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I'm keen on trying dark rooms. The vibe sounds awesome.
But I've had guys attempt to penetrate me without a condom and only my partners watchfulness has prevented them.
In a darkroom he wouldn't be able to tell - are there any solutions or is it not usually a problem?
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Then it is down to you to reach round and feel for a condom..... or get your OH some night vision goggles.
I'm sure he won't look like at all like a twat.
Thanks that is really helpful "
Unfortunately, you've identified the real problem with darkrooms - it's very hard to know who's playing safe. |
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When I play in dark rooms I always guide their cock in. That way I know it's covered.
The thing you can't tell is if he has had that condom on through several different women.
I don't play in them often, so it's a risk I take. |
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By *oodmessMan
over a year ago
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I thought the whole bloody point of a bloody dark room is the unknown. The unsafe. If you haven't got the guts, you don't go in. You don't get all prissy and do a lap before exiting. You go in because you enjoy getting off on and accept the risk. |
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"I thought the whole bloody point of a bloody dark room is the unknown. The unsafe. If you haven't got the guts, you don't go in. You don't get all prissy and do a lap before exiting. You go in because you enjoy getting off on and accept the risk. "
Boy, did you think wrong. |
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"I thought the whole bloody point of a bloody dark room is the unknown. The unsafe. If you haven't got the guts, you don't go in. You don't get all prissy and do a lap before exiting. You go in because you enjoy getting off on and accept the risk.
Boy, did you think wrong."
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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To get people in the mood for fun we often play a card game with forfeits. One of them is our own private dark room where we are all told to congregate. Our downstairs cloaks is soooooo dark as it has no window. So erotic and sexy and such a good ice breaker when that card comes up as a forfeit 
Lovely to feel other people as excited as we are and you're not quite sure who is feeling who.
Good job we have vinyl flooring in there LOL.
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over a year ago
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"I've played in the dark room at abfabs. Never had penetrative sex in there though but you could feel for the rim of a condom with your hand?"
Assuming you know you're about to be penetrated |
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"I thought the whole bloody point of a bloody dark room is the unknown. The unsafe. If you haven't got the guts, you don't go in. You don't get all prissy and do a lap before exiting. You go in because you enjoy getting off on and accept the risk. "
Wow. .. no I don't feel that's the point. If it is, then I won't bother taking such a risk with my health and I'll stay a wuss; ) |
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"I thought the whole bloody point of a bloody dark room is the unknown. The unsafe. If you haven't got the guts, you don't go in. You don't get all prissy and do a lap before exiting. You go in because you enjoy getting off on and accept the risk. "
This is so out of order so wrong on so many levels grrrrrr |
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"I thought the whole bloody point of a bloody dark room is the unknown. The unsafe. If you haven't got the guts, you don't go in. You don't get all prissy and do a lap before exiting. You go in because you enjoy getting off on and accept the risk. "
Theres risk and theres pure bloody foolishness, and playing bare with strangers is ultimate foolishness |
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By *oodmessMan
over a year ago
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Does it not stand to reason that if you play in the dark with strangers, you accept that you don't know them or what they will do.
Turn the lights on and play where you can actually see who you might be fucking if otherwise. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I thought the whole bloody point of a bloody dark room is the unknown. The unsafe. If you haven't got the guts, you don't go in. You don't get all prissy and do a lap before exiting. You go in because you enjoy getting off on and accept the risk. "
I understood the dark room was about not knowing who you are playing with or caring who you are playing with. Not to play russian roulette with your life and health or be abused by people who don't respect other people's health. For the above reasons l have never played in the dark room. |
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Sigh. Seems like darkroom fun won't be for me if some morons may try to bareback.
I notice the poster who is casual with their own and others' health doesn't condemn the ignorant players who try it on in this way.... |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I don't go in dark rooms for fear of unsafe sex.
I took led candles with me to the greenhouse to give a glow to the swing room so I had a chance to see condoms were on. |
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"I've played in the dark room at abfabs. Never had penetrative sex in there though but you could feel for the rim of a condom with your hand?
Assuming you know you're about to be penetrated"
The whole point of a dark room is it heightens your other senses. You're still aware of what's going on. |
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By *oodmessMan
over a year ago
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"I thought the whole bloody point of a bloody dark room is the unknown. The unsafe. If you haven't got the guts, you don't go in. You don't get all prissy and do a lap before exiting. You go in because you enjoy getting off on and accept the risk.
I understood the dark room was about not knowing who you are playing with or caring who you are playing with. Not to play russian roulette with your life and health or be abused by people who don't respect other people's health. For the above reasons l have never played in the dark room."
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By *oodmessMan
over a year ago
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"I've played in the dark room at abfabs. Never had penetrative sex in there though but you could feel for the rim of a condom with your hand?
Assuming you know you're about to be penetrated
The whole point of a dark room is it heightens your other senses. You're still aware of what's going on."
Have you ever seen guys put condoms on with the lights on?
Now try making that simple practise pitch black. I would imagine it would be 1000x harder.
Anyone that thinks they can guide a cock in that is rubbered up in pitch black, is either very lucky or talking to the crowd. |
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"I've played in the dark room at abfabs. Never had penetrative sex in there though but you could feel for the rim of a condom with your hand?
Assuming you know you're about to be penetrated
The whole point of a dark room is it heightens your other senses. You're still aware of what's going on.
Have you ever seen guys put condoms on with the lights on?
Now try making that simple practise pitch black. I would imagine it would be 1000x harder.
Anyone that thinks they can guide a cock in that is rubbered up in pitch black, is either very lucky or talking to the crowd."
It isn't difficult to check if a condom is on in a darkroom. It also isn't difficult to put a condom on in a darkroom - it's eyesight that is limited not touch.
However, darkrooms are what they are. Expect random strangers, expect to be touched by them, accept that you will need to check condom use more carefully or just refuse penetrive sex in there. Dark rooms do not affect the ability to speak or to say no.
If however the OP has any qualms about using a darkroom the best thing is not to go in. |
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By *oodmessMan
over a year ago
yumsville |
"If I never did anything I was unsure about I'd never get anything new done!
I'm unsure but would like to try. I'll just have to say no if I feel anything; )."
Or scream like your in a horror show  |
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Keep your legs closed when you're not ready, when you are open and put your hand over your pussy. If you feel a hand let it in if you want and automatically feel for the cock so you know where it is. If you feel a cock instead your hand is there to give it a little pre-fuck wank and guide it in...and discreetly ensures you know a cock is covered first. If you're after a free for all you just need to keep one hand there to check each time |
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"Keep your legs closed when you're not ready, when you are open and put your hand over your pussy. If you feel a hand let it in if you want and automatically feel for the cock so you know where it is. If you feel a cock instead your hand is there to give it a little pre-fuck wank and guide it in...and discreetly ensures you know a cock is covered first. If you're after a free for all you just need to keep one hand there to check each time "
The voice of experience? |
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"I thought the whole bloody point of a bloody dark room is the unknown. The unsafe. If you haven't got the guts, you don't go in. You don't get all prissy and do a lap before exiting. You go in because you enjoy getting off on and accept the risk. "
I like it ..
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"Does it not stand to reason that if you play in the dark with strangers, you accept that you don't know them or what they will do.
Turn the lights on and play where you can actually see who you might be fucking if otherwise. "
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"Keep your legs closed when you're not ready, when you are open and put your hand over your pussy. If you feel a hand let it in if you want and automatically feel for the cock so you know where it is. If you feel a cock instead your hand is there to give it a little pre-fuck wank and guide it in...and discreetly ensures you know a cock is covered first. If you're after a free for all you just need to keep one hand there to check each time
The voice of experience?"
I may have been in a darkroom or two...can't say it's my thing but nice for occasional fun |
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By *ikeC81Man
over a year ago
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"Keep your legs closed when you're not ready, when you are open and put your hand over your pussy. If you feel a hand let it in if you want and automatically feel for the cock so you know where it is. If you feel a cock instead your hand is there to give it a little pre-fuck wank and guide it in...and discreetly ensures you know a cock is covered first. If you're after a free for all you just need to keep one hand there to check each time "
Voice of experience |
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By *arry247Couple
over a year ago
Wakefield |
"I thought the whole bloody point of a bloody dark room is the unknown. The unsafe. If you haven't got the guts, you don't go in. You don't get all prissy and do a lap before exiting. You go in because you enjoy getting off on and accept the risk.
This is so out of order so wrong on so many levels grrrrrr"
No its not out of order or wrong.
It is one persons view. You may not agree but that is their view and from what I have seen in dark rooms one that many hold.
That is one reason why we don't play in dark rooms |
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By *otgirl32Woman
over a year ago
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Dark room sounds really norty and hot.
I'm a bit unclear though - are people just standing around in the room or is there a bed which people get on? Or are there floor mattresses (in which case don't people get trampled over)?
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I liked the idea of a dark room but in reality, it's not for me. I'd already witnessed women wandering in, hotly followed by every guy who couldn't get laid in the light and that put me off as I knew there was a chance I was being touched up by some old, hairy, toothless guy.
And on the very rare occasions I've tried them, I was quickly surrounded and, at 5' 1", I just felt overwhelmed. We also tried sitting on a vinyl play surface once only to find it had a very large wet patch... water? Wine? Pee? No idea butI wasn't sniffing it to find out! So on balance - not for me.
Emm x |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"The only one I've been in is the one at AbFabs, which had several sofas to play on.
But if it's so dark you can't see anyone, how do you find your way to the sofa ?!!"
Carefully. |
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"The only one I've been in is the one at AbFabs, which had several sofas to play on.
But if it's so dark you can't see anyone, how do you find your way to the sofa ?!!"
The dark room at AbFabs used to have a motley collection of sofas and a bed around the edge of the room but a while back that was replaced by wide vinyl covered benching all the way round the room except for one sofa just to the right of the door in.
This is a favourite spot of the lurkers who get to see you lit as you move the second curtain to enter the room whilst staying hidden to you. So go in via the righthand side of that curtain then you get to check the sofa out and their temporarily blinded
Going in that way also stops you flooding the rest of the room, most of it is to the left of the doorway, with light spoiling others fun. Some people have been known to stand in the door way holding the curtain up trying to see who is in there. 
What happens in the dark room, stays in the dark room including bodily fluids unfortunately  |
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Ok.... I've listened to the views and opinions expressed and decided it's probably not for me
I may try the once and keep a hand free as suggested but doubt it will be a regular thing lol..
Thanks everyone for the help and advice |
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Clearly there is a need to check on the condom use before fucking.
But I always thought that the pleasure of a dark room was simply the heightened sensitivity to touch - allied to the fact that you had no idea who was touching you and vice versa.
Depending on the crush in the room, I would have thought it would be tricky to get a comfortable position for an enjoyable fuck anyway! |
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"I thought the whole bloody point of a bloody dark room is the unknown. The unsafe. If you haven't got the guts, you don't go in. You don't get all prissy and do a lap before exiting. You go in because you enjoy getting off on and accept the risk. "
Boy oh boyyyy!!! Sooo mistaken...  |
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"I'm keen on trying dark rooms. The vibe sounds awesome.
But I've had guys attempt to penetrate me without a condom and only my partners watchfulness has prevented them.
In a darkroom he wouldn't be able to tell - are there any solutions or is it not usually a problem?
Advice please"
you need glow in the dark condoms lol |
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By *osieWoman
over a year ago
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"I thought the whole bloody point of a bloody dark room is the unknown. The unsafe. If you haven't got the guts, you don't go in. You don't get all prissy and do a lap before exiting. You go in because you enjoy getting off on and accept the risk.
I understood the dark room was about not knowing who you are playing with or caring who you are playing with. Not to play russian roulette with your life and health or be abused by people who don't respect other people's health. For the above reasons l have never played in the dark room."
I have only been in a dark room with someone I knew quite well and trust that he is as keen to protect his health as he is mine. Same thing when I walked into the glory hole. He was on the other side (I did end up having oral sex with the wrong person; another story)
Granted that some of the excitement is diminished by going in with a known partner. But I still found it exciting enough |
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By (user no longer on site)
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I lost a pair of pants and one sock in the Dark room in Abfabs last year...it may have been dangerous to get on my hands and knees to swerch for them in the pitch dark |
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