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By *lwaysup4it69 OP Couple over a year ago

Kirkby in Ashfield

I would never send an abusive message to someone who only plays safe, so why is it some people think its OK to do this to people who play bareback?

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By *alandNitaCouple over a year ago

Scunthorpe

Sadly some people think it is acceptable to be rude.

You have to be fairly thick skinned to openly BB on Fab.

I would advise that you report the abuse to admin and promptly block them.

We may not agree with the way others choose to do things, but we wouldn't be rude or abusive.

Nita

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By *icecouple561Couple over a year ago
Forum Mod

East Sussex

Nothing enrages people more than bareback sex and lots of them fail to understand that people being honest about it actually helps make informed decisions.

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By *inaTitzTV/TS over a year ago

Titz Towers, North Notts

"Nothing enrages people more than bareback sex and lots of them fail to understand that people being honest about it actually helps make informed decisions.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I would never send an abusive message to someone who only plays safe, so why is it some people think its OK to do this to people who play bareback?"

Too many people think they can say whatever they like from behind the keyboard.

Report and block.

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By *alandNitaCouple over a year ago

Scunthorpe

"Nothing enrages people more than bareback sex and lots of them fail to understand that people being honest about it actually helps make informed decisions.

(we could do with that "like" button)

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By *udistnorthantsMan over a year ago

Desborough

"Nothing enrages people more than bareback sex and lots of them fail to understand that people being honest about it actually helps make informed decisions.

(we could do with that "like" button)"

Indeed

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By *MaleMan over a year ago

"I would never send an abusive message to someone who only plays safe, so why is it some people think its OK to do this to people who play bareback?"

The same people will give s#it to anyone online about anything when the opportunity arises. They're rarely the the same in person

Reading and watching a fleet of them soon spells out they are amazing, their way of living is the way to go and everyone else's ways & existence is questionable subject to their criticism

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

As said some people think that it's ok to be horrible to others just because they might not be for them. Just delete and block!!

Stuff like that annoys me because even though BB is not for us we see it as if that's what people are into that's fair enough. As long as all parties are willing and know then crack on!

You would have thought considering swinging isn't "normal life" people would be open minded to other people's kinks but unfortunately that's not true and there still very closed book

Just ignore them, carry on and enjoy yourselves is what we say

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I think you should be open about your sexual preference helps us all feel comfortable choosing meets and friends. Shame everyone is not as open !

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I think there is no reason to be nasty to people for things that don't effect you what so ever x

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By *ungBlackTopMan over a year ago

salford

OP they're just frustrated as they want it and can't get it so abuse those that are loving it.

Their abusive messages should just be water off a ducks back!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I would never send an abusive message to someone who only plays safe, so why is it some people think its OK to do this to people who play bareback?"

Because even though we are all adults on a supposedly liberated swinging site there is a small minority who aren't as open minded, who don't like it when others choose a different pathway and who get off on giving out shite just because!! Report and block would be my advice

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By *hocko87Man over a year ago

dublin

Just show them d boat n don't mind them just do ur own thing . When I was with women some hated condoms but I was only with them no one else n we played bareback . But not all women want that n u have to trust ur partner if ur going bareback . Don't mind what others think .

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By *lwaysup4it69 OP Couple over a year ago

Kirkby in Ashfield

This time it's not us who had the message it's a friend on her who is honest on her profile about what she does. Although I did get a message well more of a sermon from a single guy, clearly not brave enough to say it on an open forum for all to see

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

You can't post PM on here anyway else you'll get a forum ban.

There's a report button for abusive PMs, report them.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I've got a question referring to unprotected sex and mean no malice when I ask it

Doesn't it worry you guys who do it ?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I've got a question referring to unprotected sex and mean no malice when I ask it

Doesn't it worry you guys who do it ?"

Does it worry you? And if so why?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

We have played bare but it's with couples and 1 guy we have known 7 years and who like us get tested every 3 months. We do get a little fed up with those members that choose to be so judgemental but just accept they are entitled to thier opinions.

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By *uited staffs guyMan over a year ago

staffordshire

"I've got a question referring to unprotected sex and mean no malice when I ask it

Doesn't it worry you guys who do it ?"

I suspect not, do most people who smoke, are overweight etc look worried? even though there's huge evidence that those things are a major mortality risk way higher than even attending bareback creampie gangbangs (not something I'd advocate by the way)

Humans have an ability to rationalise risk, risk always appears worse to those not taking that risk (eg non smokers often persevere smoking risk higher than smokers do etc)

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I've only used a condom on a couple of occasions and in all that time, I've never had any STI's and only had one pregnancy scare.

That said, the people I fuck with, I generally know well enough to know I can. If meeting as a couple on here, we'll insist the guy wears one.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

The bareback topic provides a very useful service for some who feel their own sexual inclinations will be generally frowned upon.

It allows them to feel superior.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"The bareback topic provides a very useful service for some who feel their own sexual inclinations will be generally frowned upon.

It allows them to feel superior. "

Agreed, I think bareback between two couples who are both getting tested and not having other partners is probably safer than people who go shag and the whole of cap d'agde... but use a condom (which can break, come off and could never stop genital warts to start with).

Let's all just be honest and non-judgemental so people can make informed decisions.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

report them and block

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I've only used a condom on a couple of occasions and in all that time, I've never had any STI's and only had one pregnancy scare.

That said, the people I fuck with, I generally know well enough to know I can. If meeting as a couple on here, we'll insist the guy wears one."

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By *lwaysup4it69 OP Couple over a year ago

Kirkby in Ashfield

"I've got a question referring to unprotected sex and mean no malice when I ask it

Doesn't it worry you guys who do it ?"

Of course there can be an element of worry, we don't meet loads of people and we know the risks involved. It is just something we really enjoy

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

We don't play bare with anyone but ourselves… but it does bug me when people rip into others when they express a like of bareback sex. Just because a single or couple wants to play bare it doesn't mean their not being careful elsewhere. Each to their own I say don't judge people because the way they play.

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By *otgirl32Woman over a year ago

Ashton Under Lyne

"I would never send an abusive message to someone who only plays safe, so why is it some people think its OK to do this to people who play bareback?"

That's 100% right

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I would never send an abusive message to someone who only plays safe, so why is it some people think its OK to do this to people who play bareback?"
its because they are worried for your health and the others you meet but its your life your choices fuck em and carry on as you were

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

opinions are like assholes there are many

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By *mallteaserWoman over a year ago

Central

I enjoy it, if it's not your thing then fine, leave me be x

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"opinions are like assholes there are many

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couldn't agree more colonically irrigated ones I hope

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By *otgirl32Woman over a year ago

Ashton Under Lyne

"I enjoy it, if it's not your thing then fine, leave me be x"

Definitely me too

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I would never send an abusive message to someone who only plays safe, so why is it some people think its OK to do this to people who play bareback?"

People use any excuse to be nasty here, I've had a couple of nasty messages regarding my size and also for the fact I'm married.

I take it with a pinch of salt and try not to dwell on it xx

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By *adysueandneroCouple over a year ago

witney

"I enjoy it, if it's not your thing then fine, leave me be x

Definitely me too"

And us.

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By *razedcatMan over a year ago

London / Herts

There's enough people on here who enjoy it to justify including "bareback" as an interests option, I think.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I think there's more people on fab who go bareback than openly admit it. I've seen people absolutely slating others for daring to utter that they do then when you look at their pics and there's black and white guys entering her without condoms!

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By *otgirl32Woman over a year ago

Ashton Under Lyne

"I think there's more people on fab who go bareback than openly admit it. I've seen people absolutely slating others for daring to utter that they do then when you look at their pics and there's black and white guys entering her without condoms!"

That's called hypocrisy

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By *razedcatMan over a year ago

London / Herts

Totally agree, but does the colour of the bare cock matter? :p

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

What a refreshing post...

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By *cotbbtopMan over a year ago

Glasgow

I agree. Sheer hypocrisy

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Totally agree, but does the colour of the bare cock matter? :p"

i would like a orange cock its my favourite colour

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By *osieWoman over a year ago

Wembley

Russian Roulette. I have been waiting to be the first to say it on a bareback thread for a while

OP, they are rude because they are cowards behind keyboards. Nothing wrong with bareback as long as others, who don't, are aware and can make an informed decision, whatever that decision may be

Personally, it does not bother me if someone has bareback or safe sex with others as long as when having sex with me, a condom is used

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By *lirty_dirtyCouple over a year ago

Lingfield

Bareback is personal choice. We have played bare before and adore how good it feels & looks. Yes it's a risk but for us well worth it to fulfill a particular fantasy

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I love fucking any hole thats filled with other guys cum and i dont think there is a better feeling than having other guys cum dribble over my cock as i fuck a pussy or ass

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By *eavenscentitCouple over a year ago

barnstaple

We play together bareback, and we wouldn't fuck each other any other way.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I would never send an abusive message to someone who only plays safe, so why is it some people think its OK to do this to people who play bareback?

People use any excuse to be nasty here, I've had a couple of nasty messages regarding my size and also for the fact I'm married.

I take it with a pinch of salt and try not to dwell on it xx "

This actually bothers me. When men are rude to women about their size. Most men get bitchy when a woman makes a comment about their "size" usually being that it's small lol.

A woman who is ugly in your eyes can be beautiful in the eyes of many. Shouldn't have to take it at all. Next time you start talking about their size too

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By *otwife and MeCouple over a year ago

Hove

We where children of the 80s so pre Aids we always fucked bareback

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By *MaleMan over a year ago

There's only one bareback situation some minds can imagine. That is masses of complete strangers fucking complete strangers that fuck masses of complete strangers bareback regardless of anything

For certain some people meet each other and no other for the sole reason of BB fun. There's plenty of seriously selective couples/females who hunt out a worthy, reliable, trusted male friend for such regular fun.

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By *rs-Naughty_Mr-CuddlesCouple over a year ago

Nr coleford

We love bb I know on profile says we also play safe

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I would never send an abusive message to someone who only plays safe, so why is it some people think its OK to do this to people who play bareback?"

Because they feel that those who do it are putting the health of other people far more at risk than if they used protection? Kinda obvious really

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By *ervent_fervourMan over a year ago

Halifax

As long as everything is consensual between adults in their right minds then yes, it's nobody else's business is it!

Unless it's put up for discussion, but even then there's a line between disagreeing and judging(or sending nasty messages).

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Fuck them

What you have to remember all the men on here who say bb is a total no no and won't do it etc are only saying it to try and appeal to potential meets.

give them a pussy and no condoms and they wold be in it!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Fuck them

What you have to remember all the men on here who say bb is a total no no and won't do it etc are only saying it to try and appeal to potential meets.

give them a pussy and no condoms and they wold be in it! "

Who mentioned anything about guys?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I would never send an abusive message to someone who only plays safe, so why is it some people think its OK to do this to people who play bareback?"

there's always gonna be someone who has a temper tantrum from not getting their own way x

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By *otgirl32Woman over a year ago

Ashton Under Lyne

"There's only one bareback situation some minds can imagine. That is masses of complete strangers fucking complete strangers that fuck masses of complete strangers bareback regardless of anything

Sensible response

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Fuck them

What you have to remember all the men on here who say bb is a total no no and won't do it etc are only saying it to try and appeal to potential meets.

give them a pussy and no condoms and they wold be in it!

Who mentioned anything about guys?"

Me if you read my post which I presume you did.

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By *otgirl32Woman over a year ago

Ashton Under Lyne

"Fuck them

What you have to remember all the men on here who say bb is a total no no and won't do it etc are only saying it to try and appeal to potential meets.

give them a pussy and no condoms and they wold be in it! "

Couldn't agree more. I have NEVER had a bloke refuse. Never. Well, all except one man and hats off to him (I guess).

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By *MaleMan over a year ago

Too many people transfixed about other people's sexual penchants, people they dont even know or meet.

It doesn't start or stop at BB either. Whatever topic they can kick others about with will do

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Fuck them

What you have to remember all the men on here who say bb is a total no no and won't do it etc are only saying it to try and appeal to potential meets.

give them a pussy and no condoms and they wold be in it!

Who mentioned anything about guys?

Me if you read my post which I presume you did."

Well clearly i did...i responded to it. My question centred around you bringing up just guys for no apparent reason. The op was referring to people in general

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By *azandjazCouple over a year ago

Dublin

"I enjoy it, if it's not your thing then fine, leave me be x"

Totally agree.

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By *mallteaserWoman over a year ago

Central

Mood I'm in, I would right now lol x

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I'm not into bareback it can be pretty messy but I am into two sexy redheads I cannot lie with big fat butts so don't be shy come here now and lay on my thigh

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By *isdirtygirlCouple over a year ago

somewhere out there

Be a biker who doesn't get clad from head to toe in squeaky leather and hear the howls of indignation from the biker safety brigade. I think that it may be a British thing - to get so righteously uptight over another person's choices in life.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I've got a question referring to unprotected sex and mean no malice when I ask it

Doesn't it worry you guys who do it ?

Humans have an ability to rationalise risk, risk always appears worse to those not taking that risk (eg non smokers often persevere smoking risk higher than smokers do etc)"

I get that, but you can stop smoking and maybe get away with it, also eating and drinking disorders can can be dealt without no long term damage, but with certain sti's there is no such thing as a near miss ( again I stress I'm not having a go ... Promise ) xx

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I've got a question referring to unprotected sex and mean no malice when I ask it

Doesn't it worry you guys who do it ?

Of course there can be an element of worry, we don't meet loads of people and we know the risks involved. It is just something we really enjoy "

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By *uited staffs guyMan over a year ago

staffordshire

"I've got a question referring to unprotected sex and mean no malice when I ask it

Doesn't it worry you guys who do it ?

Humans have an ability to rationalise risk, risk always appears worse to those not taking that risk (eg non smokers often persevere smoking risk higher than smokers do etc)

But conversely all those things can be fatal as well - cancer, heart attacks, so they can have long term consequences

The point is humans can rationalise risk and not live their lives in panic about it even when that risk is real, if people panicked about risk smokers would never leave the house for example!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I've got a question referring to unprotected sex and mean no malice when I ask it

Doesn't it worry you guys who do it ?

Humans have an ability to rationalise risk, risk always appears worse to those not taking that risk (eg non smokers often persevere smoking risk higher than smokers do etc)

But conversely all those things can be fatal as well - cancer, heart attacks, so they can have long term consequences

The point is humans can rationalise risk and not live their lives in panic about it even when that risk is real, if people panicked about risk smokers would never leave the house for example!"

Just to reiterate ..You can't smoke one cigarette and automatically get cancer or have your first Big Mac and suffer an associated heart attack ?

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By *inzi LTV/TS over a year ago

The Garden of Eden in Beautiful North Wales

I only ever bareback with my lover, everyone else has to accept see sex. The only other option is no sex.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

The same haters who get on their high horse about those who bareback are the same ones who say shocking things to guys who are circumcised or people with certain preferences! They have an opinion on everything and enjoy getting a reaction! It's nothing more than bullying, trolling or whatever you want to call it. This is an adult site where we make our own choices, it's a shame not everyone behaves like an adult!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Just to reiterate ..You can't smoke one cigarette and automatically get cancer or have your first Big Mac and suffer an associated heart attack ?

Theoretically it is possible to develop cancer from just one cigarette, don't get me wrong it's highly unlikely and you'd have to have some of the worst luck in the history of the world ever, but it is possible

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By *uited staffs guyMan over a year ago

staffordshire

"I've got a question referring to unprotected sex and mean no malice when I ask it

Doesn't it worry you guys who do it ?

Humans have an ability to rationalise risk, risk always appears worse to those not taking that risk (eg non smokers often persevere smoking risk higher than smokers do etc)

But conversely all those things can be fatal as well - cancer, heart attacks, so they can have long term consequences

The point is humans can rationalise risk and not live their lives in panic about it even when that risk is real, if people panicked about risk smokers would never leave the house for example!

Just to reiterate ..You can't smoke one cigarette and automatically get cancer or have your first Big Mac and suffer an associated heart attack ?

Also to reiterate the vast majority of 'smokers' have smoked more than one cigarette, the clues in the name, and overweight people who are at risk of type 2 diabetes etc don't all eat Big Macs

The original question was about people worrying about risk, the risk of a single Big Mac in a non smoking normal weight person is minuscule, hence why no-ones talking about that

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I've got a question referring to unprotected sex and mean no malice when I ask it

Doesn't it worry you guys who do it ?

Humans have an ability to rationalise risk, risk always appears worse to those not taking that risk (eg non smokers often persevere smoking risk higher than smokers do etc)

But conversely all those things can be fatal as well - cancer, heart attacks, so they can have long term consequences

The point is humans can rationalise risk and not live their lives in panic about it even when that risk is real, if people panicked about risk smokers would never leave the house for example!

Just to reiterate ..You can't smoke one cigarette and automatically get cancer or have your first Big Mac and suffer an associated heart attack ?

Also to reiterate the vast majority of 'smokers' have smoked more than one cigarette, the clues in the name, and overweight people who are at risk of type 2 diabetes etc don't all eat Big Macs

The original question was about people worrying about risk, the risk of a single Big Mac in a non smoking normal weight person is minuscule, hence why no-ones talking about that "

And YOU made the un educated comparison between smokers/cancer/type 2 diabetes.. And unprotected sex... Pause...Forgive me for reminding you because quite clearly have forgotten !!! Just go back over the thread and read before making statements like that and trying make us look stupid... Cancer/type 2 diabetes, tried to be nice, but what are you going on about

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Be a biker who doesn't get clad from head to toe in squeaky leather and hear the howls of indignation from the biker safety brigade. I think that it may be a British thing - to get so righteously uptight over another person's choices in life."
no I think its because its a forum and we all have different opinions thats the purpose of it ,to see how different people view whatever that topic is ,wether people chose to get upset or personal or self righteous is down to that persons sense of dignity but it kind of makes it interesting that they do really ,its like a bad advert still has the same effect as a good one

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By *uited staffs guyMan over a year ago

staffordshire

"I've got a question referring to unprotected sex and mean no malice when I ask it

Doesn't it worry you guys who do it ?

Humans have an ability to rationalise risk, risk always appears worse to those not taking that risk (eg non smokers often persevere smoking risk higher than smokers do etc)

But conversely all those things can be fatal as well - cancer, heart attacks, so they can have long term consequences

The point is humans can rationalise risk and not live their lives in panic about it even when that risk is real, if people panicked about risk smokers would never leave the house for example!

Just to reiterate ..You can't smoke one cigarette and automatically get cancer or have your first Big Mac and suffer an associated heart attack ?

Also to reiterate the vast majority of 'smokers' have smoked more than one cigarette, the clues in the name, and overweight people who are at risk of type 2 diabetes etc don't all eat Big Macs

The original question was about people worrying about risk, the risk of a single Big Mac in a non smoking normal weight person is minuscule, hence why no-ones talking about that

You haven't a clue have you?

Then original post I replied to was asking whether those engaging in bareback events etc worry a lot about it

My reply (with a COI that I don't go to these) was that I suspected they didn't because humans rationalise risk and by the same reasoning smokers and people who are overweight, whom overwhelming scientific evidence shows, are at significant risk of cancer and type 2 diabetes, don't walk around worrying about it

Now I stand by that point and you making a comparison between people having a lifestyle that exposes them to potentially fatal risks such as those attending bareback gangbangs or smoking as those having a single fag as a teenager doesn't really advance the discussion

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Totally agree, but does the colour of the bare cock matter? :p"

I think they are pointing out that it must be someone else doing bareback with them rather than a race thing.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

On average 100,000 people die each year from smoking related diseases. In 2009 517 died from HIV Aids. I am confused. Why would a smoker be worried about bareback sex?

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By *MaleMan over a year ago

"On average 100,000 people die each year from smoking related diseases. In 2009 517 died from HIV Aids. I am confused. Why would a smoker be worried about bareback sex?

I've seen the same people that go off the hook when the opportunity to kick bare-backers about arises yet couldn't give a feck about XXX,XXX number of deaths modern western war mongering/meddling has caused.

Their interested in the whatever sexual exploits of other people and their private lives yet couldn't give a fcuk on a real humanitarian front.

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By *adysueandneroCouple over a year ago

witney

"I would never send an abusive message to someone who only plays safe, so why is it some people think its OK to do this to people who play bareback?

Because they feel that those who do it are putting the health of other people far more at risk than if they used protection? Kinda obvious really"

Kinda not obvious. How does people barbacking put at risk those that use condoms?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Fuck them

What you have to remember all the men on here who say bb is a total no no and won't do it etc are only saying it to try and appeal to potential meets.

give them a pussy and no condoms and they wold be in it! "

This statement I find objectionable. You defend your rights to BB (as well you should) and then state that all guys that state they only have protected sex would ignore their principles for a fuck.

Nice sweeping generalisation, trust me, I wouldn't, ever. That's why it's in my profile.

Some people, truly have a shitty opinion of men.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Fuck them

What you have to remember all the men on here who say bb is a total no no and won't do it etc are only saying it to try and appeal to potential meets.

give them a pussy and no condoms and they wold be in it!

This statement I find objectionable. You defend your rights to BB (as well you should) and then state that all guys that state they only have protected sex would ignore their principles for a fuck.

Nice sweeping generalisation, trust me, I wouldn't, ever. That's why it's in my profile.

Some people, truly have a shitty opinion of men. "

A thoroughly enjoyable bit of over reaction. Lol

Great stuff thanks

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Fuck them

What you have to remember all the men on here who say bb is a total no no and won't do it etc are only saying it to try and appeal to potential meets.

give them a pussy and no condoms and they wold be in it!

This statement I find objectionable. You defend your rights to BB (as well you should) and then state that all guys that state they only have protected sex would ignore their principles for a fuck.

Nice sweeping generalisation, trust me, I wouldn't, ever. That's why it's in my profile.

Some people, truly have a shitty opinion of men.

A thoroughly enjoyable bit of over reaction. Lol

Great stuff thanks

As oppose to a sweeping generalisation... okay then

It's okay for people to defend BB sex (which I actually believe, it's okay for anyone to defend how they play), but it's not okay to say "actually I am not a liar, I only have protected sex" Duplicity....

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Taking such personal offence about comments that were clearly meant as generalisations is frankly silly.

But it did give us a good laugh.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Taking such personal offence about comments that were clearly meant as generalisations is frankly silly.

But it did give us a good laugh. "

"All the men on here" I guess that does include me, doesn't it? Glad you enjoyed the show

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Taking such personal offence about comments that were clearly meant as generalisations is frankly silly.

But it did give us a good laugh.

"All the men on here" I guess that does include me, doesn't it? Glad you enjoyed the show

You are clearly a guy who is happy to go the extra mile to feel offended. You will find plenty of opportunity in the forums.

I expect you will provide us with much future entertainment

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I've got a question referring to unprotected sex and mean no malice when I ask it

Doesn't it worry you guys who do it ?

Humans have an ability to rationalise risk, risk always appears worse to those not taking that risk (eg non smokers often persevere smoking risk higher than smokers do etc)

But conversely all those things can be fatal as well - cancer, heart attacks, so they can have long term consequences

The point is humans can rationalise risk and not live their lives in panic about it even when that risk is real, if people panicked about risk smokers would never leave the house for example!

Just to reiterate ..You can't smoke one cigarette and automatically get cancer or have your first Big Mac and suffer an associated heart attack ?

Also to reiterate the vast majority of 'smokers' have smoked more than one cigarette, the clues in the name, and overweight people who are at risk of type 2 diabetes etc don't all eat Big Macs

The original question was about people worrying about risk, the risk of a single Big Mac in a non smoking normal weight person is minuscule, hence why no-ones talking about that

You haven't a clue have you?

Then original post I replied to was asking whether those engaging in bareback events etc worry a lot about it

How can you even compare those. And I never made any reference to gang bangs etc... FACT!!!

Are you an mp, because iv never heard as much S##T and un objective garb

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

It's not for us but we respect and appreciate others honesty about their preference as it means we can make an informed decision about a potential meet. We would certainly never abuse or disrespect someone else for their own choices and sexual preferences! I can't understand why someone would feel it's ok to do that? As if their aversion to your choices should be of interest to you?!

I hope you have reported them.

Sasha x

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"It's not for us but we respect and appreciate others honesty about their preference as it means we can make an informed decision about a potential meet. We would certainly never abuse or disrespect someone else for their own choices and sexual preferences! I can't understand why someone would feel it's ok to do that? As if their aversion to your choices should be of interest to you?!

I hope you have reported them.

Sasha x"

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By *orkshire biMan over a year ago

elland

I seen a thousand and 1 reasons yesterday why u should never bareback. Some right dirty people out there that don't care about there own health or yours.

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By *umluvinpantyboiMan over a year ago

indianapolis

As a bi guy that loves taking loads from hung guys, many have messaged and shook a finger at me. Vulgar messages too. It is my preference. I also love lapping creampied up... again. I am very happy enjoying my kinks. If it isn't for you just move on!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I seen a thousand and 1 reasons yesterday why u should never bareback. Some right dirty people out there that don't care about there own health or yours. "

That seems a touch judgemental. If condoms work and you wear one all the time at meets then you should be safe from STI, yes? So what is you problem about others not wearing condoms? Calling them "dirty" is not very nice.

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By *ny1localMan over a year ago

READING

"The same haters who get on their high horse about those who bareback are the same ones who say shocking things to guys who are circumcised or people with certain preferences! They have an opinion on everything and enjoy getting a reaction! It's nothing more than bullying, trolling or whatever you want to call it. This is an adult site where we make our own choices, it's a shame not everyone behaves like an adult!"

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By *osieWoman over a year ago

Wembley

"I seen a thousand and 1 reasons yesterday why u should never bareback. Some right dirty people out there that don't care about there own health or yours. "

Lots of people make the same judgement about HPWs

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By *lanemikeMan over a year ago

Bolton

"I seen a thousand and 1 reasons yesterday why u should never bareback. Some right dirty people out there that don't care about there own health or yours.

Lots of people make the same judgement about HPWs

HPWs....???

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By *ervent_fervourMan over a year ago

Halifax

No.

He made a fair point when picking apart what was either a lazy genereralised assumption, or just unqualifiable ignorance.

Don't see what offence has to do with it to be honest. He was merely picking apart an opinion he disagreed with.

You're so picky on people who are picky!

Which makes me picky with people who are picky over picky people..

Point had to be made though!

Entertaining indeed.

"Taking such personal offence about comments that were clearly meant as generalisations is frankly silly.

But it did give us a good laugh.

"All the men on here" I guess that does include me, doesn't it? Glad you enjoyed the show

You are clearly a guy who is happy to go the extra mile to feel offended. You will find plenty of opportunity in the forums.

I expect you will provide us with much future entertainment

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By *orkshire biMan over a year ago

elland

"I seen a thousand and 1 reasons yesterday why u should never bareback. Some right dirty people out there that don't care about there own health or yours.

One thing I seen yesterday was 2 guys bareback in then another licking his come out none of then knew each other. There choice but how do they know there all clean.

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By *osieWoman over a year ago

Wembley

"I seen a thousand and 1 reasons yesterday why u should never bareback. Some right dirty people out there that don't care about there own health or yours.

Lots of people make the same judgement about HPWs

HPWs....???"

I think is a variant of a truck; certainly built like one

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I seen a thousand and 1 reasons yesterday why u should never bareback. Some right dirty people out there that don't care about there own health or yours.

One thing I seen yesterday was 2 guys bareback in then another licking his come out none of then knew each other. There choice but how do they know there all clean. "

Risk assessment I guess - Have you ever pushed a lift button and a little while later eaten a sandwich without remembering to wash your hands? Lift buttons are scientifically proven to be far more germ ridden than toilet seats.

Be honest, its just because you can tell people you have a cold or flu or gastroenteritis from an infected lift button but can never say a word about chlamydia from sex even though it is a far lesser infection.

Let us start judging diseases by their effects on the body and not how they were contracted. If it was just risk assessment then people would wear gloves and masks 24/7. They would never touch or kiss someone etc etc. Its just the stigma of STIs that gets the fear factor rocketing.

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By *lwaysup4it69 OP Couple over a year ago

Kirkby in Ashfield

"I seen a thousand and 1 reasons yesterday why u should never bareback. Some right dirty people out there that don't care about there own health or yours.

One thing I seen yesterday was 2 guys bareback in then another licking his come out none of then knew each other. There choice but how do they know there all clean.

Very good well worded post

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By *picyminxWoman over a year ago

Huntingdon

Whereas its safe sex for me unless with a partner. Who's to say that people who choose the bareback lifestyle don't get tested??. You have more chance of catching something from someone who doesn't know they have anything than someone that does.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Whereas its safe sex for me unless with a partner. Who's to say that people who choose the bareback lifestyle don't get tested??. You have more chance of catching something from someone who doesn't know they have anything than someone that does. "

Absolutely true. If we did not know they knew where the GUM clinic was then boxes of condoms and a nbc suit would not be enough to convince us.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

We often wonder if all the venomous comments made about those who choose to play bare are counter productive. We think that it just drives those with this as a preference to put safe sex on their profile but in reality prefer bare when a meet is arranged.

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By *MaleMan over a year ago

These BB posts are rarely become a decent discussion. They mostly turn into a magnet for those with a high opinion about other people's sexual choices. Those forever jumping at the chance to exercise their like of skitting & ripping at others. If it wasn't the BB topic it would be a suitable other.

Adults and keyboards

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By *risky_MareWoman over a year ago

...Up on the Downs

"I seen a thousand and 1 reasons yesterday why u should never bareback. Some right dirty people out there that don't care about there own health or yours.

That seems a touch judgemental. If condoms work and you wear one all the time at meets then you should be safe from STI, yes? "

Not necessarily, because there are high risk oral/anal practices to consider too.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

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By *mallteaserWoman over a year ago

Central

"We often wonder if all the venomous comments made about those who choose to play bare are counter productive. We think that it just drives those with this as a preference to put safe sex on their profile but in reality prefer bare when a meet is arranged."

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By *lwaysup4it69 OP Couple over a year ago

Kirkby in Ashfield

We will keep our profile as it is, we are upfront about what we like

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By *osieWoman over a year ago

Wembley

"I seen a thousand and 1 reasons yesterday why u should never bareback. Some right dirty people out there that don't care about there own health or yours.

That seems a touch judgemental. If condoms work and you wear one all the time at meets then you should be safe from STI, yes?

Not necessarily, because there are high risk oral/anal practices to consider too."

Couples are a high risk category. They can potentially meet twice as many individuals (couples are two people and if they are meeting another couple, then that is four people together). Only one needs to be infected and then the infection passes between the couple

Best to avoid couples

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

It's up to the person to make choice to play bare or not if upfront that even better as know where you stand before meet xx

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By *sxr600Man over a year ago

northamptonshire

Everybody has the right to their own choices.

So if they send you abuse report and block them!

I find it amazing how some people can be on a swingers site yet be so judgemental.

Tut Tut

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By *urreycpl69Couple over a year ago

Louth

"Everybody has the right to their own choices.

So if they send you abuse report and block them!

I find it amazing how some people can be on a swingers site yet be so judgemental.

Tut Tut

Yes we find that quite amusing too. I wonder if the Bareback Police tell their work colleagues and family that they are on a swingers site, have sex with lots of people. "But we don't do bareback...that's for perverts!"

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By *sxr600Man over a year ago

northamptonshire

Haha. Well said

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I seen a thousand and 1 reasons yesterday why u should never bareback. Some right dirty people out there that don't care about there own health or yours.

One thing I seen yesterday was 2 guys bareback in then another licking his come out none of then knew each other. There choice but how do they know there all clean.

Oh my god..! Before we start we are not officers for the Hampshire bareback police force !! It's your choice simple

but I hate it when ( and I'm hoping it's a wind up ) people can make incorrect statements like.. Wait for it.. Chlamydia is lesser disease than a cold and gastroenteritis ... Wow !

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I seen a thousand and 1 reasons yesterday why u should never bareback. Some right dirty people out there that don't care about there own health or yours.

One thing I seen yesterday was 2 guys bareback in then another licking his come out none of then knew each other. There choice but how do they know there all clean.

Oh my god..! Before we start we are not officers for the Hampshire bareback police force !! It's your choice simple

but I hate it when ( and I'm hoping it's a wind up ) people can make incorrect statements like.. Wait for it.. Chlamydia is lesser disease than a cold and gastroenteritis ... Wow !

Or we are hoping we have misread it

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By *orkshire biMan over a year ago

elland

Each to there own but people should have more respect for them selves and others.

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By *oobsandballsMan over a year ago

st andrews

I would never message someone about their barebacking, I'd just use it as another filter.

If they were messaging us however I would be honest and tell them that was why we wouldn't be interested

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I seen a thousand and 1 reasons yesterday why u should never bareback. Some right dirty people out there that don't care about there own health or yours.

One thing I seen yesterday was 2 guys bareback in then another licking his come out none of then knew each other. There choice but how do they know there all clean.

Oh my god..! Before we start we are not officers for the Hampshire bareback police force !! It's your choice simple

but I hate it when ( and I'm hoping it's a wind up ) people can make incorrect statements like.. Wait for it.. Chlamydia is lesser disease than a cold and gastroenteritis ... Wow !

A cold is debilitating to the sick person. It can and often does lead to chest infections and is exceedingly contageous. It is an incurable virus. The very young, weak and old can die from a cold.

Gastroenteritis is a very unpleasant stomach infection. Left untreated it can and does kill. It can lead to malnutrician and dehydration. It can be treated but will run its course. It is very contagious. Ebola is a gasterointestinal infection.

Chlamydia is almost undetectable in terms of symptoms. Unless untreated for a very long time it does little hard to the human body. It can be cured by one antibiotic pill. It is less contagious than colds or Gastroenteritis.

That is why I think Chlamydia is a lesser disease. Why do you think it is worse? Erm..... wow!

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By *ervent_fervourMan over a year ago

Halifax

Good. This discussion is becoming interesting, and balanced again(not to mention civil, at last!).

This cold/chlahmidia[sic]is interesting and worthy also. Not to mention enlightening about what it reveals about [people's attitudes to STIs versus other viruses/diseases.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Good. This discussion is becoming interesting, and balanced again(not to mention civil, at last!).

This cold/chlahmidia[sic]is interesting and worthy also. Not to mention enlightening about what it reveals about [people's attitudes to STIs versus other viruses/diseases."

Thanks Longer (i hope i can call you that) for your comment.

I have wondered for a while why diseases transfered through the wholly natural act of having sex should be feared and reviled to a far greater extent than non-sexual diseases. I thought we could discuss this here.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I would never send an abusive message to someone who only plays safe, so why is it some people think its OK to do this to people who play bareback?

Too many people think they can say whatever they like from behind the keyboard.

Report and block. "
here here too many key board warriors...do what.suits you as u will never b able to.please everyone x

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

This is so true amount of guys who put safe sex is a must then begging to creampie Me

Each to there own,I personally don't care what others think I'm enjoying myself,everyone involved is an adult and makes own choices

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By *epper123Woman over a year ago

London

"I would never send an abusive message to someone who only plays safe, so why is it some people think its OK to do this to people who play bareback?"

I haven't had comments about bareback 'lifestyle' but have heard similar about people who live a 'bi lifestyle' .... this always intrigues me because I do wonder what those poor souls who live a 'normal lifestyle' as they deem it think we bi people live like. Any sexual preference is a choice, but does it necessarily dictate a lifestyle our of the norm? I think a lot of such comments show people are judgemental, intolerant and holding the belief that others, who have a particular preference or lifestyle, haven't yet come to their enlightened view and must be educated on the forums so they see the light. I know, like everyone else here knows, my way is the best way ...

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By *llaboutthecockCouple over a year ago

Bromley

Regarding the hate thing, its the ugly side of human nature to vilify people that are different or don't conform.

Regarding bare back to be informed just pop into a STD clinic and become more enlightened on the subject.

Peace

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By *risky_MareWoman over a year ago

...Up on the Downs

"I seen a thousand and 1 reasons yesterday why u should never bareback. Some right dirty people out there that don't care about there own health or yours.

That seems a touch judgemental. If condoms work and you wear one all the time at meets then you should be safe from STI, yes?

Not necessarily, because there are high risk oral/anal practices to consider too.

Best to avoid couples

Those bloody swingers again.....

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By *adysueandneroCouple over a year ago

witney

"Each to there own but people should have more respect for them selves and others."

Really!

Just how does bareback between consenting adults imply a lack of respect!?

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By *urreycpl69Couple over a year ago

Louth

"Each to there own but people should have more respect for them selves and others.

Really!

Just how does bareback between consenting adults imply a lack of respect!?"

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I seen a thousand and 1 reasons yesterday why u should never bareback. Some right dirty people out there that don't care about there own health or yours.

One thing I seen yesterday was 2 guys bareback in then another licking his come out none of then knew each other. There choice but how do they know there all clean.

Oh my god..! Before we start we are not officers for the Hampshire bareback police force !! It's your choice simple

but I hate it when ( and I'm hoping it's a wind up ) people can make incorrect statements like.. Wait for it.. Chlamydia is lesser disease than a cold and gastroenteritis ... Wow !

A cold is debilitating to the sick person. It can and often does lead to chest infections and is exceedingly contageous. It is an incurable virus. The very young, weak and old can die from a cold.

That is why I think Chlamydia is a lesser disease. Why do you think it is worse? Erm..... wow!

If you have anal intercourse with someone who has chlamydia, it can cause rectal pain, discharge, or bleeding. If left untreated in women, the infection can cause Pelvic Inflammatory Disease (PID), which can lead to long term pain, infertility, or even death. In men, chlamydia may cause pain, fever, and sterility.

Erm.... We have decided, give the choice... Cold it is !!!! Erm... Wow!!!!!

Remember Google is your friend and feel free to consult before engaging the index finger

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By *osieWoman over a year ago

Wembley

And another thing I found on Google. Marriage certificates offer a lower, Infact almost non-existent protection against STIs. This is a little known fact but has scientifically proven. Better to wrap a condom around a c*ck than a marriage certificate

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By *risky_MareWoman over a year ago

...Up on the Downs

"I seen a thousand and 1 reasons yesterday why u should never bareback. Some right dirty people out there that don't care about there own health or yours.

One thing I seen yesterday was 2 guys bareback in then another licking his come out none of then knew each other. There choice but how do they know there all clean.

Oh my god..! Before we start we are not officers for the Hampshire bareback police force !! It's your choice simple

but I hate it when ( and I'm hoping it's a wind up ) people can make incorrect statements like.. Wait for it.. Chlamydia is lesser disease than a cold and gastroenteritis ... Wow !

A cold is debilitating to the sick person. It can and often does lead to chest infections and is exceedingly contageous. It is an incurable virus. The very young, weak and old can die from a cold.

That is why I think Chlamydia is a lesser disease. Why do you think it is worse? Erm..... wow!

Erm.... We have decided, give the choice... Cold it is !!!! Erm... Wow!!!!!

Remember Google is your friend and feel free to consult before engaging the index finger "

Exactly - make whatever choice you wish but make it an INFORMED choice and give other people the right to avoid the risk as there are plenty of incurable sti's too.

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By *eavenscentitCouple over a year ago

barnstaple

I love spunk inside me, we bb. I use condoms with random meets.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Shocks me that some people would look for unprotected sex - especially on a swinging site. I find it hard to understand how they have no regard for there health. I personally would be worried sick I would catch hiv or herpies or something.

However I wouldn't abuse someone for doing it. I'm more interested as to why they take the risk? And how they dont worry? I would appreciate them being honest so I knew not to meet them.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Shocks me that some people would look for unprotected sex - especially on a swinging site. I find it hard to understand how they have no regard for there health. I personally would be worried sick I would catch hiv or herpies or something.

However I wouldn't abuse someone for doing it. I'm more interested as to why they take the risk? And how they dont worry? I would appreciate them being honest so I knew not to meet them.

Same here on the not meeting them.

I think for some it is the danger that attracts them to it and turns them on.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I would never send an abusive message to someone who only plays safe, so why is it some people think its OK to do this to people who play bareback?"
I would only do this if they message us first requesting it, as I profile specifically states safe sex.

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By *eavenscentitCouple over a year ago

barnstaple

With all our meets with other males, nobody has turned up with condoms ! Luckily I have lots

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By *anillanomoreCouple over a year ago

Chichester

I wouldn't ever do bb but don't give a flying fuck what others do

If it doesn't involve me and only involves consenting adults I really can't summon the energy to get worked up about it. Some people need more to occupy their time obviously