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Chosing a meet for your partner.
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Kate has ventured into meeting alone and it's gone very well, except that it takes her so long to organise anything it often falls through but she's mainly concerned about safety.
Anyway, she said she'd like me to pick a guy, chat to them on here, meet him in a hotel bar, and if I think he's what she'd like - tell him her room number.
I'd be in the hotel, and we have a system in place where I can work out if she's ok or not.
Anyway, she said to arrange it for tomorrow night so here we are. 
Anyone else ever done anything similar?
Bad idea? I presume single ladies have to go through this dilemma whenever they meet someone new?
Thanks
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Never done this (and don't really intend to) but as an added element of safety (and kink?) maybe have a phone call active while they are up in the room?
Safe word only you and her know etc etc, could add another element to it all?
M&M
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By *igeiaWoman
over a year ago
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I haven't done it. But it is on the list of things I'd like to try. Me and the regular squeeze have a code we use in situations where we might need to communicate something privately in front of others so something like that would be reassuring. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Is it the element of not knowing who he is that excites her ? I would meet him together in the bar and see how she/you feel then, She could then go up to the room and wait for him there if she likes him |
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Safety has to come first and we always have Skype or Facetime running when Beccy meets alone.
Art is always watching and is never more than 10 seconds away...
That way everyone can enjoy the experience...
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Black cops meets people alone but only when I have arranged it either by finding them so he can message them or by chatting to them first. He doesn't meet without my permission or involvement .... I would never have those restraints out on me though. |
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Ok, so we tried to arrange this for tonight.... I've now remembered why we meet in clubs. 
2 major issues... The first is if you spend time talking to people they automatically presume they are meeting. Bear in mind I was speaking to half a dozen then start badgering like I've not delivered their pizza...
The second, when you do find someone, verified, pics, you chat a lot and start making arrangements. Unfortunately, life happens and a family issue has made it impossible for us to meet tonight. I inform the person, 7 hours before the meet, and say that we'd really like to stay in touch as still want to do it, and then get the abuse....
I think while we'd like to have fun we have in the past not made arrangements because we hate letting people down. The first time we dare to and we get abuse.
Still, more than one way to have fun. 
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Block and move on, it's there lost in the end giving abuse when there is no need to. Family things but happen it's one of those things, we had a met cancelled a few weeks ago (there side not ours) we've kept in touch and are planning another night soon. Sure you will find another willing party to help you out will the idea soon. X |
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I would like to help you out with your fantasy. I know it looks like we are newbies but I was on here as a single guy and before that as part of a different couple and a while ago I was on swinging heaven. I am totally reliable, just ask the Mrs! The only thing is I am in America until end of April! If you don't get lucky before then I'm sure I can help xx |
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By (user no longer on site)
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Safety is a big issue for any woman.
Last yr I had my own profile, I met a guy & was so uncomfortable with him. He started of gentle then the roughness where he hurt me arrived. Asking him to stop he promised to be gentle again but soon went back to being rough. Thankfully I wasn't there very long.
I only recently opened up & told Jack what happened. It's ok for him sayn knee him where it hurts but nobody knows what someone is capable of.
It was scarey & upsetting that I actually met this guy on my own. I'm happy enough to meet alone (with Jacks knowledge) for a social in a public place but anything else is off the cards. If it means no sex well so be it.
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Kate has ventured into meeting alone and it's gone very well, except that it takes her so long to organise anything it often falls through but she's mainly concerned about safety.
Anyway, she said she'd like me to pick a guy, chat to them on here, meet him in a hotel bar, and if I think he's what she'd like - tell him her room number.
I'd be in the hotel, and we have a system in place where I can work out if she's ok or not.
Anyway, she said to arrange it for tomorrow night so here we are.
Anyone else ever done anything similar?
Bad idea? I presume single ladies have to go through this dilemma whenever they meet someone new?
Thanks
D"
I've looked at Kate's pics pick me pick me           |
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