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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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No man deserves to have his dick sucked till he makes her cum first! Use your tongue, fingers or toys! A pussy full of her own cum is the perfect lubrication for when you fuck. |
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By *ee VianteWoman
over a year ago
Somewhere in North Norfolk |
I don't think rules about orgasms are core tenets of the feminist movement.
Ok so the OP has gone a bit over the top but to suggest women should be satisfied during sex brings multiple accusations of feminism?
That sounds unreasonable to some of you? What? Women wanting orgasms now? We'll be demanding the vote next...
Of course, it could just be that some guys need to dismiss sexual satisfaction for women as feminism because they feel threatened by the concept, since they're not actually sure they can achieve it.
I've not seen it suggested that blokes wanting to cum or to get blow jobs should be writing for macho twitter.
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By *ee VianteWoman
over a year ago
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"I don't like it that way, OP. "Simultaneous", during penetrative sex, is what I want. After my climax, I want to relax, I most definitely don't want to be penetrated."
OMG! You don't want to orgasm first?
You masculinist!
Or mutualist!
Or something!
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Oh I prefer to make the man cum first, that way he can have a break while pleasuring me and then I can get a nice steady fuck which gives me plenty of time to orgasm.  i do have times where I haven't cum and still enjoyed the experience. It's not a must for me. Although I prefer to. |
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By *hilloutMan
over a year ago
All over the place! Northwesr, , Southwest |
"No man deserves to have his dick sucked till he makes her cum first! Use your tongue, fingers or toys! A pussy full of her own cum is the perfect lubrication for when you fuck."
Fair enough, but what if she can't climax? Some women have this problem. What then? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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some guys lose interest when they've cum so maybe they should sort out the lady first.
i've hardly been tricked into sck and go though and have been more wary about sucking guys off since. |
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We don't tend to have this problem.
One of us says "Ready, steady, go" and it's a race to who see who can cum the others mouth first.
Loser has to wank themselves off while the winner puts the kettle on. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"You know what I prefer? A man who finds out what I want rather than a man who thinks he knows. What does that make me?"
Well said! I'm fed up of men who think they know what I want...
Try some conversation - try asking - try taking an interest...
If I need to cum, I can do that very well on my own thanks - in fact I do it far too much! I just want to get fucked, to be blunt!
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"No man deserves to have his dick sucked till he makes her cum first! Use your tongue, fingers or toys! A pussy full of her own cum is the perfect lubrication for when you fuck.
Fair enough, but what if she can't climax? Some women have this problem. What then? "
Try harder! Seriously.... Sometimes (v occasionally) I don't cum... But with patience and steady stimulus I will. It's all about getting in tune to the person you're with. We're all different and what works for me might be a turn off for the next. |
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"is it first or foremost that men pleasure women first before taking their own pleasure or am I just old school ? "
Yes you probably are old school because you're assuming that women are all the same and that sex needs to follow a pattern of your design.
As I understand it casual sex is a mutual pleasure finding out how all parties like to play. |
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By *ee VianteWoman
over a year ago
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"No man deserves to have his dick sucked till he makes her cum first! Use your tongue, fingers or toys! A pussy full of her own cum is the perfect lubrication for when you fuck.
Fair enough, but what if she can't climax? Some women have this problem. What then?
Try harder! Seriously.... Sometimes (v occasionally) I don't cum... But with patience and steady stimulus I will. It's all about getting in tune to the person you're with. We're all different and what works for me might be a turn off for the next. "
Actually, it's quite difficult for someone else to bring me to orgasm. I can do it myself easily but I struggle to relax and let go with others.
Them trying harder and making me feel pressured, like they're expecting me to perform and will carry on until I do, will probably make it less likely I'll orgasm. |
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"You know what I prefer? A man who finds out what I want rather than a man who thinks he knows. What does that make me?
Bloody difficult? 
Seriously though, I agree."
 I am prepared to admit to that.
I have to smile albeit in a wry fashion that even a discussion about women having an orgasm boils down to at what point in the proceedings men think we should be allowed . |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Actually, it's quite difficult for someone else to bring me to orgasm. I can do it myself easily but I struggle to relax and let go with others.
Them trying harder and making me feel pressured, like they're expecting me to perform and will carry on until I do, will probably make it less likely I'll orgasm."
Well said!
Same for me too! It turns me right of, very quickly, when people have those sort of "expectations" - hate it!
I don't cum on meets, I make it clear that I don't - it isn't what I want!!!
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Or the complete opposite.
Millie just wants to turn over and go to sleep once she's had her big O normally.
Guess everyone's different!"
same goes for me, I just feel very sleepy! |
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By *ee VianteWoman
over a year ago
Somewhere in North Norfolk |
"You know what I prefer? A man who finds out what I want rather than a man who thinks he knows. What does that make me?
Bloody difficult?
Seriously though, I agree.
I am prepared to admit to that.
I have to smile albeit in a wry fashion that even a discussion about women having an orgasm boils down to at what point in the proceedings men think we should be allowed ."
Apparently the very thought that we should be allowed is a feminist notion |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"No man deserves to have his dick sucked till he makes her cum first! Use your tongue, fingers or toys! A pussy full of her own cum is the perfect lubrication for when you fuck."
that would be very disappointing for me then as its rare I orgasm except with my partner and I'm here for what I enjoy.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"No man deserves to have his dick sucked till he makes her cum first! Use your tongue, fingers or toys! A pussy full of her own cum is the perfect lubrication for when you fuck."
Why |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I don't like it that way, OP. "Simultaneous", during penetrative sex, is what I want. After my climax, I want to relax, I most definitely don't want to be penetrated.
OMG! You don't want to orgasm first?
You masculinist!
Or mutualist!
Or something!
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lol someone is hurt, relax its banter |
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By *ee VianteWoman
over a year ago
Somewhere in North Norfolk |
"I don't like it that way, OP. "Simultaneous", during penetrative sex, is what I want. After my climax, I want to relax, I most definitely don't want to be penetrated.
OMG! You don't want to orgasm first?
You masculinist!
Or mutualist!
Or something!
lol someone is hurt, relax its banter"
Yeah, when you're putting women down it's always "harmless" "banter" and "just a joke". |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I don't like it that way, OP. "Simultaneous", during penetrative sex, is what I want. After my climax, I want to relax, I most definitely don't want to be penetrated.
OMG! You don't want to orgasm first?
You masculinist!
Or mutualist!
Or something!
lol someone is hurt, relax its banter
Yeah, when you're putting women down it's always "harmless" "banter" and "just a joke"."
where did i put women down?
literally wrote a couple of words, and you went on a tirade lol |
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"I don't like it that way, OP. "Simultaneous", during penetrative sex, is what I want. After my climax, I want to relax, I most definitely don't want to be penetrated.
OMG! You don't want to orgasm first?
You masculinist!
Or mutualist!
Or something!
lol someone is hurt, relax its banter
Yeah, when you're putting women down it's always "harmless" "banter" and "just a joke"."
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"I don't like it that way, OP. "Simultaneous", during penetrative sex, is what I want. After my climax, I want to relax, I most definitely don't want to be penetrated.
OMG! You don't want to orgasm first?
You masculinist!
Or mutualist!
Or something!
lol someone is hurt, relax its banter
Yeah, when you're putting women down it's always "harmless" "banter" and "just a joke".where did i put women down?
literally wrote a couple of words, and you went on a tirade lol"
If you think that's a tirade you should relax, it was only banter. Don't be hurt  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I disagree with the way op puts it ...but i do agree that most men in modern times forget about pleasuring there partner and concentrate solely on themselves...like i know a lot of guys who love oral but wont give there partners any and dont believe in foreplay etc etc...guys need to put more effort into pleasing there parntners aswell as getting off themselves...makes things a little more fun for both parties |
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"I disagree with the way op puts it ...but i do agree that most men in modern times forget about pleasuring there partner and concentrate solely on themselves...like i know a lot of guys who love oral but wont give there partners any and dont believe in foreplay etc etc...guys need to put more effort into pleasing there parntners aswell as getting off themselves...makes things a little more fun for both parties"
And women need to speak up but as is evidenced here (some)men don't like it |
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By *yrdwomanWoman
over a year ago
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"You know what I prefer? A man who finds out what I want rather than a man who thinks he knows. What does that make me?
Bloody difficult?
Seriously though, I agree.
I am prepared to admit to that.
I have to smile albeit in a wry fashion that even a discussion about women having an orgasm boils down to at what point in the proceedings men think we should be allowed ."
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By *ee VianteWoman
over a year ago
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"I don't like it that way, OP. "Simultaneous", during penetrative sex, is what I want. After my climax, I want to relax, I most definitely don't want to be penetrated.
OMG! You don't want to orgasm first?
You masculinist!
Or mutualist!
Or something!
lol someone is hurt, relax its banter
Yeah, when you're putting women down it's always "harmless" "banter" and "just a joke".where did i put women down?
literally wrote a couple of words, and you went on a tirade lol"
Ok, first off, the OP suggests men are in charge of women's orgasms and should decide when they should be. Does that sound like a feminist ideal to you? Or do you think women would like the right to have a say in when they come? After all, as plenty have pointed out above, they don't actually want to come first.
Secondly, feminism is a serious political movement for gender equality. People have died over important issues such as the right to vote. Trying to make it about orgasms belittles the entire movement and all it stands for.
You have no clue whatsoever what feminism is and making a joke of it isn't funny. |
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By *ee VianteWoman
over a year ago
Somewhere in North Norfolk |
"I don't like it that way, OP. "Simultaneous", during penetrative sex, is what I want. After my climax, I want to relax, I most definitely don't want to be penetrated.
OMG! You don't want to orgasm first?
You masculinist!
Or mutualist!
Or something!
lol someone is hurt, relax its banter
Yeah, when you're putting women down it's always "harmless" "banter" and "just a joke".where did i put women down?
literally wrote a couple of words, and you went on a tirade lol
If you think that's a tirade you should relax, it was only banter. Don't be hurt "
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By *ee VianteWoman
over a year ago
Somewhere in North Norfolk |
"I disagree with the way op puts it ...but i do agree that most men in modern times forget about pleasuring there partner and concentrate solely on themselves...like i know a lot of guys who love oral but wont give there partners any and dont believe in foreplay etc etc...guys need to put more effort into pleasing there parntners aswell as getting off themselves...makes things a little more fun for both parties
And women need to speak up but as is evidenced here (some)men don't like it "
Ain't that the truth. |
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"I disagree with the way op puts it ...but i do agree that most men in modern times forget about pleasuring there partner and concentrate solely on themselves...like i know a lot of guys who love oral but wont give there partners any and dont believe in foreplay etc etc...guys need to put more effort into pleasing there parntners aswell as getting off themselves...makes things a little more fun for both parties
And women need to speak up but as is evidenced here (some)men don't like it
Ain't that the truth. "
Seriously it saddens me that some men actually take offence at women telling them that they are wrong about what women want.  |
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By *ee VianteWoman
over a year ago
Somewhere in North Norfolk |
"I disagree with the way op puts it ...but i do agree that most men in modern times forget about pleasuring there partner and concentrate solely on themselves...like i know a lot of guys who love oral but wont give there partners any and dont believe in foreplay etc etc...guys need to put more effort into pleasing there parntners aswell as getting off themselves...makes things a little more fun for both parties
And women need to speak up but as is evidenced here (some)men don't like it
Ain't that the truth.
Seriously it saddens me that some men actually take offence at women telling them that they are wrong about what women want. "
Yeah but how could we little women actually know what we want? I mean it's cute we think we do and all but seriously? Best let the men manage it all for us. |
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"I disagree with the way op puts it ...but i do agree that most men in modern times forget about pleasuring there partner and concentrate solely on themselves...like i know a lot of guys who love oral but wont give there partners any and dont believe in foreplay etc etc...guys need to put more effort into pleasing there parntners aswell as getting off themselves...makes things a little more fun for both parties
And women need to speak up but as is evidenced here (some)men don't like it
Ain't that the truth.
Seriously it saddens me that some men actually take offence at women telling them that they are wrong about what women want.
Yeah but how could we little women actually know what we want? I mean it's cute we think we do and all but seriously? Best let the men manage it all for us."
You do know that we're now marked down as hairy,feminist harmonies and will likely never get sex again...don't you?! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"No man deserves to have his dick sucked till he makes her cum first! Use your tongue, fingers or toys! A pussy full of her own cum is the perfect lubrication for when you fuck."
This post still wont get you a fuck. Women see right through this kinda stuff.... |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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The OP's heart is in the right place. Possibly from hearing about men who pump,grunt,cum and sleep.
There's a lot to be said about mutual pleasure,which is different between each pairing. How I like it with one man differs to another and is dependent on my mood. I also take him into consideration: Has he had a wank today; is he feeling a little tired; does he need to cum so he can relax and concentrate on our pleasure. There are a lot of factors to mutually satisfying sex. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"We don't tend to have this problem.
One of us says "Ready, steady, go" and it's a race to who see who can cum the others mouth first.
Loser has to wank themselves off while the winner puts the kettle on. "
Sounds like the perfect utopian society. |
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By *hilloutMan
over a year ago
All over the place! Northwesr, , Southwest |
If it's your first meet with the person and don't know them, perhaps the best approach is candidly ask what she enjoys most, and what gets her off. Everyone is different. It's wrong to assume that you will know what will bring her to climax. Women can climax through many different ways. Better to get the accurate info than doing guesswork |
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By *ady LickWoman
over a year ago
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"The OP's heart is in the right place. Possibly from hearing about men who pump,grunt,cum and sleep.
There's a lot to be said about mutual pleasure,which is different between each pairing. How I like it with one man differs to another and is dependent on my mood. I also take him into consideration: Has he had a wank today; is he feeling a little tired; does he need to cum so he can relax and concentrate on our pleasure. There are a lot of factors to mutually satisfying sex. "
That's very well put |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"No man deserves to have his dick sucked till he makes her cum first! Use your tongue, fingers or toys! A pussy full of her own cum is the perfect lubrication for when you fuck.
Fair enough, but what if she can't climax? Some women have this problem. What then? "
you have lots of fun trying to find way to make her cum, mildred only cums by 2 methods |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I don't like it that way, OP. "Simultaneous", during penetrative sex, is what I want. After my climax, I want to relax, I most definitely don't want to be penetrated.
OMG! You don't want to orgasm first?
You masculinist!
Or mutualist!
Or something!
lol someone is hurt, relax its banter
Yeah, when you're putting women down it's always "harmless" "banter" and "just a joke".where did i put women down?
literally wrote a couple of words, and you went on a tirade lol
Ok, first off, the OP suggests men are in charge of women's orgasms and should decide when they should be. Does that sound like a feminist ideal to you? Or do you think women would like the right to have a say in when they come? After all, as plenty have pointed out above, they don't actually want to come first.
Secondly, feminism is a serious political movement for gender equality. People have died over important issues such as the right to vote. Trying to make it about orgasms belittles the entire movement and all it stands for.
You have no clue whatsoever what feminism is and making a joke of it isn't funny."
Yawn!!!! No one is putting women down and no one deliberately comes on here to do so. Most of the guys on here just want to get in the ladies good books. I think the OP's intentions and others you've gone out of your way to jump on ( as usual) are completely without malice unlike yours. Get off your high horse, get out a llittle and learn that there's more to life than this forum. |
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"No man deserves to have his dick sucked till he makes her cum first! Use your tongue, fingers or toys! A pussy full of her own cum is the perfect lubrication for when you fuck."
I like it when I meet men like you. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I don't like it that way, OP. "Simultaneous", during penetrative sex, is what I want. After my climax, I want to relax, I most definitely don't want to be penetrated."
oh i do - i cum many times and im not bothered what order either
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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nothing worse than a man on a mission to make you cum it make me switch off ..and some are so rough it just makes me sore much rather just go with the flow and have fun and see what happens ..... if I don't cum then ill cum with hubby after you've gone home ..its no biggie and ive still had fun |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"No man deserves to have his dick sucked till he makes her cum first! Use your tongue, fingers or toys! A pussy full of her own cum is the perfect lubrication for when you fuck."
Look we all know why you put up this thread, it wont work |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"No man deserves to have his dick sucked till he makes her cum first! Use your tongue, fingers or toys! A pussy full of her own cum is the perfect lubrication for when you fuck.
Look we all know why you put up this thread, it wont work"
I know...always amazes me how dumb some guys on here are |
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"Or the complete opposite.
Millie just wants to turn over and go to sleep once she's had her big O normally.
Guess everyone's different!"
Snap!
I prefer to cum after hubby. He usually manages a couple of times before I'm ready. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"No man deserves to have his dick sucked till he makes her cum first! Use your tongue, fingers or toys! A pussy full of her own cum is the perfect lubrication for when you fuck.
Look we all know why you put up this thread, it wont work
I know...always amazes me how dumb some guys on here are"
Like when you get to the point that you have to lick arse just for sex... just dont that lol |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"No man deserves to have his dick sucked till he makes her cum first! Use your tongue, fingers or toys! A pussy full of her own cum is the perfect lubrication for when you fuck.
Look we all know why you put up this thread, it wont work
I know...always amazes me how dumb some guys on here are
Like when you get to the point that you have to lick arse just for sex... just dont that lol"
I know, so cringeworthy. Women would rather fuck a barstool then a white knight destined for the friend zone |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"No man deserves to have his dick sucked till he makes her cum first! Use your tongue, fingers or toys! A pussy full of her own cum is the perfect lubrication for when you fuck.
Look we all know why you put up this thread, it wont work
I know...always amazes me how dumb some guys on here are
Like when you get to the point that you have to lick arse just for sex... just dont that lol
I know, so cringeworthy. Women would rather fuck a barstool then a white knight destined for the friend zone"
They get told all the time not to kiss ass and you still see some flirting on here that is so cringy you just have to exit thread haha |
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By (user no longer on site)
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I think the op's on here are connected to fab, some of the discussions topics on here are just pure sensational and designed to create opinion, as though they think we are boring., I'm pissed by the way |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I think the op's on here are connected to fab, some of the discussions topics on here are just pure sensational and designed to create opinion, as though they think we are boring., I'm pissed by the way "
He'll damn wish I closer to Southampton your inhibitions lowered by alcohol, reading some horny stories off here I would love to take full advantage of you.... |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"No man deserves to have his dick sucked till he makes her cum first! Use your tongue, fingers or toys! A pussy full of her own cum is the perfect lubrication for when you fuck."
Awww... He's left!
How are we going to learn about sex now?  |
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By *igeiaWoman
over a year ago
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"No man deserves to have his dick sucked till he makes her cum first! Use your tongue, fingers or toys! A pussy full of her own cum is the perfect lubrication for when you fuck.
Awww... He's left!
How are we going to learn about sex now? "
Trial and error, I guess. I've heard it's a bit like riding a bike so it should all come flooding back. |
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"No man deserves to have his dick sucked till he makes her cum first! Use your tongue, fingers or toys! A pussy full of her own cum is the perfect lubrication for when you fuck.
Awww... He's left!
How are we going to learn about sex now?
Trial and error, I guess. I've heard it's a bit like riding a bike so it should all come flooding back. "
Well just in case, I have my helmet ready |
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