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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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So I see so many people taking slab out swinging clubs or parties etc. How do they actually work? Do you have to go as a couple? Or can I as a single guy go? What actually happens? Do you have a chat with a girl then if you like each other then go fuck etc? Can you then try with another girl? I honestly have no idea? Do you have to pay etc and how do I find one close to me? Thanks |
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So many questions and there will be multiple answers as everyone will play in their own way but yes you will pay to go in, you can go on your own and check out the club section on here to see what people say. |
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Single guys are usually only allowed on certain nights which varies by club.
Usually quite pricey for singles. You smile a lot, chat as much as possible and hopefully will be invited to join in
Then yes, do it all again |
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By *andb69Couple
over a year ago
leeds |
As a single man you pay an extra entrance fee to go in and there may also be a membership fee. Once you're in you'll find a very relaxed atmosphere - there is no pressure to do anything you don't want to and similarly you mustn't pressure anyone else. As long as you are polite and friendly you will probably get some action - more likely with a couple or the woman of a couple rather than a single girl...and there is certainly no need to restrict yourself to one- I have had several men in a night!
Start by watching (which is itself a turn on) and get some tips by watching the more successful guys. Most of all have fun. |
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By *arry247Couple
over a year ago
Wakefield |
There are no definitive rules about clubs each one makes its own rules.
Some clubs charge the same for couples and singles some charge extra for single men. Some charge a membership fee some don’t some allow unlimited single men in everyday some limit of block single men on certain days.
The best thing to do is find a club near you and see what they do, go and experience it yourself rather than making a decision based on something that might not apply to a club near you
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"So I see so many people taking slab out swinging clubs or parties etc. How do they actually work? Do you have to go as a couple? Or can I as a single guy go? What actually happens? Do you have a chat with a girl then if you like each other then go fuck etc? Can you then try with another girl? I honestly have no idea? Do you have to pay etc and how do I find one close to me? Thanks "
Come to milf club no membership fee just £20 entrance... Us milfs like to share so yes you can fuck 1 and move on to the next if you wish.
Happy days!! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Ive always found that manners,cleanliness and being approachable works.
Single guys do saddly pay a premium, and are usually limited to approx 10 on a singles night.
However, once in, mingle with as many as possible in a friendly non pushy manner and i reckon youd be quite successful.
Hot tubs are usually a good place to mingle..
As suggested before, MILF club would be a great start..plenty of sexy, open minded women to mingle with x
Best of luck.. |
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By *izzy.Woman
over a year ago
Stoke area |
To find clubs near you, just go to your home page and click on club reviews. Read the club websites.
Depends on the numbers of single guys at the club whether you are likely to play. Perhaps a greedy girls night may suit you.
If you do not play on the night, it is not a wasted night. Chat to people and swap names from fab. You can get verified and maybe then set up meets at a later date.
Be friendly, smile and chat. Enjoy |
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By *osieWoman
over a year ago
Wembley |
OP; think of a swinger's club as a nite-club, not just where singles meet but couples meet other coupes and singles
And just like any nite-club, the more attractive one is, the better the chances of getting in with the crowd. And just like any nite-club, men pay more to enter than women do
The difference is that if you like someone and she likes you, the two of you can, with mutual consent, slip away to a quiet area or even a lockable room for sex
There is always some kind of a socialising area and a bar / dance floor
Sometimes people go there with existing friends
Sometimes, single men, usually unsuccessfully, ask women who have never met them before, to accompany them to clubs |
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By *MFC PartiesWoman
over a year ago
Here, There & Everywhere |
"So I see so many people taking slab out swinging clubs or parties etc. How do they actually work? Do you have to go as a couple? Or can I as a single guy go? What actually happens? Do you have a chat with a girl then if you like each other then go fuck etc? Can you then try with another girl? I honestly have no idea? Do you have to pay etc and how do I find one close to me? Thanks "
As stated already, as you research the range of clubs across the UK, you will soon find that they are all different
Each will have its own booking in process / membership policy / attendance ratio
Each venue is different in design and with different facilities not to mention that they are all in different geographical locations
Only you can decide which is more important to you - the location, facilities, pricing structure, ratio policy etc and the only way you can do that is by doing your homework
You must take responsibility for managing your own expectations as no-one else can do it on your behalf
But what can you expect when you visit a swingers club? - well you should expect a clean, safe environment where guests are welcomed to have mutual fun
The BMFC have 3 basic rules - Mutual attraction, Mutual consent, Mutual respect
If you adopt those as your mantra then you will enjoy your club experience
Single guys CAN be very successful at clubs if they have the right approach and as far as i am concerned it isnt rocket science
If you are the kind of guy that makes zero effort on here by sending 1 line messages - then i doubt you will be successful at a club - harsh but true
I often see on here, the debate about club admission prices - in particular for single guys
If you are 'successful' on here, then well done you!!
However I often read within the forums that single guys moan about the fact that they cant find any real couple/ladies for fun on here
FAB can be a brilliant medium for meeting people, but unfortunately there will always be fakes, time-wasters and wannabes on any interactive website and you need to trawl many profiles to find the REAL people
Thats fine if you spend hours on end doing so, treating the search as a full time job
But attend a swingers club and as soon as you walk in, you will meet REAL PEOPLE - ok they may not all be your 'type' but they are real
Talking with those people face to face will lead to connections with other real people and before you know it your swinging network will expand before your very eyes
Some people attend clubs every week (sometimes several times a week) so literally dip in and out as they see fit
Swinging Clubs / FAB swingers in my opinion should be an add on to your social life
An evening (or day) in a Swingers Club is not prescriptive and play is not orchestrated - people so what (or who) they wish
But the ONLY person that is responsible for your 'success' is you
Take the plunge, do your homework, follow their rules, be sociable and dont be an arse and you will enjoy yourself
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"So I see so many people taking slab out swinging clubs or parties etc. How do they actually work? Do you have to go as a couple? Or can I as a single guy go? What actually happens? Do you have a chat with a girl then if you like each other then go fuck etc? Can you then try with another girl? I honestly have no idea? Do you have to pay etc and how do I find one close to me? Thanks "
Most are just like normal clubs. Except you can fuck in them.
All clubs are different, and offer different things, so best check out their websites. |
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"Clubs are simple they are a place where couples and women go to perform in public, men or single men pay a lot of money to get in but as long as you are " the beautiful people" and you are a gentleman and you can have polite conversation with your hardon protruding in front of you you may be accepted and allowed to join in but obviously only if invited ,if however as a result of watching public displays of sex you get horny and are a fuglee then you will be castigated and shot at dawn with no refund of your entry fee
Not everyone performs in public at clubs so this information is completely wrong
its not completely wrong its only slightly wrong where the few that don't like public displays don't perform but may occasionally perform in public from our many years of many different clubs. We would say this is totally wrong.
Clubs are a place you can go and meet and talk to like minded people. If you have social skills you will have a good time. What people have to do is not think about it as all about the sex. Yes some only go for sex, some go to watch, some to chat and others just to enjoy the facilities.
When Mr first started to go to clubs as a single some couples gave him some advice and he did really well.
They said see it like a pub with better scenery and chat to both halves of couples.
If I go to a club alone I don't play ...i just go to chill and chat with friends and make new ones. he's asking as a newbie single young guy though so will have to pay an exorbitant fee to get in ,a fee that most would not be paying to go for a swim or sauna or a pint ,so I would hazard a guess totally from the sex perspective
I think we should all do a lunchtime 'whip-around' for a collection so that you can, for once, pay the 'exorbitant fee' of £30 and finally go to a club "
He has been to a club, he is just being provocative..... as normal.
Come on, 'fess up Mark  |
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over a year ago
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"Clubs are simple they are a place where couples and women go to perform in public, men or single men pay a lot of money to get in but as long as you are " the beautiful people" and you are a gentleman and you can have polite conversation with your hardon protruding in front of you you may be accepted and allowed to join in but obviously only if invited ,if however as a result of watching public displays of sex you get horny and are a fuglee then you will be castigated and shot at dawn with no refund of your entry fee
Not everyone performs in public at clubs so this information is completely wrong
its not completely wrong its only slightly wrong where the few that don't like public displays don't perform but may occasionally perform in public from our many years of many different clubs. We would say this is totally wrong.
Clubs are a place you can go and meet and talk to like minded people. If you have social skills you will have a good time. What people have to do is not think about it as all about the sex. Yes some only go for sex, some go to watch, some to chat and others just to enjoy the facilities.
When Mr first started to go to clubs as a single some couples gave him some advice and he did really well.
They said see it like a pub with better scenery and chat to both halves of couples.
If I go to a club alone I don't play ...i just go to chill and chat with friends and make new ones. he's asking as a newbie single young guy though so will have to pay an exorbitant fee to get in ,a fee that most would not be paying to go for a swim or sauna or a pint ,so I would hazard a guess totally from the sex perspective
I think we should all do a lunchtime 'whip-around' for a collection so that you can, for once, pay the 'exorbitant fee' of £30 and finally go to a club
He has been to a club, he is just being provocative..... as normal.
Come on, 'fess up Mark " hehe hey provocative that's me and I have been yes but only with a woman I've known for a while  |
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"Clubs are simple they are a place where couples and women go to perform in public, men or single men pay a lot of money to get in but as long as you are " the beautiful people" and you are a gentleman and you can have polite conversation with your hardon protruding in front of you you may be accepted and allowed to join in but obviously only if invited ,if however as a result of watching public displays of sex you get horny and are a fuglee then you will be castigated and shot at dawn with no refund of your entry fee
Not everyone performs in public at clubs so this information is completely wrong
its not completely wrong its only slightly wrong where the few that don't like public displays don't perform but may occasionally perform in public from our many years of many different clubs. We would say this is totally wrong.
Clubs are a place you can go and meet and talk to like minded people. If you have social skills you will have a good time. What people have to do is not think about it as all about the sex. Yes some only go for sex, some go to watch, some to chat and others just to enjoy the facilities.
When Mr first started to go to clubs as a single some couples gave him some advice and he did really well.
They said see it like a pub with better scenery and chat to both halves of couples.
If I go to a club alone I don't play ...i just go to chill and chat with friends and make new ones. he's asking as a newbie single young guy though so will have to pay an exorbitant fee to get in ,a fee that most would not be paying to go for a swim or sauna or a pint ,so I would hazard a guess totally from the sex perspective
I think we should all do a lunchtime 'whip-around' for a collection so that you can, for once, pay the 'exorbitant fee' of £30 and finally go to a club
He has been to a club, he is just being provocative..... as normal.
Come on, 'fess up Mark hehe hey provocative that's me and I have been yes but only with a woman I've known for a while "
Did something bad happen then as you are so anti clubs it seems almost a phobia !  |
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By *osieWoman
over a year ago
Wembley |
"Clubs are simple they are a place where couples and women go to perform in public, men or single men pay a lot of money to get in but as long as you are " the beautiful people" and you are a gentleman and you can have polite conversation with your hardon protruding in front of you you may be accepted and allowed to join in but obviously only if invited ,if however as a result of watching public displays of sex you get horny and are a fuglee then you will be castigated and shot at dawn with no refund of your entry fee
Not everyone performs in public at clubs so this information is completely wrong
its not completely wrong its only slightly wrong where the few that don't like public displays don't perform but may occasionally perform in public from our many years of many different clubs. We would say this is totally wrong.
Clubs are a place you can go and meet and talk to like minded people. If you have social skills you will have a good time. What people have to do is not think about it as all about the sex. Yes some only go for sex, some go to watch, some to chat and others just to enjoy the facilities.
When Mr first started to go to clubs as a single some couples gave him some advice and he did really well.
They said see it like a pub with better scenery and chat to both halves of couples.
If I go to a club alone I don't play ...i just go to chill and chat with friends and make new ones. he's asking as a newbie single young guy though so will have to pay an exorbitant fee to get in ,a fee that most would not be paying to go for a swim or sauna or a pint ,so I would hazard a guess totally from the sex perspective
I think we should all do a lunchtime 'whip-around' for a collection so that you can, for once, pay the 'exorbitant fee' of £30 and finally go to a club
He has been to a club, he is just being provocative..... as normal.
Come on, 'fess up Mark hehe hey provocative that's me and I have been yes but only with a woman I've known for a while
Did something bad happen then as you are so anti clubs it seems almost a phobia ! "
Perhaps he was part of the zombie brigade  |
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"Clubs are simple they are a place where couples and women go to perform in public, men or single men pay a lot of money to get in but as long as you are " the beautiful people" and you are a gentleman and you can have polite conversation with your hardon protruding in front of you you may be accepted and allowed to join in but obviously only if invited ,if however as a result of watching public displays of sex you get horny and are a fuglee then you will be castigated and shot at dawn with no refund of your entry fee
Not everyone performs in public at clubs so this information is completely wrong
its not completely wrong its only slightly wrong where the few that don't like public displays don't perform but may occasionally perform in public from our many years of many different clubs. We would say this is totally wrong.
Clubs are a place you can go and meet and talk to like minded people. If you have social skills you will have a good time. What people have to do is not think about it as all about the sex. Yes some only go for sex, some go to watch, some to chat and others just to enjoy the facilities.
When Mr first started to go to clubs as a single some couples gave him some advice and he did really well.
They said see it like a pub with better scenery and chat to both halves of couples.
If I go to a club alone I don't play ...i just go to chill and chat with friends and make new ones. he's asking as a newbie single young guy though so will have to pay an exorbitant fee to get in ,a fee that most would not be paying to go for a swim or sauna or a pint ,so I would hazard a guess totally from the sex perspective
I think we should all do a lunchtime 'whip-around' for a collection so that you can, for once, pay the 'exorbitant fee' of £30 and finally go to a club
He has been to a club, he is just being provocative..... as normal.
Come on, 'fess up Mark hehe hey provocative that's me and I have been yes but only with a woman I've known for a while
Did something bad happen then as you are so anti clubs it seems almost a phobia ! "
maybe its because he wears dark glasses all the time, he maybe would find he cannot see anything.........and people think he is blind.......only a thought! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Clubs are simple they are a place where couples and women go to perform in public, men or single men pay a lot of money to get in but as long as you are " the beautiful people" and you are a gentleman and you can have polite conversation with your hardon protruding in front of you you may be accepted and allowed to join in but obviously only if invited ,if however as a result of watching public displays of sex you get horny and are a fuglee then you will be castigated and shot at dawn with no refund of your entry fee
Not everyone performs in public at clubs so this information is completely wrong
its not completely wrong its only slightly wrong where the few that don't like public displays don't perform but may occasionally perform in public from our many years of many different clubs. We would say this is totally wrong.
Clubs are a place you can go and meet and talk to like minded people. If you have social skills you will have a good time. What people have to do is not think about it as all about the sex. Yes some only go for sex, some go to watch, some to chat and others just to enjoy the facilities.
When Mr first started to go to clubs as a single some couples gave him some advice and he did really well.
They said see it like a pub with better scenery and chat to both halves of couples.
If I go to a club alone I don't play ...i just go to chill and chat with friends and make new ones. he's asking as a newbie single young guy though so will have to pay an exorbitant fee to get in ,a fee that most would not be paying to go for a swim or sauna or a pint ,so I would hazard a guess totally from the sex perspective
I think we should all do a lunchtime 'whip-around' for a collection so that you can, for once, pay the 'exorbitant fee' of £30 and finally go to a club
He has been to a club, he is just being provocative..... as normal.
Come on, 'fess up Mark hehe hey provocative that's me and I have been yes but only with a woman I've known for a while
Did something bad happen then as you are so anti clubs it seems almost a phobia !
Perhaps he was part of the zombie brigade "
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over a year ago
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"Clubs are simple they are a place where couples and women go to perform in public, men or single men pay a lot of money to get in but as long as you are " the beautiful people" and you are a gentleman and you can have polite conversation with your hardon protruding in front of you you may be accepted and allowed to join in but obviously only if invited ,if however as a result of watching public displays of sex you get horny and are a fuglee then you will be castigated and shot at dawn with no refund of your entry fee
Not everyone performs in public at clubs so this information is completely wrong
its not completely wrong its only slightly wrong where the few that don't like public displays don't perform but may occasionally perform in public from our many years of many different clubs. We would say this is totally wrong.
Clubs are a place you can go and meet and talk to like minded people. If you have social skills you will have a good time. What people have to do is not think about it as all about the sex. Yes some only go for sex, some go to watch, some to chat and others just to enjoy the facilities.
When Mr first started to go to clubs as a single some couples gave him some advice and he did really well.
They said see it like a pub with better scenery and chat to both halves of couples.
If I go to a club alone I don't play ...i just go to chill and chat with friends and make new ones. he's asking as a newbie single young guy though so will have to pay an exorbitant fee to get in ,a fee that most would not be paying to go for a swim or sauna or a pint ,so I would hazard a guess totally from the sex perspective Mr has been to clubs as a single guy and still gone for the social side... And we meet many single guys that okay wouldn't say no if it was offered but happy to sit and chat at clubs on their lunch breaks.
Don't think 20-30 quid is a lot but you have already stated you prefer the gf experience. And that's not something all women go to give at clubs and much better suited to hotel meets.
However your anti club posts could put off people that may really enjoy the club experience.. And for the record id say your much safer at a club than a private meet be it in a home or a hotel.
" hey I would say you're always safer meeting a person in a public place with your clothes on and no promise of sex ,in an environment that promotes it guys that are motivated may push themselves on you and its been said before ,my stance on clubs is known yes but its my opinion which of course is no more wrong than yours, why would I pay £75 to go to abfabs and have a chat swim or sauna when I could pay a fiver at gym ,people advise single guys to go to clubs ok that's fine but I wonder what the success rate in clubs is in terms of the sexual connection they would most definitely be going for ??  |
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Trademark ... I posted above but you haven't answered yet.
Can you answer a simple question? How many clubs have you been to? You seem to be the resident expert on how they work and how much they cost so it would be useful if you could tell us where your knowledge actually comes from. We've been to 40+ different clubs here and abroad and your often repeated comments don't ring true about any of them. |
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By *osieWoman
over a year ago
Wembley |
"Clubs are simple they are a place where couples and women go to perform in public, men or single men pay a lot of money to get in but as long as you are " the beautiful people" and you are a gentleman and you can have polite conversation with your hardon protruding in front of you you may be accepted and allowed to join in but obviously only if invited ,if however as a result of watching public displays of sex you get horny and are a fuglee then you will be castigated and shot at dawn with no refund of your entry fee
Not everyone performs in public at clubs so this information is completely wrong
its not completely wrong its only slightly wrong where the few that don't like public displays don't perform but may occasionally perform in public from our many years of many different clubs. We would say this is totally wrong.
Clubs are a place you can go and meet and talk to like minded people. If you have social skills you will have a good time. What people have to do is not think about it as all about the sex. Yes some only go for sex, some go to watch, some to chat and others just to enjoy the facilities.
When Mr first started to go to clubs as a single some couples gave him some advice and he did really well.
They said see it like a pub with better scenery and chat to both halves of couples.
If I go to a club alone I don't play ...i just go to chill and chat with friends and make new ones. he's asking as a newbie single young guy though so will have to pay an exorbitant fee to get in ,a fee that most would not be paying to go for a swim or sauna or a pint ,so I would hazard a guess totally from the sex perspective Mr has been to clubs as a single guy and still gone for the social side... And we meet many single guys that okay wouldn't say no if it was offered but happy to sit and chat at clubs on their lunch breaks.
Don't think 20-30 quid is a lot but you have already stated you prefer the gf experience. And that's not something all women go to give at clubs and much better suited to hotel meets.
However your anti club posts could put off people that may really enjoy the club experience.. And for the record id say your much safer at a club than a private meet be it in a home or a hotel.
hey I would say you're always safer meeting a person in a public place with your clothes on and no promise of sex ,in an environment that promotes it guys that are motivated may push themselves on you and its been said before ,my stance on clubs is known yes but its my opinion which of course is no more wrong than yours, why would I pay £75 to go to abfabs and have a chat swim or sauna when I could pay a fiver at gym ,people advise single guys to go to clubs ok that's fine but I wonder what the success rate in clubs is in terms of the sexual connection they would most definitely be going for ?? "
But why splash out even a fiver at your gym when you could arrange to meet a woman from here for free at the bus stop?
Nobody is going to push on to me in front of a hundred people in a club where he has just had to show a passport and his address verification to enter
Most times I meet someone or the other for sex at a club. For that guy, the 'success rate' is 100%. But I can assure you that if he kept on harping on about his precious £75, that rate will very quickly plummet down to 0%
Have you actually ever been to a club? My first swinger's club was Radlett. I went there for three or four times in a row and never once did I take my clothes off. I just socialised and took to the dance floor
Why are you coming up with all this complete nonsense and trying to scare the precious few women who otherwise do go to clubs for a bit of fun
We all don't want to stick like glue with one guy. If we did, we would be looking for boyfriends, not sex partners |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Clubs are simple they are a place where couples and women go to perform in public, men or single men pay a lot of money to get in but as long as you are " the beautiful people" and you are a gentleman and you can have polite conversation with your hardon protruding in front of you you may be accepted and allowed to join in but obviously only if invited ,if however as a result of watching public displays of sex you get horny and are a fuglee then you will be castigated and shot at dawn with no refund of your entry fee
Not everyone performs in public at clubs so this information is completely wrong
its not completely wrong its only slightly wrong where the few that don't like public displays don't perform but may occasionally perform in public from our many years of many different clubs. We would say this is totally wrong.
Clubs are a place you can go and meet and talk to like minded people. If you have social skills you will have a good time. What people have to do is not think about it as all about the sex. Yes some only go for sex, some go to watch, some to chat and others just to enjoy the facilities.
When Mr first started to go to clubs as a single some couples gave him some advice and he did really well.
They said see it like a pub with better scenery and chat to both halves of couples.
If I go to a club alone I don't play ...i just go to chill and chat with friends and make new ones. he's asking as a newbie single young guy though so will have to pay an exorbitant fee to get in ,a fee that most would not be paying to go for a swim or sauna or a pint ,so I would hazard a guess totally from the sex perspective "
Not all clubs are a rip off for men either, the ones in the Midlands are generally only a few quid dearer than couples.
I'd love to see a list of these extortionate prices clubs
City celts £16 for all, males, females or couple
Paradise, weeknights, £10 males, £10 couples £5 females
Paradise weekends £30 males, £20 couples, £5 females
Attic £10 couples £20 males, females free I believe
Chams, £28 couples, £35 males
Hardly extortionate differences |
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over a year ago
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"Clubs are simple they are a place where couples and women go to perform in public, men or single men pay a lot of money to get in but as long as you are " the beautiful people" and you are a gentleman and you can have polite conversation with your hardon protruding in front of you you may be accepted and allowed to join in but obviously only if invited ,if however as a result of watching public displays of sex you get horny and are a fuglee then you will be castigated and shot at dawn with no refund of your entry fee
Not everyone performs in public at clubs so this information is completely wrong
its not completely wrong its only slightly wrong where the few that don't like public displays don't perform but may occasionally perform in public from our many years of many different clubs. We would say this is totally wrong.
Clubs are a place you can go and meet and talk to like minded people. If you have social skills you will have a good time. What people have to do is not think about it as all about the sex. Yes some only go for sex, some go to watch, some to chat and others just to enjoy the facilities.
When Mr first started to go to clubs as a single some couples gave him some advice and he did really well.
They said see it like a pub with better scenery and chat to both halves of couples.
If I go to a club alone I don't play ...i just go to chill and chat with friends and make new ones. he's asking as a newbie single young guy though so will have to pay an exorbitant fee to get in ,a fee that most would not be paying to go for a swim or sauna or a pint ,so I would hazard a guess totally from the sex perspective Mr has been to clubs as a single guy and still gone for the social side... And we meet many single guys that okay wouldn't say no if it was offered but happy to sit and chat at clubs on their lunch breaks.
Don't think 20-30 quid is a lot but you have already stated you prefer the gf experience. And that's not something all women go to give at clubs and much better suited to hotel meets.
However your anti club posts could put off people that may really enjoy the club experience.. And for the record id say your much safer at a club than a private meet be it in a home or a hotel.
hey I would say you're always safer meeting a person in a public place with your clothes on and no promise of sex ,in an environment that promotes it guys that are motivated may push themselves on you and its been said before ,my stance on clubs is known yes but its my opinion which of course is no more wrong than yours, why would I pay £75 to go to abfabs and have a chat swim or sauna when I could pay a fiver at gym ,people advise single guys to go to clubs ok that's fine but I wonder what the success rate in clubs is in terms of the sexual connection they would most definitely be going for ?? "
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"Clubs are simple they are a place where couples and women go to perform in public, men or single men pay a lot of money to get in but as long as you are " the beautiful people" and you are a gentleman and you can have polite conversation with your hardon protruding in front of you you may be accepted and allowed to join in but obviously only if invited ,if however as a result of watching public displays of sex you get horny and are a fuglee then you will be castigated and shot at dawn with no refund of your entry fee
Not everyone performs in public at clubs so this information is completely wrong
its not completely wrong its only slightly wrong where the few that don't like public displays don't perform but may occasionally perform in public from our many years of many different clubs. We would say this is totally wrong.
Clubs are a place you can go and meet and talk to like minded people. If you have social skills you will have a good time. What people have to do is not think about it as all about the sex. Yes some only go for sex, some go to watch, some to chat and others just to enjoy the facilities.
When Mr first started to go to clubs as a single some couples gave him some advice and he did really well.
They said see it like a pub with better scenery and chat to both halves of couples.
If I go to a club alone I don't play ...i just go to chill and chat with friends and make new ones. he's asking as a newbie single young guy though so will have to pay an exorbitant fee to get in ,a fee that most would not be paying to go for a swim or sauna or a pint ,so I would hazard a guess totally from the sex perspective Mr has been to clubs as a single guy and still gone for the social side... And we meet many single guys that okay wouldn't say no if it was offered but happy to sit and chat at clubs on their lunch breaks.
Don't think 20-30 quid is a lot but you have already stated you prefer the gf experience. And that's not something all women go to give at clubs and much better suited to hotel meets.
However your anti club posts could put off people that may really enjoy the club experience.. And for the record id say your much safer at a club than a private meet be it in a home or a hotel.
hey I would say you're always safer meeting a person in a public place with your clothes on and no promise of sex ,in an environment that promotes it guys that are motivated may push themselves on you and its been said before ,my stance on clubs is known yes but its my opinion which of course is no more wrong than yours, why would I pay £75 to go to abfabs and have a chat swim or sauna when I could pay a fiver at gym ,people advise single guys to go to clubs ok that's fine but I wonder what the success rate in clubs is in terms of the sexual connection they would most definitely be going for ??
Most people can behave well in a public place but once they get into a hotel room they can change and become very different and there is nobody around to help unlike in a club." so is that your experience then guys change when they take their clothes off ?  |
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"Clubs are simple they are a place where couples and women go to perform in public, men or single men pay a lot of money to get in but as long as you are " the beautiful people" and you are a gentleman and you can have polite conversation with your hardon protruding in front of you you may be accepted and allowed to join in but obviously only if invited ,if however as a result of watching public displays of sex you get horny and are a fuglee then you will be castigated and shot at dawn with no refund of your entry fee
Not everyone performs in public at clubs so this information is completely wrong
its not completely wrong its only slightly wrong where the few that don't like public displays don't perform but may occasionally perform in public from our many years of many different clubs. We would say this is totally wrong.
Clubs are a place you can go and meet and talk to like minded people. If you have social skills you will have a good time. What people have to do is not think about it as all about the sex. Yes some only go for sex, some go to watch, some to chat and others just to enjoy the facilities.
When Mr first started to go to clubs as a single some couples gave him some advice and he did really well.
They said see it like a pub with better scenery and chat to both halves of couples.
If I go to a club alone I don't play ...i just go to chill and chat with friends and make new ones. he's asking as a newbie single young guy though so will have to pay an exorbitant fee to get in ,a fee that most would not be paying to go for a swim or sauna or a pint ,so I would hazard a guess totally from the sex perspective Mr has been to clubs as a single guy and still gone for the social side... And we meet many single guys that okay wouldn't say no if it was offered but happy to sit and chat at clubs on their lunch breaks.
Don't think 20-30 quid is a lot but you have already stated you prefer the gf experience. And that's not something all women go to give at clubs and much better suited to hotel meets.
However your anti club posts could put off people that may really enjoy the club experience.. And for the record id say your much safer at a club than a private meet be it in a home or a hotel.
hey I would say you're always safer meeting a person in a public place with your clothes on and no promise of sex ,in an environment that promotes it guys that are motivated may push themselves on you and its been said before ,my stance on clubs is known yes but its my opinion which of course is no more wrong than yours, why would I pay £75 to go to abfabs and have a chat swim or sauna when I could pay a fiver at gym ,people advise single guys to go to clubs ok that's fine but I wonder what the success rate in clubs is in terms of the sexual connection they would most definitely be going for ??
Most people can behave well in a public place but once they get into a hotel room they can change and become very different and there is nobody around to help unlike in a club. so is that your experience then guys change when they take their clothes off ? "
My experience is that they change once they get in the hotel room before they take their clothes off, thats why i prefer to meet in a club where i feel safe plus if the meet turns out to be crap then there are others around for fun  |
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"Clubs are simple they are a place where couples and women go to perform in public, men or single men pay a lot of money to get in but as long as you are " the beautiful people" and you are a gentleman and you can have polite conversation with your hardon protruding in front of you you may be accepted and allowed to join in but obviously only if invited ,if however as a result of watching public displays of sex you get horny and are a fuglee then you will be castigated and shot at dawn with no refund of your entry fee
Not everyone performs in public at clubs so this information is completely wrong
its not completely wrong its only slightly wrong where the few that don't like public displays don't perform but may occasionally perform in public from our many years of many different clubs. We would say this is totally wrong.
Clubs are a place you can go and meet and talk to like minded people. If you have social skills you will have a good time. What people have to do is not think about it as all about the sex. Yes some only go for sex, some go to watch, some to chat and others just to enjoy the facilities.
When Mr first started to go to clubs as a single some couples gave him some advice and he did really well.
They said see it like a pub with better scenery and chat to both halves of couples.
If I go to a club alone I don't play ...i just go to chill and chat with friends and make new ones. he's asking as a newbie single young guy though so will have to pay an exorbitant fee to get in ,a fee that most would not be paying to go for a swim or sauna or a pint ,so I would hazard a guess totally from the sex perspective Mr has been to clubs as a single guy and still gone for the social side... And we meet many single guys that okay wouldn't say no if it was offered but happy to sit and chat at clubs on their lunch breaks.
Don't think 20-30 quid is a lot but you have already stated you prefer the gf experience. And that's not something all women go to give at clubs and much better suited to hotel meets.
However your anti club posts could put off people that may really enjoy the club experience.. And for the record id say your much safer at a club than a private meet be it in a home or a hotel.
hey I would say you're always safer meeting a person in a public place with your clothes on and no promise of sex ,in an environment that promotes it guys that are motivated may push themselves on you and its been said before ,my stance on clubs is known yes but its my opinion which of course is no more wrong than yours, why would I pay £75 to go to abfabs and have a chat swim or sauna when I could pay a fiver at gym ,people advise single guys to go to clubs ok that's fine but I wonder what the success rate in clubs is in terms of the sexual connection they would most definitely be going for ??
Most people can behave well in a public place but once they get into a hotel room they can change and become very different and there is nobody around to help unlike in a club. so is that your experience then guys change when they take their clothes off ? " can I just say from my perspective a woman would be safe with me in any situation clothes on clothes off ,in a coffee shop hotel or a club and I should imagine that would be the case for most guys here and if anything causes a feeling of fear surely its the lack of knowledge of that person not the place  |
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"Clubs are simple they are a place where couples and women go to perform in public, men or single men pay a lot of money to get in but as long as you are " the beautiful people" and you are a gentleman and you can have polite conversation with your hardon protruding in front of you you may be accepted and allowed to join in but obviously only if invited ,if however as a result of watching public displays of sex you get horny and are a fuglee then you will be castigated and shot at dawn with no refund of your entry fee
Not everyone performs in public at clubs so this information is completely wrong
its not completely wrong its only slightly wrong where the few that don't like public displays don't perform but may occasionally perform in public from our many years of many different clubs. We would say this is totally wrong.
Clubs are a place you can go and meet and talk to like minded people. If you have social skills you will have a good time. What people have to do is not think about it as all about the sex. Yes some only go for sex, some go to watch, some to chat and others just to enjoy the facilities.
When Mr first started to go to clubs as a single some couples gave him some advice and he did really well.
They said see it like a pub with better scenery and chat to both halves of couples.
If I go to a club alone I don't play ...i just go to chill and chat with friends and make new ones. he's asking as a newbie single young guy though so will have to pay an exorbitant fee to get in ,a fee that most would not be paying to go for a swim or sauna or a pint ,so I would hazard a guess totally from the sex perspective Mr has been to clubs as a single guy and still gone for the social side... And we meet many single guys that okay wouldn't say no if it was offered but happy to sit and chat at clubs on their lunch breaks.
Don't think 20-30 quid is a lot but you have already stated you prefer the gf experience. And that's not something all women go to give at clubs and much better suited to hotel meets.
However your anti club posts could put off people that may really enjoy the club experience.. And for the record id say your much safer at a club than a private meet be it in a home or a hotel.
hey I would say you're always safer meeting a person in a public place with your clothes on and no promise of sex ,in an environment that promotes it guys that are motivated may push themselves on you and its been said before ,my stance on clubs is known yes but its my opinion which of course is no more wrong than yours, why would I pay £75 to go to abfabs and have a chat swim or sauna when I could pay a fiver at gym ,people advise single guys to go to clubs ok that's fine but I wonder what the success rate in clubs is in terms of the sexual connection they would most definitely be going for ??
Most people can behave well in a public place but once they get into a hotel room they can change and become very different and there is nobody around to help unlike in a club. so is that your experience then guys change when they take their clothes off ? can I just say from my perspective a woman would be safe with me in any situation clothes on clothes off ,in a coffee shop hotel or a club and I should imagine that would be the case for most guys here and if anything causes a feeling of fear surely its the lack of knowledge of that person not the place "
My perspective is very different from the hundreds of times in a club and the many meets in hotels etc, i always prefer clubs for safety and fun too.
At least at the club i go to they have to have shown ID and often their car reg is captured on cam too
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can I just say from my perspective a woman would be safe with me in any situation
Yeah but as a woman, your perspective is not really what matters as far as safety is concerned."
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By *osieWoman
over a year ago
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"My comments are about the expense for a single guy ,the obvious disdain of others in relation to single guys going to clubs and not behaving ,they are also based on the lack of need for knowing the person youre potentially going to be intimate with ,the fact that a guy may have a 100% success rate with you is down to you obviously but don't think that success rate is a general one I have been to a few clubs ok its not for me but I can still share my opinion and in my opinion its safer to meet for a coffee in a public place but then I'm looking for a connection you are just looking for sex it seems, so that's the fundamental difference between our opinions also not trying to scare women that would be the furthest thing from my mind ,the cost needs to be looked at in terms of guys ok restrict the numbers that go in but make it fair "
Guys not behaving does not mean that they are raping women in clubs. It simply means that they can sometimes be rude to women. A problem which is easily rectified by informing the staff as they are dealt with swiftly
Yes, you are scaring women from visiting clubs. Whether the pricing is fair or not you should go and take it up with club owners, or better still, open your own club
This is a swinger's site and I am visiting swinger's clubs. Maybe it is you who is on the wrong site and going to the wrong sort of clubs
By all means have a view but keep that view in context
You seem to think that paying £150 for a night in a hotel is ok because you then have a captive audience. Maybe, that is what the problem is. You cannot face the fact that in a club, she might just wander off with someone else if you start boring her with your woes of your entrance fee |
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over a year ago
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can I just say from my perspective a woman would be safe with me in any situation
Yeah but as a woman, your perspective is not really what matters as far as safety is concerned."
Exactly
In a hotel room, I am at his mercy
In a club, he lays one finger on me when I haven't consented and he gets to deal with two burly blokes |
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"Clubs are simple they are a place where couples and women go to perform in public, men or single men pay a lot of money to get in but as long as you are " the beautiful people" and you are a gentleman and you can have polite conversation with your hardon protruding in front of you you may be accepted and allowed to join in but obviously only if invited ,if however as a result of watching public displays of sex you get horny and are a fuglee then you will be castigated and shot at dawn with no refund of your entry fee
Not everyone performs in public at clubs so this information is completely wrong
its not completely wrong its only slightly wrong where the few that don't like public displays don't perform but may occasionally perform in public from our many years of many different clubs. We would say this is totally wrong.
Clubs are a place you can go and meet and talk to like minded people. If you have social skills you will have a good time. What people have to do is not think about it as all about the sex. Yes some only go for sex, some go to watch, some to chat and others just to enjoy the facilities.
When Mr first started to go to clubs as a single some couples gave him some advice and he did really well.
They said see it like a pub with better scenery and chat to both halves of couples.
If I go to a club alone I don't play ...i just go to chill and chat with friends and make new ones. he's asking as a newbie single young guy though so will have to pay an exorbitant fee to get in ,a fee that most would not be paying to go for a swim or sauna or a pint ,so I would hazard a guess totally from the sex perspective Mr has been to clubs as a single guy and still gone for the social side... And we meet many single guys that okay wouldn't say no if it was offered but happy to sit and chat at clubs on their lunch breaks.
Don't think 20-30 quid is a lot but you have already stated you prefer the gf experience. And that's not something all women go to give at clubs and much better suited to hotel meets.
However your anti club posts could put off people that may really enjoy the club experience.. And for the record id say your much safer at a club than a private meet be it in a home or a hotel.
hey I would say you're always safer meeting a person in a public place with your clothes on and no promise of sex ,in an environment that promotes it guys that are motivated may push themselves on you and its been said before ,my stance on clubs is known yes but its my opinion which of course is no more wrong than yours, why would I pay £75 to go to abfabs and have a chat swim or sauna when I could pay a fiver at gym ,people advise single guys to go to clubs ok that's fine but I wonder what the success rate in clubs is in terms of the sexual connection they would most definitely be going for ??
Most people can behave well in a public place but once they get into a hotel room they can change and become very different and there is nobody around to help unlike in a club. so is that your experience then guys change when they take their clothes off ? can I just say from my perspective a woman would be safe with me in any situation clothes on clothes off ,in a coffee shop hotel or a club and I should imagine that would be the case for most guys here and if anything causes a feeling of fear surely its the lack of knowledge of that person not the place "
You have never been a single fem on a swinging site looking for a fuck buddy thou. |
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can I just say from my perspective a woman would be safe with me in any situation
Yeah but as a woman, your perspective is not really what matters as far as safety is concerned.
Exactly
In a hotel room, I am at his mercy
In a club, he lays one finger on me when I haven't consented and he gets to deal with two burly blokes" and at a hotel room there is more of an expectation of sex, where as at a club there isn't x |
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"My comments are about the expense for a single guy ,the obvious disdain of others in relation to single guys going to clubs and not behaving ,they are also based on the lack of need for knowing the person youre potentially going to be intimate with ,the fact that a guy may have a 100% success rate with you is down to you obviously but don't think that success rate is a general one I have been to a few clubs ok its not for me but I can still share my opinion and in my opinion its safer to meet for a coffee in a public place but then I'm looking for a connection you are just looking for sex it seems, so that's the fundamental difference between our opinions also not trying to scare women that would be the furthest thing from my mind ,the cost needs to be looked at in terms of guys ok restrict the numbers that go in but make it fair
Guys not behaving does not mean that they are raping women in clubs. It simply means that they can sometimes be rude to women. A problem which is easily rectified by informing the staff as they are dealt with swiftly
Yes, you are scaring women from visiting clubs. Whether the pricing is fair or not you should go and take it up with club owners, or better still, open your own club
This is a swinger's site and I am visiting swinger's clubs. Maybe it is you who is on the wrong site and going to the wrong sort of clubs
By all means have a view but keep that view in context
You seem to think that paying £150 for a night in a hotel is ok because you then have a captive audience. Maybe, that is what the problem is. You cannot face the fact that in a club, she might just wander off with someone else if you start boring her with your woes of your entrance fee" hehe hey I think the reason you like clubs is because you like wandering off and to be fair that would not be something that would interest me I prefer a captive audience but someone who likes me not uses me but that isn't to say I object to what you do that's your choice and am sure you are happy with it ,women don't feel unsafe in my company so wouldn't need burly bouncers but having seen the other thread about the guy who got upset with a single guy having sex with his partner I can understand why they might be needed and why going to clubs causes jealousy for couples ,the cost for me although a problem is only a problem because its unfair on guys I generally pay £40 for a nice hotel which is a saving on that particular club  |
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By *osieWoman
over a year ago
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can I just say from my perspective a woman would be safe with me in any situation
Yeah but as a woman, your perspective is not really what matters as far as safety is concerned.
Exactly
In a hotel room, I am at his mercy
In a club, he lays one finger on me when I haven't consented and he gets to deal with two burly blokes and at a hotel room there is more of an expectation of sex, where as at a club there isn't x "
Totally agree. Afterall, if I do walk in a hotel room then it is not for the mini-bar and cable
Also, in a club, if I get the wrong vibes, I can just get up and walk away
Long before I ever knew about swinging, I made a terrible mistake of walking into a hotel room with a guy I had known for only 5 or 6 hours from a nite-club. It was closing time at 4 am, summer and he suggested coffee at his nearby hotel
He was older than me, on business in London. I was young and foolish, really liked him and didn't want to 'loose' him so against my better judgement followed him to his hotel
It was a swanky steel and glass building smack bang in the middle of the City. I was chatting away with him and before I realised, I was standing in the middle of his suite
He did order room service and I continued like a chatterbox. Before I knew it, he was trying to kiss me. I stood up and he pinned my wrists against the wall. I am a tall woman and until that night, I felt invincible; I felt I could take on any guy. But I couldn't even move a muscle
Being a Tom-Boy, I had wrestled with boys all my life but I had no idea how strong an adult male can be. I was in shock and tears just started flowing. He was a decent guy who had mis-read the signals and the situation. He immediately let me go and I grabbed my handbag and ran out of the hotel
If any woman thinks that she can fight off a fully grown man then perhaps she should think again |
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over a year ago
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"...but I had no idea how strong an adult male can be. ... ... If any woman thinks that she can fight off a fully grown man then perhaps she should think again"
I had a similar uncomfortable experience. I always thought that, if I was attacked, I would at least "mark" a man with my fists, nails, knees and feet. But when a man pinned my hands above my head and lay on top of me, there was absolutely nothing I could do. His strength was so much superior to mine. Fortunately, my story also had a happy ending, and I wasn't harmed in any way.
But this is why I would ALWAYS choose a club as the safest place for a single woman to play with unknown men. |
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over a year ago
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"Trademark ... I posted above but you haven't answered yet.
Can you answer a simple question? How many clubs have you been to? You seem to be the resident expert on how they work and how much they cost so it would be useful if you could tell us where your knowledge actually comes from. We've been to 40+ different clubs here and abroad and your often repeated comments don't ring true about any of them."
He still hasn't answered the question. Tho I do remember a post a while ago that he said 'I've never been to a club but ....'
So Trademark please update us with your extensive club visit list. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I did say earlier I've been to clubs I've been to several but if a guy is strong enough to overpower you in a hotel room he would surely be just as able to do that in a club ,so in a lockable cubicle how are you going to get the burly bouncers to help anyways "
Shouting. And there will always be people that can hear you shout in a sex club. That's kind of the point of them, to be able to overhead the shagging and stuff... |
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"OP; think of a swinger's club as a nite-club, not just where singles meet but couples meet other coupes and singles
And just like any nite-club, the more attractive one is, the better the chances of getting in with the crowd. And just like any nite-club, men pay more to enter than women do
The difference is that if you like someone and
she likes you, the two of you can, with mutual consent, slip away to a quiet area or even a lockable room for sex
There is always some kind of a socialising area and a bar / dance floor
Sometimes people go there with existing friends
Sometimes, single men, usually unsuccessfully, ask women who have never met them before, to accompany them to clubs"
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"I base all my points on personal experience and if you read my points you would understand them I don't feel the need to explain myself again, clubs aren't a regularly affordable place for guys to socialise in ,that's my point in a nutshell yet new guys who complain of having no veris or meets are constantly told to socialise at clubs ,they are also just as constantly criticised for various reasons when they do go 
That is why I asked what your personal experience was - to ascertain whether it was worth taking seriously. Since you continually avoid stating what your experience of clubs is, other than a waffley "I've been to a few" it seems that your opinion is just that - unfounded opinion.
For your information, we know of several clubs where guys pay as little as £10 with no membership. You continually state your limited experience as being universal - it isn't. Your knowledge of the club scene seems to be in inverse proportion to the amount you spout about it." its just an opinion does anyone take anything seriously here ,I certainly don't ,why would comments made with cock ,pussy, breasts and bums on show be taken seriarsely ,so your retort will have no effect on me ,have a nice day  |
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By *osieWoman
over a year ago
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"Clubs are mostly for couples and women, men pay sky high prices to get in for the atmosphere and hope for a shag lol."
Women and couples get in for the atmosphere and hope for a shag too, Shag
Maybe that is the difference between clubs and brothels. Any gormless idjit can walk into a brothel, put down his money and get sex. Whereas, only the desirable men with good social skills succeed in nite-clubs, swinger's clubs and on swinger's websites  |
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"Clubs are mostly for couples and women, men pay sky high prices to get in for the atmosphere and hope for a shag lol.
Women and couples get in for the atmosphere and hope for a shag too, Shag
Maybe that is the difference between clubs and brothels. Any gormless idjit can walk into a brothel, put down his money and get sex. Whereas, only the desirable men with good social skills succeed in nite-clubs, swinger's clubs and on swinger's websites "  |
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"Clubs are mostly for couples and women, men pay sky high prices to get in for the atmosphere and hope for a shag lol.
Women and couples get in for the atmosphere and hope for a shag too, Shag
Maybe that is the difference between clubs and brothels. Any gormless idjit can walk into a brothel, put down his money and get sex. Whereas, only the desirable men with good social skills succeed in nite-clubs, swinger's clubs and on swinger's websites " That is right too, but they pay less so woulnt be to bad lol. |
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"ultimately we all pay for sex so one could say swingers clubs are brothels just choosey ones !"
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Yes we were having fun in a private room and the wife was really having fun with a couple of guys . She tends to get a bit noisy when she is enjoying herself . Two of the security knocked to check things were fine . I opened door and assured them all was well so she feels safe at the club we use  |
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By *osieWoman
over a year ago
Wembley |
"Clubs are mostly for couples and women, men pay sky high prices to get in for the atmosphere and hope for a shag lol.
Women and couples get in for the atmosphere and hope for a shag too, Shag
Maybe that is the difference between clubs and brothels. Any gormless idjit can walk into a brothel, put down his money and get sex. Whereas, only the desirable men with good social skills succeed in nite-clubs, swinger's clubs and on swinger's websites That is right too, but they pay less so woulnt be to bad lol."
There are clubs in London which cost £50 for men and £50 for women too. Just because I pay the same there as a man, does not increase his chances for sex nor does that decrease my chances. That is just a fact of life
Next there will be threads about the unfairness of why women can get more sex. Quota systems?  |
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By *osieWoman
over a year ago
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"Clubs are mostly for couples and women, men pay sky high prices to get in for the atmosphere and hope for a shag lol.
Women and couples get in for the atmosphere and hope for a shag too, Shag
Maybe that is the difference between clubs and brothels. Any gormless idjit can walk into a brothel, put down his money and get sex. Whereas, only the desirable men with good social skills succeed in nite-clubs, swinger's clubs and on swinger's websites being desirable though is such an infinitely differing phenomena from one person to another to one woman you are the bees knees to another you are not ,personality rules in the real world looks play a part to, ultimately we all pay for sex so one could say swingers clubs are brothels just choosey ones  "
Personality rules in clubs too; looks play a part too. In that respect, swinger's clubs are no different to nite-clubs. The only difference for me is that if I like someone in a nite-club, there are three possible options:
1) his home
2) my home
3) hotel
Neither is safe for me. In a swinger's club, if I like someone enough, there is a safe place right there for me to have fun |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"ultimately we all pay for sex so one could say swingers clubs are brothels just choosey ones !
Does that mean all men who go to swingers clubs are prostitutes?
I think we are all sluts don't you ,some more than others mind "
Is a slut the same as a prostitute?
And is there a problem with someone being more slutty than others? |
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By (user no longer on site)
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there a famous club manchester that used call girls to bump the number of patrons up as they had to pay 75 membership 50 per visit and bring own drinks n food was laid on free, well nibbles |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Membership is the biggest ripoff of all just a way of getting more money out of us. " no one forces anyone to pay it and plenty of places with no membership fees too x |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Membership is the biggest ripoff of all just a way of getting more money out of us. "
Last time I went to a place with the gf and a lass I know there was no membership fee for any of us and a ten pound flat rate entry fee.
Depends where you go. |
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By *lighty1Woman
over a year ago
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"no one forces anyone to pay it and plenty of places with no membership fees too x "
I prefer the clubs which DO require membership, as they tend to be the ones who verify identity and address of the member. It increases my sense of security, as a single woman in a club, because if someone did break the law, the club would be able to give their contact details to the police. |
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