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To all the single men...

By *razedcat OP Man over a year ago

London / Herts

If you're at the bar or in a club and spot a pretty lady, do you walk up to her and, before saying anything, whip your cock out? To the small number of you who do, good luck to you. But I should hope most of you don't do that!

So, with that in mind, why do so many of you believe it's appropriate to approach women and couples on here with a profile that sports one or a variety of cock pics? Surely you have some other redeeming physical features, ones that potential partners will be far more interested in? And, if you don't think so, maybe it's just best to put the cock away?

In other words, pull yourselves together.

Rant over

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By *unCoupleTXCouple over a year ago

Longview

well said! Get more creative, fellas!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I got my torso

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I can't help but think everytime I see one of these posts from a straight single guy "why do you care?"

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I'm gonna send out random fanny pics an see what happens.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

dont worry about other guys....just do your own thing

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Lol I don't even get that far always polite with messages which just get deleted

ohh well sh%t happens. Still have fun either way

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By *razedcat OP Man over a year ago

London / Herts

"I can't help but think everytime I see one of these posts from a straight single guy "why do you care?""

I care because I want to see the general reputation of single guys on this site improve.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Nothing wrong with cock shots as long as they're accompanied by a good profile and not just a grunt.

I/We are here for sex and fun, so the humble cock pic is important.

Who wants to mess about arranging a meet only to be greeted by a tiny mishapen pizzle!

No like to see what the other party has to offer.

Mens cocks are no more offensive than womens boobs. I'm sure men wouldn't complain about Boob pics!!!!

Sara - Cock shots a must!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I can't help but think everytime I see one of these posts from a straight single guy "why do you care?"

I care because I want to see the general reputation of single guys on this site improve."

My reputation is amazing ty

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By *ordonBennettMan over a year ago

dover

"I can't help but think everytime I see one of these posts from a straight single guy "why do you care?"

I care because I want to see the general reputation of single guys on this site improve."

A thinly disguised white knight post

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I can't help but think everytime I see one of these posts from a straight single guy "why do you care?"

I care because I want to see the general reputation of single guys on this site improve.

My reputation is amazing ty

Also it's not just the mindless cock pics it's just the vast majority of men on here are boring/robotic/horny/idiots.

As said before worry about your game and not others, there will be no changing how people view the vast majority of men on here. It just makes the good ones stand out that much more.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Some of the women's pics on here aren't so great either!

Now, having said that I wouldn't approach a guy with my tits or arse on show but they are on my profile!!

While we're on this subject, why would anyone want to see a pic of a guy with his cock up someone's foof? You see more of her than him!!! And some do have that as an avatar.

Well each to their own! Swing and let swing

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I can't help but think everytime I see one of these posts from a straight single guy "why do you care?"

I care because I want to see the general reputation of single guys on this site improve.

A thinly disguised white knight post

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I can't help but think everytime I see one of these posts from a straight single guy "why do you care?""

What she said

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Some of the women's pics on here aren't so great either!

Now, having said that I wouldn't approach a guy with my tits or arse on show but they are on my profile!!

While we're on this subject, why would anyone want to see a pic of a guy with his cock up someone's foof? You see more of her than him!!! And some do have that as an avatar.

Well each to their own! Swing and let swing

Well said

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I take it your horse us having new shoes fitted?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I take it your horse us having new shoes fitted? "

^is

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I got my torso

so?

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By *oxy_minxWoman over a year ago

Scotland - Aberdeen

Tis the reason behind my current status update

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I'm gonna send out random fanny pics an see what happens."

you can send them my way

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Tis the reason behind my current status update

Once cock mode licks in the brain shuts down

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I'm gonna send out random fanny pics an see what happens.

you can send them my way

gonna do it monday when i'm looking for a fuck.

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By *ormalguy71Man over a year ago

Tunbridge Wells

"I can't help but think everytime I see one of these posts from a straight single guy "why do you care?""

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Stand at a bar in Brentwood this evening and see the cleavage thrust in men's faces,short skirts and heels. Men don't have that advantage,they only have a wallet

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By *ormalguy71Man over a year ago

Tunbridge Wells

Really? I can not believe you spent time thinking and writing this. You want to raise the image of single guys? Dream on fella. God do your own thing and let others do the same

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Don't worry about other people, who cares what they do?

I see this as "im tying to get in the good books" sort of post

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By *ordonBennettMan over a year ago

dover

Don't worry about other people, who cares what they do?

I see this as "im tying to get in the good books" sort of post"

Aka a white knight post as I mentioned earlier...

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Don't worry about other people, who cares what they do?

I see this as "im tying to get in the good books" sort of post

Aka a white knight post as I mentioned earlier..."

Congratulations

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By *ordonBennettMan over a year ago

dover

Don't worry about other people, who cares what they do?

I see this as "im tying to get in the good books" sort of post

Aka a white knight post as I mentioned earlier...

Congratulations "

For what??

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I got my torso

so?

"
Yeah I am not that guy that sends cock pics. I send torso pics lol

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By *razedcat OP Man over a year ago

London / Herts

Don't worry about other people, who cares what they do?

I see this as "im tying to get in the good books" sort of post

Aka a white knight post as I mentioned earlier..."

You can think what you want about my original post, it doesn't make it true

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

If you're worrying about the reputation of single guys, then I'd suggest you have too much time on your hands

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By *ordonBennettMan over a year ago

dover

Don't worry about other people, who cares what they do?

I see this as "im tying to get in the good books" sort of post

Aka a white knight post as I mentioned earlier...

You can think what you want about my original post, it doesn't make it true

I think we'll be the judge of that

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

For a lot of people on here a decent looking/size cock is the first thing they look for, Personality and a face that they like is just the next stage while checking you out,

I don't really get the "you wouldn't do it in a bar" comment people make

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By *razedcat OP Man over a year ago

London / Herts

Okay, clearly people don't understand why I posted in the first place.

When this site is plagued with guys who, amongst other things, think wiggling their cock will attract people, the general reputation of single guys on this site goes down.

Therefore, when other, well-meaning single guys approach women and couples, their view of guys on this site has already been lowered. Which makes it harder for single guys to get a meet.

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By *razedcat OP Man over a year ago

London / Herts

You can think what you want about my original post, it doesn't make it true

I think we'll be the judge of that"

You're the judge of my intentions?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

After reading your post ive took my cock pics off here...... and put them on your face book page......

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Stand at a bar in Brentwood this evening and see the cleavage thrust in men's faces,short skirts and heels. Men don't have that advantage,they only have a wallet

it's a good point well made

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Okay, clearly people don't understand why I posted in the first place.

When this site is plagued with guys who, amongst other things, think wiggling their cock will attract people, the general reputation of single guys on this site goes down.

Therefore, when other, well-meaning single guys approach women and couples, their view of guys on this site has already been lowered. Which makes it harder for single guys to get a meet."

I get that bit, But surely poor profiles and wiggling their cocks at everyone will only make people like yourself stand out more

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By *razedcat OP Man over a year ago

London / Herts

"Stand at a bar in Brentwood this evening and see the cleavage thrust in men's faces,short skirts and heels. Men don't have that advantage,they only have a wallet

it's a good point well made

It is a good point, and one that fits with my original point, anyway.

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By *razedcat OP Man over a year ago

London / Herts

I get that bit, But surely poor profiles and wiggling their cocks at everyone will only make people like yourself stand out more"

Equally, the cock wigglers scare many women and couples off here, sometimes permanently.

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By *oxy_minxWoman over a year ago

Scotland - Aberdeen

"Okay, clearly people don't understand why I posted in the first place.

When this site is plagued with guys who, amongst other things, think wiggling their cock will attract people, the general reputation of single guys on this site goes down.

Therefore, when other, well-meaning single guys approach women and couples, their view of guys on this site has already been lowered. Which makes it harder for single guys to get a meet."

To be honest (for me) this post has a lot of truth to it.

My profile clearly states, I don't want men just visiting and staying in hotel - I say I am not for them.

I have put up statuses asking for men to have a profile that tells me something apart from 'here for fun' and no cock pics.....guess what? 95% of my messages are of this calibre - so yes I get weary now and again thinking what shite have I been sent now.....

Hence my current status, yes I know it doesn't make me the most welcoming but it kind of acts as another filter

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By *ordonBennettMan over a year ago

dover

You can think what you want about my original post, it doesn't make it true

I think we'll be the judge of that

You're the judge of my intentions?

Not just me.

Several others have made similar observations...

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

For a lot of women on here that's the most important pic don't care about anything else lol. For others it's more about the guy attached to it

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Okay, clearly people don't understand why I posted in the first place.

When this site is plagued with guys who, amongst other things, think wiggling their cock will attract people, the general reputation of single guys on this site goes down.

Therefore, when other, well-meaning single guys approach women and couples, their view of guys on this site has already been lowered. Which makes it harder for single guys to get a meet."

Or, if you approach them respectfully with a well written message and no 'in your face' cock shots it can actually make you stand out more from the crowd.

I'm of the view that I am pretty much wholly responsible for my own success (or lack of it) on this site and if people don't want to meet me it's because they have better offers and better propositions out there than the one I can offer them.

Therefore it's up to me to up my game and make sure I DO appeal over all the others that don't.

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By *razedcat OP Man over a year ago

London / Herts

To be honest (for me) this post has a lot of truth to it.

My profile clearly states, I don't want men just visiting and staying in hotel - I say I am not for them.

Thanks, that supports my point. It's much better to be approached when you're in a good mood, rather than when you're fed up, having received plenty of cock shots.

Therefore it's up to me to up my game and make sure I DO appeal over all the others that don't. "

I appreciate your point and view, but I don't see anything wrong with suggesting guys should cut it out with empty, cock-shot profiles, based on the mood argument I made above.

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By *ordonBennettMan over a year ago

dover

"Okay, clearly people don't understand why I posted in the first place.

When this site is plagued with guys who, amongst other things, think wiggling their cock will attract people, the general reputation of single guys on this site goes down.

Therefore, when other, well-meaning single guys approach women and couples, their view of guys on this site has already been lowered. Which makes it harder for single guys to get a meet.

Or, if you approach them respectfully with a well written message and no 'in your face' cock shots it can actually make you stand out more from the crowd.

Therefore it's up to me to up my game and make sure I DO appeal over all the others that don't. "

I quite agree.

Blaming others for "ruining it" for other guys is an oft-cited argument which cannot be proved, but acts as a stock excuse for not being successful on the site.

I don't concern myself with the conduct of other single guys as it has no bearing at all on how I do on here...

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Okay, clearly people don't understand why I posted in the first place.

When this site is plagued with guys who, amongst other things, think wiggling their cock will attract people, the general reputation of single guys on this site goes down.

Therefore, when other, well-meaning single guys approach women and couples, their view of guys on this site has already been lowered. Which makes it harder for single guys to get a meet.

To be honest (for me) this post has a lot of truth to it.

My profile clearly states, I don't want men just visiting and staying in hotel - I say I am not for them.

Hence my current status, yes I know it doesn't make me the most welcoming but it kind of acts as another filter "

But that's people not reading your profile, I also get that myself, People having cock pictures as a avatar or all over their profile is something different, Some like it some don't,

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By *razedcat OP Man over a year ago

London / Herts

Blaming others for "ruining it" for other guys is an oft-cited argument which cannot be proved, but acts as a stock excuse for not being successful on the site.

I don't concern myself with the conduct of other single guys as it has no bearing at all on how I do on here..."

I suspect it does. The very fact there are so many of them means messages you sent may be deleted, in a "bulk delete".

And I never went as far as suggesting they "ruin it". Any single man who tries will get a meet. The empty profile cock-shotters just muddy the water.

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By *angbang junkieCouple over a year ago

Ilkeston

Well, some of us like looking at cocks. As long as they're massive.

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By *ordonBennettMan over a year ago

dover

Blaming others for "ruining it" for other guys is an oft-cited argument which cannot be proved, but acts as a stock excuse for not being successful on the site.

I don't concern myself with the conduct of other single guys as it has no bearing at all on how I do on here...

I suspect it does. The very fact there are so many of them means messages you sent may be deleted, in a "bulk delete".

And I never went as far as suggesting they "ruin it". Any single man who tries will get a meet. The empty profile cock-shotters just muddy the water."

Women and couples can see those profiles just as easily as you and I and can decide to move on and ignore them....

I cannot see how waters have been muddied.

It's part of the normal selection process .

I just concern myself with sending my own crafted messages to those whose profiles Ive carefully read and don't feel any need to concern myself with what other guys do, nor need I do so.

I suspect many guys do the same on here and do just fine.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Lol I don't even get that far always polite with messages which just get deleted

ohh well sh%t happens. Still have fun either way

The struggle is real

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Just cock pics are a put off but for me its the 'I wanna fuk you now' 'Have you had a cock this big in your pussy' type of messages!

Sadly they do make me block delete

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I get my arse out

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By *inky-MinxWoman over a year ago

Grantham

"I care because I want to see the general reputation of single guys on this site improve."

Why though? A decent single man stands out like a sore thumb on here so that's a good thing

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By *uessWhosBackAgainMan over a year ago

London

"A thinly disguised white knight post

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By *obbytupperMan over a year ago

Menston near Ilkley

"I can't help but think everytime I see one of these posts from a straight single guy "why do you care?"

I care because I want to see the general reputation of single guys on this site improve."

Nice White knighting post OP. However I don't think it'll get you any.

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By *MaleMan over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I can't help but think everytime I see one of these posts from a straight single guy "why do you care?""

Cos you post in the post and then the my message you privately ?!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Dunno but op has a great chin

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I can't help but think everytime I see one of these posts from a straight single guy "why do you care?"

Cos you post in the post and then the my message you privately ?! "

*nod and smile while slowly walking away*

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By *100Man over a year ago

Essex

"I'm gonna send out random fanny pics an see what happens.

you can send them my way

gonna do it monday when i'm looking for a fuck.

I love a random private fanny pic in my inbox it makes my willy tickle xxx.

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By *orksfuncoupleCouple over a year ago

huddersfield

It's a good way to increase traffic to their page!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"If you're at the bar or in a club and spot a pretty lady, do you walk up to her and, before saying anything, whip your cock out? To the small number of you who do, good luck to you. But I should hope most of you don't do that!

In other words, pull yourselves together.

Rant over

Bravo!!!!

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By *MaleMan over a year ago

"I can't help but think everytime I see one of these posts from a straight single guy "why do you care?"

I care because I want to see the general reputation of single guys on this site improve.

Nice White knighting post OP. However I don't think it'll get you any.

Got to wonder what drives some white knights. Analysing and advising other guys where they're going wrong, how they should be.

I wonder if they do it when in person too or just from behind the keys in swinging forums

Seems a bit strange when it's straight guys here to meet couples/females. They always seem to study & conclude about other males profiles, the males behind the profiles.

Surely its more beneficial to focus on the couples & females they seek rather than the males they dont but seem to be concerned about

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By *UNCHBOXMan over a year ago

folkestone

In other words, pull yourselves together.

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Thanks for the advice. I will carry on as i am thanks. I hardly message couples or women, and I'm confident enough in my profile that if people like it enough, they will contact me.

It's an adult site after all, so i think people expect to maybe see some naked bodies when they click on a profile. If they don't like whatever is on that profile, I'm sure they will avoid it in future.

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By *inky-MinxWoman over a year ago

Grantham

"A thinly disguised white knight post

You can be my white knight any time

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By *lik and PaulCouple over a year ago

Flagrante

I like cock pics...and bum pics...and body pics...

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By *eavenscentitCouple over a year ago

barnstaple

"After reading your post ive took my cock pics off here...... and put them on your face book page......

lol

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Its a fucking sex site ..... Dooooh

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

In other words, pull yourselves together.

Rant over

So with that in mind, why does it bother you? Anyways, i hope this post got you some sex....

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By *otelroomerMan over a year ago

gosport

"I'm gonna send out random fanny pics an see what happens."

Well happy with random fanny pics xx

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By *razedcat OP Man over a year ago

London / Herts

Well, I sparked a debate, so some good came of my post. Even if people sought to make it personal

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

op with you being st8 on your profile, do you check other guys profiles out, to come to the conclusion in your thread

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

and why not ask women to put their fanny and tit pics away and we all have a curtain on profiles too

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By *aGaGagging for itCouple over a year ago

Newcastle upon Tyne

Reading profiles, some like to see cock pics some don't. Even if I feel the same as you why should you dictate people's preferences?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Reading profiles, some like to see cock pics some don't. Even if I feel the same as you why should you dictate people's preferences? "

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By *razedcat OP Man over a year ago

London / Herts

"op with you being st8 on your profile, do you check other guys profiles out, to come to the conclusion in your thread"

I've encountered many a penis in my time m'dear, and yes, occasionally I'll take a look at a male profile. But for the most part, I'm just aware that cock-shot profiles are common by talking to and meeting fellow Fabbers.

"and why not ask women to put their fanny and tit pics away and we all have a curtain on profiles too

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I'm gonna send out random fanny pics an see what happens."

You've got fanny pics all through your profile and close ups of sucking cock FFS.

Talk about hypocrites on here

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By *razedcat OP Man over a year ago

London / Herts

"Reading profiles, some like to see cock pics some don't. Even if I feel the same as you why should you dictate people's preferences? "

If that's the mentality we all shared, then there's no point even having a forum. I ain't dictating shit, I'm just jamming an opinion in here

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"op with you being st8 on your profile, do you check other guys profiles out, to come to the conclusion in your thread

and why not ask women to put their fanny and tit pics away and we all have a curtain on profiles too

But that's the difference, isn't it! Fanny and tit-pics are largely liked by men. Whereas there's good evidence to suggest a male profile solely consisting of cock-shots has the opposite effect on women. Mostly."
apologies i did not realise you had studied this so indepth, may i ask where you got your facts from to come to this conclusion or is it your own observations from using fab

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I'm gonna send out random fanny pics an see what happens.

You've got fanny pics all through your profile and close ups of sucking cock FFS.

Talk about hypocrites on here"

I like cock pics, and mentioned it in enough threads that i do. So not actually a hypocrite.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"A thinly disguised white knight post

Maybe, but he's rather lush so who gives a toss...

On par with the female simpering veiled look at me posts

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By *aGaGagging for itCouple over a year ago

Newcastle upon Tyne

If you're at the bar or in a club and spot a pretty lady, do you walk up to her and, before saying anything, lift up your shirt and show your TORSO? To the small number of you who do, good luck to you. But I should hope most of you don't do that!

So, with that in mind, why do so many of you believe it's appropriate to approach women and couples on here with a profile that sports one or a variety of torso pics? Surely you have some other redeeming features, such as personality, interaction, an ability to have a conversation, a good connection, ones that potential partners will be far more interested in? And, if you don't think so, maybe it's just best to put the torso away?

In other words, pull yourselves together.

Rant over

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By *razedcat OP Man over a year ago

London / Herts

Straw poll - two single male profiles. Both identical, except one only has a solitary photo of the guy's wang, the other has a good mix of photos, possibly including one cock photo. Which would you rather pick?

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By *razedcat OP Man over a year ago

London / Herts

Surely you have some other redeeming features, such as personality, interaction, an ability to have a conversation, a good connection, ones that potential partners will be far more interested in? And, if you don't think so, maybe it's just best to put the torso away?

Erm...that's what the rest of my profile aims to do?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Straw poll - two single male profiles. Both identical, except one only has a solitary photo of the guy's wang, the other has a good mix of photos, possibly including one cock photo. Which would you rather pick?"
i would look at both

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By *razedcat OP Man over a year ago

London / Herts

"i would look at both"

Pick, not look. Which in your mind showcases the more appealing guy?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"i would look at both

Pick, not look. Which in your mind showcases the more appealing guy?"
neither as i would require some form of interaction first, a cocks a cock a pussy is a pussy if i dont feel a connection between the people and myself i delete and move on

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

A good mix of photos.

I like my imagination to be stimulated as well as pleasured.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"i would look at both

Pick, not look. Which in your mind showcases the more appealing guy?"
the guy with one pic maybe shy and thats a quality i like so i cannot pic, choose by pictures alone

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By *aGaGagging for itCouple over a year ago

Newcastle upon Tyne

Erm...that's what the rest of my profile aims to do?"

And the guys showing cock pics aren't doing the same? Personally I'm not a fan of cock pics but each to their own and I wouldn't try and dictate my preferences to others. In your case I wouldn't even get to reading your profile because your pics would put me off for the same rationale that you state about cock pics. I'm not saying you are wrong and I'm not saying my opinion is right. Everyone's opinion is valid to them. I'm just trying to point out the irony of your coments with your pics, and an acceptance of other people's views is sometimes appropriate.

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By *razedcat OP Man over a year ago

London / Herts

"the guy with one pic maybe shy and thats a quality i like so i cannot pic, choose by pictures alone"

If the profiles and the men behind them are otherwise identical, you'll be sending the first message based on what you see, as would anyone else in that situation.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Erm...that's what the rest of my profile aims to do?

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By *razedcat OP Man over a year ago

London / Herts

" And the guys showing cock pics aren't doing the same? Personally I'm not a fan of cock pics but each to their own and I wouldn't try and dictate my preferences to others. In your case I wouldn't even get to reading your profile because your pics would put me off for the same rationale that you state about cock pics. I'm not saying you are wrong and I'm not saying my opinion is right. Everyone's opinion is valid to them. I'm just trying to point out the irony of your comments with your pics, and an acceptance of other people's views is sometimes appropriate. "

I'm well aware that my opinion is just as valuable and worthless and everyone else's. But if no one challenged a point of view, well, what's the point in having a forum? Aren't forums supposed to be where ideas are exchanged and discussed? Even if that's done in a heated manner, that's fine.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I'm gonna send out random fanny pics an see what happens.

You've got fanny pics all through your profile and close ups of sucking cock FFS.

Talk about hypocrites on here

I like cock pics, and mentioned it in enough threads that i do. So not actually a hypocrite.

So why the snide reply?

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By *razedcat OP Man over a year ago

London / Herts

" maybe your thread could of been posted in different manner, that's just my opinion."

Fair enough! I did post more aggressively than usual.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

" maybe your thread could of been posted in different manner, that's just my opinion.

Fair enough! I did post more aggressively than usual."

post however you want, replies will be negative and positive, at the end of the day no one really gives a shit

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I'm gonna send out random fanny pics an see what happens.

You've got fanny pics all through your profile and close ups of sucking cock FFS.

Talk about hypocrites on here

I like cock pics, and mentioned it in enough threads that i do. So not actually a hypocrite.

So why the snide reply?"

Do you even know what the word snide means?

You accused me of something i didn't do, i let you know otherwise. Don't really care if you don't like women sticking up for themselves but that's not being snidey.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

i like your pics

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By *aGaGagging for itCouple over a year ago

Newcastle upon Tyne

Yes, totally agree that forums are for discussion, opinion and exchange of ideas. It's just that your post seemed to be quite dictatorial telling people what they should do. I hope you appreciated the irony of your post when compared to your profile pics.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I normally send a close up of my elbow. It never works. Maybe I'll try sending the one of my knee instead!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I'm now looking forward to many messages asking me if I come here often and would I like a drink

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I normally send a close up of my elbow. It never works. Maybe I'll try sending the one of my knee instead!"

It's ears that get the best response, shouldn't really share that secret but it works 30% of the time some of the time, every time.

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By *requent_FerryersCouple over a year ago

Norwich to Great Yarmouth

"I can't help but think everytime I see one of these posts from a straight single guy "why do you care?"

I care because I want to see the general reputation of single guys on this site improve."

Well said!!

The arrogance of most of the single guys on this site has prompted us to filter out their messages. However, we still get the "Bell-ends" fabbing our pics in the (vain) hope that we will actually look at their profiles as it is polite to do so.

As soon as we see a pic of their dick (or as we often suspect, someone else's dick) we just ignore them.

There are some really nice, respectful and approachable single guys here. We know because we have had the pleasure of meeting a few. However the many "dick-heads" spoil it for the genuinely nice guys!

Another rant over!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Getting back to the original post, based on what I saw at AbFabs last night, walking up to a woman, getting your cock out and wanking in her face is the single most welcome approach method there is

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By *ordonBennettMan over a year ago

dover

Another rant over!

xx"

I've never found the actions or approach of other guys to have had any influence or effect on me or my endeavours on the site..

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By *requent_FerryersCouple over a year ago

Norwich to Great Yarmouth

I've never found the actions or approach of other guys to have had any influence or effect on me or my endeavours on the site.."

Lucky you! However, I think you may have proved my case?

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By *rnortholtMan over a year ago

Waveney Valley

"Getting back to the original post, based on what I saw at AbFabs last night, walking up to a woman, getting your cock out and wanking in her face is the single most welcome approach method there is

PMSL

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Getting back to the original post, based on what I saw at AbFabs last night, walking up to a woman, getting your cock out and wanking in her face is the single most welcome approach method there is

Damn, I must have missed that yesterday

I was there during the day and the single men were chatty, friendly and polite.

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By *ordonBennettMan over a year ago

dover

I've never found the actions or approach of other guys to have had any influence or effect on me or my endeavours on the site..

Lucky you! However, I think you may have proved my case?"

I may have inadvertently done that, but am not entirely sure how

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Each to their own and you can't please everyone.

Personally for me if they have a cock pic avatar or send one in the first message it's an instant delete regardless of what they look like. I'm more interested in what's on the end of that picture

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

In other words, pull yourselves together.

Rant over

Swoon. My hero

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Cock pics amongst other pics in a profile doesn't bother me as long as they don't send a cock pic with their first message to me as I do ask them not to

I actually detest more pics on a single guy's profile which shows him fucking other people.

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By *yldstyleWoman over a year ago

A world of my own

It's not just men there are plenty women and couples with enough on display you know what they had for breakfast.

However it's their profile. Their choice of message and I wish them all well.

Yes I'd rather see something a bit more creative, but.. This isn't a bar. It's a sex site. People do what they deem is the 'norm'

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By *aGaGagging for itCouple over a year ago

Newcastle upon Tyne

"It's not just men there are plenty women and couples with enough on display you know what they had for breakfast.

However it's their profile. Their choice of message and I wish them all well.

Yes I'd rather see something a bit more creative, but.. This isn't a bar. It's a sex site. People do what they deem is the 'norm'

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Reminds me of a meme i one saw "hry guys, remember the good old days when you would take a photo of your dick, get it printed off and take it to a girls house? No me neither so stop sending them now!"

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Thank you

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I normally send a close up of my elbow. It never works. Maybe I'll try sending the one of my knee instead!

It's ears that get the best response, shouldn't really share that secret but it works 30% of the time some of the time, every time."

Thanks for the heads up. Science has all the answers!

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By *ark NoirMan over a year ago

London

If women and couples tar every guy with the same brush because of the petty actions of a minority then more fool them and their ignorance.

OP just go about your business how you want and quit the "knight in shining armour" routine as well because quite frankly it's quite pathetic.

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By *inky-MinxWoman over a year ago

Grantham

"Its a fucking sex site ..... Dooooh

Errrr it's a swinging site, derrrr

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By *inky-MinxWoman over a year ago

Grantham

"Reminds me of a meme i one saw "hry guys, remember the good old days when you would take a photo of your dick, get it printed off and take it to a girls house? No me neither so stop sending them now!""

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By *awandOrderCouple over a year ago

SW London

In other words, pull yourselves together.

Rant over

OP, I met my OH on here and he has the most cock pics of anyone I have seen on here ... and his first message to me was, nice tits, the second was to invite me to a piss party. We got chatting, and found we had so much in common .. and the rest is history. When we met up, I realised he hadn't seen a face pic of me and I had only seen one of him in his sunglasses (that's another thread, I know), but my point is I live and let live, I don't preach or set expectations for other people, just let them get on with it. A person is more than the sum of the pictures they put on here .... but don't take my word for it.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

In other words, pull yourselves together.

Rant over

Don't pay any heed to this guys , keep it up the way you are as it works for us

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By *ordonBennettMan over a year ago

dover

"If women and couples tar every guy with the same brush because of the petty actions of a minority then more fool them and their ignorance.

OP just go about your business how you want and quit the "knight in shining armour" routine as well because quite frankly it's quite pathetic."

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By *lighty1Woman over a year ago

You Dont Need to Know, right now

I agree with the OP. Although this is a swinging site, I expect to get the same level of courtesy and respect that I am shown in real life. I don't like dick-pics. I accept that some people do, but any more than one dick-pic on a profile would be an instant 'no' from me. Likewise, single males displaying pictures of them having sex with other women, and crude or offensive talk.

However, I don't agree that the behaviour of the crass single guys 'spoil it' for others. I find it delightful to interact with polite and friendly guys who can hold a conversation - finding a diamond in the rough.

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By *jj46Man over a year ago

rhyl

I've come at this site with pics with clothes but not in the habit of showing my cock to everyone is approach in a fun way charming make them laugh and interesting conversation

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By *jj46Man over a year ago

rhyl

"I'm gonna send out random fanny pics an see what happens."
if you do that il send random cock pics lol

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By *jj46Man over a year ago

rhyl

"I agree with the OP. Although this is a swinging site, I expect to get the same level of courtesy and respect that I am shown in real life. I don't like dick-pics. I accept that some people do, but any more than one dick-pic on a profile would be an instant 'no' from me. Likewise, single males displaying pictures of them having sex with other women, and crude or offensive talk.

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I agree make them laugh and deep conversation and like to find out what makes the person tick.

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By *iSTARessWoman over a year ago

London

Despite most of you jumping on the OP (something I'd like to do myself, not likely) he has a point.

A man's fleshy dildo is usually the most uninteresting thing about him.

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By *jj46Man over a year ago

rhyl

"Despite most of you jumping on the OP (something I'd like to do myself, not likely) he has a point.

A man's fleshy dildo is usually the most uninteresting thing about him. "
i like to find if i have a connection with them would look good flopping your cock out saying what do yeah think of this love. ..not the done thing maybe I should send pics of my eyebrows lol

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By *ivemeyoursoulWoman over a year ago

Easter just around the corner!

"If women and couples tar every guy with the same brush because of the petty actions of a minority then more fool them and their ignorance.

OP just go about your business how you want and quit the "knight in shining armour" routine as well because quite frankly it's quite pathetic."

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By *at69driveMan over a year ago

Hertford

"Okay, clearly people don't understand why I posted in the first place.

When this site is plagued with guys who, amongst other things, think wiggling their cock will attract people, the general reputation of single guys on this site goes down.

Therefore, when other, well-meaning single guys approach women and couples, their view of guys on this site has already been lowered. Which makes it harder for single guys to get a meet."
. It is difficult to see how other profiles have any impact on you . What is your definition of a well meaning single guy ?. Whilst cock pictures by themselves are meaningless , if they are part of a full body picture many members will still want to see them provided they are accompanied by a detailed well written profile.

I prefer to concentrate on my own profile and not worry about the suceess of others .

Other members profiles have no impact on your own chance of success ..

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By *ordonBennettMan over a year ago

dover

"Okay, clearly people don't understand why I posted in the first place.

When this site is plagued with guys who, amongst other things, think wiggling their cock will attract people, the general reputation of single guys on this site goes down.

Therefore, when other, well-meaning single guys approach women and couples, their view of guys on this site has already been lowered. Which makes it harder for single guys to get a meet.. It is difficult to see how other profiles have any impact on you . What is your definition of a well meaning single guy ?. Whilst cock pictures by themselves are meaningless , if they are part of a full body picture many members will still want to see them provided they are accompanied by a detailed well written profile.

I prefer to concentrate on my own profile and not worry about the suceess of others .

Other members profiles have no impact on your own chance of success .."

I quite agree

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By *at69driveMan over a year ago

Hertford

"If women and couples tar every guy with the same brush because of the petty actions of a minority then more fool them and their ignorance.

OP just go about your business how you want and quit the "knight in shining armour" routine as well because quite frankly it's quite pathetic.

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By *iss_tressWoman over a year ago

London

"I can't help but think everytime I see one of these posts from a straight single guy "why do you care?""

They don't! They are (subtly) trying (and failing) to advertise themselves as a cut above by throwing other single men under the bus.

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By *iss_tressWoman over a year ago

London

"I can't help but think everytime I see one of these posts from a straight single guy "why do you care?"

I care because I want to see the general reputation of single guys on this site improve.

A thinly disguised white knight post

"Thinly disguised" superfluous to the sentence.

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By *iss_tressWoman over a year ago

London

In other words, pull yourselves together.

Rant over

Don't pay any heed to this guys , keep it up the way you are as it works for us

I love you two!

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By *herryhott1Man over a year ago

Cork

"I can't help but think everytime I see one of these posts from a straight single guy "why do you care?""

Yup another fairly loathsone attempt to appear more appealing by pointing out the short-comings of other guys. Glad u & others can see thru it.

Stick together guys, don't sell out for muff

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

First of all not everyone's got the Adonis body like you have. So it's easy to say that. Also most guys would not approach women at a bar for fear of rejection the only time they might is wen they have ten pints of larger bit pointless then mind .......

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By *ark NoirMan over a year ago

London

"I can't help but think everytime I see one of these posts from a straight single guy "why do you care?"

Yup another fairly loathsone attempt to appear more appealing by pointing out the short-comings of other guys. Glad u & others can see thru it.

Stick together guys, don't sell out for muff"

Don't sell out for muff, damn straight!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I can't help but think everytime I see one of these posts from a straight single guy "why do you care?"

Yup another fairly loathsone attempt to appear more appealing by pointing out the short-comings of other guys. Glad u & others can see thru it.

Stick together guys, don't sell out for muff"

sold the day your born

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By *hocko87Man over a year ago

dublin

Yes hate rude photo I've cleaned up my photos. There's a lady on d Irish fab n she has very sexy photos up just so simple n sexy no rude photos . Nurses uniforms nice dresses . I actually said to this lady every one should take a leaf out of her book .

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Yes hate rude photo I've cleaned up my photos. There's a lady on d Irish fab n she has very sexy photos up just so simple n sexy no rude photos . Nurses uniforms nice dresses . I actually said to this lady every one should take a leaf out of her book ."

No, everyone should post pics that they want to show not what you think they should

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By *awandOrderCouple over a year ago

SW London

Nurses may not like her making a fetish out of their career though?

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By *reykiwi500Man over a year ago

West Kent (near Tonbridge)

No, everyone should post pics that they want to show not what you think they should

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

No, everyone should post pics that they want to show not what you think they should

exactly,that goes for all genders

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

No, everyone should post pics that they want to show not what you think they should

Exactly this ^^ ~ acts as another filter for me to use too!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

No, everyone should post pics that they want to show not what you think they should

exactly,that goes for all genders "

Except men should be made to post bum pics for me to perve over

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By *awandOrderCouple over a year ago

SW London

No, everyone should post pics that they want to show not what you think they should

exactly,that goes for all genders

Except men should be made to post bum pics for me to perve over

And cock pictures, right OP?

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By *razedcat OP Man over a year ago

London / Herts

I'm happy to receive challenges to my point of view in the form of sound arguments. Perhaps people should be allowed to post whatever they want. But I'm aware of enough anti-cock shot sentiment on here to know that my point of view has some merit.

And to all those on this thread making ad hominem arguments, your arguments are weak. Even more so because you're making an assumption. With no evidence to support that assumption.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Are you lot still going on about this

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

i brought this up tiiime ago

but my quibble was over being confronted with a cock picture on 9 out of every 10 posts you click onhere

just dont get why so many guys use a dick pic as their main

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By *ordonBennettMan over a year ago

dover

"I'm happy to receive challenges to my point of view in the form of sound arguments. Perhaps people should be allowed to post whatever they want. But I'm aware of enough anti-cock shot sentiment on here to know that my point of view has some merit.

And to all those on this thread making ad hominem arguments, your arguments are weak. Even more so because you're making an assumption. With no evidence to support that assumption.

No evidence required.

Blowing smoke and Latin phrases don't make it any less obvious that this is a white knight post

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

In other words, pull yourselves together.

Rant over

Why do you give a fuck if my cock is out? If you dont like it, dont look.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

In other words, pull yourselves together.

Rant over

Why do you give a fuck if my cock is out? If you dont like it, dont look."

Its a bit hard to read forums which have profile pics at the side and some of those said pics have cocks in them.. so a bit hard to get away from

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By *lighty1Woman over a year ago

You Dont Need to Know, right now

" Why do you give a fuck if my cock is out? If you dont like it, dont look."

When you have a dick-pic as an avatar and post in the forums, we don't have a choice of whether to look or not. I would happily block all profiles which have dick-pic avatars, and I would like that to mean that I didn't have to look at their forum posts, either.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

" Why do you give a fuck if my cock is out? If you dont like it, dont look.

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By *aturewomanloverMan over a year ago

staffs/cheshire

hey mr white knight!! how many brownie points more messages has this got you with the ladies? my guess is fuck all

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I'm gonna send out random fanny pics an see what happens."
good idea lol

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By *iSTARessWoman over a year ago

London

" Why do you give a fuck if my cock is out? If you dont like it, dont look.

Yes!!! Admin, can we get a new Prick Be Gone button please?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

How very boring and predicable. The stud steps forward to show us all how its done..haahaa

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By *ark NoirMan over a year ago

London

And to all those on this thread making ad hominem arguments, your arguments are weak. Even more so because you're making an assumption. With no evidence to support that assumption.

No evidence required.

Blowing smoke and Latin phrases don't make it any less obvious that this is a white knight post"

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By *razedcat OP Man over a year ago

London / Herts

"hey mr white knight!! how many brownie points more messages has this got you with the ladies? my guess is fuck all "

Considering it was never my intention to obtain "brownie points", I'd have to say none, my dear chap.

An avatar blocking function would be a useful addition to the site!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

In other words, pull yourselves together.

Rant over

Do you take your shirt off instantly?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"hey mr white knight!! how many brownie points more messages has this got you with the ladies? my guess is fuck all

Considering it was never my intention to obtain "brownie points", I'd have to say none, my dear chap.

An avatar blocking function would be a useful addition to the site!"

Deffo there are a few i hate looking at whilst on forums

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By *razedcat OP Man over a year ago

London / Herts

Blowing smoke and Latin phrases don't make it any less obvious that this is a white knight post

You're right, but making arguments that shut yours down does. I explain my points, albeit forcefully, using at least some evidence, whereas your one point is based on conjecture and a teeny bit of resentment.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

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By *uessWhosBackAgainMan over a year ago

London

this is still going on

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By *razedcat OP Man over a year ago

London / Herts

this is still going on

I don't like backing down in a debate XD

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By *ordonBennettMan over a year ago

dover

Blowing smoke and Latin phrases don't make it any less obvious that this is a white knight post

Pseudo-intellectual babble still doent disguise the nature of the post

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By *lighty1Woman over a year ago

You Dont Need to Know, right now

"Yes!!! Admin, can we get a new Prick Be Gone button please? "

Lolol I love it! Prick Be Gone button! Or Ditch the Dick button

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By *obletonMan over a year ago

A Home Among The Woodland Creatures

If someone doesn't know how to conduct themselves on Fab, the chances are they don't know how to conduct themselves in real life either.

Coaching an undesirable how to slip under the radar on Fab does no one any favours.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

About time this thread endeth.........

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