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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

spent hours and hours on here been in the chat rooms sent hundreds of messages even went on cam when I was in the chat rooms still haven't managed to meet anyone

so its left me wondering if anyone really meets on here or is it just a lot of lonely people who like to chat post pics and act like they have all they want on here but some how I'm getting the imprestion I'm sending massages to all the wrong folks

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

of course people meet...do you never read verifications?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Yes people meet on here, some don't and might only use cam, forums, or chatting, but they usually say so on their profile.

You probably are messaging the wrong people, not intentionally but, the fact they have no interest in you means they are the wrong people.

No idea who the right people are for you, it's down to luck finding them really.

Swinging is a social past time apparently. It's highly unlikely you'll find someone who wants to fuck you straight away off your first message, or even meet.

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By *orders2forUCouple over a year ago

Hawick

Your profile is your shop window. No caps, no full stops, and no pics of you.

Would you buy a sex toy from a site which presented it's wares like that?

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

ive asked loads of folks for help with my profile but none was forth coming

but thanks for the advice and the pointers xxx

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By *icecouple561Couple over a year ago
Forum Mod

East Sussex

I'm never quite sure how or even if to respond to posts like yours because in part they seem derogatory towards other members and a little self pitying but I can also understand your frustration.

It must be really frustrating to try to get to meet people and be turned down or ignored and I don't know the solution to that unless you can go to clubs or get to an organised social. I think part of the problem might be that expectations exceed reality for lots of people.

I hope you find what you're looking for.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

you actually have to ask for help as its against forum rules to give it unprompted..

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

HELP PLEASE lol xxx

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Someone advised you to create a better profile and put more pics up.. You returned with a sarcastic reply if I remember rightly.....

Wasn't me, just remember reading it

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I think the vast majority of problems on fab come from people expecting it to be "easy sex", like putting up a few cock pics and sending out a 20 messages a day will guarantee you a lay.

The reality is that swinging is generally a very social activity and for those that don't see it as social and want NSA generally have the pick of the gym fit VWE types which you will be constantly competing with.

The people who have had the most success we tend to find are the ones who have awesome senses of humour or can hold a conversation that lasts for more than 5 minutes and engages the people they are speaking to, try reading the people profiles that you are messaging and include something that says youve read it to them, try asking a question that could stimulate conversation in a reply etc etc.

You get out what you put into this site, keep at it fella

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

If you do want advice, I've had a look at your profile and agree with previous feedback... You need to spell and grammar check your profile. There is no punctuation. Also, content-wise, there isn't much in the way of personality in there.

Lastly... There are no public pics!!! It baffles me the number of guys that contact me without photos I can see. I wouldn't buy shoes without looking at them, so I certainly won't be engaging in sex chat with someone I don't know if I like!

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

yh well maybe if I could meet someone I could get pics taken and post them but all I get is wise cracks from wise ass

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

yh well I have pics on my profile to send I'm not gona post naked pics on here when so many fakes you never know whos looking and yes I do care who sees me ,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,....................... hows that for full stops

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By *osieWoman over a year ago

Wembley

Have you seen the profiles of some of the other men who post regularly on the forums here?

Now ask yourself, why do women want to meet them

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

thanks for your advice

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

festy

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"yh well I have pics on my profile to send I'm not gona post naked pics on here when so many fakes you never know whos looking and yes I do care who sees me ,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,....................... hows that for full stops "

You have asked for advice, and posted several threads. I only see the advice above as good advice, pictures, and a well detailed profile which reads well.

The people posting do not deserve sarcasm back for trying to give you advice, which has happened not just on this post. You can take or leave the advice given that is your choice but remarks like this will not endear you to people either.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

We never meet .....

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By *edonistic ExplorersCouple over a year ago

Stratford

We meet. Usually at Chams on a Monday evening. Works for us. Try reading some profiles and figuring out what attracts you - try tailoring your profile to what reflects you best. Good luck. Hope you have lots of fun

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Oh dear. Fabicide

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"yh well maybe if I could meet someone I could get pics taken and post them but all I get is wise cracks from wise ass"

Why do you need to meet people in order to put pics up.?

What you are being told is you need to have pics to have a chance of meeting. So get a camera/phone and take some!

And remember...this is a swinging site, not a see site! So get out there and swing...go to socials/clubs etc!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Have you seen the profiles of some of the other men who post regularly on the forums here?

Now ask yourself, why do women want to meet them"

I've asked myself this question...why do women and couples want to meet me? But they do. And on my previous profile when I was actually making an effort it was a crazy number!

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By *ecretgamesMan over a year ago

the moon

"Have you seen the profiles of some of the other men who post regularly on the forums here?

Now ask yourself, why do women want to meet them

I've asked myself this question...why do women and couples want to meet me? But they do. And on my previous profile when I was actually making an effort it was a crazy number!"

You put in the effort in an honest and respectful manner and you will find its returned!!!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Patience is the key

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Patience is the key"

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By *lighty1Woman over a year ago

You Dont Need to Know, right now

Now you've asked for advice, we can give it. You need better punctuation in your profile, capital letters, etc. People expect someone of your age to have a better grasp of written English.

You also need some photos. They don't have to be naked photos, some (most) of the best photos aren't. Nor do they need to be face pics. Nice teasing shirt-open photo, nice bum in tight white Calvin Klein shorts, etc.

And try to make your personality shine through on your profile ... Lose the "what can I say" comment. Remember, people may only view your profile for a few seconds, so you have to grab their interest as quickly as possible. Think of it as your shop window - you want to put the most attractive things front and centre. Good luck!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Something is telling me I won't have to don my trench coat and fedora hat to work this mystery out.

The poster previous to this comment gave you well structured and sound advice/profile critism and you reply with this?

You need to lighten up a bit and start enjoying fab for what it is, learn to accept critism, enjoy banter and generally stop being an arsey little Mary as no one finds it attractive.

Good luck op I feel you are going to need it.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I meet every week and would probably more often if work didn't get in the way lol

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I meet every week and would probably more often if work didn't get in the way lol

We're the same but change "week" with "month" and "work" with "3 children"

Hardest part is finding the right people/person to have that one good night with

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I meet every week and would probably more often if work didn't get in the way lol

We're the same but change "week" with "month" and "work" with "3 children"

Hardest part is finding the right people/person to have that one good night with

Yes I guess having kids does kind of limit your time to play.

I spend a lot of time chatting and a lot are wasted hours but there's always a pot of gold at the end of the rainbow xx

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I meet.

Lots.

Initially I wondered what you looked like. Thought to myself I may like to see you as I'm visiting Birmingham soon.

Then you got all defensive. I'm not so sure now.

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By *eavenscentitCouple over a year ago

barnstaple

We get lots of meets and messages. Everyone we have met has been great fun and sexy as.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I meet every week and would probably more often if work didn't get in the way lol

Same for us but we pretty much exclusively meet at parties and clubs x

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

I just wanted to take the time to thank everyone for the advice sorry about the gramma but going to school wasn't one of my strong points when I was young

and I'm sorry if I got defencif I suppose I'm getting frusterated

but thanks to everyone for the pointers xxxxxx

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

I'm really quite nervous of going to a club on my own I'm very new to swinging and don't know anyone who would be there thanks for the avice though xxxx

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I'm really quite nervous of going to a club on my own I'm very new to swinging and don't know anyone who would be there thanks for the avice though xxxx "

Treat it like a pub with better scenery. If you like bigger ladies get yourself to the bbw bash that Evie holds at Chams. No membership required and plenty of friendly people there. Just go up to people and say hi. The worst you can get is a chat x

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

There is a big Birmingham social soon see forum for details it will be a great way for you to introduce yourself, meet people and exchange details for future meets. you wont be alone as It's a good mix of singles and couples all looking for the same thing

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By *izzy.Woman over a year ago

Stoke area

Regarding your punctuation....read it out loud and where you pause for breath, stick in a comma. It may not be perfect, but it will be easier to read than it is now.

Enjoy chatting to people initially and then ask if they would like to meet for coffee or a drink. Take your time and be polite and friendly.

Add some photo's to your profile. Looking smart, shirt undone, torso, bum, distance to show overall Body. Don't need to be naked or show your face.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I haven't read your profile, but I have read what others on the thread have said. You asked for advice and came across quite defensive when it was given. The best thing you can do is take the advice you have been given.

I understand about the photos. Mine are generally terrible, but by myself and with a phone camera. Perhaps someone taking them for you or me could improve on them, I had a friend take some for me, but they were of me with his wife and because I am uncomfortable with being a single male and having a female in my photos I haven't used them. It doesn't take much to take a photo in a mirror or hold the phone/camera in front of your body or face. For many something is better than nothing or just cock shots.

Heed the advice you have been given, drop the defensive attitude, realise you have no more right than anyone else to meet. If everything was easy you wouldn't appreciate it, which is why I always appreciate any meets I have.

Yes, I do have meets.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I'm really quite nervous of going to a club on my own I'm very new to swinging and don't know anyone who would be there thanks for the avice though xxxx "

Millie here.

Can i just add from what Mike has been saying...Your profile is one that, for me anyway,. I would take one look at and not bother.

I'm not going to go messaging every single male profile I come across asking for pics on the offchance i find them attractive.

You don't have to be naked. A full body shot clothed or otherwise is enough to pique interest but if you don't have all I need to initially know about you in your profile I won't bother when I know there are a lot better profiles out there.

Just putting in the hours of talking online isn't going to get you very far. We rarely ever get meets from being sat behind a computer screen. In fact, we've only ever had ONE meet that way. All the others we've gone to parties or approached people for socials.

Put yourself out there more!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Hi first of all is some people on here are having a go at you because u didn't have a full stop or punctuation. Or u miss spelled a word then that's there petty narrow minded problem. But mainly u have to have patience and I really think u need some more pictures zimp le......omg I spelled zimple wrong I'm going to get slaughtered....

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I feel it's a trap but still... Zimple?!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Mate your a single guy on a site fulll of single guys we out number the women heavily. Try other sites maybe? There's better ones out there for single men

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