interruptions. Maybe I should of suggested a hotel instead. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I understand what you saying, totally. Let's say you was going for your first meet to a mans home and he had two female lodgers... What's your outlook on that?..
Im guessing you never went to university lol.
Lots of students in house shares was hilarious
University would be a different scenario completely. It just seemed dodgy mate, as if something wasn't right.
Its sex with 2 flatmates who may or may not be in.
True. I suppose I just wanted her to myself for the first meet, with no interruptions. Maybe I should of suggested a hotel instead. "
If your flat mate had a girl over you're saying youd interupt them?
Theyre lodgers they'll keep out rhe way or ahe can just throw them out |
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"I understand what you saying, totally. Let's say you was going for your first meet to a mans home and he had two female lodgers... What's your outlook on that?..
Im guessing you never went to university lol.
Lots of students in house shares was hilarious
University would be a different scenario completely. It just seemed dodgy mate, as if something wasn't right.
Its sex with 2 flatmates who may or may not be in.
True. I suppose I just wanted her to myself for the first meet, with no interruptions. Maybe I should of suggested a hotel instead.
If your flat mate had a girl over you're saying youd interupt them?
Theyre lodgers they'll keep out rhe way or ahe can just throw them out"
Would I fuck interrupt them, I'd be straight out the door Lool
Thanks for your opinion dude, you're right |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Can anyone give mine a look please "
Ok, first ditch the homophobic status that wont do you any favours.
use paragraphs its a pain in the arse to read a big block of text.
Pics get a few more "normal" ones the back shot in the gym is good torso and bums work well.
Youre a 30 year old man no one gives a shit if you had a hard time in school that was 17 years ago ditch it.
Dont whine about being asian and not getting meets because of it.
And "i can beat it up good for you" is not a sexy way to describe sex.
Stop trying to write as if its something you'd say infront of your "gangster" mates but instead something thats actually written for the women you want to meet.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Couldn't have said it in better I reckon you hit bang on ill have a good go at it again. Thanks
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One tip read it as if your a stranger and then try to think of a message youd send youself.
If you can't think of anything interesting from the profile to write about in the message you know you have to add something.
Just little things not nessecerily sexual, hobbies, interests anything somone cpuld make a light hearted ice breaker joke from to make it easier for them to write to you.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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To single guys whose profiles are not getting noticed, take a look at the profiles of guys who are well verified, and see what they do differently. Also Wolf Rider, who has been giving some of the profile advise on this thread, has a seriously good profile. That's the type of profile that I would respond to, instead of of a profile that says very little and is much the same as everybody else's profile. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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To the guys who can't get noticed;
Shave
Apply makeup
Pop a frock or a short skirt on
High heels
Wig
Perfume
Sort through the wide ranging offers from;
Guys
Girls
Couples
And then enjoy 
Works for me |
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"To the guys who can't get noticed;
Shave
Apply makeup
Pop a frock or a short skirt on
High heels
Wig
Perfume
Sort through the wide ranging offers from;
Guys
Girls
Couples
And then enjoy
Works for me "
Hmmmmmm...... |
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thanks 